RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on Anon has a paranormal experience 2 days ago:
Not even pathological though - exhaustion will do this. I used to be so tired (life situation exhausting) and more than once got up to pee in the night, sat on the toilet but was not completely convinced I was awake not dreaming so couldn’t pee. Dreams intruding on that barely awake state is, I don’t want to say normal, but not unusual either.
It never happens now I am better rested.
- Comment on is there a name for when you stop preventing a problem thinking it's solved and it comes back? 3 days ago:
Rebound?
Like if you have migraine headache, take a preventative but when you miss it the headache comes back worse, that’s a rebound headache.
- Comment on Test your might 3 days ago:
If mine are dirty, dishwasher wouldn’t work anyway. If they aren’t, why are they in there? Dishwasher works great on some things but not others, it won’t remove egg, avocado, and wouldn’t scrub the skillets for me.
I do use Dawn and briefly soak if necessary. Briefly. Most of my pans are older than any of my kids (so over 30 at least) and I’ve had to comprehensively strip and reseason two of them, once each, and reseason all of them when I let my husband wash them before he understood them. I got him a chainmail scrubber and explained no overnight soak and if you don’t want to deal with it throw it in the bottom oven dirty.
They just get so so nice and nonstick when they’re in good shape.
- Comment on Cruel and unusual 4 days ago:
Not a dude, dude. I do love most sensory experiences, no trouble with food or sex or whatever. And I think too spontaneous and disorganized to land in autistic territory.
But even minimally irritating clothing bothers me to probably an unusual degree, yeah. Tags suck. Seams suck. Bras suck. And socks? The technology exists to make them seamless and smooth, thank goodness.
- Comment on The good old days 4 days ago:
I still cartwheel. One trick pony in that way, I can only do the cartwheel. When kids are doing them I will casually throw one and it always amuses them. I’m near 60.
They don’t take much strength, it’s inertia that carries you over. Hand, hand, foot, foot.
- Comment on Anon comes into some money 4 days ago:
I would enjoy beans & rice for a couple of weeks but not the same version straight through. Would get some tortillas too so some of the days could be burritos.
As a cheap nutrition strategy it’s solid, and I can now buy anything I want at the grocery (budget not good enough to eat out a lot but essentially no limit if I cook from scratch) and still will make beans and rice pretty often, it’s delicious. I got “Good Mother Stollard” beans and they are so delicious I planted some to grow this fall.
OP should just raid the refrigerator & pantry first though, he can probably make it on what’s in there.
- Comment on Cruel and unusual 4 days ago:
Ok I am not autistic but like the fucking princess & the pea when it comes to socks. Seams? Feel like they are ropes. The slightest lump feels like it’s so big.
Tags can go to hell, there’s no purpose for them. Plenty of companies just use print inside the collar not a tag.
- Comment on What is the best and worst USA state to live in? And why? 5 days ago:
I agree with Tikiporch. The city matters more than the state.
There are rankings on different measures floating around the internet, best and worst depend a lot on what you are measuring. So I took a look and Minneapolis comes up as ideal for most of what I want in a city but I’m a delicate tropical flower and would die there the first winter.
Florida was much more progressive when I was young, unfortunately we have attracted a lot of conservative northerners who completely changed the political landscape, but the city I’m in still feels nice.
So what are you measuring? Good transit? Stay in the northeast. Good music scene? Texas, believe it or not. Want to raise kids? Maybe NYC if you are loaded, so much to do there. Best is impossible to answer because it’s different for different people. My ex evolved into a slavering racist so he thinks Iowa is best because it’s not very diverse, but that is the opposite of what I like.
- Comment on This crazy assassin character, who doesn't know what shampoo is, somehow would bother shaving her armpits 1 week ago:
It’s not like it’s a beard, though, it’s normal on all adults. I personally don’t like it on anybody, appreciate grooming but saying it’s only disgusting on women is so strange. The worst for me is guy pit hair with deodorant stuck to it, I never see that on women.
- Comment on The body you really want 1 week ago:
How about just every person?
Oh nevermind - all the guys would end up hung too big.
- Comment on This sandwich 1 week ago:
What is that even supposed to be? Even if the bread was full of whatever that is it would look disturbing.
- Comment on This crazy assassin character, who doesn't know what shampoo is, somehow would bother shaving her armpits 1 week ago:
Only women? Not men?
- Comment on People who get "happy ending" massages, is there like a common keyword or process? 1 week ago:
- Comment on How do I turn fresh tomatoes into pasta sauce? 1 week ago:
Browned butter tomato sauce is absolutely delicious.
- Comment on How do I turn fresh tomatoes into pasta sauce? 1 week ago:
Burned tomato paste is delicious though. Burn it.
When using jarred sauce I usually first brown some tomato paste in olive oil, maybe with an anchovy or two. Then a half bottle of wine and let it reduce. Then the jarred sauce and let it all simmer together while the pasta cooks.
- Comment on People who get "happy ending" massages, is there like a common keyword or process? 1 week ago:
Yeah I miss my sadistic masseur so much, I used to go to a guy who was like 6’5" and strong and gay - ideal combination - and the massages hurt but I would feel so much better after. I don’t need it to feel good during the massage, what I want is to fix whatever is going on. I realize logically that the hard pressure is not necessary to release muscle tension and fix things, but it has been more effective for me personally. I want to feel better after the massage than I do during it.
- Comment on People who get "happy ending" massages, is there like a common keyword or process? 2 weeks ago:
There is a very severe lack of non-sexual touch In the world right now. Massage is so nice, it’s therapeutic. I get esthetician facials too - if you want a less fraught (for you) experience of the same sort of experience I highly recommend those, and so good for your skin too.
- Comment on People who get "happy ending" massages, is there like a common keyword or process? 2 weeks ago:
This is such an odd problem. Are massage therapists not licensed in your state? I haven’t ever run into that - I am a lady and prefer a male massage therapist, and nobody has ever been any sort of unprofessional. Husband is a man, prefers a female massage therapist and same - he jokes about it but it doesn’t happen with legit places. My brother in law and his wife go to a Korean bathhouse that looks sketchy but they say it’s similarly very safe, professional and no sex stuff. Because they don’t want to lose their state license. If massage is regulated in Florida I don’t understand how it’s not regulated everywhere.
I’d probably tell the manager on your way in that you want massage! Only massage, nothing extra.
- Comment on Do people in the military think Pete Hegseth is a dipshit? And when he does changes they just placate him? 2 weeks ago:
We have 2 kids in the military and as long as it doesn’t affect them, they are just waiting it out like most of us would with a bad boss. They aren’t highly placed though.
I do think he’s a raging misogynist and racist, and doesn’t hide it. Both our military kids are white (mostly, enough to pass certainly) and men, so they aren’t being targeted directly by his policies. They do know he is making the military weaker but figure they can wait him out (again, like most of us would do with a bad boss)
I don’t think it’s so much that people are just placating him, more that he, like Trump, fires anyone who opposed him so then ends up surrounded by yes men, with no idea he’s making bad decisions. Like if I relied on copilot to help me make decisions, yes? “Oh yes, that makes perfect sense”
- Comment on sometimes nature is a tattle tale 2 weeks ago:
A threesome baby though? I guess guys have to worry, but women know they are the mother. A lot of the bad stuff in the world has come from men trying to control women to make sure they are the biological father of their kids. So setting that aside, it just is cool to me - cats have litters like that, step siblings. Humans usually don’t.
- Comment on sometimes nature is a tattle tale 2 weeks ago:
That’s honestly cool - not cool she was killed, that is tragic. But personally I’d have been thrilled to get a variety pack like that, nature is so interesting and they’d both be my kids regardless of who fathered them.
- Comment on Does the USA have gifted schools or was Spider-Man Homecoming lying? 2 weeks ago:
They exist. I was quite poor while my first 2 kids were in high school. Oldest got a scholarship to a private school, second went to a magnet ‘school within a school’ and both were admitted based on test scores and essays. Second 2 kids, one went to the school within a school academic magnet and the other to a performing arts magnet school.
So not “gifted” per se - that’s the testing you have to put them through to get them in good public school classes in regular schools in grade 1-8, testing for potential, basically. Magnet school for those grades is allegedly random choice but you are correct it’s not all that random, it’s weighted. For high school it’s by achievement not potential.
- Comment on Is Anon the asshole? 2 weeks ago:
I love to find something for a person that they don’t even know they want until I give it to them, and that they will love. Can’t do it on demand though - I have to see something and think “wow, cRazi-man would love this and I bet he’s never even seen one.”. Then buy or make whatever it is for that one person.
My kids say that now their standards for gifts are crazy because that is how I gift. Not many, not often, only when inspired, I don’t think they realized it was unusual.
I don’t understand the value of random crap. But do think that a surprise can be so good.
- Comment on Is Anon the asshole? 2 weeks ago:
Not wrong to do. Wrong to do without asking first.
- Comment on What are examples of anachronisms you've seen from movies depicting historical settings? 2 weeks ago:
I notice wardrobe and the underwear in Dirty Dancing always bothered me, it looked too modern.
- Comment on Chef 2 weeks ago:
It would be something different but not bad. Clafouti is made like that, lots of egg not much flour. It’s lovely.
But if you know the recipe how would you miss by that much?
You wouldn’t put twice the salt and half the main ingredient in something you were cooking without expecting it to turn out very differently, right?
- Comment on Chef 2 weeks ago:
Yeah I think the right amount is either zero or a lot. There’s nothing I want a little bit of garlic in.
- Comment on Chef 2 weeks ago:
I don’t always measure for baking - for bread and pastry I do weigh everything but for cakes I do them like cornbread, it’s more proportions - I know that for 3 eggs I need a certain amount of flour, I know how much baking powder and salt per cup of flour, and how much fat, milk or buttermilk or yogurt or ricotta, whatever - know it will work if I get it in the ballpark.
For cooking yep I am a yeehaw no recipe anarchist. Or more accurately, I read recipes for inspiration then don’t look at them while cooking, but I am old and have made so many mistakes over the years I know what I’m doing. It feels like intuition but is experience.
- Comment on Not Enough Hate 2 weeks ago:
Which is the after?
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 3 weeks ago:
I agree with service for 2 years (after high school before college) but public service in general not just military.