Never bought her a diamond
Never even bought a ring
Never even got married with a giant ceremony or big event
Been together for over 30 years, bought property and all kinds of things, traveled to over 30 countries. Still not married.
¯_(ツ)_/¯
Anon shops for diamonds
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ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
We got married because otherwise her parents would get too annoying when we moved in together. We picked out rings without stones together and had six people present at the wedding.
ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Congratulations … best kind of wedding in my opinion
Monument@lemmy.sdf.org 2 weeks ago
Same philosophy, but we did get married after we realized the legal protections and tax benefits were worth it. We just saw too much opportunity for our very dissimilar families to pull some nonsense.
We snuck into a park (that requires reservations for ceremonies) with some friends and that was that.
The rings are simple and inexpensive, and also rarely worn. We know what we’re about.ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Congratulations … we get along with each others families very well now and there’s no worries about anyone pulling anything on us (although there is always a chance that may change) … but at the same time, everyone is now so freakin old that it almost doesn’t matter to anyone any more. We are seriously thinking of getting officially married, simply for the fact that this is the only way to deal with medical rights issues for spouses and partners.
idunnololz@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
- got married at city hall for like $20
- got him a synthetic diamond ring for $300 (large diamond with lots of small decorative diamonds, easy looks 10x the price we paid)
- spent all of the money we would have spent on wedding and ring on a trip to long vacation
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Didn’t buy her a diamond or a ring, but I did buy a marriage certificate and signed it at the location of our first date. We’re pretty happy with it
ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Congratulations
Beautiful … you don’t need a public ceremony to display how much you love someone
Flax_vert@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
“still haven’t made my mind up” aaa relationship 😭🥀💀
PieMePlenty@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Sounds to me like they’ve made up their minds a long time ago and have proven their love for one another for over 30 years. I don’t think there exists a thing that could prove it better.
ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
It was like that for a year or two … then it turned into 30 … we wondered for a long time … but after a while, you both realize, I’m never finding someone like this again in this lifetime.
CatsPajamas@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
Lab grown emeralds are a couple hundred bucks and are way prettier than diamonds.
chuckleslord@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Moissanite is an excellent diamond alternative if you want a clear stone. Cheaper, just as resilient, and sparkly as fuck.
fishy@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Yup, it’s even what they use in their displays because they sparkle more than a diamond.
Inaminate_Carbon_Rod@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
My wife has a Tanzanite engagement ring and loves talking about it
IMO it’s kind of romantic Tanzanite only comes from one single place.
davidgro@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Wife and I decided on moissanite. It’s big, extra sparkly, and 1/10 the price a similar diamond would be. Almost as hard, too - won’t get scratched except by another moissanite or a diamond.
olafurp@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
This is what I always say. When people want diamonds they either want them because they’re pretty or expensive. If you want expensive then buy a gold bullion, if you want pretty buy a moissanite, for both, buy both.
imetators@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
I got engagement with moissanite for my now-wife. She says it is too big and firery-sparkly. Costed me almost nothing compared to a micro-sized diamond on a silver ring I’d get at a major jeweler.
LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Eh it’s now about 1/3 the price. Lab diamonds are getting cheap. Still a solid option though.
davidgro@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Ah, I haven’t kept up, I edited my post a little. Thanks!
kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
If it loses 50-80% of the value as soon as it’s used, might as well get a used one if you must have a natural diamond. This also applies to cars and plenty of other things. Let someone with more money than you take the hit.
Xabis@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Pretty sure a used engagement ring is worse than lab grown in the eyes of the unwashed masses.
Pulptastic@midwest.social 2 weeks ago
Used means cursed, it failed once and will fail again. As if the mined materials have any effect in a relationship.
dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
Damn, one of these without a “fake and gay” explanation, and I’m too tired to think of a good one. I’ve never gotten to be the fake and gay guy, and I’m missing my chance D:
But anyway, as others have said, lab grown, vintage, there are other options.
But has anyone considered a rock that doesn’t just look like glass? There are so many cool rocks out there, people! I’d literally rather have a piece of quartz that my SO and I found together turned into a ring than I would have a piece of a much fancier/“valuable” stone that I have no attachment to.
When my parents got married, they had gone gem mining at one of those places with the troughs of dirt, and you pan it yourself. They found some rubies, and had wedding rings made from those. How fucking cool is that? Way cooler than a thing you have no connection to, I think.
BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz 2 weeks ago
Fake: anon has a gf
Gay: anon doesn’t want to buy an engagement ring for his fake gf
yakko@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
Fake: anon uses 4chan but refers to himself as a normie
Gay: getting himself blackpilled on het culture
Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
My wife and I got alexandrite+opal because holy shit those are two really pretty rocks, diamonds belong on drill bits
But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You having a wife? Stop lying loser
ryedaft@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Diamonds don’t look like glass.
Other than that you are correct about everything.
dharmacurious@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
I mean, I was being hyperbolic, but they’re just… Boring to me. I know a lot of people love them, but to me they just look like fancy glass.
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
So don’t buy one. My girlfriend’s will be getting one of those rings made of tungsten. Have you seen them they look amazing. It’s simultaneously looks like something some elvish jewellery merchant made while at the same time looking like it made also activate the halo rings.
A diamond is just shiny.
Of course it’s important to discuss these things with your partner in advance. Whether or not they would be happy with a non-diamond ring depends very much on the person. But it might be worth advocating for them because they look really nice and they are quite expensive but they’re honestly more interesting than the diamond and ethically sourced. There’s no such thing as blood tungsten.
mister_flibble@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Olhonestjim@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
If your finger swells up inside a tungsten ring, EMT’s cannot cut through it with their normal tools. They have to use a high speed grinding tool. You or your loved one will not enjoy this procedure.
Don’t get tungsten rings.
obsoleteacct@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
I wear a tungsten band. Always have to take it off before the gym or manual labor. I was told “in an emergency they can’t cut the ring so they may have to cut the finger”. It’s cool though, I barely use that one and I have like 9 others.
Rekorse@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
They make them with break points now.
uid0gid0@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Did a jeweler tell you that so they could sell you something expensive? Tungsten runs are hard but brittle. They can be broken with a pair of vise grips, just like stone rings.
mortemtyrannis@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
A dremel won’t work on tungsten rings?
festnt@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
some diamonds glow in the dark. if i ever get a diamond ring i want a lab grown glow in the dark diamond in it
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
I would be highly suspicious of a glow in the dark diamonds.
magnetosphere@fedia.io 2 weeks ago
Wait until he finds out how much the reception will cost.
troed@fedia.io 2 weeks ago
I agree the "rock" hints strongly at it, but unless they're american* weddings aren't very expensive. That whole lavish show-off thing the rest of us just ignore.
*) hmm, maybe indian too
trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Dutch wedding receptions aren’t cheap either, the main difference is that here it’s much more common to keep it small and not have a reception.
9point6@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Currently planning what seems like a fairly mid sized wedding in the UK
It’s already looking like it’s going to be over double the cost of a roughly equivalent wedding one of my friends had only 3 years ago
Based on some of the price lists of suppliers for the following year we’ve seen, they’ll be getting even more expensive. The industry is getting quite out of hand
Flax_vert@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
How much does it cost compared to the ceremony itself?
Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
It depends a lot on what you do, I am currently looking and its annoying how few mid price options there seem to be. Like its either go down the pub with your mates for £150, or £20k invite a bunch of people you barely even know.
Why so little in the 4 figure price range? Seems like for that you need to just organise something yourself and say its just a party.
Sunsofold@lemmings.world 2 weeks ago
One of the ideas I had years ago was to get an uncut puck of lab diamond, (at the time this was ~$1500 from one place, probably cheaper now) find a lapidary and get them to cut out a literal diamond ring, a ring made entirely of solid diamond, and then my spouse could say ‘That’s not a diamond ring. This is a diamond ring.’ in a cheesy Aussie accent.
MrVilliam@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
White sapphire is even cheaper than moissanite and most people don’t know any better. It’s a little less durable than diamond but looks a lot like a natural diamond. My wife cared more about the look than the actual pricetag, so I got what looks like thousands of dollars worth of ring for less than 10% of that. She’s clumsy, so if she bumps into something and the stone pops out and gets lost, no big deal.
Discuss with your partner. Do not try to trick them by getting them a diamond alternative and then telling them it’s a diamond. A reasonable partner (imo) would rather put some of that money towards the wedding and/or marriage itself rather than into a ring. Get the wedding menu you really want or put it towards a house down payment or new furniture or something.
Bytemeister@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Check with your partner and see what kind of ring they want for their engagement.
I went to the jewelry store with my partner and shopped for her engagement ring. Ended up doing a custom piece with a rose-gold band and a couple of blue topaz gems. She wanted a ring that would fit comfortably under exam gloves (she worked in a lab at the time). She’s much happier with it than a big heavy pointy rock, and it was way cheaper (like 450 for the whole ring).
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
On that note, I find diamonds to be the most boring gemstone. Any of the ones with colour are far more interesting to me, I don’t get why anyone would want to pay more for diamonds (outside of their industrial purposes) even if they were actually rarer.
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
I’m going the custom route as well I just think if you give them something custom it’s so much more meaningful than just going and buying something that was merely expensive.
Also with a really expensive diamond ring you never want to wear it because you always worried it’s going to get stolen.
AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
There is one type of natural diamond that doesn’t lose its value. Those are mine cut diamonds. They haven’t cut them at the mines since before the cartels took over. I found this out one day, because my GF would wear her late grandmother’s wedding and engagement bands. We got curious one day, and wandered into the fancy jewelry story in the mall. I said to the guy, “I know you can’t give us an official appraisal, but could you take a look and give us a ballpark.” He slipped the loupe on and took a look. Immediately he said something like, “Oh, wow! Haven’t seen one of these before.” He explained that all 20 of the ¼ carat diamonds and the large 2 carat diamond were all mine cut, so the engagement band could have fetched $100,000 and the wedding band was worth about $250,0000 in 2000 dollars.
Needless to say, she stopped wearing it frequently after she found out.
Pringles@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
I buy my wife jewelry with artificial diamonds, not because she wants it, but because I love to see her wearing it. She calls me a magpie for good reason.
Ooh sparkly things!
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Got my wife a Moissanite ring, it’s even shinyer than diamonds and way cheaper, i love being with a practical woman.
Moissanite gang rise up
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Not doubting what you’re saying (because I’ve heard it many times already) but that picture looks misleading because of the different light hitting each stone. These marketing tricks are so obvious that at this point they can even make the truth look like a lie.
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Dasus@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yea sure man, but why is your comparison a rainbow being shat on the supposedly superior stone while the other gets a dull monotone?
RBWells@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Mine is moissy too, I picked it out, would have been pissed if my now husband wasted a car’s worth of money to get the equivalent diamond, and wanted a solitaire, and I like this stone better.
No it doesn’t get scratched up, as I am not scratching at it with a diamond. It’s very hard.
Reginald_T_Biter@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Isn’t it much softer too? Ie, it’ll be all scratched to hell by day to day wear?
BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Nah Moissanite is still one of the hardest materials on earth at 9.5 on the mohs scale. Ain’t shit gonna scratch that
echodot@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
Diamonds are really hard but there’s other things that are pretty much up there. Unless you’re planning on repeatedly punching sharpened graphite spikes with no gloves on wear isn’t really a problem.
Contramuffin@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You might be thinking of cubic zirconium, which is another replacement for diamond. That one is softer, but my understanding is that it’s still quite difficult to scratch
Dasus@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
The obvious answer is to buy a large synthetic one. It’s still real.
Overshoot2648@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Nah, get a moissanite, it is more brilliant, and because it is used as high voltage SiCfets it is way cheaper.
Dasus@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Yeah sure, I’ll consider that if and when monogamy ever becomes any sort of option for me.
But disregarding me, personally, you can see quite how there’s a bit of manipulation going on if you’re pretending that the visual is “real”, right?
Endymion_Mallorn@kbin.melroy.org 2 weeks ago
So do what my better half and i did - buy a ring from Etsy with a lab-grown stone.
Darkenfolk@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Just gift each other something practical and romantic, like a sword.
_AutumnMoon_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
Exactly!
Taalnazi@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Or a stone that you saw on the ground somewhere, and just liked.
Olgratin_Magmatoe@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
My fiancé and I both were on the same page about how stupid it is. So I got her a lab grown alexandrite ring, and she is in love with it.
LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Dang a lot of diamond haters in the comments! I would never buy a mined diamond for the ethical concerns but I think lab grown diamonds are worth the price. Moissanite is really pretty but it does throw more colors which may not be to everyone’s taste. Diamonds have a really clean white sparkle. And the price difference between the two is not as big as it used to be apparently.
Fmstrat@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
My ring is made of silicone. Nice little grooves so it doesn’t trap sweat, too. Lightweight, durable, replacable, and a lifetime warranty.
salacious_coaster@infosec.pub 2 weeks ago
Modern CZs actually look really good
partial_accumen@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Anon hasn’t figured out that what is important to her is what should be important to him on this one. Trying to rationalize with her that the diamond ring she wants from this (potentially) most important event in her life isn’t worth it is a sure fire way to ruin this for her.
capuccino@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Car getting devaluated after buy it’s a total scam!!! I’d love to go there, let me feel the steering wheel and say “hmmm what? Dude, I just touch the steer, that devaluated the car, why are you selling to me as new??”
CaptainHowdy@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
What board has posts like this nowadays? I was on the chans a few weeks back and it was basically all brain rot and fascism.
fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
Blaming Sooners is weird, since the trend is slowly moving away from diamonds
SlartyBartFast@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Get ye some moissonite, son
Phoenix3875@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
So why is anon posting this on the internet rather than presenting this to the “qt gf” again?
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Rings are socially relevant demarcations of sexual availability. Diamonds are just shiny rocks. Frankly, rings with any stones in them piss me off. They catch on your clothes and rip your favorite fucking sweater, and it’s laundry day so you can’t even grab something else because your other clothes are soaked in vomit because projectile vomiting all over a crowd is the most reasonable course of action when you’re a dumb asshole dicking around on a balcony on new years, apparently.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Well this reply certainly took a turn! Especially since NYE was 9+ months ago. Woman have had sex that night, and given birth since then. And you still haven’t done laundry yet???
Dude.
Gullible@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Don’t tell me how to live my life.
KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
Oddly specific ending