i_dont_want_to
@i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Can’t catch a break
- Comment on The Legend of Beavis 2 weeks ago:
A vast improvement over the original dialog.
- Comment on What are your favorite games from a worldbuilding standpoint? 2 weeks ago:
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- Comment on Totally 2 weeks ago:
My meditation: “oh powers that be, give me the strength not to slap this bitch”
- Comment on hmm breakfast 2 weeks ago:
I don’t know, my tummy hurts more after eating a cigarette than junk food.
- Comment on PC Master Race 2 weeks ago:
Oh yeah? Well my $20k PC is better than your $15k PC, peasant.
- Comment on Has anyone here ever doubted if your parents were your "real" parents? Is it normal to have these weird thoughts? 2 weeks ago:
It sounds like you are struggling with how your parents and the rest of your family treat you.
Does it make it better or worse if you were indeed their child?
In my mind, blood means nothing. Blood might be your starting place, but you can choose to keep who you want at any time. I only associate with people that do not mistreat me. I was NC with my dad until he died. He treated me like shit, so one day I refused to give him the time of day.
My ex was also horribly abusive to me. When I decided “no more,” he got no special treatment from me either. I got a restraining order against him, like I would for anyone that would try to physically harm me.
Holding on to the past and keeping score isn’t helpful for you. It’s ok to remember it as the reason why you wouldn’t talk to them (or gray rock if you must still associate), but to wish the score was settled? It is a burden on you. Treat yourself with the dignity you deserve, let it go, and heal.
It is not easy, but you are worth this work.
I realize that you see things that planted this seed in your head. I am telling you, that is not really the root of your issue.
What does matter? The people that you do choose. The things YOU decide are important.
Believe me, I know this. I have been mistreated for my childhood and early adulthood. I always wondered what I did to deserve it. Truth of the matter is, I was never likely to find the answer. I could spend a whole lifetime wondering, and for what? I just chalked it up to other people sucking. The way they treated me isn’t a reflection of me, it speaks more to their own shortcomings. I still get mad at how they treated me sometimes, it’s not perfect. But it has made my life a whole lot happier when I let this go. It’s time for you, too.
- Comment on Has anyone here ever doubted if your parents were your "real" parents? Is it normal to have these weird thoughts? 2 weeks ago:
Unless you decide to independently verify everything you interact with, there is a certain amount of faith that one needs to keep to live day-to-day. I’m not talking about religion.
If I hold a rock in my hand and think it’s a very old rock, but instead it was just a piece of concrete, does it matter?
To you, am I just a bot or am I a person very far away from you talking to you over the Fediverse? Does it matter?
Is the sun really there, or is it an elaborate hoax? Observing the sun and moving on is enough. Does it matter?
What does matter to you? If you ask me, you should care about a few things. Your own wellbeing. The wellbeing of your community. Your friends. The things that bring you any joy. (And if you have none, then if you work on your own wellbeing, you will be able to find joy after a certain point.)
What if you weren’t biologically your parents’ child, but they weren’t aware of that fact, either? Like you got swapped at the hospital? What would that change for you?
- Comment on I'm not saying that I agree with it, but it's understandable. 2 weeks ago:
Those New Jerseyans know what they did.
- Comment on how do you deal with those characters fully convinced a job is something you have to enjoy? 2 weeks ago:
Him: “do you enjoy your job?”
Me: “eh, it’s alright. I don’t hate it.”
Him: “you should enjoy it”
Me: shrug “ok”
No need to really engage. No need to give a lot of details. If he pushes just kind of blow him off.
I sometimes get miffed by people that are more privileged than me telling me I should take it easy like them, when that is not an option for me. I remind myself that they just don’t get it and move on.
- Comment on What are you ladies doing tonight 2 weeks ago:
Yum
- Comment on What are you ladies doing tonight 2 weeks ago:
I can taste when they haven’t cleaned the nozzles for a very long time. I try not to think about how moldy they are even when I can’t taste it.
- Comment on What are you ladies doing tonight 2 weeks ago:
That is a lot better than what we called them: a suicide.
Swamp water is the name of a regional beverage where I am.
- Comment on Just up the production quality and they'll love it, Trust me bro 👍 2 weeks ago:
Drat, all I have is an IOU where my soul was supposed to be.
- Comment on #environmentalist 3 weeks ago:
Great tip, I love sweetened drinks!
- Comment on grocery shopping 3 weeks ago:
It’s why they have those annoying gates at Kroger now, to stop people from just walking out with carts full of groceries.
Lame.
- Comment on ... huh... 5 weeks ago:
Ey, it rhymes with fuck.
And it also gives a lot more opportunities for double entendres in the game of hockey.
This one is fun!
- Comment on ??? Profit!!! 5 weeks ago:
Damn, I knew I was doing something wrong.
- Comment on Dangerous crow 1 month ago:
I like short hair. I hate styling hair. Pony tail it is.
- Comment on whatever happened to in-store coffee grinders? 1 month ago:
Mmm… Baskin-Robbins roast
- Comment on My disappointment is immeasurable and my day is ruined 1 month ago:
I haven’t thought about the Thumb Thumbs in years… Damn those were some fun movies.
- Comment on 1919 (correctly) 1 month ago:
All that’s missing is him just straight up punching the guy into next week.
- Comment on Unite! 1 month ago:
This graphic looks like the lovechild of Rayman and an M&M.
- Comment on save the planet 🌎 1 month ago:
I love my metal straws. Great for smoothies and milkshakes. They don’t collapse!
- Comment on My reaction to learning that KingCobraJFS died a few days ago. 2 months ago:
I haven’t looked into him for a while, but that is not surprising. He was not fit to live on his own and his father seemed to give no fucks.
- Comment on A love story 2 months ago:
I love the Internet
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
What would he do on his own? What would have you done on your own as a kid? If these answers are different, why?
How will negative consequences be handled, like he doesn’t pay rent, runs out of money for food, or he damages the apartment? What about really big ones, like he allows someone to stay over long enough that they become an established tenant, cause problems, and then don’t leave? In your jurisdiction, are there legal consequences for you if he breaks the law that you would not face if he were legally an adult?
Is there a plan for if he decides he wants to move back?
Do you foresee any legal consequences? For instance, if his school learns about this arrangement, will CPS or the police get involved? Is that something you can recover from?
In the right circumstances, I think this is a good idea. As a parent, your job is to prepare him for adulthood. Letting him live on his own, while meeting his needs (food, shelter, healthcare) with a safety net can work. A lot can make these the wrong circumstances. Only you can answer whether or not the circumstances are right in your situation.
- Comment on Utter bullshit like this 2 months ago:
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
She is partially right. Some women wear sexy clothes because they want attention and/or they feel pressured to, so they might wear them, even if they don’t like them.
Some women like the way they look and feel in sexy clothes, so they just wear them for themselves. It’s not necessarily for male (or any other gender’s of interest) attention.
In my experience, the former happens less. I’m not sure if it’s due to the crowd I hang out with changing or a gradual cultural shift.
- Comment on Please some more Sir? 2 months ago:
I think this is the only use of Drake in a meme format that I do not feel disgust over.
- Comment on So apparently the wifi can see my dick now? 2 months ago:
brb going to get more vaccines
