RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 1 day ago:
I agree with service for 2 years (after high school before college) but public service in general not just military.
- Comment on Text spam aimed at my ex 2 days ago:
I get offers to buy my house, my neighbors house, and some house our in the suburbs.
I have had this phone number for decades.
It is sometimes phishing I think, just to see if you will respond at all.
- Comment on It's gay to brush your teeth 2 days ago:
It doesn’t matter because the same guys think sex with women is gay.
- Comment on onions 2 days ago:
Mine always started with my period before, and I almost couldn’t get one at any other time. But that time of month is a sharp drop in energy and progesterone, I think the relaxation is the same sort of thing - a sharp drop in stress will trigger a migraine, they come while I am sleeping.
I expect that if it were possible to be relaxed at all times it would not be all migraine, it’s the change that is the problem.
Did have to give up fasting, that always did also result in a migraine but again, it only would start while I was asleep.
- Comment on onions 2 days ago:
That is the most unfair thing I have heard today. I remember getting that list of potential migraine trigger and thinking it was every single food or habit anyone could eat or do. I know they are trying to make you feel some control but it always felt so blamey. Mine were mostly hormonal and not something I could fix but now managed with menopause plus a small dose of estrogen & progesterone, the same amount every day so no swings. Which leaves relaxation as my only remaining trigger. A coffee in the evening on Friday usually prevents that.
But onion? That is hard. They are so foundational to cooking.
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 3 days ago:
On the horizon, a misanthrope!
I do just always find it odd when people talk about kids as though they never were one, like they are a different thing than a very young person. Can so easily understand not wanting to parent (though it was easily the best work I’ve ever done, I did enjoy parenting), it does take a lot of attention and is a long haul. I guess my mom’s example made me feel like it didn’t need to take your whole life though, she traveled alone and worked, kept us fed and schooled and while we weren’t close, I am not harmed by her lasseiz-faire approach to parenting.
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 3 days ago:
I guess I find it odd that people who were kids hate kids. It’s ageism, lol. Children are literally people just like we are. Just younger. Which is not to say everyone needs to reproduce, live your life however you want of course.
My mom was never very motherly, I asked her about once. She said "I don’t like kids ".
“But you had so many! What the heck?”
“Well, I like you all NOW, I knew you would grow up eventually.”
Kids are just people.
- Comment on 92% of American adults aren’t going to a doctor because they cannot afford it. The health insurance industry must be dissolved & all of its executives criminally prosecuted for murder, conspiracy, an… 3 days ago:
I make pretty good money and have insurance (sort of) but absolutely have avoided care for financial reasons and I don’t actually know anyone who hasn’t. Do you know someone who has never considered cost?
- Comment on Housing prices 4 days ago:
Yeah my husband thinks 350k would rebuild it, because part of the value is the land. But we could not rebuild what we have for any price, because the wood it’s made of is not available anymore.
And yes - some of the increase is apples to oranges, just like with cars - the 1967 mustang I had was good for about 100k miles, maybe. New cars last easily 3x that, and safer and more efficient.
But no way is that most of the increase. There needs to be some relationship between pay and housing that makes sense. With insurance and tax, those million dollar homes would cost nearly 8k per month even if no repairs or maintenance- that is so much more than the netpay for a good job, I don’t know who is buying them.
I have seen several crashes already, and know price doesn’t just increase forever. Am watching with interest to see what happens here.
- Comment on Housing prices 4 days ago:
Right. It was like 2 years of pay for her so 100- 200k seems about right for a house. Not a million dollars.
- Comment on Housing prices 4 days ago:
It’s not just size and quality though - my house is the same size as my mom’s house was, hers was 13,000 in the 1960s. It’s the same size ass the old one I bought for 36k in the housing crash in the 1990s, and sold for 80k in 2010ish, after an addition and metal roof. It is actually for sale again now by someone else after more renovations, they are asking half a million and will probably get close to that.
The one we have now (same square footage, half built in 1940, addition in 1990s) we had to pay almost 300k and is “worth” (market, not underlying value obviously) like half a million, we did improve it with hurricane windows and metal roof and roof attachments.
I have never bought as an investment, only as housing. Something is broken, I DO think my house is worth maybe 200k as a real value, I think we overpaid. but the prices now are so much worse than that.
Yes Florida building code is serious so new houses do have additional utility. But I have only lived in older houses and they are also out of control price wise.
The big new ones around here go for 1.5 million now - I could have bought every house on my block in the 1990s for less than that.
- Comment on Are there any animals that pretend to be injured to lure prey? 5 days ago:
The cat I had when I was a kid would pretend to be afraid and confused by birds then SWIPE out comes the paw, down goes the bird.
I don’t keep outside cats anymore but it was always so impressive to see her hunt, she did fake cringe away to get them close.
- Comment on Meal Replacement Drink Suggestions? 6 days ago:
Oh that’s hard. I hate, hate, hate those mixes. Would do bone broth for some meals, fruit and yogurt smoothies for others, and definitely throw some nut butter (cashew, almond, whatever) into the smoothie.
Date shakes are good, lots of sugar but fiber and nutrition.
And if you can tolerate soup - a can of cannelini beans, a can of butternut squash puree, and some chicken or vegetable broth, with salt and whatever else you want, is so easy, delicious and again does have fiber. Just heat them together then blend with a stick blender.
- Comment on is there any language that doesn't have four basic directions? 1 week ago:
Yes thank you.
My mind works more like this - North is always north, I can’t give directions using right and left and have broken every dance teacher I had, all ended up saying "toward the mirror, toward the window, toward the door, etc because I can’t find right or left fast enough to dance, it moves every time I turn around, I want directions to be fixed.
- Comment on is there any language that doesn't have four basic directions? 1 week ago:
I think there is at least one with no concept of right or left, only the fixed directions of the world like north and south.
- Comment on Would you rather be reincarnated into a world of magic or reborn as yourself (with your current knowledge fully intact)? 1 week ago:
I would like to experience something new, so would go with magic. As long as it’s not too wrapped up in religion. I’ve enjoyed my arc here, but don’t need to repeat it - and safe from being a chosen one is itself a perk.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Meaning you can’t empathize? Lucky you, I guess. I had so much anxiety around eating for so long, and it’s not unusual. Until I was 25, never put one piece of food in my mouth without thinking about the calories and how it would make me fat. I’m sure she looks in the mirror and still sees fat.
Yes more people have eating disorders in the other direction, and will eat when stressed. I have trouble wrapping my mind around that. It’s been half my lifetime since I recovered but I still can’t eat when stressed.
It’s heartbreaking and eventually fatal if you keep restricting. Skinny is not automatically unhealthy, body types do differ.
There’s plenty of pressure on women to be small, and when your life is out of control, one thing you can control is eating. It is oddly easy to fall into disordered territory.
- Comment on Today is my 25th birthday 1 week ago:
Yeah that was my vampire age - like if I could have stayed any age, 45 was it. Looked so good, felt so good. Sex drive like a teenager (maybe nature trying to make me reproduce before menopause?). I do think that may be the physical peak. Like, I still feel really good but 45 was it.
- Comment on Today is my 25th birthday 1 week ago:
Well I’m more than 25+25 and would not want to be 25 either but don’t worry, it will only last a year. Just hang on.
- Comment on Netflix is garbage 1 week ago:
I pay for a number of concurrent streams, so “too many at one time” is a legitimate thing. What I disagree with completely is that they want them all in one house. If I pay for 4 streams, they ought to be able to be anywhere. Because I paid for 4.
- Comment on I didn't realize masala, was spicy 1 week ago:
I always order ONE dish “spicy like you would make it for your grandma, really so spicy” and get the rest of the dishes medium or mild.
Channa Masala is the one I want crazy hot. It’s so good like that. Most of my family won’t eat it, only me & my oldest daughter. But yum yum yum, may cry but oh just so satisfying.
- Comment on What is your experience like for Jury Duty in the US? 1 week ago:
Federal reimbursed me for bus fare, county did not. Federal also comes with a per diem because eating lunch downtown is expensive.
- Comment on What is your experience like for Jury Duty in the US? 2 weeks ago:
For county, several times I called & didn’t need to attend.
Federal, I did have to serve as a juror this year. They always start on a Monday, I think everyone who they pick has to attend for selection, then most are sent home. The way they pick is public information. I am lucky, the courthouse was close to me and accessible by bus or bike. But they pull from 3 counties, some jurors had to come from far away. Case took one week. I didn’t want to do it and my workplace needed me but I am glad now, it was an interesting experience overall.
And yeah it’s mandatory to show up if you are told to. You can be fined or even jailed. If you can’t, you need to ask for a deferral or excuse. I got a deferral of one week because I had a dentist appointment I’d already postponed once, which had delayed it two months so I really didnt want to wait 2 more! And other times when I was nursing kids I sent an excuse, and once a deferral for work, but Federal court won’t excuse you for work - our judge did dismiss anyone who really would not be able to survive without working though.
- Comment on How do you people read books? 2 weeks ago:
I’m not sure what you mean by hard books? I read a lot, but more for entertainment, books written at different levels but none are schoolbooks, not dry and hard to read in that way.
AFA setup, I n the couch with a cat on my lap and music in the air is my favorite way to read. Runner up is reading on the back deck with a big glass of ice water and a cocktail or glass of wine. I don’t read in bed.
- Comment on Is it every aspiring chef's dream to work in a hectic high-stress kitchen? If so, why? 2 weeks ago:
I work at an events company, basically, in the back office but have worked some events - I get the appeal. Hospitality is grueling work but satisfying work, your customers are right in front of you and you are making them feel better about themselves (in our particular industry), or feeding them and also just pulling off such a ridiculously difficult task, nearly everything going right, it’s amazing. And when I did work at a restaurant, I also enjoyed being part of the customers’ going out night, right? You are there, building that experience, also getting an experience.
My husband doesn’t get it really but I do - if I had fuck you money I would open a bar, with a dinner night each week as an event.
I enjoy home cooking and hosting parties too. Hospitality really is a human sort of endeavor and it is satisfying to make people feel good and comfortable.
- Comment on Do americans living in Red States really despise american living in Blue States? 2 weeks ago:
It’s funny because Florida is so queer. I grew up going to gay bars, we had the gay film festival, literally half my kids are queer In one way or another. Why in the world would the government want to alienate such a big subset of the population? It’s insane.
If I ever run for governor though, my platform is Make Florida Freaky Again.
- Comment on Do americans living in Red States really despise american living in Blue States? 2 weeks ago:
My mom said she would never raise a kid in a small town because there is nothing to do except get in trouble. All her cousins either went to jail or got pregnant young, she figured a city has opportunities, summer jobs, libraries, rec centers, things to keep kids occupied and out of trouble.
- Comment on Do americans living in Red States really despise american living in Blue States? 2 weeks ago:
I agree with revelrous, it’s more a city/rural split. Florida is “red” now, more a warm purple but gerrymandered. Cities are pretty progressive, country is redneck, exurbs are rich conservative northerners who moved down here (the influx that moved us from purple for real to red)
My husband tries to hate on California but we have family there who love it so much they think we should move there. Chicago he thinks is a great city, we have family there too. But again, we are city folk so even though he is conservative he sees way more variety of people and is, well, cosmopolitan I guess you would say? Traveled a lot, says people are just people, all over the world.
- Comment on Anon is 23 2 weeks ago:
Here too. Our friend’s kid went into plumbing, he gets steady well paid work with a company plus under the table jobs at least one per weekend. He’s raking it in & happy about it. It is a demanding and often stinky job but very lucrative.
- Comment on Had to fight off the twinks for this bread 2 weeks ago:
Hand model, gloves all the time!