RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on I'm pretty sure all of us have given up on any boomer giving us anything anyway 27 minutes ago:
Yeah but how did they get it, and who will get it when they die? It’s like a feedback loop.
- Comment on I'm pretty sure all of us have given up on any boomer giving us anything anyway 1 hour ago:
My mom just wanted to make enough to spend it over her lifetime, and that seems fair to me. She got nothing from her parents and had to support her own mom in her old age, and didn’t want to cost us anything.
I would argue that inheritance is a huge driver of inequality. I have gotten small amounts from the estate of my dad’s parents (my dad died when I was 16) and a childless relative and even those amounts jumped us ahead some, I can imagine what some huge amount unearned would do - but it’s just that. Unearned.
- Comment on How would you describe a power-lifter-type physique specifically? 15 hours ago:
Fit and padded. I think if you call it a powerlifter build that’s a good description in itself.
- Comment on "You can't have our trash because we don't have a way to charge you for it" 2 days ago:
I found corn broth really improves the vegan dough. You can use cobs to make it, and save the corn for something else. Corn cobs & an onion.
- Comment on "You can't have our trash because we don't have a way to charge you for it" 3 days ago:
Me too! So flavorful. I don’t do bone broth exactly, can’t get them that clean. But there are some in my freezer right now waiting.
- Comment on "You can't have our trash because we don't have a way to charge you for it" 3 days ago:
My kids have asked for tamales every year since I made them for Christmas about ten years ago, but I am not yet rested up from that batch. Even though we had a tamalada and they helped wrap them, the days ahead making tamale dough (two versions because we have vegans) and fillings (several versions because, again, vegans) it was exhausting. I think it will be either gumbo or oxtail soup this year, and a big pot of beans.
- Comment on "You can't have our trash because we don't have a way to charge you for it" 3 days ago:
Not an answer for you right now, but I just make lard whenever we get a big hunk of pork, I get the one with a bone and skin cut the skin & fat off and render it and it’s quite a project but makes enough for my purposes though the year, I don’t use it often. I wouldn’t expect a shop to do that for me for any amount I’d be willing to pay!
- Comment on how do I become the dullest, most boring coworker so this needy man leaves me alone? 3 days ago:
“Not now, I am busy”
"Great! I need to work now, see you around!’
You don’t need to be boring - I am telling you, working woman to working woman, that is an ineffective strategy with determined guys. You need to convince him you do not have time for him in your full and interesting life.
- Comment on Anyone notice how Brian Thompson dies and suddenly aliens start attacking? 4 days ago:
The filter to over-smooth everything and the ridiculously aging roller set hairstyle are making her look like a well maintained 60 year old.
Put the same person in different clothes and a more relaxed hairstyle and she would look completely different. I bet she was elected young and tried to look more mature.
It doesn’t look like anyone cooks in that kitchen either.
- Comment on It's 54 degrees Fahrenheit (12 Celsius), raining moderately hard, the rain is cold, and there's a guy blowing around wet leaves with a leaf blower. What the hell is the obsession with leaf blowers? 5 days ago:
Yeah we saw one of our neighbors watering the storm drain. But also recently she drove from her driveway to ours - literally got in her car, backed out the driveway then immediate turn into ours, to come ask a question. Then got back in her car, backed out of our driveway and immediate turn into hers. So I think she is just crazy.
- Comment on The torque better not be too strong with this one 1 week ago:
If it ain’t broke…
- Comment on how badly could a pelican fuck me up in a fight? 1 week ago:
Real answer?
Don’t fight the pelican. The law is on their side, for one thing.
No I don’t think you could hold it away from you without hurting it or you. No I don’t think it has any intention of harming you, unless you are a fish. Walk on by, it will either just sit there or fly away.
- Comment on What do people (as in, IRL) actually think of the [alleged] perpetrator involved in the NYC shooting? 1 week ago:
Oof, I was not going to share my thoughts on this but: my first thought when I saw the smiling footage was that it had to be a cute psychopath, I don’t think most people could smile while they planned to kill anyone, and I was glad that if he was a weapon at least he was aimed correctly. I wouldn’t say my impression has changed.
My gay coworker said, and I quote “ooh, hello handsome!”
Nobody I’ve talked to has been able to dredge up any sympathy for the victim, like literally nobody of any class or inclination. All feel he killed for profit, live by the sword, die by the sword. That is separate from any feelings about the killer or vigilante justice in general.
- Comment on When leftists say "landlord are parasites" or similar dislike of landlords, do they also mean the people that own like a couple of houses as an investment, or only the big landlords? 1 week ago:
I agree with this. We have rented houses when we didn’t want to buy a house. Even though technically we probably could have bought one, it’s a pain in the ass to purchase and expensive to maintain and even now I’m not quite convinced it’s worth it. Housing is important but not everyone wants to be a property owner.
It’s more like the whole system is fucked, housing is too expensive and part of that is because of rental profit but it’s not the whole problem. We paid less per year to rent than we do to own, for similar properties. Even though the landlords made money.
- Comment on I don't have a purpose in life and feel like a robot. This cannot be good for my mental health, but I don't know how or what to change. How do I change? 1 week ago:
First:
No, you don’t need a purpose, and your lifestyle sounds ok, if you were enjoying it (I think plenty of people would) but a couple of things stick out to me. One, you are avoiding romantic attachment - if any women are attracted to you, you are not unattractive or too awkward or whatever - you are really not attracted to any women who find you attractive? Or your brain rejects them because you subconsciously think you cannot possibly be attractive so there has to be something wrong with them?
Two, you do honestly sound depressed. It doesn’t have to mean so catatonic you can’t make it to work, it can mean going through the motions of life without feeling anything.
- Comment on Why don’t more people start profit-sharing companies or co-ops? 1 week ago:
This is what I’d want to do (the bar not the commune) if I won the lottery.
So yes I agree with the top post here, it’s lack of access to capital that limits this. Farm cooperatives happen because people own farms. It’s very difficult to grow these from the bottom. You would have to buy your share, with money or work.
We need more co-op businesses and also more entrepreneurship from the bottom and small business grants can help with that. You can’t only yank wealth from the top, they got it from us, we can make more and keep it in our communities.
- Comment on Sounds like grapes or some shit 2 weeks ago:
Or their dying screams, I don’t know, but the sound is the way I know it’s time to bottle it.
- Comment on Sounds like grapes or some shit 2 weeks ago:
I make home-fermented ginger beer and no shit, Lemmy Shitposters, I can tell when it’s done by listening to it, it hisses. My husband laughs at me because I will lean down with my ear to the pitcher, but it’s the easiest way to tell.
- Comment on Anon has the spirit 2 weeks ago:
I saw them before they exploded into fame, and absolutely couldn’t imagine that music becoming popular. There were like 30 people at the show, they were touring in a little van, all the way to Florida! My little brother’s friend had given me a tape with a bunch of grunge bands on it, Tad and Mudhoney and Nirvana among them so when they came to play here I went.
Was absolutely dumbfounded when they started getting radio play, it was so different from everything else being played on the radio.
I think I’m probably older than most of you - it’s hard to overstate how weird and countercultural this music sounded before it became the norm.
- Comment on When you die, what do you want to be done with you? 2 weeks ago:
If I can have anything, I want to explode into a bunch of butterflies.
If only real options are available, I am hoping composting is legal by then. Just be turned back into dirt and plants.
- Comment on Meal prep 2 weeks ago:
We have an electric kettle, husband uses it for instant coffee; before we got together he used the microwave to boil water. The kids use it for tea. I use it for hot water for Moka pot, boiling water for grits, whatever needs hot water.
Electric kettle, microwave, and coffee grinder are the only appliances that live on the kitchen counter, all the other things are in the pantry.
- Comment on if you're the kind of person not to burn bridges when leaving a toxic job or toxic coworkers, why? 3 weeks ago:
I have a friend who was my boss. He was, by all accounts, a mess of a micromanaging, push you until you drop kind of boss. He did personally more than any of us too, first in, last out, worked from home too. I personally just told him no, and did what I could reasonably accomplish, and didn’t worry about his pushing. Always got good reviews, never got promoted but he did get me a big raise one year.
People still talk about him at work, but I still talk to him. He is an interesting person and a good friend just not a good boss - any boss should know most employees don’t push back even if you tell them “tell me if it’s too much”
OTOH, the witch of an HR lady, and the A/P manager who chewed his way through 3 entire staffs, they can burn in whatever hells they landed in.
- Comment on Why does it seem most people, mainly conservatives, against Trans people? Unless I am wrong I never heard of one shooting up a school church or whatever. The ones I have met have been pretty cool. 4 weeks ago:
They are just propagandized. In general, it’s so much like racists - they may know trans people and just think they are the exceptions, like them as individuals and still think they hate them as a group. They are intentionally riled up by being forced fed edge cases and disinformation.
Trans people are just people. They aren’t angels who are never criminals and they aren’t degenerates who are always criminal, they are a diverse group like all of us are. But you can bet your ass that whenever a trans person does something criminal it will be blown up so big in conservative media and used to paint them all as criminals. It’s just the right wing media machine.
- Comment on This world is cruel… 4 weeks ago:
My kids love these meals and I’m not sure why. I usually say “watch me pull a rabbit out of this hat!” and throw something together. Unless it’s a stir fry, they don’t like that. But a leftover baked potato becoming home fries with eggs and the half a tomato and half an onion from the fridge? The leftover cabbage going into the last handful of lentils for a stew? Casserole of leftover pasta, odds and ends with cheese, topped with bread crumbs? They are so happy with these oddball meals for some reason, and I think if you can make something with whatever you have, that IS a valuable cooking skill.
- Comment on This world is cruel… 4 weeks ago:
The second part of that comment sounds like you are a culinary enthusiast not a survivalist. Like, I grow stuff in the garden to get better, fresher foods and varieties I don’t see in the store, and also for the local bees Saving money is secondary(tertiary?), though I think at this point the lines may have crossed and we are saving some money. I do it because I like good food.
If I lived where there was more to forage, you can bet your ass I would be foraging too. Wild food is awesome.
- Comment on This world is cruel… 4 weeks ago:
I do have a cocktails hobby, but would file it under “cooking”. Not being drunk as a hobby but creating something delicious is so satisfying. I don’t enjoy being drunk but do like a drink, make one 1 to 3 times a week for me and always something great for parties/entertaining.
I almost think it insulates against alcoholism the same way caring about good and delicious food insulates against overweight - I don’t really ever drink just to drink, or eat mindlessly. I make intentional meals, intentional drinks, and enjoy them.
- Comment on This world is cruel… 4 weeks ago:
I think it’s collecting vs reading. I’m a lady and read comics, well graphic novels, I don’t buy the individual issues. Half my bookshelf is graphic trade paperbacks. But I do not collect, trade, sell, I don’t think of them like that, they are for reading and enjoying.
Collecting I can see as an unattractive trait because it’s too close to hoarding.
- Comment on Why do the majority of women still take their partner's last name? 4 weeks ago:
I mean, my last name isn’t my mom’s last name, it’s my dad’s, and her last name is her dad’s. So why do I care, I don’t get a matrilineal name anyway.
I hyphenated, because we both had kids when we got married, and it made it easier to deal with the school stuff for my stepkids.
Otherwise, I really just don’t care because my family name is my dad’s name and it was only my mom’s name because she changed hers to his. Not that I didn’t care about my dad, was closer to him than my mom. I just mean I don’t feel like it means anything.
- Comment on how did you master splits (for flexibility)? 4 weeks ago:
For front splits: Very deep lunges to stretch hip flexors, hamstring stretches, then get as close as you can, preferably supporting your crotch (‘sit’ on a small stool, then a yoga block, whatever supports you in the position) so that you can relax into the pose.
Best to do these after a workout while you are warm, then again before bed when you are cool, and go to your edge but not past it, that edge will move.
For straddle split, I don’t know if everyone can get those but my nearly 60 year old husband can, and mostly he just lifts weights, so maybe. Those you can practice hot or cold, and if you do the widest you can and lean forward for 5 minutes it will also relax you for sleep. So good practice for bedtime.
- Comment on How screwed would one be if their email provider shuts down? 5 weeks ago:
I lost one, sent the emails I might need to another account. So that was ok but I forgot to change the email on every freaking service I use so it was very difficult to recover some accounts.