RBWells

@RBWells@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Mastercard release a statement about game stores, payment processors and adult content⁩ ⁨⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  By that standard, I ought not be able to use the card to buy booze (might give it to a minor or use for a Molotov Cocktail) a gun (obviously could use for crime) , and probably a million other things they let people buy with cards.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What companies manufacture ancient musical instruments?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Zildjian is such a an old company still making the same thing. I don’t think cymbals changed much. People sell lutes on Etsy, those are an old style stringed instrument and flutes are so old too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How did you decide what you generally wanted to do with your life?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  My mom always said “you don’t need to know what you are doing for the rest of your life, just decide what you are doing for the next five years”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would happen to the US if it denaturalised and deported all non-whites?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Hispanic people were the “white people” where I grew up. It’s not really a racial category, there are black Hispanic people, white Hispanic people, here it just means your family came from some Spanish speaking place. So the rich Cubans who came here were absolutely the “white people” of my youth. And historically, it’s those Spanish Conquistadores who put the Hispanic into the Americas in the first place.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you think it's an ok idea for me to get a cat in my scenario? (details inside)⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Cats are good pets for people who work, they sleep a lot in the day. I agree with zonetrooper that in this situation 2 cats would be better than one, though.

  Yes if you get the cats a water fountain and automatic feeder, and have plenty of litter box space, they can be left a couple of days, and they prefer that to traveling. (Unlike a dog, who would rather go with you).

  Talk to the shelter, they may know which individual cats in their care would be good for your situation.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Where are all the successful "red cities"?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Well yes, it has come a long way in the past few years. I used to get so mad because we are a better city to live in but St. Pete’s downtown knocked it out of the park, absolute gem of a downtown and ours sucked.

  But ours has gotten so much livelier, it’s not just the Tampa Theater and convention center and the Hub, there are a bunch of apartments downtown, the kids of the Columbia people opened a really good restaurant, the city built a much better Riverwalk, there are people out in the nights, concerts, events, it’s completely different.

  BTW, when I was growing up we would go downtown on the weekend and it was an absolute ghost town, we wandered the empty streets and made up stories about the buildings. And you could buy houses in Tampa Heights for almost nothing, now they are millions of dollars.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Where are all the successful "red cities"?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Miami is purple at least. The old guard Cubans are Republicans, the last governor race not so representative. St. George in Utah is really nice, though maybe a town more than a city.

  Tampa is nice but all of our potentially fixable problems are from the conservative outlying areas, as so much of the government is county not city. it would be much nicer with more money going to transit in particular.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨They even got their own island⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I met a guy when I was that age, adult but not old. Friends, hung out with other people. The minute I turned 16 he asked me out. I declined and it was no big deal but who does that?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I turned 30 yesterday but I look 18. Nobody believes me when I tell them my age. What do I do? Do I date a 20 year old guy or a 35 year old guy who looks twice my age?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Why is it 20 or 35 if you are 30, and not, well, 30?

  Date someone you like! Just go out with some guys and figure out what you like.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People who have been in meetings to determine back to in office policy. What was the discussion like?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  They let us know their thinking here. I don’t personally have a dog in this fight, live a few blocks from the office so either way is fine with me. They landed on “hybrid” but now I just work at the office and do not bring my laptop home.

  Their thinking:

  Collaboration really is better in the office, zoom does not replace the experience of just being here and aware of conversations around you (fair enough) we are already paying for the office (not a real reason, could sublease, we already did with half of it).

  My thinking (they don’t care but) working from home benefits the rest of my family more than it does me. I can bike to work and do. Reclaimed the space in my house that was office, and absolutely ignore work when I’m home. Certainly would not force anyone else to, like my job did, but glad to have a space to work outside my house.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people hate coldplay?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t hate them, but we have a joke, “is that… Coldplay?” when we hear an unfamiliar song, because their music is sort of unremarkable.

  I don’t think they are alone in that, it’s just funny they got so famous with it. I’ve heard them in interviews and they sound like delightful people. Funny and self-aware.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it weird I don't typically answer how old I am anymore, because literally nobody besides my family believes me?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah my brother said you should always tell people you are older than you are, so that they think you look good for your age.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it weird I don't typically answer how old I am anymore, because literally nobody besides my family believes me?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I tell people when they ask, they gasp, but then they forget. It’s mostly people younger than me who do this, though. And when I was 12 people often perceived me as a grown woman (I was tall. Didn’t even have my period yet, just the height and my overall look and face I guess read ‘adult’) but just stayed the same for a long time. I am aging, I can see it. But nobody seems to think I look like their idea of my age.

  We have an intern at our work who does look like a 13 year old. I think he’s 21 or so but really does look like a child. I can imagine it’s annoying.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I deal with a very negative inner voice/second conscience that's constantly loud? It's like I have two different people in my head but they're both me, telling me opposite things endlessly.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Having an Inner Critic is normal, but you seem to have fed it, until you believe it is true. It’s not. I hope your therapy does help.

  You know what’s funny? I have the body dysmorphia, like still cannot see myself as having a good body, and usually mirror or photo just confirms this. But one time my husband took a picture when I was just in underwear, so nearly naked, and I looked so good, it’s like somehow he captured how he sees me. And we have one flattering mirror in the house, I thought it was like a fun house slimming mirror, asked my kids and they were like, no, that is how you look.

  So if you have someone you can trust to bounce things off, that can really help, occasionally others can see past your insecurities and give a clearer view.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do the needs of the many outweigh the whims of the few?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What sort of whims are we talking here? The way you word this it answers itself. The needs of everyone are equal, rights apply to all. If we can’t protect “the few” we are all at risk.

  But if you mean whims like every time I go to the beach someone doesn’t have food for a week, no, obviously I wouldn’t go to the beach until that was fixed.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s infantilizing. I would never treat a grown man that way, nor would I live with a guy who expected to be ‘taken care of’ to that extent. It implies a lack of trust in your ability to take care of yourself. I want a partner, not another child to take care of!

  You are average in this, I would say.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨this 82 year old woman dressing like she was 40 or younger makes me think about how ridiculous I'll look like when and if I reach that age. Am I misguided?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What the heck? How did you jump from her dressing the way she wants, to wanting to have sex with someone 60 years younger?

  My sister in law said she tried to dress “appropriately for her age” and I don’t. I told her I try to dress appropriately for my body type and style.

  What’s the use of living 80 years if you can’t at least wear what you please? And BTW, how do you feel about Dolly Parton then?

  I hope you live to 100, OP.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can you see magic eye pictures?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not usually, no.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is so hard for musicians to have a good living and be famous?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why is so hard for musicians to have a good living and be famous?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Famous is different from working. I have known plenty of artists who just hustle and make a living - singing telegrams, weddings, bar gigs, teaching, they make enough to get by. They are working musicians.

  Then there are all those bands who plug on, famous but not wildly so, I think they are making enough to live on just their band earnings.

  Then a very few who get rich. Mostly those are kids of connected people, not always but often.

  It’s the same with any entertainment industry, right? Average earnings on onlyfans is something like $3 a month.

  And there is just So Much Talent in the world, and people have limited entertainment budgets.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is possible to learn to swim, just by reading a lot about it?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  When I was a dancer - if one of us was injured, they made us come & watch the practice because apparently your body does gain knowledge just by watching.

  But that was with a baseline knowledge already.

  I think it would help, learning about swimming before doing it. More so if you are already physically active in some other way though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  English to Vietnamese or Vietnamese to English is harder than, say English to Spanish or Arabic because the sounds are so very different - I am sure I simply can’t hear some of the different sounds in tonal languages, and had a friend who moved here from Taiwan when she was so young she learned better in English than Taiwanese but still she could not hear the difference between ear and year.

  I don’t think it’s impossible but do think it’s unusual. My dad was bilingual English and Spanish and I wish my parents had done the “one speaks English one speaks Spanish” language immersion but we only spoke English at home.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How can I improve this? It's my current living and bedroom.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Knee pads?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why don't Americans use electric kettles?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Huh. I have. Didn’t know what it was, but heated the water, dropped in a spoon and it boiled over aggressively even though it didn’t look like it was boiling.

  We do use a kettle, this happened at work - the microwave there was a lot stronger than mine, and I couldn’t get the water to look like it was boiling.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon has a warning for incels⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  You know - the only thing you can really control at all is yourself. So it can be true that the world sucks, but making yourself suck is not going to do anything except hurt you, yourself.

  So regardless of the outside circumstances, the best action is always to work on yourself. Generally speaking that does make you look differently at your circumstances too, so that you might be able to improve your situation with some action but even if those circumstances don’t change you are still better equipped to deal with them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨is homophobia associated with homosexual arousal⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Has this man never eaten a sandwich? Pizza? French Fries? Tacos? What is this nonsense?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon describes experience⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Ha! Not religious, but yes from Catholic background both me & husband. I do like kids, and they are all glad now to have such an extensive network of siblings. White mostly by way of Southern Europe on my side, husband mostly by way of Eastern Europe.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon describes experience⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  4 I gave birth to plus 5 step kids - when we married 3 were already grown and 4 were in high school, only 2 were small (and we doubled up on birth control) so we didn’t have an impossible household situation. Enough kids to draw conclusions about the school system though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon describes experience⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I can believe this. Not fake, not gay. The math teaching of the past was so dumb. Even now, I have 2 kids who never got a bad math teacher and still love math; two who did (one teacher who actually thought women ought not get higher education) and those two do not

  And a good math teacher is a treasure beyond words. Mr. Galing, if I could have had you teach my kids through high school I would have taken them anywhere.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The Mayor of Calgary, Canada, just received this letter⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Dishonorable Devin Dreeshen.