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- Comment on How has there not yet been a leak of the Epstein files? Surely there is someone with access to them that could have been subject to worldwide pressure to let something out. 6 days ago:
But Unicode or text based identifiers might.
- Comment on How has there not yet been a leak of the Epstein files? Surely there is someone with access to them that could have been subject to worldwide pressure to let something out. 6 days ago:
According to Senator Durbin there are over 100,00 “files”. It would take thousands of hours.
You could use a script, but then you’re back to the same problem. You still have to ensure nothing’s coded into it.
I think the best you could do with 100% certainty is cherry pick select documents if you had the ability to search them.
- Comment on How has there not yet been a leak of the Epstein files? Surely there is someone with access to them that could have been subject to worldwide pressure to let something out. 1 week ago:
Out of curiosity how do you guarantee you’ve stripped out all identifiable marks if you don’t know they’re there?
Not that I doubt your claim, but I used to water mark screeners for pre-release movies so if they turned up on torrent sites we’d know where they leaked from. We used unique pixel markings on pre-selected frames. I couldn’t imagine how anyone would know to look for them or recognize them for what they were in a 2k image unless they already knew what and where to look.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Middle aged family man here. The way I think most “handle it” is by having less on their plate and balancing work and life in a different way than you’re describing.
- For me the most important factor is partnership. My wife and I split up our responsibilities equitably and we each play our roles well. We’re also flexible enough to cover and support each other when needed. If you can’t do that for each other you don’t have a partnership.
- The second most important thing is a strong support system. We intentionally moved to a place where we have a lot of family close by before starting our own family. My inlaws make it possible for my wife and I to each work a 40 to 50 hour week while ensuring our kids have a rich home life and don’t miss out on anything. That doesn’t have to be family though. It could be a mix of school and after care, or a church, or friends, but if you don’t have some support system you will eventually collapse under the weight.
- Pick your battles. It’s OK to have takeout or heat up a frozen dinner if you don’t have the bandwidth to cook sometimes. My house is always clean and sanitary, but it’s also constantly messy.
- Like many things in life there is an element of attitude to it. If you give in to defeatism it’s easy to spiral. If you view your family or home life a weight on your shoulders you’re doomed. That should be the wind at your back. That should be the stuff that lifts you up. That’s entirely on you to sort out. IMO you should probably talk to someone about it.
Overall What your describing is that you’ve built your life in a way that doesn’t work for you. And to your point a lot of men who do that opt for solutions that make it worse (affairs, substance abuse, etc…). You’re not going to wake up tomorrow and things are suddenly better. At the very least , you need to take active steps to find a better job or work out a different balance of responsibilites with your partner.
Good luck, stay strong, I’m rooting for you.
- Comment on I'm not saying that I agree with it, but it's understandable. 4 weeks ago:
Taylor ham.
- Comment on I'm not saying that I agree with it, but it's understandable. 4 weeks ago:
Admittedly, as the best state in America, there is very little reason for us to leave. But we do still like to travel, just like the folks in the lesser states. We shouldn’t be deified like this.
- Comment on Did it really used to be common for guys to go to a bar every night like in Cheers or The Simpsons? 4 weeks ago:
Yes, but bear in mind a lot factory, construction, and industrial jobs are 7-3 or 8-4. So a working class laborer could go catch a happy hour with the coworkers or neighbors and be home by 5.
Also in the age of single income households men were often not expected to pull as much weight at home.
- Comment on Landlords are parasites 5 weeks ago:
You don’t understand the problem Marxists have with pure capitalism? That’s like their whole thing. An ownership class hoarding resources, and passively generating income from idle capital while not actively contributing is like the greatest sin in their ideology.
I personally think it’s a bit melodramatic. There’s a world of difference between renting your spare room, or the 2nd floor of your house, and a hedgefund buying 20,000 single family houses.
- Comment on Honestly Bizarre 5 weeks ago:
It’s annoying that its driven by ad revenues, and made more dumb by the fact that if everyone can decode it, then they’re still advertising over sex and violence. So the whole endeavor is pointless.
But I don’t think it will cause any harm. Humans have been using slang, code, and memetic language to obscure meaning from others and identify their in-crowds since the dawn of human language. Some of it is dumber than others, but it won’t cause any harm.
- Comment on Forbidden knowledge 5 weeks ago:
And start making crazy demands about not being boiled and eaten.
- Comment on Anon shops for diamonds 5 weeks ago:
I got a 4 pack of silicone rings. I keep one in my desk, one in my car, etc… because I take my tungsten band off all the time and occasionally forget it.
- Comment on Anon shops for diamonds 5 weeks ago:
I wear a tungsten band. Always have to take it off before the gym or manual labor. I was told “in an emergency they can’t cut the ring so they may have to cut the finger”. It’s cool though, I barely use that one and I have like 9 others.
- Comment on How do you introduce the Fediverse to other people? 2 months ago:
Me: Imagine reddit for left wing, privacy obsessed, Linux nerds.
Anyone else: I really don’t want to.
/scene
- Comment on Why do conservatives define being fascist solely as "being violent?" 2 months ago:
They don’t. Any time a Democrat exercises the slightest bit of executive authority they scream fascism
They know the difference. They just play ignorant when it’s convenient.
- Comment on It's been downhill since 2020 2 months ago:
I lived through all these. 2001 and 2008 were horrible, but sort of felt like a normal kind of horrible. Recessions and terrorism were things I’d seen before. It was only the scale that made those anomalous.
From my (American) perspective 2016 was when shit started getting very weird. We were relatively stable, relatively prosperous, foreign wars were tapering off… And half the country decided that a game show host was her best bet going forward.
Then it started snowballing… Bill Cosby’s a rapist, there’s a global pandemic, Kanye put out a pro-Hitler song, Pete Davidson is a sex symbol that no starlet in Hollywood can resist, The secretary of health had his brain eaten by worms, everything you own or use became a subscription service, The fear Factor guy became a political king maker, The first lady has a crypto scam that everyone’s kind of okay with, we created AI but it’s only good for spam and rule 34 tweets, we decided political corruption isn’t a crime if you brag about it, America’s war machine is being turned on its cities… Oh and the US is building full on concentration camps.
It’s a very strange time even compared to occupy, The tea party, or Bush riding out 9/11 Reading a children’s book in an elementary school.
- Comment on Who is the enemy? 2 months ago:
I haven’t read the DOT code in a while, so I genuinely don’t recall if they’re mandated, but I recall that all my trucks had them.
This is of absolutely no use in preventing people from a close merge on the passenger side where the driver definitely cannot see. Often the driver’s first indication that this has occurred is the crunch. I’ve never seen one of these accidents that wasn’t completely avoidable.
- Comment on Who is the enemy? 2 months ago:
I used to do fleet management. It’s so bad. I never would have believed how many people take clearance signs as suggestions.
And the drivers test should include a “show me where the truck driver can and can’t see you” portion.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 months ago:
Particularly when so many trans men who have lived as women previously have come forward to validate how much more isolated men feel.
- Comment on Why is kindness often viewed as a sign of naïveté? 3 months ago:
Due to the inherently competitive nature of living in a society that competes for resources, many people assume that a kind, upbeat person will be easy prey for someone tough and pushy. They lack the emotional intelligence to understand that you can be both kind and assertive.
In reality, you catch more flies with honey. Pretty much every study of game theory concludes that nice but assertive is the optimal strategy in any ongoing interaction. A nice person with a backbone is likely to be healthier boundaries, lower stress, and better relationships with people.
- Comment on Anon breaks up 3 months ago:
It’s not most Americans. It’s about a third (which is still huge) and less than half of the population living in a gun owning household.
Then there’s a spectrum of how “important” guns are culturally. There are in my experience 3 categories of gun owners.
- People who own a gun or two. They may take it to the range or hunt, but mostly it’s tucked securely away and they don’t think about it or use it.
2)Then there are collectors and enthusiasts. They enjoy firearms as a hobby. They have multiple. They watch firearms videos on social media. They go to gun shows and might join a club related to the hobby.
3)Then there are the paranoid psychopaths for whom gun ownership and the insistence that they could have to defend themselves at any time is constantly at the forefront of their mind. They wish they had a reason to shoot someone and may end up shooting someone anyway.
- Comment on The long hard road 4 months ago:
Just say you make bat soup. Don’t try to make it sound fancy.
- Comment on Please tell me 4 months ago:
There is so much of that kind of marketing at this point, that it had not occurred to me until reading this discussion that “Liquid Death” was intended to ironically over the top.