RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on Does smelling your food while you cook it make it taste bland? 1 day ago:
That doesn’t happen to me, but I cook for my family every day, usually just once. (So not so infrequently It’s something unusual, but not so often it’s a drag). It’s more like an appetizer or something.
- Comment on Is there a science educator who shows in a video how they hand wash dishes? 1 day ago:
If you have enough sinks, or a big enough pot to soak them in, one soak in hot soapy water, wash them all in the next sink, do your scrub-scrub without rinsing then rinse them all in bulk, then final rinse by dipping them into a sink full of hot water with a little bleach.
Then dry them with a clean towel.
That’s how we hand wash when the dishwasher was broken and someone in the house was sick. Because otherwise my husband will wash them with the water running the whole time.
- Comment on The shrinkflation 1 day ago:
One of the odd effects I’ve noticed with the last round of inflation is that prices are converging. Cheaper places raised prices more than more expensive places. I never liked McDonald’s - the french fries are good but I’ve never chosen to go there, only had them incidentally. But it was cheap. Not now, it’s more like going anywhere, so why would you go there? As someone else said, I can get tacos down the street, closer than any fast food place and they are pretty fast, or we go to the cafe up the street, they did have inflation but at least the money stays local.
- Comment on Mom with the real questions 2 days ago:
I like those big cabinets in place of kitchen cabinets. Glass front makes everything look better, I don’t put curios in them. Plates, glasses, bottles, booze, whatever goes in them ends up looking good.
- Comment on How much money should one person realistically make or have? 1 week ago:
A house, a car, and enough to pay all the bills and still have some lifestyle, without the terror of knowing you are one job loss away from homelessness and starvation. Able to retire for 25 years before dying.
I think for us (a family not a single person) that really is a million in the bank and 200k per year. We don’t have that, nor do many others.
As a cap? I think nobody needs to accumulate more than 5 million in cash and other assets. Less if you live somewhere with reasonable pension and healthcare.
- Comment on Cooler than 90% of us Lemmy folk 1 week ago:
This looks like a style thing, not anything ugly about the person. Haircut, wardrobe. Not even wardrobe, never mind. Better haircut and glasses, maybe teeth? Guy has good bone structure in his face and looks built ok.
- Comment on How often do you change your towels? 1 week ago:
We do exactly the same as you, with one difference. For bath towels we have 2 sets and alternate them, so as we wash one set, we put out the others and put away the washed ones when done. Only replace if they fall apart, I don’t know how liking that takes, maybe 15-20 years? So maybe yes with one set 8-10 years sounds about right?
Kitchen towels wear out faster, harder use and hot water wash with bleach. Bath towels last a long time, cold water wash then dryer.
- Comment on Why aren't tall people also wider? 1 week ago:
I am bigger around than a short lady, but proportionally more taller than wider, elongated. I am not sure why it works that way.
What I wonder about more is fat people. My shape is defined by my skeleton, I’m not that skinny but like, my ribcage and hipbones, shoulders are my frame, the outer edges of my body shape. If someone is so fat, how does their body extend far past the bones, what holds it up? Or do they have a wider skeleton?
- Comment on Is there a real, actually working way to earn money online without having a job? 2 weeks ago:
Little bits of money, sure. Surveys, selling stuff on eBay or Etsy or whatever. I never found it worthwhile, can make so much more money working at a job. Most I ever made was $200, twice. Once for designing logic for a quiz to determine hair porosity, once for an interview when some medical product I got failed.
That is over the entire history of the Internet. Otherwise it’s just been a dollar or two once in a while.
- Comment on How do you "feel" gender? 2 weeks ago:
I don’t know if this helps but I do very much enjoy being female -bodied, like I loved being pregnant and nursing, love having sex, I enjoy the body I am in. I don’t think much about any mental or emotional aspect to being a woman, don’t feel particularly feminine or anything like that.
But I suspect if I had been born in a male body, I would feel “off” and wish for a female one.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
The fuck? Fishy smell is an infection, not a healthy vagina. You are usual, no worries.
- Comment on Why does everyone put celery in soup stock? 2 weeks ago:
I think you are an outlier in your palate for celery. Could you have an allergy or something? I like it fine, it tastes good and adds a really nice flavor to stock for soup. If you don’t like that flavor just leave it out when you make it, the rest of us might think your dish is missing something but who cares, if the something it’s missing is something you don’t like?
My penultimate child loves “cooked salted celery” as she puts it - she will rescue it from the stock pot, and likes stir fry of just celery and beef.
- Comment on Longing, Rusted, Seventeen, Daybreak, Furnace, Nine, Benign, Homecoming, One, Boxcar 2 weeks ago:
Ours is corre, corre, policia!
- Comment on why the heck do cockroaches fly 3 weeks ago:
Oh God they’ve weaponized them. Why am I consigned to this timeline?
- Comment on why the heck do cockroaches fly 3 weeks ago:
The insect apocalypse is by far the most ominous sign in my lifetime, but if I never again see a mating swarm of palmetto bugs, a cloud of them flying, it will be too soon.
Once we were at a Mexican restaurant and in the booth behind us were some students from somewhere else. They were talking about the palmetto bugs and one said, well at least they don’t fly. And I turned around and said, “oh no, I regret I have some very bad news for you.”
Those fuckers don’t even run or fly away, they come AT you. My mom said they like to try to squeeze into small spaces, don’t like being out in the open and see you as a safe place not a threat. I have a fear of them that is way beyond reason.
- Comment on Anon is smart or dumb 3 weeks ago:
Better to get pretty yourself I think? I feel like the bar for good looking straight guy is not even that high, you could be in the top half just by getting in shape, haircut and wearing clean clothes that fit.
- Comment on How do you sleep at night? Please respond with a number 4 weeks ago:
Seems bad for circulation too.
- Comment on How do you sleep at night? Please respond with a number 4 weeks ago:
- Occasionally 9. I can’t imagine sleeping in a bra, that seems dreadfully uncomfortable.
- Comment on Trump wants the NFL to change its name so that soccer is the only sport called football: ‘We have to come up with another name for the NFL stuff’ 4 weeks ago:
Aqui en Español, es la piña, no es la anana.
- Comment on Trump wants the NFL to change its name so that soccer is the only sport called football: ‘We have to come up with another name for the NFL stuff’ 4 weeks ago:
I don’t disagree, it needs a different name, has not much to do with feet, but really? A trophy is enough of a bribe for him to upset his base of NFL fans? Can someone bribe him to get us on Metric system?
- Comment on Who shops at small businesses? 4 weeks ago:
Exactly like you - restaurants and grocery I can do local small business. Also services, haircut and such, I don’t use chain places. And I try to pay very local people for anything we get done to the house, the pets, the yard.
But the “corner convenience store” that has the household stuff is Walgreens, there isn’t a local equivalent nearby and yes buying stuff 'on the ground ’ sometimes costs so very much more than ordering online.
- Comment on Is there an optimal home/apartment size that most people would be happy with? 5 weeks ago:
When we had 6 kids living with us, 2500 sq feet felt luxurious. Two kids in each bedroom upstairs, and we had a bedroom downstairs, there were 6 bathrooms in that house (5 full one just a toilet and sink) and it did feel big.
When we had 4 kids in a 1300 sq foot house, it was plenty enough room but there was only one bathroom and that made it more difficult.
We had 2 in a 1300 with 2 bathrooms AND a garage for storage and workout room, that worked fine, but the bedrooms were big and living room tiny, that is not ideal, it needed to be arranged differently.
Now we have 2 kids in an 1800 sq feet house and I would say this is ideal, it’s arranged so the kids have their own living room/gaming room outside of their small bedrooms, and we have a bedroom on the other side of the house where the kitchen and main living room are. Also a great big back deck that can be accessed from our bedroom and that main living room, which adds enough capacity we can have big parties. 2.5 bathrooms, 3.5 would be better. When these last 2 kids move out it will STILL be ideal, an office, a guest room or workout room, a den, we could even move the TV out of the living room then if we wanted.
So I think how it’s arranged makes a difference but family of 4 in 1800sq ft feels like we have a big house to me.
- Comment on Feeding my family alone is expensive. I can't afford to feed all of y'all. 5 weeks ago:
Yeah I cook for Easter and don’t expect anybody to bring anything but it’s not as big as Thanksgiving. We had an enormous Halloween party too, but that was more drinking than eating, we just got a nice veggie platter and fried chicken and some dips & chips (sourdough crackers, tortilla crisps) but good cocktails.
I do enjoy hosting in general, it’s satisfying and a party is more fun for me when I have something to do.
- Comment on Feeding my family alone is expensive. I can't afford to feed all of y'all. 5 weeks ago:
I do host thanksgiving for more than 20 usually, we do an all-comers meal, whoever wants to come to eat can. It’s fun and I enjoy it and yep everyone brings something but even so it is expensive for certain. Legitimately thankful that we can do this for everyone. But even when I was younger people coming to Thanksgiving brought something, is that not a usual expectation if you are going to a party? At least bring wine or ice or something.
- Comment on The ancient Greeks or Chinese should have already had words for this. 1 month ago:
I am good at design, can visualize how something will look when it’s done but no don’t SEE in my mind like that when I imagine how things look. It’s a different sort of knowing. Cannot hold an image and rotate it in my mind and absolutely can’t read a map that isn’t facing the right way, there is a blindness.
Surely not antphasic because I do see in dreams, same as through eyes. And I do KNOW how things look when they aren’t in front of me, and can know what imaginary things might look like too, but it doesn’t at all feel like seeing it with my eyes.
Love reading. Love love love it, learned when I was very young, same age I was learning to talk, actually, like a language not a skill. And I do have an internal ear, when I remember music I hear it in my mind and it is so much like hearing it in my ears. Imagining how something looks does not feel the same as seeing it.
- Comment on Racism restaurant 1 month ago:
It’s a good grilled cheese cheese, and the standard cheese on Cuban Cheese Toast here. Taste slightly sharper than the yellow one. Good also for queso dip in a pinch. There is also a Swiss flavor white American cheese, that also gets used because it melts better than real Swiss. Not good.
And no they aren’t cheese, though made of mostly cheese, they are “pasteurized processed cheese food”.
- Comment on Is it gay to have pleasurable sex with your wife? 1 month ago:
Competence and intelligence are attractive, you aren’t elitist, that is so reasonable. Not saying there’s nothing wrong with you, I don’t know you. But wanting someone competent that you can talk to, that is a normal thing to need.
- Comment on People who don't wear earphones outside - why, and what do you do instead? 1 month ago:
I bike to work and walk to anything close (have electric bike so that is my 1-6 mile ride usually, and under a mile I use my feet.). A Run though, that I only do for exercise, and not if I can avoid it.
Car, I have one but my kid takes it to university so I don’t usually get to drive it. And I do prefer moving at a human pace, and not having to park the car.
- Comment on What's the name of this 80s song sang by a solo female singer? I only remember her saying "nothing really maaaa-tters" or "nothing truly maaaatt-ers". Has a vibe like I Feel For You by Chaka Kahn 1 month ago:
Jump for my love by the Pointer sisters? That has the super high pitched yoo oo oo at the end (that honestly kind of ruins it) and bouncy dancy lady singing song
- Comment on People who don't wear earphones outside - why, and what do you do instead? 1 month ago:
I like music, love music, keep it on in the house and car but do not like headphones and wouldn’t dare use them on a walk or run because I’d get run over by a car.
I like the sound of the city, the birds singing, the crows cawing, kids yelling, even the distant sirens and LOVE the distant music of parties, so much. Cars going by with music. Incidental sound is engaging IMO not boring.