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- Comment on Fascism bad. 5 days ago:
I would also add that there is somewhere between 21% - 25% of the American population is functionally illiterate. This means that people can read short messages, texts and headlines if they focus, but are basically incapable of comprehending and internalizing written material more abstract or complicated than a meme or tweet.
The far-right MAGA conservatives who are ride-or-die with Trump no matter what happens also seem to line up pretty close to this percentage. I don’t think anyone has done a direct study of a connection or even correlation, but I would put money on the bet that the Venn diagram is a perfect circle.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
Username checks out.
- Comment on happy international womens day💜 1 week ago:
It’s called “bait” and it’s what 90% of the internet is now.
- Comment on Avocado. Is it really so untasty or I am doing something wrong? 1 week ago:
Kind of like how reddit is overrun now with AI that keep posting questions to those “Peter, explain the joke” type subs which have absolutely exploded in the last few years, I think more than a few are spreading out of containment.
At least I hope so.
I would literally prefer the creepy, unnerving idea that artificial entities are prowling our forums trying to learn about humanity than the idea that there are people out there who can’t figure out the most basic things.
- Comment on The Helldivers 2 Community needs to get a fucking grip on itself 1 week ago:
I’m happy I don’t take part in gaming “communities.”
Have a few people you know in real life you can game with. Stop reading forums and youtube shorts and streamer takes on gaming. Seriously, just fucking stop.
Play games you like, read reviews if you must, but buy fewer games, play games less, make more friends, socialize, get the fuck out of your gaming chair, you’ll never be a famous twitch streamer. Your life is flying by while you’re lost in Helldivers 2 drama.
- Comment on there is a special place in hell for these scientists 1 week ago:
Yah this isn’t arcane mad science, it’s just using organic chemistry to make simple processors. We’re as far from “growing a conscious brain in a jar” as we are from traveling to Alpha Centauri.
- Comment on there is a special place in hell for these scientists 1 week ago:
They just made a basic microcontroller out of organic chemistry, relax and learn even basic science before you get bent out of shape by the next sensationalist clickbait headline.
- Comment on there is a special place in hell for these scientists 1 week ago:
Yah but the visuals of “growing a human brain and trapping it in hell” gets a lot more clicks than “We made a very basic microcontroller out of organic chemistry.”
- Comment on I just want juice, is that so much to ask? 1 week ago:
I’ve heard great things about flavored sparkling water as a beer-alternative, unsweetened or lightly sweetened. I can’t recommend quitting drinking enough. It gets harder and harder to break the habit and makes you have a great big ol’ belly that won’t go away easily. (Fruit juice and other carbs will do the same thing. Sugar belly sucks.)
- Comment on Xbox as a platform is officially dead 1 week ago:
Well, to be more correct, if they see a venture of tactic of theirs isn’t paying off as their delusional AI’s told them it would, we can at least get them to scrap that direction and try something else. We’ll never actually “stop” them, but we can use the thing we have, that they want, to at least direct them away from the places that they are causing harm to things we want to preserve.
I am under no expectation of this happening at all, we have hundreds of millions of families who will throw whatever new, shiny, mainstream tech-toys and “blockbuster” releases at their kids as a babysitter, those are the breadbasket of the tech and entertainment companies.
- Comment on Xbox as a platform is officially dead 1 week ago:
This is just the needle pushing more towards subscription models for all the things.
In a few years you won’t own games or game systems, you will have a controller to the side of your monitor and all your PC functions will be outsourced to a microsoft server and your games will be streamed to you according to whatever subscription tier you’re on.
If you all want to stop this, STOP BUYING NEW GAMES. Just put the stupid fucking companies out of business, we can “acquire” plenty of PC games for our PC’s and there are vast numbers of used games out there, alongside whatever is kicking around in our steam libraries that we didn’t have the attention span to even try. Let’s go on a spending diet and enjoy the lives we have for a little while until the oligarchs all starve.
- Comment on I just want juice, is that so much to ask? 1 week ago:
Cheap fruit drinks have been this way for the last half century, probably longer.
There’s not going to be a major health difference between chugging this shit and fruit juice in terms of how much sugar you’re taking in, your body doesn’t really care where the sugar comes from, it acts the same inside you. An 8 ounce glass of Welche’s Corn Syrup versus an 8 ounce glass of fresh squeezed orange juice are both going to be basically 8 ounces of candy. The orange juice just has more vitamin C and maybe some pulp to slow down the sugar spike in your blood if that’s an issue for you.
“Real” fruit juices might have added vitamins or even some amount of fiber, but fruit juice in generally not a healthy drink. It’s an alternative to other things like soda or alcohol but you don’t reach for a fruit juice bottle for daily hydration. Drink more water, then whatever sweet treats you want on occasion.
- Comment on I just want juice, is that so much to ask? 1 week ago:
You can even go to the produce section and get relatively fresh made juices and smoothies, pasteurized and safe and in almost any flavor you want.
If you want to pay $1.50 for a half gallon, then yeah you’re going to get 10% shit.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
The hardest message you will ever try to get someone to digest, particularly cis men, is that appearances are secondary in dating and relationships.
I have been using examples of how our minds reinterpret visual appearances and how subjective our whole world is for decades, and still most guys who are overexposed to dating forums and men’s communities will absolutely rage at the idea that it’s not their physique or jawline that will make someone attracted to them, but how they make someone else feel.
And right now, people I talk to in younger generations are pretty honest when they tell me that they have no idea how to make someone feel good around them, that the very idea terrifies them, and it varies from abject rejection of the notion to responses that it feels like “manipulation” to make someone comfortable around you… so is it any wonder people are basically giving up all over the world, and new relationships and sexual encounters are basically flatlining everywhere.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
Instead framing flirtation as a (metaphorical) playful whisper of interest. It should be like a scent you wear: light, discretionarily used, inviting, and yourself.
This is so true, and exactly like cologne or perfumes, a lot of people, guys especially, do NOT get it and really overdo it and then wonder why it’s so hard to meet people and date.
What you’re describing is a kind of subtle and nuanced interplay that people explore with each other when they feel good and have minds that are somewhat on the same wavelength.
I think we have a huge problem in the modern world with a lot of guys, particularly neurodivergent, who have a much harder time not approaching social lives and relationships from a mechanistic, procedural perspective and speaking as someone neurodivergent myself, I totally get it, but it takes work to overcome this kind of thinking and “let go” enough to enjoy the process and treat it more like a lazy, flowing river, than a switchboard with dials and levers to pull.
This is why the Andrew Tates and Redpillers and so, so many of their adjacent “movements” caught on like wildfire in a growing population of guys with less social interaction as they spent more time online instead of learning outside with trial and error. The promise of a manual, an instruction book that lays out steps.
And it’s been devastating to our communities, our cultures and our social bonds as a species.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
100% this, you shouldn’t even have expectations, the term “flirting” shouldn’t be in your mental language, you should approach socializing in a different way instead of labeling interactions.
“That person is nice, fun and attractive, I want to say something that will make them feel good, because they deserve it” is a far better approach than “What magic words can I say that will make them horny for me.”
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
Every comment you made in this post has basically been agism wrapped in a cultural mask. I get you’re mad at your parents but you’re also going to be old someday whether you like it or not.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
The best advice I’ve gotten and given about flirting, is to not think about flirting, don’t think about the relationship game, don’t think about outcomes or consequences, instead focus on being just a little more bold than you’re normally comfortable with.
Don’t even try it if you’re not already getting more comfortable chatting and hanging out with people. Flirting is just friendliness with confidence. You have to walk before you can run. It also helps to have at least one person you trust enough to tell you where you’re being weird or how you’re coming off to new people.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
Yah because young people are absolutely killing it in the field of being social, forming communities and starting families and friend groups.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
While I get the sentiment about comradery and connection through the focused goals, intense time investment and hardships that military training gives you… I think I’m going to recommend people find ways to connect that don’t lead to potentially murdering Iranians or getting murdered by drones in the wreckage of Tehran or wherever we decide to “freedom” next.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
You do need to make an effort, though, instead of excuses.
This really needs to be said more often, I don’t know what’s going on out there but I see this “I can’t make friends” sentiment all over the internet, but out in physical space people aren’t just going to “click” with you, you have to put in effort, use judgement if you’re putting in the right effort for the right company, and you have to decide what you’re setting aside to invest in this goal.
“I don’t have time to do ____” surely applies to a lot of people and situations, but in my time coaching I always had to tell people that you don’t get good at something without making the time to actually work towards it, and making that time is always going to be a you problem. You have to decide if that 2 hours you spend “unwinding” after work is really doing you more good than hanging out somewhere and socializing or even just trying new things.
I get being tired, we’re all fucking tired. But it doesn’t fix itself, all you can really do is force your body and brain to adapt to new kinds of stimulus and activity, which it will readily, you just can’t have both… you can’t spend all your spare time gaming or scrolling and expect you’re going to also be able to instantly shift gears if someone calls you up to go have dinner or play airsoft or go hiking or something.
- Comment on big facts 2 weeks ago:
I’m so tired of this mainstream propaganda.
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- Comment on big facts 2 weeks ago:
Big Stillness doesn’t want you to know.
- Comment on It's literally science 2 weeks ago:
The last time I hired a few people to help me move, I gave each one an extra $30 just to get themselves a goddamn back brace, that shit makes me worried when I see young people yanking heavy shit around like it’s not doing anything to their bodies.
- Comment on It's literally science 2 weeks ago:
Stretching too, it doesn’t have to be complicated like yoga, just find a doorjamb and put your arm against it or push against a wall or something, try to touch your toes, raise your arms, breath deep and hold your positions, don’t wiggle or lunge, just stop where you feel a pull and hold it, try to cover all your major support areas.
- Comment on Incel propaganda in my music app 2 weeks ago:
No you’re right, the only way to win the game is to not play.
As long as you’re staying aware of what you’re taking in, and you regularly think about how you’re thinking, you’ll be miles ahead of the broad swath of humanity.
- Comment on Incel propaganda in my music app 2 weeks ago:
That’s a good point, what do we choose to feed ourselves? There’s massive industry built around people’s food diets and almost no attention paid to what our media diets are like and what they’re doing to us.
I think at the end of the day we all need to really understand how maliable our brains are and how easily we can change the way we think just because of the stuff we’re watching or listening to, and this has been an unpopular topic for a long time because it makes people worry that what they enjoy might not be good for them, but I think as long as we stay aware and keep our diet varied enough we probably will do a lot better than people who just mindlessly draw emotions from people shouting on Twitch streams all week long.
- Comment on Incel propaganda in my music app 2 weeks ago:
I found a number of really good rising streamers and progressive advocates back in the day by watching Charlie Kirk debates and probably became a lot more involved with further left politics than I would have normally if it wasn’t for Charlie Kirk.
Truly, we still carry the flame. 🔥
- Comment on Incel propaganda in my music app 2 weeks ago:
This is basically all of media now, there is no such thing as objective media of any kind anymore, everything produced is meant to pander to some group or another.
Even if we accept the passing of the internet, we have to also understand that this is how it’s going to be always, forever. Unless social attitudes broadly change, this is just what the world is going to do with recordable content from now until eternity.
Everything you see, no matter your political ideology or attitude or values, is cultivated and selected just for you to reinforce your beliefs even if that reinforcement is inaccurate.
A few of you reading this are going to frown and downvote and roll your eyes, and to this I warn you: the more you think you’re outside of this system, or the more you think you’re invulnerable to manipulation… the more vulnerable you really are.
- Comment on Cows are magnetic and it's about time we accepted that 2 weeks ago:
I’ve never known someone who lived around farm animals who doesn’t have at least one story about either a giant boil or having to reach shoulder-deep into an animal to save it’s stupid life because it ate something dumb.