captainlezbian
@captainlezbian@lemmy.world
- Comment on Why? 7 hours ago:
Yeah absolutely, look at fujoshis and what they’re into
- Comment on Scientists reveal what drives homosexual behavior in primates 9 hours ago:
It’s more than a bit homophobic. And yeah as a lesbian I’ve been sick and tired of hearing it for years
- Comment on Why? 10 hours ago:
Me too, but I really don’t want dudes to show up in my gay porn
- Comment on Being Trans Isn't Normal or Part of Nature...or is it...? 13 hours ago:
Ah, yeah we can’t really know. Sequential hermaphrodism in chordates however is sometimes used to argue that biological sex isn’t as stable of a construct as some prefer to act like it is, in a similar way to how intersex people are used to express how it isn’t as binary of a concept as culture would have you believe.
- Comment on Being Trans Isn't Normal or Part of Nature...or is it...? 13 hours ago:
That’s generally true, except for the overwhelming violence sometimes. Also there’s the thing with fascists converting to catholicism in America.
In a different form of Catholics having no fucking chill, is the aesthetics and relationship to suffering. Catholicism has a religious fetishization of suffering, which can produce really cool art from The Locked Tomb books (some of the major plot points include specifically catholic dogma) to the gilded human remains, as well as producing some weirder stuff like the play Sancta Susana, religious autoflagelation, and just so very many billable hours for therapists relating to guilt.
- Comment on Being Trans Isn't Normal or Part of Nature...or is it...? 13 hours ago:
It’s perfectly cis for a male seahorse to give birth. That said, a quick search told me they also change sexes over the course of their life so…
- Comment on Being Trans Isn't Normal or Part of Nature...or is it...? 13 hours ago:
Cobain rocked lol
- Comment on Being Trans Isn't Normal or Part of Nature...or is it...? 13 hours ago:
Chill? They’re the more rigorous side for certain but chill feels like an exaggeration. That said, I’m ex catholic and have complicated feelings about them.
- Comment on Being Trans Isn't Normal or Part of Nature...or is it...? 13 hours ago:
Oh hey, I was going to be pedantic but apparently seahorses are also sequential hermaphrodites
- Comment on Anon tells a true story 14 hours ago:
Fortunately for them I’m pretty sure he’s just fertility as in fucking, not fertility as in reproducing. They just have to keep an eye out to stop Hera, Aphrodite, or Demeter from catching on to fhdm
- Comment on who's gonna tell him? 16 hours ago:
I think he’s more like Notch and Rowling, they had a fuck ton of money, the ability to never be told no, some pre existing regressive ideas, and got addicted to the internet as it became a hellscape. These people were each just as isolated as the friendless 4channer in their mom’s basement, just in a different way, and they were just as in need of therapy.
What we know from Vivian Wilson and her mom is that both paint a believable picture of Musk pre extreme wealth. A tenacious man who always wanted more and was wracked by insecurity. He insisted on sex selective ivf to ensure he only had sons and he punished his daughter when she failed to be sufficiently masculine. He relentlessly pursued and wooed his first wife, but dumped her basically immediately upon striking it rich. When combined with his childhood abuse, current behavior, and emotional neediness in everything he does, I’m comfortable using a framework of NPD to understand him (yeah it’s an armchair diagnosis so take it as a proposed model, not a diagnosis). Within that framework the worst thing for his mental health was to become rich, famous, and terminally online. His inability to take criticism and his response to lash out at it publicly and permanently is one of his big reasons for his rightward shift as it came while he was being criticized by the left for his treatment of workers.
- Comment on Anon tells a true story 20 hours ago:
That tracks. I struggle to maintain boundaries and have a history of BPD folks being into me. It never goes well, and I can’t imagine a psych ward would go any differently
- Comment on Anon tells a true story 20 hours ago:
The court has sentenced you to a month long bender. May Bacchus have mercy on your liver.
- Comment on Möth 1 day ago:
There are flying squirrels in north America?
- Comment on You shall not cut! 1 day ago:
Squares and rectangles are acceptable on thin crust pizzas in styles meant for party type sharing
- Comment on Such a dreamy guy 1 day ago:
Joaxaca
- Comment on she just doesn't understand me 1 day ago:
Yeah also, they don’t understand that I’m fucking hard of hearing. Yes my audio is loud, that way I can hear it
- Comment on Tender chicken 1 day ago:
My casseroles are to contemplate visiting the Midwest for.
- Comment on I have seen a lot of movies where the Catholic School Nuns smack a students hand for being disruptive or something is this a trope or a real something? Like most notable in Blues Brothers 2 days ago:
Very high given you were spanked by short women as a kid
- Comment on I have seen a lot of movies where the Catholic School Nuns smack a students hand for being disruptive or something is this a trope or a real something? Like most notable in Blues Brothers 2 days ago:
Oh yeah, a lot of old Catholics are terrified of nuns for that reason. It was always fun to shock them by saying how my school’s nun was nice. The nuns especially targeted the sin of left handedness
- Comment on Nintendo Switch 2 sales stumble over Christmas 2 days ago:
I think both are huge factors. If I had the money, I probably wouldn’t pick it up, but if I had the money to blow and there were a bunch of games yeah I might. I picked up the switch 1 and botw after a Saturday of overtime, and it was a great decision since a year later there was a pandemic, but the splurge money ain’t coming and there’s no games I’d drop several hundred dollars to play
- Comment on Nintendo Switch 2 sales stumble over Christmas 2 days ago:
Oh jeez, I’d heard it would probably take until around EOL
- Comment on Definitely the safest source for advice 2 days ago:
Remember kids, your drug buddy needs to have experience with the substance, basic first aid skills, the ability to call an emergency line, the ability to administer antidotes if they’re easy and readily available (that’s really just for opiates at the moment, but it is vital for them), and most importantly be human. Anything else is just someone you do drugs with. The drug buddy is a friend and a good time amplifier sure, but they’re also a safety figure.
- Comment on Can we go back to 2019? 3 days ago:
I remember lots of fun and good, because I was young and graduating college and meeting my wife. But also here in the US the economy was doing increasingly worse, there were street fights with fascists, and the future was scary. Covid was a turning point, but it was like a bad storm in a house in disrepair
- Comment on How do I feel comfortable/safe going outside by myself after being so used to have parent(s) be with me outside most of my life? 3 days ago:
For your last bit, yeah we do. Old friends catch up from time to time, you meet people through shared interests and going out to find people with them, or you go to a bar and chat with strangers over drinks because it feels good to do that. At least I do all three as an extrovert in her 30s. I had to learn to do all of these things when I was younger. I spent months alone not talking to people early in college and it was psychosocially awful. Internet forums weren’t an acceptable substitute.
- Comment on How do I feel comfortable/safe going outside by myself after being so used to have parent(s) be with me outside most of my life? 3 days ago:
I have, and yes this is the answer. Meds are great, they’re why I don’t have panic attacks anymore, but exposure therapy is the gold standard for irrational fears (as in not dangerous) for a reason. CBT is also awesome, and it’s what helped me the most. But the biggest thing I had to learn was that it’s ok to be scared, but I still had to do what I needed to do.
- Comment on How do I feel comfortable/safe going outside by myself after being so used to have parent(s) be with me outside most of my life? 3 days ago:
That awkwardness is the discomfort you should be aiming to feel. It’s just like how when you’re losing weight you should try to be spending a lot of your time kinda hungry or how when you’re building muscle you should be aiming to be sore the morning after a workout. Awkwardness is like that for socializing. Low levels of fear are also totally fine.
If you’re looking to meet people your age and learn to interact with them look up meet ups for things you’re interested in, like board game groups, art in the park, etc. If you can’t think of anything go for improv. Improv is basically a targeted exercise in learning to feel comfortable in an awkward situation, though it’s definitely jumping into the deep end to learn to swim.
- Comment on How do I feel comfortable/safe going outside by myself after being so used to have parent(s) be with me outside most of my life? 3 days ago:
Go for walks around your area and slowly expand as you increase in comfort. I did something similar as a trans woman in the American Midwest. I’m still not super comfortable walking around places I don’t know alone, but that’s normal and healthy. You want to be developing a counter to the sense of fear in a love of exploration and an excitement at doing something new
- Comment on Think about it 3 days ago:
From the sounds of it he was a foot guy
- Comment on Two former Polygon editors say they are launching Mothership, a new game publication, on January 26, to analyze games through the lens of gender and identity 5 days ago:
There’s this weird thing where the censorship of sexual content comes from the right and the gamers who are mad that they don’t get enough sexual content are on the right and blaming the left. Meanwhile the left generally comes to the position that sexual content is totally fine, but should ideally be humanizing rather than objectifying and should include diversity as well as less sexual options being available.
Like, both sides have a prude faction and a slut faction, but on the left our prudes generally have little say over policy demands so long as our sluts display some self control and act respectfully. The right does the inverse and lets its sluts be as boorish of pigs as they want, but the prudes decide what the rules are. As a slut, the left is a far better deal