Monument

@Monument@lemmy.sdf.org

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Interesting way to deal with people who have had enough⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I dated a girl with a very Italian last name for a number of years. She said that ‘back in the day’ certain parts of her family were connected in our city. Laughed it off, because that was history. Her dad was never involved, and her grandpa was only a little involved, I guess, and… whatever. It just wasn’t a thing in their lives and hadn’t really been a thing in our city since like the 70’s.

  We took a trip to NYC, and after eating at this lovely hole-in-the-wall Italian restaurant, she paid. After seeing the name on the CC, the whole vibe sort of changed. Staff got shy. A manager came over to offer us a big discount on our food, and free dessert.
  My GF understood it, I guess, and told him that we were from out of town and didn’t have any family in town. After a very brief pause, the manager said something like “Oooh. It must have been another table that complained about their food…” They still gave us free dessert for the mix-up (we were already going to order dessert - it’s not like we were pretending to be mini-mafiosos out there).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨All this produce is going to spoil at the food bank where I volunteer⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yup. Circa 2014, one of my sisters would gather up a bunch of food every week and have a ‘cook out’ at a park near here that was known to have a large homeless population. Basically, they fed anyone who asked for a plate. She did this with a group of friends who I guess were just bored and successful enough to want to feel good about feeding the homeless.

  After a few months, their activities drew the ire of… someone, and they got raided by the cops and local health inspectors. Despite acknowledging the food they were serving was at the proper temp and all food handling protocol was being followed, they took an ‘every possible justification’ approach to the situation that they could and insinuated everything from unknown, dirty kitchens to lack of a catering license, with severe future legal threats if they were to continue feeding the homeless. The officials then poured bleach into the food and dumped it into the trash.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Double homocide.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The 5 stages of Charles Manson⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I love Lemmy.

  So. Honestly, I’m in over my head on a couple projects that I thought were going to be “easy enough.”

  I’m new to the entire “type” of project I’m building - ESP32’s with displays. The starter project is a ‘magic 8 ball.’ I have one of these already and figure the gyro/accelerometer can capture the shake/flip motion. The more complex one is intended to be backed by ESPHome and use a motion sensor/Bluetooth presence detection to deliver customized messages in addition to providing smart home control.

  In the course of trying to figure them out, it’s become apparent I’m going to have to learn/use LVGL for the graphics. I haven’t yet gotten to LVGL and I already am on the struggle bus.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Peak masculinity⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  And ears so big they can be used as handles. For reasons.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨MEGA PENGUIN⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I was planning to, but work has been hell today. I’ve barely had any time to shitpost.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The 5 stages of Charles Manson⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’d be fine with it, but my wife barely likes men. There’s no way I could convince her to find me a gaming buddy.

  (I kid! I’d actually rather she find someone that knows C++.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon saved Portugal last month⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I guess I’m going to complain about work to strangers now.

  Yesterday a colleague in another area of the organization emailed me about something that is a matter of legal concern within our purview, but not directly within our scope that they had only accidentally learned about. Seeing the project, the names of the players, and knowing their dispositions and general quality of work, as well as the importance of what they were fucking with, I responded, looping in all the possible stakeholders, explaining the concern, and requesting input. The Director of the area that initiated the changes responded with a long email that basically said they weren’t going to consider any concerns other than their own - not even legal compliance that didn’t impact the nuts and bolts of the work they do - despite my offer to facilitate the compliance and policymaking that needs to happen.
  Privately, I messaged my boss, and the colleague who brought the issue to me - a manager - to say that I think the response was not considerate of the broader organizational needs and that we needed to probably intervene more directly, given the severity of the situation that’s brewing.
  My boss: Well, if they don’t want to do it that way, they don’t want to do it that way.

  Motherfucker. I am the responsible party. If their stupid fucking project gets us sued, this shit falls on my lap. I’m telling you, they can say what they want, but the buck stops with me.

  But no. Let’s just shrug and claim helplessness because it’s not in the vibe to tell someone they are stepping on my toes. Zero fucking responsibility. No wonder I’m constantly teetering on the brink of burnout.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rare insults dropped⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I wonder how Jill is doing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rare insults dropped⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I had a threesome with an HR lady! Her hair is purple and she has a polyamory infinity symbol wrapped by bands around her wrist in the colors of the bisexual flag.
  She’s a cool lady. Great friend and hates being a tool for the man. She’s cool people’s version of Ron Swanson.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Unfair is what it is⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not only do I have an increased range of motion, but I (very recently learned) that an old injury is causing spinal stenosis – my spinal canal is narrowing due to bone overgrowth on my vertebrae. (Car accident. I was rear ended.)

  About 20 years ago a chiropractor popped my neck by twisting it, and it so freaked him out that he leapt back from the table and did the heebie jeebie dance.
  He told me to never let a chiropractor pop my neck by twisting it ever again.
  Reasonably certain I could kill myself showing off doing yoga, like in that Dead Like Me episode.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Neutronium would like a word.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Where the fuck did USPS get those super-powerful electromagnets from and how do they know to use them to manipulate impossibly heavy packages!?!

  The alien USPS mail sorter from the movie Men in Black II.
  No idea, man. I just saw that thing in the company warehouse and started pressing buttons

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i get most of my news something like that⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I found out from the ‘dies of cringe’ meme, then shared that on to my wife and her best friend, telling them that was how I found out - and that’s how they found out.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Panic! on the trade floor⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Those darn millennials!
  Such rascals.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Testosterone vs. IQ⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Either my testosterone is high or low but doesn’t the chart above say it covers 16k men and is from 2018?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Gen Z's safe space - Sick of Musk and Zuckerberg, Gen Zers are flocking to Tumblr⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Back then the internet was a bunch of coffee shops. Not literally, of course - but for me it was about 30 people on messenger, my favorite chatroom, a random message board, a small but far flung group of people on LiveJournal, and sometimes even my Neopets guild.
  Each was my own retreat. The weird and funny stuff we shared there was created and shared because people had a passion for whatever. It also was great in that you could learn about something, and share it with another group that had not seen it yet.

  Today the internet is the infinite cul-de-sacs of meme pages, political messaging groups, and disinformation rings on Facebook, along with approximately 6 people that keep showing up from your friends list of hundreds. Or it’s the screaming gladiatorial stadium of Reddit, where the sheer volume of noise smothers any particular voice. Maybe it’s the infinite lawless Walmart of X or even the carefully manicured Target that is BlueSky.
  From mining your attention, to hawking trinkets amidst the spectacle, or attempting to sell a little bit of everything to anyone, the new internet lacks third places. It’s all business, all the time, and you can feel it. Every meme is created to engage with that platform’s broadest audience. Everything is homogenized and lacks uniqueness. All the content has been aggregated and reshared, and in the endless and futile search for validation from the algorithm.

  And that’s why I like Lemmy. It’s a digital third place.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨At this point I think I would⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I want the version with all the African fjords.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Other than a faulty charging port, is there any reason to use a wireless phone charger over wired?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  My desk wireless charger is magnetic, and my keyboard is wireless and can be switched between devices. So I can switch to my phone and bang out a message on my keyboard while my phone is held up comfortably.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon starts talking to a girl⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I had this happen to me in my 30’s. (Sorta.)

  Polyamory - a woman who hadn’t been taking on new partners started dating me. My other girlfriend’s husband began awkwardly pursuing her with no grace or finesse. It got awkward. An acquaintance learned that I was dating the second woman (who had also only recently gotten back into the scene), and began pursuing her.

  It’s like some guys think that because a woman is available to one (well, two or three), she’s available to all. It felt very much like blood in the water to a shark.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What exactly are they teaching in our schools?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  From my recent garage sale:

  A sign beside a road that reads “Garage Salad” and features an arrow pointing left

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon tries to keep it down⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  La petit mort, except grande.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon sees a happy couple⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Doing good*. And well.

  * The charitable foundation may not help as many as we’d like, but it’s fulfilling work.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon sees a happy couple⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Point being, people always think it’s about the sex, and not like, that the person is interesting, kind, charming, or rich.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon sees a happy couple⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  She was just shy of 6’3” (189 cm). She didn’t have a ton of options but to date shorter guys.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon sees a happy couple⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I dated a woman much taller than me, and received an unnatural amount of glances at my crotch when we were out in public together.

  People are so ridiculous.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon sees a happy couple⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Eh, that one is a bad take.

  Assuming that getting stoner supplies implies he’s a stoner and that if he is a stoner, that is the reason he’s unpartnered is as myopic as him assuming she’s not into video games and that he’s got her ‘whipped’.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Eaten’ on the roof⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I went through a rough patch awhile back that saw a lot of “yes”’s to things just to keep myself from being still enough to let my thoughts catch up to me.

  A friend invited me out one Tuesday night, to a bar within walking distance of our apartments. We got a table on the patio and got deep in our cups late into the night. The vibe started to shift and I suddenly realized something – last call was an hour and a half ago. But drinks had kept flowing - just reappearing while we chatted with the crowd (that was drinking and getting high on the patio) clustered around us. But there was no crowd outside of our group. In fact, all the patrons had gone, and we were apparently just partying with the bar staff, getting to know their life stories. After a spell, I got self conscious and moved to leave. I tried to pay, and they just waved me off.
  It was honestly kind of a magical experience. I never did food service or bar work (I chose the retail/manual labor early career skill tree). It felt like a forbidden peek into their lives.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sounds like a fun place to work⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Not that bizarre of an explanation. The workplace is a porn studio. She found that it improves productivity if folks aren’t distracted while working. Seems reasonable.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Most likely. Unless you have testicles, in which case you may have testicular cancer.

  In either situation, take another test or two, and then prepare to speak to medical professionals.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Smart methodology⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  But the titanium-colored bags are so much less bulky!