Whats_your_reasoning
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- Comment on Being poor is expensive 1 day ago:
$3 a load? Whoa.
It takes about $17 for a single load at the laundromats near me, both washing and drying. Going once a week, that’s over $800 a year.
Which is one reason I’ve started washing clothes in a 5-gallon (about 19 liters) bucket at home. It sucks, but it saves me money and I get a work out from it. I’d like to get a small machine, but where I live it wouldn’t be safe to have packages sitting outside all day and I try to avoid big box stores, so I feel pretty screwed.
- Comment on Being poor is expensive 1 day ago:
I wouldn’t be surprised if that bus included connections to other lines on top of it all.
- Comment on Urine Luck 1 day ago:
Seminal fluid and vaginal lubrication both also come from liquid in the blood.
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 1 week ago:
Oh, I’m not congratulating you on getting laid, I’m glad you overcame the situation insofar as the mental prison of inceldom is concerned.
Regardless of what you do, you at least have a good head on your shoulders. The ability to self-reflect instead of blaming others is some key emotional growth. I’m proud of you for that.
- Comment on A Ripple in Space 1 week ago:
Oooh, thank you! I love adding resources like this to tabs on my work computer. The nature of my job means I’m sometimes with kids with vastly different interests, so the more resources, the better.
Off-topic, but if anyone has/works with a kid who loves dinosaurs and prefers visual information, I also have a neat dinosaur size comparison page bookmarked.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 1 week ago:
Aspiration depends on position in a word in English and doesn’t hold any semantic or grammatical meaning, but in other languages, an aspirated consonant can completely change the meaning of a word.
It reminds me of how Hindi/Urdu use v and w. Which sound is produced depends on where it is in a word, but to native speakers, both v and w may sound the same. That’s why Hindustani ESL speakers tend to switch between the two in ways that don’t make sense to native English speakers.
It helps me wrap my mind around it to think of how English has two different ways of pronouncing L - there’s “light” L at the beginning of words (love, listen, like.) Then there’s “dark” L used at the end or sometimes in the middle (full, ball, visible.) The word “little” provides an example of both types (and if you pronounce it with a glottal stop for the “tt”, such as in a Cockney accent, the word is basically “light L, glottal stop, dark L.”)
Of course, aspiration itself also works as a way to understand it, since aspirated sounds make a difference in Hindustani, but English spelling treats them interchangeably. However, that difference is too hard for many of us to distinguish, so I find that comparing L sounds is easier for English speakers to recognize.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 1 week ago:
The more I learn other languages, the more annoyed I get at the Great Vowel Shift in English. We could’ve been aligned with so many other languages, but no, we just had to be different.
It’s wild, since English has such a vast vowel inventory that we can pronounce a lot of words in other languages, but since we read letters differently, many people end up with accents that don’t need to exist. Consider people pronouncing Spanish words with English vowels, even though all standard Spanish vowel sounds are already part of the standard English repertoire.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 1 week ago:
Which makes it funny when I hear fellow English speakers knock on French spelling. At least I can reasonably assume what a written French word is supposed to sound like. English doesn’t even give us that luxury.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 1 week ago:
“Apples, I love not”
It’s funny how learning different grammar can change the way you think. I read this and think, “Ah yes, perfectly normal Japanese word order. Topic first, with verb + negation at the end.”
I have to be careful when I talk sometimes, because my mental grammar structure is all over the place now.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 1 week ago:
Or ‘left’, which can mean remaining (“I only have three left”) or departing (“They left.”)
I remember learning Spanish in school. Discovering the difference between “dejar” and “irse” drove this home for me. Dejar - to leave [a thing somewhere.] Irse - to leave [a place.] (“Salir” also works for the latter meaning, but it can mean more of “to go out.”)
“Ella se fue y dejó el libro en la mesa” (“She left and left the book on the table.”)
Speaking of “driving (a point) home,” I’d say one of the weirdest/most interesting quirks of English is how many idioms we rely on.
- Comment on A Ripple in Space 1 week ago:
A kid I worked with loved airplanes. When he played, it became a running joke that there would randomly be “turbulence!” and he’d wiggle around.
One day, he was playing with another kid, but he was a rocket ship this time. The other kid, knowing his joke, decided to playfully bump into him and say, “turbulence!”
This little five year old, with his toddler-esque voice, often asks big questions that can be hard to answer. After this, he asked me, “Is there turbulence in space?”
I mean, yes and no? I explained that it’s not turbulence like an airplane experiences, since there’s not enough air in space to do that, but there are other forces that can act on a rocket that can change how it moves.
Thankfully, he didn’t pry any further, because that’s the extent of the knowledge I can ELI5 on that topic. 😅
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 1 week ago:
Well done overcoming that situation! That friend sounds like they’re worth their weight in gold. I’m glad they were able to help you and you were able to redirect from that toxic pipeline.
I imagine prevention is the best medicine. I know a single comment from a stranger is unlikely to do much, but the more we talk about the dangers of falling down the incel rabbithole, the more likely someone will be able to recognize the situation for themselves.
- Comment on Loosing my religion 1 week ago:
I’d probably talk to the girl and see if she holds the same beliefs. She’s Christian, yes, but there are plenty of people raised in such families that use the term out of familiarity, but don’t share the extreme views of their parents.
Though with that said, even if the girl isn’t off the deep end, I’d understand that having her parents as potential in-laws could be a bridge too far.
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 1 week ago:
If violent retribution is one of the paths inceldom leads to, it’s not terribly surprising if a femcel group goes the same way. What’s that saying? “Hurt people hurt people”?
If the only bond a group of people have is due to the pain they’re in, it can easily turn toxic. It’s a shame so many people turn toward incel/femcel communities instead of toward groups about shared interests or topics. I get wanting to commiserate with others, but when it becomes a circle jerk of sadness, sticking around can make existing issues so much worse.
- Comment on When will the all white home with grey floors trend be over? 1 week ago:
Meanwhile, at my parents’ old house, I had painted a bedroom so each wall represented a different season, complete with a mural of a colorful tree losing leaves for the autumn side (since it’s my favorite season.)
When a couple bought it last year, they fell in love with it. My old “seasons” room is being turned into a nursery. My mom recently shared a post by the buyer with me, where she said something along the lines of, “Spending our first summer in our dream house!”
Thank goodness no “flippers” ever got their hands on it.
- Comment on Anon tries to lose weight 1 week ago:
I’d love advice for being able to enjoy a pomegranate. Does the pulp peel off the pip better if it’s cold?
- Comment on Anon tries to lose weight 1 week ago:
I work with a kid who really likes cold sensations in his mouth (autism, this experience isn’t uncommon.) At snack time he eats frozen peas and frozen blueberries.
Which is why when I recently cooked with frozen peas, I tried a few before cooking. I get it, I’m a fan of peas and the novelty of them being frozen was interesting. I didn’t love it enough to make a new snack out of it, but you’re right - you never know until you try.
- Comment on Anon tries to lose weight 1 week ago:
I had the opposite experience eating pomegranate the first time. So fucking delicious, but the pips were an unsettling crunch/texture that I couldn’t get over. However, it’s too much work to remove them from the pips, so no fresh pomegranate for me.
- Comment on Anon's life flashes before his eyes 2 weeks ago:
Thinks of going outside
Opens door
Get slapped with a wave of heat akin to opening an oven
Nah, I’m good staying in today.
- Comment on Got any basements? 2 weeks ago:
No basement, just a tiny studio above a garage, entered from a sketchy alley. Graffiti on the exterior already included.
I’m not joking. This is how I live. 🫠
- Comment on Then a drone collapses the waveform 2 weeks ago:
After which he went to hell and began a sexual relationship with Satan.
Long story short, he eventually got sent to heaven to be tortured by Mormons.
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 2 weeks ago:
The fact your date went straight to violence tells a lot about them. It sounds like they were testing your boundaries. Glad you got away early, I can only imagine what would’ve happened if you’d gotten into a steady relationship then tried to break up. You didn’t just dodge a bullet, it sounds like you dodged a nuclear warhead.
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 2 weeks ago:
The kid may still come around some day, but it’s probably going to get worse before it gets better.
I have no idea what it feels like to be a horny teenage boy roiding up to get muscles, but I can say for a fact that messaging girls and having nothing to show but a muscled-up body and roid-induced anger isn’t going to work the way he seems to think it will. When I used dating sites, seeing a guy’s shirtless, muscled profile pic was always a turn off, if not a red flag in itself. Include the picture if you want, but put it amongst all the other normal pics you might have, because seeing it as a default pic smells of desperation. If that’s what you want to put out, don’t be surprised when your only responses are from shallow people (if you’re lucky) and (if you’re unlucky) catfishers that can sense your need for validation from a mile away.
This isn’t hating on muscle bros. I’m sure there are plenty of good guys that just like exercise, or who get caught up in the idea that big muscles are what women want to see. But when they get burned by shallow women and/or scammers that just want to use them, it often reinforces misogynist beliefs, making the cycle of manosphere nonsense harder to escape from.
- Comment on Scan to Verify You're Human 2 weeks ago:
And yet we’re having shit get censored everywhere else because aDvErTiSeRs. Clearly something doesn’t add up here.
- Comment on Yay, sponsored emojis! 2 weeks ago:
Try as I might, I can’t imagine it that way. Got an illustration?
- Comment on Yay, sponsored emojis! 3 weeks ago:
FIFA ball does not look happy
- Comment on I used to be an uber eats driver and lowkey 3 weeks ago:
I used to live in apartments with an address set up of “(building) letter + (unit) number.” Maps and GPS didn’t direct people to the unit you put in, instead directing every address to the rental office, regardless of what building you actually lived in.
It made deliveries hell. If the space for written directions was available, I would copy/paste directions I had pre-written so the drivers could find my specific unit. I put those directions in both English and Spanish, since so many drivers spoke Spanish primarily.
I was in building L, but the address line wouldn’t let you capitalize letters. So my unit would always print out as “l”, which delivery drivers (who didn’t read my clear instructions) would think was a capital i.
After twice having my food delivered to the wrong address and arguing with drivers about it, I gave up entirely. But both times I contacted Doordash to say my food wasn’t delivered, and thankfully, I got full refunds on both. I should note that the Doordash account was a perk from my workplace, where the fees weren’t included, so maybe having some kind of “premium” account factored into the response. Still, it just wasn’t worth the hassle. The way I see it, the whole point of food delivery is not having to get out of my pajamas and leave the house. If I’m going to have to get dressed and drive across the massive complex to get my food anyway, I might as well just pick it up from the restaurant myself and cut out the middle man.
- Comment on Yard Sale 3 weeks ago:
I knew it. Utah really, really loves naming their streets like this.
If anyone’s in doubt, you can see it for yourself. Open an online map and zoom in on any city, or even town, in Utah. Just pick one at random - they pretty much all have streets with a name of some number + some direction. It’s honestly kinda of impressive.
- Comment on How do you distance yourself from your country when it doesn't represent your views anymore so you won't be viewed by the rest of the world as part of the problem? 3 weeks ago:
That’s the neat thing - you don’t! For the same reasons that some people in your country will continue to hold their own stubborn beliefs about other people despite all evidence to the contrary, some people in other countries will do the same to you.
I never fit in with my home culture. For me, that’s racist, fascist Americans. Even as a kid I wasn’t accepted by my peers, school admin, and even my own mother. Having grown up under that, and becoming myself despite it all, some of those people (my mother at least) have come around. But honestly, I wouldn’t count on it.
The best you can do is keep being yourself (I know, cliched, but seriously) and live by example. Take it from someone with a lifetime of dealing with this - attempting to convince people doesn’t work. However, those who are open-minded will see you as you are and note you as one of “the good ones.” Instead of trying to change the mind of someone who’s dead set on seeing you as an enemy, focus on the people who already understand that it’s wrong to define a group of demographically-related people by the actions of a few.
- Comment on Anon pets a dog 4 weeks ago:
It probably helps that OP wasn’t scared. He didn’t act like a prey animal and flee, which can trigger hunting instincts. I also can’t help but wonder if the wolf recognized a human child as being “young.” I know dogs can do that - I’ve seen them change behavior around tiny humans and tolerate things from them that they wouldn’t tolerate from adults. Granted, domesticated dogs have had many generations to acclimate themselves to us, but I wouldn’t be surprised if a wild wolf recognized that OP was a “human puppy” and not a significant threat.
Also, OP had food, and considering the wolf went right for the pop tart when it was thrown, it’s possible such a sociable, intelligent creature was playing nice in hopes of being given some all along.
Who knows? I’d say it’s definitely a plausible story. If the story had been about a mountain lion, I’d have my doubts. But wolves don’t usually go out of their way to antagonize humans. If some of them were able to be domesticated long ago, the same traits that brought them close to humans in the first place may still exist in the wild population.
