Acamon

@Acamon@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If this is a genuine question, and not a halfhearted attempt at trolling, you need to be more specific about what you’re asking:

  Are you looking for biological / evolutionary theories about why maaaaany animals show same sex sexual activity?

  Are you looking for an anthropology/historical analysis of how human sexuality has been expressed in different ways and had very different norms and taboos than our current blend?

  Or are you asking individuals to talk about their own experience and what lead them to identify as whatever?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I have to be knowledgeable about a particular superstition in order to sign in to access a government form⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Zoloft been in use since 1991, and “Is that your phone?” was a perfectly cromulent thing to say in the 90s, meaning “do I hear your land-line ringing?” not “is that your pocket computer on the table there?”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨flouride⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Talking about the ocean is odd, but there are towns in the UK (and most countries I’d assume?) where the natural level of fluoride is higher than the concentration they aim for when adding fluoride. I think that’s a pretty good argument for it being safe - the people of Hartlepool have been drinking fluoride rich water for 13 centuries and don’t have any noticeable issues compared to the rest OF County Durham.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there an obvious technical reason why the major email services (Outlook, gmail, etc) can't seem to limit recipients' from Replying-All?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  As the other commentors have said, this isn’t a problem with email services, it’s a problem with email users. If you put all the addresses in the “To:” or “CC:” boxes, its because you want someone to Reply All. If you want to prevent that, put all the recipients in the BCC box.

  Its a good idea, but fortunately someone already solved it a good while back. Now we just need a PSA to teach people to stop cramming everyone in the wrong box.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is non-sexual masochism a thing?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Lots of folks seem to have hobbies or put themselves through challenges that from the outside seem pretty masochistic. They generally claim they like the challenge, want to prove themselves or some other thing, but people who run the Marathon de Sable or swallow a Cessna light aircraft sure seem to gain pleasure from putting themselves through pain…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What has Critical Theory actually achieved?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m mot sure I understand what kind of answer you are looking for. What did the Whig historiography achieve? Or the Great Man theory? Isn’t Critical Theory an academic approach that allows people in the humanities a different theoretical framework to approach the problems of culture, history, literature, etc? It’s been pretty successful in that, and while I believe that academic scholarship has some influence on world affairs, it’s generally the political zetgeist exerts more pressure on academic thinking than the other way around…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do the ultra-rich consume popular media?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The Queen apparently watched the amazing 80s Flash Gordon movie every Christmas. And it’s about overthrowing a tyrannical monarch…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do you actually care about your friend's new baby, vacation abroad or similar life events or are you just being nice?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It depends. Mostly I care, a new baby is a big deal, I think about how it will affect them, what the child might be like, the fact that I will probably still be spending time with that child in ten years.

  Holidays I care if they’re interesting. If someone goes somewhere I’ve always wanted to go I might have questions, if they’ve been somewhere I’ve been I might chat about what I liked. But when people try to tell you a detailed recount of some trip, it can be very boring. My parents are particularly bad at reminiscing together while notionally telling me, so they keep going “where was it we ate the second day? No that was the other place” it’s awful. But it’s a chance for them to feel happy about their holiday again, so I try to be patient, and I remember how many times my parents pretended to be interested as I explained how I was doing at some computer game or whatever.

  But to answer your question, it sounds like you care less than most. But everyone cares less than the people who’s life event it is. There’s lots of scenes in comedies about people hating hearing about new babies, or being forced to look at holiday photos. So you’re not alone!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Phonebooks⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Original SEO

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i need it, soz⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  What I think you mean by “natural geography” is just one part of the field. Urban / economic geography (regional dynamics, housing policy, tourism geography, population analysis) and Historical / Social geography (historical urban geography, homelessness, migration, etc) Are big parts of the field of geography. Most of modern geography is interested in both the physical (more geology, climate, biomes, etc) and human aspects, and how they interact.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Sorry to be dumb, but which ones are the crt ones?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why limit immigration?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  An increase in supply would reduce wages, unless it also increases demand. If you think about wages in cities vs rural areas, you’ll see that most of the time more people = more economic activity = higher wages.

  Where this breaks down, is if there’s barriers of entry that prevent immigrants from participating in the economy fully. If immigrants aren’t allowed to legally work or start business (as happens with some asylum seekers or ‘illegal’ immigrants) then they are forced to compete over a small pool of off-book / cash-in-hand jobs, which could see a reduction in wages without a significant increase in overall economic activity.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can non-airborne viruses become airborne through mutation?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That was really interesting. Thanks!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If an oven only has fan forced mode do i still need to set it to the fan forced temperature in recipes? Ie 160 instead of 180.⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Tbh, almost all oven thermostats are not accurate for the actual temperature of the oven. Like, they probably are measuring 170 accuretly, but the thermostat is in the very back top corner and the temperature in the middle shelf is 15 degrees off.

  People who are keen on baking, roasting meat etc where temperatures are important often recommend getting an oven thermometer so you can see the real temperature.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How much did the transition to cashless impacted inflation ?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I guess it’d be interesting if you could measure the drop in undeclared income by seeing places that increased their turnover as electronic payments became common. Although because covid was a big driver for that in many places, and disrupted all the expectations for business, demand, costs etc it might be hard to pick apart.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How can I create an alter ego for publishing stories?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  No idea why someone down voted this comment. It’s pretty much all there is to it. Where ever you’re publishing / monetising can have your real name for financial and legal aspects. But the name you put as the author of the stories / books can be whatever you like (probably not the same as someone else who publishes in your field…)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Did the premise of an entity approaching you only when it's not being viewed originate with Doctor Who's Weeping Angels?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Works fine for me on Boost

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Will I ever be seen as truly British?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I thinknif you’ve lived in Britain that long most people would think of you as British, especially if you have a reasonably British accent. Where I live in Scotland, most people are happy to accept anyone who actually wants to live in Scotland as Scottish!

  Hut there’s always going to be racist idiots. I’ve been told I’m “not really British” just because I’m from Scotland (by someone who obviously doesn’t understand the difference between England and Britain. And I’ve seem the whitest, pure Anglo-Saxon English people being called “not really British” because they wanted to stay in the EU. So, try to ignore the idiots!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people still eat beef when we know it's terrible for Earth?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Egg and dairy allergies are among the most common food allergies, so I’d guess that something like that might be the issue?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why are SMS messages so expensive?⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Are they? I have plans in both the UK and France, and I think they’re both unlimited sms. Not expensive plans, I think the UK one is £7 for unlimited sms, unlimited calls and 20gb of data (which is more than I use).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨In movies a strong woman is manly. (big muscles, aggressive, punches people, etc.) Is that really the way it is?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Sorry, genuinely trying to understand here. So are you saying “in movies, women who have strength of character are also shown as being ‘manly’ (big muscles, punches people, etc). Is that how it really is?”

  If that’s what you’re asking, I don’t think it’s true. Some movies have women of very strong character, who are physically weak, pacifist, etc. And some movies have women that have strong characters and are physically strong, cabable of violence, etc. And some movies have women who are douchey, flawed characters who can be physically strong.

  I’m not sure I see any correlation between strength of character and physical strength, or propensity to violence, for either men or women. It’s more of a genre thing - in action movies men and women are more likely to be physically tough, and in political dramas they’re more likely to be physically weak. And there will be a mix of people with “strong character” and people with flawed or weak characters.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I stop wanting to be on a relationship?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Can you explain a bit more about why you feel it is easier to learn how to enjoy being alone than learn to enjoy being in a relationship?

  I defintely struggled with giving up my independence, and still find it hard to be responsible for/to another person. But I finally ended up in a relationship with someone who was also independent and we were in a very casual relationship for five years before we started to admit that we were a couple and another few years before we realised how much we now loved each other. I guess all I’m saying is relationships don’t need to be one way. I have a friend who only dates people who live in other cities / countries, because that way they only see each other occasionally and at pre-arranged times, and that works for them.

  But if you really feel you are happier on your own and it’s just internalised social pressure that makes you want a relationship then you could try developing “singleton pride”. Part of the reason gay people historically got into “gay pride” was to help the overcome their own internalised homophobia, because even if you don’t agree with something you still absorb it in your upbringing and it can be hard to get past it.

  So, you could try directly telling people that you’re single for life and that your happy with that choice. If you’re worried that society will think you’re a failure for not having a relationship then confront that fear immediately and get it out the way. You’ll realise that most people don’t care, some people will actually be on your side, and the people who do actually think worse of you are wrong so you don’t need to care about their opinions. But if you’re not confident enough in your decision to proudly stand behind it, then of course doubts will sink in and you’ll repeat the loop again.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Have you ever seen coal in real life?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Don’t think so! Defintely much heavier and more solid than bbq charcoal. I don’t remember it being very smoky, weird less so than wood fires (which have a distinctive and pleasant smell) or peat fires, which were also common in my region but would trigger my asthma. But possibly it was just that I was used to coal? Maybe someone else would have found it gross?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Have you ever seen coal in real life?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Use to have an open coal fire in my childhood home. Made many a coal fire. It’s very sooty on the hands!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨degree in bamf⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh god, yes. I worked in a call centre for six months and it was dreadful. The combination of dealing with sometimes frustrating situations + the anonymity of a voice only call… People were regularly dreadful. Definitely at least 10% very rude people.

  I also took it to be a sign of the ‘banality of evil’, that people having a nice time with their friends, eating some nice food, are generally pleasant. But put them in the privacy of their own home, speaking to a faceless stranger, and suddenly they can be awful. But I tried not to judge them to harshly. The design of call centres, with long hold times and staff with no real power to do anything helpful, is pretty much guaranteed to frustrate the most saintly of people.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨degree in bamf⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Totally agree that eating at a restaurant doesn’t mean you see all the subtle ways people are douches. But the comment above was about people shouting, so I assumed that the “10% of people are rude” was meaning obviously and noticeably rude. If it’s just 10% of people are impatient / distracted / not very friendly / kinda annoying. Then sure, but I don’t think anyone would be surprised with such a mild claim.

  And as I said, I was a waiter in a busy restaurant for over two years. And the staff spent a lot of time complaining about the job to each other (as you do) and while many customers were annoying, kept changing their orders, or were a bit drunk and laughing loudly the whole time, blah blah, I don’t remember anyone ever complaining about a customer being as rude as I regularly read / see on the Internet. I never encounter a “Karen”.

  I’ve always assumed it is just that Internet focusses on the tiny number of extreme behaviours and makes it sound more normal. But then I hear people say things like 10% of people are awful to staff and it makes me think that maybe there’s a real cultural difference.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨degree in bamf⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Maybe in some places. But when I go out to a restaurant, I’m often surrounded by a few dozen other diners, and no one is acting up or shouting at waiting staff. I have seen customers be obviously rude to staff but it’s very rare compared to the number of “normal” interactions. Sure not everyone is friendly and totally polite, but entitled, shouting or just being an ass is an absolute exception, like less than 0.1%. I also worked as a waiter in a couple of different restaurants over a two year period, and don’t remember any incidents either to me or my colleagues.

  When I read comments like this it makes me wonder if I’ve been lucky enough to live and work in decent places, and the USA is just an nightmare hellscape, or if the reality there is much more normal and we just hear an unrepresentative sample of it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you use cotton leggings? would you recommend them?⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not sure if the science of it, but I find cotton to be much more comfortable. Synthetic fibres get really sweaty while cotton feels comfortable in all weather. And I use to have skin issues (eczema and psoriasis) and cotton was defitnely less irritating than synthetic fibres.

  My fave is merino wool leggings, very soft and good at regulating body temperature. Doesn’t get too hot but also protects from the cold.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A post may receive a hundred replies and host a fat and exciting conversation tree, but if one moderator doesn't like it then it may be locked or deleted. Is that immoral?⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I understand the frustration, and I think we’ve all seen locked posts we would like to have participated in. But can I check what you’re actually arguing, are you saying that if there’s ever significant interest in a post (hundreds of comments etc) then it’s not appropriate for one person to close it?

  If I make a “Trump just did something crazy!” post in a Android community, and I get lots of responses and spirited debate, is it wrong for the mod to close it because it’s completely unrelated to the community?

  If I post some super hot NSFW “does my ass look good in this thong?” post in NoStupidQuestions community, is it wrong for the mod to remove it for breaking community rules? Even if it’s a question and it’s getting lots of up votes and comments?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How does a SO feel different from a very good friend?⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, I’d say SO generally are like great friends (with benefits), but often, over time you end up doing so much stuff with them that they eclipse any other individual friend. And eventually (especially if you end up living together) they become such a part of your day to day life they can begin to feel like an extension of yourself (or rather, that you’re both part of one being) and it’s hard to live with out them. I remember laughing at my dad for wanting to phone my mum everyday when he was away on business. I’d be like “what do you even have to talk about? You see each other all the time” But now, if I had a day where I didn’t at least message with my partner I’d feel so isolated.