Apytele

@Apytele@sh.itjust.works

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨public service⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  it’s the only social media I have that still has my real name attached. I use it to keep in contact with old coworkers, keep and host my resume, and I like their daily games.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It seems like when I eat meat my ears ring more. Any ideas if what causes this? Not so much with hamburger but more with pork. Thoughts?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  CVSs and Walmarts usually have a free BP check station if OP lives in that part of the world. I second this by the way.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Meet people: hobby or spiritual community are the two big ones most people meet a partner at. Look up cheap hobbies in particular something like a walking club.

  Cheap places to take a girl:

  • fish around in conversations for her favorite food. Pick the prettiest spot within walking distance. Pick somewhere out of the way but visible to passerby like the edge of a park. Check the calendar for favorable weather. Bring a blanket, that favorite food, and anything needed to make the environment comfy like an umbrella.

  • if it’s just not the time of year for favorable weather book a library or community center presentation room and in addition to food fish around in convos for a favorite movie. Still bring a large blanket and push the tables and wheely chairs out of the way.

  Any partner who finds effort over cash undesirable is just not a good fit for your life right now.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Docs used to be cool as hell⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Had an micro teacher a long time ago at community college where 90% of his students were in healthcare career tracks. He told us when we’re hometo eat and roll in the dirt and for the most part only wash our hands after the toilet and before eating / prepping food or anything specifically medical like wound care or putting on contracts. …then at work you wash your hands every time you touch something and before touching your face. Said that was the key to a strong immune system.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What're your strong opinions from an aged / dead fandom?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s not the age gap it’s the raising her / being her caretaker as a small child and having all those surrogate father-daughter moments. Switching suddenly from father-daughter to love interest… 😬

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rabbit holes, girl; have you never heard of them?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  …am I…♂️…???

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨bold words⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s still fucked.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ariana Grande: The Last Racebender⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  One of my coworkers commented on one of our difficult patients calling the weekend crew racist against them and how ridiculous it was because both the patient and the weekend nurses are black. I was like oh yeah no that’s because the weekend nurses aren’t black (being a cultural term for African-American), they’re African. Emphasis on the not-born-American. That’s different (to people who care about that sort of thing). Is it rational? Not even a little, but racism, despite the claims of phrenology et al, is about as far from rational as you can get.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨women⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I was gonna say that some of this is also probably sentencing bias. Subjectively the correlation seems too strong to not have some truth to it. I also have other data to support male = higher violence risk largely outside of perceptual bias.

  As an example from my area of expertise, men complete suicide more often because they typically choose deadlier means (guns especially) vs women are more likely to attempt something like a drug overdose which is more reversible / leaves more opportunity for aborting the attempt. There’s not a lot of room in those stats for perceptual bias, dead is dead and alive is alive. It’s basically a known fact that men are more violent to themselves. I won’t get too much into the stats of violence against others except to say that the statistical predictor tool I’ve used for that in institutional environments didn’t use “male,” it used “male under 30y/o.”

  On the other end of perceptual errors almost govern criminal sentencing. Entrusting a group of people to judge an event reduces some but not all of the perceptual bias, but certainly can’t eliminate it. And I do also have my own subjective / experiential perspective that suggests what you do.

  When I first started in my field I was told and found to be true that when you’re breaking up a fight between men all you need to do is break eye contact. You get between them back to back with a coworker and if you can’t block their sightline to each other with your bodies you shove one of them around a corner. And that’s it. Within about 30 seconds they’re in tension reduction talking about their feelings in that emotionally constipated way western men do (“he just made me so mad!”). Otoh I was told and found to be true that you let the women go at it until the entire code team arrives from your surrounding units because you’re going to basically have to do a full restraint episode for each woman.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Administrative task management⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I did this to epic on my charge nurses computer last night and she thought it was magic.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Unhinged... I'm gonna start doing that⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨misleading cover⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨misleading cover⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s literally just corruption of champions

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Our kryptonite⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Can’t kill another rock. Just makes more rocks.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Hopefully, he will be 6 underground by that time.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Nah he was just quiet senile instead of loud senile. I’ve had patients that are rather agreeable despite low cognitive function. They don’t wind up in the hospital as much and get discharged quicker because the agreeableness means they can accept home caregivers more safely, but they very much still need assistance.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon changes his strategy⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh “why do good girls like bad guys” is one of those questions of the ages. It exists for many reasons, but the short list is:

  • there’s a fine line between confidence and assholery

  • there’s a bunch of emotions that are neurochemically identical and than can often be misattributed as each other and “scared” and “horny” share most of the same neurotransmitters.

  • daddy issues and other psychosocial toxicity that you probably don’t want anything to do with anyway.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Therapy⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve had a couple of people ask for I stomach what I do for a living (acute inpatient psychiatry) and one of my answers to one of the aspects is that a lot of this was going to happen to them anyway and they may as well have at least one person there who’s been there and won’t be a asshole about it (or any more than I haveto be anyway). Also everybody’s a mental health advocate who wants the poor sweet depressed babies to be loved more until a homeless schizophrenic on PCP starts wiping period blood on their car while yelling about how Obama filled their vagina with spiders.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a culture/country that doesn't have sarcasm in its language?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh I would certainly think it’s the norm but I do wonder if there’s some culture somewhere that really is just that literal. Like shit we don’t know what the sentinelese (but they definitely give a dark sense of humor vibe).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨PB&J⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have a folder of shitpost diagrams that is way too small and I appreciate you helping me add to it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Silver linings?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Tbh the hose / sprayer kind is actually super handy for spraying out the bedside puke bucket. You can also use it for removing the large solids from reusable pads or incontinence garments or pet waste on a reusable or very rudely diy’ed puppy pad. I’ve spent so much time working with toilets that have a pull down nozzle for cleaning equipment that it’s just plain handy to have one at home for when the cat pukes on my favorite robe. You can also use it for a lot of types of food waste if you don’t have a garbage disposal.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨An emotional rollercoaster⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I read it as a reflexive response to behavioral cues. There’s the “yeah I made it here” in the driveway, but as he approaches the bathroom his reflexes to defecate and micturate reengage more fully.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon watches disturbing footage⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It turns out a bunch of CEOs are lowkey psychopaths for exactly the reasons you state and idk that I like where that’s led us. I think the better answer is continually educating people on their both right and obligation to routinely engage in self political representation.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon watches disturbing footage⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Reminds me of that neuroscientist who was looking at signs of psychopathy in brains. He needed like 500 for the study and only had like 487 so he got some friends and family to give him theirs too. When the study was over and they went to unblind the results it turned out he had a psychopath brain. He was like,“in retrospect, a lot of the time I did wonder why other people found (x/y/z) so disturbing when it didn’t bother me at all.” Except nobody who’s ever actually worked with a neuroscientist was surprised at all.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Japan cancels cherry blossom festival over complaints of tourists littering and ‘defecating’ in yards⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Doesn’t matter how famous the architect who made the toilet was if there’s only one of them per 100 people at a tourist event compared to the one per 10 any other time of the year. I’ve seen lots of fancy toilets but none of them have been able to hold 10 butts at once.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Japan cancels cherry blossom festival over complaints of tourists littering and ‘defecating’ in yards⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  right like this is a whole new level of unhinged

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Fuck, can I have a do-over?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I tell people good evening while getting off shift at 7a and good morning while coming on shift at 7p and honestly I must roll with it because then nobody gets on me for not remembering their names.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Man posts his incorrect opinion online⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah I’m US and my parents were always at least annoyed if we wore our shoes further into the house than right by the door.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The cops pay Anon a visit⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This was literally the plot of Blake’s seven except they also installed the memories into his brain and that of the children.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it theoretically possible Trump and ICE are killing a very large number of immigrants (like 25% of those detained) and no one knows?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  A lot of the times our hospital security show up to my deescalation classes after leaving a job in corrections. One of the things we often commiserate on is that they got into corrections and I into the state hospital to try and help other people grow and heal but what happened is that we got caught in a loop of “what am I going to see next that I’m going to have to report?” I’m now working for a psych unit in a regular hospital which still has it’s flaws but none comparable to the state.

  First you see a patient spit in the face of a staff member who has to be physically held back from hitting them (they actually told us we’re allowed to restrain our coworkers if that happens), then you see a staff member get called racial slurs and they get up in the patients face and yell at them and you have to get between them and tell your coworker to take a walk but it’s hard to get them to do that because it’s 2am and there’s no other techs on the unit and they know the nurse isn’t gonna come out to help you before it’s too late. And those reactions make sense and you wonder why they’re packing you in with so many patients that your coworker can’t just walk away. And then you see somebody posture and yell at a patient who’s just all around rude but again it’s 2am and you can’t make it to 7 with just one tech.

  And you also know that you’re going to need to choose the moment that it’s too much and that’ll be the end. Because if you stay after that you become the “them” in the “us vs them” and one day you’re going to face a violent patient at 2am and the tech who’s with you will leave you alone with that patient because “I don’t want you to report me too.”

  And if you’re smart, you get out before it gets that far. One day a nurse asked me what I’d seen happen and I told them (truthfully) that I’d been at lunch and had no idea what they were talking about and they cut the conversation off. And I had no idea what patient or staff member it would’ve been about (as far as I could tell all of the patients were the same as before I’d gone to lunch) so I couldn’t have reported anything anyway. But I had to ask myself if I had seen something what would I have been asked to cover up?

  And anybody who’s worked corrections or for the state will tell me something similar happened to them, or worse. And I just… You either get out or something awful happens. I’m so grateful I was able to get out before I personally got pulled into something. You think you’ll be able to be different but that system is just so much bigger than you.

  And people who are outside of it living their happy lives will tell you they want a better system, but they will never truly be willing to put in the work needed to change it or even give you the resources to do it yourself. Like I’d been a patient at that state hospital previously and went back as a staff member to try and help and being a staff member was just so much worse somehow. I’m grateful that it gave me the experience to do what I do now and be an authority / teacher in the management of violent patients but it was hell while it was happening. No one who’s never been through that will ever really understand.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The man who drove his car into 100 people should be able to drive again, Judge rules.⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  No it would benefit from selling them as slave labor.