RBWells

@RBWells@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's all SO simple!⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I work in participation sports, and agree with OP. I’ve seen people running in a long distance triathlon (which means they’ve already swum and biked a long distance) who, if I saw them in a different context, I’d not have thought them fit. Usually women, not men. Fat and cardiovascularly fit >skinny and idle. And I’ve seen really strong fat guys, maybe that’s not as perfect as lean & strong but is it worse than thin and weak?

  It’s not the usual arrangement (fit and fat) but skinny and unfit is pretty common.

  I don’t make fitness assumptions anymore, about people within some range, obviously there is a point where this isn’t true. I haven’t ever been fat and do not think I’d be one of those people (if I am in shape it shows in my visual shape) but plump fit people do exist.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's going to happen to gas stations as cars electrify?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  The WaWa gas station near me has more charging stations than gas pumps, and they are always full of cars charging.

  And of course they sell beer and diet coke a cigarettes, coffee, snacks. The gas is just to get people in the door, and charging takes longer, I’m sure they’ll be fine.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨(serious) What would we be losing in a world where most people didn't own a car? Please read the OP before posting.⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh we have the worst, most starved public transportation, half the buses run only every hour, and on the bike to work - only to work - I do occasionally get there faster if there is traffic but there is no bike lane, I either use the sidewalk if no pedestrians, or the road if people are using the sidewalk. Traffic has to be pretty damn bad before I can move faster than the cars, I still have to stop at the same lights.

  We have the most generous annual E bike voucher raffle in the nation, I believe, and the city is working on bike lanes, but really, the road between my house & work has no bike infrastructure at all. The public transportation problems are because that’s funded by the county not the city, the suburbs don’t want to pay for it. But inside the city we need it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨(serious) What would we be losing in a world where most people didn't own a car? Please read the OP before posting.⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Personally (city dweller) a car is a time machine. I can get where I need to go mostly on a bike or my feet, but if I’m pressed for time - and that happens plenty - a car can get me there faster.

  My penultimate child was at university about 10 miles from the house. There was a bus that got within a couple blocks of the sprawling campus, so I told her take the bus, but a year in said she could use my car and I’d walk to work since my commute was so short. That gained her about 3 hours per school day and lost me about one hour. Car is a time machine.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ariana Grande: The Last Racebender⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes it’s confusing because “white” is a cultural category not a phenotype. Where I grew up the Hispanic people were the white people - all the rich Cubans who fled Castro, and people from Spain. You can be Hispanic & white, or black, or brown, it just means your grandparents spoke Spanish, basically. And it’s so funny because it was the white people who brought the Spanish language to the americas in the first place.

  It’s not possible to understand racists with logic. Their ideas are illogical.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Real Height 📏⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  My boss once asked how tall I was (we were the same height), and I said “are you asking for real, or as a guy?” And he said “I think as a guy?” Soni said, “oh, I’m 5’10” and he was happy.

  Because guys my height all seem to say they are 5’10". I am between 1-2 inches shorter than that, 173cm now, maybe 174 back then.

  So, in my (admittedly limited) experience, medium height dudes do round up a couple inches usually.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Incel propaganda in my music app⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t get podcasts on my front page, clicked on podcasts and even “popular” didn’t get anything like that. Joe Rogan and some other nonsense. Do they know you are a guy? That would be even more disturbing somehow, if they are only showing this to men.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it possible to pay someone to create an excel sheet for me?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is the one and only thing that Copilot has done for me successfully. There is a theoretical PDF to Excel function in both Adobe and Excel and they suck. The ridiculous AI tool actually does a reasonable job of it, after a few rounds of back & forth with it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do I look like shit some days?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  We are all our own worst critics. Like, when I look at myself all I see is the flaws, right? It’s a kind of dysmorpia.

  There are literal good days & bad days of course, bloated or bad hair day, or bad skin day, but they aren’t as extreme as you see them. Nobody else would notice or care.

  I was anorexic so I always look fat to myself, it doesn’t matter my size really. You can’t trust the mirror and you don’t see what others do.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨💀🌈🙏🌈💀⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  A comedienne is a lady comic. She is saying she wants men but doesn’t find them attractive, which as a straight lady, makes absolute sense to me. Especially as I get older I wish I was bi, women age better (or more women age well is probably a better way to put it), and it would be easier in some ways. But alas, it’s men for me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Quidk! I need a chili recipe. What would you add to a pound of hamburger, diced jalapenos, chili powder and bloody mary mix?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not like red bean ice cream.

  Louisiana red beans & rice, chop all of whatever veg you have laying around, saute them, add andouille sausage if you have it, it’s fine without though. Add beans & water & salt, cook them.

  On Camellia rice.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Quidk! I need a chili recipe. What would you add to a pound of hamburger, diced jalapenos, chili powder and bloody mary mix?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Pintos are traditional here not kidney. Kidney beans are for red beans & rice.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Quidk! I need a chili recipe. What would you add to a pound of hamburger, diced jalapenos, chili powder and bloody mary mix?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Beans. Punch away. I would take the meat out of chili before the beans.

  Tomatoes or tomato paste, spoonful of unsweetened chocolate, some red wine. And why the heck did you not start with an onion?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon disrespects their elders⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have taken my kids to some pretty small concerts, that they asked for rides to, that garage band scene is still around it’s just not our scene anymore, right? The main difference I found is that my kids wanted to share the music with me, wanted me to go see it with them and my God I would never have done that with my mom.

  So thankful they grew up and do wear stupid clothes (and sometimes awesome costumes for conventions). In our family there’s a cl at gender split - the boys & men including the trans one are less about going out, the girls & women are all more into going out to shows & events.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I make a dog mean? Not that I want that but would kind of like for him to also be our protector much as his. I don't want to hit him or deprive him though he is just sometimes tooo nice.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Dogs don’t work like that. A dog gets protective when it’s anxious, and thinks it has to be in charge because you are ineffective. If your dog is relaxed and looks to you to protect it, you are doing a good job of raising your dog.

  Dog park, I dunno, but "standing up to other dogs just sounds like asking for a dog fight. Playing dogs are not necessarily jockeying for dominance but even if they are it doesn’t mean they can’t all have fun, without being mean.

  I agree that even good, happy dogs can have a nose for danger, our awesome shep-akita was pleasant with adults and gentle giant with other dogs but once was so growly snappy with a girl my stepdaughter brought home and she did steal something. The dog picked up on her we did not.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Get on my level⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I always figured it was nature trying not to breed us into a race of giants, or midgets. I’m a lady and about the average height of men in my area (which my husband points out puts me in the top 5% of women’s height here even though I’m barely even tall) and mostly have dated men around my height. My ex was about my height and our kids were all average height. Husband also around my height. My husband’s ex was a lot shorter than him and his boys are not as tall as me, and I tease him, if he wanted tall kids he needed a tall mom.

  So I guess if she had her kids with a tall guy they would have been average height but I never had to think about that, right? But if my kids dad had been really tall my kids would be like Really Tall, maybe more than is healthy?

  I know nobody is having kids anymore, lol, but the preferences could be hard wired to some extent.

  Also - if only 5% of women are my height or taller, there probably just aren’t enough of us around even if we wanted to breed giants.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What was your social media path?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  1990s Usenet

  Nothing

  Reddit

  Lemmy

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Tune a fish⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, where I live, Tuna is also a cactus. Prickly pear is often called tuna. So yeah, tuna (fish) and tuna (fruit) can need disambiguation.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is ironing clothes significantly less common now?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  No tengo una plancha.

  I have never had an iron, just wear knits mostly, natural fabrics. If absolutely necessary, will steam them, but only a couple times a year.

  My mom didn’t iron much but she did have the board and the iron. Some of my coworkers do iron their stuff.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why was Rock 'n' Roll seen as the grooviest shit in the 50s when it's just averagely groovy (ie. unremarkable) today?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My mom talked about staying up late to hear the black radio station because everything on the radio was so boring. She ran away from home to see Elvis!

  You live in a different world, with streaming, you can listen to so much music. I can remember before that - we at least had community radio with volunteer DJs who played different stuff but top 40 radio literally played about 40 songs on repeat.

  I suppose your grandkids will also consider whatever you think shocking music to be boring too

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Grapefruit Redbull⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I would be shocked if grapefruit flavored red bull contains any part of grapefruit the fruit.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The radical woke subliminal message in Bad Bunny's halftime performance⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Watch his Tiny Desk Concert on NPR, it’s amazing. Arena shows are just arena shows, the music gets a little lost in all the rest of what’s going on.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Did you all know these things can be pickled???⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Fermented pickled radish is glorious. Just a salt brine, and time. I put a tight lid and shake daily until they are done, a weight or airlock works too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Man posts his incorrect opinion online⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  We have hard wood floor not carpets, have dogs so it’s never going to be some “you can eat off the floors” situation. We run a Roomba thrice daily, my shows are kept in the bedroom so that’s where I put them on/take them off. So in general it’s the big open room with the kitchen/dining and living room and lounge areaY’all really ask everyone to take off their shoes at parties & all? Like a barefoot cocktail hour, barefoot dinner?

  The Roomba vac makes an enormous difference, I CAN walk around barefoot without feeling grit on my feet. But it doesn’t bother me that the floor is not pristine, no. And cooking feels safer in shoes.

  In other people’s houses I do whatever they want, obviously, but I would never tell someone to take off their shoes for my floor’s sake.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are there any women here who felt they didn't deserve to be called women?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have never tried to be feminine, and believe strongly that “womanly” is the sum total of what women are and do, we define it every day by being ourselves. “Feminine” to me is the things people would do to impersonate a woman, if an alien came to earth, for example, and was performing to try to be like a woman - the outward behaviors and paint and hair and all.

  So no, and I think it’s nothing to fret over. I want to be myself and help define what womanhood is, not chase after some stereotype. I’ve never felt particularly feminine, but do feel very attached to being female bodied, enjoyed being pregnant, nursing, love having sex as a woman. Just don’t see any point to stereotypical “femininity” or “masculinity” those are unnecessary, and actively harmful in some cases.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Self care for me:

  Yoga class with other people.

  Going out for a Pokemon go walk

  Making healthy food that I enjoy (not trying to be virtuous and not junk either - nourishing and delicious).

  Having a drink on the porch - ONE drink - with my husband.

  Going to bed when I get sleepy and getting up when I wake up.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do most people really like the taste and smell of eggs?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Smell, no. Taste, yes. I don’t understand how something that stinks so much while cooking can taste so good but yes, I like fried eggs, boiled eggs, scrambled eggs, as long as they aren’t overcooked they are good.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How long does it take for pregnancy to become noticeable?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The first time, I was 5’9" and 125lb when I got pregnant, so not like I had anywhere to hide it, but I worked until 6 months without telling anyone and that is when it became impossible to hide.

  The subsequent times it happened faster, the belly was noticeable by 4 months or so, I could feel it before anyone else could tell in all cases.

  I had a history teacher who was hugely fat - she warned us she would be out on maternity leave, we thought she meant later in the year but she was gone the next week, and when she came back, looked no different at all.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the best way to drop 50lbs in two months without spending alot and no fad diets?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That sentence makes no sense. Figure out the amount you would need to eat and work out to MAINTAIN your desired weight and start doing that. Let it take however long it takes, then keep doing that to maintain, or tweak it to improve.

  50lb in 2 months sounds dangerous as fuck. You could stop eating and probably lose that much, fuck up your metabolism, and immediately gain it back without even eating as much as you did before.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon likes pizza⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  $1.50 how? Is he having a sliced tomato on cardboard?