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- Comment on What age gap is too big of an age gap if someone's in their early 30's? 2 days ago:
while he was a bit “immature” for his age (financially)
Ok this is now my favorite euphemism I’ve seen
- Comment on 2hot2handle 3 days ago:
In this case, though, he’s literally wrong. “Spontaneous” has a precise scientific definition and the astronaut is using it correctly.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 3 days ago:
The fact that everyone here is conflating sex with mental health support is the reason why men’s mental health isn’t being taken seriously.
The comments are taking the lead from the greentext that forms the basis for this post, and taking any greentext seriously is basically the original sin here.
- Comment on 2hot2handle 3 days ago:
I think would’ve even worked in a reference to “it is Kev’s turn to study statistical mechanics.”
- Comment on 2hot2handle 3 days ago:
they are really just pedantic twits that very well could have commented the same stupid thing to a man.
Yes, but men experience this at a slightly lower rate.
So if an astronaut man were to get, say, 10 of these comments, while an astronaut woman gets 15 of these comments, it’s fair to infer that about 5 out of the 15 comments wouldn’t have been made to a man. Problem is that you can’t exactly tell which 5 they are. But you know it’s happening.
Of course, if the ratio is actually closer to 50 versus 10 comments like this, then you’ve got a pretty good sense that 80% of the pedantic overexplainers-to-an-expert are doing it because the original poster is a woman.
And one thing you find for these types of examples with a woman who has clear, unmistakable, objective indicators of expertise (literal astronaut) in the topic at hand is that the ratio is much higher for women than men, in a way that might not have been obvious for lesser credentials (like a high school science teacher). But yet, it still happens.
It’s a name for a phenomenon that has existed for a long time. It’s a concise way to describe that phenomenon, and I still think it’s a good word to have in the vocabulary.
- Comment on 2hot2handle 3 days ago:
This post literally has the watermark of the account that creates/posts these. Other people or bots are reposting them, sure, but they’re coming from some kind of aggregation account that has this particular style of recreating Twitter threads in a space that fits into the Instagram preference for square images.
- Comment on What is "human husbandry" called 4 days ago:
Most organizations just call it Human Resources, or HR for short.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 4 days ago:
among them only 24% talk to friends daily
I think it’s fair to infer that a big chunk of the 76% are still talking to friends at least once a week, at least 1/7 as frequently as the 24%.
I don’t mean to say that talking to friends at least once a week is the only way to be friends, or that it represents a majority of friendships (although maybe it might be). The part of the original comment that got me to weigh in was the idea that speaking once a week with friends was unusual or strange. That, I think, underappreciates how it can be feasible and maybe even desirable to keep in more regular contact with multiple friends.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 4 days ago:
I’m in my 40’s, and I have children. My wife and I both work full time jobs that require regular travel and responsibilities outside of normal business hours.
I have probably 5-10 chat threads in different apps that I maintain with different friend groups. Some are just stupid meme exchanges, but they’re also a regular way to keep in touch with people about their kids, jobs, families, hobbies, goals, etc. But I communicate with dozens of friends on any given day.
My mom also demands regular grandchild content on a constant feed so I actually keep in touch with my family better than when I didn’t have kids.
I have a standing neighborhood parent/kid meetup once a week where my kids get to play with their neighborhood friends while we parents hang out at some local restaurant. We text each other the day of to coordinate a place, and then maybe 3-5 of the families (out of a group of maybe 6-8 regulars and 2-4 fringe participants) will show up on any given week. This is on top of the occasional dinner party on the weekends. We don’t make it to every event, but we are averaging more than one meetup per week with our friends with kids near our kids’ ages.
I’m also friends with people at work. I have a standing monthly happy hour with work friends I’ve kept in touch with, even as people have taken different jobs or made other career changes.
I also do an annual camping trip in the summer with one group of friends, and an annual ski trip with another group of friends. It’s only once a year for each, but there’s also a lot of value in 48+ hour meetups, sitting around with downtime throughout, just catching up and talking around a fire or something.
My parents had church when they were my age. I don’t. But I still try to schedule regular things on the calendar to stay plugged into different groups. It’s important to me, and it didn’t come naturally, but these are things my friends and I implemented in our 30’s when socializing started requiring coordinating calendars. Especially once the friends’ wedding weekends dropped off and seeing out of town friends required coordination without an actual occasion to celebrate.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 4 days ago:
Is it normal to talk to friends more than once a week?
Yes. It’s very normal to talk to several friends per day, and to see several friends each week. Rotating through one’s universe of friends, that might mean that there are a few friends you talk to at least a few times per week, some that you talk to a few times per month, and a some that you talk to a few times per year. And maybe you actually meet up in person a few times so that you’re still seeing friends in person every week.
That level frequency isn’t necessary, but it’s kinda shocking to me that your comment suggests that you find it surprising that many other people are doing this.
- Comment on All while the skeletal, crumbling, dusty bones of an econ major pulls business backwards into hell. 4 days ago:
Yeah but an MBA is also a post graduate degree. A huge chunk of MBAs have undergrad degrees in something like STEM or humanities.
- Comment on All while the skeletal, crumbling, dusty bones of an econ major pulls business backwards into hell. 4 days ago:
10000 times so they preemptively used 4 digits in their username
Wait it hasn’t been shown that this is a decimal system, it might be up to 65,536 in hexadecimal
- Comment on All while the skeletal, crumbling, dusty bones of an econ major pulls business backwards into hell. 4 days ago:
I think this is true of most civil engineering majors I know. After getting their degrees, very few actually ended up working in civil engineering because the money was better in software or other tech.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 1 week ago:
Robert Putnam wrote an influential essay called “Bowling Alone” about the weakening social institutions in American society, and the accompanying rise in loneliness. It was published in 1995 and eventually adapted into a full length book published in 2000.
It’s not new. But the trend lines that could be seen in the 90’s have only gotten worse, as we’ve lost or weakened many of the social institutions that used to keep us grounded in our communities.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 1 week ago:
Similarly, carbon=carbon double bonds in fatty acids can have the free hydrogens either on the same side or on opposite sides of the double bond, and are known respectively as cis or trans fatty acids.
- Comment on what are the grievances with the "male loneliness epidemic"? 1 week ago:
the “all men are trash” type.
On the flip side, I have never encountered this, and would probably say that roughly 95% of the people I know and interact with are feminists.
- Comment on human geography 1 week ago:
“they’re the same picture”
- Comment on do what you love 1 week ago:
This often cited study from 2012 reported that something like only 27% of those with bachelor’s degrees were working in a field related to their major. It’s over 10 years old but there’s no reason to assume that the general broad principles don’t still apply in the modern economy.
University educations have never been intended to be mere vocational skills programs. Being able to research, read, and write critically are important broad skills that are useful in life (including in the workforce), and most jobs out in the world don’t actually require significant specialized education.
People who work in sales, management, design, logistics, event planning, contracting, marketing, advertising, finance, real estate, and things like that don’t need particular degrees to do those jobs, but most of the white collar world has degrees. There’s nothing wrong with majoring in English literature and then going into software sales, or majoring in history and going into logistics, or majoring in philosophy and becoming a journalist. It’s not like you get a free pass to stop learning once you’re in an industry, and keeping up means learning things that weren’t even known when you were in college.
It’s liberating when you realize that the choices you made at 18 don’t box you in for life. You have the flexibility to make career changes into different industries, different roles, different cities, and different employers when you realize that most jobs can be learned as you go.
And most jobs suck, so it’s worth finding something that fits your strengths and ignores your weaknesses, so that it’s just easier for you to do.
- Comment on Anon tries to meet girls at college 1 week ago:
I agree. If this were a screenshot from pretty much any other app/site that isn’t 4chan, the response would be different.
Seriously, if someone were to create an account and tell this exact story on Tumblr or something, and screenshot it here on Lemmy, they’d get completely different responses.
- Comment on Anon wants to be Truman 2 weeks ago:
Does he have sex with his “wife”?
Yeah they mention how the broadcast goes to something else when they’re having sex, and one of the subplots is that they’re trying to have a baby.
- Comment on Anon puts himself out there 2 weeks ago:
Don’t let stigma stop you
Fully recognizing that my initial reaction to the word “stigma” makes me part of the problem.
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 2 weeks ago:
Oh that’s why I’m making fun of him in this thread too.
- Comment on Why people say they have a "boy cat" or a "girl cat" but when the cat grows up, they don't call is a "man cat" or "woman cat"? 2 weeks ago:
Not a lot of cats grow to be 18 years old.
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 2 weeks ago:
Explain how feminism helps men achieve positive behavioral change if it systematically discards any evidence of their capacity for such.
There’s plenty of feminist literature about raising compassionate, empathetic, loving sons.
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 2 weeks ago:
told men don’t feel, don’t love, don’t care
Yes, that’s what feminists mean when we speak of toxic masculinity. Societal enforcement of rigid gender roles are bad for women and men.
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 2 weeks ago:
I thought we post and discuss greentext to make fun of them, not to agree with them.
- Comment on Broccoli Blooms 2 weeks ago:
It tastes like broccoli stems. Some are more tender than others (just like with broccoli stems).
I usually slice into little julienned pieces and marinate it in salt and acid for it to wilt into some kind of modified cole slaw.
- Comment on Anon goes home 2 weeks ago:
Greentext is already a form of poetry
- Comment on anyone have personal experience with industrial tourism? 2 weeks ago:
I once took a tour of an Alaskan oil field operation solely for the ability to gain access to the Arctic ocean, and jump in. They talked a lot about the oil stuff but I didn’t pay that much attention. I was there just for the ability to say I’ve been in the Arctic Ocean.
- Comment on What are the easiest types of internet videos to make that are not slop? 3 weeks ago:
Exactly. I’d much, much rather watch a dinosaur video from someone who really really wants to talk about dinosaurs, and found video as a medium to talk about it, rather than someone who wants to do video and is trying to come up with a topic for the videos he already wants to make.
Same with cooking, comedy, tech, business, current events, politics, etc. I’d rather watch/listen to someone who cares about those things specifically than someone who wants to “create content.”