ameancow
@ameancow@lemmy.world
- Comment on This world is cruel… 2 days ago:
There are a lot of girls who enjoy role playing games, both digital and traditional.
The key to not blowing it with them, is don’t be a stereotype.
- Comment on I'll take two Pedros with a side of Henry 5 days ago:
Best way to do that is to be somewhat muscular.
And even then, guys, really get your fucking expectations and entitlements and just like, take them and shove them all into a duffle bag, squeeze any fragile ego you might have laying around in there too, and just throw that thing down a well and forget about it.
Seriously, if you can just “let go” of all the things you wish you had involving dating and relationships, and just learn to enjoy life and enjoy being around people, you will be a thousand, million times happier than the dudes who spend all their time trying and even succeeding to get laid when they want it.
If what you’re doing is frustrating you and making you unhappy… change. That’s your greatest power, just change. Go somewhere else, change what you want, change who you are and be genuine about it. (When you stop caring, it also has the bonus effect of making you cool, and thus wildly attractive to people who get to know you.)
- Comment on "The American experiment endures," Biden said. "We're going to be OK." 2 weeks ago:
He just means technically we will probably survive. Maybe.
- Comment on Microsoft CEO's pay rises 63% to $73m, despite devastating year for layoffs 3 weeks ago:
Wow, I’m amazing you found this comment I made specifically about you. I’ve been following you around for weeks trying to find ONE place where you wouldn’t see the lies and slander I’ve been trying to spread about you specifically. Curses, one day I will manage to find a place to tell lies about you where you will never find it.
- Comment on Eat lead 3 weeks ago:
The problem with this argument from the fundamental level is that 99% of religious zealots don’t give two shits about your science or facts. There is a whole segment of the human population that has no mind for factual information and just decides to believe whatever they feel.
There is no real arguing with these people, they don’t care about evidence or science, I am quite convinced they don’t even understand things the same way as other people and don’t have an internal mind-voice that works the same way as other people. It’s just a totally different conscious experience, and despite making full use of our science and technology, they don’t exist in a world where that matters.
The hard part about this understanding is you realize there’s no resolution. They can’t be changed because they’re not unsatisfied with their world. A smart person is never satisfied and will always ask questions and even ask questions about the questions. Not these people. They actively are annoyed by questions and even see learning things as a kind of sin or spiritual crime.
So lets save our collective energy and instead focus on making classrooms better funded and knowledge available and unavoidable for the younger children growing up in this world and still developing their minds. I was pulled out at an early age simply by finding a few science books, others can be too.
- Comment on Microsoft CEO's pay rises 63% to $73m, despite devastating year for layoffs 3 weeks ago:
We can’t even get people to go outside and meet live humans for sex anymore, everyone has switched to online apps for dating. People order food and groceries because we learned from Covid we don’t need to actually interact with other people.
Does anyone actually expect us to mobilize and topple powerful financial institutions? We have the most comfortable society on Earth in the US. Despite how miserable everyone is, nobody wants to leave their soft chairs and giant computer monitors and immersive video games and discord chat channels where you can mute and block anyone you don’t like. The only thing that could possibly change our course at this point would be some transhumanist/singularity nonsense like artificial general intelligence being developed and wrecking the economy.
But that’s tech being developed and controlled by the wealthy elite, so my hopes faded long ago.
- Comment on It's a matter of perspective 4 weeks ago:
Originally it was supposed to be an optical illusion that looks like three or four rods from different angles.
This edit has changed it to be just literally three. It’s a joke on certain people denying reality.
- Comment on Anon has a back injury 5 weeks ago:
Hey, aim for the moon, if you miss you still hit the stars! Or something.
Just please, please take it slow and stretch a LOT and don’t force it, you can seriously maim your back if you force it. There’s probably some yoga exercises you can look up online.
- Comment on Anon has a back injury 5 weeks ago:
I can’t believe this old hoax is still being circulated. This goes back pre-internet as one of the first viral memes.
- Comment on Anon has a back injury 5 weeks ago:
For the curious, I did know someone who said they could do it. We didn’t have long conversations about it or anything but he said all you need to know.
“It’s more like sucking dick than getting your dick sucked.”
- Comment on Anon finally touches grass 1 month ago:
I suppose everyone is different, but most people tend to agree that photos are often misleading in one way or another. Typically though, photos tend to flatten features and as you said, accent and display flaws for people to stare at, whereas in real life, people are “alive” and dynamic and you see that “flaw” was actually just an angle or photo-artifact, and people’s expressions can provide a sense of dynamic life and motion that most people find more agreeable on an aesthetic level.
But more than anything, face-to-face socializing is incredibly important because when you get to know someone, their appearance changes.
Not a deluding-yourself kind of way like some people think, but literally your sense of what you find appealing will change. This is why again, social friend groups are the best places to meet people, you don’t have to feel as insecure about your appearance if you can socialize and make friends, people will associate you with positive feelings, and you them, and you will all become familiar and attractive to each other in one way or another.
- Comment on Anon finally touches grass 1 month ago:
And now the park security is approaching with tasers. I guess playgrounds aren’t considered America!
- Comment on Anon finally touches grass 1 month ago:
Things people think about when they haven’t learned to manage obsessive rumination in their own minds and live every day with a kind of stress or misery that few people who are even slightly healthier can even comprehend.
- Comment on Anon finally touches grass 1 month ago:
Between strangers, yes. For social groups, people tend to stop seeing each others looks as they get to know each other. This is where people’s advice to work on your personality is necessary. If you’re not out just expecting random people to approach you because of your looks, you’re going to be waiting around for a long time unless you’re blessed with the incredibly small chances of being born gorgeous.
If you go outside more you also notice that there aren’t a lot of gorgeous people in the real world. (No, Tinder, clubs and other places where people LARP don’t count as the real world.)
- Comment on Anon seeks enlightenment 1 month ago:
Dead serious issues that I expect to see addressed in the VP debate.
- Comment on Anon seeks enlightenment 1 month ago:
Then everyone clapped. That clap’s name? Albert Musk.
- Comment on He must be stopped! 2 months ago:
containing loli
It wasn’t containing loli, it had generic hentai and some horse stuff. I was there and saw it, about 1000 hate-watchers immediately screamed “LOLI” and it stuck.
I think to be fair the artist was a known artist who had done loli, but people don’t necessarily save porn based on what other works the artist has made. It was pretty desperate, people REALLY need to hate people who have different opinions.
- Comment on Anon is obsessed with Family Guy 2 months ago:
Wait til we get started about Sonic.
- Comment on Do I need to store this in the fridge when opened? 2 months ago:
My partner’s family from Philippines grew up in a home without appliances like refrigerators, like many, many people in developing countries.
So while now they have every modern convenience, old habits die hard and stomachs seem to adapt to even the most adverse conditions of foodstuffs.
Not mine. I love their cooking but can only eat food that I’ve seen opened or cooked in front of me. They will legitimately leave meat dishes out on the table for two days or more and then simply “reheat” and consider it good to serve. The cabinets are full of things like mayo, cheese dips, opened gravies and open bottles of fruit juice.
I have had some of the very worst food poisoning in my life from inadvertently eating something there like chicken salad that I thought was fresh, but made with hard-boiled eggs that had been sitting on a counter in summer heat for several days that a “friend” brought over so they “wouldn’t waste.”
Of course I’m the only one that gets sick, so I’m the “special one” that everyone now thinks has some terminal illness and treats me like a hospice patient.
- Comment on Crystals 2 months ago:
Fact is, for it to work as a placebo, you need to believe it will work.
What’s even wilder is you don’t have to consciously believe it, you can unconsciously believe it and it will still work! Doctors will routinely prescribe placebos and be very open about the fact that it’s just a placebo, that there is no chemical compound in the medication.
And yet, the act of taking a pill from a bottle seems to trigger something. Recent research has actually identified part of this mechanism in rat brains. There really is a part of the brain that can be tricked into releasing a set of chemicals that relieve pain, reduce inflammation and create better moods. Someday we might have a placebo pill that actually has medication in it. Wildly convoluted!
- Comment on Anon drinks milk 3 months ago:
need to normalize casually drinking milk
I don’t think I or any rational adult of sound mind and health would look at someone drinking a carton of milk and have anything close to a thought at all, much less a thought of ridicule.
The reason you don’t see people drinking milk as commonly as other drinks is that lactose intolerance is a huge thing, and even if you don’t have a genetic predisposition to lactose problems, as you get older it gets harder and harder to digest. This is why milk is often associated with kids, it’s good for growing bodies but not so much for someone who’s already an adult.
Also, it’s not that refreshing. The fat content makes it feel less hydrating than water or fat-free liquids of any kind.
- Comment on Is this normal for girls or just a extreme edge case? (Serious question) 3 months ago:
It seems so obviously counterproductive that the only thing I can think is that they’re enjoying it, like it’s a kink to get into other people’s sex lives and tell them what they should and should not do.
No, seriously. If you spend time in the conservative, christian communities like where I grew up, you hear these people just spend night and fucking day thinking about “sin” and the ways that nasty, dirty, eeeeevil sinners like to sin and all the details about what manner of sin they partake in… and so on.
- Comment on Is this normal for girls or just a extreme edge case? (Serious question) 3 months ago:
Next thing you’re going to tell us is that we SHOULDN’T become absolutely obsessed with the personal habits and sex lives of other people whom I will never meet nor be involved with in any way! Preposterous!
- Comment on Is this normal for girls or just a extreme edge case? (Serious question) 3 months ago:
The best story I ever heard about this was a single dad who had to take his teenage daughter to the doctor because she got an infection from inserting a toothbrush handle or something else that wasn’t sanitary, and instead of giving her ANY kind of scolding or negative judgement, he was very loving and helped her laugh it off, and then he just left on her pillow a $100 gift card to Adam & Eve or some other large, commercial, adult site that lets you buy gift cards.
I don’t think it’s appropriate to even suggest an age here, but I think as a parent you will know when it’s time to have the talk/leave the card.
- Comment on LinkedIn 3 months ago:
I am almost appreciative that Linkedin just overtly embraces the synthetic and manufactured cultural dance we do in business, like nobody expects anyone to do anything but show their most pretentious and carefully cultivated images. You don’t log into Linkedin expecting to see a video of Uncle Jim ranting from the front seat of his truck about immigrants.
- Comment on A kick right in the selbstbild 3 months ago:
I have been involved in “big business” at several times in my life, someone actually gave me authority to build teams and create projects. I discovered that there are different schools of thought about what makes the “perfect team” to work on a project, and most managers go through the hiring process in mind of getting candidates that all are the same, all have the same personality, skillset and background, under the belief that homogeny makes for a more harmonious, predictable team.
Not me fam. I painted goddamn abstract art with a pallet of people. I got the most diverse teams I could, I got outspoken, angry black mothers alongside timid, pasty nerds alongside combat vets alongside immigrant chefs.
It took constant “babysitting” to make sure everyone was getting along and understanding each other, but we kicked ass. It’s an amazing feeling putting together a team that can handle changes and can provide input on things you never thought of and who actually care about the results.
Diversity and inclusion is literally being used like a slur lately and it burns me. Diversity of backgrounds and perspectives is one of the most valuable things you can have around you. The people who surround themselves with people who already agree with them and have nothing new to add may pass challenges, but if you want to defeat challenges, you need a spectrum of perspectives.
- Comment on Anon is anti drugs 4 months ago:
It says a lot about life broadly that any time we invent or devise some kind of system or chemical for eliminating pain, that substance instantly becomes so addicting that we can not longer manage life at all.
Life is pain. Even if you’ve gone numb to it, every moment hurts in one way or another.
- Comment on Mildred 4 months ago:
I used to watch Thought Slime a lot, even donated to them a few times… then started watching videos from the people they’ve “called out” on stream, followed a rabbit-hole of people who were hurt and never apologized to and realized they’re just another youtube dramafarmer clicks-at-all-costs, no discrimination, storyline-crafting liar. Like everyone.
Free yourselves humanity, stop watching streamers.
- Comment on Progress happens with every death 4 months ago:
I cannot fucking stand the fact that we live in the year 2024 and we’re having raging debates about if science has value… ON THE FUCKING GODDAMN INTERNET.
This population deserves the hardships coming, and that’s a really, really terrible thing to say, because the coming hardships are going to be bad.
- Comment on Have rock 4 months ago:
I don’t disagree with anything you’re saying, but it kinda sounds like an engineer trying to make their career/passion into more than a clever trick which comes as a result of learning how to abstract information to better manipulate the world.
“Engineering” isn’t a fundamental quality of the universe, it’s a word we have made up to describe honestly a lot of different things. There’s nothing wrong with calling what humans learned to do “engineering” and it wouldn’t be inaccurate, but I’m saying you can simplify that more, to just the quality we learned, which is how to take information from the past and from right now to synthesize pictures of tomorrow, and then abstract that conclusion to share with others. Being able to share abstract conclusions about future events is a far, far more profound skill, there’s no parallel in nature, not even “kinda” like beaver engineering. Engineering comes from this ability, so I’m just trying to describe the order of carts and horses.