ArcaneSlime
@ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Migrating here (or maybe keeping both) from @ArcaneSlime@lemmy.ml
Will put an eternal curse on your enemies for a Cinemageddon invite.
- Comment on Anon questions the epidemic 1 day ago:
I’m down, but where? That whole “not doing social media” thing means no Facebook, where all those local hiking groups would be organizing, or where I’d have to post if I were the organizer (and organizing a meeting then trying to meet a woman there feels sketchy, anyway).
Genuinely though the bar is at the floor for guys right now. If you are well groomed, friendly, and genuinely interested in learning about the specific woman you’re talking to then that alone would bump you up a lot of your potential matches.
Yeah honestly that isn’t my issue, once I get my foot in the door I’m good, but all the doors are locked and I can’t find my pick, the issue is starting that conversation to begin with.
Try going shopping on the weekend; lots of woman are more willing to talk in stores and such when they’re not stressed out from work. If they hold eye contact with you in a friendly way then try saying hi and just chatting to get to know them a little and what they’re out and about for.
Fair enough, this is basically a more succinct and less explicit version of my final conclusion lol. That’s kinda the plan, but most women I talk to (irl or online) seem to indicate that is socially unacceptable now too.
Which actually probably helps the bar being on the floor btw, all the guys afraid of making women uncomfortable and being creepy are not approaching them because they complained and we listened, now the only guys approaching women in public are the ones who don’t care about creeping them out, because they didn’t listen. I’m not saying that’s the whole problem but it has to be some %.
- Comment on Anon questions the epidemic 2 days ago:
Eh idk, my experience with the “male loneliness epidemic” is:
It’s not just about “sex” (which it seems like that’s all EVERYONE can focus on, so I get it,) but also about deeper meaningful connections. Personally, I have a few FWB, I want to fall in love with someone again, though, tbf, the part of me that had the ability to do that could also be dead, kinda hard to tell tbh.
It’s also about (again, for me) the fact that increasingly it seems that the ONLY places acceptable to meet a woman you have not yet talked to are:
A) Online dating services that sell your data, are designed not to give good matches because they want you to stay on the app, and charge a fee for the apps to even be useful, and they’re all owned by one company.
B) The bar. That’s it.
Well, as for A, I value my privacy, and don’t enjoy paying money to have horrible experiences. I run GrapheneOS idek if tindr would run. I don’t even have social media, I can’t stand writing my own bio and don’t take selfies, it’s not a good option for anyone but doubly so for me. Also I’m not Tom Cruise (or whoever you’re horny for just sub them in) level attractive and as such I have to rely on my personality, which isn’t really text and picture based. As for B, I do still drink but not like I used to, and even if I did I can’t afford to go out as much as I used to in this fucked economy, and tbh meeting drunk women doesn’t seem like a good idea anymore, feels like it opens me up to problems I don’t fucking need tbh.
So where does that leave me? Well, common advice is to:
“Have your friends set you up with someone.” Ok great. None of them have any single friends, at least none that have expressed interest in being set up with me, or that I am interested in myself. So, either “pray,” or I could actively make new friends just for the express purpose of finding out if they have hot friends that want me, if not, move to the next friend I can find and try again? Sounds like a bad plan to me. I don’t have the social battery for all that honestly.
“Go to the gym,” you mean the place women complain about being hit on the most? Sure, that’ll help, “idfk how to use this giant machine and I know you just watched me look like a giant idiot, and I know you hate being asked here, but I saw you from across the yoga mat and thought you had a cool vibe, wanna go out some time?” That’s setting yourself up for success right there lol.
“Find a hobby,” yes because when I’m not at work or sleeping I simply stand and stare at a wall. OF COURSE I have hobbies, but not only do “women want to enjoy their hobbies without being approached” also my hobby is hiking local trails and taking pics of (mundane to you but to me,) neat animals like salamanders and snakes. Idk if you guys are aware of this, but women would rather meet a literal bear in the woods than a nerd with a camera, I used to talk to people on the trails but now I just give them a wide berth (unless they’re dudes, dudes are chill). Also like the library, but I’m the only one under 70 (well, and above 18, lots of parents with kids but that doesn’t help me lol), other than the cute librarian I have a crush on (but you’re not supposed to ask them out while they’re working either, and also if she says no it’ll now be awkward every time I go cause I’ll feel like a creep, so she’ll never know).
The real solutions seem to be we need a third place that is acceptable to meet someone and ask them out politely and take no for an answer, or women would need to start asking men they like if it’s unacceptable the other way around, or I need to become gay because as I said earlier guys are chill, you can talk to them anywhere. Unfortunately we’re actively killing third places and the ones still alive women complain about being approached, women so rarely ask a guy out and I don’t think it’s becoming more common, and afaik I was born unlucky on the gayness.
And I mean, am I “lonely?” Idk. I have friends, FWBs, kitties, I’ve had abusive relationships worse than loneliness, so “no” I guess, but also yes insofar as “I haven’t felt real love in about 15 years and it’d be pretty cool to feel that for someone again,” and I’ll guaranteed never find it if I don’t start doing the secret solution: Just say fuck it, fuck you, and fuck what is socially acceptable, just start asking out ANY woman I see/like ANYWHERE, politely and take no for an answer of course, but anywhere. At my job, at her job, at the gym, in Aisle 10, on the trails, fuck it. If I don’t it seems my only option is to pray to a god I’ve never believed in that a lady falls in front of me like goddamn Rufus in Dogma.
- Comment on Cracked version of Marvel Tōkon: Fighting Souls on PC runs better than official release - Variable 2 weeks ago:
- Comment on California just passed a law forcing mandatory DRM in 3D printers 3 weeks ago:
- Comment on California just passed a law forcing mandatory DRM in 3D printers 3 weeks ago:
Printing a gun without a license can be and likely is currently illegal*
*Highly dependant on location, in much of the US it is completely legal, you just can’t sell it.
- Comment on Anon wants tendies 3 weeks ago:
Boom boom acka lacka lacka boom, boom boom acka lacka boom boom!
- Comment on In Open Carry states, is it also allowed to openly carry bladed weapons like Swords? Bow and arrow? 4 weeks ago:
Depends on the state, and even some states that don’t let you carry guns (or cities, like NYC), will let you open carry blades.
Good luck though unless you’ve been trained in the Wu-Tang Swordstyle.
Bows, still depends, less commonly allowed though.
- Comment on [Video] The use of a microphone could lead to an arrest under the UK terrorism act 4 weeks ago:
Uhhh, “nuh uh?” Could be your VPN, unless they recently started blocking them all. Could just be whatever server you were on at the time.
And I mean yeah it is a shitty platform lol, that’s for sure.
- Comment on Just got arrested for a supposed DWI even though I blew a 0.0000000. Don't cops need to read your Miranda rights to you? I asked for a blood or hair follicle test and I was denied. WTH is happening? 1 month ago:
Did they blood test you? If yes, and you hit for weed in a lame state, still get a lawyer, but also good luck.
If you didn’t get a blood test, get a lawyer, you’ll get off. Like for sure. “I work there of course I smell like it, I don’t even smoke I just like affording ‘food’ Your Honor. They can’t prove I was high without that blood test. Rolling stop at best.”
- Comment on What are your favourite PSP games? 1 month ago:
Death Jr. 1&2
Work Time Fun
- Comment on What are the worst ever city street layouts? (U.S. perspective) Charlottesville VA and Lexington KY 1 month ago:
Charlottesville mentioned, “the hottest thing to come out of that stinking little town” engaged:
- Comment on I don't allow crime in my neighborhood 😡😡😡 1 month ago:
Tbf it’s tough to tell the scale from the pic, it looks like it could be a .410 with a .308 in it.
H/o let me tineye…
- Comment on Urine Luck 1 month ago:
Well, that answers that question.
I’d been wondering just how the fuck piss crystals can take a wrong turn at your bladder and end up in your foot, turns out they were in your foot the whole time.
- Comment on I must con(FeS₂), this sparked a laugh 1 month ago:
Tbh, I’ve only ever heard it when talking about camouflage. And tbf in that context it is somewhat true, you’re harder to see if you break up those straight lines.
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 2 months ago:
Lol I feel that, older ladies have always loved me too, and I haven’t historically had a problem with that…
Yacht club is beyond me, but bar milfs we’ve always clicked.
Yeah idk she’s definitely not into it, but I’m not Truman Showing you so I’m at a loss as to why. But that’s the “no” you take for an answer and move on, ask another, fuck it.
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 2 months ago:
Yeah idk what I’d do with that either, idk that I’ve ever had that reaction (if I have I just never noticed). I mean “completely ignore” seems like what I’d probably do tbh, definitely never interact again.
Is that the right move? Fuckin’ idfk lol. But that’s what I’d default to.
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 2 months ago:
Ah well shit, maybe then idk. I have the opposite problem I guess, hard to start a convo, but if I do I can usually keep people around.
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 2 months ago:
Tbf it’s not entirely a skill issue (while still not being the fault of “women”).
The fracturing of society for starters isn’t helping, many people isolating due to that, and phones/social media/doomscrolling etc, many isolated during covid and still haven’t recovered to their old ways, many can’t afford to do shit else these days even if they did want to break out of it, none of that is helping and it’s a serious societal issue bigger than “skill issue” in reality.
Also the commodification of dating isn’t helping any, you have to be on and pay for the hook-up apps as a barrier to entry, or pay for (your own I don’t just mean hers) drinks at a bar, both of which are more conducive to hook-ups than long term partnerships. Short of that “get a hobby, make friends, and hopefully one of those friends will set you up with someone.” So basically if you’re a FOSS/privacy advocate who doesn’t drink much anymore and hates the idea of listing profiles like you’re a dog up for adoption, your only option is to pray.
The only other option is to go back to the old ways: Its a numbers game. Just ask, politely and take no for an answer (and not like, lewd, like ask for a lunch date or phone number or something), but ask, anywhere and everywhere, doesn’t matter if it’s now “uncouth” to ask in say the grocery store, fuck it. If she’s into you it’ll be fine, if not, fuck it who cares worst she can do is be rude and you’ll never have to talk to her again. I don’t do this now because I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable, but so far figuratively praying hasn’t worked and literally closing out bars (has become too expensive ffs but also) has only led to fleeting infatuations and FWBs, and while those are fun I’m looking for more than that, so, we’ll see maybe I’ll try it.
It’s a skill issue to a degree, but also dating has been negatively affected by a general trend of social isolation, the economy being bad, and the same social media brain rot that has affected everything else along with it, on top of that.
- Comment on New Nightmare Just Dropped: '3D' Animated Ads on Trucks in Traffic 2 months ago:
- Comment on Team Snapchat still shows up in my notifications even though I have them blocked 2 months ago:
Delta Chat is a good whatsapp type without phone numbers, if you ever could get them to switch.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Tbf that’s a decent use of tax money imo, and I’m the only one I know complaining about taxes being wasted.
I’m also an (ex) vandal, so I have some perspective I suppose. It’s likely that the tags on the side were done for normal tagging reasons, “I exist, everywhere you look in this city you’ll see my name, yadda yadda,” and they may have tagged the windows, but the real destruction of the windows was likely some very angsty teen who feels like they have no control of their life (and unlike the taggers) their anger makes them channel it into pure destruction rather than the “destruction” with the paint that creates art.
Personally, I love creative destruction, destroying something to create something new is always interesting to me, be it graffiti or an art installation made of old broken CRTs or something, but pure wanton destruction out of anger is a waste imo.
- Comment on The only sport bike that I accepts 2 months ago:
- Comment on FEMA Official Who Claimed He Once Teleported to a Waffle House Is Leaving 2 months ago:
Dude we’ve all teleported to a Waffle House, it’s usually how you end up in that haven for the drunk.
- Comment on Anon judges Karl 2 months ago:
Of course, those 25000 tanks were probably built by Gulag slaves and children, and had shit welds and no QC. Also y’know being willing to kill millions with a famine. Had Poland just done that they’d have bigger numbers too I’d bet.
- Comment on Anon judges Karl 2 months ago:
You haven’t read his letters to Engles huh?
- Comment on I know one of you can help.. 2 months ago:
YES! Thank you!
- Comment on I know one of you can help.. 2 months ago:
Lol thanks but that is a youtube video, the image in question is a still, and it is of letters not Tim “The Tool Man” Taylor.
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- Comment on AI banners: what owner sees vs what I see 2 months ago:
Tbf, something in a store has to be available before you can steal it, if it is sold out or not yet released it’ll be harder.
And really in this context “theft” is like “piracy is theft,” as much as I also don’t like AI, nobody else was deprived of the banner simply because db0 generated it.
And tbf, “well it was trained on actual artist’s work” and so was almost every artist in history, that’s kind of how it works to a degree. The greats separate themselves but a lot of human created art is derivative.
I mean there’s plenty to get mad at AI for, personally I’m not a fan of how people are using it as a brain replacement, how it enables further the ubiquitous spying, how people want it to replace humanity, oh and y’know literal actual murder robots in the form of autonomous loitering drones is probably a bad idea, and coming soon to a town near you. But that said “theft” isn’t super high up on my list, personally.
- Comment on WOMEN. 2 months ago:
“Stupid bitch thinks he’s smart because of his college degree but doesn’t know dick about machining.” Is a less sexist and more accurate interpretation, your degree doesn’t mean you’re better or smarter than anyone else just because they chose another path. This has fuck all to do with sex, race, whatever.
