Whats_your_reasoning
@Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
- Comment on Some heroes 9 hours ago:
- Comment on Anon makes conversation 12 hours ago:
Good chances he approached her first.
- Comment on Anon is only a little strange 1 day ago:
I’m still trying to figure out what an “iceberg” video is. The idea of an iceberg makes me think the bottom info should be more hidden or secret information, but from what I’ve seen, it’s just a ranking system? Not sure what it has to do with icebergs, or if it started as something that made sense and morphed into what it is today.
All I know is, YouTube keeps wanting to suggest them to me and there seems to be no way to get it to stop. I heard from one creator that it’s a format that’s currently trending, so that’s probably why they’re everywhere. But if they’re being recommended constantly, are they really trending, or is the algorithm just pushing them?
Anyways, I prefer to go off recommendations from other people anyway. YouTube’s suggestions are utter trash.
- Comment on Llaneli man reached 140mph to 'get to gym after argument' and hit taxi 1 day ago:
The last time I heard someone get to the gym in such a hurry, it was this guy:
Spoiler
From the show The Good Place. This guy is a demon pretending to be the soulmate of Eleanor, the lady in the picture. He was told that when he got asked tough questions, to say he was “going to the gym or something.” So almost every time she talked to him, he’d hurry away saying he was “going to the gym.”
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
It’s also worth mentioning that you have to reapply for SSI regularly, justifying yourself with several page paper forms every time. Even people with permanent disabilities have to reapply, as if the nerve damage from an accident or the congenital condition they were born with might suddenly go away. My girlfriend can’t write more than a few lines before the pain from her disability makes it too difficult, and they expect her to fill out what is practically a small pamphlet by hand every couple years. If it were at least a digital form, she could use speech-to-text to help her get through it, but as it stands she needs somebody else (last time it was me) to hand-write her answers.
The hoops the government puts out for disabled people to to redeem benefits are straight-up cruel. They really want people to just give up, not apply at all, and… I dunno, just die, I guess?
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
I knew a girl who had been “homeschooled” by her super Christian mom. Thankfully, the indoctrination didn’t take, she was intelligent, but wasn’t given the education she deserved. Moreover, she developed anxiety and would take ages to leave the house for planned events. Turns out that by babying her and never pushing her boundaries, she never learned that critical inner-push that all of us who’ve ever woken up and been like, “Ughhh, I don’t want to go to school/work today” have spent years overcoming. That sense of, “Well, I’ve gotta do it, so let’s just get up and get it done” didn’t develop, as she was allowed to just stay in or sleep or whatever instead of learning to tolerate the discomfort.
It always bugged me when parents treat their offspring as if they’ll forever be children, instead of treating them as future adults. These stories are the inevitably outcome of that.
- Comment on YouTube won't let me search for music by musician unless I remove the word "naked" from her name 5 days ago:
I think that’s called “a capella”
- Comment on I need an adult 5 days ago:
Not to nitpick, just a clarification - it was Old English until 1066, then it was Middle English until the 1400s.
- Comment on I need an adult 6 days ago:
I don’t know if that’s true or not, though some color words are definitely older than others, so I can imagine it. Do you have a source?
I’m reminded of how the word “orange” is relatively recent, and named after the fruit. Ever wonder why people with orange hair are called “redheads”? From the links, “redhead” arose in the 1200s, while “orange” wasn’t used to describe color under the 1500s. So “red” was the closest color descriptor at the time “redhead” was coined.
- Comment on Anon overdoes it 2 weeks ago:
Yes, death grip is real, and it sucks for the partner in your life, too. I’ve been with guys who’d death-gripped themselves out of enjoying the sensation of another’s body, and lemme tell you, having him go on for ages isn’t as fun as it sounds. As the partner, you start to feel like you’re not good enough, because nothing you do seems to get him off. Sex becomes less fun and more of a chore, to the point that you start to wonder why you’re bothering at all. You both know he’d get more pleasure from masturbating, so why even be involved?
I’ve had exes who tried to cut back on masturbation, take days off, and that’s just to bring back libido. But there is no quick solution, it takes time and careful self-monitoring to resensitize. I hope more people become aware of this phenomenon, take caution, and use lube when masturbating - because giving yourself intimacy problems before the age of 30 isn’t fun for anyone.
- Comment on Do non-English speakers learn to code in English, or in their native language? 2 weeks ago:
That’s cool about “rare” in Dutch. It’s the same in Spanish. “Qué raro” means “How weird.” So that’s a false friend for English, but an accurate one between Spanish and Dutch!
- Comment on Do non-English speakers learn to code in English, or in their native language? 2 weeks ago:
Considering that their roofs tend to look like this, that’s a very reasonable understanding. Pizza Huts look like they’re wearing a hat!
- Comment on Anon orders food 3 weeks ago:
Probably an “online convenience fee,” as if it’s more work to have an order print up at the restaurant than to make someone there take a phone call.
- Comment on 3 weeks ago:
One of the programs I use at work had an overhaul recently. I wanted to find some notes from a previous day and couldn’t figure out how. I asked someone to help and they told me to click some symbol in the corner of the page. I didn’t even know it was supposed to be a button, hovering over it doesn’t say what it does. It looked kind of like [ iii ] which tells me absolutely nothing about its functionality.
The overhaul was supposed to make things easier.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
Does this guy have a wife? Is he going to hurt me? Is he just using me?
I probably wouldn’t be in a relationship with a guy if these were my worries during sex. But, there are other considerations that happen regardless of relationship status.
There’s an inherent difference in being the “receiver,” a type of intimacy that only comes from having somebody else physically inside your own body. Things can get sore, especially if the guy treats sex like an Olympic event that he needs to keep on doing for a long time. (Or if he has his own issues with orgasming from penetration, which is surprisingly common these days. “Death grip” where a man becomes accustomed to the tightness of his own hand, or a reliance on viewing porn in order to cum, seem to be all over the place.)
I enjoy penetrative sex, but my body needs a break sometimes. Things can start to get uncomfortable after going on for 20 minutes. I don’t think most straight guys are aware of the physical stress of being penetrated. It can be fun, in small doses, but if we regularly get to the point where I feel sore inside, it can become something aversive. Honestly I’d rather be with a guy who cums too quickly than a guy who can “keep going on and on,” because it sucks to always be the one to put an end to sexy times.
- Comment on Carenheit 3 weeks ago:
One of my favorite things about Lemmy is how many of us are in the autism/ADHD neurotribe. We can read your response and be like, “Oh, okay. Yeah, I get where you’re coming from” and roll along with understanding, without the need for senseless hostility.
Just another day, another misinterpretation - we’ve all been there.
- Comment on Anon can't escape 3 weeks ago:
This is why friends don’t let friends watch Friends
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 5 weeks ago:
Is that the new, “You’ll go blind”?
- Comment on Team Stick 5 weeks ago:
I hear either one can be used to break bones, so there’s really no wrong answer.
I feel like I’d have more fun with the stick, though. Carrying around a rock just feels like carrying around extra weight. Carrying around a stick can feel like carrying a sword, can help with walking on hikes, can be used to point out things in the distance, can be a makeshift flag staff, or a barrier if you need to block someone or something. Then if it breaks, it can still be used as kindling in a fire.
So yeah, I’ll say Team Stick.
- Comment on Being poor is expensive 5 weeks ago:
$3 a load? Whoa.
It takes about $17 for a single load at the laundromats near me, both washing and drying. Going once a week, that’s over $800 a year.
Which is one reason I’ve started washing clothes in a 5-gallon (about 19 liters) bucket at home. It sucks, but it saves me money and I get a work out from it. I’d like to get a small machine, but where I live it wouldn’t be safe to have packages sitting outside all day and I try to avoid big box stores, so I feel pretty screwed.
- Comment on Being poor is expensive 5 weeks ago:
I wouldn’t be surprised if that bus included connections to other lines on top of it all.
- Comment on Urine Luck 5 weeks ago:
Seminal fluid and vaginal lubrication both also come from liquid in the blood.
- Comment on [OC] Anon is a femcel 1 month ago:
Oh, I’m not congratulating you on getting laid, I’m glad you overcame the situation insofar as the mental prison of inceldom is concerned.
Regardless of what you do, you at least have a good head on your shoulders. The ability to self-reflect instead of blaming others is some key emotional growth. I’m proud of you for that.
- Comment on A Ripple in Space 1 month ago:
Oooh, thank you! I love adding resources like this to tabs on my work computer. The nature of my job means I’m sometimes with kids with vastly different interests, so the more resources, the better.
Off-topic, but if anyone has/works with a kid who loves dinosaurs and prefers visual information, I also have a neat dinosaur size comparison page bookmarked.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 1 month ago:
Aspiration depends on position in a word in English and doesn’t hold any semantic or grammatical meaning, but in other languages, an aspirated consonant can completely change the meaning of a word.
It reminds me of how Hindi/Urdu use v and w. Which sound is produced depends on where it is in a word, but to native speakers, both v and w may sound the same. That’s why Hindustani ESL speakers tend to switch between the two in ways that don’t make sense to native English speakers.
It helps me wrap my mind around it to think of how English has two different ways of pronouncing L - there’s “light” L at the beginning of words (love, listen, like.) Then there’s “dark” L used at the end or sometimes in the middle (full, ball, visible.) The word “little” provides an example of both types (and if you pronounce it with a glottal stop for the “tt”, such as in a Cockney accent, the word is basically “light L, glottal stop, dark L.”)
Of course, aspiration itself also works as a way to understand it, since aspirated sounds make a difference in Hindustani, but English spelling treats them interchangeably. However, that difference is too hard for many of us to distinguish, so I find that comparing L sounds is easier for English speakers to recognize.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 1 month ago:
The more I learn other languages, the more annoyed I get at the Great Vowel Shift in English. We could’ve been aligned with so many other languages, but no, we just had to be different.
It’s wild, since English has such a vast vowel inventory that we can pronounce a lot of words in other languages, but since we read letters differently, many people end up with accents that don’t need to exist. Consider people pronouncing Spanish words with English vowels, even though all standard Spanish vowel sounds are already part of the standard English repertoire.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 1 month ago:
Which makes it funny when I hear fellow English speakers knock on French spelling. At least I can reasonably assume what a written French word is supposed to sound like. English doesn’t even give us that luxury.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 1 month ago:
“Apples, I love not”
It’s funny how learning different grammar can change the way you think. I read this and think, “Ah yes, perfectly normal Japanese word order. Topic first, with verb + negation at the end.”
I have to be careful when I talk sometimes, because my mental grammar structure is all over the place now.
- Comment on What's the weirdest thing in english? 1 month ago:
Or ‘left’, which can mean remaining (“I only have three left”) or departing (“They left.”)
I remember learning Spanish in school. Discovering the difference between “dejar” and “irse” drove this home for me. Dejar - to leave [a thing somewhere.] Irse - to leave [a place.] (“Salir” also works for the latter meaning, but it can mean more of “to go out.”)
“Ella se fue y dejó el libro en la mesa” (“She left and left the book on the table.”)
Speaking of “driving (a point) home,” I’d say one of the weirdest/most interesting quirks of English is how many idioms we rely on.
- Comment on A Ripple in Space 1 month ago:
A kid I worked with loved airplanes. When he played, it became a running joke that there would randomly be “turbulence!” and he’d wiggle around.
One day, he was playing with another kid, but he was a rocket ship this time. The other kid, knowing his joke, decided to playfully bump into him and say, “turbulence!”
This little five year old, with his toddler-esque voice, often asks big questions that can be hard to answer. After this, he asked me, “Is there turbulence in space?”
I mean, yes and no? I explained that it’s not turbulence like an airplane experiences, since there’s not enough air in space to do that, but there are other forces that can act on a rocket that can change how it moves.
Thankfully, he didn’t pry any further, because that’s the extent of the knowledge I can ELI5 on that topic. 😅
