RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on They should be. 4 days ago:
That doesn’t look like a garden center.
- Comment on How tf do people who work 8-5 M-F get any life done? 5 days ago:
Oh I did love swing shift when I was younger. But it was 4 - midnight. Could walk home, and stop for a drink on the way, too. Go home and sleep 8 hours and still not get up too late.
Unfortunately back then I had to have more than one job to survive, but I do like that late-but-not-overnight shift.
- Comment on How tf do people who work 8-5 M-F get any life done? 5 days ago:
I am, and in a 'right to work" (labor unfriendly) state as well. But have been at the same place for 13 years, and am flexible with them because they are flexible with me. Will stay late if needed, (I leave Wednesdays for overflow and tell my boss that is the day I can work late) but take time for appointments when I need. And I don’t answer emails after I go home, am not reachable. I’m not sure why, but they seem to think I am a top performer. As far as I can tell it’s not objectively true, but I’m not the one evaluating it.
People at my job also take long lunches to work out if they want. It’s a participation sports company.
I don’t believe in doing too much, that does no favors for your coworkers or the people who come after. I say good things about my coworkers to their bosses, too. Anytime I can possibly give someone else credit I do.
- Comment on Dead community request to mod 5 days ago:
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- Comment on How tf do people who work 8-5 M-F get any life done? 5 days ago:
I work 9-6, go to yoga, eat supper, hang out with my husband awhile, sleep 11-7, have a leisurely morning because my commute is a short bike ride, have 4 weeks of PTO at this point and I USE it. Weekends I have free most weeks.
But honestly it works best when one or the other of us are working from home, to take care of some of the household stuff & pets, and we have someone come really clean the house fortnightly, so we don’t have to spend weekends doing that. And I like gardening so that’s not such a chore.
- Comment on Dead community request to mod 5 days ago:
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- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Yeah, a run.
Cherries or dried cherries are good for pain, but for anxiety, exhausting my body calms my mind.
If you are not able to run, sex helps or yin yoga poses. But not as much as cardio. Get worn out physically somehow.
- Comment on Alpha AF 1 week ago:
Huh. I have worked 40 years and raised a bunch of kids, not as much leisure but holding up fine. I do work at a sports company though, people take long lunches to go for a run and we have a gym too. So there is both the flexibility and resources to stay fit. Really nice perk.
Honestly don’t mind working now, it was harder when I was younger with kids at home and not as much seniority at work.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
I LOVE reading. Books, comics, Lemmy posts & comments too. Not AI conversations, those apps are relentless suck-ups.
But you don’t have to. My own kids I kept making them try books until they found stuff they like but 3/4 of them still like reading, one doesn’t, that’s fine - we are all different and it’s not like you are illiterate, you can read and write as communication.
- Comment on 1 week ago:
I am not sure. Older and experienced, though. A few before my first monogamous run with my ex, that lasted about 20 years, then a few more, then my husband & I did some swinging, and have settled down to just us for about 8 years. But every day, it’s nice.
- Comment on What's your favourite type of nut butter? Mine is almond 1 week ago:
Cashew butter mixed with water makes better cream of mushroom soup than cream does; I say this as a dairy afficionado, I don’t do it as a vegan thing, I make it that way because it’s better.
So for soup, cashew I agree. Hazelnut for sweet things, and peanut for other savory stuff.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Why be embarrassed to have sex? Be happy to have sex.
- Comment on Alpha AF 1 week ago:
I agree with that last paragraph. Am more than half a century old and it really becomes apparent who takes care of themselves.
- Comment on Why do people say "my taxes" 1 week ago:
Income taxes - I do “the taxes” at year end not “my taxes” because we file as married. But when I was single I did “my taxes”
Sales tax, never. That’s just “the sales tax”
Property tax, also I say “the property tax”
I do use “my taxes” or “our taxes” (the collective group of taxpayers) when complaining, like “why are my taxes used to blow up little kids and siphoned into the pockets of people who don’t need the money?” Because it’s money we earned and being used in ways most of us would strongly object to.
- Comment on Alpha AF 1 week ago:
I mean, that kind of makes sense. I have tried with ladies and it really doesn’t feel like sex, it’s not off-putting, I could do it like a performance but it’s not a turn on either. I don’t think experimenting means you are bi.
- Comment on Alpha AF 1 week ago:
Huh. I’m a straight lady but feel the opposite - as I get older I really wish I was bi, women around here hold up so much better than men.
- Comment on Music just isn't good anymore 1 week ago:
Yes, it’s Tik Tok. And it’s music older than I am sometimes. But mine listen to everything, like I do. I took the youngest to see Inhaler and also to see Young the Giant. Taking my husband to see Cannons, and also got him into country music, he used to hate it but if you turn off the commercial radio and just find the good stuff it is still being made.
The 2 bands both my older set of kids (millennials) and my younger set (GenZ) wanted to see when they were middle school age were Panic at the Disco and the My Chemical Romance, I always thought that was funny. Like it’s middle schooler music, I think I would have loved it too.
- Comment on Music just isn't good anymore 2 weeks ago:
The fuck? Fontaines DC, Tyler Childers, Janelle Monae, Leon Bridges, I have never stopped finding new music I love. This graph makes no sense. Modern music is so good. Old music is so good. I do not have a preference for any particular time period when it comes to enjoying music.
- Comment on I'd like to change my last name and want suggestions 2 weeks ago:
It’s hard to say without knowing the first name, go with what sounds good together. Or use your first name as your last name. Olivia Olivia or Esther Esther.
- Comment on As adults, do you still watch kids’ cartoons, either old or new? 3 weeks ago:
I watch plenty of animated stuff but not specifically kids stuff. Movies I would, shows not so much.
Books, though? Some of the best written and most interesting books I’ve read as an adult were labeled as YA books.
- Comment on When you are not employed but need to go to a workshop/conference/public events that require you to lost out your company and title, what do you put on without sounding awkward? 3 weeks ago:
I have an address modifier for my physical home address (a description to help delivery people find it) and always just use that when there is a ‘company’ field on anything not related to my job. So basically, I make something up, say my home is my business.
But I like the idea of “Independent” a lot. I’m sure they aren’t trying to keep you out, just trying to help you network.
- Comment on I guess I won't see a concert tonight. 3 weeks ago:
Yep. Here the tickets for the smaller venues are often still Ticketmaster. I don’t do arena or stadium shows, ever. They have their fingers in everything.
Occasionally the tickets are sold through Eventbrite or the very small local ticketing alternative, and there are a couple who handle their own box office but more often than you think, it’s fucking Ticketmaster.
- Comment on Where are you supposed to put your eyes when you're not using them? 3 weeks ago:
Stare directly at the people who are treating you like a freak for staring out the window.
Gazing out the window and zoning out are absolutely normal human behaviors.
- Comment on Is it true that asshole bad boys are generally more likable than other guys? 4 weeks ago:
Absolutely not. Arrogant and asshole would disqualify him from being hot, even if in shape and good looking. And obviously he wouldn’t be likeable.
I think people misunderstand the “confidence is sexy”. It’s not arrogance or cockiness, more like the sort of self-confidence that makes you feel the person accepts themselves and you. The people who are easy to talk to and who listen. That kind of just being at ease with the world, that most of us struggle with. That is the sexy confidence.
- Comment on Does anybody actually work from 09:00 to 17:00 4 weeks ago:
I have not found one. If I come in at 9, leave at 18, or 18:30, if I come in at 8, same. So I come in at 9.
But in general here it’s a 9 hour day with an hour break for lunch, that makes the 8 hour workday.
- Comment on Anon watches redditors talk about bodycount 4 weeks ago:
Ouch. That is so fucked up. I am older and have been structurally tight (skin too tight at opening) sex hurts when it goes on too long. The “husband stitch” is abusive. And doctors do it because they do episiotomy, which is also awful because that cut doesn’t heal as well as a repaired natural tear and you might not tear at all.
Complimentary tightening surgery my ass. That doesn’t help mothers at all.
Rehab with kegels does help and obviously if you tear, a repair. The midwife recommended working up to fisting before having a baby and man I wish I had taken that advice.
But being tight right at the opening of the vagina just hurts, there is no advantage to it.
- Comment on Why are dads like this? 4 weeks ago:
I am a mom, but used to sometimes carry my oldest by her feet, in one hand, squirming like a fish, when she had a fit somewhere out in the world when she was toddler age. The change of perspective seemed to help. That kid also ended up being an acrobat.
My brother always held babies so awkwardly, even his own, it was funny.
- Comment on Is it weird that I cringe whenever someone calls my name and I avoid using peoples names when talking to them? 4 weeks ago:
Here, kids usually call the parents Ms. Firstname. On sir/ma’am, I did tell my kids to use that with servers, cashiers, housekeepers.
- Comment on Finally, we have the blueprints! 5 weeks ago:
Something for everyone!