captainlezbian
@captainlezbian@lemmy.world
- Comment on NO BITCHES? 12 hours ago:
What I did to your mom
- Comment on NO BITCHES? 12 hours ago:
Ya ain’t wrong
- Comment on Anon awakens something 17 hours ago:
Yeah I think you just keep dating freeloaders, unless they’re like being dominant about being broke.
- Comment on Anon awakens something 17 hours ago:
In some ways yes, in other ways you’re way off.
D/s reflects general power dynamics. Straight couples with dominant men often use the existing gender relations for it. And dominant straight women often invert it. But plenty of other power dynamics are used here, such as elder/younger, noble/servant, boss/employee, military, teacher/student, owner/pet, etc. Hell a lot of power exchange organizations are still moving away from master/slave terminology.
And sadomasochism seems deeper in the human psyche than Christianity. Yeah Christianity really encourages it, but it seems to be more like runners high and the appreciation of horror movies than just some reflection of Christianity.
Both D/s and sm are very broad categories whereas findom and race play are both categories of D/s
- Comment on Anon awakens something 17 hours ago:
Also, D/s is commonly engaged in in gay relationships. It reflects power dynamics
- Comment on Anon awakens something 1 day ago:
It’s also popular with racists which is part of why kink communities are often so against it
- Comment on Schools being too soft lately 2 days ago:
I already knew I was the reason my parents refused to divorce despite hating each other
- Comment on Data centers get tax breaks. Not you though. 3 days ago:
Yeah I fled ohio last year and it’s infamously gerrymandered. The state legislature dgaf what anyone thinks about issues
- Comment on How tf do people who work 8-5 M-F get any life done? 3 days ago:
PTO or asking for hour flexibility. Taking off an hour or two early/coming in late because of a dr appointment for example.
- Comment on Well damn. Glad he's dead. 4 days ago:
And it’s fair, it’s ok to like cringy novels so long as they aren’t Ayn Rand. /hj But yeah, I totally get how an edgy atheist novel would appeal ro people in the 00s. Adams was really good, especially early on, at making people feel like they were one of the only smart people in a world of idiots. It’s just that when you embrace that feeling too hard you open yourself up to becoming a nutjob crank who believes everything they think, which is what he did.
- Comment on stroke confirmed 4 days ago:
True. I’d propose WEB DuBois, but he’d probably be insulted. Nat Turner would be the most based option, you could include a line like “the struggle for freedom is the birthright of all mankind” next to his face. Though that would work with Tubman as well. Tubman is the obvious choice of course and I do hope she wins, but it’s good to also think of others who deserve to be considered.
Actually the perfect never going to happen would be Lucy Parsons
- Comment on stroke confirmed 4 days ago:
FDR would be a great choice for it, Teddy Roosevelt would be a generally agreeable one though.
- Comment on Well damn. Glad he's dead. 4 days ago:
The non dilbert books spoke to me as an edgy teen who was smarter than most people and dumber than she thought. As an adult though I look back and think about the sheer lack of wisdom and introspection it must take to write such things as a grown adult. He died as he lived, as wise as a 16 year old and angry that everyone else didn’t see the light of his brilliance that he so vividly hallucinated. And I think that is how he fell down the right wing rabbit hole, he lacked the self awareness to see through his biases and was deeply drawn to a certain type of men who are overconfident assholes.
But yeah I liked dilbert as a kid too
- Comment on Wait bro, what if?????? 4 days ago:
Absolutely! A lot of trans and intersex people negatively react to the concept, because these oversimplifications are pretty heavily used against us, but we also have a tendency to forget the average sincere understanding of the topic, and sometimes this can come off as making a bold and controversial statement, not including nuance, and walking away. Very similar to someone saying “the earth isn’t a sphere” and not following it up with how it’s an oblate spheroid, or saying dinosaurs still are still alive and not bothering to clarify that those dinosaurs are all birds.
And yeah, if it wasn’t obvious I think it’s valuable to talk about this sort of thing in a non-judgemental and accessible manner, in part because it can help reduce the sense of shame and awkwardness associated with the natural variety of this intimate aspect of our biology.
- Comment on Weird 5 days ago:
I feel a normal number of years old same as I always have. 23 was once too old, then it was normal, but these days I understand it’s quite young.
- Comment on [deleted] 5 days ago:
Thrift shopping!
- Comment on [deleted] 5 days ago:
Nah that’s when you get off on 5 tons of iron ore that you only symbolically own
- Comment on [deleted] 5 days ago:
Well then do i have an opportunity to preach the good word of syndicalism to you.
- Comment on Wait bro, what if?????? 5 days ago:
It exists, but like, in the same way species exists. The variety and frequency of intersex conditions indicates that it’s two clusters of traits that most species that show this characteristic fall into one or the other of and certain components are remarkably mutable.
That understanding is just fundamentally different from the traditional understanding of two entirely distinct bins that anyone who doesn’t fall into one or the other is a strong outlier and the only alterations are castration or divine intervention (at least in euro-christian tradition).
The two bin model is going to work ok on most humans, it’s not like it’s an obviously wrong one. But as society and science have advanced we’ve found more intersex people that either didn’t know (my cousin would have just been understood as barren, and nobody would’ve noticed my ex’s mom having XY sex chromosomes) or didn’t understand that it wasn’t just some weird quirk that you either hide in shame or just don’t feel is worth mentioning. And anywhere you try to draw a firm line or any trait you try to point to try to ignore the gray is going to leave you with an awkward grouping in some way
- Comment on It's not that bad quit whining 6 days ago:
All it’s missing is replacing “I don’t recall that conversation” with “you never said that”
- Comment on Email came out of nowhere 6 days ago:
Yeah that’s tasteless, but the sort of think you can look past, especially 8 years later, but it definitely doesn’t look good in combination with this.
- Comment on Email came out of nowhere 1 week ago:
Wait, they have a history of bigoted jokes?
- Comment on Email came out of nowhere 1 week ago:
True, but unfortunately it’s the case
- Comment on I'm just better 1 week ago:
They claim it includes New Mexico, but I don’t see why we’d have a new Mexico when the old one is still perfectly good. Sounds fake to me
- Comment on There was an attempt... 1 week ago:
Croatia is just out there accepting blame nobody else is giving them
- Comment on Guerrilla plantfare 1 week ago:
Just plant some American chestnut. Ignore why such a wide ranged tree is endangered
- Comment on Alpha AF 1 week ago:
Matches my personal experience
- Comment on Alpha AF 1 week ago:
Also, idk, I think that what an ape thinks looks good has little bearing on what avians find attractive. For all we know male ducks think that bright plumage is unattractive.
Like for real, would parrots looking at us understand what we see in permanent large breasts? Or would they look at our other comically oversized sex characteristic (large, exposed penises without a baculum) as the primary showy mating display. Or would they see us as a species where sexual selection has resulted in both parties having a display to show off? Would they think that from their perspective it’s obvious which looks better?
- Comment on Alpha AF 1 week ago:
I mean it’s not like any of these men have ever listened to women, much less read any feminist theory with an open mind. And gods forbid they notice that unshaved women who don’t wear makeup can be gorgeous.
- Comment on Alpha AF 1 week ago:
As a lesbian I’ve definitely seen plenty of gay interactions that are so gendered that I feel most people of the other gender wouldn’t be comfortable participating, especially conservative straight people. It’s really funny to me how this stereotype of gay people as less gender conforming (while it absolutely carries a lot of truth to it) results in people not even considering that sometimes gay sex is just two really masculine men going at it in a manly way or two women being extremely feminine together.