Segregated anything is fucking dumb. Segregated internet communities are especially fucking dumb because anyone can be anyone on the internet.
Dude read the rules of woman only community and decided to post anyway
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teft@piefed.social 2 weeks ago
psycotica0@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Congratulations, you’re the man they’re trying to forget exists for 10 fucking minutes a day in their off time!
teft@piefed.social 2 weeks ago
Who said I was a guy? Again, anyone can be anyone on the internet.
glimse@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I am in full support of the community rules but that’s an interesting claim when like 1/3 of the posts are about men lol
bdonvr@thelemmy.club 2 weeks ago
A segregated internet would be more like if they had a whole version of Lemmy for all topics but only for women, and then didn’t also participate in the other one.
This is just one community calm the hell down they can have their space.
i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
If they want their own space, they are just bigots. That’s what they called me when I excluded them from the general space in the past!
-the people arguing against that comm, probably
victorz@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Also I wonder how it would look if we made a Men’s Club community where only men were allowed and women were openly mob-scolded for participating. Would probably be considered a pretty sexist environment.
protist@mander.xyz 2 weeks ago
Literally nothing is stopping you from creating a community for men with a rule that only men participate. The difference is that in the community you’re thinking about though, women wouldn’t be constantly trying to mess with it. There are hundreds of communities to choose from. You’re not entitled to participate in them all.
Rooskie91@discuss.online 2 weeks ago
The mens club you’re talking about DOES exist though. Since men are not a marginalized minority, that club is just called society.
Your logic mirrors asking, ‘Why not create a whites-only club?’ Technically, you could, but people would rightly view it negatively because white people, as a group, are not marginalized. Exclusive spaces for minorities exist to provide relief from the discrimination or bias they routinely encounter. For groups that do not face those barriers, everyday society already functions as their ‘exclusive space,’ which makes it difficult for non-minorities to understand why others might need a separate environment.
MnemonicBump@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
/c/dull_mens_club@lemmy.world
Zephorah@discuss.online 2 weeks ago
It exists. Or did. Menslib over on that other platform.
BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I know I’m sending mixed signals, but those things are not equivalent. All of modern society is patriarchal and women face exclusion from spaces their entire lives because of their sex or gender. Things have improved slightly over the decades but this kind of misogyny is still a global pandemic. When men are called privileged this is why. That ignorance is a privilege. Lucky you, that you haven’t experienced this constantly for your entire life. Want to create a “Men’s Club” community? We’ve all been living in it our entire lives. Nothing new to see there.
I still feel dirty thinking about the womensstuff community, though. The first time I stumbled in there I had no idea where I was and someone said “As a man…” and then asked a question, and they were told to be quiet. Women experience that constantly, and it’s worse for girls. So much worse. Especially if you are the chatty type of autistic that I am. Having experienced it, I would never subject others to that. I felt that interaction viscerally and immediately blocked the community. I understand wanting to have a safe space, and I do have those with certain private groups, but seeing that behavior was awful. Even queer spaces are welcoming to allies, and I feel inclusion of allies in all social matters is critical for progress to happen.
MystValkyrie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
Hey, go for it! If c/men4slib became men-only, I’d support them! There are some communities where women wouldn’t have anything to contribute, and that’s okay and wouldn’t be sexist.
But just don’t go full 4chan with a men-only community and I’d say that’s fine.
Grimy@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
That’s really ignoring a mountain of history. Up until a decade ago, “there are no girls on the internet” was a common saying.
I just see it as a way to foster and encourage an under represented segment of the community. It feels completely valid when that segment is still often met with hostility from weirdos.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
the point of the saying was that your sex/gender shouldn’t matter. it wasn’t to exclude women.
paultimate14@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Was it a common saying or were you just on 4chan too much?
SorryforSmelling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
paultimate14@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
[deleted]atomicorange@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
It’s entirely about self identification. There’s no gender policing, they just kindly ask people who start their comments with phrases like “as a man…” or “not a woman, but…” to refrain from further commenting. They don’t even delete the comments. Even still, inevitably if the post reaches the front page all the women in the comments will be drowned out by highly upvoted “as a man…” commenters. They just want to have a conversation without being shouted over.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
exactly. this is the whole problem with trans stuff and gender essentailism.
who the fuck is to say what a woman is? a lot of people tie to totally arbitrary nonsense.
Angelevo@feddit.nl 2 weeks ago
Bingpot.
IcedRaktajino@startrek.website 2 weeks ago
It’s just…the internet I guess?
Go into the various “Ask” communities, and you’ll see things like this constantly:
Women of Lemmy, what’s something that…?
As a man, I …
Americans of Lemmy, what is your favorite…?
As a European, I…
Definitely mildly infuriating when people just butt in when they’re specifically not the target of the question. If I’m somehow doing that with this reply, lol, I apologetically appreciate the irony.
Lemmyoutofhere@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
It is significantly more likely to read:
“Europeans of Lemmy……?”
“As an American……!”
TachyonTele@piefed.social 2 weeks ago
Is that why US political posts are always filled with people from other countries?
IcedRaktajino@startrek.website 2 weeks ago
I’ll take your word for it, though I assume it is the case. Like I said…it’s just the internet doing what it does (for better or worse).
“As an American” when I see those, I don’t even go into them because my opinion wasn’t solicited. I also don’t throw out my opinions in non-American news/politics communities for the same reason. Also, I wish that was a two-way street.
glimse@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I’ve accidentally commented in that community more than once when it was a generic post…but the top comment nowadays is a reminder of the rules.
Very, very different than the examples you describe
adry@piefed.social 2 weeks ago
As a professional opinionator, I…
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
you get paid for internet comments?
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
The issue is that people want a public forum to be private and controlled as such.
Like if you go to a public park and want to kick out anyone who isn’t a part of your party you want ot have there… the issue is you. it’s not the other users of the public park.
that isn’t how it works. if you want a private party you need to have it on a private piece of land.
IcedRaktajino@startrek.website 2 weeks ago
In a public park, you can absolutely ask random people to leave your party area. Not the park, but the space you are using. Double so if you’ve gone through the process to reserve that section.
SuperEars@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I enjoy that community as a non-participant. A user’s decision to merely interact can reveal much more than they intended to reveal - super interesting to me. Just the existence of the community pits dudes with insecurities against their own lack of self control or social tact, for all to see.
Future me might comment there too quickly after overlooking the community name. I’ll get a warranted Tsk and I’ll see myself out. No big deal. It’s not a kick in the nuts unless I make it one.
KaChilde@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I have seen men comment there, get the reminder, and then FLIP THE FUCK OUT. As if every part of the internet should have to put up with them.
A community like that is hard to monitor, and they are pretty chill about people making honest mistakes like coming in from /all. I feel like it’s obvious (or very quickly becomes obvious) which comments are mistakes, and which are butthurt males. They don’t seem to be hostile to the honest mistakes.
AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
Whenever I see that happen, I think “wow, thanks for showing why this community needs that rule in the first place”. If dudes were more chill about women trying to build their own spaces, then perhaps it wouldn’t be necessary to have such a hard rule.
brucethemoose@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
That’s community’s mods are super nice. Probably too nice TBH.
…But yeah. Follow community rules. Or post elsewhere. It is not that hard.
gusgalarnyk@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I think it’s hard simply because browsing by /all, or even by communities you follow and then just in your main thread, is not set up to highlight the community or it’s rules. If something hits the front page of /all I’m rarely digging into the communities specific rules or even where it’s coming from to an extent. Only to say, it’s a learned behavior to care about the communities specifically in this site aggregator system.
All of that being said, people of course should respect community rules and learn the behavior of identifying what room they’re in before engaging with that community. I’m just not surprised when these flimsy barriers fail.
Is the best behavior to block any community you don’t or can’t participate in? I personally don’t love that behavior because I like seeing what everyone is discussing in threads, but that’s a reasonable solution. Obviously my current strat is just reading the community before posting (like not commenting negatively about Star Gate getting a new season in the star gate community as an example that happened today lol).
brucethemoose@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Wandering in, missing the rule sign, apologizing when you’re corrected fine. I’ve done it; the mods there couldn’t have been nicer about it. It’s not ideal, but the system works well enough; it’s the mods shouldering that burden more than anything.
…The problem is when the guys are corrected and keep talking anyway. Which I see happen a lot.
There is no excuse for that.
Is the best behavior to block any community you don’t or can’t participate in? I personally don’t love that behavior because I like seeing what everyone is discussing in threads, but that’s a reasonable solution.
I feel extremely mixed about this, yeah. I feel weird even talking about it.
I personally don’t love that behavior because I like seeing what everyone is discussing in threads, but that’s a reasonable solution.
The women’s space… doesn’t prohibit lurking? On one hand, the community is public, and I’m curious about the perspective in the discussions. I’m interested in understanding them so I can be more respectful person myself.
…But I don’t want to violate their privacy either. Blocking is reasonable.
Obviously my current strat is just reading the community before posting (like not commenting negatively about Star Gate getting a new season in the star gate community as an example that happened today lol).
Read the room, yeah.
IMO TV fandoms shouldn’t worship their material. Negative discussion is allowed, otherwise the space gets toxic.
In fact, this kinda happened to one of my personal fandom spaces, /r/thelastairbender: among other things, they idolize ATLA (the original series) like a diety, to the point where anything different (including other material like Korra or the Netflix adaption) is demonized. Deeper stuff like the novels, fanfics or speculative lora is not welcome either.
That sucks. It’s all to common; the Star Wars fandom (for instance) is notorious for it. And its why some negativity and ‘outsider perspectives’ should be welcomed in such spaces.
The women’s space is different though. It’s basically a shelter from the shit this group puts up with IRL and online, so being more sensitive to barging in makes sense.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I think it’s hard simply because browsing by /all, or even by communities you follow and then just in your main thread, is not set up to highlight the community or it’s rules. If something hits the front page of /all I’m rarely digging into the communities specific rules or even where it’s coming from to an extent. Only to say, it’s a learned behavior to care about the communities specifically in this site aggregator system.
Bingo. This is the classic ‘read the sidebar’ site from reddit. most users aren’t reading hte sidebar because the side bar doesn’t exist for them when they click in front the front page.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
because that isn’t how a public internet site works.
if you go to the park and hold a women only event, and get upset men are in the park and wander over and are curious what is going on…
if you want a private exclusive type of space… then make it private and exclusive.
brucethemoose@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
To correct your ‘public park’ analogy, the space is public. Men can wander in. But it has clear signs posted at the only entrance saying its a space for women to speak, please be quiet, otherwise.
If you wander in and violate that rule, that is no one’s fault but yours.
personally i have a dick but i don’t really identify as being a ‘man’. nor do identify as being a ‘woman’. i’m just a person. so am i therefore allowed to commentate? or is the mods who determine my sex/gender status, regardless of how i perceive myself?
…A primary reason for that rule is basically “don’t be a dick about this being a women’s only space, please.”
If you feel you qualify as a woman to speak in the space, go for it! That’s the idea. But you specifically say "nor do [I] identify as being a ‘woman’. "
But making an issue out of it is exactly what is unwanted.
Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
The public park is owned by everyone, not just the women. You would be correct to be upset by men being excluded from this public space.
Comms are not public assets. Your use of any comm is entirely at the pleasure of the administrators of that comm, and their designated moderators.
Your opinion on the way they implement and enforce their rules is entirely irrelevant within their comm.
My suggestion would be to do what you would for any other comm whose behavior you do not support and/or whose rules you find reprehensible: block them and move on.
Tarquinn2049@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Lets say you go to a public building and in that public building there is a room marked women only, lets say in that room are some toilets, would go in that room? Since it’s a public space in the same building as all the other public space, the only difference is that portion of the space is understood to be only for women, or those that identify as women.
You may stumble in accidentally, and you will be gently corrected, but if you keep stumbling in, it’s gonna start to seem weird.
peopleproblems@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Acamon@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I agree that the guy in the post is mildlyinfuriating at best, and much more likely a douche (never hear a woman use male as a noun like that, a very particular shibboleth). But I’m not sure I love. This community becoming half posts picking on specific users. Should we blur the usernames? Otherwise its an easy path to brigading and bullying.
corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
never hear a woman use male as a noun like that
I heard ‘male’ the same place I heard ‘female’, and this wasn’t surprising. I’m jealous at your certainty that you haven’t yet and thus never will. Apparently, though, “there are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy”
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
same. it’s so weird to me when people pretend like women don’t act this way… and can’t be sexist douchebags.
there are entire media outlets past and present that are basically dedicated to female douchery
Acamon@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
That’s on me, there’s a few typos in my reply. I was just saying I’ve never heard it, not that I think I will never hear it ever. And genuinely the only menfolk I’ve heard use it earnestly were akward teenage boys, and the older lads mocked them and told them they sounded lame.
This is in the UK (and ten years ago), so maybe it’s much more common in Australia or the US or something. But from the reaction it generally gets online, I get the feeling it’s generally looked down on (outside of humor, or sci-fi).
brbposting@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Ya I don’t think folks need to be called out twice in a row in two different places. This would be a pathway for repeat offenders who refuse to acknowledge feedback perhaps?
Uebercomplicated@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
Absolutely. In fact, I would extend that past the user, to the community as well. This is a gate-kept (correct spelling?) community; that’s fine and I don’t think the rest of lemmy should care, but I somehow regularly come across discussions about the community or related, with many people in the comments frustrated. That frustration is natural and isn’t going to go away anytime soon. I don’t care about said community, but it’s annoying to keep coming across posts like this.
These posts are clearly just causing argument over a fairly small, specific community that most people aren’t, I presume, involved in. I wish we could just leave it alone; it’s gate-kept, let’s honor that and also not talk about the community outside of said community (exception: meta-communities dedicated to stuff like that).
I’d be annoyed if people couldn’t stop talking about e.g. the Linux community outside of the Linux community as well, with tuns of the comments angry about the Linux community because they don’t use Linux and are offended that the community doesn’t welcome them talking about windows or complaining about Linux. Obviously the community is intended for Linux users and while it’s not actively gate-kept, windows users (not looking to transition) aren’t exactly welcome. Funny parallel there.
If I weren’t a Linux user, and had blocked that community, I would be very annoyed at regularly seeing meta-commentary about the community I don’t care about and can’t contribute too. This isn’t a perfect analogy, but you get the gist of it.
It just seems to draw purposeless attention and outrage to something people could otherwise probably ignore. That being said, this is all pretty minor; I would have ignored this post as well, if it weren’t for the below. Clearly a number of people didn’t ignore it though.
I don’t know, I’m just lying on my sofa with a cold, and yelling at the sky…
Wren@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Oh good. I don’t follow this com, another comment tipped me off.
While I do enjoy a little bit of chaos and schadenfreude, it would be nice to block out user names. Call out the mistake, not the person.
Most people here are lovely, but it only takes one match to start a fire. Might as well address some bullshit in these comments since I’m gonna get trolled by incels anyway…
side note: I’m not a mod there.
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The women’s com is trans and non-binary inclusive. Anyone who feels at home there (and is respectful) is welcome.
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It’s not all bitching about men. Looking at the last twenty posts, one was about men and two were related to men. We talk about pads and health and essays and positivity memes and do fun activities on fridays.
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I support men making their own support groups. Although the internet itself often feels like a menfolk support group(to me,) I’m sure there are plenty of things an easy to find, curated space, could offer men who want to be just a little more vulnerable, knowing they would be supported by the mods if any toxic women came in to devalue their opinions and experience.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I support men making their own support groups. Although the internet itself often feels like a menfolk support group(to me,) I’m sure there are plenty of things an easy to find, curated space, could offer men who want to be just a little more vulnerable, knowing they would be supported by the mods if any toxic women came in to devalue their opinions and experience.
They should. the issue with this is they get branded as hate-groups.
ronl2k@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I support men making their own support groups.
While women are allowed to keep men out of their groups, it doesn’t work the other way around. Even gay men’s groups have trouble keeping invasive women from changing the nature of their groups.
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FridaySteve@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I saw that post too. I noticed it was a woman-only space and muted it. Godspeed to them, people deserve to have communities like that.
rustyfish@piefed.world 2 weeks ago
Same. I have a bad habit of shitposting into a comment section only to later see which community it was in. So I preemptively blocked them. The only community I did so, not to protect myself, but others.
hodgepodgin@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
I blocked this community a while ago so I don’t accidentally view/comment on it
Dozzi92@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Same. I’m definitely guilty of glossing over community names, but fortunately saw that community the one time it took to block.
MourningDove@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Same. I generally don’t care to read posts in communities that practice inclusivity. Same would go for any “men only” communities.
Isolde@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I saw this play out and there were more than one of these users breaking the rules on that sub. I guess it’s tempting to want to comment on a first page thread, but boundaries exist for a reason. I don’t really see women going into incel spaces, making incels uncomfortable. Still, what it looked like was most of these men knew this wasn’t a community for them, but figured that their comments were so invaluable, how could it exist without their imput. It’s pathetic.
FlihpFlorp@piefed.zip 2 weeks ago
i usually browse by all and have sometimes accidentally have commented on the women’s stuff comm. The first time I did it they left my comment up (I didn’t know it was exclusively a women’s comm I thought it was a focus on women) but gave me a friendly reminder that it is womens stuff. Anyways I’ve also almsot commented in that comm a few times and only noticed it after reading comments
ANYWAYS that was longer than I anticipated but all I can excuse is accidentally commenting, the actual behavior is not especially since they said it they knew it was a women only community. IMO that’s not ok since I’m sure of what OOP was doing was allowed or “as a man…” was allowed, 90% of the comm would be men effectively destroying the women only space
northernlights@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Exactly, dude is just proving them right that all men are self-important assholes. It’s like a woman going on /r/redpill and telling them they’re just angry, ugly geeks. Not helping.
Binette@lemmy.ml 2 weeks ago
post about women’s only space 150+ comments, 50 downvotes
Close enough. Welcome back reddit
XM34@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
Yeah, I’m downvoting this shit. This is not mildly infuriating, this is just unnecessary ragebait and the fact that OP didn’t even blur out the usernames clearly shows their intention to go against rule 1.
confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
I find it interesting how men regularly insert themselves into places or communities that are not designed for their specific label. I want to wonder what it is about women specifically that really makes men so uncomfortable about women having a place to discuss the world amongst themselves. But it doesn’t take long to see a common trend that appears which is a man is attempting to push their dominance over a situation.
Often times a comment begins with “As a man…” and it’s obvious the commenter is positioning themselves as an “authoritative” voice. Placing themselves higher than the women in a woman’s community. As if their words, experiences or perspectives hold more weight then the other people in this community not designed for men.
I often see this behaviour also within men’s communities such as Men’s Liberation. It confuses me greatly to see “As a man…” comments in the Men’s Liberation community because why do you need to declare your man status, in a men’s community, talking about men’s issues?? It seems to me it’s about placing their own thoughts, experiences and perspectives over the other, “lesser” men in the community. Often those comments ignore the message of the article or video while adding absolutely nothing additional to the conversation. They just stated they are men. That’s it.
The same men that argue against a segregated internet would not hesitate to join a men’s only community in real life or not. It’s not even a conscious effort for them to join a men’s only community. So when a community appears that doesn’t include them, I imagine it must feel insulting to be excluded this one time.
There’s over 8 billion people on this planet with over 8 billion different experiences, not everyone is going to relate to everything all the time. An individual’s experience is not universal. An individual’s experience does not give them authority over another groups experiences. Spending a life trying to dominate everything around yourself is an impossible task because there will always be people who will defy your authority. Nature in general doesn’t have a single fuck to give about one person’s dominance.
Good on the women who persist to exist in men dominant spaces. It’s a steep uphill battle. It’s an exhausting battle that seems never ending. I recently read how some of these women only communities operate behind the scenes and how they deal with certain issues. It showed how much effort they put into their community. I have an even greater appreciation for their existence now and I hope they continue to exist and grow.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
women insert themselves into men’s spaces too.
ThePantser@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
As a man… just stating that it has nothing to do with the rest of my comment, but when I see those communities I just filter and move on. I do the same for all the gross *Moe communities with cartoon children dressed inappropriately.
Nollij@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
Just FYI, those are almost all on the same instance, and you can block that instance as a whole. It’s dedicated to anime, so there’s not a ton of collateral damage.
sparky@lemmy.federate.cc 2 weeks ago
Reading this as a self hoster: god damn it, is there ANOTHER fucking instance I need to defederate?
BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I forgot that community existed. Segregation gives me the ick to such an extent I blocked it. I think it’s the only non-german-language community I’ve blocked.
A publicly visible forum isn’t a safe space. I can go to a discord channel for that. I would never think to tell someone to shut up because of physical characteristics. That’s precisely how social poisons like transphobia propagate. Could Elliot Page post there? What about Hunter Schafer? What about enbys? Jack Haven? Do we demand genital inspections like MAGA gestapo? Would you exclude my partner for failing to pass some feminine-enough test?
Segregation of public and publicly visible places is fundamentally and ethically wrong. I will help build the louisettes to dismantle the patriarchy, but I won’t exclude people even their “type” has traditionally held a position of privilege. It’s not right and it makes us the baddies the misogynistic claim we are.
My point is, I don’t like anything about this. ESH. I don’t support or endorse any of this, from the community to the alleged interlopers. It’s all wrong.
HexesofVexes@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Eh, I only ever see that community when a bait post makes it to the front page.
Honestly, I just assumed it was a really elaborate troll group and didn’t bother engaging.
glitchdx@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
suggestion: make a separate community that is “replies to womens stuff”.
actually don’t, sounds like a cesspool.
gmtom@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I got banned from that sub for “sounding like a man” then when I told them I’m non binary and so should be able to post their according to their rules they didn’t respond
ryathal@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
X only communities shouldn’t be publicly viewable.
pachrist@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I feel like accidentally commenting there is a Lemmy right of passage. It got me, and continues to almost get me. They generally have good discussion.
YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
When I first started here I had a relevant point for a women’s only community on the front. I asked if my opinion was welcome, told it was not (but fairly respectfully), and the only comment I left was an apology.
Like it’s not hard to be respectful, even if you hold a slightly different opinion. I don’t go to any of the “on grad” posts and let my opinions about Stalin fly(which are largely negative despite me agreeing with a lot of the tenants of communism).
The only exception I make about being respectful is anyone bragging about not voting last election in the US. You all suck and I will not let you live it down peacefully. Ffs vote third party! But don’t brag about being a lazy POS and standing by while fascism takes over!
Tedesche@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I honestly don’t know what you’re offended by. Maybe I wasn’t reading closely enough, but could you spell it out for me?
AceFuzzLord@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Yeah, that definitely is annoying to have a man invade a space specifically for women, speaking as a man. You certainly ain’t doing any favors by going onto a woman’s space to reply to their posts if you’re a man.
Victoriathecompact@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
“fancying the man im talking to” yeah suree.that was definitely a covo with a real person
bstix@feddit.dk 2 weeks ago
That community hits “front page” quite often. It’s easy to miss the community name (and rules) unless you pay attention.
It would be nice if there was a brother community that had the same topic, and a default text in all posts explaining this and redirecting the men to that.
dohpaz42@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Ironic given the community you’re posting to, and its own rules. But 🤷♂️.
BurgerBaron@piefed.social 2 weeks ago
Really not the point of this community, the mod doesn’t care so I guess why should I. Leaving.
Zephorah@discuss.online 2 weeks ago
Ferengis are known outside of the Star Trek fan base. A well travelled species.
Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I thought the plural of Ferengi was Ferengi.
falseWhite@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I praise and hope that it’s not a feminist community, but I would bet my ass that most of the women in that community ironically consider themselves feminists.
AmidFuror@fedia.io 2 weeks ago
Incel behavior includes using "female" as a noun when talking about women. Using "female" as an adjective is perfectly normal and common. It is fine to write "female coworker" instead of "coworker who is a woman."
Some people are hypersensitive to wrongspeak.
Acamon@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I don’t think people are bothered by “female coworker”, which is perfectly normal. It’s the reference to a “female-only” community, when the actual com is called WomensStuff and describes itself as “women only” and “a women’s community”.
fushuan@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
Maybe it’s just me, but in female-only community, I’m using female as part of a composed adjective. I’d say male-only community too, it just feels more natural. In fact, in an earlier comment I wrote women only, and then writing man only felt SO bad that I changed both to female and male.
Now that I think about it it’s probably because I used man instead of men. I’ll change both back but OOP miiight have followed my logic? Idk
AmidFuror@fedia.io 2 weeks ago
Ok. I somehow missed that. I scanned for other uses of "female" a few times but was blinded to the one right next to coworker.
RickyRigatoni@retrolemmy.com 2 weeks ago
Not every female is a woman. Some of them are ladies or girls.
corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Sure: A -> B != B => A
You … know that, right?
AmidFuror@fedia.io 2 weeks ago
I have no idea what you're trying to communicate, but I do understand the logical expression you used.