Nollij
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- Comment on What are some good places/activities where a middle-aged man can new make friends? 22 hours ago:
Related, many small(-ish) bars have a stage for live music on Friday/Saturday. There may not be enough seating for those nights, and there’s little/no standing room, so people randomly share tables. From there, you strike up conversation with other fans.
Find the small places where they advertise the bands by name, and make sure they aren’t just cover bands. Irish pubs have been lucky for me, but there’s another place near me that regularly has jam bands.
- Comment on Looking for the perfect 5 year anniversary gift? 1 week ago:
You should take the hint.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
You’ve already asked yourself what’s the worst that can happen. Now ask her what she thinks is the worst that can happen, and what she thinks would actually happen. Do not correct her or interrupt, and only ask probing questions so that you can better understand.
I promise you that her answers are not the same as yours.
- Comment on how do I stop being a sucker for alcoholic stuff on sale? 2 weeks ago:
The only thing I want to add is that AA is not the only option, nor even the most effective one. But it is the one with the lowest barrier to entry - you just look up where a meeting is, and you show up. No charge or anything.
However, if AA doesn’t help (and there are plenty of people where it doesn’t), there are a bunch of other options. Some are very casual group support events (but with a licensed counselor), all the way to in-patient clinics, and everything in between.
- Comment on How I discovered my partner was an undercover police officer sent to spy on me 2 weeks ago:
Speaking only about the legal sense here, most places do not recognize that. If you are of sound mind and body, not under the influence of drugs, extortion, etc, then the consent is valid.
Part of the problem is that everyone is at least a little deceitful, and these have been used in courts to claim rape. I remember a case about the use of makeup (deceiving about her actual looks and genetics), and another about being the “wrong” ethnicity. Where is the line for the courts to be involved?
- Comment on Where on the internet would you discuss a specific case of a potential exploitation of a minor within the adult industry"? 2 weeks ago:
This is understandably vague. Other people have mentioned the US FBI, but there’s also the NCMEC and IWF. If this is a professional-looking work, you may want to engage the studio’s compliance office. There are a number of very young-looking performers that were confirmed legal adults, so it might be a false alarm.
If you found something on PornHub or similar (possibly including Facebook), they usually have a ‘Report’ link. If you claim it contains minors, they will likely handle reports to the authorities automatically.
If you are looking to discuss whether a work contains a minor, outside of an abstract like the Traci Lords videos, I would recommend against it. Get the compliance records from the studio, or report it to authorities.
- Comment on I am indeed old 3 weeks ago:
The top 5 websites in the world are mostly reposts from the other 4.
- Comment on Why do so many piece of Hardware come with windows only software requiring admin right for installation 3 weeks ago:
Also, you asked 3 completely different and unrelated questions:
- Why do drivers need admin permissions?
- Why do devices only come with Windows drivers?
- Why are corporate IT policies the way they are?
#3 could be broken down even further, covering how/when admin is granted, as well as how devices are procured.
At my (large) employer, we absolutely would’ve told you to pound sand for getting that device outside of official channels and bypassing a security review. Especially since you described it as a data logger.
- Comment on Why do so many piece of Hardware come with windows only software requiring admin right for installation 3 weeks ago:
Is there something technically forcing the privilege elevation to install a driver ?
Yes. With few exceptions, drivers need admin permissions to be installed. In part that’s because they need admin permissions to run, and malicious drivers have absolutely been exploited in the past.
Some hardware (e.g. mice, keyboards, storage) don’t need additional drivers to be installed, but that’s because the OS uses generic drivers, or has a whitelisted source (e.g. Windows Update)
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
no bus to church??
In the US, many (most?) churches offer their own transportation. It’s common enough that the term ‘church bus’ is a thing, although it’s usually more like a large van. For those that don’t, the parishioners will often offer transportation to those that need it.
- Comment on What should I do if someone applied to a job at a company I work at without being able to legally work in my country? 1 month ago:
They have to file paperwork with the necessary supporting documents. If they can’t, you have no idea why. Maybe it’s because they’re ineligible and in violation of immigration and visa restrictions. Maybe it’s because the documents were lost in a move. Maybe they had their identity stolen and are awaiting new documents. Maybe they just don’t actually give a shit about the job and aren’t bothering to do the paperwork to start working.
All you can say is that you’ve asked them to fill out the paperwork and they haven’t done so.
- Comment on Slate Truck is a $20,000 American-made electric pickup with no paint, no stereo, and no touchscreen 1 month ago:
I found the specs a bit interesting. 52.7 kWh battery and a curb weight of 3,600 lbs is nearly identical to the Chevy Bolt, but this only has a range of 150 miles instead of 240. Is it really that much less efficient? The only thing I can think of is the aerodynamics, but that’s a 40% difference.
- Comment on Hosting files on the LAN to trusted folks at a LAN party -- FTP? 1 month ago:
Is there any reason to not just use samba or NFS?
- Comment on Netflix now offers dialogue-only subtitles 1 month ago:
Great and all that Netflix is doing this, but this isn’t something new in the world. It sounds like their old subtitles were actually Subtitles for the Deaf and Hearing-Impaired (SDH). If you’ve ever seen that acronym and wondered what it meant, now you do.
Subtitles not labeled SDH have traditionally been dialogue-only.
- Comment on ‘Brooklyn Nine-Nine’ Has the Most Words Per Minute of Any TV Show, Study Finds 1 month ago:
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- Comment on VMware revives its free ESXi hypervisor 1 month ago:
My primary reason for using free ESXi has been career development. VMware was the biggest player at all of the biggest potential employers, so it made sense to be familiar with.
These days, they’re all looking to jump ship. Some are actively migrating, others won’t get there at all.
But all of them now value experience in alternatives at least as much, if not more than VMware.
I’m still using free ESXi, but the next time I rebuild (i.e. new hardware), it will not be ESXi.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
To really find out, you probably just have to ask them directly.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
At 16, her personality is visible, and her taste in partners has probably shown. If she’s into guys with ties to drugs, violence, etc, this might actually be a step up.
It still has the glaringly obvious issues OP was asking about, but you don’t always get to choose the cards you’re dealt. This could be the least harmful choice available.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
There is so much additional context needed to say with any confidence. The first thought would be that he can be a good provider (i.e. money) and her other prospects are not very promising. Another could be power, and how that could be extended to the family.
There’s yet another possibility that they aren’t actually ok with it, but are only presenting that face in public. Teenage girls are notoriously hard to control, and this might be the fastest/easiest way to get her to end it or learn a lesson.
There are still a number of other possibilities, many involving religion, that there’s no way to know which might apply to your situation.
- Comment on I'm looking for a no frills, physical key EV. Am I looking for something that no longer exists? 2 months ago:
As others have mentioned, it refers to the gear shift. But it actually has a meaningful origin - many years ago, the gear order was not agreed upon. Many cars had a gear shift that was PNDLR (which I’ve heard pronounced “pendler”), where reverse was at the end. At the time, it was useful to tell the difference between a PRNDL and a PNDLR shift.
Of course that was all before 1971, when PRNDL was mandated by the US government.
- Comment on The fediverse promises social media without Big Tech – if it can avoid familiar pitfalls 2 months ago:
There are some public numbers on how many occurrences are found each year on the major platforms.
IIRC, Facebook deals with around 75 million reports per year. Twitter, Reddit, and others were around 20 million reports per year.
I don’t know how many are dealt with on Mastodon or Lemmy (or how you’d even get reliable numbers for that), but something tells me it’s a lot less than the bigger platforms these days.
- Comment on Gemini can now personalize its answers based on your search history 2 months ago:
This might be interesting. I turned off all of my Google history years ago. I presume they still collected all of it.
This could reveal some of that.
- Comment on If I don't have my lunch my sugar crashes and I get sleepy 2 months ago:
It sounds like a daytime event. If it runs that late, it interferes with nighttime events, most notably drinking/getting laid.
- Comment on Prepare For Discord To Get Way Worse [Kotaku] 3 months ago:
It’s more like claiming to own a subreddit, or a Twitter hashtag.
- Comment on Prepare For Discord To Get Way Worse [Kotaku] 3 months ago:
“Having a Discord server” doesn’t mean what those words normally mean.
- Comment on Over 230,000 Canadians Want Elon Musk’s Citizenship Revoked 3 months ago:
For comparison, the total population of Canada is 40.1 million people, meaning that just over 0.5% signed this petition.
As much as I enjoy the sentiment, this petition was never going to go anywhere. As others have pointed out, revoking citizenship based on popular opinion just isn’t a thing.
- Comment on Do you find this compelling evidence to doubt the result of the election? 3 months ago:
In the very few cases where the trump campaign showed any evidence whatsoever, they actually did very well with the court rulings. Keep in mind that these were absolutely not cases of widespread fraud, but of localized errors that are common in every election.
The fact that most suits were filed with literally no evidence whatsoever was very telling, though.
- Comment on I’m planning to teach middle school Spanish, would casually mentioning having a girlfriend cause an uproar? 3 months ago:
Does Spanish have a super generic term like “significant other” or “partner” that doesn’t convey anything useful?
Side note, the types of parents you would be concerned about are probably also the type that get super racist about teaching Spanish in the first place.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
Thank you- this is exactly the sort of critique I had been expecting/hoping to find
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
I agree with you, and would go further.
A while back, there was a study (IIRC) from the UK that recommended against gender transitioning for children. No surprise, it created quite an uproar before it was retracted.
At no point in any of the media coverage or comments on Lemmy, etc, did I see any discussion of the study itself. To this day, I have no idea if there was an issue with the methodology. It seems that no one, neither supporters nor opponents, bothered to read past the headline. Many of them were very fervent in their beliefs, but that wasn’t enough to get them to look at the details.
This is also very bad for science - there are countless headline-grabbing “studies” that fail basic requirements. I’m sure you’ve seen things like “Is coffee/chocolate/etc good for you? A new 10-day study of 23 people suggests that…”. Which of course should get picked apart.
If we aren’t following the science, then what are we even trying to do?
(As an aside, I suspect that study was flawed, but I can’t confirm. It goes against the conclusions widely agreed upon, and would require significant rigor and evidence to support the claim)