Whats_your_reasoning
@Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
- Comment on Anon orders food 2 days ago:
Probably an “online convenience fee,” as if it’s more work to have an order print up at the restaurant than to make someone there take a phone call.
- Comment on 3 days ago:
One of the programs I use at work had an overhaul recently. I wanted to find some notes from a previous day and couldn’t figure out how. I asked someone to help and they told me to click some symbol in the corner of the page. I didn’t even know it was supposed to be a button, hovering over it doesn’t say what it does. It looked kind of like [ iii ] which tells me absolutely nothing about its functionality.
The overhaul was supposed to make things easier.
- Comment on Do women actually enjoy sex? 5 days ago:
Does this guy have a wife? Is he going to hurt me? Is he just using me?
I probably wouldn’t be in a relationship with a guy if these were my worries during sex. But, there are other considerations that happen regardless of relationship status.
There’s an inherent difference in being the “receiver,” a type of intimacy that only comes from having somebody else physically inside your own body. Things can get sore, especially if the guy treats sex like an Olympic event that he needs to keep on doing for a long time. (Or if he has his own issues with orgasming from penetration, which is surprisingly common these days. “Death grip” where a man becomes accustomed to the tightness of his own hand, or a reliance on viewing porn in order to cum, seem to be all over the place.)
I enjoy penetrative sex, but my body needs a break sometimes. Things can start to get uncomfortable after going on for 20 minutes. I don’t think most straight guys are aware of the physical stress of being penetrated. It can be fun, in small doses, but if we regularly get to the point where I feel sore inside, it can become something aversive. Honestly I’d rather be with a guy who cums too quickly than a guy who can “keep going on and on,” because it sucks to always be the one to put an end to sexy times.
- Comment on Carenheit 6 days ago:
One of my favorite things about Lemmy is how many of us are in the autism/ADHD neurotribe. We can read your response and be like, “Oh, okay. Yeah, I get where you’re coming from” and roll along with understanding, without the need for senseless hostility.
Just another day, another misinterpretation - we’ve all been there.
- Comment on Anon can't escape 6 days ago:
This is why friends don’t let friends watch Friends
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 2 weeks ago:
Is that the new, “You’ll go blind”?
- Comment on Team Stick 2 weeks ago:
I hear either one can be used to break bones, so there’s really no wrong answer.
I feel like I’d have more fun with the stick, though. Carrying around a rock just feels like carrying around extra weight. Carrying around a stick can feel like carrying a sword, can help with walking on hikes, can be used to point out things in the distance, can be a makeshift flag staff, or a barrier if you need to block someone or something. Then if it breaks, it can still be used as kindling in a fire.
So yeah, I’ll say Team Stick.
- Comment on Being poor is expensive 3 weeks ago:
$3 a load? Whoa.
It takes about $17 for a single load at the laundromats near me, both washing and drying. Going once a week, that’s over $800 a year.
Which is one reason I’ve started washing clothes in a 5-gallon (about 19 liters) bucket at home. It sucks, but it saves me money and I get a work out from it. I’d like to get a small machine, but where I live it wouldn’t be safe to have packages sitting outside all day and I try to avoid big box stores, so I feel pretty screwed.
- Comment on Being poor is expensive 3 weeks ago:
I wouldn’t be surprised if that bus included connections to other lines on top of it all.
- Comment on Urine Luck 3 weeks ago:
Seminal fluid and vaginal lubrication both also come from liquid in the blood.
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 3 weeks ago:
Oh, I’m not congratulating you on getting laid, I’m glad you overcame the situation insofar as the mental prison of inceldom is concerned.
Regardless of what you do, you at least have a good head on your shoulders. The ability to self-reflect instead of blaming others is some key emotional growth. I’m proud of you for that.
- Comment on A Ripple in Space 3 weeks ago:
Oooh, thank you! I love adding resources like this to tabs on my work computer. The nature of my job means I’m sometimes with kids with vastly different interests, so the more resources, the better.
Off-topic, but if anyone has/works with a kid who loves dinosaurs and prefers visual information, I also have a neat dinosaur size comparison page bookmarked.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 3 weeks ago:
Aspiration depends on position in a word in English and doesn’t hold any semantic or grammatical meaning, but in other languages, an aspirated consonant can completely change the meaning of a word.
It reminds me of how Hindi/Urdu use v and w. Which sound is produced depends on where it is in a word, but to native speakers, both v and w may sound the same. That’s why Hindustani ESL speakers tend to switch between the two in ways that don’t make sense to native English speakers.
It helps me wrap my mind around it to think of how English has two different ways of pronouncing L - there’s “light” L at the beginning of words (love, listen, like.) Then there’s “dark” L used at the end or sometimes in the middle (full, ball, visible.) The word “little” provides an example of both types (and if you pronounce it with a glottal stop for the “tt”, such as in a Cockney accent, the word is basically “light L, glottal stop, dark L.”)
Of course, aspiration itself also works as a way to understand it, since aspirated sounds make a difference in Hindustani, but English spelling treats them interchangeably. However, that difference is too hard for many of us to distinguish, so I find that comparing L sounds is easier for English speakers to recognize.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 3 weeks ago:
The more I learn other languages, the more annoyed I get at the Great Vowel Shift in English. We could’ve been aligned with so many other languages, but no, we just had to be different.
It’s wild, since English has such a vast vowel inventory that we can pronounce a lot of words in other languages, but since we read letters differently, many people end up with accents that don’t need to exist. Consider people pronouncing Spanish words with English vowels, even though all standard Spanish vowel sounds are already part of the standard English repertoire.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 3 weeks ago:
Which makes it funny when I hear fellow English speakers knock on French spelling. At least I can reasonably assume what a written French word is supposed to sound like. English doesn’t even give us that luxury.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 3 weeks ago:
“Apples, I love not”
It’s funny how learning different grammar can change the way you think. I read this and think, “Ah yes, perfectly normal Japanese word order. Topic first, with verb + negation at the end.”
I have to be careful when I talk sometimes, because my mental grammar structure is all over the place now.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 3 weeks ago:
Or ‘left’, which can mean remaining (“I only have three left”) or departing (“They left.”)
I remember learning Spanish in school. Discovering the difference between “dejar” and “irse” drove this home for me. Dejar - to leave [a thing somewhere.] Irse - to leave [a place.] (“Salir” also works for the latter meaning, but it can mean more of “to go out.”)
“Ella se fue y dejó el libro en la mesa” (“She left and left the book on the table.”)
Speaking of “driving (a point) home,” I’d say one of the weirdest/most interesting quirks of English is how many idioms we rely on.
- Comment on A Ripple in Space 3 weeks ago:
A kid I worked with loved airplanes. When he played, it became a running joke that there would randomly be “turbulence!” and he’d wiggle around.
One day, he was playing with another kid, but he was a rocket ship this time. The other kid, knowing his joke, decided to playfully bump into him and say, “turbulence!”
This little five year old, with his toddler-esque voice, often asks big questions that can be hard to answer. After this, he asked me, “Is there turbulence in space?”
I mean, yes and no? I explained that it’s not turbulence like an airplane experiences, since there’s not enough air in space to do that, but there are other forces that can act on a rocket that can change how it moves.
Thankfully, he didn’t pry any further, because that’s the extent of the knowledge I can ELI5 on that topic. 😅
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 3 weeks ago:
Well done overcoming that situation! That friend sounds like they’re worth their weight in gold. I’m glad they were able to help you and you were able to redirect from that toxic pipeline.
I imagine prevention is the best medicine. I know a single comment from a stranger is unlikely to do much, but the more we talk about the dangers of falling down the incel rabbithole, the more likely someone will be able to recognize the situation for themselves.
- Comment on Loosing my religion 4 weeks ago:
I’d probably talk to the girl and see if she holds the same beliefs. She’s Christian, yes, but there are plenty of people raised in such families that use the term out of familiarity, but don’t share the extreme views of their parents.
Though with that said, even if the girl isn’t off the deep end, I’d understand that having her parents as potential in-laws could be a bridge too far.
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 4 weeks ago:
If violent retribution is one of the paths inceldom leads to, it’s not terribly surprising if a femcel group goes the same way. What’s that saying? “Hurt people hurt people”?
If the only bond a group of people have is due to the pain they’re in, it can easily turn toxic. It’s a shame so many people turn toward incel/femcel communities instead of toward groups about shared interests or topics. I get wanting to commiserate with others, but when it becomes a circle jerk of sadness, sticking around can make existing issues so much worse.
- Comment on When will the all white home with grey floors trend be over? 4 weeks ago:
Meanwhile, at my parents’ old house, I had painted a bedroom so each wall represented a different season, complete with a mural of a colorful tree losing leaves for the autumn side (since it’s my favorite season.)
When a couple bought it last year, they fell in love with it. My old “seasons” room is being turned into a nursery. My mom recently shared a post by the buyer with me, where she said something along the lines of, “Spending our first summer in our dream house!”
Thank goodness no “flippers” ever got their hands on it.
- Comment on Anon tries to lose weight 4 weeks ago:
I’d love advice for being able to enjoy a pomegranate. Does the pulp peel off the pip better if it’s cold?
- Comment on Anon tries to lose weight 4 weeks ago:
I work with a kid who really likes cold sensations in his mouth (autism, this experience isn’t uncommon.) At snack time he eats frozen peas and frozen blueberries.
Which is why when I recently cooked with frozen peas, I tried a few before cooking. I get it, I’m a fan of peas and the novelty of them being frozen was interesting. I didn’t love it enough to make a new snack out of it, but you’re right - you never know until you try.
- Comment on Anon tries to lose weight 4 weeks ago:
I had the opposite experience eating pomegranate the first time. So fucking delicious, but the pips were an unsettling crunch/texture that I couldn’t get over. However, it’s too much work to remove them from the pips, so no fresh pomegranate for me.
- Comment on Anon's life flashes before his eyes 4 weeks ago:
Thinks of going outside
Opens door
Get slapped with a wave of heat akin to opening an oven
Nah, I’m good staying in today.
- Comment on Got any basements? 5 weeks ago:
No basement, just a tiny studio above a garage, entered from a sketchy alley. Graffiti on the exterior already included.
I’m not joking. This is how I live. 🫠
- Comment on Then a drone collapses the waveform 5 weeks ago:
After which he went to hell and began a sexual relationship with Satan.
Long story short, he eventually got sent to heaven to be tortured by Mormons.
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 5 weeks ago:
The fact your date went straight to violence tells a lot about them. It sounds like they were testing your boundaries. Glad you got away early, I can only imagine what would’ve happened if you’d gotten into a steady relationship then tried to break up. You didn’t just dodge a bullet, it sounds like you dodged a nuclear warhead.
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 5 weeks ago:
The kid may still come around some day, but it’s probably going to get worse before it gets better.
I have no idea what it feels like to be a horny teenage boy roiding up to get muscles, but I can say for a fact that messaging girls and having nothing to show but a muscled-up body and roid-induced anger isn’t going to work the way he seems to think it will. When I used dating sites, seeing a guy’s shirtless, muscled profile pic was always a turn off, if not a red flag in itself. Include the picture if you want, but put it amongst all the other normal pics you might have, because seeing it as a default pic smells of desperation. If that’s what you want to put out, don’t be surprised when your only responses are from shallow people (if you’re lucky) and (if you’re unlucky) catfishers that can sense your need for validation from a mile away.
This isn’t hating on muscle bros. I’m sure there are plenty of good guys that just like exercise, or who get caught up in the idea that big muscles are what women want to see. But when they get burned by shallow women and/or scammers that just want to use them, it often reinforces misogynist beliefs, making the cycle of manosphere nonsense harder to escape from.