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I'll volunteer to keep y'all safe from this demon.
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Submitted 1 month ago by Samdell@lemmy.eco.br to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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dumbass@quokk.au 1 month ago
rockerface@lemmy.cafe 1 month ago
Get in the line, buddy
dumbass@quokk.au 1 month ago
Yeah and the line starts behind me, friend.
assembly@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Are doing like a lottery selection or some time of raffle for this?
FartMaster69@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
Thanks doom guy.
QueenHawlSera@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
This is just a succubus with extra steps
latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
Not trying to play the virtuous superbeing here, just trying to get some perspective: am I the only one who finds such relationships… draining? I mean, I like being offered attention and affection, a lot! But this time of relationship feels like having helicopter parents, overbearing.
The occasional surprise meal, or doing the cleaning alone when I’m sick and melting are all fine and dandy in my book, as long as it’s not a constant occurrence and reciprocation is involved - I like returning favours, almost more than I do receiving them.
Again, not trying to virtue signal, I want to understand if this is part of my avoidant bits, or if it’s part of the usual spectrum. Childhood-long fuckery requires lifelong study, apparently.
drosophila@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
I mean, if we’re making up a story about a kind of demon it probably shouldn’t be a healthy relationship.
A succubus sucks your soul out through your crotch, which feels great until it doesn’t. That’s why its supposed to be a scary monster.
The post says, “until you die of natural causes”, but for a counterpart to a succubus I think it would much more appropriate if it was able supernaturally influence you to reduce your worries and make you more and more dependent on it (just as a succubus can supernaturally charm its victims). Gradually you care about less and less as you lose all motivation, and at the end you don’t even bother to struggle as your soul is ripped from your body.
latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
Fair point and completely agree, but I was trying to divorce it a bit from the mythical/greentext framing (sorry if I left it ambiguous!) and referring to the more realistic version of such relationships, namely of the spouse/romantic partner/SO/you name it who plays a dutiful/doting parent for their partner.
In that case, I think outright malicious intent is seldom a direct driver for this type of relationship, usually has to do with either codependence, enforced Old Timey norms, and other such quasi-external/artificial sources. I do agree that the mythology around Succubi is a fine cautionary tale of what the result will be on the doted-upon partner’s end, very hard to develop one’s complexity when little to nothing is required of them in terms of effort in order to exist (not talking about poverty and such, just about normal everyday life stuff, like washing dishes, taking out the trash, cooking, paying bills, etc.).
And that’s what generates the confusion and the need to clarify in me. I understand that the way I’ve been raised hasn’t been necessarily conducive to objective reasoning in terms of interpersonal relationships and I’m trying to figure out if/where there are any lingering points of bias from this perspective within my processing.
RBWells@lemmy.world 1 month ago
It’s infantilizing. I would never treat a grown man that way, nor would I live with a guy who expected to be ‘taken care of’ to that extent. It implies a lack of trust in your ability to take care of yourself. I want a partner, not another child to take care of!
You are average in this, I would say.
latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
Thank you! It genuinely is a load off my mind now that it’s clear I’m not off the mark with this one!:))
And that’s exactly it! Partnership, and that implies equal give and take on both sides (with compassionately compensating for one another when really needed)!
And very well said in terms of trusting one another to be capable of taking care of themselves! Worst case scenario, if it happens that the methods of approaching the same task vary greatly between the two parties (talking about how one washes the dishes, not how often, for example), these things can always be mitigated through clear and open discussion! This is also comes down to trust, as I see it.
Thanks so much once again! Sanity check complete with zero errors!❤️
sunflowercowboy@feddit.org 1 month ago
To answer your question, yes, they are draining.
Why? Well you are living with another, who was not raised like you, live like you, or grew like you. Completely different and in each of these minutiae of differences you can find issues. Essentially it works in tandem with expectations and why they are still wanted.
It gives you emotional comfort, it gives you physical comfort, and above all else you start to form a union. Something so uniequely both of you that you have changed and so have they, in ways you couldn’t imagine alone.
It is your parent and your child. Someone you will care for, and someone who will care for you. It keeps you grounded from flying to high, keeps your mind to consider someone before yourself.
The benefit is the world becoming dominable, while nothing has really changed. A partner is a helicopter parent because you tell them who you are and what you want, they just remind you of your own expectations and keep you faithful to it.
They are just a mirror of your own wants, needs, and wishes. So it is your own actions and words that will reflect.
If it is draining, it is because you have not interacted enough with the world to realize you are always being drained. Finding something of meaning to pour into becomes fantastically magical. Suddenly you are no longer drained, it is a willful action to pour and be captured by a vessel of your choosing.
latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
Oh, I think there’s a misunderstanding, I wasn’t referring to relationships in general, only the ones where one of the partners is expected/insists on doing all of the household/caretaking tasks by themselves, those I find overbearing and draining.
Relationships overall, quite the contrary! I generally find them fulfilling, although I show a tendency to seek familiarity, which means unhealthy dynamics and, frequently, unpleasant endings… That’s 75% on me and my still-mending patterns (because I am aware there are many manipulators who specifically seek out their targets).
And I don’t find the world in general draining, either! What drains me is hate, greed, bigotry, xenophobia of all shapes and sizes, everything driving some of our species to commit horrible acts. But to say that the world in general drains me is to be unfair to the myriad people who are beacons of wisdom, who have that particular spark which lights up a whole room, those who can see even the tiniest details and set them into wonderfully intricate webs of causality!
Not just that, but the world itself is wondrous! I cannot but feel recharged when I see a starry night sky, or a warm summer sunset, sit and listen to the waves crashing against the shore, or just lose myself for hours in meditation listening to rain pattering over everything around me!
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 1 month ago
These types of comments is why I conseder lemmy to be the best of social media.
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 1 month ago
Honestly, people on here would find this hot/great for like a day, maybe a week max. If it goes on more than that, the negative side effects will kick in.
latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
I know for a fact that it’s how it’d happen for me, yes. With a hefty amount of anticipatory “oh, no… oh, I think I know where this is going…”
TimewornTraveler@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
all this means is you’re more well-adjusted than the average 4chan user. congrats on your work
latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
Given the horrors I’ve seen during my online horror tourism days, I’ll gladly take it!=))))
RedFrank24@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I feel like a sloth demon would take it a step further. You’d be enticed to napping, until one day you wake up from a nap, your face is wrinkled, every one of your friends has forgotten you, you’re alone with only the sloth demon. Your life has been wasted away lying in bed.
Remember that time you said you were gonna travel? You were gonna go to Japan, you said. Too late now. You’re too tired, you don’t have any money. All you have is the Sloth Demon.
One day, your girlfriend calls you for your third nap of the day, and little do you know, you won’t be awakening from that nap.
Your funeral has no attendees, at most you’re a minor headline on a social media post about mental health. Your girlfriend? Gone, gone to find her next victim. Sloth Demons may not go through as many victims as their lustful cousins, but they get every last morsel out of them.
RisingSwell@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
You write that as if it’s abad thing but I’m sold already
RedFrank24@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Demons are meant to be tempting!
PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
Remember that time you said you were gonna travel? You were gonna go to Japan, you said. Too late now. You’re too tired, you don’t have any money. All you have is the Sloth Demon.
That’s the wombo combo of depression and poverty.
Shanmugha@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Now that is worth being scared of. Thank you
lka1988@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
So, an energy vampire
Phoenix3875@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Isn’t that what the paradise supposed to be?
toynbee@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Kind of sounds like succubi.
rtxn@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Slaanesh’s sixth circle of seduction: indolency.
Mustakrakish@lemmy.world 1 month ago
This implies your only worth as a human is what you produce or “accomplish” by other’s standards. It’s not for me personally, but there’s very much validity in a life spent enjoying life, and not just for a future success.
Kowowow@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
still if they are targeted they could derail human achievement, promising nasa worker? too bad you goth slothed
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 1 month ago
Explains my life tbh
ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
Yes please.
BeMoreCareful@lemmy.world 1 month ago
It’s all I’ve ever wanted
Frostbeard@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Thats called a Blerch.
Eat the whole cake, eat the whole goddamn thing. You earned it somehow
ICastFist@programming.dev 1 month ago
Yes, I’d like a big tiddy sloth demon taking care of me, pretty please
slingstone@lemmy.world 1 month ago
My wife and I discussed something along these lines today. She said I would probably enjoy a nerdy gamer girl. I told her I’d end up pretty much like the sloth demon victim, completely unchallenged and lazy.
That’s not to say a female gamer couldn’t be a fulfilling, awesome girlfriend for anyone, but I know it wouldn’t be ideal for me.
exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
I learned in my 20’s that my ideal mix of interests with a significant other needs to include:
- Shared interests that we already loved before we met, that we can connect and bond over for that initial spark.
- Her interests that she introduces to me, and my interests that I introduce to her, so that we can build on something together and appreciate how the other has enriched our own lives.
- Some new interests that we can both pick up and grow in together, and further reinforce our enjoyment of spending time together and growing together.
- Our own individual interests that never really click with the other, so that we can each continue to do things that reinforce our individuality and self identity distinct from that particular relationship.
For me and my wife, we already loved food and dining and cooking before we met each other. Easy thing to build early dates around: “have you been to so and so restaurant, I’ve always wanted to check it out.” We also loved a lot of the same TV shows (mostly single camera sitcoms like The Office, Arrested Development, etc.), and had easy couch time for quiet nights in.
She introduced me to style and fashion, and I appreciate a lot of the things about clothing and accessories and even makeup that I never bothered with before the age of 35.
I introduced her to football, and we enjoy going to games together.
We both introduced each other to a lot of musicians, TV shows, movies, and other entertainment we now both like.
We both picked up an interest in wine, whiskey, cocktails, and learned about this stuff together (and have planned memorable vacations centered on the places where people produce that kind of stuff). We also really learned to appreciate architecture and interior design, going as far as to go on tours and visits to specific places and cities and museums for these types of things. We became really particular about silverware and dishes at some point, too, which was a bit of an extension of our love of dining and our love of interior design.
And we still like our own stuff. She likes golf and tennis. I like basketball. I like all sorts of techy nerdy things that she has no interest in. She loves certain types of books and movies that I just do not care about. Our fitness routines have basically no overlap (yoga and spin versus powerlifting and Crossfit-style functional fitness workouts). She likes home improvement and garden stuff and I barely tolerate occasionally doing a few things around the house.
And it works. Having both distinct parts of your life and shared parts of your life seems to strengthen the bonds overall.
billwashere@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Demon? Dude this sounds like heaven.
Kolanaki@pawb.social 1 month ago
isn’t the embodiement of the sin
So it’s not actually a giant slot with big titties like I was imagining? 😩
Lemminary@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Can I get the man version of that? Kthnx
bhamlin@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Don’t threaten me with a good time!
southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
I’m not seeing the problem here…
snoons@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
I think anon might be a bit of an incel…
southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Aren’t all anons?
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 1 month ago
Anon is probably peojecting a bit of his current life in here. Except with no sloth demon mommy, and just on his computer all day.
njm1314@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Ah the dream
Benchamoneh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
I’ll take this one for the team, please send this demon to me.
Predalien@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Doesn’t this imply that the world would progress as nornal, just with demons taking care of everything and all the humans just chilling at home? (Assuming the demon actually works and doesn’t just conjure up whatever it needs to take care of you)
thaddaevs@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Being the president isn’t that a good thing these days… Just saying… 😬
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I’d take a sluth demon. A succubus that doubles as a sloth demon. Monogamous, requires equal amount of cuddling and sex.
WraithGear@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Sorry, but when you say sluthdemon. The only thing i can think about is a demon that after it forces you to watch as it solves crime using deduction all the work making you look too stupid to have solved it.
Bamboodpanda@lemmy.world 1 month ago
This is my life. Plus 2 cats.
ALiteralCabbage@feddit.uk 1 month ago
Try 3 cats, it’s the shit.
My sloth demon wants me to play the new mario kart and eat curries. I have married her.
Bombastic@sopuli.xyz 1 month ago
Anon forgets people actually have jobs.
If a “sloth demon” took care of all my household needs I’d just spend more time doing my job
Korhaka@sopuli.xyz 1 month ago
Why? My sloth demon is covering my needs. Don’t bother going to work, demon covers it.
Coolbeanschilly@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
“If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world.” - J.R.R. Tolkien