MountingSuspicion
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- Comment on Are they crazy? We don't have money for anything... 3 days ago:
You are not really addressing my point. I’m mentioning the fact that boomers are statistically less likely to support policies that help the situation and more likely to support policies that hurt the situation. You suggest that those before me had made efforts that are ineffective, but my point is that they statistically are working against me and my efforts.
I’m not blaming the weight of other passengers on the titanic because we are not passive participants in the world the way passengers were passive riders of the titanic. We are all able to affect change. I’m watching news reports of the titanic and advocating for life boat safety regulations and am upset that a bunch of other people are saying I’m making a mountain out of a molehill and there’s no real reason to have more lifeboats because “some people lived”.
Sure, plenty of people are at fault, but I can’t just be upset that the ship lobby has a chokehold on regulation if I’m actively looking at people standing next to me who refuse to hold them accountable.
- Comment on Are they crazy? We don't have money for anything... 4 days ago:
I have advocated for helping people, have voted for people who will work towards that aim, and spend time doing so regularly. Most people I know of my generation have done some or all of that. Most people I know of the boomer generation believe that “god helps those who help themselves”, vote for people who are taking away regulations on business and right of individuals, and spend their personal time advocating for things that personally enrich themselves rather than for the benefit of all people. Acting as though the actions of “ordinary people” have no bearing on the world in which we live is defeatist. If the issue is lack of regulation on business or lack of rights of workers then it makes sense to address a segment of the population that largely believes those things are not needed. Look at polls citing favorable views of capitalism vs socialism across generations. If we cannot acknowledge the fact that boomers as a generation are more hesitant than other generations regarding the changes that need to happen then what’s the point of talking about anything. We need to reach them and talk about how these issues affect them. If they are fighting tooth and nail against us then we will keep failing for longer.
- Comment on Are they crazy? We don't have money for anything... 4 days ago:
If they built their wealth through the exploitation of others or are refusing to allow society to progress, then yes, you can blame them.
There’s a large generational gap regarding views on basic things like response to climate change and social safety nets. I don’t think it’s more helpful to blame boomers than republicans, but it wouldn’t be incorrect to attribute a lack of progress to the will of a lot of people in the boomer generation.
I think when people blame boomers for the economy, it’s not about blaming them for buying a house, it’s about blaming them for creating or supporting the economic conditions in which no one else can.
- Comment on I'm not sure they will 5 days ago:
I cannot stress enough how correct this is. It feels like it’d be similar to early Covid lockdown. People with real jobs that contribute to things are still working while everyone else with the cushy meaningless jobs are sent home to do nothing where they complain and make things harder for the people actually doing things.
- Comment on Hot Ones trying to sneak in the package protection 1 week ago:
Yea, this is a conversation I’ve had with plenty of small businesses owners now. There was this mom and pop sandwich shop that was used to a bunch of blue collar workers and day laborers paying in cash. Their clientele shifted once big companies started moving in and a lot of people are paying with card. Then over the years the percent of card purchases climbs to 90%. People are coming in for a coffee and they’re paying in card so they eventually come up with a card minimum and everyone gets upset because they don’t carry cash so they stop going. I guess people are averse to using their debit cards due to fraud. They then just tack on a card fee instead and that’s that. I appreciate that approach because then people can still make a choice and it’s not raising prices across the board.
I mostly do B2B stuff now and ACH is pretty standard, though I still have some using checks.
- Comment on Hot Ones trying to sneak in the package protection 1 week ago:
If you think it’s almost criminal why proceed with the order?
They’re basically outright saying “we poorly package our products and pass that cost onto you”. If something they send breaks in transit that’s their fault or something they need to figure out with the shipping company. It should at least be refunded if not resent for free.
I on occasion get fragile things from craft stores and online sellers and these individuals and small companies manage to send these things just fine without charging me for the convenience of having it arrive in one piece. I don’t know why this company is getting away with this.
- Comment on Syrian passports include a photo of Souq al-Hamidiyah in Damascus with the photographer’s watermark 'Wassim al-Asmar Photography' still visible. 1 week ago:
The person you’re responding to is a reddit reposter, so it’s probably not their post. If I had to guess the OOP might be upset since apparently the name is a “watermark” which might indicate that the photographer was not paid for the use of the photo and that’s why the passport only has the watermarked version.
Just a guess. You could probably find the OG post on Reddit if you want to give that a try.
- Comment on github 3 weeks ago:
They do not. Even gadget savvy normies generally don’t. Sometimes people who mod their games will know it from having to download things from there, but they still might not know it by name since they’re just following directions and not paying much attention to the actual information.
No hate to tech normies. We can’t all know everything. Just sharing my experience with it.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
Plenty of people do exactly that and just never make it so you don’t get a chance to see how often that fails. No issue enjoying a success story built off hard work and determination, but a lot of the time luck is involved in ways we can’t control.
- Comment on To “tent with aluminum foil”… 3 weeks ago:
I do somewhat agree, but I can also see that if you’re making mostly one kind of dish, tenting may not be used at all. I don’t make a lot of Chinese food so maybe it’s a bad example, but I’ve never seen a Chinese recipe suggest tenting for example, so I am happy to give room for a variety of cooking preferences. I have seen cooking shows where they talk about foaming things or whatnot and if I saw that in a recipe you bet I’d have to look up how to do it. Maybe someone who makes a lot of food with sauces or something would think it’s weird I don’t know what foaming is. Sometimes it’s easy to assume our framework is the default one, regardless of the topic. Though in my experience I would have to agree that it’s not uncommon.
- Comment on To “tent with aluminum foil”… 3 weeks ago:
Funny that your most recent comment is suggesting someone else doesn’t cook much.
I have seen it in a few recipes over the years, though I feel like it really depends on the kind of meals you’re making. To a certain extent I understand it feeling like unnecessary jargon, but now that you’ve seen it, it’s part of your cooking vocabulary forever. I think it’s fine for online recipes to use that kind of language, especially since the answer to what it means is pretty easy to find.
- Comment on Don’t you lie to me 5 weeks ago:
That’s not a finders fee, it’s theft. Most places consider it such in the US at least.
It’s decent to return the other stuff, but that doesn’t change the fact the money was stolen. If there was no cash would you bother returning the wallet? If not then essentially you’re charging the person for the return which doesn’t make it an act of kindness. If so then you’re just penalizing a person for having cash on hand. Weird how people will rationalize whatever behavior they want to do.
- Comment on Do you consider GTA VI overpriced? 1 month ago:
What new video game have you paid north of $100 for? Was it a deluxe version or something?
- Comment on We hate him no matter who he represents. 1 month ago:
There’s really no guarantee that people are using their real name and photo in most cases. People tying their presence to their work or something is different, but I generally never assume I’m talking to the person being presented to me. Some people also just don’t care, don’t realize there could be consequences, or they signed up when the internet was a different place (thinking twitter would be more like Facebook or MySpace where it might make some sense to use your real name).
- Comment on Anon tries dating apps 1 month ago:
Maybe there’s some geographical or cultural differences, but I can say for sure that hobbies is a perfectly normal place to meet women in my area of the US. I have dated plenty of people I’ve met through hobbies.
Also I think there’s a difference between picking up a woman at a gym vs picking them up at a running or biking meetup. I think just like with anything else, there are inappropriate ways to do it, but it’s not socially unacceptable from my understanding whereas gym pickups really are.
- Comment on Ghosted After a Job Interview? Report the Company 1 month ago:
Local subreddits used to have lists of things like top restaurants or little known museums etc. if your area has a community on Lemmy you might be able to contact the mods and see if they’d be interested in a sidebar link for it or something.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
I know people who don’t pay and do ok on the apps. I don’t know if it’s your area or your profile, but maybe try to get some feedback from women irl or online if you haven’t already. I know a lot of millennial women got off the apps a bit back, so that might also be a factor.
I’m terrified of becoming an internet post now if I approach someone.
For what it’s worth, I’ve generally only seen this sentiment from people who don’t know how to behave around women. Maybe you’re an exception, but most normal guys I know don’t have an issue with that. They may be nervous to approach, but never out of fear of being lambasted online. If this is a real concern for you, I’d suggest reading some of these posts and just not behaving in the way they have an issue with.
- Comment on Old but gud 1 month ago:
I’m not a fashionista or anything, but I think it’s more about finding your style and finding your fit within your style. Feeling good about your look is more important than it working for you in my opinion. The easiest upgrade with the most impact is generally tshirt to some other kind of top, but his looks are often a little more involved than top+bottom. He does have the traditional model aesthetic of tall and thin, but I think his tips and general style could be incorporated by anyone.
- Comment on Old but gud 1 month ago:
I’m not suggesting men and women have equal access to equivalent style variety, but it seems like they are saying in part that men don’t have “interesting style” options. I recommended watching his stuff because he often wears skirts or dresses or womenswear cuts to get a shape less common in menswear that the commenter might like and be able to mimic. He does whole videos of thrifted fits too. Also lots of general styling tips for men to spice up an otherwise plain look.
I’m not disagreeing with him, just trying to help with the resources I know of. Not really sure what your comment is getting at because I didn’t suggest anything other than a possible point of influence that it seems like you aren’t familiar with.
- Comment on Old but gud 1 month ago:
Wisdom Kaye is a male model and he does great videos exploring a more diverse perspective on men’s fashion. It may not be exactly what I looking for, but it’s definitely a fresh new perspective compared to what I see in day to day male fashion.
- Comment on Old but gud 1 month ago:
My mild take is that there’s nothing wrong with that outfit.
You could probably do a non-tshirt top, like a breezy short sleeve button down or more relaxed top. Maybe non khaki colored shorts, but it’s fine as is.
- Comment on Valid point 1 month ago:
I don’t know anyone who keeps their license in their car. Car culture is different in the us vs the eu, so maybe not as common over there, but sometimes if traveling with friends you will switch who drives. You should have your license on you if you’re driving. Additionally, it’s good to have your ID in case you forget your credit card somewhere and now you have a document with your picture on it that has a name that matches the card. I still get carded sometimes when buying alcohol or entering certain places so it’s not unusual to want to keep it on hand in case you want drinks or something.
Also good to have your ID and insurance information in case of an emergency.
- Comment on Papa Johns Can Predict When Your Fridge Is Empty 2 months ago:
Instacart confirmed that this campaign marks the first time Instacart made its first-party data available for a brand outside of the consumer-packaged goods category to use on NBCU inventory. (Papa Johns is technically in the quick-service restaurant vertical.)
I don’t use instacart, but my understanding is that there is a fee for that service or some kind of minimum purchase agreement with stores. If you’re paying for a service it should be illegal for them to sell your data.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
I looked it up and apparently this company installs these lockers that have different balls in them. So if you go to a park with a court and didn’t bring a ball you can still play if you get the app and check one out. It seems like people just stole the balls.
- Comment on I’m Gay, Not Queer. It Matters. 2 months ago:
This is in part because a key message behind it — that being gay is not a choice — is being undermined by those who argue that same-sex orientation is better thought of as a part of a wider rebellion against social norms.
I cannot recommend anyone waste their time reading this separatist log cabin republican drivel.
Plenty of people are using the term queer, but that doesn’t mean their identity is a rebellion and not an inherent part of their being.
He has done work with an org that attempts to normalize gay relationships within the church and has the gall to act like queer people are the ones ruining it for him. As if he is not privy to the fact he was never really wanted there in the first place. He sees them turning on him and blames everyone but the ones doing the turning. He openly talks like being gay is the only respectable non cishet identity, and that’s exactly the problem. It’s not. He says he has trans friends. I hope they find this article because he is not on their side.
I have said elsewhere on Lemmy that I don’t publicly use the term queer to refer to the LGBT community because not all LGBT people identify with it, so having a preference of being called gay vs queer is not an issue for me. What is an issue is acting like the actual queer community is the problem and not the people you so desperately want acceptance from.
- Comment on An American in Paris 2 months ago:
Nah, you’re wrong.
Aren’t you Canadian? I didn’t say no Americans hold that opinion, I said I don’t know any. You may know a lot of Americans who feel that way, but the vast majority (81-92%) tip for sit down service. That sentiment may be more common on Lemmy than IRL, but even on Lemmy people seem to be against exploiting the worker. Lemmy is not a very accurate representation of anything, not even of the Lemmy user base.
- Comment on An American in Paris 2 months ago:
I don’t know any Americans that don’t tip. I know Americans that avoid eating out because they don’t like tipping culture, but I’m not sure if many Americans agree with the bottom panel even if they don’t like tipping.
- Comment on 2 months ago:
Generally artists have to put effort into drawing facial features smaller. Because as people we concentrate on the face it’s hard not to frame them with oversized proportions. I have to respect the “but that ass tho” approach to solving that problem.
- Comment on Finally an explanation 2 months ago:
I’m confused as to what your suggestion is. Do you think people who are “just followingorders” should not be held accountable for their actions because they were not the ones issuing the orders?
- Comment on Finally an explanation 2 months ago:
I understand what that is supposed to mean, but it makes no sense. I have never taken anybody’s eyeball so if that was the law of the land, I would feel pretty safe. Eventually, everyone going around taking eyeballs would have no eyes and they would be much less likely to be able to take more, at least without some assistance I imagine.
Plenty of places have a “death for a death” law where if you kill someone you can be put to death. I’m against the death penalty personally, but that has never really been of personal concern to me since I don’t go around murdering.
If you take something from someone, should they not be able to take it back from you? If you steal $1000, do I just have to sit there? I should be entitled to take $1000 back. If anything, I should also potentially be entitled to more.
While for an eye is not my preference, it was used to make people as whole as possible and was considered an improvement at the time.