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• Apytele@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  (as an aside before I start this comment, me and my partner are both exceptionally blunt on all accounts)

  I’ve mentioned to my partner before that he’s not the kind of attractive I expected to wind up with, but that I’m pretty sure most of that is rooted in daddy issues, so it’s probably for the best.

  I’ve also told my partner that when he makes that very specific devious chuckle (that deep genuine one it’s hard to fake like when I send him a really good meme) sometimes I can feel my vagina make a little sploosh of goo.

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  • felbane@lemmy.world ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    he’s not the kind of attractive I expected to wind up with

    I can’t tell if this is “I’m batting way out of my league” or “dude you’re ugly as sin but you look like my dad so I’m into it.”

    I’ve also told my partner that when he makes that very specific devious chuckle (that deep genuine one it’s hard to fake like when I send him a really good meme) sometimes I can feel my vagina make a little sploosh of goo.

    o_O

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    • Apytele@sh.itjust.works ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Average in a way I wouldn’t normally have chosen if I hadn’t gotten over my weird hangups.

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  • gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    the chuckle needs lube to continue existing

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  • Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    The Southpark Giny Tingle (from “The Ring” episode, if I remember right).

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• sxan@midwest.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Related: I know that incest is currently a popular fetish, but I discovered a long time ago that if a girl looks too much like my sister its an immediate turn-off. It did take me a little while to connect why I found so many models, who seemed to be popular, so unattractive.

  I don’t think I’ve ever meet anyone who looks like mom, so that hasn’t been an issue. My wife resembles no-one in my family.

  Freud claimed all men want to marry their mothers. I haven’t found this to be commonly true, and now I don’t trust “daddy issues” being common, either.

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  • InternetCitizen2@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    It did take me a little while to connect why I found so many models, who seemed to be popular, so unattractive.

    Humble bragging about your sister…

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  • tacosanonymous@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I had an irrational hatred for Thandie Newton and I didn’t realize why until someone pointed out that she looks like my birth mother.

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    • sxan@midwest.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Ok, but: your mom’s a QT.

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  • Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe ⁨20⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Daddy Issues isn’t the same as “marrying your mother”.

    I’ve always heard the former was about having a poor relationship with your father, and the latter about whatever your maternal relationship was like, good or bad.

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  • latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    It’s not, the Oedipal complex is a correlation. The “marrying one’s parent” phenomenon most certainly has a psychological causality somewhere, but it’s certainly not due to a generally applicable Oedipal complex.

    A concrete example, the only relatively comparable thing I’ve had to deal with was tending to swlect romantic parthers based on how familiar my dynamics with them were to me. Having lived in an unhealthy familial environment and with relatively few childhood friends, the only familiar I had was belligerent and punitive. Otherwise, none of my parents, or even from my extended family, are my type. I’m saying this in a literal sense. And this is against a constant, solid background of “like…no, they’re family.”

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    • sxan@midwest.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      I love Lemmy. It’s a place where you can post a comment and not know if you’re going to get a vitriolic anarchist taking exception to how you said something, or a detailed, clinical clarification of a point.

      On Reddit, you get only the first thing. I live for the second.

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    • dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Isn’t it just dead simple in that a mother is caring and gives you the feeling of safety, generally speaking, so you look for that in a partner too?

      So it’s not that you want to fuck your mom but you look for positive traits in a partner that you parents instilled in you.

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• Samsy@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Daughters marry their dads equivalents. (But only if they are in a good relationship to their fathers).

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  • latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Many, many victims of domestic abuse would disagree, I’m sure!

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    • GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Would you say that domeatic abuse victims have good relations with their abusive parents?

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    • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      (But only if they are in a good relationship to their fathers).

      …

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• Jordan117@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  GEORGE IS IN REAL TROUBLE!

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