RBWells
@RBWells@lemmy.world
- Comment on Christa Pike at 18 years old when she was sentenced to death. She is now 50 and they are supposed to kill her this week 2 days ago:
The midwife who delivered my kids in the 90’s was a lesbian mom, and one of my friends at school (in the 1980s) had a lesbian mom. One (friend) because her mom decided after getting married she was not into men after all, the midwife, she just had a turkey-baster insemination from a friend, was never straight. If I personally knew 2 it can’t have been so vanishingly rare.
Not really relevant to this whole rant but it’s not like the 1980s were the 1600s.
- Comment on Nuh uh, lady. Not happening 6 days ago:
Our cats knew the sound of the foil package the flea medicine came in. Would run and hide the moment they heard it. I had to open them a couple days earlier so that I could catch them and put it on them.
She needs to put out the clippers early.
- Comment on Is gender affirming care for cis people a thing? 1 week ago:
Courtesy costs nothing so I would call anyone whatever they want, honestly.
- Comment on If French people are strict about eating on a set schedule, then when do waiters and cooks eat? 1 week ago:
That’s how it was at the restaurant I worked at here, also the waiters were union. They all ate together before the supper shift.
- Comment on Is gender affirming care for cis people a thing? 1 week ago:
My trans kid uses transgender because his body is still female in most ways but he does use T and is a he. I think only when you change genitals that’s changing your sex, right?
- Comment on Is gender affirming care for cis people a thing? 1 week ago:
Very relevant username.
- Comment on Is gender affirming care for cis people a thing? 1 week ago:
Sure. I am past menopause and take low dose hormones (more to avoid migraines and stay healthy than to be more ‘feminine’ but could take more, a lot of doctors do try to reach some level, mine does MHT not HRT ).
Middle-aged guys, yes, I think testosterone is certainly gender-affirming care, and there is no MHT equivalent for men, testosterone requires blood tests, you can’t just find the lowest dose that relieves symptoms, they always aim for some level in the blood. The Viagra/Cialis I think is more to correct for a problem. Or for recreation.
- Comment on Bound to Isaac 1 week ago:
Charlie in there with the cervix stabbing stem and skin tearing texture, what is that, some instrument of torture? Ouch.
- Comment on According to the New York Times, Game of Thrones is the 6th best TV show of the 21st century 1 week ago:
I used to dance and one of my teachers, in a situation where we had to improvise a little at an event that had hired us said “you need a very strong beginning and ending, people can forgive a lot in the middle.”
So the end season of a show being shit is worse than a bad season in the middle. I didn’t watch it through but that makes logical sense to me.
- Comment on Sacre blu 1 week ago:
Le fromage americain?
I am mostly sort of a cheese snob but just this morning had Cuban cheese toast - Cuban bread with white american cheese - not swiss - and butter, pressed in the sandwich press. Such nostalgic food for me and utterly delicious, utterly without nutrition. Has it with a big ol’ cafe con leche. Bliss.
- Comment on 🍳 challenge 1 week ago:
I would even be willing to add the egg in a pan emoji to every message for that money.
“Thanks, your presentation went so well!” 🍳
- Comment on Is there a difference between "comfortable space" and a "safespace"? 2 weeks ago:
I like this definition the best. The rules are there to serve a group you don’t belong to - so from the outside they look silly or heavy handed. But that just means you don’t belong there. Uncomfortable topics may need more rules.
- Comment on Can I break my sense of taste? 2 weeks ago:
We used to occasionally have to put our kids on “sugar fast” when they ate too much sweet stuff because they then couldn’t taste sweet in lightly sweet stuff. So their palate needed to be recalibrated. I’ve had to do the same with salt before.
And I am desensitized to spicy things but like that because I can appreciate more foods that way, or more of the ones I tend to like. But surely it’s a form of damage.
- Comment on ‘I feel invisible’: over-50s reveal harsh realities of trying to get a job 2 weeks ago:
Right, because people not working for 35-40 years is good for the economy somehow? Work for 30 years then retire for more than that? This makes no sense, it’s not a zero sum thing but you can’t have the population idle for more years than they work.
I have a 401k - told the “planner” app to assume I will work to 70 & I might live to 90 and it says my plan has “longevity risk” . Basically that any woman who gets to my age may well get older than that.
I know that people don’t like retirement age going up and up, and it would be lovely to not have to work, but on the other hand all my kids are finally adults, so these are my available prime earning years.
- Comment on Winter is coming 2 weeks ago:
I just really hate cold weather and short days. My body is better at staying cool than warm. When you ask people what they like about winter they always say sweaters and fires, being warm. I like doing that without gear.
- Comment on Is being apolitical and being Independents in politics the exact same thing? 2 weeks ago:
Does nobody understand sarcasm? Twinklebreeze said all independents are secret republicans. Godric says if that’s the case, Sanders is playing a very long game.
- Comment on Is being apolitical and being Independents in politics the exact same thing? 2 weeks ago:
No, I’m registered as no party because I’m more progressive than Democrats but do follow politics and vote. I think almost 1/3 of my state don’t belong to a political party.
Apolitical people probably don’t even register to vote.
- Comment on Beer garden ready 2 weeks ago:
He took “skinny jeans” a little too literally. It would work if his top half was not big.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
My husband is very suspicious when I ask him to join me on the porch in the evening - mosquitoes will ignore me if he’s around, I’m never their first choice but if I am the only one out there they will settle, lol.
I always figured it was because I run cool, not warm, don’t sweat much, and also eat a lot of spicy food, not much sweet.
- Comment on sell me your company with five words 2 weeks ago:
Psst! Wanna make some money?
- Comment on What is a good and easy to cook deep south southern food in the US? 3 weeks ago:
More seriously, if you want to serve okra to someone who says they don’t like it, I’ve had success with giving them dry-fried okra. Wash the okras and dry very thoroughly, they have to be dry for this to work. Slice them (throw out the stems). Saute in hot pan with a little oil and any spices you want (berebere is good) but - this is important - NO SALT until they are done.
This cooks them without the slime, I personally like the okra slime but also like them dry fried, the flavor is really good.
- Comment on What is a good and easy to cook deep south southern food in the US? 3 weeks ago:
People are mostly recommending what I’d consider intermediate level cooking.
Cheese grits are delicious and easy. Buy a bag of 5 minute grits (not instant, never buy instant grits) cook according to directions - make sure to salt the water. At the end when it’s like bubbling lava, add shredded cheese of your choice and if you have it, nutritional yeast makes them better, but don’t worry, it’s good either way. Possible additions - jalapenos, smoked paprika. Serve with a fried egg on top.
Freakishly delicious and so easy.
- Comment on Do most Americans vote just based on name recognizing without any thinking of the platform? Or pigeon hole a candidate to one issue and vote for them? Even if that issue is way against beliefs? 3 weeks ago:
Honestly I generally vote against, not for. There is not usually anyone I feel really good about voting for. So I vote defensively. It hasn’t worked lately.
- Comment on how can I identify problems i'm having 3 weeks ago:
That question is way too general. First, try turning it off and back on.
Medical problems - ask a doctor
Emotional problems - ask a really good and not judgemental friend.
Technical problems - YouTube is pretty good for those, if there is nobody you can ask.
- Comment on Why are lemmings so touchy about downvotes? 3 weeks ago:
I don’t get that - if a mod gets mad about downvotes they can hide them. They did that on the old NSFW, maybe it has to be instance-wide?
It’s not something that would ever have occurred to me. I suppose if the Cocktails was being brigaded by abolitionists, or Hair getting brigaded by salty bald guys or something I’d be touchy, but overall I’ve found Lemmy to be pretty chill, so it hasn’t come up.
- Comment on If dogs have such a great nose, why do they sniff other dogs asses? Wouldn't it smell like shit or not a good smell? 4 weeks ago:
Dogs have a much different idea of what a good smell is. We have caught our dog trying to eat cat poop straight from the litter box. My husband had a dog who would roll in poop. They apparently think shit a delightful and delicious smell.
- Comment on If I could a buffalo chicken chili kale salad would the show off my cooking skills? 4 weeks ago:
What does she like to eat, and why is she demanding you cook only on one day as some bizarre test?
If you make a kale salad and she doesn’t like kale, it won’t work. It could be amazing and she might still say it sucks.
Personally I’d be inclined to not play that game at all. If you like your own cooking you are fine. But if you are going to play, consider your audience.
- Comment on Let's run it back 4 weeks ago:
The house I used to live in is over 100 years old and still standing, it’s not like the hurricanes hit directly very often. Insurance charges like they do, though. And it’s not like everyone can just easily pick up and move, where exactly?
Humans live on the coast for a reason. All over the world, population is clustered on coastline all over the world.
- Comment on Anon has a paranormal experience 4 weeks ago:
Not even pathological though - exhaustion will do this. I used to be so tired (life situation exhausting) and more than once got up to pee in the night, sat on the toilet but was not completely convinced I was awake not dreaming so couldn’t pee. Dreams intruding on that barely awake state is, I don’t want to say normal, but not unusual either.
It never happens now I am better rested.
- Comment on is there a name for when you stop preventing a problem thinking it's solved and it comes back? 4 weeks ago:
Rebound?
Like if you have migraine headache, take a preventative but when you miss it the headache comes back worse, that’s a rebound headache.
