Submitted 6 hours ago by Toasted_Breakfast@lemmy.today to [deleted]
The mantle of greatness on my shoulders is getting heavy. It sounds horrible but I totally get why so many of us fall to either affairs, alcohol, or divorce.
Its just SO unrelenting. Its a nightmare. I have no energy to do anything after a 60 hour work week, cooking, cleaning, walking youngest to bed until 11 pm and then waking up at 5. One day off a week. I’m just so fking over it 🤢
It’s a fucking struggle right now, and It’s not supposed to be like this.
You shouldn’t have to work a full time job, and take care of the house, and take care of the kids. Neither should the wife/partner.
The fact that it requires two working parents at this point to afford life is the problem. There’s enough to go around even if just one parent was participating in the economy, if it was distributed more fairly.
The pendulum has swung too far on capitalism, and it’s sucking the vast majority of people dry just to feed itself. There’s a reason why birthrates have jumped off a cliff.
This. To the max. Honestly I Derrick Drink, but more importantly, I’ve made sure to learn the game that all these rich shitheads play. Wait until the market dips in January/February during the cyclical sell off, then invest. It doesn’t have to be a lot, but research, find solid picks, for either dividends or price per share growth, and invest. Honestly at this point I’d avoid the AI b******* and unless Nvidia dips down to 120 again I’m staying away. What you can be assured of is that the following things are going to happen people are going to want rare earth minerals for several reasons people are going to want to go to space because a space is awesome and b there’s a lot of potential out there and see there are certain stocks that are just always good to have. Buy a proctor & Gamble it cost a bunch now but it will essentially never be a bad investment and the dividend is very nice. Nokia drops below $5 again buy it up. Everybody’s telling me I was an idiot for saying this years ago when it was like $2 a share. Nvidia just bought a billion dollar share in Nokia and their shares shot up to $7 but more importantly their patent portfolio is fantastic and they have a very good dividend considering the very low price of entry for the stock itself.
Rocket lab. If it drops to $40 a share below f****** buy The shit out of it. It’s going to the moon, I told people that when it was $10 a share and it’s already been up to 70 this year. it’s still true
You can also feel good because you’re investing in a direct competitor to SpaceX and the plus side is the rockets don’t blow up every f****** launch. Europe is avoiding SpaceX like the plague. Rocket Labs business is set to grow exponentially, especially with the defunding of NASA.
Enroll different everybody has their own opinions more importantly everybody works in their own industry and has information and insight that will give you an advantage if you just hone in on what you want to focus on.
Cryptocurrency is a pipe dream and it’s really just a way to funnel funds without any type of transparency which is why the current regime is latching on to it.
Hedging cryptocurrency is never a bad idea. Wait till gold drops by into it.
Other than that enjoy your friends and your family build relationships and strengthen them. you may need alibis or you may need a gunner.
people really do over-complicate this whole investing thing, just operate on a wider timeline, utlize a modicum of common sense, and know what you trade. shit is easy as fuck, there’s a reason every investorbro out there thinks they’re a god…as long as it’s a bull market (money printer is in full swing) all these rich cunts across the country are just gambling with their every paycheck leveraged to the tits.
learn how the system works and you can take their $ real fucking easy, or if you want to be “ethical” you can also just read some Buffet/Munger and use the system as it was supposed designed.
the game is rigged, either learn how it works or stay stuck in the labor trap till you die.
Not sure if this is good advice. by joining the gamble, you’re (micro-)fueling the global suicide machine that’s causing all this. Someone has to earn the money that you make, and it’s usually either by destruction, exploitation or scamming.
I try to break free from all this stuff by downsizing. Second hand clothes, Repair Café, holidays at youth hostels like 40 km from my home, meeting/making local friends and very important: raising your kids to not be spoiled, entitled, materialistic cunts. That’s the power of No, thank you.
It’s so calming to switch to a lower gear and find happiness in baking a cake from handpicked apples than another TV and holiday in Asia.
Honestly I Drink, but more importantly, I’ve made sure to learn the game that all these rich shitheads play. Wait
So, “capitalism sucks, but I’ve got a system[tm]: Buy low, sell high!”
That’s your plan? Orwell had a horse on his Animal Farm, too.
I have a small portfolio of space company stocks and keep them as a reminder to avoid active investing.
My boring old Total Market (essentially S&P500) index funds have done much better in the same time as my space stocks.
Wait till gold drops by into it.
Every time the market spikes for gold (as it is now), I run the projects to see if I would have been better off in gold than buying equities instead. Gold has never once shown to be the better investment as vehicle for appreciation.
I wouldn’t place my bets on any individual stock/asset. You need to do a lot of research and have a lot of money to invest before that can be a safe decision. Instead, put your money in broad market ETFs, which is effectively just a bet on capitalism. Then either capitalism wins and you also win, or capitalism loses and you still win. But make sure you have an emergency fund first because not having that is one of the few ways that you can lose while capitalism wins.
mate you can’t do 60s in this situation, that’s a no-children person’s game
53 here and I’m just rolling with the punches. Hopefully these will be the good old days
Considering you mention affairs and divorce I’m going to presume you have a relationship you are not happy with.
I can absolutely relate to being exhausted after work. But it’s the job you do more than the hours. I’ve had energy after a 50hr week, yet felt absolutely drained in other jobs with just 30hrs.
Catch 22 then, because you can’t improve your relationship if you are reduced to a zombie, and your relationship is supposed to help ground you against the drains of daily life.
The ideal answer would be to talk things with a professional therapist. Not sure if you are in a position to do that. Second best is, talk things calmly with your partner and see if it is possible to cut down hours of work, perhaps move somewhere more affordable, change your job, in order for you both to have more time enjoy yourselves and your family. It sounds like you can do without, but it is important.
Can anyone handle a 60 hour work week? That’s insane.
yes many do. I’m a college student and between classes and work 60 hours is pretty normal for most of us during the semester.
now once you add a social life, family, etc on top it becomes almost impossible pretty quick.
I used to regularly work 55-60 hour weeks. For a while between 2 jobs then at one. After a decade or so I have a house and work 45 hours a week on average, I keep feeling like I should work more as the bills are still tough but fuck I don’t miss working more than I do. If u have to do it, it doesn’t seem as bad than if you don’t. Perspective matters a lot.
I did it for six months straight around 7-8 years ago, and then on and off as required since.
I was fine with it when I was enjoying work and my work had variety in it - I could do my regular day with a bit of OT in the office, then go build stuff with my hands for a few hours in the shop.
At another job after that, 60s were more difficult because it was work from home, but I still did them as required because I could set my own schedule for the OT and half the time I was drinking and gaming simultaneously (some of the tasks required me to do something and wait on the computer to do compute). But still, the variety of work was key - I had to be able to change tasks and spend at least 10 hours on something that was interesting and different.
A 60 hour work week is stupid, imo. It takes up far too much of your personal time. Like anything, you can do it for a period of time, but it isn’t sustainable as it starts to eat into other aspects of your life.
It’s taken me nearly a year to transition away from a 50 hour standard week and constantly feeling like I should be working more. I had to learn how to just sit at home and do nothing, like drinking a coffee watching dawn come for ten minutes uninterrupted.
idk just sharing my experience. summary is that it’s possible short term if you enjoy it, but you need specific circumstances to be met. I was lucky my job gave me autonomy and flexibility, it wouldn’t have worked otherwise. and obviously I got paid overtime, I’m not working for free. and at both jobs I felt like I was appropriately compensated. I quit the first job when they stopped compensating me appropriately. I toned down the extra work at the second in the same situation.
I did 70+ pretty regularly back when I was young. Probably couldn’t sustain it now, though.
I think I prefer my horror stories to have monsters in them.
Same. Did 72.5 hours in a 5.5 day workweek (Saturday was 5 hours) when I was 18. Also had an hour commute to and from the jobsite. We paved (concrete) right around 3 miles of road that week.
Got done bought a set of tires, got home, showered and crashed for about 16 hours. Was awake for a couple hours on Sunday and slept another 12 hours then went back to work Monday morning.
60 hours work week is not normal. Imho even 40 hours work week is too much. With that cleared, everything gets easier.
Ya it’s not forever. Just till Jan them I am done with an Internship I am working on
You are doing 60 hours a week on an internship?
Hang in there. Then ease up on yourself.
We aren’t. In the US capital has robbed us of anything resembling a family focused life.
I don’t.
I just recently lost my IT job of 10 years. Things are looking extremely grim.
So escapism in the form of weed & late night gaming after the family has gone to sleep.
escapism in the form of weed & late night gaming after the family has gone to sleep.
I second this! Whatchu been playing?
Been going through games that have been on my backlog for, in some cases, a decade. Recently finished Shadow of Morder & Shadow of War. Currently playing Dying Light. My pc at the time could never handle it, Techland’s games are usually a bit ahead of their time graphically.
Idk how anyone handles anything, we’ve somehow turned this beautiful world into an absolute nightmare.
It’s tough dude. I have a shorter work week, so I’m in a slightly better position but young kids definitely make it challenging. The bedtime routine stuff is exceptionally frustrating as you start to resent the time being consumed by it.
I try to find pockets of me time. On a day off, I try to find that hour to play some Xbox and just unwind. At work, I try to read or catch up on a TV show on my break. Just pockets of using the mind differently.
Just some random advice that has helped me. I don’t work as many hours but maybe this could help you:
Look, you need to find some way to get some you time. Start small. Only you can figure out what that means. But you’re absolutely right that it’s unrelenting, and it won’t stop. Talk to someone (a friend or a therapist). Don’t let it stay bottled up.
Good luck!
Any sort of normal life while working 60 hours a week isn’t going to be easy. I don’t think being a family man is the problem here. Maybe consider looking for another job that isn’t as demanding?
The problem is I have an Internship for a graduate program that’s required for licensure I need to elevate my job to the next level. This nightmare will end, and honestly you are right. The moment I get 2 days off again and only work 40 hours a week things will stabilize. I’m just hating life right now and when my daughter had a meltdown in Costco because I wouldn’t get the cinnamon toast crunch? Bro… It makes me want to rip my hair out. What’s left of it anyway
You have to find some time for yourself. I hear what you’re saying, I’m a principal at a school and father of three soon to be four. I lost myself and my family and my work.
Everything was supposed to be great but there was something missing. That something was myself. I didn’t hang out my friends anymore. I stopped playing dungeons& dragons and magic. No exercise, no fun outside of family.
Luckily for me I have an amazing partner, who supported me instead of doubt me when I told her something was missing. I got the whole gang back together. I play magic again, who really has time for d&d.
There’s that old saying that ranks so true to me. If you’re someone who constantly filling up other people’s vessels, you must make sure that you fill yours up as well.
You got this.
I feel the same and when I read your post I heard the lyrics of “The Message” of Grandmaster Flash and the Furious Five in my head… “It’s like a jungle sometimes It makes me wonder how I keep from going under”
For anyone who hasn’t listened to ALL of the lyrics from that song, go. Do it.
Simpler meals. Skimp on cleaning when necessary.
Well 60 hours work week is tough and having children to take care of is going to be even harder. You’ll manage a while but not forever.
Find another job that lets you get away with 40 hours would be my first suggestion. Moving somewhere where pay to living cost ratio is better would also be an option.
Mostly just the knowledge that someday, someday I will be able to rest
It’s hard for everyone. 60 hours of work week sounds like you need a new job. That’s not something that can be sustained over the long haul and I don’t think it leaves you time for an affair or drinking habit. In terms of practical changes: Transition your kid to 9pm bedtime, get help with the cooking and hire someone to clean each week if you have to work that much and can’t do anything about it for now.
My husband has a busy season - during this time I do more of the household stuff because he is working 9-9 six days a week. I have a busy season too - during this time I don’t try to cook every day, husband helps out more.
But all year we get help with cleaning, every other week.
Man, I landed a really good job I like where everyone is super chill and my work week is only 38 hours and I still feel it to some extent. Granted I feel way better than I did working crazy hours but I still feel exhausted
I’ve been there and back, and I am currently there again.
Yo, Boss Fernando, is that you?
DioramaOfShit@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
60 hour work week. That’s your problem right there.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 1 hour ago
seriously. even single a 60 hour workweek is going to leave you with zero time to take care of yourself, let alone children.