captainlezbian
@captainlezbian@lemmy.world
- Comment on 10 hours ago:
It already killed my mom idk how much more I can hate it
- Comment on Where is heart?! 2 days ago:
What would be wood?
- Comment on Anon moves to the UK 2 days ago:
Yeah when it’s a question of mentally being able to do things or physically (especially when you don’t yet feel the immediate need to do physical things), it can be easy to prioritize the mental.
- Comment on Anon moves to the UK 2 days ago:
It sounds real to me. I’ve known similar folks. Traumatized people can get really unpleasant and desperate.
- Comment on Why do some Americans "feel ashamed" for being American even when it's not their fault? 3 days ago:
Ain’t that the truth. We were supposed to be better than this and we were supposed to be improving
- Comment on Why do some Americans "feel ashamed" for being American even when it's not their fault? 3 days ago:
Because I look at my country and what it’s done and feel insufficient for my failure to keep it from doing stupid and evil things.
Also the European and Canadian frustration with America and Americans is understandable, but it has an impact especially when you still think highly of those places and their people.
- Comment on Why are non-binary and asexual flags Wario and Waluigi colored, respectively? 5 days ago:
Why wouldn’t they be?
- Comment on I can't eat it all! Don't be shy! 5 days ago:
Give fresh a try. Canned green beans tend towards mushy where fresh have some crispness. A lot of people who like it swear by some trick, and I really think that upgrading the beans is the best strategy, upgrading the soup is risky with good payoff if you do it well, and upgrading the onions is something that I always see people suggest whenever fried onions appear and it’s a crazy increase in effort for at absolute best, very little improvement.
But what do I know I’m the cheese and potato casserole/mac and cheese relative.
- Comment on Feeding my family alone is expensive. I can't afford to feed all of y'all. 5 days ago:
I think it depends on size and relationship. Nobody brought anything to my grandparents (either side) until I started to. But it was always 10-11 people. Except when their same age siblings came, they’d bring something (much younger great aunt was never considerate of oma and opa). At my in laws’ we cook a dish. If we lived in town I’d probably bring a casserole, but even before we moved far away we still were hours away and you don’t want to leave a casserole for hours.
Friends though, always bring a dish except for the ones friend who has made it crystal clear that she doesn’t want people doing so because she’s insane and shows her love through elaborate meal planning. For her we just try to keep her liquor and wine cabinet overstocked and demand she let us help her with anything she wants.
- Comment on Feeding my family alone is expensive. I can't afford to feed all of y'all. 6 days ago:
As the potato casserole aunt, you bet your ass it slaps. It had to unseat homemade painstaking mac and cheese to be my Thanksgiving dish
- Comment on No Black Friday deal for loyal/previous customers 6 days ago:
It’s only a smart move if you assume nobody will ever call your bluff. Meanwhile my VPN sees I haven’t renewed yet and it’s about to end and they offer me a deal so good I just do a quick check they’re still good enough then accept it. I’m not loyal loyal, but I’ve been a subscriber since the pandemic and I will be for another 2 years at least.
For comparison, I prioritize internet as local carriers > spectrumcast > seriously consider larping as amish > AT&T. AT&T will just offer new customers limited wifi data at low speeds for more money than spectrum and get shocked you won’t switch. Meanwhile spectrum makes me and my wife have to swap who’s name the account is for every year or two to keep the good deal, except when they just sign a deal with the landlord for a mandatory fixed price as a part of my building/complex’s rent. Local carriers offer reasonable prices where I don’t feel the need to keep chasing introductory deals.
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Idk what it means in the UK, but over in America it would mean your guardian angel is kinda hood.
- Comment on D.C. Shooting Suspect ‘Could Not Tolerate’ the Violence of His C.I.A.-Backed Unit in Afghanistan, a Childhood Friend Said 6 days ago:
Oh yay looks like it’s about to become politically infeasable to ever bring back our allies when their country falls again. That definitely won’t backfire on us
- Comment on Assuming humanity last another few hundred years; How many human languages do you think are gonna be left in 100 years? In 200 years? 6 days ago:
More. Francafrique will likely continue linguistically diverging from French. South Africa, Malaysia, and Scotland are diverging from English/American English. Spanish continues separating into parts.
So yeah maybe they won’t have separated enough to be separate languages yet that soon, but the European imperial languages don’t have the empires that kept them together
- Comment on I can't eat it all! Don't be shy! 6 days ago:
I think it really depends on preparation. It’s one of those dishes that varies wildly in how good it is based on a few simple things. Canned green beans? The casserole can’t be saved, green beans are one of the worst foods to buy canned that a lot of people still do. Frozen green beans? You can make it good, but you’ve gotta do some doing. Fresh green beans? Even a mid recipe will be pretty dang good, but then you get it good and crispy and maybe you upgrade to a homemade cream of mushroom, and yeah it can steal the show. But people use canned green beans because nobody really likes it and it’s just there to be a traditional vegetable option and so they don’t know how little effort it needs to be drastically better.
- Comment on Stretch marks 1 week ago:
And not the women who actually date women, we’re with y’all on it
- Comment on How do people with epilepsy triggered by flashing lights, drive past trees that are backlit by the sun? 1 week ago:
Yeah I see pro car people use disabled people as a rhetorical position somewhat regularly, but there are a fair number of disabilities that make it so you can’t or shouldn’t drive. It’s one thing if that means “too bad you have to move to a medium sized city and use a reasonably good public transit network” but in North America, that’s not what it means. It means you move to one of the most expensive cities in your country (Ciudad Mexico, Vancouver, New York, Washington DC, Toronto, Seattle, anywhere in the metropolitan US northeast) or you move to a medium sized city (not its suburbs) and catch the hourly bus when it’s operating. The alternative, which i know people who do, is to bum a ride everywhere if you’re able, drive anyways if you’re able, or basically be housebound.
Like, it really is remarkable the difference in experience between people who don’t have a car but have a metro/light rail and the people who have neither. These are policy decisions and they can be changed.
- Comment on How do people with epilepsy triggered by flashing lights, drive past trees that are backlit by the sun? 1 week ago:
Yeah in the US epileptics have similar restrictions. And much like up there, this makes them second class citizens in most places. I don’t want them driving, buy I won’t pretend that that isn’t a major disability in most of our continent (majority by population, not even just area).
It’s easy to say driving is a privilege when we think of the consequences of people like epileptics and alcoholics driving, but we do need to remember that it is structural and policy decisions that make it so that those who lack the privilege of operating this heavy machinery will struggle to maintain employment.
- Comment on 1 week ago:
Different people find different physical activities beneficial. Some people love team sports, personally I’m not a fan of competitive activities or of games where I feel my physical abilities could let others down. Some people love running, many find that while they don’t love it, they love the physical and mental effects of it; both of which are hard to deny, there’s a reason every competitive sports team makes its players run as part of practice.
Personally I’m a cyclist, because it’s like running, but without the parts that make me not want to run and with added benefits like equipment to mess with and upgrade and the ability to use it to run errands. I also enjoy hiking for exercise because it’s just a long exhausting walk in a beautiful place that I can spend chatting with my wife.
For some people it’s basketball or soccer/football. I have a friend who’s really into gridiron flag football (she actually used to be a runner when she was younger). Sports are great for people who don’t derive meditative effects from solo cardio, but don’t discount those effects.
Some bike rides are me just listening to a podcast or audiobook, but personally I struggle to process my emotions if I’m not taking a walk or a bike ride, and so regularly doing these things is invaluable for my mental health. Runners are often the same way, the act of running can make it difficult to hold on to a thought or to avoid it, which makes it a shortcut to meditation as you just kinda have to observe your thoughts and let them go.
- Comment on 1 week ago:
As someone who quit running not long after getting to the point I get runners high, you have a point, but also different people can thrive on different forms of cardio. When I ran i found myself rapidly overheating and just generally miserable until I was stoned on feel good chemicals. Bicycling on the other hand was fun enough from the start that I wasn’t struggling to force myself to do it.
When I bought my bike I was struggling to get myself out running every other day. Things like stopping for water made me feel like I was failing. By switching to a different form of cardio, one that I enjoyed, I was able to get into shape without the constant urge to give up. It also came with my knees not hurting.
- Comment on 1 week ago:
If I see a scary dude trying to exercise his feelings away I just feel sympathy. Like, I’ve known too many men afraid to cry, and seeing someone exercising and trying to hold back tears feels like he’s probably healthier than many of the guys who struggle with that.
Hell as a woman I bike the pain away too.
- Comment on 1 week ago:
I had to stop running like that because my body is much better for looking at than doing things with. But I switched to biking that way and yeah. 4 hours on a bicycle after work every night can almost approximate a monthly therapy session.
- Comment on Hashtag spiritual hashtag truth 1 week ago:
The FAA obviously
- Comment on Anti-masturbation DLC 1 week ago:
True, but that more or less applies to all religions. The problem is that it’s never just the wisdom of the beatitudes or the Tao Te Ching. At a certain point they start asking you to believe this guy rose from the dead, and a lot of us just don’t buy it
- Comment on Anti-masturbation DLC 1 week ago:
Yeah a lot of them are pretty open about going to Christianity because they’re directionless. It offers purpose, direction, and community. That all is something the left has struggled to provide to these people (but it absolutely can). So yeah, talk to the directionless young men in your life about food not bombs and union organizing or the right will.
- Comment on dating profile 1 week ago:
I wonder if anyone with a lactation kink has made cheese out of it…
- Comment on So next time you see a rat remember they paid for sex in their previous life. 1 week ago:
“Babe I can’t make it sexy tonight, that’s how we get a kathoey for a kid”
- Comment on I work long hour and make little money 1 week ago:
That’s part of why russia is like this actually. Propaganda both pro and anti soviet wasn’t telling the whole truth and shit got weird
- Comment on I work long hour and make little money 1 week ago:
You can tell it isn’t real because everyone in Youngstown in a mafioso
- Comment on "I love the round things!" - The Doctor 1 week ago:
Every Midwesterner in the pnw laments the sky not trying to kill us here. It’s lovely and I love it here, but the storms that feel like the end of the world are beautiful and wonderful