I smiled at a girl in college once. A day later she infodumped everything she knew about Capgras syndrome on me out of the blue. 11/10 would recommend.
Anon tries to meet girls at college
Submitted 5 weeks ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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Jerkface@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Apytele@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
…and then you got replaced by a lizard person and she never spoke to you again?
Jerkface@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
How did you know? 🤣
papertowels@mander.xyz 5 weeks ago
Also, when people say meet others at college they don’t mean in the classes. They mean in the social events…
The_v@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I was pretty shy when I started college and have always disliked social events. I skipped a few years in highschool so I was young when I started. Combined with working 30+ hours a week to pay for college and my social life was pretty dead.
My junior/senior year I decided to sit next to the most beautiful woman in class on day one. I would then smile, say hello, and leave them alone. Then smile, say goodbye at the end of class and leave.
A few weeks of this and most of them started talking to me a bit before or after class. By mid-terms I was friendly with a few beautiful women and had a couple dates. The last quarter of my senior year, I sat down next to my now wife.
I did get called out by my wife on knowing so many beautiful women when we were dating. She was a bit annoyed but I did sit down next to her after all.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Wholesome ending.
Though, I am a bit confused by
I skipped a few years in highschool
Did your high school have more than 4 years? When I think of “a few,” I think “at least 3,” but skipping 3 out of 4 years doesn’t sound right.
papertowels@mander.xyz 5 weeks ago
My friend group was always on the nerdier side in high school. One thing I’m really glad we did come senior year was we’d play poker, and the loser, if single, would be have to go and cold call ask a random gal out on a date.
It’s liberating to know that, as long as you’re not being a creep, you can just talk to someone you think is cute and ask them out. It was especially nice to know back in the high school days lol.
Cethin@lemmy.zip 5 weeks ago
Generally, yes, but if you’re a pleasant person to be around you can easily get things going from lectures as well. You just need to strike up a conversation like a normal person and be friendly. The problem most of these people have is they treat women like something to be won, when instead they’re just people.
SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 5 weeks ago
Wish I was normal. I am WAY too socially awkward to start a conversation. Usually I need at least a couple of hours to warm up to somebody.
HK65@sopuli.xyz 4 weeks ago
I met the love of my life at a literal exam.
I think the trick to it is that you shouldn’t force any situations like this to have any sort of outcome, just keep yourself open to new people. Like set up situations where you can meet new people, and have your attitude be “I’d like to get to know you, so we can either be friends, more than friends or never meet again if that’s how it shakes out”, and just keeping it low stakes. And then just try to get into those situations as much as you can.
howrar@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
Don’t they? The culture might be different in different schools or different generations, but I’ve made quite a few friends just by chatting with people in the lecture halls before class.
Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 weeks ago
Agreed, I made lifelong friends in my college anime club.
BenchpressMuyDebil@szmer.info 5 weeks ago
It’s funny how this post is just a greentext story about a guy trying to talk to a girl in class. But some of the comments are negative or have such divisive vote ratios: assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
Am I the only one that thinks that’s surprised that the comments are so negative?
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
assume bad hygiene or “Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women”
I gotta say, I never had any of these problems in college. And I won’t even pretend I had great hygiene or particularly good social skills. The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn’t have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Let’s set aside the fact that OP is probably lying. When one guy gets ostracized by an entire classroom of other students, it’s safe to assume one of two things:
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The classroom is full of bigots who hate This One Guy for a very particular cultural reason (maybe you made a mistake going to South Confederacy Technical College as a black guy looking to meet white chicks)
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The guy is so universally obnoxious that he can’t get the time of day from the second biggest loser in the room
Am I the only one that’s surprised that the comments are so negative?
If it was posted on anything but 4chan, maybe. But anyone who knows the reputation of the average 4chan user can come up with a host of reasons why people are avoiding him like the plague.
VitoRobles@lemmy.today 5 weeks ago
The trick with college is that 19 year old girls also didn’t have great hygiene or well-developed social skills. We were all a bunch of clueless, fumbling, young adults trying to figure each other out.
Brother, ain’t this the truth.
I didn’t make any friends with my same-age classmates just by casually talking.
Then I went to night classes with full grown adults and i was invited to dinners and birthday parties immediately.
AdrianTheFrog@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
The post says that people weren’t avoiding him specifically, but no one was talking to one another at all.
Eq0@literature.cafe 5 weeks ago
Honestly, I have seen many classrooms in which no one was talking to anyone. There would be a break in the lecture, and the lecture hall would be absolutely silent for 10-15 minutes until the lecture resumed. Other classes were a bit more chattery, or even way more. As a teacher now, it seems anecdotally that the problem is getting worse, but that’s what every teacher always said (“these younger generations!! Mumble mumble”)
exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
I agree. If this were a screenshot from pretty much any other app/site that isn’t 4chan, the response would be different.
Seriously, if someone were to create an account and tell this exact story on Tumblr or something, and screenshot it here on Lemmy, they’d get completely different responses.
BenchpressMuyDebil@szmer.info 5 weeks ago
Thank you for a civil and thoughtful response :)
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skisnow@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
It does seem to be a very 21st century thing to treat an unwanted romantic conversational overture as a form of assault.
I suspect it’s even more so with terminally online people who are too socially awkward to be able to just brush someone off and move on, without being haunted by it for the next four decades.
I get that sometimes there are men who go too far and make a situation untenable, and absolutely fuck those guys, but overall I think we’re going in the wrong direction in society where people just don’t talk to each other any more.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
It doesn’t even have to be romantic.
Try calling anyone under 30 on the phone. They also think you are assaulting and traumatizing them.
IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
as a man who went to university, and had women in my class, never had a negative reaction like that when trying to talk to girls about whatever is relevant.
never tried to pick up girls in class either.
Gorilladrums@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Lemmy is filled with incels who are in denial. It’s kind of like how the most rabid homophobes are closted gays.
passwordforgetter@lemmy.nz 5 weeks ago
Whoa there frend-o, that’s a yikes from me. I may be a neurodiverse no-pussy guy from Lemmy, but I played Magic The Gathering at the comic con once and while I was explaining the cards to this girl, our hands accidentally touched and she laughed.
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 5 weeks ago
Lemcels, as they (we) are known for
MrJameGumb@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women
Especially if he doesn’t bathe
driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 5 weeks ago
Why do you assume is a women studies course?
Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
And why do they assume he doesn’t bathe?
MrJameGumb@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Because the post was written by someone who clearly feels that these women owe him their attention.
I assumed it’s a women’s studies class because the kind of male who feels entitled to attention like this would typically think something along the lines of “women’s studies would have the highest ratio of women to men of any other class” and so join said class assuming it would be a good place to get a date.
The tone of the post implies that he is upset after realizing the course would not double as his own personal harem of desperate women fighting each other for his affection.
The reactions of the women he mentioned is why I assumed he probably doesn’t bathe. I’m guessing he showed up in stained sweatpants or something similar as well.
Any other questions?
Ensign_Crab@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Join a club. There’s fliers everywhere.
steeznson@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Yeah clubs/societies are the places to meet people. No one wants so socialise in class.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
Exactly. I just want to get in, get out, and not be late to the next one. I’m paying to listen to the idiot in the front, I’m going to get my money’s worth.
Alteon@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Helps if you don’t start the conversation with " Hello m’lady."
VitoRobles@lemmy.today 5 weeks ago
jaw drops to floor, eyes pop out of sockets accompanied by trumpets, heart beats out of chest, awooga awooga sound effect, pulls chain on train whistle that has appeared next to head as steam blows out, slams fists on table, rattling any plates, bowls or silverware, whistles loudly, fireworks shoot from top of head, pants loudly as tongue hangs out of mouth, wipes comically large bead of sweat from forehead, clears throat, straightens tie, combs hair Ahem, you look very lovely.
Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 5 weeks ago
what is THY interest m’lady.
ruby@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
in my first three years of college i spoke to maybe ten students, pretty much all of them because we were assigned a team project together. only one guy talked to me because we were sitting next to each other at the same class and i started a few short-lived conversations with whoever was next to me before exams if the teacher was taking too long to come. besides that, many people (almost everyone it seems) came into the college as friend groups from high school. they spoke to each other, but you’re not within that friend group and it feels awkward to butt in a conversation where everyone’s already highschool friends and you’re a stranger.
meliaesc@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Key is to live on campus.
RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Yep. Dorm life you’re stuck meeting people whether you like it or not. I hated our dorms, but I had a lot of fun with the roomies and others I met in the dorms.
musubibreakfast@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
I didn’t live on campus but I was in a fraternity, was in the tennis club and I worked as a guide for exchange students. There were plenty of opportunities to meet new people and date.
sudoer777@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
In my experience, even then it’s difficult to talk to people.
bountygiver@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
ya if you want to meet people, join a club.
I only ever speak to people I don’t already know in the same class when there’s class assignments that requires us to.
ruby@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
i don’t think we had anything like clubs. there was no campus as they have in america, just a college and a student dorm that was shared with other faculties.
there were some club-like activities like tabletop game evenings every now and then but i always had classes during those and couldn’t try them out.
Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 5 weeks ago
and it was pretty easy to fish out people that arnt part of the class, and are just sitting in it to scope out the place, there were plently of “vagrant” that pretended to be students and were just some creeps like the “anon” and homeless people.(this was a public university)
Shamber@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Wow, college has turned rough, to many anxieties, I had fun in college, met new ppl, met my college gf of 3 years no fraternity needed not even socialmedia…and I’m just 44, already someone is calling anon a creep without any prior knowledge of the person or any context, it’s that easy now to to judge people and call anyone a creep …and they are wondering why are ppl lonely, single and anxious
TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
A boomer told me that he observes younger generations as being stand off-ish. I don’t disagree. I suppose having grown up with “stranger danger” message being drilled into us made us that way. I don’t want to start a generation fight and blame boomers, but who are the parents of millenials who taught us the message that made us hypervigilant? The stranger danger message has merit, but if older generations are complaining why we behave that way, you reap what you sow as the saying goes.
Another consideration is that if Anon is Gen Z, it is very likely that his peers grew up with constant attention to online and digital presence, which makes them socially awkward. It didn’t help either that much of Gen Z spent two years in the coop during the pandemic. It does not take a genius to figure out what those two phenomena does to an entire generation.
BenchpressMuyDebil@szmer.info 5 weeks ago
You may be interested in reading en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bowling_Alone
There’s a lot to blame - dual income households, suburbanization, religion declining in popularity (religious communities are communities)
Valmond@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Well, posting green-texts is a fair indicator IMO (I mean it’s fake but let’s pretend).
dullbananas@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
ruby@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
quite likely, but it’s not as effective as arch
sefra1@lemmy.zip 5 weeks ago
Eww, no, it’s not Arch
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
You need to wear the Fedora, not run it.
scytale@piefed.zip 5 weeks ago
Anon is ugly, stinks, or has a terrible personality; or a mix/combination of those.
Kolanaki@pawb.social 5 weeks ago
He had one dread, and fungus. Worked on people’s toilets with plungers.
barooboodoo@lemmy.zip 5 weeks ago
I’ve seen a weird amount of Del references on Lemmy and I’m here for it.
samus12345@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
He’s obnoxious enough to try to pick up women in class. That’s enough, really.
MNByChoice@midwest.social 5 weeks ago
Live in the dorms and go to parties. The first week before classes start is magical for making friends.
0x0@lemmy.zip 5 weeks ago
Ah yes, shroom week.
MangioneDontMiss@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
How do I know Anon is unattractive without knowing he is unattractive.
peaceful_world_view@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
It’s literally the FIRST rule.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 5 weeks ago
I’ve never had such an easy time talking to girls as I did in college. That’s with me being short AF, quiet, and not particularly good looking. Either something has changed since then or OP has bad vibes.
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Women don’t enjoy being approached in public.
LodeMike@lemmy.today 5 weeks ago
How often do you shower?
Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 5 weeks ago
students arnt trying to date while they are class, and the guy is a college creep, hes essentially like brian from family guy that went to college to pickup girls, eventhough he doesnt go there., i had unforunate event of having to listening to one of these pickup artists(my bro was watching) and the creep went to a college library to pickup some chicks, but he was also condescending," oh because she is taking a low level math, i passed in mS in college MEANS THE girl isnt bright at all" , and he was indicating the girl is stupid so it should be easy.
0x0@lemmy.zip 5 weeks ago
Whatever passes for teena… sorry, young adults these days are nothing but braindead NPCs that live online and think chapgpt is their friend. Every generation is worse that the previous one. Look to Japan to see how the west will be in 10 years.
LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
Bruh it could’ve been me honestly, so sorry I tend to think when strangers speak to me I’m about to get scammed into something 😭
lemmysquezzy@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Anon does online degree is more accurate 🤷♂️
Apytele@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
I went on a date with a guy in college and he talked about how big various anime girls tits were the entire time. Insta-ghost.
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
I wonder if he’ll have a moment of clarity in a decade or so about how weird that was?
Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Nah, he’ll blame it all on wokism.
Flagstaff@programming.dev 5 weeks ago
I’m sad to say that I wouldn’t bet on it…
MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com 5 weeks ago
Not quite as bad, but I went on a date with someone that just explained video games I hadn’t played. He would ask about a video game and if I hadn’t played it he’d speak about it uninterrupted for 10-20 minutes explaining the levels. Not even interesting lore or anything. It would be like listening to someone explain a speedrun, but their speedrun is just playing the game normally. I like video games and play with my partners and friends, and I even watch videos about video games I haven’t played and I could only stand 3 of these rounds before ending the date. He was completely uninterested in talking about anything else and didn’t even want to talk about games I had actually played. Only games I knew nothing about. Totally bizarre. It felt like a prank. Would make a great greentext from his perspective though.
TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
You literally describe my fear with my 10 y/o. He is a talker. He’s pretty quick witted and can even make jokes that adults can appreciate. But hell if he can’t just talk at you.
We are slowly engaging it. I hope he becomes an interesting, empathetic young adult who gives space and shows real interest in others. I’ll do my best, but I didn’t get better at this till my late twenties.
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Man that reminds me a lot of the game, oh I forget the name of it, but it had some vowels in the name, where you go in thinking the point is to kick a lot of butts and towers but it turns out the real point of the game is getting your ass kicked and having your team yell at you.
Like this one time I was playing and wanted to try this annoying character that bugged the hell out of me when others played him. Can’t remember the name but he’d go like “ahhhhh” and then you’d be slow and couldn’t use abilities even if you ran away and the ground would do this explody thing. Doesn’t that sound soooo annoying? Anyways, I decided to try playing as this guy but I kept just dying instead of annoying the other team.
I see you want to say something but shut up for a bit, I’m not done yet.
So then I decided to try jungling. No, not juggling, I mean fighting the guys in the jungle. That way, I don’t keep giving gold and xp to the other team when I repeatedly die, except for a few times when I accidentally thought their base was the jungle.
Anyways, we should play some games after we have sex at the end of the date. If you brought a gaming laptop, at least. If not, you can watch me play or give me a bj while I play or something so it’s fun for you, too.
Tenkard@lemmy.ml 5 weeks ago
I had a coworker which just talked about destiny just like you said. It was the main thing you’d hear from him, and he would just talk about the plays he did. I don’t even play destiny… People just started avoid talking to him
HexadecimalSky@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
OH this instantly reminded me of some people, of which one person who’s small talk of choice before and after lectures was what a turn on blood letting was, in that class there was also a chick who went to someones house in the forest to see the kitten they just got. without knowing thier name because they just met them (is it meet if you know 0% about someone except they live in the forest and have a cat at the end of “meeting” them)…it is almost surprising they have not been assaulted more.
FatTony@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Based.
blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
Simplest explanation is he wanted you to leave him alone
Apytele@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
He talked to me and asked me out.