RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on 🍳 challenge 1 day ago:
I would even be willing to add the egg in a pan emoji to every message for that money.
“Thanks, your presentation went so well!” 🍳
- Comment on Is there a difference between "comfortable space" and a "safespace"? 3 days ago:
I like this definition the best. The rules are there to serve a group you don’t belong to - so from the outside they look silly or heavy handed. But that just means you don’t belong there. Uncomfortable topics may need more rules.
- Comment on Can I break my sense of taste? 4 days ago:
We used to occasionally have to put our kids on “sugar fast” when they ate too much sweet stuff because they then couldn’t taste sweet in lightly sweet stuff. So their palate needed to be recalibrated. I’ve had to do the same with salt before.
And I am desensitized to spicy things but like that because I can appreciate more foods that way, or more of the ones I tend to like. But surely it’s a form of damage.
- Comment on ‘I feel invisible’: over-50s reveal harsh realities of trying to get a job 5 days ago:
Right, because people not working for 35-40 years is good for the economy somehow? Work for 30 years then retire for more than that? This makes no sense, it’s not a zero sum thing but you can’t have the population idle for more years than they work.
I have a 401k - told the “planner” app to assume I will work to 70 & I might live to 90 and it says my plan has “longevity risk” . Basically that any woman who gets to my age may well get older than that.
I know that people don’t like retirement age going up and up, and it would be lovely to not have to work, but on the other hand all my kids are finally adults, so these are my available prime earning years.
- Comment on Winter is coming 5 days ago:
I just really hate cold weather and short days. My body is better at staying cool than warm. When you ask people what they like about winter they always say sweaters and fires, being warm. I like doing that without gear.
- Comment on Is being apolitical and being Independents in politics the exact same thing? 6 days ago:
Does nobody understand sarcasm? Twinklebreeze said all independents are secret republicans. Godric says if that’s the case, Sanders is playing a very long game.
- Comment on Is being apolitical and being Independents in politics the exact same thing? 6 days ago:
No, I’m registered as no party because I’m more progressive than Democrats but do follow politics and vote. I think almost 1/3 of my state don’t belong to a political party.
Apolitical people probably don’t even register to vote.
- Comment on Beer garden ready 6 days ago:
He took “skinny jeans” a little too literally. It would work if his top half was not big.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
My husband is very suspicious when I ask him to join me on the porch in the evening - mosquitoes will ignore me if he’s around, I’m never their first choice but if I am the only one out there they will settle, lol.
I always figured it was because I run cool, not warm, don’t sweat much, and also eat a lot of spicy food, not much sweet.
- Comment on sell me your company with five words 1 week ago:
Psst! Wanna make some money?
- Comment on What is a good and easy to cook deep south southern food in the US? 1 week ago:
More seriously, if you want to serve okra to someone who says they don’t like it, I’ve had success with giving them dry-fried okra. Wash the okras and dry very thoroughly, they have to be dry for this to work. Slice them (throw out the stems). Saute in hot pan with a little oil and any spices you want (berebere is good) but - this is important - NO SALT until they are done.
This cooks them without the slime, I personally like the okra slime but also like them dry fried, the flavor is really good.
- Comment on What is a good and easy to cook deep south southern food in the US? 1 week ago:
People are mostly recommending what I’d consider intermediate level cooking.
Cheese grits are delicious and easy. Buy a bag of 5 minute grits (not instant, never buy instant grits) cook according to directions - make sure to salt the water. At the end when it’s like bubbling lava, add shredded cheese of your choice and if you have it, nutritional yeast makes them better, but don’t worry, it’s good either way. Possible additions - jalapenos, smoked paprika. Serve with a fried egg on top.
Freakishly delicious and so easy.
- Comment on Do most Americans vote just based on name recognizing without any thinking of the platform? Or pigeon hole a candidate to one issue and vote for them? Even if that issue is way against beliefs? 1 week ago:
Honestly I generally vote against, not for. There is not usually anyone I feel really good about voting for. So I vote defensively. It hasn’t worked lately.
- Comment on how can I identify problems i'm having 2 weeks ago:
That question is way too general. First, try turning it off and back on.
Medical problems - ask a doctor
Emotional problems - ask a really good and not judgemental friend.
Technical problems - YouTube is pretty good for those, if there is nobody you can ask.
- Comment on Why are lemmings so touchy about downvotes? 2 weeks ago:
I don’t get that - if a mod gets mad about downvotes they can hide them. They did that on the old NSFW, maybe it has to be instance-wide?
It’s not something that would ever have occurred to me. I suppose if the Cocktails was being brigaded by abolitionists, or Hair getting brigaded by salty bald guys or something I’d be touchy, but overall I’ve found Lemmy to be pretty chill, so it hasn’t come up.
- Comment on If dogs have such a great nose, why do they sniff other dogs asses? Wouldn't it smell like shit or not a good smell? 2 weeks ago:
Dogs have a much different idea of what a good smell is. We have caught our dog trying to eat cat poop straight from the litter box. My husband had a dog who would roll in poop. They apparently think shit a delightful and delicious smell.
- Comment on If I could a buffalo chicken chili kale salad would the show off my cooking skills? 2 weeks ago:
What does she like to eat, and why is she demanding you cook only on one day as some bizarre test?
If you make a kale salad and she doesn’t like kale, it won’t work. It could be amazing and she might still say it sucks.
Personally I’d be inclined to not play that game at all. If you like your own cooking you are fine. But if you are going to play, consider your audience.
- Comment on Let's run it back 2 weeks ago:
The house I used to live in is over 100 years old and still standing, it’s not like the hurricanes hit directly very often. Insurance charges like they do, though. And it’s not like everyone can just easily pick up and move, where exactly?
Humans live on the coast for a reason. All over the world, population is clustered on coastline all over the world.
- Comment on Anon has a paranormal experience 3 weeks ago:
Not even pathological though - exhaustion will do this. I used to be so tired (life situation exhausting) and more than once got up to pee in the night, sat on the toilet but was not completely convinced I was awake not dreaming so couldn’t pee. Dreams intruding on that barely awake state is, I don’t want to say normal, but not unusual either.
It never happens now I am better rested.
- Comment on is there a name for when you stop preventing a problem thinking it's solved and it comes back? 3 weeks ago:
Rebound?
Like if you have migraine headache, take a preventative but when you miss it the headache comes back worse, that’s a rebound headache.
- Comment on Test your might 3 weeks ago:
If mine are dirty, dishwasher wouldn’t work anyway. If they aren’t, why are they in there? Dishwasher works great on some things but not others, it won’t remove egg, avocado, and wouldn’t scrub the skillets for me.
I do use Dawn and briefly soak if necessary. Briefly. Most of my pans are older than any of my kids (so over 30 at least) and I’ve had to comprehensively strip and reseason two of them, once each, and reseason all of them when I let my husband wash them before he understood them. I got him a chainmail scrubber and explained no overnight soak and if you don’t want to deal with it throw it in the bottom oven dirty.
They just get so so nice and nonstick when they’re in good shape.
- Comment on Cruel and unusual 3 weeks ago:
Not a dude, dude. I do love most sensory experiences, no trouble with food or sex or whatever. And I think too spontaneous and disorganized to land in autistic territory.
But even minimally irritating clothing bothers me to probably an unusual degree, yeah. Tags suck. Seams suck. Bras suck. And socks? The technology exists to make them seamless and smooth, thank goodness.
- Comment on The good old days 3 weeks ago:
I still cartwheel. One trick pony in that way, I can only do the cartwheel. When kids are doing them I will casually throw one and it always amuses them. I’m near 60.
They don’t take much strength, it’s inertia that carries you over. Hand, hand, foot, foot.
- Comment on Anon comes into some money 3 weeks ago:
I would enjoy beans & rice for a couple of weeks but not the same version straight through. Would get some tortillas too so some of the days could be burritos.
As a cheap nutrition strategy it’s solid, and I can now buy anything I want at the grocery (budget not good enough to eat out a lot but essentially no limit if I cook from scratch) and still will make beans and rice pretty often, it’s delicious. I got “Good Mother Stollard” beans and they are so delicious I planted some to grow this fall.
OP should just raid the refrigerator & pantry first though, he can probably make it on what’s in there.
- Comment on Cruel and unusual 3 weeks ago:
Ok I am not autistic but like the fucking princess & the pea when it comes to socks. Seams? Feel like they are ropes. The slightest lump feels like it’s so big.
Tags can go to hell, there’s no purpose for them. Plenty of companies just use print inside the collar not a tag.
- Comment on What is the best and worst USA state to live in? And why? 3 weeks ago:
I agree with Tikiporch. The city matters more than the state.
There are rankings on different measures floating around the internet, best and worst depend a lot on what you are measuring. So I took a look and Minneapolis comes up as ideal for most of what I want in a city but I’m a delicate tropical flower and would die there the first winter.
Florida was much more progressive when I was young, unfortunately we have attracted a lot of conservative northerners who completely changed the political landscape, but the city I’m in still feels nice.
So what are you measuring? Good transit? Stay in the northeast. Good music scene? Texas, believe it or not. Want to raise kids? Maybe NYC if you are loaded, so much to do there. Best is impossible to answer because it’s different for different people. My ex evolved into a slavering racist so he thinks Iowa is best because it’s not very diverse, but that is the opposite of what I like.
- Comment on This crazy assassin character, who doesn't know what shampoo is, somehow would bother shaving her armpits 4 weeks ago:
It’s not like it’s a beard, though, it’s normal on all adults. I personally don’t like it on anybody, appreciate grooming but saying it’s only disgusting on women is so strange. The worst for me is guy pit hair with deodorant stuck to it, I never see that on women.
- Comment on The body you really want 4 weeks ago:
How about just every person?
Oh nevermind - all the guys would end up hung too big.
- Comment on This sandwich 4 weeks ago:
What is that even supposed to be? Even if the bread was full of whatever that is it would look disturbing.
- Comment on This crazy assassin character, who doesn't know what shampoo is, somehow would bother shaving her armpits 4 weeks ago:
Only women? Not men?
