psycotica0
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- Comment on It's always a conversation starter at the beach 2 days ago:
Oh those are just inverted toes! They’re more common than people think, but if you stimulate them they might pop right out.
But if your toes are not inverted normally, and then one day they suddenly are inverted, you should talk to a doctor because that can be a sign of foot cancer.
- Comment on No more CUM until 19 July 3 days ago:
*Doo doo doo doo doo… *
- Comment on Doing it now 1 week ago:
Something about this reminds me if the I Spy books of my youth:
- Comment on Fixing those dynamics 1 week ago:
Alright, hear me out: You’re washing your strap-on in the kitchen sink, and it’s prominently drying on the counter when you get stuck trying to get something out of the dishwasher!
It’d be madness if no one took advantage of this opportunity!
- Comment on Fixing those dynamics 1 week ago:
Poopin’ that D!
- Comment on Remember this famous quote from an early Arnold movie? 2 weeks ago:
It is imperative that the tree not be harmed.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Great comment! Just wanted to pop in as a straight guy and second that it’s very helpful when a partner has things they know they like and can communicate what’s working, what’s not, and what could be better.
But… teen boys kinda suck, and honestly some guys never grow out of it. Remember that they’re nervous and uncertain too, and sometimes that fragile state can receive a suggestion as “telling them what to do”, and can trigger a pride response. It’s not pretty, but it’s not uncommon.
I’m not telling you to lie to them, but sometimes phrasing something as “mmm that’s good. More to the left. Yeah that” can feel more collaborative, like we’re playing on the same team, than simple “do it on the left” or something that sounds more like a cold command. That can sometimes be received as “you suck, you’re fucking this up, just do it right”.
Other potential avenues are “unh that feels so good, ooh let’s try X!” or “hmm… I wonder if X would be good!” to change directions or “okay… wow, you’re going to need to give that a minute” to have them stop something without it necessarily feeling like a stop stop. Obviously if you need a quick stop, you can just say stop.
Or if it fits the mood, even just asking “please go faster”, “please pinch my nipples”, etc can be fun, because it makes it a request he fulfills rather than an order he obeys.
In the end, he probably wants to be good at this, so communicating not just the problem, but emphasizing the success can also be important. “Slower, slower, slower… yes that, oh fuck that, now side to side, oh shit shit shit”
This not only corrects the bad behaviour, but rewards and reinforces the right thing when we get there. And again, it makes them feel like they’re doing well, like they’re giving you something you like, and that we’re aligned and working together on this project.
Oh and also that having been said don’t be too rigid either. You know some things that feel good for you on your own, but some things feel better when someone else does them. And some things take a bit to warm up. And some things are maybe a bit intense at the start, but just right towards the end, whereas some things are good early on and boring later. Hold firm boundaries on the things that are most important, but other than that give him a chance to try some stuff! If it doesn’t work, you can nudge, but it helps him feel like he’s also part of this and not just a sex robot.
Unless he’s into that… 😉
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
This is a absolutely true but I think it’s important to note given the context that there’s a wide gap between “not orgasming” and the pain OP was describing. 80% of women not orgasming from vaginal penetration alone does not equal 80% of women experience pain from sex instead.
Also, many women enjoy vaginal penetration as a fun and pleasurable experience, even if it’s not an experience that leads to orgasm on its own.
I’m sure the person I’m replying to knows this, but given that this post is about a confused and frustrated person, I don’t want them to see this 80% statistic and think the takeaway is “sex is bad for 80% of women”
- Comment on Fucking pngs, how do they work? 2 weeks ago:
Fair fair, very important. What’s also important is that we get our prostate checked, and/or get some mammograms done.
- Comment on Femality is stored in the nipples 2 weeks ago:
Vaguely, because having 2 or 4 models that are static and always look good is actually a lot easier to design and test than a body that can be lots of sizes and shapes. Like, it’s more work to make an outfit 4 times than 1 time, but it’s also kinda easy work. Whereas making an outfit that can be any size and shape and still looks right and natural and doesn’t clip through itself, etc is harder.
But not impossible, so I agree if your game is going to have sliders anyway, and those sliders are going to allow extreme adjustments and not just “length of torso, circumference of boobs”, probably you’re going to have to take a lot of that into account anyway.
Even still, though, having a “bunch” of sliders can sometimes still not be enough to get from one body type to another. Like, the fact that you can’t start with the male body in most of these games and adjust your way to the female one, or vice versa, means there are properties that would need to be made adjustable that currently aren’t, in order to actually get you smoothly from one to the other.
- Comment on Yay, sponsored emojis! 2 weeks ago:
Wow, I had no idea! I just looked through the list of World Cup balls, and they only used that design, like, twice. But what an impact! I assume they had to get fancy afterwards because every ball started to look like that, so now it looked almost boring. Wild!
- Comment on literally 451° 2 weeks ago:
I’ve always liked them as a set. I think neither of them on their own are as good as the two of them contrasted against each other.
- Comment on UPDATE: I'm a dev who has been working on my game for 2 years and my game title appeared on another Steam game as they plan to release before I do. 3 weeks ago:
Maybe “Ell’s Well Bhat TEnds -Ell”
- Comment on Don’t forget to regularly check your eyes! 3 weeks ago:
No words, it’s the liney version of loss…
Mother fu…
- Comment on Instead we got a trillion dollar man 3 weeks ago:
You’re not directly wrong, but the theoretical, philosophical, answer is that the social will that allows ICE to operate, or cops to thug about, is that people feel that there is dangerous lawlessness out there, and the only way to solve it is strong force. And sometimes a few eggs need to get cracked, but it’s okay because they deserved it.
So none of the things listed here prevent ICE, but ICE is powered by fear of “the criminals”, and if we solve the “criminal problem” with real solutions, suddenly it gets a lot harder to motive a brute squad when everyone is fine actually. And I don’t mean “the officers are fine” or “the would-be victims are fine”, I mean the random citizens sitting at home, already feeling secured without the police force in military gear.
And I mean maybe at least some of the shitty dudes are there due to broken homes fractured by substance abuse or financial stresses, or are themselves victims of fetal alcohol syndrome or something, which could possibly be lessened with tighter social circles and safety nets.
As you your other point, unions specifically address wage theft and would impact Bezos for sure. At least assuming “theoretically ideal” unions.
- Comment on Maybe they are drawn towards the confidence this process makes them feel? 4 weeks ago:
Y’all are killing it! Good work.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
The Flying V!
- Comment on How did we get "bike" from "bicycle"? 4 weeks ago:
I hope I’m not missing a joke, but if you’re curious in my accent (Ontario, Canada) it would basically always be “bi-sickle” and “moter-saikle”
Thank God I never got around to learning the International Phonetic Alphabet, or that might have been too easy and more useful!
- Comment on Still Listens to Southern Death Cult 4 weeks ago:
Yes
- Comment on Whatever those lyrics are 4 weeks ago:
Melania face, big dick grace, taking your camera home to your place
- Comment on [serious] 4 weeks ago:
For sure. Or put a more direct way, someone needs to be making drinks at Starbucks when the rich-enough-to-survive go there, someone needs to be boiling noodles and chopping onions all day for when they want pasta at a restaurant, someone needs to stand in the sun next to hot asphalt and lay it so they can drive over it.
And if it’s not the too-poor-to-live, it’s the next wrung down.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
We, as a species, have basically failed to build a single one quantum computer that does anything. So… that’s why they’re not everything yet. It’s because there are currently approximately zero.
And the few there kind of are are massive and requires liquid helium to cool them to ungodly cold temperatures. And then they don’t do much, besides allow researchers to test stuff.
- Comment on How do you explain protocol to a 5 year old ? 4 weeks ago:
A protocol is a shared set of expectations that allow two or more things to communicate. It says “I will announce myself in this way” and “these are the responses you should expect to this request” and “here’s the list of all the things I know how to do”, and if we both follow the protocol, then we both understand what’s going to happen when we communicate.
- Comment on The Definition of Non-Judgemental 5 weeks ago:
You mean being torn apart by dogs?
- Comment on What is the deal with IPv6? 1 month ago:
Hmm. I’ve been in math, computer science, and computer programming for 20 years in English (Canada) and I’ve never heard “denary”. It’s cute, but never once heard anyone say it. So they’re not interchangeable to me 😛
- Comment on 1 month ago:
You guys are getting paid?
- Comment on I would like to play a calm game 1 month ago:
You could check out “FAR: Lone Sails”. It’s a pretty chill game where you have a machine that you’re sailing/driving through platforming actions to the right. It has cinematic feel and a kind of environmental plot, but I don’t think there’s any way to lose or anything…
And if you like it, there’s a sequel “FAR: Changing Tides” that is very similar, but longer and with a more complicated machine to manage.
I could see people being bored with it, there are “puzzles” but they’re super light, but maintaining the machine scratches something within me.
- Comment on Depluralize 1 month ago:
A Single Extraordinary Gentleman
- Comment on Depluralize 1 month ago:
The Dirty Individual
- Comment on Depluralize 1 month ago:
Scott Pilgrim vs Himself
~(which actually is kinda accurate)~
