RBWells

@RBWells@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This world is cruel…⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  My kids love these meals and I’m not sure why. I usually say “watch me pull a rabbit out of this hat!” and throw something together. Unless it’s a stir fry, they don’t like that. But a leftover baked potato becoming home fries with eggs and the half a tomato and half an onion from the fridge? The leftover cabbage going into the last handful of lentils for a stew? Casserole of leftover pasta, odds and ends with cheese, topped with bread crumbs? They are so happy with these oddball meals for some reason, and I think if you can make something with whatever you have, that IS a valuable cooking skill.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This world is cruel…⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  The second part of that comment sounds like you are a culinary enthusiast not a survivalist. Like, I grow stuff in the garden to get better, fresher foods and varieties I don’t see in the store, and also for the local bees Saving money is secondary(tertiary?), though I think at this point the lines may have crossed and we are saving some money. I do it because I like good food.

  If I lived where there was more to forage, you can bet your ass I would be foraging too. Wild food is awesome.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This world is cruel…⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I do have a cocktails hobby, but would file it under “cooking”. Not being drunk as a hobby but creating something delicious is so satisfying. I don’t enjoy being drunk but do like a drink, make one 1 to 3 times a week for me and always something great for parties/entertaining.

  I almost think it insulates against alcoholism the same way caring about good and delicious food insulates against overweight - I don’t really ever drink just to drink, or eat mindlessly. I make intentional meals, intentional drinks, and enjoy them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This world is cruel…⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I think it’s collecting vs reading. I’m a lady and read comics, well graphic novels, I don’t buy the individual issues. Half my bookshelf is graphic trade paperbacks. But I do not collect, trade, sell, I don’t think of them like that, they are for reading and enjoying.

  Collecting I can see as an unattractive trait because it’s too close to hoarding.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do the majority of women still take their partner's last name?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean, my last name isn’t my mom’s last name, it’s my dad’s, and her last name is her dad’s. So why do I care, I don’t get a matrilineal name anyway.

  I hyphenated, because we both had kids when we got married, and it made it easier to deal with the school stuff for my stepkids.

  Otherwise, I really just don’t care because my family name is my dad’s name and it was only my mom’s name because she changed hers to his. Not that I didn’t care about my dad, was closer to him than my mom. I just mean I don’t feel like it means anything.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how did you master splits (for flexibility)?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  For front splits: Very deep lunges to stretch hip flexors, hamstring stretches, then get as close as you can, preferably supporting your crotch (‘sit’ on a small stool, then a yoga block, whatever supports you in the position) so that you can relax into the pose.

  Best to do these after a workout while you are warm, then again before bed when you are cool, and go to your edge but not past it, that edge will move.

  For straddle split, I don’t know if everyone can get those but my nearly 60 year old husband can, and mostly he just lifts weights, so maybe. Those you can practice hot or cold, and if you do the widest you can and lean forward for 5 minutes it will also relax you for sleep. So good practice for bedtime.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How screwed would one be if their email provider shuts down?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I lost one, sent the emails I might need to another account. So that was ok but I forgot to change the email on every freaking service I use so it was very difficult to recover some accounts.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what can I use to cushion my knee when exercising with it on the floor so it doesn't hurt?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Hover your knee off the ground when you are in the all-fours helps. Like don’t put your whole weight on it. Do poses that don’t put as much weight on your knees. Look for better ground to practice, grassy areas.

  When I yoga outside, it’s the last suggestion I use the most. My knees are also sensitive, and finding a flat surface, then using my usual sorta thick yoga mat works well.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Has Fast Food Gotten Worse, or Am I Just Getting Old?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s still good where we are, is in a run down part of town, not generally even fast, technically, but still so good. Publix has good fried chicken too but the spicy Popeye’s, so good and the only ‘fast food’ I will eat. Even french fries I generally just make oven fries now, but I never even try to make fried chicken.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Has Fast Food Gotten Worse, or Am I Just Getting Old?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Doesn’t pot famously make food more enjoyable?

  I agree, fast food is not worth what it costs. The reasonably quick food landscape has expanded though, we can get different things, better Mexican food, a Chinese fast to go place with some really good tasting stuff, a restaurant that advertises “curry in a hurry” even.

  Popeyes is still good though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I feel this way about cinnamon.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Ha! It’s flavorful as fuck actually with the mostly ancho assortment and tomatillos but the venn diagram in my family for people who like meat heavy meals and the people who like very spicy (as in picante) food doesn’t have much overlap - me and the vegan are the only actual chiliheads.

  When I make the vegetarian chili, it gets jalapenos, tomatoes, lots of bottled chili powder, some tinned chipotle powder, leftover very spicy salsa, sometimes beer or a splash of whiskey, I keep adjusting it until it seems like it will be good, then leave it to simmer or in the slow cooker. it’s more of a refrigerator stew but always pintos, I don’t like any other beans in there.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I feel this way about cinnamon.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Ha, no they call it “meat” but of course there are chiles. Generally anchos & a guajillo and if I have one the smoked oaxacan pepper. rehydrated in the meat broth and blended with onion and roasted tomatillos, not tomato. It’s really good I just cannot think of it as chili.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨if you workout and run, would you recommend a merino wool base or mid layer for autumn/winter? or am I going to break it?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  The bras & underwear from Branwyn are great. The t shirts from Unbound are also fantastic, I haven’t tried their athletic stuff. Other brands I’ve had mixed experiences with, the socks from Smartwool I do love.

  It’s hot here, not cold but Merino knits are remarkably comfortable all weather items.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I get over fear of cooking?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I have not, but why not start by helping someone else cook, or inviting someone over to help you cook?

  It does sound like an unhealthy obsession not an actual cooking problem but if it’s more like you just never did it and have built it up in your head, perhaps taking small steps and seeing that your fears are not fulfilled will deflate them.

  I agree you don’t necessarily need to cook, assembling can go a long way, but if you want to cook that is a very good reason to cook!

  I will say - as an experienced home cook, shit does (rarely) happen so maybe also taking a kitchen safety class and getting fire suppression equipment would help, practicing what to do if something does happen so you don’t panic at a small fire and let it become a big fire when it would have been easy to put it out.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I feel this way about cinnamon.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I say it’s short for Chile con Carne because beans are the baseline chili - I’d eat chili with beans and no meat, Chile sin Carne, that’s a meal by itself.

  But chili with meat and no beans, like Chile Colorado, needs to be served with beans and rice, it’s not good by itself. I do make that sometimes but people just call it “meat” when I do. Nobody here thinks of it as chili.

  I don’t think any food is pure. Traditions are forever changing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨"Florida is a conservative Christian state"⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Abortion protection was proposed as a constitutional amendment because the backwards -ass gerrymandered legislature here is much more conservative than the population. A majority of us voted for freedom of choice even though the amendment on the ballot had bold text added by the governor, including the dubious claim that it would “increase the number of abortions performed in the state”. They only added these annotations to the two amendments DeSantis opposed.

  I was born here, my kids were born here, I am progressive, my kids are progressive, all y’all dehumanizing us, why? We are just people, like you!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨On a lighter note: Why do people still buy fast food?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t, because I’d rather have nothing. But it’s what my husband will get for himself and the kids if I’m fasting or can’t or won’t cook for whatever reason.

  It’s not anyone’s favorite food, but they like hamburgers and I hate hamburgers so it’s the way they get to eat those, and it’s convenient for them, and, well, fast.

  I’m with you, though. I will either cook what I want, or go out someplace local with actual good food made from food.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This hair product remains effective up to 230 degrees C which is really handy because when I'm exposed to ovenlike temperatures, my first thought is "Oh no, my hair!"⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The Verb curl cream, orange tube, is really good, but so expensive per oz because the tube is only 5oz. My kid likes the ghost oil, it smells nice and adds the teeny hint of weight they need.

  I am in love with the Innersense Hydrating conditioner but didn’t like their curl cream. Just this month got around to trying their blowout/straightening cream and holy crap it works so well as a curl cream, no need for leave in conditioner it does it all. I still need something for hold, personally, but I comb/rake it in, scrunch, wrap my hair in a smooth towel, when I take it out, perfect definition and curls. And it comes in liters so when I get to the end of the smaller package can buy one that will last for months!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Most of the trick-or-treaters have been skipping my house, and I finally figured out why⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I sit on the porch with the bowl, it’s nice to see them walking around. It’s easier for both parties, and I can dress up too.

  I think it’s because fewer houses are doing it, mostly. But I don’t understand skipping very decorated houses, and honestly wouldn’t leave out a bowl of candy here.

  The sitting on the porch thing is traditional here now (my mom sat inside but I’m over 50 now and since being old enough to be on the treating side have always sat out with the candy and that’s more usual as far as I can tell) Though my kids always did go up and try if a light was on outside.

  Maybe they are also a little more sensible too, lol - a princess last night looked in the bowl and said, nah there’s nothing I like, happy Halloween. My kids would have taken some anyway and traded it around, but it is always too much by the time they are done.

  Overall I agree, they should yell TRICK OR TREAT but am glad nobody is, like egging your house if you don’t have a treat for them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it okay to take drugs to make yourself a better person? Does it make a difference if "better" is mental or if it's physical?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think so, yes. Always OK. Is it always the best possible way to go? Probably not.

  And no, I don’t think it matters if it’s physical or mental, what matters is balancing the risk of the drug vs. the benefit. So for example my kid takes Adderall for ADD, I don’t, because I know how much I like speed and also have a (very far past) history of disordered eating and still occasional anxiety about eating - I judge the potential risk too high even if it would “fix” my mind in one way, and make me better in that way.

  But yeah, if it will improve you overall why wouldn’t it be ok?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is the argument for making poor/working class folks shoulder the burden of taxes?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think it’s ok for everyone to pay something, and income tax is progressive.

  Social security tax is regressive, and sales tax is regressive. So I’d remove the cap on social security, tax unearned income more, and exempt more necessary items from sales tax, if looking to get more from the more wealthy, as income tax is the only one working right - when I was poor my federal income tax was 0, when I was poor with kids I got a little more back than I paid in, now we are doing well, paying lots because we make more at work.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨have you ever been given a warning or suspension for using profane language at work?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  At my job? No. That would not happen.

  And it’s funny you ask about outside the US because the way I learned this was our head of finance in Germany was visiting and as I passed the office where he was I heard him talking and it was just fucking this, fucking that, fuck so many times just in the time it took me to pass the office.

  Now should you be cussing out customers? No, of course not. But no pain my office bats an eye and we often hear “what the fuck, Microsoft?!” when something doesn’t work.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon loves sunny days⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I grew up before there was A/C all over, even in school didn’t have it until I was 12, and as bad as heat with no air conditioning is, it’s not as deadly as freezing weather with no heat. What do the homeless people do in cold places, do they just die in the winter? There is no season here where going outside in regular clothes would kill you, at least. Uncomfortable, sure.

  But again, I think it’s some epigenetic adaptation, I really do run cool, and now my kids do too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon loves sunny days⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Ha! Well as much as I hate the cold, I hate the heater even more. Resist turning it on until it’s really too cold in long sleeves and a sweater. Air conditioner we keep at 78F, and it helps to keep the house from mold/mildew, improves air quality. Heater dries everything out and feels awful. We do set the heater to 60F, and don’t run it often.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon loves sunny days⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have the opposite problem, when it gets past a certain coldness I can’t warm up without an external heat source. Hot weather I can be cool IF I am in the shade with a breeze, grew up without AC in Florida so probably just adapted.

  School kids here do have to do heat danger videos for athletics though, for some ungodly reason they do practices in the afternoons not before school and kids were dropping in the heat. It is dangerous like extreme cold is, I don’t go do yardwork when it’s the top of a summer day.

  Was just saying that if people can say they “love the cold” because they like being warm, it’s no sillier to say you like the heat because you like cooling off.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon loves sunny days⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Meanwhile, people who say they love cold weather:

  “I like sweaters, coats and boots, bundling up, sitting inside by a fire with hot cocoa.”. Really sounds like they enjoy being warm, not cold after all.

  So maybe “I like air conditioning, watching the sun from inside, the feeling of coming in out of the heat in the summer, a refreshing cold shower in the morning, being able to wear fashionable sunglasses and hats.”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon wants a cute girlfriend.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Malaprops to the author, this is such a mess.

  But I think he’s right that it’s tough to overcome actual bad looks. Like if you are both naturally ugly and also unwilling to even try to be stylish or fit or whatever (some offsetting physically attractive quality) then it can be a slog. But then why the “cute” standard for a girlfriend? If you aren’t willing to put in the work why do you feel you can demand it of your partner? That is such an ugly attitude.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you actually care about your friend's new baby, vacation abroad or similar life events or are you just being nice?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  About a new baby? Yes, show me pictures. Also your new kittens, kitchen, a cake you made, a painting you painted, sure, yes.

  Vacation not so much.

  But these weaker social connections are so important to life and to society. You can’t sort people into friends or strangers, care and don’t care. There is a lot of room in between - people you know but aren’t close with are most of the people you know. It doesn’t matter if you are just following the forms, that’s fine. Keep on doing that, be nice.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon becomes a "Chad"⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  He has essentially become a woman? Has to worry that all his friends may just want to get in his pants?

  If it’s 4chan why is he not exploiting it?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What do allergies feel like for you?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  This may not be helpful, but since you asked for experiences:

  I had allergies as a kid, so never could breathe through my nose easily, even as an adult when the allergies eased. Yoga unexpectedly fixed it. The breathing exercises in particular, at first nothing opened but over time my nasal passages opened, or healed, or whatever had to happen and I now breathe easily and comfortably through my nose.

  So if the drugs aren’t working and it’s a nasal thing, no itchy eyes, etc. it’s worth trying yoga, and when gunky maybe the neti pot (boiled and cooled water, a little salt). I really had no idea yoga would have that effect so pretty sure it’s not some placebo thing.