dharmacurious

@dharmacurious@slrpnk.net

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anti-Masturbation Cross⁩ ⁨⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  When I was about 14 I had a friend whose mom caught him masturbating. She duct taped oven mitts to his hands every night before bed for a week until Sunday, when she took him to their priest. The priest told her, basically, she was crazy. Masturbation is a sin, yada yada Catholic line, but that she could not duct tape her child’s hands at night, and because it was a counseling session and not a confessional, he would be required to report her if it continued.

  Dude was so fucking messed up, though. Kept up with him on Facebook for a while after j moved, and he ended up doing a lot of SI and then in his mid twenties went full goth and got a shit ton of piercings and tattoos to cover the scars.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The fact that this is a real image is infuriating⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Is that a fucking movie trailer? Wtaf

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I just realized after 3 years that my Bidet gets the back of my ball sack wet.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, I’m in this boat. Is he using exactly body temp water somehow?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨May not be the right place but here it goes. One of my brothers passes or get extremely tired if he sees porn. Even a sex scene in a movie he has to go lay down. Is there something wrong with him?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, online, full time. And I’m in Tennessee, near Knoxville. Raleigh is closeish, day trip distance

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨May not be the right place but here it goes. One of my brothers passes or get extremely tired if he sees porn. Even a sex scene in a movie he has to go lay down. Is there something wrong with him?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Undergrad right now. I’d be willing to lose some credits if I could go religious studies, or even a good philosophy program. But none I’ve found seemed to be worth it

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Oh boy 3am⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  … I can only imagine her fingernail scratched the shit of you. Did that not hurt? Even short nails would hurt me. My schnozz is sensitive. Lol

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨May not be the right place but here it goes. One of my brothers passes or get extremely tired if he sees porn. Even a sex scene in a movie he has to go lay down. Is there something wrong with him?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s what I wanted to get my degree in, but for a couple of different reasons, I need to be able to go online, not in person, and couldn’t find a program at an online school that looked decent. Very willing to change schools for that if you know of anything! Religious studies is the dream.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨May not be the right place but here it goes. One of my brothers passes or get extremely tired if he sees porn. Even a sex scene in a movie he has to go lay down. Is there something wrong with him?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Warning: religion, philosophy, nondualism and metaphysics are my trains. I wrote you a thesis before realizing what I had done. You’re not going to hurt my feelings if you don’t read the freaking book I just wrote. Lmao. Sowwy

  I’m pretty new to TEC, to be honest. Grew up Baptist, but that wasn’t a good fit for various reasons, and sort of just did my own thing for a long time. Ended up finding the Episcopals when I decided I wanted to try going to church again. Helluva difference, being in a liturgical tradition, and I like it a lot.

  Re: Buddhism V advaita:

  So, it’s not so much about what one fills that the other lacks as it is about… Perspective? If multiple groups are all saying something similar, but with different focuses, intentions, inflections, verbage, et cetera, I think it’s interesting to examine both, find their commonalities and differences, and try to understand the underlying message. Buddhism speaks of emptiness, Advaita of illusion. While Buddhism tells us there is no self, advaita says there is no self except the self, the singular Brahman. I’ll be honest in that I am really new to Buddhism, and most of my advaita comes from Vivekananda and Ramakrishna and others labeled neoadvaita, but there is a lot of traditionalist thought and teaching in there, too. But I think, ultimately, they’re saying very similar, if not the same, things, and that by allowing yourself to float a bit between them you get to understand them a bit more. Kind of like how if you learn Italian and Spanish and Romanian you might have a much easier time understanding some old Latin texts.

  Re: Kashmiri Shaivism:

  If you’re at all interested in nondualism you’ve got to check out Kashmiri Shaivism! Very cool tradition. It’s a nondualism tradition, but with Shiva as the focus instead of Brahman. It’s independent of Advaita, and IIRC significantly older. Like, potentially Indus Valley civilization old. Prevedic old. Though, obvious any living tradition has changed in that amount of time. There are several really good YouTubers that do advaita info (and if you’re anywhere near NC then Swami Sarvapriyananda from the Vedanta Society of NYC is going to be in Raleigh in March, and I’m hopefully going to be there), but there’s less info on Kashmiri Shaivism. There’s the Kauai’s Hindu Monastery also called Himalayan Academy, but I don’t remember if they’re specifically Kashmiri or not, but I do think they’re ultimately nondualist, or qualified nondualists. I’ll look around and find some resources if you’re interested.

  And yeah, Jainism is fascinating! Though so strict. I can’t imagine being brought up in that tradition. I have Catholic Guilt by association, and I’m not even Catholic. Lol. I can’t imagine what the idea of that strict an understanding of Karma would do to my psyche! Lmao

  And I have actually just recently begun reading about Sikhism again! I love their ideas around universality of religions.

  Are you at all familiar with Meister Eckhart? Turns out, there’s a Christian nondualist tradition!

  Sufism is another really interesting entry point into Abrahamic nondualism, too. Though it’s a minority viewpoint even within Sufism, a minority trend in Islam, from what I understand. If you’re interested in that Tawhid is a good keyword for search and Let’s Talk Religion has an excellent video (or several) on Islamic nondualists and mysticism

  I’m gonna stop writing there, because this is already a wall of text. Sorry!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨May not be the right place but here it goes. One of my brothers passes or get extremely tired if he sees porn. Even a sex scene in a movie he has to go lay down. Is there something wrong with him?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Hey, thanks!

  Sort of a hodgepodge. Hinduism (advaita Vedanta, kashmiri Shaivism mainly), some Buddhism as well, and an Episcopalian. Haha. Mostly I’m a nondualist who really, really likes philosophy. I picked the username years ago when I was just beginning to explore eastern philosophy, and it was a pun/play on the term bi curious.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨May not be the right place but here it goes. One of my brothers passes or get extremely tired if he sees porn. Even a sex scene in a movie he has to go lay down. Is there something wrong with him?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I’d be inclined to agree with what folks have said here. But the potential trauma and potential blood pressure issue.

  Only chiming in to say a friend of mine, who has a slew of other medical issues, has passed out from erections and sexual arousal. And once passed out from bottoming, so it’s not some wild strange theory. It does happen.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨May not be the right place but here it goes. One of my brothers passes or get extremely tired if he sees porn. Even a sex scene in a movie he has to go lay down. Is there something wrong with him?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Congenital Baptistism. Terrible fate. There’s hope for a cure with Crispr, though

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anyway to erase the permanent marker so I can reuse this?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Because it’s not destructive at all. It wipes away just like dry erase, except it doesn’t wipe away until you want it to.

  Learned about years ago when I worked a job packing bags for a prison commissary. Would write the inmates name on the plastic packaging in sharpie. If you made a mistake you could erase it. Works a charm.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anyway to erase the permanent marker so I can reuse this?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ll check these out! Never heard of em

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anyway to erase the permanent marker so I can reuse this?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I ignore most notifications on my phone, other than like active shit, like phone calls. Most notifications are turned off, and I’m not in the habit of actually reading notifications. It’s better for my mental health not to rely on them. I use older school methods for most shit.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anyway to erase the permanent marker so I can reuse this?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I have actually used sharpies to write on my phone screen, for like, super important shit that I need to make sure not to figure when I wake up. Often, notifications get ignored or forgotten about

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anyway to erase the permanent marker so I can reuse this?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  This is the answer. Shit works so well I routinely just use sharpies to write on mirrors or windows when I need to. Any surface that’s glass, metal, or in a pinch hard plastic if it’s not going to sit too long. Come in later with dry erase. Fantastic way to leave notes on the mirror. Dry erase won’t hold up to the steam in a shower if it’s something that needs to be there for a bit, like an on going list, daily affirmations or some shit, or reminders.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨S̵̢̡̠̣̜͍̘͍̈́̿͒̈̎̉͌͂̎̾̓Ḩ̶̡̛̯̰̤̻͖̹̝̼͍͔̰̃̅̋̍̈̆̋̋́̔͝Ǫ̴̺͔̫͈͉͎̤͎͗͂̅͒̀͒W̶̛͖̺̰̠̙̲̓͆̋̉̌̆̂͛̀̒̕͘ ̷̨̦̤̇̀̓̉́̅͒̄͝M̶͓̗͚̩̬͈͎͗̓̈́́͜͜Ẹ̵̢̢̺̞͓͓̤͙̙͖̈́̈̉͝ ̶̧̡̲̺͓̮̰̘̮͚͉̝͈̝̀͒́̎̾̓͜͝͝͠T̷̡̟̘̫͋͋̑͊̓͐̊̐̎H̸̪̋͛̓̀̍̂̐̂͐̾̈́̒̃É̵̛̾̅̀͛̃̄̏⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Dammit! I just got this song outta my head

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨S̵̢̡̠̣̜͍̘͍̈́̿͒̈̎̉͌͂̎̾̓Ḩ̶̡̛̯̰̤̻͖̹̝̼͍͔̰̃̅̋̍̈̆̋̋́̔͝Ǫ̴̺͔̫͈͉͎̤͎͗͂̅͒̀͒W̶̛͖̺̰̠̙̲̓͆̋̉̌̆̂͛̀̒̕͘ ̷̨̦̤̇̀̓̉́̅͒̄͝M̶͓̗͚̩̬͈͎͗̓̈́́͜͜Ẹ̵̢̢̺̞͓͓̤͙̙͖̈́̈̉͝ ̶̧̡̲̺͓̮̰̘̮͚͉̝͈̝̀͒́̎̾̓͜͝͝͠T̷̡̟̘̫͋͋̑͊̓͐̊̐̎H̸̪̋͛̓̀̍̂̐̂͐̾̈́̒̃É̵̛̾̅̀͛̃̄̏⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Don’t you wanna know why we keep startin’ fires

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Time travel and the economy⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  If I steal a gold coin from the year 2000, then, with that coin in hand, travel to 1999 and steal the same coin, I now have two copies. I then travel to 1998, 1997, et cetera, et cetera, on down the line, each time I gain an additional copy of the same coin. I then take all these coins with me to the present and spend them. Now just swap out the years for 2 minute intervals and you’ve got an infinite number of coins, or nearly so, anyway.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨May I?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  That sounds amazing

  I used to work at a place where the boss took the whole crew to lunch on Thursdays (about 10 of us), and no one liked lemons, so they’d all tell the waitress not to bring lemons with their water or tea. I would then ask the waitress for all of their lemons, and while those fools were getting full on bread waiting on their food, I would eat lemons like an absolute goblin. It was wonderful.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You'll never see it coming⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s it! And yep, total mindfuck. But also sort of… Profound, I guess

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨JeSUS⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I didn’t either until recently. I knew that historically it hadn’t always been the case, and that it was a quirk of the Catholics, not something based in the early church, but until I found the Episcopal church and started learning more about liturgical Christianity, I had no idea.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨JeSUS⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Not all catholic priests have to be celibate! Eastern rite Catholics (around 1 percent of Catholics) are able to marry and have kids! Also, there’s something called the personal ordinate, where former Anglican priests can be ordained as catholic priests and Anglican parishes/congregations can be joined to the Catholic Church while retaining uniquely Anglican cultural and liturgical elements, and if the priest is already married they can still be ordained, even though they’re ostensibly within the western rite (the one where priests can’t marry), but AFAIK if they’re unmarried when they make the switch they cannot then get married.

  Orthodox priests can also marry (but only before becoming priests. If unmarried when ordained, unmarried you must remain*), and are considered to be in full communion with the Catholics, and while I’ve never looked into it, I’m sure there’s something similar to the personal ordinate for them as well.

  *I like this system better than western rite. Priests can marry (and thus aren’t so pent up and rapey) but once they’re in that position of power over people they can’t. Because in theory at least, it’d be easy for an unmarried priest to take advantage of a parishioners they were sexually interested in, because there is such an inbalance of power between the two, like teacher/student but cranked up to 11. That said, Episcopalian here, and I like our system. Let priests marry, and also let queer folk be priests. I’m convinced the reason for the sexual abuse in the RCC is because of closeted people desperately seeking a way to hide their sexuality, and then becoming so ashamed, guilty, and sexually repressed that they sexually assault someone they think won’t tell. Though, there are problems with that theory such as associating homosexuality with pedophilia, which I’m not trying to do. I’m a gay man myself, I know the harm that stereotype brings. But sexual repression ain’t good, is the point, especially when coupled with the horrible shame and guilt the RCC throws at it

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You'll never see it coming⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s a principle, I can’t remember the name of it, but basically it goes that the universe exists in such a way as to support life, because if it didn’t, there would be no one around to discuss the ways in which the universe might have formed. Which is to say, while it’s all good to contemplate a different set of physical laws in which we could not exist, we cannot use the condition of our existing as proof that the universe must allow us to exist. Any universe in which an observer exists is necessarily a universe in which an observercould exist. We will only ever get to observe that which allows our existence.

  It’s mainly used, to my knowledge, to attempt to dissuade the religious of ideas of a creator deity.

  But I think here it has another application. If false vacuum decay happens, and all of everything just goes poof, that’s not interesting. There will be no observer, no one to mark it, no one to study it. On top of that, no one to even know there was once someone. Who knows, maybe it’s happened hundreds of trillions of times, maybe infinite times, maybe once, maybe never. Either way, we, and anyone else out there, will have no way of knowing, or remembering, or anything else. So it’s not interesting. There’s nothing of value to be learned, because there’s no way to use the knowledge to do anything.

  But contemplating the ways in which it could happen and we could survive? Suddenly a new set of physical laws govern us? Different, but just similar enough that we don’t explode, implode, or just dissipate into component atoms (if atoms still exist!)? That’s interesting! That’s worth contemplation and thought! At the very least it’s worth a damn fine dime store paperback sci Fi novel!

  Let’s do something interesting here! What’s your wish list for a change in our physical laws that still allows our existence? I went utopian, ftl space flight, nothing else changes. But maybe it’s some mad max universe now? Maybe it changes our physical structure enough that we’re all cronenberg monsters limping our way through the universe in tiny, slapped together vessels that we put together as we saw what was approaching on the horizon of the observable universe, and in the new laws planets can’t form? Searching, seeking, viciously lonely abominations, wandering a void unlike anything we’ve ever experienced?

  Maybe the only change is that idiots stop voting and wealth disparity disappears somewhere. Be adventurous! Be the change you hope the decay will bring!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You'll never see it coming⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  But if the laws of physics were to change, who’s to say what’s possible‽ Star trek future is in the works!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You'll never see it coming⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Unless they change into a set of physical laws in which magic is real, and the turtle of enormous girth holds us all together in his mind!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You'll never see it coming⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Does this mean the laws of physics could just… Change?

  Hoping for the scenario that means FTL travel is possible and nothing else changes lol

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My grandmother was 11 when she got married to her first husband. Her folks married her off to a 35 year old man. Not my grandfather. His name was Bost. She never would tell anyone his first name, she never wanted to talk about him. Had one daughter with him and he died. Never officially married my grandfather, but had several kids with him years later, and everyone thought they were married. But she also had several kids from other men, and told everyone they were his, but even the kids she admitted to (she actually sold several of her children to various people, including a few family member. Sold my uncle twice and got him back both times) she gave them all different last names, but said they were all granddaddy’s.

  She was crazy. Wonderful Grandma, mind you. But absolutely should never have had kids, violent woman with severe mental illness that mellowed out in her old age (mostly). So great grandma, but not a good mom. Used to wake the kids up randomly at like 3 in the morning on school nights and do white glove tests on their room, then lock herself in the bathroom with a butcher knife and scream at them through the door that she was going to kill herself because they were so ungrateful. One time she beat my aunt so badly she bled from her vagina for a couple days. When one of the daughters she sold showed up in adulthood, she was a deaf woman.grandma refused to acknowledge she was in the room, and then mocked her for making “those noises.”

  I firmly blame all of that on her essentially being sold as a sex slave at 11 years old. Me and my mom also have a theory that Bost never really existed, and that it was her father who got her pregnant, but that’s entirely unsubstantiated. Just a theory. She had somewhere around 13 kids, but only admitted to 6 or 7, depending on the day.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Awkward⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I never feel awkward buying condoms. At the worst, it’s a boast that imma get laid. At best it’s normalizing safe sex for younger cashiers who may still be in that bareback or bust phase.

  Now, enemas and lube? That’s awkward, that’s announcing to the world I’m a bottom. Lol

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why would Dumbledolf do this⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I feel like this is to the start to a super, super spicy harry/Dumbledore fic on AO3