Anon shops for diamonds

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• MrVilliam@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  White sapphire is even cheaper than moissanite and most people don’t know any better. It’s a little less durable than diamond but looks a lot like a natural diamond. My wife cared more about the look than the actual pricetag, so I got what looks like thousands of dollars worth of ring for less than 10% of that. She’s clumsy, so if she bumps into something and the stone pops out and gets lost, no big deal.

  Discuss with your partner. Do not try to trick them by getting them a diamond alternative and then telling them it’s a diamond. A reasonable partner (imo) would rather put some of that money towards the wedding and/or marriage itself rather than into a ring. Get the wedding menu you really want or put it towards a house down payment or new furniture or something.

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• echodot@feddit.uk ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  So don’t buy one. My girlfriend’s will be getting one of those rings made of tungsten. Have you seen them they look amazing. It’s simultaneously looks like something some elvish jewellery merchant made while at the same time looking like it made also activate the halo rings.

  A diamond is just shiny.

  Of course it’s important to discuss these things with your partner in advance. Whether or not they would be happy with a non-diamond ring depends very much on the person. But it might be worth advocating for them because they look really nice and they are quite expensive but they’re honestly more interesting than the diamond and ethically sourced. There’s no such thing as blood tungsten.

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• kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  If it loses 50-80% of the value as soon as it’s used, might as well get a used one if you must have a natural diamond. This also applies to cars and plenty of other things. Let someone with more money than you take the hit.

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  • Xabis@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Pretty sure a used engagement ring is worse than lab grown in the eyes of the unwashed masses.

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    • Pulptastic@midwest.social ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Used means cursed, it failed once and will fail again. As if the mined materials have any effect in a relationship.

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• Bytemeister@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Check with your partner and see what kind of ring they want for their engagement.

  I went to the jewelry store with my partner and shopped for her engagement ring. Ended up doing a custom piece with a rose-gold band and a couple of blue topaz gems. She wanted a ring that would fit comfortably under exam gloves (she worked in a lab at the time). She’s much happier with it than a big heavy pointy rock, and it was way cheaper (like 450 for the whole ring).

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  • echodot@feddit.uk ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I’m going the custom route as well I just think if you give them something custom it’s so much more meaningful than just going and buying something that was merely expensive.

    Also with a really expensive diamond ring you never want to wear it because you always worried it’s going to get stolen.

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  • Buddahriffic@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    On that note, I find diamonds to be the most boring gemstone. Any of the ones with colour are far more interesting to me, I don’t get why anyone would want to pay more for diamonds (outside of their industrial purposes) even if they were actually rarer.

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• CatsPajamas@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Lab grown emeralds are a couple hundred bucks and are way prettier than diamonds.

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  • chuckleslord@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Moissanite is an excellent diamond alternative if you want a clear stone. Cheaper, just as resilient, and sparkly as fuck.

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    • fishy@lemmy.today ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Yup, it’s even what they use in their displays because they sparkle more than a diamond.

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• Gullible@sh.itjust.works ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Rings are socially relevant demarcations of sexual availability. Diamonds are just shiny rocks. Frankly, rings with any stones in them piss me off. They catch on your clothes and rip your favorite fucking sweater, and it’s laundry day so you can’t even grab something else because your other clothes are soaked in vomit because projectile vomiting all over a crowd is the most reasonable course of action when you’re a dumb asshole dicking around on a balcony on new years, apparently.

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  • Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Well this reply certainly took a turn! Especially since NYE was 9+ months ago. Woman have had sex that night, and given birth since then. And you still haven’t done laundry yet???

    Dude.

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    • Gullible@sh.itjust.works ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Don’t tell me how to live my life.

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  • KyuubiNoKitsune@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Oddly specific ending

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• SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Got my wife a Moissanite ring, it’s even shinyer than diamonds and way cheaper, i love being with a practical woman.

  Moissanite gang rise up

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  • Buddahriffic@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Not doubting what you’re saying (because I’ve heard it many times already) but that picture looks misleading because of the different light hitting each stone. These marketing tricks are so obvious that at this point they can even make the truth look like a lie.

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    • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Image

      The rainbow light in the graphic looks cheesy, but that is what the visual difference between the two rocks looks like

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  • Dasus@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Yea sure man, but why is your comparison a rainbow being shat on the supposedly superior stone while the other gets a dull monotone?

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  • RBWells@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Mine is moissy too, I picked it out, would have been pissed if my now husband wasted a car’s worth of money to get the equivalent diamond, and wanted a solitaire, and I like this stone better.

    No it doesn’t get scratched up, as I am not scratching at it with a diamond. It’s very hard.

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  • Reginald_T_Biter@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Isn’t it much softer too? Ie, it’ll be all scratched to hell by day to day wear?

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    • BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Nah Moissanite is still one of the hardest materials on earth at 9.5 on the mohs scale. Ain’t shit gonna scratch that

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    • echodot@feddit.uk ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Diamonds are really hard but there’s other things that are pretty much up there. Unless you’re planning on repeatedly punching sharpened graphite spikes with no gloves on wear isn’t really a problem.

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    • Contramuffin@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      You might be thinking of cubic zirconium, which is another replacement for diamond. That one is softer, but my understanding is that it’s still quite difficult to scratch

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• Dasus@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  The obvious answer is to buy a large synthetic one. It’s still real.

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  • Overshoot2648@lemmy.today ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Nah, get a moissanite, it is more brilliant, and because it is used as high voltage SiCfets it is way cheaper.

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    • Dasus@lemmy.world ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Yeah sure, I’ll consider that if and when monogamy ever becomes any sort of option for me.

      But disregarding me, personally, you can see quite how there’s a bit of manipulation going on if you’re pretending that the visual is “real”, right?

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• ininewcrow@lemmy.ca ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Never bought her a diamond

  Never even bought a ring

  Never even got married with a giant ceremony or big event

  Been together for over 30 years, bought property and all kinds of things, traveled to over 30 countries. Still not married.

  ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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  • Monument@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Same philosophy, but we did get married after we realized the legal protections and tax benefits were worth it. We just saw too much opportunity for our very dissimilar families to pull some nonsense.

    We snuck into a park (that requires reservations for ceremonies) with some friends and that was that.
    The rings are simple and inexpensive, and also rarely worn. We know what we’re about.

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    • ininewcrow@lemmy.ca ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Congratulations … we get along with each others families very well now and there’s no worries about anyone pulling anything on us (although there is always a chance that may change) … but at the same time, everyone is now so freakin old that it almost doesn’t matter to anyone any more. We are seriously thinking of getting officially married, simply for the fact that this is the only way to deal with medical rights issues for spouses and partners.

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  • idunnololz@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    • got married at city hall for like $20
    • got him a synthetic diamond ring for $300 (large diamond with lots of small decorative diamonds, easy looks 10x the price we paid)
    • spent all of the money we would have spent on wedding and ring on a trip to long vacation

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    • ininewcrow@lemmy.ca ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Congratulations

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  • trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    We got married because otherwise her parents would get too annoying when we moved in together. We picked out rings without stones together and had six people present at the wedding.

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    • ininewcrow@lemmy.ca ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Congratulations … best kind of wedding in my opinion

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  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Didn’t buy her a diamond or a ring, but I did buy a marriage certificate and signed it at the location of our first date. We’re pretty happy with it

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    • ininewcrow@lemmy.ca ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Congratulations

      Beautiful … you don’t need a public ceremony to display how much you love someone

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  • Flax_vert@feddit.uk ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    “still haven’t made my mind up” aaa relationship 😭🥀💀

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    • PieMePlenty@lemmy.world ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Sounds to me like they’ve made up their minds a long time ago and have proven their love for one another for over 30 years. I don’t think there exists a thing that could prove it better.

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    • ininewcrow@lemmy.ca ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      It was like that for a year or two … then it turned into 30 … we wondered for a long time … but after a while, you both realize, I’m never finding someone like this again in this lifetime.

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• AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  There is one type of natural diamond that doesn’t lose its value. Those are mine cut diamonds. They haven’t cut them at the mines since before the cartels took over. I found this out one day, because my GF would wear her late grandmother’s wedding and engagement bands. We got curious one day, and wandered into the fancy jewelry story in the mall. I said to the guy, “I know you can’t give us an official appraisal, but could you take a look and give us a ballpark.” He slipped the loupe on and took a look. Immediately he said something like, “Oh, wow! Haven’t seen one of these before.” He explained that all 20 of the ¼ carat diamonds and the large 2 carat diamond were all mine cut, so the engagement band could have fetched $100,000 and the wedding band was worth about $250,0000 in 2000 dollars.

  Needless to say, she stopped wearing it frequently after she found out.

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• davidgro@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Wife and I decided on moissanite. It’s big, extra sparkly, and 1/10 the price a similar diamond would be. Almost as hard, too - won’t get scratched except by another moissanite or a diamond.

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  • LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Eh it’s now about 1/3 the price. Lab diamonds are getting cheap. Still a solid option though.

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    • davidgro@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      Ah, I haven’t kept up, I edited my post a little. Thanks!

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  • olafurp@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    This is what I always say. When people want diamonds they either want them because they’re pretty or expensive. If you want expensive then buy a gold bullion, if you want pretty buy a moissanite, for both, buy both.

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  • imetators@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I got engagement with moissanite for my now-wife. She says it is too big and firery-sparkly. Costed me almost nothing compared to a micro-sized diamond on a silver ring I’d get at a major jeweler.

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• LaLuzDelSol@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Dang a lot of diamond haters in the comments! I would never buy a mined diamond for the ethical concerns but I think lab grown diamonds are worth the price. Moissanite is really pretty but it does throw more colors which may not be to everyone’s taste. Diamonds have a really clean white sparkle. And the price difference between the two is not as big as it used to be apparently.

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• dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Damn, one of these without a “fake and gay” explanation, and I’m too tired to think of a good one. I’ve never gotten to be the fake and gay guy, and I’m missing my chance D:

  But anyway, as others have said, lab grown, vintage, there are other options.

  But has anyone considered a rock that doesn’t just look like glass? There are so many cool rocks out there, people! I’d literally rather have a piece of quartz that my SO and I found together turned into a ring than I would have a piece of a much fancier/“valuable” stone that I have no attachment to.

  When my parents got married, they had gone gem mining at one of those places with the troughs of dirt, and you pan it yourself. They found some rubies, and had wedding rings made from those. How fucking cool is that? Way cooler than a thing you have no connection to, I think.

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  • BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Fake: anon has a gf

    Gay: anon doesn’t want to buy an engagement ring for his fake gf

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  • yakko@feddit.uk ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Fake: anon uses 4chan but refers to himself as a normie

    Gay: getting himself blackpilled on het culture

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  • ryedaft@sh.itjust.works ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Diamonds don’t look like glass.

    Other than that you are correct about everything.

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    • dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I mean, I was being hyperbolic, but they’re just… Boring to me. I know a lot of people love them, but to me they just look like fancy glass.

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  • Amnesigenic@lemmy.ml ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    My wife and I got alexandrite+opal because holy shit those are two really pretty rocks, diamonds belong on drill bits

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    • dharmacurious@slrpnk.net ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      That’s so cool!

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• Pringles@sopuli.xyz ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I buy my wife jewelry with artificial diamonds, not because she wants it, but because I love to see her wearing it. She calls me a magpie for good reason.

  Ooh sparkly things!

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• magnetosphere@fedia.io ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Wait until he finds out how much the reception will cost.

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  • troed@fedia.io ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I agree the "rock" hints strongly at it, but unless they're american* weddings aren't very expensive. That whole lavish show-off thing the rest of us just ignore.

    *) hmm, maybe indian too

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    • 9point6@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Currently planning what seems like a fairly mid sized wedding in the UK

      It’s already looking like it’s going to be over double the cost of a roughly equivalent wedding one of my friends had only 3 years ago

      Based on some of the price lists of suppliers for the following year we’ve seen, they’ll be getting even more expensive. The industry is getting quite out of hand

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    • trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Dutch wedding receptions aren’t cheap either, the main difference is that here it’s much more common to keep it small and not have a reception.

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  • Flax_vert@feddit.uk ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    How much does it cost compared to the ceremony itself?

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    • Korhaka@sopuli.xyz ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      It depends a lot on what you do, I am currently looking and its annoying how few mid price options there seem to be. Like its either go down the pub with your mates for £150, or £20k invite a bunch of people you barely even know.

      Why so little in the 4 figure price range? Seems like for that you need to just organise something yourself and say its just a party.

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• Fmstrat@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  My ring is made of silicone. Nice little grooves so it doesn’t trap sweat, too. Lightweight, durable, replacable, and a lifetime warranty.

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  • blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Where’d you get it from? Curious about the grooves

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• Endymion_Mallorn@kbin.melroy.org ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  So do what my better half and i did - buy a ring from Etsy with a lab-grown stone.

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  • Darkenfolk@sh.itjust.works ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Just gift each other something practical and romantic, like a sword.

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    • _AutumnMoon_@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Exactly!

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  • Taalnazi@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Or a stone that you saw on the ground somewhere, and just liked.

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• fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Blaming Sooners is weird, since the trend is slowly moving away from diamonds

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• SlartyBartFast@sh.itjust.works ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Get ye some moissonite, son

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• salacious_coaster@infosec.pub ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Modern CZs actually look really good

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  • supamanc@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Lab grown diamonds are actually flawless, so the jewellery industry represents them as being too perfect. Apparently you need the imperfections that natural diamonds have in order to have ‘character’ and therfore value!

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• partial_accumen@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Anon hasn’t figured out that what is important to her is what should be important to him on this one. Trying to rationalize with her that the diamond ring she wants from this (potentially) most important event in her life isn’t worth it is a sure fire way to ruin this for her.

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  • trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    If it’s really that important to her, he might want to reconsider the whole engagement. Compatibility of morals is not unimportant in a relationship.

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    • partial_accumen@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Shared values are certainly important. However, Anon may quickly learn that his importance on spending money on Fantasy Football, Warhammer, or automotive tuning (or whatever his hobby/vice may be) may also quickly get met by his alternate shared-values compatible wife when he finds one that doesn’t want a diamond engagement ring for being wasteful.

      If anon is worried about the resale value of a wedding ring after the purchase, I’m not sure if he quite understands the purpose of a wedding ring.

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  • salacious_coaster@infosec.pub ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Diamond marketing really did a number on people

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• Phoenix3875@lemmy.world ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  So why is anon posting this on the internet rather than presenting this to the “qt gf” again?

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