TubularTittyFrog
@TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
I don’t believe you. Not sorry.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
Calling out shitty behaviour gets you shitcanned from the group. It doesn’t change the behaviour.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
speak for yourself. my experience is it’s way harder and people are way more stupid and judgemental. nobody cared what car i drove. now people find out I ‘only’ own a Honda and they want nothing to do with me anymore because i am ‘not doing well in life’ if i don’t own luxury car.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
No. We don’t. We don’t have a duty to do anything anymore than women do.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
No. I have a minor in gender studies.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
and if you’re black/Hispanic and you dress in a suit they won’t bother you either.
but if you’re white and tattooed and look homeless, they will.
It’s about class.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
men can be very social and still get nothing but negative feedback.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
pragmatically, most men and most women, who are feminists, think women are superior to men. and you’ll notice their arguments are all about how men should be more like women, and never women should be like men.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
I was completely devastated, but my poor boyfriend kept trying to hold back his tears because he “needed to be strong” for me. Bitch no, cry with me, that was super heavy.
Yes, because most cis het women in this situation would have rejected you. I have been there. I was dumped by a 5 year girlfriend over the death of my father. She was disgusted with my ‘whining’ and thought it was pathetic that I was sad/struggling with it. I’ve never met anyone in my life besides my sister/brother who wasn’t disgusted by expressions of sadness, let alone tears.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
Nope. Not as we age. All my friends moved away, started families, or changed to the point we have nothing in common anymore.
And once you are 30+ it’s really really hard to form close friendships. At best you get to form very tangential/shallow ones.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
they are well-defined terms.
where people argue about it is who can be racist/sexist. a lot of people think it can’t exist against white men or form minority group to minority group. most of the people thinking this way are clueless white people trying to score virtue points. in those people’s minds being sexist against men is a positive thing.
truth is sexism/racism is rampant everywhere. and in some societies its far worse than it is in the USA/Europe.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
One of my female friends bought me a cake in college for my birthday.
Only person who ever bought me a cake for my birthday my entire life (other than parents a s child). No other friend, or girlfriend, ever did that for me. Most of my girlfriends ‘gifts’ to me was usually something they wanted for themselves, like buying me fancy towels so they could use them in my bathroom.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
Yep. It’s also incredibly draining to have to do all the work. Nobody will ever reach out to you first. You must always be reaching out.
I gave up on romantic relationships mostly, because I was doing 90% of the work. And if I wanted a break, I was told I was being a ‘not a real man’. I bought a house and got pets. My pets don’t demand I do all the work for them. They actually communicate and appreciate.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
people who think that all men are underdeveloped cretin sex-monsters. they don’t acknowledge that they are people/individuals.
only women get that status in their minds. Increasingly, as a man, i find it harder and harder to find people of any gender/sex who don’t want to lecture me about my maleness and how evil it is. Shit’s weird. fewer and fewer people care to see me as a person.
especially on the dating market. holy moly… the horrible hate so many people have towards men there is wild.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
themselves
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
they both exist. but the male one makes people angry so it gets more engagement. it’s also framed as ‘men are losers who need to do better in life’
the female one is often framed as ‘women are too successful for men’.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
feminist has never been a coherent set of beliefs of messages. it’s a clusterfuck of viewpoints.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
most white men don’t have much social privileged.
it’s only the top 5-10% who have the privledge
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
In the 2000s I could go out drinking for an entire night for like $20. Or I could hang out in a cafe with a sandwich and a coffee for $10.
Now two beers is $25 and that’s an hour if you nurse them slow. Wanna hang out for 2+ hours anyplace? Goign to cost you probably $50-100. Even bowling a frame is now like 75/pp in my city
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
that would be acknowleding that men and women are different and that’s bad in 2025, apparently.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
Or it’s more about the inability to form community/family units that are so essential for human flourishing. For men and women both.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 2 days ago:
Lots of men out there just being men
True. But nobody cares about them because they aren’t bothering anyone. But they do get lumped in with the controversial men.
Like I don’t have much of a clue about Tate or any of that stuff. But if I tell people that then I’m guilty of ignorance or something and I need to ‘educate’ myself about that stuff so I can… denounce it? Because apparently just not knowing or caring is complicity or something.
- Comment on First time posters be like 3 days ago:
Like, 30 minutes in. So far the front page is a breath of fresh air. Reddit is unusable as of a few months ago. Just trash on top of trash.
until some weirdo mod joins the sub and decides to ban you for posts you made elsewhere 5 years ago
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 3 days ago:
It’s socially acceptable to hate and be biased against men. Especially white men, and especially working-class white men.
That’s really all it is. If white women had a loneliness epidemic we’d never hear the end of it. If non-white women had a loneliness epidemic, we’d never hear about it.
It’s all about who controls the media.
- Comment on nooo my genderinos 6 days ago:
And i’d fundamentally disagree. plenty of curious people use their curiosity to perpetuate and develop new forms of bigotry.
history of science is loaded with people using new concepts to perpetuate and reinforce racism, sexism, etc. and that is still very much done today.
- Comment on nooo my genderinos 6 days ago:
have you taught?
anytime you give people a new metaphorical hammer, they want to go around banging everything they can with it. then they get bored and forget about it.
- Comment on nooo my genderinos 6 days ago:
relativity only applies at large scales and quantum at small scales.
- Comment on nooo my genderinos 6 days ago:
purity.
as in whether it applies to the real world is entirely a symbolic construct
- Comment on nooo my genderinos 6 days ago:
plenty of animals can gender swap, be hermaphrodites, or produce asexually.
- Comment on do what you love 6 days ago:
a lot of jobs dont need qualifications.