Tedesche

@Tedesche@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Let's not⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Coach Z?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Maybe stop labeling them the “enemy” with posts like these?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  It sounds like wherever you are does not have adequate services for their homeless population. That’s a serious problem, and I would obviously advocate for the expansion of said services over sleep-prevention measures added to park benches.

  But I am a therapist with experience working with homeless people, and contrary to what you apparently think, my experience does give me expertise on their lives. Where I live, they do have options. I’m sorry your state doesn’t serve its homeless population as well as mine. We can both agree that’s a bad thing. What we disagree on is that this simple park benches feature is/isn’t an “attack” on homeless people. I also hold the position that methadone clinics are a disservice to opioid addicts—due to my extensive experience with that population who are still addicted to opioids, and whose methadone clinics actively encourage them to remain on methadone rather than titrate off of it. Are you going to tell me that being against that is an “attack” on heroin addicts?

  I’m sorry you’ve had the experiences you’ve had, but my position is entirely defensible, and you haven’t presented me with any evidence to the contrary. Moreover, your contention that I’m a “bad” therapist because of it speaks volumes about your naïveté regarding my profession.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  As I said to another commenter, “anti-homeless” measures like these make zero sense if there aren’t resources for the homeless available. I’m sorry, it doesn’t sound like resources were available to you, and that truly sucks. Your state should do better.

  However, in places where resources are available, homeless people still sometimes refuse to utilize them, and then measures like this become valid and utilitarian.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Not where I live. There are plenty of options for the homeless in my city, but we still have problems with homeless people taking up public space because they would rather be left alone and not address their problems.

  Do you think I’m lying? Can you not empathize with this problem? Do you really think all homeless people flock to the resources available to them? None of them resort to vagrancy at all? Do you think the inventors of these bench features had steepled fingers and were like, “Let’s fuck these homeless MFers even harder!”?

  Providing resources only goes so far. As a therapist, I can easily tell you that merely making help available does not guarantee the needy will come get help. Sometimes, you have to make it impossible for people to escape the consequences of their actions before they’ll do the work necessary to get better.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Sounds like the area you were in didn’t have adequate homeless shelters. Where I live, you could always have gone there. The cops wouldn’t necessarily have taken you there, but you could certainly have gotten there in your own.

  I will admit that “anti-homeless” bench features don’t make much sense unless you have places and resources for homeless people to fall back on. But if there are said resources, I see the utility of these features to disincentivize homeless people from using public benches as a substitute for getting professional help.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I am, and no, I don’t. Shocking, the idea that I engage with strangers online in a casual capacity differently than I do with my patients in a professional capacity.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I made a neutral comment, stating my opinion without any insults, and have been getting insulting comments like yours ever since. You want to throw barbs, but object to them being thrown back.

  Grow the fuck up. I’m done with you in particular.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Literally anyone using the bench potentially prevents someone else from also using the bench. Why is it a bigger deal when it’s a homeless person doing the using?

  If the homeless person was just sitting on the bench, it wouldn’t be an issue. The bench features we’re talking about aren’t designed to prevent people from sitting on them; they’re designed to prevent people from lying down on them comfortably, thereby taking up more space and using the bench for a purpose it was not intended.

  You chided me for calling someone else stupid, so I’m trying to be nicer, but I honestly don’t feel like I should have to explain this to you.

  Why is your focus on prevention and not education/outreach anyways?

  As I’ve said in other comments, I support outreach attempts as well. My focus is on this prevention technique because it’s the topic of the thread.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  No. But since you have experience, let me ask you: did you spend time sleeping on public benches and do you think features that attempt to prevent this are an attack on homeless people? And just to be clear, since this is a text-only format, I’m not being sarcastic or trying to make light of your experience; I’m genuinely curious.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Flyers wouldn’t prevent homeless people from using the bench as a bed, preventing other people from using it for its intended purpose, and would be almost entirely ignored.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Right, the person throwing insults in all caps says I’m the one who should be embarrassed. 🙄

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  making the world as hostile as possible is a good thing?

  Oh, please, seriously? I advocate for a feature in public spaces that disincentivizes homeless people from sleeping on park benches and you think I’m trying to create a living Hell for them? After I’ve already also advocated for more to be put into affordable housing and outreach services for them? Get over your self-righteousness, man. Demonizing me won’t convince me or anyone else.

  And for the record, gaslighting is when you lie and manipulate a person ways that specifically cause them to doubt their perception of reality; it’s not a catch-all term for saying something someone else thinks is untrue.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Amazingly, you think because someone has a mental illness that they chose to live on the street.

  No, I don’t. I’m a therapist that works at a mental health clinic, so I’d wager I have a better understanding of the psychosocial conditions affecting these people than you do. And I know the feeling psychosocial impacts have on the homeless better than you do. I’ve seen and worked with people living on the street. Can you claim to have the same experience?

  Jesus Christ, do you even know what you’re talking about?

  I’m not going to waste my time with you, because you haven’t demonstrated you have even an inkling of an understanding of what you’re dealing with.

  Get educated before you spout off, nitwit.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Your refusal to acknowledge their existence is what is cruel.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  You’re stupid if you think this is the effect anti-homeless architecture is having in the places it’s being implemented. They have very little impact to begin with. I don’t pretend to think that shelters can’t be improved, but if people refuse to utilize the resources we have, we must either come up with new resources or reevaluate our investments in the resources we currently employ.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  You can’t disconnect the problems you are pretending are separate.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  And what’s wrong with that? These people should be getting help, not taking up public space. I realize that it probably seems to you like an abuse campaign to insist they sleep somewhere else, but I would argue you’re an enabler who naively thinks they’re helping while actually just cooperating with these poor people’s poor adaptation strategies by giving them a place to stay in public space that isn’t actually a safe to stay in. Check yourself. Do you actually have these people’s best interests in mind, or are you just virtue signaling about the homeless, a class you see as less than yourself?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Nah, because these people are always going to be here. Do you have a better solution or are you just hand-wringing about people you don’t have to deal with in your daily life?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm gonna mute this one⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Anti-homeless architecture is meant to encourage homeless people to actually go to homeless shelters where they might get help finding affordable housing, not to mention help for whatever issues they have going on in their lives. It’s meant to combat the problem of some homeless people choosing to avoid getting help and continue to bury themselves in drugs/alcohol and sleep on things like public benches, where they prevent other people from using them for their intended purpose.

  There’s nothing wrong with wanting people to get the help they need and stop being an inconvenience for the rest of their community. Are you against homeless outreach programs too? Do you think people should just be allowed to set up shack wherever they please in public spaces? I’m not trying to pretend that the lack of affordable housing isn’t at the core of the problem, but even if we had enough of that, there’d still be mentally ill people and drug addicts that would prefer to live on the street, just to avoid social workers pressuring them to address their problems.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨'No gay, no pay': The RuneScape community is absolutely mauling Jagex's new CEO over his decision to cancel new Pride Month events⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If I ran a business, I would t engage in any political events whatsoever. I don’t think businesses should, quite frankly. Be politically neutral. I don’t believe doing so “supports the status quo,” and thereby oppresses people “de facto,” that’s just pressure from activists to support them. You support gay people on your service by letting them play and putting down any instances of anti-gay rhetoric on your platform. Simple as that.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What did Musk and Trump fall out over?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  What?! Only fools believe what the professional journalists say! Dintcha hear? It’s all fake news! The only real news is the stuff you see online, in random and especially backwater Internet forums, because why would some random, anonymous person lie or have things wrongly worked out? Trust in the obscure and unverifiable!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does anyone use a phone without a protective case?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I use a case and I have (very rarely) dropped my phones, but I’ve never broken one (or even significantly damaged one) by doing so. I suspect that might be because the lip of most cases protects the screen from direct impact with flat surfaces. Or maybe I’ve just been lucky.

  And I do agree with you that a case bulks up the phone a bit and you lose that satisfying thinness. However, to me, there’s a positive trade-off: if you get the right case (like a silicone one), you can significantly increase the tackiness of its surfaces, giving you a much better grip on it. This, to me, is the chief benefit of having a case—not to protect it should you drop it, but to make it so you’re much less likely to drop it in the first place.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Monty Python predicted social media⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not how you ride a horse⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  SO. PURE.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can you read and understand this passage?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  All right, so taste aside, I would make the argument that Dickens’ writing is absolutely not “top class” by virtue of the fact that he was paid by the word and many have argued this contributed to his style of employing a lot of run-on sentences in his work. Don’t get me wrong—I do think he was a good writer, but I tend to agree that his verbosity detracted from the quality of his writing, not added to it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A weight to bear⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  No, that’s not how humor works. The person telling the joke never knows the comedic mechanism they’re employing, that’s why it’s funny.

  So, riposte and reverso! You are the one to be Hellbound!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A weight to bear⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I would think being tall would help when you’re protesting women’s rights—more people can see your neck beard.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Reality vs. male delusion⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  The ATM’s not working for you, I take it?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The joy of going through pregnancy along with your sister⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Posts here are not meant to be taken seriously.