southsamurai
@southsamurai@sh.itjust.works
- Comment on The classic cycle 4 hours ago:
See, there’s your problem. Picking partners up irl. I’m at half chub from this, you should be online looking for love
- Comment on Does the USA simply have no food safety standard at all? 1 day ago:
Merriam-Webster, copied in for reference.
adjective
Of or relating to health or the protection of health.
Free from elements, such as filth or pathogens, that endanger health; hygienic.
“sanitary conditions for the preparation of food.”
Of or pertaining to health; designed to secure or preserve health; relating to the preservation or restoration of health; hygienic. See the Note under sanatory.
“sanitary regulations”
See under Commission.
Of, or relating to health.
Clean and free from pathogens; hygienic.
Free from filth and pathogens.
“a sanitary washroom”
You’re right, there is a usage of it to mean “healthy” in general, my bad.
However, I hope you can understand that it isn’t the most common usage, and that the bulk of the definitions and usages are pathogen related. Hence me either forgetting or not having run across its more broad usage.
I’d still use a different word, but I definitely agree with your point under that usage :)
That being said, sometimes something that’s not sanitary (using the general definition now) may still be the better option than something that’s worse.
Which is the case here, imo.
When you’re dealing with something like a soda/cola, you’re very often dealing with a slightly corrosive liquid. When that’s the case, you’re limited in what you can use to ship and store it in. Glass, obviously, is the superior choice in terms of maximum safety for chemical exposure. It is also much more expensive to ship, and has more bulk for storage. It also has a different kind of safety issue; the extra weight and the risk of damage leading to injury rather than just a mess.
The problem is the lack of choice for patrons. We can’t say “give me a glass bottle instead” and get one. It’s out of the bag-in-a-box or nothing these days.
As far as comparisons to other potential chemical exposures, the ones you listed in specific are a personal choice to take in at all. Whereas sodas, people might not be aware of the fact that they’re served from plastics. That doesn’t negate your point, it’s just an interesting distinction. The plastics in food storage is more like second hand smoke than smoking because it isn’t something you can explicitly choose to engage in, and opting out is problematic.
Mind you, I’m not certain that the plastics leeched into a soda are at a high enough level to be worse than the soda itself. They’re distinctly not sanitary, no matter what they’re stored in. Too much sugar, too much acidity, too many colorants and flavorants that are either neutral, or haven’t been excluded completely as possibly unhealthy. Just the caffeine levels in them are problematic, and the problems from the sugar levels will show up in your body years ahead of the plastics. But, again, you’re choosing to drink them, but may not be aware of the plastics to opt out.
Fwiw, my household has phased out plastics entirely for anything that gets heated, and for long term storage. We just don’t buy new containers as they reach end of life, and any food that comes in plastics gets moved to one of our glass or metal containers if the product is going to be sitting around for more than a week or so. Longer if it’s a dried product, since leeching rates for those approaches zero in anything under years. Which is only relevant so you understand that I agree with you that there’s no such thing as a totally food safe plastic.
- Comment on Does the USA simply have no food safety standard at all? 2 days ago:
Not sure if you’re aware, but sanitary just means that there’s no microbial growth that would cause illness.
That’s a separate food from plastics leeching.
- Comment on NY woman who used to own "NCC-1701" license plate ticketed thousands of dollars because of cars with Star Trek novelty plates going through traffic cameras. 3 days ago:
Or just scrap double plates as an unnecessary and outdated thing.
- Comment on how do I become the dullest, most boring coworker so this needy man leaves me alone? 3 days ago:
Have you tried gushing?
Not just responding, and having a busy conversation, but just not stopping, even interrupting him.
It wouldn’t be my first choice, I prefer direct honesty, but you already tried telling him you’re working.
You could try even more directly saying that you don’t want to talk casually at work, but that requires not doing so with anyone, or you might as well just tell him you don’t like him and be done with it that way. Which is an option. He is someone you don’t like, but I assume you’re wanting to avoid that because it’s work, so that’s the absolute last option.
- Comment on Then what happened? 3 days ago:
I love that you got that :)
- Comment on Then what happened? 3 days ago:
Moooo!
- Comment on Then what happened? 3 days ago:
Knock knock
- Comment on enjoy the silence 3 days ago:
Words like silence
- Comment on Then what happened? 3 days ago:
True. That’s why it takes numbers. Which usually takes leaders, with plans. Unfortunately, it seems we lack those, or at least any that the wavering masses will follow that aren’t right wing.
- Comment on Then what happened? 4 days ago:
As always, everyone is waiting for someone else to take the next step
- Comment on TW: suicide 4 days ago:
The idea is that you’ll go through the brain stem.
Which, it can. It just isn’t a guarantee.
But you gotta realize that movies, even ones that are meant to be mostly realistic, fudge that kind of stuff a lot. There’s insurance reasons even when they don’t care about showing it accurately, and most of the folks that work as the gun safety manager (can’t remember the right term for the job) will raise immortal hell if someone makes it too realistic. Well, the few I’ve talked to anyway.
As you surmised, “Tyler” missed on purpose. The narrator “Jack/Joe” is aiming at Tyler, it’s not meant to kill the body at all. Iirc, Tyler tended to be on that side of the narrator more often than not, so they picked that side. Can’t recall where I ran across that, though. Which is all tangential anyway.
But, putting a gun to your temple is pretty bad too. Just as likely to end up a vegetable. None of the positions used in movies are all that great if you want it to work, and that’s a good thing. It’s at least sometimes intentional, like how they fudge recipes for dangerous things (like they did in fight club) just enough that it won’t work right. They’ll give the big brush strokes to satisfy the chemistry nerds sometimes, but omit important steps.
It’s been ages since I researched suicide success rates (for a book, no bullshit, though I never used that part of my notes), but you never see the ones that are as close to 100% as it gets with firearms, or most OD/poison scenes either.
A lot of times the director and writers just don’t care about accuracy though. They just use tropes that are good on camera. Seriously, you’d be amazed at how much of most movies just hand wave as “good enough” because it’s what people think should be there. Like the “one phone call” thing when someone gets arrested, or not being able to file a missing persons report until however long they need it to be for the plot. I think screen rant did an article about that kind of thing a while back.
When it’s an action movie in particular, John Wick levels of almost realism isn’t the norm. It really is all about making it look good on screen, so don’t expect most of that stuff to hold up to someone that does whatever it is irl. It’s also common in books to do the research and still fudge things because reality gets in the way of telling a story sometimes. Which, again, tangential.
What isn’t tangential is that because people think that movies are realistic, they’ll do things the way it’s seen on screen. You ever get in a fight as a kid and someone was doing those stupid cowboy movie roundhouses? Great way to get knocked the fuck out because you’re wide open and not delivering power where it needs to be. But it looks great on screen.
Guns are no different. People do what they think will work, often because they don’t know better. But, in the internet age, they may think to look it up, but get worried they’ll get found out, or be “put on a list” (which is a trope of its own). So they just follow the on screen directions, and wake up without a face, or maybe don’t wake up and are hooked up instead.
- Comment on If I wanted to make and distribute videos without profit motivate, but also with no or minimum expensive, what would be the best platform? 4 days ago:
Peertube is pretty much it right now. Anything else is more expensive or YouTube.
- Comment on As a nurse, Can someone explain to me how a person OD'ing on Fentaynol can get not one but two Narcan shots and still not come to? How much Fent do you need to use to get a tol that strong? 4 days ago:
Damn. I’ve only been around a few, what with home health patients making maybe mistakes and playing gopher in the local ER. It was actually worse, for me, than stuff like strokes or heart attacks. There’s just this extra edge of “wtf” to it.
Luck of the draw, the first day I was in the ER, still 17 and a student, the third patient I “helped” with, I actually had to help with. 14yo OD, pregnant and wanting to escape it all. She was not quite conscious, but not as far out as I saw later on. But she was fighting everyone trying to put a tube in, so the big kid got pointed out to hold her legs.
After that, it was a lot less panic, but a lot more uncertainty on my end. Compared to that kind of thing, finding a patient in bed barely alive was more about not being sure what to do, which is what made it worse for me. At least with a stroke, there wasn’t any uncertainty, no way I could screw up. Well, I guess that’s not true, but it felt that way.
I don’t envy the folks that deal with ODs regularly, much less a crisis shelter worker.
- Comment on how do you separate your clothes and linens to avoid fabric degradation and bleeding? 5 days ago:
Generally, after two or three washes, you don’t need to separate any more. You really only get bleeding with new fabrics, and even then only with cheap fabrics. As an example, if you order Amazon’s cheapest towels, not only wash them separately, wash them before you use them unless you want the color on you. But even those eventually stop bleeding.
If you’re going to sort, the way I was taught is to separate colors from whites, with blacks being a separate load as well. The idea is that the bleed from any of the colors isn’t going to be enough to matter since there’s already dye present, which means there’s less ability to take on new dye. That can fail, and you end up with the color of things changed. So you still always test any new fabrics before throwing them in with other colors. But, generally speaking, if you don’t have the time, don’t have enough of that color to make a load, or just don’t care about color change, the risk of any color change being huge is low nowadays.
The only reason to do blacks on their own is that it mutes other colors when it bleeds.
If you’re really paranoid about it, either do each color on their own, or make batches where the colors bleeding wont be as significant. Like, blues and greens, or greens and yellows. Any bleed that does happen like that won’t be as noticeable, if it is at all.
But I never saw in all my years washing other people’s clothes anyone that had enough of every color to make multiple loads without waiting way too long between washings. Maybe in a really big family you’d pile up enough mixed colors in a week or two to make full loads of multiple single colors, or even two colors.
You’re also usually okay washing bed sheets and clothes together, though you can pull out stuff with zippers and metal buttons if you take want to maximize life spans of the rest. Being real though, making a load of those together is just going to shift which items get the teeny, tiny extra bit of wear from the fasteners. It might be worth it with heavy denim, but I wouldn’t and don’t bother personally.
Now, as far as types of fabric, you run into some issues. Good wool might need its own special care, but you’d want to refer to the label to determine that. Silk is hand wash only unless you like ruining silk. Cotton, linen, polyester, rayon, and nylon can all be washed with any other fabrics, no issues. At worst, you might run into a little extra pilling with the natural fabrics being washed together, but I’ve sever seen it actually happen more than what the fabrics do on their own just from being washed.
You specified merino wool. Afaik, you should machine wash as the default. But wash in cold only, and go with the bare minimum of detergent. Make sure you pull it out as soon as possible to reduce wrinkling, and hang to dry. Yeah, in theory your can machine dry merino, but if you’re asking this at all, you want to maximize the life and appearance of your clothes, so hang to dry.
Hand washing works as well as you’re willing to put in the work on, but wool tends to hold on to oils and sweat residue more than most fabrics, so you have to really work at it compared to something like cotton that gives up oils as easily as any natural fabric will.
If you’re having a problem with lint on your laundry, do your towels and other terry fabrics on their own. Most of the time, that’s where excessive lint is coming from. But if you aren’t having that issue, don’t worry about it.
A lot of separating of types of fabric goods, like sheets from clothes, isn’t about what they’ll do to each other or needing different types of care, it’s about convenience. Folding and storing sheets all at once is easier than dealing with a mixed load, as an example. You do benefit in being able to run things like towels hotter than you’d want with most clothing, but it’s a marginal benefit imo.
My laundry isn’t sorted much at all unless I get new stuff. Towels and washcloths and the like stay in their own loads. Clothes together, with only a few extra heavy fabrics on their own (like my canvas outdoors stuff and gis). Bed linens tend to be a load of their own since there’s two beds worth of those at a time, there’s just not room for more. But, when that’s not the case, I tend to throw them in with towels.
And, as always, check your labels. While it isn’t a guarantee, the recommended care on them really is the best pick. You’ll run into some chinese fabrics where it’s just generic instructions, but those tend to default to the least wear options anyway, so it won’t hurt anything, it just isn’t ideal. The companies using outsourced labor still specify the label contents, so it’s only when it isn’t a brand at all that you see the generic labels.
I also tend to recommend that you avoid fabric softener. They really don’t do anything useful, they cost extra, and a lot of people are sensitive to them and don’t realize it. If you’re getting itchy a lot, and you’re using them, try a few weeks without. Same with rashes where the fabric is extra close to skin.
- Comment on Stop the power abuse happening in the politics community. 5 days ago:
You’re assuming them a mod reviews every single post. That simply isn’t true. Most moderation occurs after reports, not from the mod zealously scanning for infractions.
You want bots modding?
Or are you expecting someone to spend 24/7 on here waiting for an off topic post?
Because that’s really the only two options for total coverage.
It ain’t all about you.
Are you volunteering to take a full time shift, and it’s volunteer because nobody is getting paid? Because otherwise, you know, kinda shitty
“Mood”, ffs dude, the mod gave a clear and accurate reason for the removal, and your complaint is that they didn’t remove another off topic post you made. Maybe it got missed while he was constantly scanning, waiting for a chance to laugh maniacally and remove another post. I’m sure he is now weeping at having missed that opportunity.
Tbh here? After two off topic posts, I’d probably ban your ass for a day or until you got in contact to have the community guidelines explained. And after this kind of whiny post made without stopping to think for one second that it’s not okay for a mod to miss a post that’s off topic, but it’s okay for you to do it twice, it would be a permanent ban, because I have zero patience for that kind of idiocy.
Seriously, you’re throwing a minor tantrum over nothing.
- Comment on I washed my black underwear and now one of my black socks looks brownish on one side. How do I return the sock to its original black? 6 days ago:
Poly-cotton shouldn’t have reacted like that.
Poop, by itself, doesn’t do much of anything to black dyes. At most, you might run into a spot where it weakened the cotton fibers, but it should have done that only where the feces was in direct contact with the fabric. Poo can be acidic enough to weaken some natural fibers, I’ve just never seen it do so after being soaked and diluted by a significant amount of water.
So, I’d expect the undies to be discolored, not something washed with them.
The only reason it matters is that if the fabric of the sock is damaged, you’ll have issues getting any new dye to do much.
But that’s the answer, dye. You can try washing it again to see if the color change is from residual detergent (which isn’t usually going to only appear on one sock and not the things touching the sock as well), but once cotton loses pigment, you have to apply more to get it back.
Cheap option is a sharpie. The color won’t match exactly, but it’s cheap and fast Rit dye is the next option, but the black tends to be more of a dark gray on poly blends, in my experience. Heck, it’s barely black black on cotton. And it tends to wash out to a dark gray in a few washes even then. I’m not sure where you’d get the dyes that manufacturers use, I’ve never had call to try. But that’s the final option.
But, when you wash/rinse it to see if it’s residue or whatever, cold water isn’t special. Warm or hot water would dissolve the likely culprits better, but don’t use a detergent. The goal is to get out any residue, not add in more soap that could be what’s causing the color change to begin with.
I also noticed you said “abundant detergent”. Extra laundry soap isn’t beneficial. You don’t really get things cleaner after a normal amount for the size of the load, you just get soap left behind.
- Comment on As a nurse, Can someone explain to me how a person OD'ing on Fentaynol can get not one but two Narcan shots and still not come to? How much Fent do you need to use to get a tol that strong? 6 days ago:
That’s pretty much exactly what I was told back when narcan first started being available easily for pain patients and such. There’s too many factors involved to piss around with trying to calculate anything in the time you have available to make it work, so you just give more and pump that damn chest.
- Comment on Depressing awful town 6 days ago:
I mean, you just described a thick crust hot pocket. Which isn’t bad. It ain’t good, but it ain’t bad.
Pretty much, any combination of bread, cheese, and tomato sauce is edible. The salami is just there for texture
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Same as anyone, tbh.
Identity is internal, always.
The only question is if you can get anyone else to go along with it. If you’re Irish, pale and otherwise unremarkable, good luck convincing anyone you’re black, much less a specific African ethnicity, you dig?
For folks that are multiethnic, there’s a different challenge. It isn’t so much that, depending on what ethnicities are involved, you can’t get people to agree at all, it’s that some combinations are rejected by both/all of those groups, or have trouble with their identity not fully matching the culture of those ethnicities.
That’s true even when the two groups are the same “race”.
There’s also the ugly truth that in many parts of the world (not just places once colonized my Europeans and/or part of the slave trade) there’s a one drop mentality still in place.
Here in the states? You’ll be up against it if you have any African ancestry that shows. Even if you just look dark enough for someone to assume that heritage, you’ll get pegged as black, and good luck with it since it doesn’t really matter what race the other person is, they’ll have an opinion on what you “really” are.
It’s bullshit, but the world just hasn’t moved past it yet.
So, when it comes to your self, your inner being, it’s more useful to identify as whatever your culture is than race or even ethnicity, when you’re multiethnic. Just don’t play the game at all, reject the bullshit and build your self based on more reliable factors.
If you want to partake in the racial cultures your appearance and heritage match, go for it. Chances are you’ll have hassles with any/all of them, but it won’t be all the time.
Lemme give am example.
My sister in law has a dad that’s very dark skinned, and is a descendant of slaves. Recently enough that his grandmother was a slave. Her mom is descended from german immigrants that came over sometime in the late 1700s or early 1800 (the dates in family bibles contradict). So, her mom is white, and was raised with a good bit of the German immigrant culture.
She identifies as multiethnic. She embraces both known heritages and their associated cultures. She doesn’t feel the need to pick one. And she’ll fight over it too. She has fought over it. My favorite quote of hers is “I’m fucking American, deal with it”. And she’s so fucking right :)
Now, compare that to one of my cousins. Dad is the same mix of German, Irish, and miscellaneous European descent that I am. Mom is black, light skinned, and embraces black american cultures. My cousin says he’s black, but also accepts and enjoys the other parts of his heritage.
There’s no single answer for you. You are, identity wise, whatever you’re willing to claim and enforce. If you’re dark skinned, you’ll have a harder fight enforcing that you’re “white”, no matter how much of your ancestry is from people with pale skin. But you can enforce it, and make that identity work. But, if you’re very dark skinned and lay claim to (as an example) whatever polish heritage you have and say you’re polish, you’ll likely have less fighting to do.
If you’re more asking what boxes you check on forms, it really is about skin color more often than not, here in the states, and in some other places from what I’ve heard.
- Comment on Anon makes an impression 1 week ago:
It did.
Turns out he was a great teacher too, so that was nice.
- Comment on Anon makes an impression 1 week ago:
High school, not college.
Chilling in the halls, first day of junior year
New kid comes up, asks where a room is.
New kid is all dressed up; suit, tie, nice shoes.
But new kid is smiling and friendly.
Give new kid directions, he says thanks and turns to go.
I tell him he better dump his drink before he goes to class, students aren’t allowed to have sodas in class.
He gives me weird look, says thanks again, walks away.
Three hours later, new kid is behind teacher’s desk of American history class.
Be me: confused and slowly realizing.
Mr B slowly lifts a cold can of coke, takes sip and grins.
Mfw the teacher is shorter than me, looks younger than me, and has just established dominance with a friendly smile.
- Comment on The gods are with Anon 1 week ago:
I usually use the orishas. I just like them more when talking to imaginary beings.
- Comment on "Chitty Chitty Bang Bang" Reboot In Works 1 week ago:
I think the problem is that they won’t just remake it, they’ll rape its corpse and exploit it for profit rather than making a good movie that’s based on the same idea.
- Comment on Are there humans who require heating lights like pet reptiles? 1 week ago:
My dad lol.
Old folks get cold easy, but he hates the sound of a heater. So, boom, heat lamp.
- Comment on What do people (as in, IRL) actually think of the [alleged] perpetrator involved in the NYC shooting? 1 week ago:
Oooh! I was just talking to someone with a serious hot take.
So, back during covid, I had cause to interact with the sheriff of our county. We became friends. Maybe not bosom buddies sharing the contents of our hearts or anything, but I can talk to the man about what ACAB really means and he listens instead of being a dick.
So, the subject came up earlier today when I stopped in his office after a dental appointment.
His hot take was that if it had happened here, he would have done his job; arrested the man, processed him, and posted guards on him 24/7 until he was shipped back to NYC. But he said he also wild have personally been present at any questioning or handoffs to make “plain fucking sure nobody did anything stupid”.
He also said that he agrees with why the man is angry, but that murder is too far. Then he said he’s worried about the man because he wouldn’t know who to trust with him. A fairly conservative country county sheriff outright admitted that he wouldn’t trust most cops to keep the man safe.
He even expressed concern about the safety of the people that called in the report in Altoona.
That’s probably the most surprising thing I’ve ever heard from him. He’s normally a fairly unbending sort when it comes to violent crime. Never let them out of jail again type of unbending. But for his thought to be worry about the killer? That’s fucking wild.
Anyway, beyond that, it’s kinda mixed. A ton of my friends are left leaning to full on leftist. So i expected some support. What surprised me among friends is that nobody is arguing that the guy needs the book thrown at him, even among my more moderate friends, and the smattering of conservative ones that aren’t so conservative I can’t be friends with them.
Relative wise, my family is politically mixed. And it’s still new enough that I haven’t talked to everyone because how the fuck do you have a conversation with that many people in a week without a gathering? But the usual group chats are leaning more on the side of the guy than on the CEO. The older family tends to be more about him needing to be in jail, with a few calls for the death penalty, but the “in jail” folks aren’t exactly ranting and raving.
The most extreme of the families, of which I’m not the most extreme, but I ain’t exactly not extreme at all, they want the guy out of jail. Some are calling him a hero, others more of a victim of the system, but the main group chat of us lefties is devoid of any hate for the man at all.
In other words, it’s not a consensus at all. It’s about what you’d expect over any situation where a regular guy does something illegal as a move against the status quo.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Well, there’s not much to go on. We don’t know you, we don’t have any access to your friends, and you didn’t tell any story that might help us guesstimate what’s going on.
That being said, a lot of the time someone gets pegged as the “kid” of the group, it comes down to either their relative age, or their behavior.
Some people are just naturally more childlike. Not childish, though there can be overlap. The kind of folks that are bubbly, or energetically happy, or tend to have a certain naivete, that kind of thing. It comes off as younger to some people, so they’ll start treating that person as younger than they are.
But the other part is that sometimes even a year of age difference changes things when it comes to perceptions and group dynamics. You’re 21, so if they’re 22-25, it really can be enough of a gap to set you up in their heads as the “young” one.
That’s the stuff that tends to be common enough to fit without knowing more, or assuming anything about motivations.
- Comment on Writing tip: just start brain dumping 1 week ago:
See, now you’re drifting into assholery, which is so disappointing because the conversation was pleasant. Have a good day.
- Comment on Writing tip: just start brain dumping 1 week ago:
Have you ever been in a writing group? If so, our experiences have differed.
It isn’t all fiction. Depending on the group, it may not be fiction at all. Part of the point of doing them is to hone your skill and your craft (which are related, but not exactly the same). When you’re doing research and reporting, or working for a magazine, you’ll often need to quickly absorb information, translate it into language appropriate for the audience, and crank it out with short deadlines.
Now, I didn’t personally do any journalism at all, but I did do some research and reporting as a side gig. Ideally, you take notes and have references and all, but the core of what you do is hoovering information and regurgitating it, much like when doing a book report, or an essay for a class. There’s some of that, that you get better at with practice, where the results are going to improve over time, but the core ability to think on the go, start typing to crank out the basics and then refine, that’s something you have to have a baseline with.
The intro they had reads like someone that has the knack for it. They’re making a coherent statement that informs the reader of what they can expect, while conveying the limitations of the project itself. Someone that can do that, can type out 8 pages and it be a solid first draft. Might not be something that merits a top score, but it’s definitely going to be worth a passing grade, imo. And, as I said, the bare minimum of passing. If the rest is junk, that’s all they get.
I’m not even that good at it. But that didn’t stop me from essentially cranking my papers out in high school and college like you did. Just suck up the reading, then churn it out. Never got below an average grade, and usually got respectable scores. Wouldn’t pass muster in a post-graduate setting, or professional one, but it’ll do for everything up to that level.
- Comment on Is there anything Lemmy has more/better content for than Reddit and other mainstream sites? 1 week ago:
Oh, hell yeah.
The big three would be, first, technology, with a focus on Linux and home networking/self hosting being way better.
The second is the depth and breadth of the LGBTQ community. You get way better info, better discussions, with less dross or interference.
Third, I gotta say that the meme presence is vastly superior across the board. Less stale bullshit, less reposting, more funny. However, there’s also a good degree of niche memeing that won’t make sense to outsiders of the community, and a lot political memeing that’s just rants in picture format, with no real wit or creativity. Still miles better than reddit.
Those are the ones where, even when I switched fully in 2023, I was like , damn, this is great here.
I’d also say that lemmy is better at being open minded inside niche communities. We don’t have the numbers of reddit, which is part of it; more people, more assholes. But when it comes to hobby/interest based communities, there’s less parroting of whatever the established answer is, and more real, friendly discussion. Like, the flashlight, knife, and general edc communities on reddit were insular as hell. You couldn’t offer up an alternative opinion on a frequent subject without getting screeched at. Here, you may get disagreement, but it’ll be nice way more often than not.
That last one is why I spend so much time on lemmy. You still get assholes (and I’ve been known to put my asshole hat on sometimes), but they’re somewhat nicer assholes, if that makes sense? But the majority of the time, people outside of political topics are mostly just nice. They’ll express support and compassion easier, you’ll see more thanking each other for discussions. Even when it isn’t like that, the good stuff makes it seem less important. So what I ran into a jerk? I’ll be having a pleasant exchange in twenty minutes, so it just doesn’t matter.