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- Comment on Thing makes noise wallet goes empty 9 hours ago:
Had this happen recently. Turned out to be a stick that was wedged up into the hub and rubbing on the wheel. But then in the process of removing the stick I found that the wheel was fused to the brake drum and no amount of kicking or banging on it with a sledge would knock it loose. Waiting for a dry weekend to take a more aggressive approach to dealing with that problem…
- Comment on Don't kink shame Oklahoma City. 5 days ago:
That’s a stretch.
- Comment on Anon's split personality 1 week ago:
Madonna-whore complex
I’ve been reading up on this and I’m not sure that’s exactly it. I certainly don’t despise women or want to degrade them regardless of whether I’m interested in them sexually or not and I’m really not sexually attracted to women I would think of as “whores” (that’s not really the word I would use except maybe for an actual prostitute, but I assume they mean sexually promiscuous women). I did have a cold but over-bearing mother though so maybe there is something to this. Maybe there is a spectrum and I’m on the lesser end of it.
Thinking about it more I think it’s more due to something with the rejection aspect of it. If I spend enough time with a woman and nothing physical happens it’s like I switch into “platonic mode” even if they are physically attractive. I’ve had the same thing happen in romantic relationships where my girlfriend had a much lower libido than me and it just got to the point where we were barely physically intimate at all because they were shooting me down 90% of the time and I just stopped trying because feel like they’re not interested and it’s just making them feel pressured or annoying them, and feeling I was shitty about myself when I get shot down, so I just reject myself for them until they signal otherwise (which almost never actually happened). This also led me getting lazier with other aspects of the relationship and eventually falling apart because it’s hard to make an effort when you’re always feeling like you’re missing out on one of the best parts (IMO) of being in a relationship. Which again kind of goes against the Madonna complex (at least as I understood it) because that seems to indicate you stay with the “pure” partner you love, which in my case it was kind of the opposite. I was willing to deal with a lot more toxicity to stay with the “whore” partners because they were fulfilling me sexually.
Anyway, thanks for the response it was an interesting rabbit-hole. My experience really isn’t that hellish (at least due to this issue) I feel like I’m coping pretty well in my social life without the romantic aspect. People like me, I like them. It’s all good. Sometimes a little lonely but that’s a pretty rare feeling honestly.
- Comment on Anon's split personality 1 week ago:
Testosterone is a hell of a drug. I’ve known a few guys who have had at least one gf they only stayed with for the sex and were just putting up with her the rest of the time. Those…generally aren’t very good or healthy relationships. Most of them eventually get out of that mindset and (at least try to) find someone they like being with first and also want to fuck besides.
I’ve been guilty of that and I’ve definitely felt that “ok, I came, I’d rather be alone now.” thing described in the post. Regular sex goes a long way in keeping me interested and the most toxic women I’ve been with have always been the best at it. There are women in my life who I like spending time with but that kind of kills my desire to have sex with them. It’s like subconsciously I’m thinking “why would I want to ruin this by bringing sex into it?” or maybe it feels like I’m degrading them if I think about them sexually or I don’t want to take advantage of them. I’m not really sure what’s going on with me there. I mostly just don’t date these days because I have my single life figured out pretty well and bringing someone else into it is always so disruptive and I really don’t get enough out of it to be worth the stress.
- Comment on TIL my decision to drive a 22' full cab pickup truck and vehemently oppose urban zoning reform makes me a defender of social justice, a warrior for the downtrodden, and more progressive than 99% [cont 1 week ago:
I don’t see how anyone can look at those prices and not immediately cancel the transaction. Also the idea of some rando handling my food unsupervised is not appealing.
- Comment on TIL my decision to drive a 22' full cab pickup truck and vehemently oppose urban zoning reform makes me a defender of social justice, a warrior for the downtrodden, and more progressive than 99% [cont 1 week ago:
They’re saying their mental illness is to blame for their addiction to having fast food delivered and if you don’t think they are entitled to these services you are a bigot.
- Comment on Bait or r*ta*d*ti*n. Call it. 1 week ago:
So Indians are in this case bad because they are… particularly likely to be Musk stans? Forgiving of rich people who fall from grace?
I don’t know anything about Indian people to comment on how they are but in general, yes if you have an ounce of forgiveness for Elon or anyone like him you are a bad person. His kind should have absolutely nowhere to turn to at this point after the damage they’ve done. They’re beyond salvation, anything less than excommunicating them from society is enabling them.
- Comment on Existential dread 1 week ago:
To be fair making cyborg cockroaches is way easier.
- Comment on Who did this 😂😂😂 1 week ago:
Yeah, I couldn’t even tell you what my background is.
- Comment on Anon goes camping 1 week ago:
Wouldn’t boiling first be better so you don’t end up with a bacteria colony in your filter?
- Comment on Kid gave a reasonable answer without all the math bullshit 2 weeks ago:
There is literally a trick if they’re asking how it’s possible and it’s actually not. The kid is right. If we’re just ignoring all the words to look at the numbers why even have word problems? The point is to apply math to situations and that’s what the kid did. Nothing provided in the question contradicts his answer. The teacher’s an asshole.
- Comment on When you take a moment to think back at your High School years 2 weeks ago:
I know what exactly two people I went to high school with are doing. One is my brother’s wife’s sister and one got stabbed to death being a violent moron. I don’t give a shit about what any of those people are up to and I’m certainly not earning a good living.
- Comment on Hit it and quit it 2 weeks ago:
You guys are going in and out?
- Comment on Bruh, chill 2 weeks ago:
The nice thing about my view is that it doesn’t preclude you from adhering to yours. Everyone can go exactly as fast as they want as long as they utilize the different lanes properly.
- Comment on Bruh, chill 2 weeks ago:
I will hit the same red lights at the same time as others, mind you I do notice when someone flies past me on the fast lane and we reach the same exit ramp stop light.
Maybe over a short distance you will. Even then they’d be at the front of the line instead of stuck behind who knows how many idiots that are going to be staring at their phone when the light switches and cause you to get stuck behind it for a second time.
- Comment on Bruh, chill 2 weeks ago:
I tested this on my car as well. I gain about 3 MPG by using the cruise control and adhering to the speed limit vs. Just driving how I want. It’s not worth the difference. Changing to shitty tires was a bigger hit to my MPG than that.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 2 weeks ago:
It’s fine that others don’t share the same interests as me. I don’t expect them to talk to me about them if they don’t want to. We can sit in silence. That’s nice too.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 2 weeks ago:
IDK what to tell you. I don’t think of interesting conversations as small talk. That’s not what I’m complaining about when I say I don’t like small talk. What I think of as small talk is when people seem to have to run their mouths just to ruin a perfectly good silence with shit about the weather or sports or something. That’s just how it is. If the conversation isn’t going to go past small talk I’d be just as happy to not have it at all.
- Comment on Bruh, chill 2 weeks ago:
Maybe if you have a short commute. I can knock 15-20 minutes off my driving if traffic is light. That time is more valuable than the extra pennies I’d save on gas by driving slower.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 2 weeks ago:
Because a great deal of it isn’t interesting. I have to listen to all the ancient dudes I sit next too talk about the most innane crap all day long. I don’t need that when I get home too.
- Comment on Anyone else 2 weeks ago:
If a civilization that has mastered FTL shows up we are fucked. The best odds for survival are jumping to their side because they could destroy us easily. Maybe we’ll get lucky and it will be a civilization of space amazons who want to use us for sex stuff.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 2 weeks ago:
I would love to walk into my house in silence and just sit down. I’m usually stressed AF when I get home and the last thing I want to do is talk to someone. Unfortunately I rent from a couple of retirees who spend all day camped out in their living room watching TV and it’s impossible to enter the house without going through there and having to have a tedious conversation with them about what their dog did today or whatever stupid thing.
- Comment on Bruh, chill 2 weeks ago:
Because on a lot of highways the speed limit is a joke. The 4 lane one I take to work is completely straight for like 30 miles and they have it set at 60mph. Many vehicles can (and do) easily go 80-90 on that without an issue. Proper lane usage and adhering to a safe following distance are far more important in terms of safety. There shouldn’t even be a speed limit in my opinion considering the wide variety of vehicles on the road. It’s pretty simple, drive as slow as you want just do it in the correct lane unless you’re passing. Signal. Pass in the passing lane. Don’t tailgate.
If they need to write tickets for revenue they can get people for cruising in the wrong lane all day long.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 2 weeks ago:
Fill the void with intercourse.
- Comment on do you think freewill truly exists? 2 weeks ago:
No, we just stfu when we don’t have anything interesting to talk about. It’s not complicated.
- Comment on Kinda fucked up tbh 2 weeks ago:
How do they know there wasn’t someone jumping at ever second of every day somewhere on earth up til then? Also people in airplanes.
- Comment on Anon measures up 2 weeks ago:
That’s why I only give advice to people trying to break up.
- Comment on I am not a builder… but that does not seem right 2 weeks ago:
Think I’ll just stay single and keep doing whatever the fuck I want at all times.
- Comment on Little miracles 2 weeks ago:
What’s the texture/taste like? I have pretty bad sensitivity issues when it comes to eating and I’ve never tried it because tofu has always looked really unappetizing to me. I don’t want to waste it if I don’t like it. I don’t like deli meat for the same reason although I can force it down if it’s served at a lunch or something. If the same thing happened with tofu id try it. I’ve never even seen seitan as far as I know.
- Comment on Little miracles 2 weeks ago:
Would have been a better story if they’d stomped him into an unrecognizable puddle of pink goo.