TubularTittyFrog
@TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
yeah, i had some friends who lived at home for a couple of years after college… all they did was complaint relentless about their parents. but they also just refused to move out because they didn’t want to pay rent or have roommates and would tell me I was a chump for paying rent and have roommates, and then I’d say how not living with your parents is the best. and they’d get so mad at me and not talk to me for a couple of weeks.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
the illuminati
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
does he legit have that debt? or are you just generalizing? most people don’t have 100K of debt… some people do and those folks aren’t smart people and their bad choice making tends to compound their situation over time.
I had 35K of debt, and paid $15K of it off in two years on a 30K job, because I made it a priority and I didn’t want to be poor forever.
A lot of bad parents enable their children’s bad choices and they have to live with the consequences. His parents taught him to be entitled and rude probably because they did not practice discipline or punishment for poor actions. But you’re right it’s none of your business really. You can’t fix anyone else’s bad choices. It’s not his generation, it’s just him.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
feelings aren’t actions man. you can sit around feeling your feelings all day, I’ll be taking action and taking charge of my life.
- Comment on Anon is only a little strange 2 days ago:
they are parasocial.
it’s a replacement for watching videos with a friend.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 3 days ago:
they aren’t going to open the door either man.
you can’t help people who don’t want to help themselves.
though on lemmy people think a political revolution is going to like… magically fix people like this… but the only person who will is themselves.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 3 days ago:
because it works perfectly fine if you’re not a helpless moron, that’s why.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 3 days ago:
other people pay your bills for you.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 3 days ago:
my own experience is fake and gay.
so you got that.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 3 days ago:
probably end up homeless
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 3 days ago:
you can do this own your own without the government. there are plenty of places like temp agencies that do this already.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 3 days ago:
yeah, this is likely more a case of fighting/ignoring mom and dad and them finally bringing down the banhammer.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 3 days ago:
Depends on how you define it. I knew a couple of guys who just grew up and did a boot camp and got programmer jobs, or took a job with their parent or friend of parents company. Also a few women, and one guy, who just married a wealthy spouse so they could continue to be moochers forever. One or two had their parents move out and give them the house while they did low-wage work.
I have never known anyone of the ‘basement dweller’ variety though, these are all wealthy folks from wealthy families who had tons of social connections. I met them in college/graduate school.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 3 days ago:
I know people like this. Knew a fwe people from college who were only their parents payroll until 35.
Basically it was just the arbitrary age at which they felt ‘adulthood’ should start. For me that was basically 18, for others it was mid 30s, for some people, it’s never.
And in my experience it’s largely a function of how much wealth people have, like wealthier folks give their kids way more runway because they can afford to support them for longer period of time with minimal impact to themselves.
In my demo it’s not living at home, it’s people who spend their 20s working low-age jobs but living high-wage lifestyle due to parents paying their rent and other major expenses. And usually when they do get cut off… they transition to a high paid job via another degree, or they get married.
- Comment on How to deal with people who obtusely miss your point on Lemmy? 6 days ago:
I don’t understand how neurodivergence has become a competition.
People just seem to self-diagnose to excuse their crappiness and like the worse you convince yourself you are adhd/autistic the more crappy you can behave.
- Comment on Anon follows the rules 1 week ago:
i’m just seeing if you come up with an insult/name that is funny.
Like why don’t you call me a Ugly Chicken Nugget Fucker? It would at least be creative and kinda novel.
- Comment on Anon follows the rules 1 week ago:
you’re the one using playground insults? you are talking about yourself. giving yourself a little pep talk here it seems.
- Comment on Anon follows the rules 1 week ago:
you’re the one calling me names.
and telling me to shut up.
maybe because you have nothing of substance to say in reply and it makes you very angry and it causes your brain to feel not so good and you want to lash out?
- Comment on Anon follows the rules 1 week ago:
“let me tell you about how much I don’t care about what you say”
are you sure you’re not projecting your own anger here? entirely?
Community has nothing to do with it. You are either independent, or co-dependent on someone else. It’s a choice you make.
But lemmy here tends to hate the concept of choice and responsibility, because you know, everything is an evil conspiracy by billionaires… lol
- Comment on Anon follows the rules 1 week ago:
Cool. I don’t. I fucking love being independent and most independent people I know love it too. The most unhappy people I meet and have known were those who were co-dependent on their families, even if they were living alone, because they never developed emotional of fiscal dependence and a self of autonomy and self-actualization…
I don’t have a lack of a sense of community at all. But I go outside of my house and do fun shit at least 2-3 times a week. I don’t sit around on the internet complaining about how awful the world is and how awful my life is… weird how that works! Weird how being an independent self-actualizing adult is a really positive thing that makes life happy… and the alternative makes life miserable.
Almost as if you want to feel good about yourself you should… go outside and participate in life.
- Comment on Anon dates a gymnast 1 week ago:
i dated a gymnast once, but she was injured in and in recovery.
- Comment on Anon follows the rules 1 week ago:
Glad it works for you, for other folks, like myself, it would be a waking nightmare to live that way. Not everyone gets along with their family. For some people, being away from family is the only way they can be healthy and happy.
Further, again I"m not talking about multi-generational households by free choice or other cultural practices. I’m talking about people who are dependents, like they can’t function without their parents money or approval, and often are in toxic and abusive relationships with each other, where both parties would be better w/o the dependency.
- Comment on Anon follows the rules 1 week ago:
I’m talking about emotional and financial co-dependency, like people who can afford to live on their own, who don’t choose to do so because they are unable to leave the nest.
- Comment on Anon follows the rules 1 week ago:
should’ve speed run it and knocked her up at 16
- Comment on Anon follows the rules 1 week ago:
are you sure about that?
People these days seem to loathe being independent adults. The amount of co-dependency on parents I see in 30 something adults is fucking mind-blowing.
- Comment on Is Anon the asshole? 1 week ago:
the AITA on reddit is one of it’s most popular things, and lots of people farm content from it.
because people love judging the shit out of other people and explaining how awful they are. or justifying their assholery.
it’s arm chair quarter backing other people’s relationship drama.
- Comment on I need a break 1 week ago:
nobody is a victim other than the yuppies, who are mostly victims of themselves.
- Comment on What's one cliche "Moral of the story" in media that you hate more than anything else? 1 week ago:
yes it is, because in this example the deaf folks what to prevent their children from hearing.
people don’t want to let others make their own choices or live their lives, they want to force them to live their lives as they would.
- Comment on I need a break 1 week ago:
The point is you think I’m an asshole, and I shoudl agree with you.
OK random internet person. You’re such an expert on everything, clearly. And it’s not you being the asshole at all here, at all.
- Comment on Anon watches a documentary 1 week ago:
will be wild in a decade when there are no fat people left because GPL-1s will be everywhere and generic and cheap.