Apytele
@Apytele@sh.itjust.works
- Comment on Anon has a hobby 1 hour ago:
Depends. The reflex can get fucked up in certain long term lung disorders or some people intentionally fuck theirs up for freediving. It’s a contraindication to gaseous nitrogen for death with dignity / MAID.
- Comment on MEGA FLAG 17 hours ago:
I agree. You gotta look at it like when a love theater actor starts pulling red scarves outta their shirt when their character gets stabbed. Obviously it looks nothing like real blood but bruh. Pipe down and enjoy the play, OK? For a while I followed somebody on tumblr who did art of what each species might look like if star trek had way more sfx resources. They were also a massive scaly LOL a looot of the art was garak/bashir
- Comment on Giving out addiction for Halloween 2 days ago:
- Comment on somehow i don't make any progress 2 days ago:
ADHD protip: commit to only setting up the digital workspace as soon as you get the assignment. Set up a cloud storage folder with google drive or one drive or whatever you use with:
- a copy of the assignment outline
- a document in the paper format, complete with title and reference pages
- a folder for reference PDFs or diagrams or quotes or whatever
Not only have I written numerous fabulously scoring assignments on my phone while taking horrifying IBS shits but also–
–one time I set this up for a group project and sent the folder out to the members. A few days later I logged in and one of the other members who also had ADHD had basically completed the entire assignment. Cannot say whether she was shitting while writing it but it’s certainly not impossible. A day after that another group member edited it and it was ready for submission five days ahead of schedule.
The neurochemistry isn’t actually averse to work, you just gotta catch it at the right angle.
- Comment on Is it weird for parents to keep saying "I love you", then asks "Do you love me?" 4 days ago:
!DIYMentalHealth@lemmy.dbzer0.com
I’m not done with it but…
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 4 days ago:
is this? (is it just psych?)
Not at all, it originated in medical iirc
- Comment on Cursed image thread 4 days ago:
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 4 days ago:
System for writing thank you notes to a nurse. They give you a little enamel pin to put on your badge that I’m not comfortable possibly accidentally losing on an acute psych unit. Then about every quarter each hospital gives an award to one of the nominations. So like, objectively, at least a few of my patients feel cared for. It’s just hard to feel that way sometimes.
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 5 days ago:
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Yeah 10 years and a dozen Daisy noms in and I still feel like my foot is constantly in my mouth. You have to walk this horrible tightrope of remembering this is the worst day of someone’s life then emotionally file it under your 400th Tuesday. The cognitive dissonance of that alone is enough to drive you bonkers.
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 5 days ago:
Yeah I feel like it’s one of those things that sounds completely insane unless you’ve been through it. A lot of it was learning how to respond to crazy but I did actually learn a few positive behaviors directly from them. You’d be surprised how much please / thank you and sir / ma’am they use. I also learned to stand a lot taller, swagger a little, and speak from my chest. Like people will comment on how much confidence I display which is wild to me being actually in my own head.
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 5 days ago:
You know I heard a quote one time that said if you’re the smartest person in the room you’re in the wrong room. But at the same time my parents always told me whatever I did I needed to be the best at it. Like they put me in tutoring because my math skills were only one year ahead. My family is all engineers, computer scientists etc. Everybody’s a bachelor’s or above except my one sister who’s specifically disabled.
When I decided on nursing school I was like OK I’m just going to aim for something achievable for me. The content should be right at my level, at least I’ll be able to excel at that like they’re expecting. And the coursework itself was super easy. I had all the chem physics and bio I needed for the conceptual groundwork. I had all the Greek and Latin roots I needed for the terminology. Even the math was actually right on my level (basic algebra, ratio and proportion, PEMDAS equations), I just needed to up my accuracy when I had previously optimized for speed.
But they absolutely humbled me in people skills and emotional resiliency. I actually flunked out the first time for being too emotionally immature. They made me cry on the regular and I just couldn’t get a grip on what they wanted from me interaction wise. It was actually my first shitty job at a psych hospital + going through therapy simultaneously that fixed me. It’s wild to say but I feel like the literally criminally insane men I was working with taught me better people skills than my parents did. I learned so much about respect and what it really meant to uphold a promise through adversity and how to keep my stupid mouth shut.
So. I thought I was aiming low, and I still wound up being the dumbest person in the room.
- Comment on 6 days ago:
Reminds me of Dr. Marijuana Pepsi Vandyck
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Was just talking about something very similar in another community LOL
- Comment on Why conservative men repeatedly crash Grindr 6 days ago:
Loving the diagram. Keep up the good educational work.
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Oh it’s a good one. Like I might use that. Like damn. Say “grow up” but utterly roast the person while you do it!
- Comment on public service 1 week ago:
it’s the only social media I have that still has my real name attached. I use it to keep in contact with old coworkers, keep and host my resume, and I like their daily games.
- Comment on It seems like when I eat meat my ears ring more. Any ideas if what causes this? Not so much with hamburger but more with pork. Thoughts? 1 week ago:
CVSs and Walmarts usually have a free BP check station if OP lives in that part of the world. I second this by the way.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 2 weeks ago:
Meet people: hobby or spiritual community are the two big ones most people meet a partner at. Look up cheap hobbies in particular something like a walking club.
Cheap places to take a girl:
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fish around in conversations for her favorite food. Pick the prettiest spot within walking distance. Pick somewhere out of the way but visible to passerby like the edge of a park. Check the calendar for favorable weather. Bring a blanket, that favorite food, and anything needed to make the environment comfy like an umbrella.
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if it’s just not the time of year for favorable weather book a library or community center presentation room and in addition to food fish around in convos for a favorite movie. Still bring a large blanket and push the tables and wheely chairs out of the way.
Any partner who finds effort over cash undesirable is just not a good fit for your life right now.
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- Comment on Docs used to be cool as hell 2 weeks ago:
Had an micro teacher a long time ago at community college where 90% of his students were in healthcare career tracks. He told us when we’re hometo eat and roll in the dirt and for the most part only wash our hands after the toilet and before eating / prepping food or anything specifically medical like wound care or putting on contracts. …then at work you wash your hands every time you touch something and before touching your face. Said that was the key to a strong immune system.
- Comment on What're your strong opinions from an aged / dead fandom? 2 weeks ago:
It’s not the age gap it’s the raising her / being her caretaker as a small child and having all those surrogate father-daughter moments. Switching suddenly from father-daughter to love interest… 😬
- Comment on Rabbit holes, girl; have you never heard of them? 2 weeks ago:
…am I…♂️…???
- Comment on bold words 2 weeks ago:
It’s still fucked.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
One of my coworkers commented on one of our difficult patients calling the weekend crew racist against them and how ridiculous it was because both the patient and the weekend nurses are black. I was like oh yeah no that’s because the weekend nurses aren’t black (being a cultural term for African-American), they’re African. Emphasis on the not-born-American. That’s different (to people who care about that sort of thing). Is it rational? Not even a little, but racism, despite the claims of phrenology et al, is about as far from rational as you can get.
- Comment on women 3 weeks ago:
I was gonna say that some of this is also probably sentencing bias. Subjectively the correlation seems too strong to not have some truth to it. I also have other data to support male = higher violence risk largely outside of perceptual bias.
As an example from my area of expertise, men complete suicide more often because they typically choose deadlier means (guns especially) vs women are more likely to attempt something like a drug overdose which is more reversible / leaves more opportunity for aborting the attempt. There’s not a lot of room in those stats for perceptual bias, dead is dead and alive is alive. It’s basically a known fact that men are more violent to themselves. I won’t get too much into the stats of violence against others except to say that the statistical predictor tool I’ve used for that in institutional environments didn’t use “male,” it used “male under 30y/o.”
On the other end of perceptual errors almost govern criminal sentencing. Entrusting a group of people to judge an event reduces some but not all of the perceptual bias, but certainly can’t eliminate it. And I do also have my own subjective / experiential perspective that suggests what you do.
When I first started in my field I was told and found to be true that when you’re breaking up a fight between men all you need to do is break eye contact. You get between them back to back with a coworker and if you can’t block their sightline to each other with your bodies you shove one of them around a corner. And that’s it. Within about 30 seconds they’re in tension reduction talking about their feelings in that emotionally constipated way western men do (“he just made me so mad!”). Otoh I was told and found to be true that you let the women go at it until the entire code team arrives from your surrounding units because you’re going to basically have to do a full restraint episode for each woman.
- Comment on Administrative task management 3 weeks ago:
I did this to epic on my charge nurses computer last night and she thought it was magic.
- Comment on Unhinged... I'm gonna start doing that 3 weeks ago:
- Comment on misleading cover 4 weeks ago:
Yes.
- Comment on misleading cover 4 weeks ago:
That’s literally just corruption of champions
- Comment on Our kryptonite 4 weeks ago:
Can’t kill another rock. Just makes more rocks.
- Comment on Hopefully, he will be 6 underground by that time. 4 weeks ago:
Nah he was just quiet senile instead of loud senile. I’ve had patients that are rather agreeable despite low cognitive function. They don’t wind up in the hospital as much and get discharged quicker because the agreeableness means they can accept home caregivers more safely, but they very much still need assistance.
