RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on I'm gay and I dunno what it means 3 days ago:
That is so normal. Come visit !curlyhair@lemmy.world
I have curly at at the crown, wavy at the sides, near straight at the nape. It all looks like loose curls if I style it.
Still would take this over straight hair any day.
- Comment on how did you and your partner change after having a baby? 4 days ago:
I run pretty hot usually, good sex drive, but nursing absolutely dampened that down to below zero. Plus sex is frightening after birth. Plus having kids hanging on you all the time can certainly make you long for some space with nobody touching you, and a guy asking for sex on top of that can feel like an obligation. Again - I am saying this as someone who literally has sex every day most of the time, and pregnancy made sex feel even better. Nursing killed my sex drive. YES it passes, assuming your kids are healthy, they are easier over time, and eventually even somewhat helpful. Once that babyhood was over, I’d say they were stressful in the way a second job is - it’s just more of everything.
Overall I would say kids were good for the relationship, we stayed together and happier because of them. My ex was helpful as a dad, wanted kids, as I did. Kids are hands down the best work I’ve done in my life, nothing else comes close. But it is stressful as fuck, yes. Especially at the start.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 days ago:
Obese is just a medical term. BMI is a height to weight ratio so it’s accurate in that way. It does miss as a measure of over-fat vs. overweight, but more often in the other direction (fat people with normal BMI) but it can err in the other direction sometimes, sure.
The easiest and most accurate way to tell if you are over-fat is waist to height ratio. Your waist circumference should be less than half your height. So if you are 180cm, waist needs to be less than 90cm. This is the only stat that’s been a reliable predictor for health problems from too much fat (because it’s the torso fat that’s more problematic health-wise)
The other thing to remember is that the risk curve for underweight is steep but for overweight it’s shallow - a couple extra kg has almost no extra health risk.
- Comment on I'm gay and I dunno what it means 5 days ago:
I think partly this is because flattening the hair at home is difficult and you don’t get great results. I actually put some effort into my natural hair (gel, scrunch, diffuse dry) to get it to look good curly, and the only other way it looks really good is professional blowout to bouncy straight not swingy straight.
Or maybe it’s because wavy hair rocks! I do think curly and wavy, kinky, any hair with texture is livelier than the smooth and straight hair. Like, curly hair is individual and straight hair is standardized.
- Comment on I'm gay and I dunno what it means 5 days ago:
Honestly it just looks like before sex hair and after sex hair. Or someone with straight hair immediately after curling it vs. 5 minutes later. So if he cheats on the somewhat touseled hair person with the I Just Did My Hair person, he’ll just end up with a somewhat touseled hair person again. Maybe even if he goes to coffee with the picture #2, when she leaves she will have the hair in the first image.
- Comment on You just want a break sometimes 1 week ago:
My job is ok, but I swear every day I wake up glad I don’t have to go to school. At least work pays me, and the people I work with are great. But even when we were desperately poor I still liked it better than childhood. Even an illusion of choice (as hexesofvexes puts it) is preferable to the tight constraints of childhood. Even when I had nothing but what fit in my purse, no home, no money that felt better, sort of free; now with a house and family I feel like we have luxury, kids, dogs, cats, garden. Lifestyle. All of adulthood, even the sucky parts, feel like my life to live, childhood did not.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
I grew up with the kids of the original set of Cuban refugees and thought it was because they were the rich people fleeing Castro. So they were already aligned with the right here,they like the idea of being on the upper side of a class divide.
The newer ones may just be anti -abortion, there are a lot of those “single issue voters” everywhere not just here.
- Comment on Paneraverse 1 week ago:
Nah, it’s the fates. One to spin, one to measure, one to cut.
- Comment on Pedestrians Walking on Right or Left? 1 week ago:
Walk against the traffic, bike with the traffic.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
I am a parent of adults and really just want them to meet their own standards for themselves. My mom was the same. Sure I’d like grandkids, but not to the point I would ask! Their lives are for them to live.
If you are asking about little kids, it’s because they are exhausting. We went out to get tacos and there was the cutest little boy running around yelling “va! va!”. How delightful for us but I’m sure his mom was tired of it, it was 8pm. I am sure she would be happy if he would just st sit down and eat now.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Not if you already know how to drive, no. My kid who was motivated to use my car learned easily, and I learned it in a day when the rest of the people I was with were too drunk to drive.
But learning to drive in a new country? And manual at the same time? That seems more difficult. Can you practice here first? Does anyone you know drive stick?
- Comment on You just want a break sometimes 1 week ago:
I will take being an adult with responsibility over being a child any day. All I remember is ennui and a trapped feeling. School sucked so bad, and no control over your own life. I want to know what sort of idyllic childhood the people who write this stuff had? I wasn’t abused or anything, it just sucks being a kid.
- Comment on Oh god 2 weeks ago:
Oh no it’s my dog!
- Comment on quick health tip 2 weeks ago:
I don’t know if you are joking but fresh orange juice, strong cold brew, and fizzy water is really good. I thought it would be awful but it’s delicious.
- Comment on What was she thinking when she did this? 2 weeks ago:
Mermaid hair! It’s awesome!
- Comment on Anon abuses benadryl 2 weeks ago:
These old school antihistamines, Benadryl, Phenergan, are so short term safe but I avoid them as much as possible now because they increase your risk for dementia so much when used regularly. Apparently by 50%!
So good when you really need to sleep and can’t, so effective and cheap.
- Comment on Forced to lie on a questionnaire 2 weeks ago:
No idea. One of my kids likes it, I always block Pinterest results on searches once I figured out how, because I can’t stand that site.
- Comment on Forced to lie on a questionnaire 2 weeks ago:
What the what? There is no “none of these” choice? In that case I’d check them all. And in the next screen when they ask how many hours for each, put 100 hours for each of them.
- Comment on Spam in !keepwriting@lemmy.world Mod inactive for 1 year 2 weeks ago:
Done, thanks. Also the old mod resurfaced when I acquired it, so I added her back in as a mod too.
- Comment on Is it weird to juggle in the park? 2 weeks ago:
Not at all weird where I live. Very good use of the park.
If it’s weird where you are, even better. Go for it.
We had a little used parking lot a couple blocks away from my old house and there was a guy who practiced the tall unicycle there. For 20 years, we would drive past that corner taking kids to/from school & us to/from work and it never failed to delight us when he was there.
- Comment on OMG no please don’t call me. 3 weeks ago:
Chat > face to face > video call > call
But the last two are a near tie. Both suck. Phone calls are the worst by a small margin though.
- Comment on A completely useful compulsion I have. 4 weeks ago:
I do also balance the carton. Not always absolute symmetry but don’t want someone to drop them.
- Comment on If I snapped you back in time 650 years right this very second, how would you use your current knowledge to succeed? 4 weeks ago:
1375? Die from malaria, I guess? Be eaten by an alligator? Or oh no, hasten the demise of the Tocobaga with my exotic biology? Either they would kill me or get me sick, or vice versa. Also, fall on my ass when my house disappeared.
I would follow the river to the bay, I guess, and see if I could find anyone, or anything I might be able to eat.
- Comment on What's the point in getting married? 4 weeks ago:
I didn’t ever marry my ex, was irritated at how discriminatory legal marriage was back then, and we had kids so were a family anyway.
My husband now? He really wanted to be married, and “stepdad” is a different legal status than “mom’s boyfriend”, it smooths things when he had to do school pickup or doctor visit. So since he pushed and I did see an upside we did.
Also you can’t foster or adopt here unless you are married - unmarried man in the household is a known risk to the kids he’s not related to. Statistically, it raises the risk of the kid getting hurt so single people can, or married couples but not unmarried hetero couples.
I am with you logically, I don’t need it, and don’t feel different and it’s weird for the state to license families. I understand religious marriage but am not religious.
- Comment on Spam in !keepwriting@lemmy.world Mod inactive for 1 year 4 weeks ago:
Yeah I deleted it. I googled and the company looks legit but ads don’t belong there.
- Comment on Spam in !keepwriting@lemmy.world Mod inactive for 1 year 4 weeks ago:
Cool, I removed the post & will keep an eye on the community.
- Comment on Spam in !keepwriting@lemmy.world Mod inactive for 1 year 4 weeks ago:
This happened also in curlyhair. I would also offer to mod that one.
- Comment on Anon has his way 5 weeks ago:
I should probably break out the alt account but whatever. No of course not all but probably more of us like it rough than guys do, judging by the comments. One of the best things about getting older, sex-wise, is old guys have stamina and find it harder to get off so can do harder for longer so that I too can get off. I think it’s fair to say that because the stimulation from PIV is indirect (compared to direct clitoral stimulation) in my experience it can work better to be more physically forceful with it.
“Do what you want with me/have your way with me” is not a sexy thing to say though. It sounds like a bad romance novel thing. “What do you want/need?” or “harder please, slower please” you can say what you need without feeling too bossy, if feeling bossy is a turnoff.
- Comment on Who's That Pokémon? 5 weeks ago:
Caw! Caw!
(Thank you! Thank you!)
- Comment on Who's That Pokémon? 5 weeks ago:
Corviknight. A seven foot tall crow is terrifying!