southsamurai

@southsamurai@sh.itjust.works

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨When I was younger my father taught me how to box. Using my fists. How come in movies or tv shows it's all about hitting with the elbow now? How does one train to hit with your elbow?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  I dunno that I’m seeing a predominance of elbows in media tbh.

  That being said, throw elbows!

  Generally, you want to hit soft with hard, and hard with soft.

  Unless it’s elbows. You really aren’t going to injure an elbow on a skull the way you would a fist or foot. Might not feel good, but it ain’t gonna break.

  The drawback is that you gotta get closer with elbows. Doing that vs someone you’re not familiar with can backfire when they throw some stripe of jujutsu on your ass. So, you know, don’t get jitzed. Mind you, elbows are faster in close, so they’re harder to counter when grappling, so enough training vs grapplers, and you end up with an advantage.

  So, I’m saying: cross train with resistive partners.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People who get "happy ending" massages, is there like a common keyword or process?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, almost guaranteed. Won’t necessarily offer it as a service, though the vast majority should. But any proper professional would know what it is, and likely know how.

  There’s some degree of variation in techniques, but that is likely what you were getting. Deep tissue can outright hurt, but the goal is to get into the muscles where hard tension is and unkink it. It uses steady, usually slow, but forceful pressure to really get past the surface.

  Which is why not everyone will offer it. It is very demanding for the practitioner, and patients may or may not actually want it, and just think they do lol. My hands can’t do it any more. Hell, I can’t always pull off the easier stuff. Arthritis sucks lol.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People who get "happy ending" massages, is there like a common keyword or process?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, there’s different kinds of massage.

  The generic spa-style massage is more about relaxation, and is done in a setting that shifts the context to being fairly impersonal.

  More medically focused, or sports focused (lot of overlap there) massage is being done with a goal in mind, usually in a setting that also makes it feel less intimate than it might otherwise (even with the same technique involved).

  Just as an example, I trained up in a handful of massage methods over the years. Lymphatic release, myofascial release, deep tissue, a variant of shiatsu, and the bog standard “just rub the muscles that are tense” kind that isn’t really a technique/style at all. What would be used depended on my patients’ needs and preferences.

  Deep tissue, I really never broke out on patients though. A few, but it was rare. That was more for friends that were in need due to muscle issues.

  Myofascial release is superb for people with reduced mobility and/or spacicity since out favors fairly gentle pressure that directly unloads where the muscles connect.

  Your lymphatic release is also low pressure, and is kind of the default for both a post-workout massage as well as geriatric patients and bedbound patients. It focuses on moving your juices along to the center of the body sp that associated buildup of wastes will be enhanced

  But what remains true is that most massage is best done on bare skin. Not all benefit from lubricants though. Myofascial release, in particular, becomes more difficult and> less effective because you really need to be able to apply focused pressure without movement as part of what you’re doing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon makes conversation⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Completely fake; no women on the internet.

  Completely gay, as no vagina present

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨sometimes nature is a tattle tale⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  In that first pic , both of them look like they’re trying to get away from her

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨YouTube won't let me search for music by musician unless I remove the word "naked" from her name⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yo! Bif Naked ftw!

  Been a fan since the Buffy appearance lol.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨This Avocado Oil that claims to be “0 Calories” 🙄⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  You know the one-onehundred counting thing that approximates a second? Just say/think the word one, it approximates a quarter second.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People who piss on the toilet seat in a men's restroom.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  For them what have need to cope with this and no choice about needing to sit.

  A small baggie with some surface wipes and some gloves will fit in most pockets with ease. Ideal, no. But it’ll get you by for a non optional visit to a public (or badly kept private) toilet

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨People who piss on the toilet seat in a men's restroom.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, shoe most places, but I feel you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would a disk shaped planet have uniform gravity like earth or would it vary depending on whether you're near the center or edges?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, first you have to get the elephants to stand on the turtle’s back

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Hard, heavy /s

  That’s what she said

  !she being the little girl!<

  !hard, heavy /s!<

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon wants tendies⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  No, no, sorry, not fake or gay enough. This has to be ai hallucination rather than genuine greentext

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Crazy cheeks on that guy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Fuck this English!

  That whole skit was brilliant :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Crazy cheeks on that guy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  И доньт кноw руссиан, бут онлине цонвертерс ехист, анд И wантед ин он тхе фун

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would you rather be reincarnated into a world of magic or reborn as yourself (with your current knowledge fully intact)?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Ahhhh, that makes it much easier to choose magic. As long as I don’t have to leave my people behind, I’m down for that

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would you rather be reincarnated into a world of magic or reborn as yourself (with your current knowledge fully intact)?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My fellow lemmite, you gotta find a way to take a break. That’s the equivalent of someone rolling up to a group of folks at the mall and ranting about politics.

  While totally understandable that you’re stressed over it, the way you did it and the way you phrased it all is worrying. For real, no sarcasm, no snark, it makes me concerned that you’re on the edge of a breakdown. You have anyone irl that can help you find some outlet? Maybe a good game night with friends, whatever sport you might play? You can’t hold onto that kind of anger and stay healthy, physically. Like, the stress you must be feeling will harm your body.

  I’m not even a people person, and I don’t know you, but if you were my neighbor I’d want to hug your neck and tell you that you’re not alone, that maybe we should grab some nice iced tea and sit a spell, give you a chance to let it all out to someone that’ll really listen.

  Take care of yourself, okay? It’s an ugly world, but if you let it grind you down much more, it’ll just get uglier.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Would you rather be reincarnated into a world of magic or reborn as yourself (with your current knowledge fully intact)?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is not really the right community, but I wanna play anyway lol.

  If I’m getting your scenario right, the choice is between being you, but not having access to the Wizard class (or whatever it would be called) and limited to other classes; or not being you at all in terms of consciousness and being a wizard.

  If that’s accurate, what would be the point of reincarnation? You wouldn’t get to enjoy any of it as your self. So unless the scenario factors in souls having memory and you’d get to enjoy it that way, it seems a pretty bad choice in terms of experiential immersion.

  So, obviously, with that in mind, I’ll take the brand new body, thank you. Though if I can’t do so with my people also being present, I’d opt out entirely. I’m not sacrificing the good in my life, abandoning the people that love me and rely on me, just for an adventure. That’s what d&d is for, you dig? Taking an adventure like that without at least my wife is a hell no.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Gender neutral guide⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The lemmy version

  Firefighter

  Bastard

  Propaganda delivery agent

  Carnist jerk

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Scope⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Alas, it’s always strange how someone can be so vehement about something and still be vehement about the thing they care about doing what they think is being done.

  I get the urge for jewish people to support each other, and the one country in the world that’s “theirs”. Totally understandable.

  But when that country does the very things the people fear being done to them again, there’s that lack of sense to see the hypocrisy of it.

  It’s sad

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Only boomers can use this bench. Meanwhile, they're trying to get rid of their own property taxes.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Handicapped citizens is a term used to be neutral in most places, nor exclusionary for non citizens

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Scope⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What did draiman do?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Only boomers can use this bench. Meanwhile, they're trying to get rid of their own property taxes.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Wait, so we’re supposed to have walkable cities and towns to minimize vehicle use, but we can’t also have the equivalent of handicapped parking for the folks that need it most?

  I’m not sure what’s infuriating about this. It’s exactly the same principle as handicapped parking, and there should be more of these.

  Yeah, ideally you’d have enough benches around so that everyone can cop a squat as needed/wanted. But let’s be fucking real here, a healthy, able bodied person in their twenties or thirties isn’t going to need a seat as often.

  Also, fuck that boomer stupidity. We’re supposed to make a world that allows our elderly to have freedom of access and personal mobility. Idgaf what empty headed shit you have against actually baby boomers, we are all going to get old, die, or die before getting old. It’s about fucking supporting each other when we’re in need. Today’s boomers? Well, you’ll be them in fifty years and looking back at this and think “holy fuck, I wish I had a place to sit before trying this next block” this shit helps you, your mother, your uncle, and eventually your kids.

  Gtfo with your ablist, ageist shit

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Damn, that’s plenty of time to tell you to bugger off, if that was the goal

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  How long did you wait between asking a mod whatever it was before multi-posting?

  This is lemmy. Mods don’t really need to check things ten times a day, so most don’t. Gotta stay laid back broham

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yo run into trouble in two ways. First, not everyone in a chair is in it for the same reason. Second, you end up largely limited in how casual it can be by virtue of some people needing to have specialty gear to get into and out of chairs. This often means that in extreme cases, you’ll more or less be limited to going back to their place. That’s a big ask for a one night stand when someone is in a difficult situation.

  That being said, or depends on three main factors: flexibility, mobility, and sensation.

  There’s dozens of things that can have a person in a chair. Could be something like bad joints at the least restrictive end, up to something like quadriplegia at the most restrictive.

  Now, disclaimer here, most of my patients that were in chairs are their main form of mobility were men. The female patients I had in that category weren’t exactly sharing their sex lives with me, beyond a couple of attempts to involve me directly (though a couple of men offered that too).

  So, a lot of what I can offer is second hand at best, if you’re a man wanting to have sex with women in chairs.

  With that in mind, what exactly are you wanting to know?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Perfect Rating ⭐/5⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Pfft, I have both of them, and they have cuddle parties

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do pedophile/ephebophile s have a tendency to seek out friendships or romantic relationships with young adults as well as with minors?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, you’re using accurate terminology when asking a question that pertains to the distinctions of how the age related paraphilias work, so I’d actually call that a good thing. There is a difference clinically, and it does factor in to what you’re asking, though not to a great degree.

  Pedophiles, as opposed to ephebophiles and also as opposed to hebephiles, have more trouble developing and maintaining adult relationships. I haven’t ever run across any studies on differentiating hebe and ephebe differences in this regard.

  There’s a lot of unknowns though, and there’s a lot of issues in the existing data because it relies on either people that have offended, and/or those admitting it and willing to participate in research. That’s a really narrow band of participants.

  That being said, because of what pedophilia is, there tends to be a greater degree of exclusivity than in other categories. Meaning that, when one is attracted to undeveloped bodies and/or minds, a person is much less likely to be able to experience attraction to fully developed bodies. So seeking relationships (romantic, sexual, or friendship) with young adults isn’t going to satisfy them. It’s a fairly hard line where once puberty begins causing changes, pedophiles lose interest, or even become outright repulsed.

  Since hebephilia and ephebophilia are delineations that include more developed bodies and faces, the “edges” are blurrier for them. And, while people sometimes refuse to believe it, the actual age of the individual is not a primary factor in any of the chronophilias. Well, it can be, but it’s way less common. What is a primary factor is how closely the object of attraction cleaves to the chronophile’s inner “map”.

  For an ephebophile, that inner set of criteria includes well developed secondary sexual characteristics. So, they have less trouble interacting with legal adults on a sexual level. Hebephiles are murkier because while their range of physical development is definitely not at adult ranges, the last I read anything (pre covid) had them being almost as capable of functioning as ephebophiles.

  Which brings us back to your question more precisely. Pedophiles do sometimes seek out less obviously sketchy relationships. But it wouldn’t be something common. Whereas an ephebophile, by nature, does seek out romantic and/or sexual relationships with young adults and older teens. They (again, I’m pulling from old info here) can bypass some of the social issues as long as they pay attention to ages of consent, so have less reason to avoid seeking out their preferred level of development.

  Again, hebephiles are the murkier category in that. It really isn’t as well studied, or wasn’t last time I was bored enough to go digging for an online question like this. I suspect that’s at least in part due to lower numbers. It seemed to me when looking at stuff that there’s less of them.

  See, when it comes right down to it, ephebophiles aren’t the same kind of chronophilia as pedophiles are. The kind of development they respond to is near adult. Hell, in terms of the secondary sexual development alone, it’s not inherently different from attraction to adults, because by the approximate age ranges used to classify ephebophilia casually, many of those bodies are at adult development. It’s often other signs of youth that make the key difference. That attraction isn’t a malfunction, but a social issue.

  Hebephiles? They’re classified as a disorder, iirc, but in day to day existence, are more likely to be able to find their attractions in legal outlets because some full adults lack the normative level of secondary sexual development.

  Anyway, the short answer is yes, but there’s difference in how and why.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does it matter who it's about? Just sub in any rich asshole who is incapable of joy and wonder.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  In fairness, backyard growing is challenging. And tomatoes are sometimes finicky bastards.

  But! When things go right, and you can harvest at peak ripeness AND actually know how to tell when that is, you don’t get better tomatos, for fresh eating or canning

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How come in the trucking industry they are very against carrying a gun? Some area's my sister went into in new york I would have carried an AK-47. No offense NY.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think the answer has already been given. That the combination of liability to the trucking company and the difficulties of transporting firearms across state lines while following all laws is prohibitive.

  As an example, me as a private citizen, I can transport a firearm anywhere in the country, if I am A: carrying it unloaded and secured, and B: crossing through the state.

  A means that a trucker would have to keep it somewhere they can’t even reach out in case of trouble while traveling, unless the specific state allows for some other form of carry.

  B means that any time you stop in state, you’re obligated to either completely follow their carry laws, or keep it locked away.

  Can you actually quote off carry laws for NY state, since that’s the example you used? I can’t, and I own firearms, and have carried them on trips. But I very carefully made sure to be able to quote those laws from memory when doing so, and abiding by them.

  So, think about being a company doing shipping all over. Do you want employees or contractors toting any type of firearms while representing you? Nah. And, while fuck capitalism, that would be a public relations nightmare at best. No company wants that heat.

  Besides, why the fuck would you carry a long gun for defense in that situation? Long guns are definitely a better weapons choice overall, but they’re pretty damn shitty at being convenient to keep ready while doing other things. Is the hypothetical driver carrying it via sling all the time they’re out of their truck?

  Nah, if you’re expecting trouble, you bring a rifle, but this scenario would call for something more compact and easy to both keep at ready but not be highly visible. At least then, in states where you can legally carry randomly, you’ll have something at hand. Guns are like cameras. The best one is the one with you. An AK just isn’t a realistic edc choice

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Should I just abandon this online identity and start over?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If you can’t moderately well ensilo your online identity, then definitely nuke them regularly.

  I’m lucky with this name that I’m not the only person using it across the entire internet. It obfuscates me more than it might otherwise. But you gotta protect yo neck. If you’re gong to us the same name a lot, don’t provide identifying info.

  Be vague, or outright lie about things that would place your location and real identity. Otherwise, burn it