RBWells

@RBWells@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I finally get a long term career and become financially independent?⁩ ⁨⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  That is so young to worry about a career. What jobs have you been applying to? There are other ways to get into trades, if that’s what you want. Or just working at the grocery store, they seem to want to promote men so much more than women. All the managers at the ones around here started as baggers, all are dudes. If there is a Whole Foods, they have programs to learn butchering, cheese mongering, pizza making, baking.

  But get a job first, any job. My kids all started out working at the skating rink, crap job but it’s so much easier to get a job when you have a job. Will your parents let you stay there and save money?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Where is modern Punk?⁩ ⁨⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  You know, I thought it was gone, spent my youth watching bands in garages and stuff, didn’t hear much about that anymore, community radio station still around.

  But then my high schooler asked me to take her to a show in a church. A what? But we went and oh my goodness underground music is absolutely still around. There was a mosh pit, I wished I’d brought earplugs, way too loud for the space but there was a punk band, a speed metal band, and the band she went to see was the headliner - all local bands. It is still there, you just aren’t part of that world anymore.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean, so are nuts, olives, plenty of foods are high in fat. I don’t think it was mayonnaise making people fat.l, it’s from way before the 80s. (And BTW, people are fatter now, at least where I live.) I can make mayonnaise at home, it’s food, and hasn’t ever made me fat.

  The prevalence of obesity in American adults (age 20–74, both genders) rose from 15.0% in 1976–1980, to 23.3% in 1988–1994, and to 30.9% in 1999–2000. 40.3% in 1994.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Better crisping & browning because butter has water in it. I do this too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I do, they just think it’s an unrealistic world, not a bad one. Something that could never happen here.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it really worth the BS for a couple more years?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  We had a guy come talk to us about this at work, a researcher. The way he explained it was that staying healthy let you have more years that feel good, getting old more slowly doesn’t necessarily mean you will live longer, but live without disease then get something that kills you fast.

  So that if, for example, you live to 80, get old at 70, not 50, so that you don’t have to be old for 30 years. That’s the point of the whole longevity push and it is actually working, people are aging more slowly.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When did people start saying "have a good rest of your day"⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I have been saying that for about 40 years, can’t be the only one.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon checks up on a childhood friend⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  And at 40 and 45, since there wasn’t birth control.

  I was honestly surprised when I looked at a genealogy site, so many of my ancestresses got married at 28-30, I guess reading Little House on the Prairie when I was a kid made me think all those women of old times married young but nope, that did not seem to be the case.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon checks up on a childhood friend⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes and there are no guarantees anyway, even if you are younger. My dad died when I was 16, he wasn’t old. I had some when young then some when older, it’s different for sure, more resources less energy but certainly better emotional regulation, less easily annoyed does help.

  Congratulations!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is forever alone⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, I think being able to be satisfied is a life skill. If this guy can hold a job and be satisfied with it, I agree so very much that indicates he can be happy in a relationship, and can make someone else happy.

  I have a sister-in-law with an objectively good life, quit work after her kid was born, my brother makes enough she doesn’t really have to, when she was in Florida she complained it was too hot, they moved to Massachusetts, but then she complained it was too cold, they moved back, in the city complained the house was too small, they moved to a big house in the suburbs well now she complains they are in the suburbs it doesn’t matter what her objective situation is, she cannot be satisfied, it’s just not in her nature.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the deal with breakfast in bed?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  The heck? I thought both eating and brushing sort of soften your teeth temporarily, so better not to eat right after brushing OR brush immediately after eating.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨American public transit⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah that’s where I am, and with some exceptions (there has been a one-bus route to the university at all my residences, like walk a few blocks, get on a bus, relax, end of the line is the school) it’s so difficult to use the bus system, one transfer and you are hosed. If I had a magic wand, I’d reinstate the trolley lines to their original farthest reach plus stadium and business districts, make all buses run every 15 minutes (the routes are reasonable) and make it all fare free, or an easy and cheap subscription, wave phone or ticket.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨American public transit⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Ah. For me the most direct possible route has car road, buses (yes three of them, and oddly, this only happens in a couple of places and home to work is one of them) and sidewalks, and the roads are 35mph ones so if pedestrians are on the sidewalk I take the bike in the road, if it’s clear I take the sidewalk.

  Our old location, it was different - there was a way to walk between my kids school and the office, but no safe bike route and car had to go on the highway and loop around, the road didn’t exist, and house to work no way but car, it had a bus stop but only the bus to the next city passed it, and that one you have to board in downtown so I know what you are talking about. Even with the express bus between downtown and work it would have taken a couple of hours. And driving took between 10 minutes and 50 minutes depending on traffic (bus subject to same traffic) So glad they moved into the city.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨American public transit⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Huh. My office is about 30 minutes walking too, but 5 minutes drive and about 15 by bus (only because there are literally 3 different routes that happen to run between a couple blocks from my house to a block from my work, so the fucking half hour frequency doesn’t apply - I specifically live near bus lines always but they slashed the frequency) . I actually bike in every day unless it’s raining.

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If a girl asks you if you're big, are you supposed to lie or not?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I cannot imagine asking a guy his size. That is rude as heck.

  If you have to answer “big enough” or “haven’t had any complaints” seems reasonable though honestly I’m having trouble putting myself into the mindset of someone who would inquire.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Bargain⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  And less plastic

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How often should moderators post to grow a community?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I mod the !cocktails@lemmy.world and usually will put something once a week or so. It sees slow and steady growth but not sure if I have much to do with that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨hows keto working out for you⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I am 5’9", was 125lb, bulked at the request of my husband, wanted to get to 135 but ended up at 150. I’m sure my proportions are more conventionally attractive now but it does a number on my self image, I was so attached to being thin. Guess what though…

  I feel better at this weight physically, if not mentally. Everything works, nothing hurts. I feel so silly complaining about being at a medium weight but it is more than I have ever weighed when not pregnant and it fucks with me.

  Having got here, it seems to want to stick, but I’m 57, that was not true for me before my 50s and I guess I’m glad I gamed the system by starting out underweight?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Caw caw⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have long toes, like the lady in the first picture, and kinda long but not wide feet and already it’s hard to find shoes that fit correctly, I can’t imagine how both her toes and long toenails appear to be fitting in the sandal. Maybe she has her feet pulled back for the picture, but take a step and those nails will be hanging over the edge. Also how is her second toe so much longer than the big toe? So that long toenail doesn’t go past the second toe? What is going on here?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon shops for diamonds⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Mine is moissy too, I picked it out, would have been pissed if my now husband wasted a car’s worth of money to get the equivalent diamond, and wanted a solitaire, and I like this stone better.

  No it doesn’t get scratched up, as I am not scratching at it with a diamond. It’s very hard.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i enjoy high fructose corn syrup too⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I live in a subtropical climate and it seems like most typical garden plants are not really good for our weather, it’s too hot for some and too wet for many who like hot.

  Our winners are:

  Trees- starfruit, longan, mango, papaya all do well.

  Garden -

  summer, wet season - Okra mostly. Hong Tsoi, Eggplant (little ones) Watermelon (little ones) sweet potato (Stokes Purple), tomatoes, basil.

  winter, dry season- Collards, peppers, broccoli (Green Magic) cauliflower, arugula, fennel, lettuce, radishes. Cilantro, or dill. A lot of the typical northern summer plants can be started in December or January to grow in the “spring” that runs from January to April ish.

  In between - peppers, fennel, mustard greens, eggplant, pumpkin type squash (but bugs always eat it) tomatoes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can mental health medication change nature of dreams?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Medication can absolutely affect dreams. Flu shots give me weird dreams the first night. Benadryl suppresses my dreams, but the next night they are so intense.

  Also, realize the time you wake up makes a difference - if you sleep and wake up naturally you may not remember that you dreamed, but that is very healthy. The dreams taper off as the “awaken” chemical increases.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What flavor are marshmallows?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It is vanilla (almost certainly artificial), sugar, and gelatin. You can make marshmallows at home.

  There is a marshmallow plant, the roots used to be used to make a whipped candy (that’s where the name comes from) but now they are literally just air and sugar, gelatin and vanilla, maybe a little cream of tartar.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would I sound taller if I gave my height as 6'-4"?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Wait, are you a lady? Just say you are 5’10". I’m about your height and guys are always telling me I am at least 5’10".

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you remember a time when societies were so polarized and shifted so much to the right like today? How long did it last?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not exactly. I am old enough to remember wondering why gay couples couldn’t get legal marriage, and when interracial couples were stared at, and the ozone layer had a hole, and the Satanic Panic, but it felt like we were in a shitty spot but moving in the right direction just painfully slowly. Lots more violence than now.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sage advice?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  But does your sausage have sage in it?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is anyone NOT steaming their Music?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Huh. I get my money’s worth and more from streaming, have found so much music I like, and before streaming I listened to the radio (we have good community radio here, I still do listen to the radio and go to live shows) and went to concerts but didn’t buy music because I despaired of ever building or organizing the sort of collection that would contain even close to the amount of music I want to listen to.

  If streaming disappeared tomorrow, what I’d save wouldn’t pay for even one concert a month.

  I really, really use the heck out of it, my whole family does.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does being a ‘hero’ mean you are a perfect person?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Of course no person is perfect, and in literature a perfect person would be boring.

  In my view, anyone who does something selfless that really helps other people or person, because they see the need to help, is a hero. They don’t need to be good in every other way. Just that they use their powers for good.

  Villians can be nice, too. With some fatal flaw that causes great harm.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  They don’t define “lifestyle” at all in that article. I imagine if I had to live in a cave and fight to get anything, I’d never reach whatever the natural max lifespan was, and would doubtless die in childbirth without skilled midwifery but it’s hard to imagine max being 38 when fertility for modern women lasts past 40, and we can live to 80 or 90. Are we not the same basic model?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Being a dude sucks⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I love spiders, really like to see them; but they don’t have a chance against the cats. The cats play small creatures to death.

  Palmetto bugs though? I am so irrationally freaked out by them, I do ask the man, or my kids, to handle those. There was a next top model episode where the ladies walked with big hissing cockroaches, pet ones, and I would have been right out of there like a rocket.

  But ask me to hold your pet tarantula? Heck yes! Cute fuzzy spider.