Acamon

@Acamon@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Instead of asking all my stupid questions separately, could I just get a ton of "How to Adult" type resources in the comments?⁩ ⁨⁨6⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Fully sympathise. People are giving general advice, and there’s good evidence that it works for most people. I have adhd, and even I know that multi-tasking is distracting and that if I can focus entirely on something I will perform better. But I also know from decades of daily experience that if I try and completely focus on something when my brain is not compliant, then I will do much much worse.

  I will learn a lot more by listening to an audiobook while I do chores for an hour, even if sometimes the chores distract me from the content, compared with trying to read a book. Because if I sit and try and read, I will manage one minute, get up and get a drink, reread the same page, want some music to cover up some distracting noise, then rememeber that I’m avoiding distractions so turn the music off… And so on, until after ten minutes I’m only in page 2 and I give up in frustration, drained and demotivated.

  As an ever more aged adult, I think the one piece advice I’d give my younger self is “trust yourself”. I’ve wasted so much time trying to follow advice and rules that just never worked for me, and eventually I realise that my instincts were right and I should have just improved my own strategies instead of trying to become something I’m not. That’s not to say you know everything already. Listen to people, try their ideas out, experiment and all that, but don’t feel pressure to do what works for “most people” if it doesn’t work for you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do websites now prefer IP-based geolocation rather than the `Accept-Language` HTTP header?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  You’re doing the Lord’s work. As someone who lives in a country where I can barely speak the language this is a constant frustration.

  I also hate how hard it is to override location for other searches. I travel back and forth to my native country regularly, and so I’m often trying to search stuff or buy things for a different country than the one I’m literally in. If Google is so keen on making money from me, why can’t I tell it to do a Product search in a specific country, instead of forcing me to use a vpn to trick it?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  This is something that I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about. I think there’s a danger to doomscrolling and upsetting yourself about things you can’t change, and it can be really unhealthy. But there’s also a real danger from turning away from the bad things that happen. And in my experience, the people who know least about the world, who “don’t follow politics”, etc are often the people responsible for the problems.

  Although wallowing in tragedy doesn’t help anyone, being aware that bad things happen and doing what you can in real life to make the world a better place is important. But the moderation is important - getting upset doesn’t help anyone. So I try to limit my time with current affairs to specific times reading articles and reports, so I can learn about the world in a calm way. Rather than the drip drip anxiety provoking chaos of 24 hour news and social media.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Historically, people did exactly that and collected info in commonplace books.

  Growing up back then I owned a lot of books (and borrow vastly more for friends and libraries). I had a couple of bookshelves in my room, but my family home had at least a dozen full sized bookshelfs. So although I didn’t have access to the infinite info of the modern Internet, I read a lot of much more specific non-fiction books. There’s a lot to be said about having a deeper and cohesive understanding of a subject, compared to reading a bunch of wiki articles and watching a few hours of YouTube on a topic (although I enjoy that too!)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨why do some people put a space before a question mark or exclamation point?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  For me, it’s that my keyboard sometimes autocorrects to French.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what's the word for a leg elbow?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you mean the popliteal?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Catchiest video game song?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is one of the songs I hum to myself to get rid of more annoying earworms

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a community dedicated for serious discussion?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I don’t think crickets really means a lot when your commenting 1 hour after someone else…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would I need to do to successfully paint with my own menstrual blood?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Friend did this for an art project, it didn’t smell. Like all blood it dries to a kinda browny colour, but beyond that it was fairly unremarkable. The reactions from other people were certainly interesting though!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I'm working on a Sci-fi Point and Click adventure called Hope: A Sky Full of Ghosts. A demo is coming in a few weeks and would love a wishlist if that sounds like you jam.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Looks cool!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I think it was just that those were the four main classes in 1st and 2nd edition, with others seen as variations of those (e.g. paladins / rangers were basically fighter subclasses). In the Basic D&D line, they were the only four human classes.

  Due to this, adventure designers would include challenges that took advantage of thief skills, or Turn Undead, or whatever, to help all players contribute. Therefore, a smart party would have a mix of the main classes, because they knew they’d encounter obstacles that needed them (although it was never hard and fast, and a good adventure had multiple routes to victory.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you mean math classes/teaching? At school or university? Or just ‘mathematics’ as a concept? It’s pretty hard to be less abstract, when the basic idea of maths is abstraction.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If I snapped you back in time 650 years right this very second, how would you use your current knowledge to succeed?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Many years ago when I thought about this, I realised I wouldn’t be able to put much of my modern knowledge and skills to use. I decided I’d learn to make basic matches by distilling urine into phosphate, which wasn’t invented until the 19th century, but I’ve forgotten the process. Collect lots of urine and boil it? Also, if you make white phosphate it can cause horrific toothache and they have to remove your jaw… So, I’m hoping another commentor will suggest a safer skill I can brush up to be ready for travel.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Oblivion Remastered troubleshooting⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not criticising Linux gaming - I know basically nothing about it. Just my own experience over the last year, where I’ve tried buying and playing a couple of games and had difficulty getting them working, tried different Proton versions etc. But maybe I should be trying the window versions? My question was just innocent curiosity, but looking at my downvoters I’ve obviously touched a nerve!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Oblivion Remastered troubleshooting⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not very experienced with Linux gaming, and the last game I tried (xcom) crashed consistently, and reading forums people were suggesting using certain Proton versions and other stuff. I eventually gave up. I also got uncharted:LOT refunded because I couldn’t get it working in Linux. So if it’s “click install and click play” the great! It is straightfoward.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the point in getting married?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I married my partner, after being with them for over a decade, and a few years of living together full-time. It was mostly for admin reasons (we just bought our home, and being married made things easier if one of us died). If it wasn’t for that I don’t think we would have bothered. We know we love each other, and had decided a few years before that if we’d get married if we ever needed to, so it wasn’t like we ever ‘proposed’. Just a tiny ceremony with two friends as witness, and we went out to a restaurant for lunch afterwards. I don’t think it cost us anything beyond lunch? Maybe a tiny admin fee?

  But… I’m so happy we did! It’s weird! I never really cared, and rationally, I still think it hasn’t changed anything. But somehow it feels… really nice? I still regularly think (and tell them) “I’m so glad I married you”. I’m sure there are lots of other things that you can do to symbolise your relationship or commitment. If I got a tattoo inspired by my partner I’d probably have the same feeling of looking at it and thinking of them that I do when I play with my wedding ring (2€ piece of silly junk from aliexpress. And we each bought a bunch of spares so that when we inevitably lose them it’s not a problem). But actually a marriage is one of the simplest and cheaper ways (if you don’t choose or feel pressured into turning it into a stupid moneysink).

  Tldr: didn’t care about marriage, got married for tax, and weirdly found it deeply satisfying in a completely unexpected way.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Oblivion Remastered troubleshooting⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s working on Linux? Was it straightforward to setup? I’ve given up buying games on steam because of their terrible Linux support, and I’d seen a lot of comments about the steam deck version sucking, so I’d assumed the Linux version wasn’t great. But maybe the deck hardware is the issue?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨3 minutes and 8 seconds in Google Slides. Remember to study your humanities as well kiddos⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Infinitely better.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Steam Deck / Gaming News #11⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Thanks! Intresting read, and I like the style.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Should naming your children stupid names be illegal?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  In the UK you are free to basically just change your name if you want. In fact, part of getting it “officially” changed (like for a passport) is proving that you’ve been using the new name in daily life for a while. There’s a restriction about not using the new name for fraudulent purpose", so you can’t pretend to be someone else or whatever, but really what you call yourself and what you want others to call you is your business. I was genuinely surprised that most of the rest of the world thinks it’s acceptable to dictate people’s names to them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨fluffle!!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Adorable. But if anyone is curious (as I was) ::: spoiler spoiler Fluffle was a word inserted into a Wikipedia page as a joke in 2007 by some Canadian students, before rising to Internet popularity. This doesn’t make it “not a word”, but makes some other website’s claims that it’s ‘primarily used in British English’ unlikely. :::

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Straight people, do you know what the Grindr notification sound is?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Met my husband on grindr. Have no idea what the notification sound is.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Tigers 🐅 🐯⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  He is! 95% mice, very occasional birds. I had attributed that to birds other advantages (mostly being able to harass him by flying at him but not low enough he can reach) but perhaps it’s also the colour!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Tigers 🐅 🐯⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Is that why cats can be so ginger and still good hunters? My orange stands out so much in the garden, but maybe to dichromatic mice he’s super stealthy?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is anti-propaganda?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  What’s that?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Should a movie released in 1995 be considered an "old" movie?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Based on when I was young, I basically thought of anything from before I was born as “old”. Not consciously, just that everything from “my” decade seemed modern, and everything else was old.

  Even now, movies from 20+ years ago look old, even though I remember them being super new when they came out. The Matrix had aged pretty well, but it defintely looks old. I thought LOTR was timeless, but I rewatched it recently and did start to feel it was showing it’s age (but none the worse for it!).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Since militaries are authoritarian, even in democratic countries; What would a military of a stateless/anarchist society look like?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  As far as I understand it, most anarchists are opposed to unjust / unjustified / unnecessary hierarchies. There’s many advantages to having managers, team leaders, captains, etc. because it can be helpful to have someone coordinated actions between a larger group.

  What anarchists would seek to avoid would be structures where power starts to consolidate around people beyond what’s needed. It’s good to have a leader for quick decisions in the heat of battle, or other emergency, but that person doesn’t need to decide everything outside of battle, because there’s time to have a more democratic or consensual decision making process. They also don’t need to be given more money, or not be accountable and replaceable by their squad.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are old people usually attracted to other old people?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve always been attracted to folks with cute & youthful vibe. But when I was a teen that was pretty restricted to other teens, even the ‘young looking’ twenty year olds who were playing high-school students on TV obviously looked older and therefore less attractive to me.

  But now I’m in my 40s my range of who looks youthful and hot is much wider. Now I find 20s hotter than teens, 30s can look pretty youthful, and I’m not super attracted to older people, but I find them less gross because I’m used to what older bodies look like (I have one!). And since physical attractiveness is just one part of overall attraction, I’d probably find a cute & 39 person more overall attractive than cute & 19, just because my experience is that most 39 year olds are funnier and more socially skilled than teenagers.

  I can’t imagine every finding a 70 year old hotter on a physical level to 20 year old. But I can imagine being so content and in love with my elderly partner that I didn’t care that much.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Welp.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, I good with the message, but that’s one of the most uncomfortable looking photos I’ve seen. Where are they supposed to be looking?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨For every 30 minutes theres a 50% chance my right shoe lace will come undone⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Interesting! How do you tie it the right way?