RBWells
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- Comment on A real question about trans athletes and records 18 hours ago:
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- Comment on How did that 22-year-old get on in the date his dad set him up with? 4 days ago:
I would like a follow up too!
- Comment on What would be ancient ways to properly store vitamin C? 6 days ago:
Yes, it was clear from your post. And sounds delicious.
- Comment on Anon goes on a diet 6 days ago:
Yeah I think I have a normal appetite, my kids will laugh at me when I say I’m not hungry because I ate a big meal, they say “that was hours ago” but I stay full, or not hungry, my body wants to weigh more than I personally want it to (have BMI of 22) but doesn’t want to weigh more than it does now I guess.
So I understand when people say they used to be hungry and the drugs made them normal, it’s not a willpower thing, I don’t have to use willpower, just am not that hungry, naturally.
- Comment on Anon shares a family moment 6 days ago:
I work with a guy who went through something similar. He is ok now, very out and happy with his orientation but still will talk about it, and when he goes home for holidays they still are unaccepting. He’s 40 something and they still have not come to terms with his gayness.
My daughter’s girlfriend literally started crying one day “you guys are so accepting of me” she practically lives here because her parents are not. WTF, parents? I don’t get this. I live my straight lady life, their lives are theirs, their sexual orientation has no effect on me, unless they like assholes, which they do not, all have great boy-or-girlfriends.
- Comment on What would be ancient ways to properly store vitamin C? 6 days ago:
That sounds so good! Every time I get a Reuben sandwich at a restaurant it has way, way, too much meat for me - I guess they want to make it worth the price but it is unbalanced. I would make this at home though and perhaps will next week, making sourdough tomorrow, and have rye flour.
- Comment on What would be ancient ways to properly store vitamin C? 1 week ago:
Just ate a kimchi grilled cheese, and yesterday had some with fried eggs. It is so delicious. I love sauerkraut too. Cabbage of any sort, cabbage is just an amazing food, good raw, burnt, and everything in between, delicious fermented, just good and ever so versatile.
- Comment on Worst part about living in Europe 1 week ago:
Ha! I needed baguettes, got two and tossed them in the bike basket, feeling so European, until one loaf bounced out and was run over by a car, at which point I felt oh so American!
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 1 week ago:
Well Emmylou wrote the lyrics to it. And OMG it is a tearjerker so full of emotion.
I personally wouldn’t argue the main point (men are way more into the trappings of “romance” than women are) because that’s been my experience too. But there have been historical barriers to entry for women in the arts.
Kacey Muskgraves writes some sweet love songs (also more country like the other 2) .
Maybe cultural too, Spanish chanteuses sing a lot about love, more than I hear in other American pop music.
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 1 week ago:
Jonie Mitchell Case of You
Emmylou Harris Boulder to Birmingham
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
No, no way should you be embarrassed. One of my kids asked if I would matchmaker her and I said no way, but it’s not that weird, if he knows someone he thinks you would like, to introduce you.
I found “dates” intimidating like interviews, but really this is a night out on your dad’s money- think about it like if his friends kid was in town and he asked you to go show her the town while she was there, right?
- Comment on How can it be crystal clear your president is a child rapist and every one just carries on? Scary stuff friends. 1 week ago:
There is a tacit assumption that all rich and/or powerful people are utterly corrupt and that it’s ever been so. To get someone not personally creepy and corrupt would be the unusual case. So as it works out, there are inexplicably some people who think he is doing an alright job and that anyone who replaced him would be as bad of a person so who cares.
Personally - I think since its illegal, he should be arrested, and most of Congress should too, they are subject to the laws they make. New elections. Rinse and repeat until we get people who care about the country, not themselves.
We are not the only nation with corrupt and irredeemably creepy and abusive politicians. Power corrupts.
- Comment on what's the best material for wiping out a cast iron skillet? 1 week ago:
If eggs don’t release well, it’s not seasoned well, most of mine are pretty nonstick but I struggle with the biggest one, the surface is not as good.
I would say baby that one. Clean it immediately then dry, wipe some oil in, almost none, and heat it while wiping it. Or make pancakes, that seems to rehab them. Long slow cooking with fat in there and something that doesn’t want to stick, getting scraped often.
- Comment on what's the best material for wiping out a cast iron skillet? 1 week ago:
If I am babying them, kosher salt and oil once it’s cool enough, then rinse & dry. Otherwise I scrape at it with the metal spatula then wash with soap and a scratchy sponge, it’s fine as long as you don’t soak them, and do dry them well after.
We do have a chainmail scrubber - my husband was soaking the skillets and killing the finish, he likes the chainmail scrubber.
- Comment on Why is kindness often viewed as a sign of naïveté? 2 weeks ago:
I don’t know but sorry this is happening to you. Do not give up. It is certainly not naive, you can be most kind and firm with people, you can be kind and competent. You don’t need to be an asshole to get things done (I’m sure you have figured that out already) and I find that seeing the best in people works out better more of the time, anyway.
- Comment on Socially inept, introverted employees. How do you survive the workplace? Because I’m in dire need of some serious advice. 2 weeks ago:
“Fitting in” is not nothing, even if it seems like bullshit, you can train anybody to do a job but not to be part of a particular team. My old boss used to say he had trouble hiring accountants because so many were quiet and he needed someone who would stand up to him, he was sort of intense and could be intimidating. You do have to “fit” in some way to be a cohesive unit, and I imagine that’s a lot more important in an ER than a back office.
Your post sounds like you are not aware of your own behavior as much as you are aware of everyone else’s. It’s entirely possible this is just a bad fit and you can find a job that suits better (I have always done better in the wild west environment of startup companies than anyplace with politics and bureaucracy) but if the same thing keeps happening, it’s you.
- Comment on Mastercard release a statement about game stores, payment processors and adult content 2 weeks ago:
By that standard, I ought not be able to use the card to buy booze (might give it to a minor or use for a Molotov Cocktail) a gun (obviously could use for crime) , and probably a million other things they let people buy with cards.
- Comment on What companies manufacture ancient musical instruments? 3 weeks ago:
Zildjian is such a an old company still making the same thing. I don’t think cymbals changed much. People sell lutes on Etsy, those are an old style stringed instrument and flutes are so old too.
- Comment on How did you decide what you generally wanted to do with your life? 3 weeks ago:
My mom always said “you don’t need to know what you are doing for the rest of your life, just decide what you are doing for the next five years”.
- Comment on What would happen to the US if it denaturalised and deported all non-whites? 3 weeks ago:
Hispanic people were the “white people” where I grew up. It’s not really a racial category, there are black Hispanic people, white Hispanic people, here it just means your family came from some Spanish speaking place. So the rich Cubans who came here were absolutely the “white people” of my youth. And historically, it’s those Spanish Conquistadores who put the Hispanic into the Americas in the first place.
- Comment on Do you think it's an ok idea for me to get a cat in my scenario? (details inside) 3 weeks ago:
Cats are good pets for people who work, they sleep a lot in the day. I agree with zonetrooper that in this situation 2 cats would be better than one, though.
Yes if you get the cats a water fountain and automatic feeder, and have plenty of litter box space, they can be left a couple of days, and they prefer that to traveling. (Unlike a dog, who would rather go with you).
Talk to the shelter, they may know which individual cats in their care would be good for your situation.
- Comment on Where are all the successful "red cities"? 4 weeks ago:
Well yes, it has come a long way in the past few years. I used to get so mad because we are a better city to live in but St. Pete’s downtown knocked it out of the park, absolute gem of a downtown and ours sucked.
But ours has gotten so much livelier, it’s not just the Tampa Theater and convention center and the Hub, there are a bunch of apartments downtown, the kids of the Columbia people opened a really good restaurant, the city built a much better Riverwalk, there are people out in the nights, concerts, events, it’s completely different.
BTW, when I was growing up we would go downtown on the weekend and it was an absolute ghost town, we wandered the empty streets and made up stories about the buildings. And you could buy houses in Tampa Heights for almost nothing, now they are millions of dollars.
- Comment on Where are all the successful "red cities"? 4 weeks ago:
Miami is purple at least. The old guard Cubans are Republicans, the last governor race not so representative. St. George in Utah is really nice, though maybe a town more than a city.
Tampa is nice but all of our potentially fixable problems are from the conservative outlying areas, as so much of the government is county not city. it would be much nicer with more money going to transit in particular.
- Comment on They even got their own island 4 weeks ago:
I met a guy when I was that age, adult but not old. Friends, hung out with other people. The minute I turned 16 he asked me out. I declined and it was no big deal but who does that?
- Comment on I turned 30 yesterday but I look 18. Nobody believes me when I tell them my age. What do I do? Do I date a 20 year old guy or a 35 year old guy who looks twice my age? 4 weeks ago:
Why is it 20 or 35 if you are 30, and not, well, 30?
Date someone you like! Just go out with some guys and figure out what you like.
- Comment on People who have been in meetings to determine back to in office policy. What was the discussion like? 4 weeks ago:
They let us know their thinking here. I don’t personally have a dog in this fight, live a few blocks from the office so either way is fine with me. They landed on “hybrid” but now I just work at the office and do not bring my laptop home.
Their thinking:
Collaboration really is better in the office, zoom does not replace the experience of just being here and aware of conversations around you (fair enough) we are already paying for the office (not a real reason, could sublease, we already did with half of it).
My thinking (they don’t care but) working from home benefits the rest of my family more than it does me. I can bike to work and do. Reclaimed the space in my house that was office, and absolutely ignore work when I’m home. Certainly would not force anyone else to, like my job did, but glad to have a space to work outside my house.
- Comment on Why do people hate coldplay? 4 weeks ago:
I don’t hate them, but we have a joke, “is that… Coldplay?” when we hear an unfamiliar song, because their music is sort of unremarkable.
I don’t think they are alone in that, it’s just funny they got so famous with it. I’ve heard them in interviews and they sound like delightful people. Funny and self-aware.
- Comment on Is it weird I don't typically answer how old I am anymore, because literally nobody besides my family believes me? 5 weeks ago:
Yeah my brother said you should always tell people you are older than you are, so that they think you look good for your age.
- Comment on Is it weird I don't typically answer how old I am anymore, because literally nobody besides my family believes me? 5 weeks ago:
Yeah I tell people when they ask, they gasp, but then they forget. It’s mostly people younger than me who do this, though. And when I was 12 people often perceived me as a grown woman (I was tall. Didn’t even have my period yet, just the height and my overall look and face I guess read ‘adult’) but just stayed the same for a long time. I am aging, I can see it. But nobody seems to think I look like their idea of my age.
We have an intern at our work who does look like a 13 year old. I think he’s 21 or so but really does look like a child. I can imagine it’s annoying.
- Comment on How do I deal with a very negative inner voice/second conscience that's constantly loud? It's like I have two different people in my head but they're both me, telling me opposite things endlessly. 5 weeks ago:
Having an Inner Critic is normal, but you seem to have fed it, until you believe it is true. It’s not. I hope your therapy does help.
You know what’s funny? I have the body dysmorphia, like still cannot see myself as having a good body, and usually mirror or photo just confirms this. But one time my husband took a picture when I was just in underwear, so nearly naked, and I looked so good, it’s like somehow he captured how he sees me. And we have one flattering mirror in the house, I thought it was like a fun house slimming mirror, asked my kids and they were like, no, that is how you look.
So if you have someone you can trust to bounce things off, that can really help, occasionally others can see past your insecurities and give a clearer view.