Azzu
@Azzu@lemmy.dbzer0.com
Creator of LULs (a script which helps links to point to your instance)
Come say hi here or over at twitch.tv/AzzuriteTV :) I like getting to know more people :)
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- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 1 day ago:
Two things.
For most people, asking “why do you talk so little?” is not a slap in the face, it is an attempt at inclusion. It gets interpreted as a slap in the face. As such, your example is not right.
Secondly, when we expect people to take our autistic sensibilities into account, I think it is entirely fair to take their sensibilities into account as well. Most people do not rub autistic people the wrong way on purpose. We do not rub them the wrong way on purpose. Yet it makes sense for both parties to take the other parties sensibilities into account. Since one can only control oneself, one should start this behavior with oneself.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 day ago:
People in general don’t work by any guiding principles, they work by emotions. Emotions don’t care about consistency.
Acting in a consistent way has to be learned in a rational way, and it involves suppressing your emotional reaction. People are only lile this if they explicitly learn/practice this, the default human without learning that does not work like that.
So, the fact that your dad is good to you and bad to other people is very simply explained: he loves you, acting lovingly, and hates others, acting hatefully.
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 1 day ago:
You’re doing what they do to you back to them. This is not hard to understand. You don’t like it, so they don’t like it. You’re essentially “proving your point” by taking revenge. The only thing they hear is that you’re taking revenge.
If it was about boundaries, you could say something along the lines “I don’t like these kind of questions, I am perfectly comfortable being quiet, with this question you make it sound like something is wrong about it. I get this question all the time and I don’t want to answer it anymore.”
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 1 day ago:
I’m not talking about in real life. I’m talking about your comments right here that are that way. You also edited your comment here, at first you were saying something about the person you’re replying to being boring.
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 1 day ago:
Your coworkers do it to you and if frustrates you, but you’re doing it to them which frustrates them.
They openly admit to doing the bad behavior back to them.
why I don’t talk more, why they feel offended if I answer asking why they talk so much
There is no need to go for confrontation, asking why someone talks so little might just be a way of trying to include them in a group or getting to know them, and it sounds like OP just responds as hostile as possible. They could just say “I’m comfortable talking little” or whatever.
- Comment on I'm on the spectrum. How do I live the rest of my life? 1 day ago:
I’m an autistic introvert and upvoted them. You really don’t see how you immediately go for personal attacks and derogatory behavior? You don’t need to tell people they’re being boring. You can just leave and not interact and thus not hurt their feelings.
- Comment on What strategy would you use to estimate the number of hazelnuts 2 days ago:
Weigh 10 hazelnuts, weigh all hazelnuts, do basic math.
- Comment on Best Co-Op Games? 3 days ago:
Nucleus Coop (for Windows only unfortunately) makes lots of games that ordinarily don’t have offline splitscreen to work in that way.
- Comment on Best Co-Op Games? 3 days ago:
You can play a lot of games splitscreen coop with nucleus, Windows only unfortunately.
- Comment on My writing laptop just died 5 days ago:
Horde here. If you get any Linux OS with KDE plasma as desktop it’ll feel pretty much the same as Windows, if you’re not a computer person you’ll likely not even notice the difference. Install the KDE version of EndeavorOS for example. Horde end
- Comment on My writing laptop just died 5 days ago:
Where are you writing this from?
- Comment on A real question about trans athletes and records 1 week ago:
The question is, what really is different between a woman or a short man in basketball? Both can not compete because of their genetics.
- Comment on Anon tries to meet girls at college 1 week ago:
So much prejudice
- Comment on Anon tries to meet girls at college 1 week ago:
And why do they assume he doesn’t bathe?
- Comment on President Trump shows President Zelenskyy and President Macron his 4 More Years hats 1 week ago:
I realize that. But it helps when thinking about the behavior, as what I said is also true. He’s elderly and still a child at the same time.
- Comment on President Trump shows President Zelenskyy and President Macron his 4 More Years hats 1 week ago:
He’s not really elderly. He just never matured from the “child” stage, and those mental states can be pretty similar in some regards.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 1 week ago:
I mean you kinda said the reason yourself: “[she] join[ed] a previously men-only fraternity at her college”. Of course I’m only speculating.
The people she surrounded herself with probably thought that way and thus she thought that way. Most people do not think critically about their beliefs very much, yes even most progressives are just progressives because of the people around them.
- Comment on Exposing the billion dollar secret most VPN companies don't want you to know 1 week ago:
Yep but your VPN wouldn’t be in Germany obviously, but in a country with less strict laws on which information have to be kept.
- Comment on Exposing the billion dollar secret most VPN companies don't want you to know 1 week ago:
You’re in Germany. If you do something illegal like downloading a movie and the police gets your IP during it, they can request your ISP to reveal your identity.
If you use a VPN, your IP is the IP of the VPN company, and they’ll say “we have no idea which of our users did that request, they all use the same IP”.
- Comment on What's the easiest way to get hookups without seeing escorts? 4 weeks ago:
This comment was adressed at other people giving advice, not for OP.
- Comment on If you had 1 dollar and 24 hours what would you do? 4 weeks ago:
Beg on the streets for someone to give me 1 dollar
- Comment on Goosebumps: The Game will be removed from sale on August 8, 2025. 4 weeks ago:
I’ve never heard of this. Can you give some kind of context?
- Comment on How do you reconcile staying sane while keeping yourself up-to-date with the news? 4 weeks ago:
My philosophy is: “if everyone behaved like I did, would we have any/this problem?” and if the answer is no, I’m fine.
The thing is that many people see injustice in the world and want to fix it now, which means forcing other people to not be assholes. But the problem with forcing other people to do/think something is that it doesn’t generally work, at least not without causing a massive amount of suffering in the other direction. Everyone generally thinks they’re the good guy of the story, no matter how much evil they do. They think the evil is necessary to stop other, more evil things.
Like for example, Israelis think that Muslims wanna wipe them out, and so it’s only good to wipe these evildoers out first… And exactly the same thoughts happen in the other direction. At this point, it doesn’t matter anymore who started it. Both sides wanna stop the other side from doing more evil, and this attempt to stop is creating more evil.
Doesn’t have to be so severe though. Could just be parents forcing their child to eat their veggies. Eating their veggies is good, and so you might think the parent is doing the right thing of forcing their child to eat it. But, most often, all that happens is that the child will forever hate eating veggies and as soon as it’s away from the parents, never eat veggies again. Until they turn adult and learn for themselves that eating veggies is good, and try to do it, but the trauma of being forced is hard to reverse.
And that example is our constant state of existence with basically everything.
Everyone wants to force everyone else to do/not do something, and even if one side is right, the action of forcefully trying to change someone else usually backfires in some way. Force doesn’t need to be physical force btw, shame (mental pain) is also a kind of force.
I’m not saying you should turn the other cheek to everything. That force should never be stopped with force. I’m just saying that most of the time, you can’t make other people change their ways. But you can always completely change your own ways. And if everyone did that, we’d actually have no problems anymore. But most of the time, people start trying to fix problems in others before they fixed their own, and that is almost a complete waste of energy.
Of course, that philosophy doesn’t stop injustices from happening right now. But it gives a peace of mind in some way. If you are truly convinced that if everyone was like you, the world would be a nice place, then you can be content, at least with yourself.
Honestly, this is only part of the answer, there is more to answering your question fully, but I don’t wanna write more right now. If you want to know more, let me know.
- Comment on nobody in webdev knows what graceful degradation is anymore 5 weeks ago:
You don’t, I’m saying it would still mostly work. Getting messages as they arrive is nice but not necessary. For example, I personally have all notifications off, and I only see messages when I specifically look for them, no one can reach me instantly. Everyone seems to be missing that we’re talking about degradation here, it degrades, it gets worse with JS disabled. But it shouldn’t straight up not work.
A good example for something that does not work without JS would have been a drawing application like they said, or games, there are plenty of things that literally do not work without JS, but messaging is not one of them. Instant messaging would be of course.
- Comment on nobody in webdev knows what graceful degradation is anymore 5 weeks ago:
The web interface can already be reloaded at any time and has to do all of this. You seem to be missing we’re talking about degradation here, remember the definition of the word, it means it isn’t as good as when JS is enabled. The point is it should still work somehow.
- Comment on nobody in webdev knows what graceful degradation is anymore 5 weeks ago:
There’s a difference between “wouldn’t work” and “wouldn’t work as nicely”. That’s what this post is about :D Most websites would still work in the same basic way without js.
- Comment on nobody in webdev knows what graceful degradation is anymore 5 weeks ago:
requiring JS makes sense on some sites, namely those that act more like web apps that let you do stuff (like WhatsApp
I mean yes, but Whatsapp is a bad example. It could easily use no JavaScript. In the end it’s the same as Lemmy or any other forum, you post a message, get a new page with the message. Switching chats is loading a new site. Of course JavaScript enhances the experience, makes it more fluid, etc, but messengers would work perfectly fine without JavaScript.
- Comment on I'm looking to buy a new rig, as I'm not from US the dolar going down will help me immensely. Now how do you think it will behave in the coming weeks? 5 weeks ago:
Probably a new set of masts & sails for their boat.
Or a new oil pumping station.
Or maybe a new truck.
- Comment on How would you take 'stfu' from a stranger online, provided what you said wasn't meant to be funny? 5 weeks ago:
stfu
;)
- Comment on How does a guy become his most confident around women? 1 month ago:
Stop having a goal with women specifically. You talking about experience and success with women is literally the total opposite of what makes sense.
Just have fun with a person. You have had fun interacting with people before, right? Just do that. The literal only difference is that you can sprinkle in some sexual innuendos or some shit, if you think of it. If not, also fine. Then go home and resume what you always do. Repeat.
If while doing this you ever notice some sexual tension, just do something sexual. Touch them. Or tell them you find them attractive. Or ask to kiss them. Whatever, it literally doesn’t matter. If they don’t like it, you’ll likely notice because they tell you and then you can do something different. If they like it, you’ll also likely notice, and continue escalating from there. Touching platonic -> kissing -> making out hair/neck/back-> touching sexually titties/butt -> touching pussy. Natural progression.
If you notice something afterwards, while thinking about it (like someone giving you obvious signals that you completely missed), if you can, just respond to the signal as soon as you notice, don’t think “now it’s too late”. In fact, it’s never to late until you tried it and it didn’t work.
But yeah, I can’t stress this enough. The most important thing is to not expect anything. In fact, maybe you’ll never have sexual contact again. It’s best if you’re content with nothing but masturbating for the rest of your life.