MountingSuspicion
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- Comment on Anon plays vidya with the bros 19 hours ago:
Extremely sorry to hear you’re having a tough time. I’m not a guy, so I cannot speak from direct experience, but just judging from my male friends it seems like the “find a social hobby” advice really works. I know you didn’t ask for advice, but I really don’t have much else to offer other than my sympathy. I hope things get better for you (and everyone tbh).
- Comment on Anon plays vidya with the bros 2 days ago:
It is such a clear sign of differences in socialization, because you will never find a more supportive group than a bunch of drunk female friends (in my experience). Really sad to see the lack of men supporting men, but hopefully it’s getting better as the years go on.
- Comment on Google’s New AI Puts Breasts on Minors—And J. D. Vance 3 days ago:
Part of it is likely that she is a famous woman who is not known for being sexualized and is considered a public figure. No one wants to have the scientific standard be “I used pics of this girl I had a crush on” so I imagine famous people are good to pick from. I imagine Merkel also doesn’t have a lot of bikini pics AI can draw from (some amount of swimming pics are unfortunately always available for public figures for some reason) so you can be sure it’s generated them from nothing. If you used a famous model, there may be a possibility it is using pics of them to model their chest. If you’re testing what it does with random inputs, using Merkel is probably a good option.
As far as the output being what was requested, I think the issue can vary depending on your view of AI so I am just going to leave that part unanswered because if it’s a problem or not relies so much on your priors.
- Comment on Anon is not a merciful cod 1 week ago:
That potentially just gives GameStop more money and unnecessarily adds tension to a holiday where a parent is just trying to make their kid happy. Fuck GameStop and all, but this parent was put in a bad position on purpose by someone who knew better and who ostensibly was being paid to help people like them out (post is fake obviously though). It’s not their fault GameStop sucks, and it’s not the kids fault either.
- Comment on AMC Theatres Quarterly Losses Hit $202.1 Million After Box Office Got Off to Rocky Start 3 weeks ago:
I’m not complaining about the price, but you can definitely complain about the price regardless of how often you go. I don’t go to Disney every year but I can still say it’s overpriced.
I was just saying that if theaters are hurting for customers I understand why. If people are spending $60 just on tickets for a family of four they are probably not going to be going very often. We don’t go very often and we make a whole event out of it and don’t spend much more than the $60. People that buy popcorn and snacks for everyone at their local theater end up spending as much as we do and we get dinner and drinks out of it. Unless there’s a discount running or the theater is a specialty theater like the one I go to they don’t really offer a better experience than you can get at home for the price. The only draw imho is that the movie is new and nowadays things hit streaming pretty shortly after release. Generic theaters just don’t offer enough for the price and the evidence is that they are failing. People loved having movie pass so it seems like there’s still a desire to go, just not at current prices.
- Comment on AMC Theatres Quarterly Losses Hit $202.1 Million After Box Office Got Off to Rocky Start 3 weeks ago:
As someone who also didn’t have movie snacks until I could pay for them myself, I think part of it is that snacks add to the experience. If I’m paying for my family to go to the movies it’s supposed to be something nice. We have movie nights at home and buy popcorn in bulk so we can all cuddle up on the couch and snack to our hearts content or pause if someone spills or needs the restroom.
I go to the movies once every few years now and it’s always for a big blowout movie where we can dress up and we go to a fancy theater that does food service and has dedicated layzboy style seats. We went and saw Barbie and all wore pink and got themed food/drinks at the theater (pink lemonade and Barbie-q-something). It was fun and imho that’s the kind of theater experience worth having. I don’t really remember seeing movies as a kid with my family but I’m sure we’ll all remember this.
I think the idea of spending $60 for a family of four to sit in silence together and then leave is just not as appealing unless they get the “theater experience” of the addons. I’m also not one complaining though because I generally don’t care about seeing things in the theater and I don’t really know what it’s worth to people who would enjoy it. I do understand that it doesn’t feel worth $60 though.
- Comment on Jeremy Renner Turned Down ‘Hawkeye’ Season 2 Because He Was Offered ‘Half’ His Season 1 Salary: ‘Did You Think I’m Only Half the Jeremy Because I Got Ran Over?’ 3 weeks ago:
How/when did they get in trouble? I didn’t hear anything about it and nothing came up immediately after a search. It seems like a huge jump to say that they are going to be forced out of the industry. Additionally, he was still offered millions of dollars. Plenty of people would have jumped at the opportunity.
AI is definitely going to be a problem for the industry but your comment seems like a stretch.
- Comment on Jeremy Renner Turned Down ‘Hawkeye’ Season 2 Because He Was Offered ‘Half’ His Season 1 Salary: ‘Did You Think I’m Only Half the Jeremy Because I Got Ran Over?’ 3 weeks ago:
I read the wiki and a few articles about it a while ago when I saw the video that brought attention to the app: youtu.be/od7P-RhLjLQ
I don’t think the wiki or any articles I read seem misleading. I understand that he did not personally set any of this up, but having a separate app where people pay money to interact with you seems like shitty behavior for a celeb who is already beyond rich. I’m not saying it’s as bad as a crypto rug pull, but it’s giving similar energy. Clearly there are some people who were getting something out of the app, but it feels kind of predatory. If he wanted super fans to keep up with him he can just send out a newsletter. I get notifications when certain people I follow are touring near me and it doesn’t require a special app. I would probably feel differently if he put a lot of effort into engaging with fans there but it would still feel tainted with the fact that some people are spending money with the hope he’ll notice them.
It’s like having a patreon with no actual perks. If Taylor swift or timothee chalamet made a patreon and you could maybe get some nebulous benefit from joining I would think that’s also shitty behavior. It’s not illegal, and I understand that in theory the app was free, but the conceit is to make money off these parasocial relationships with you and it’s just gross imho. At least with merch or patreon subs you know what you’re paying for. I highly doubt he was even the one responding to most super fans seeing as most posts were copy/pasted from other social media platforms. He probably had some doing it for him.
- Comment on Jeremy Renner Turned Down ‘Hawkeye’ Season 2 Because He Was Offered ‘Half’ His Season 1 Salary: ‘Did You Think I’m Only Half the Jeremy Because I Got Ran Over?’ 3 weeks ago:
I didn’t watch it but my understanding is that Hawkeye passed on the torch and he probably was going to be more in the background instead of the star. I don’t know the exact parameters but I imagine it would not be as much screen time or physically demanding scenes. Fuck Disney for being a shitty company but I’m not sure if this is 100% attributable to that.
- Comment on Jeremy Renner Turned Down ‘Hawkeye’ Season 2 Because He Was Offered ‘Half’ His Season 1 Salary: ‘Did You Think I’m Only Half the Jeremy Because I Got Ran Over?’ 3 weeks ago:
I was never a fan of his, but when I saw this I decided he’s just not a good person. What a gross thing to do to people who support you. I hope to not have to see him in anything going forward.
- Comment on Anon has his way 5 weeks ago:
Agreed. Peace and love.
- Comment on Anon has his way 5 weeks ago:
Yes, I agree that in healthy interactions subs should have the power and most doms are pretty flexible.
As I mentioned above, breath play is dangerous and imho too common considering how few people have any idea what they’re doing.
I also agree regarding 50 shades. That dynamic is unhealthy and no one should have to experience that.
What I can say after experiencing both sides of casual and less casual encounters is that if I meet someone in a non kink bar and the extent of her kink is she wants me to verbally degrade her, I’m unfortunately unlikely to get a list of things she wants to be called. I can sit her down and have a conversation about it, but that’s more likely to see her disinterested in speaking openly about it than asking something about it during the normal flow of the encounter. “Tell me how naughty you are” or whatever is more likely to illicit things she is comfortable being called than actually sitting her down to talk about it. In my experience, outside of the kink community, I’ve not seen people willing to have open and honest discussions about their kinks. In long term relationships it’s different, but if I’m taking someone home and we’re not expecting to be together for an extended period of time, I have not personally found it fruitful to attempt to invoke a paradigm shift regarding shame and power as it relates to sexuality. Maybe that’s a me issue, but I’m not sure that it can be done that fast and I’m attempting to work within that framework. I would never physically restrain someone or engage in more serious play on a one off basis without having a serious discussion about it, but I don’t think most people engaging in casual encounters go that far either.
I’m trying to meet society where it’s at, and I’m not sure what the realistic alternative is. Maybe I’m too pessimistic, but imho casual subs will continue to try to find people who will engage with them the way they desire and it will continue to put them at risk until either they or casual doms get more serious about boundaries and consent. I do not see kink community norms making it to a more casual setting any time soon, so in the meantime I can only suggest stop gap measures. I’m not seeing a lot of what I would consider realistic advice for people who find themselves in that situation. I know plenty of het women who would prefer a few rougher than expected encounters than having to sit down and verbalize their sexual desires. I can tell them to get over that, or I can suggest that people doing the harm (engaging in rough sex without consent is harm regardless of if you THINK they want it or not) take responsibility as well. Ideally we see movement on both ends, but imho the het women are not actually doing harm. They are putting themselves in situations they know have the potential to be harmful, but they aren’t DOING the harm. It their partners who are deciding the boundaries. I don’t think they are purposefully harming people, but that’s the outcome.
- Comment on Anon has his way 5 weeks ago:
I’m really not sure that we’re in disagreement here. I think anyone initiating is great. I suggested ways for doms to do it that are more consistent with casual interaction than in kink communities, since there seems to be a consensus that subs in the casual scene don’t like it to be so explicit.
I’m not saying subs can’t or shouldn’t. I’m just saying that seeing as subs in more casual settings seem turned off by explicit discussion of boundaries, that it seems like a hard sell to then expect a cultural shift of them embracing being the ones to begin the conversation. If you can start that shift, amazing, but I don’t see a huge movement in that regard currently. I think it’d be ill advised for me to just tell newbie/casual doms “don’t worry have your sub be responsible for bringing up their boundaries”. I would err on the side of caution and I was just providing a suggestion for how to do that in a casual setting without ruining the mood. As I’ve said before, anyone can bring it up and everyone should bring it up.
- Comment on Anon has his way 5 weeks ago:
I think sex positive people generally appreciate when their partner is upfront and clear about their boundaries. I just don’t think it’s as common for subs to be the ones to start that discussion. Even your wording regarding it taking a huge burden off your dom implies that there was some pressure on the dom to ask for it. In my experience, the doms are the ones that start that discussion. My experience seems to align with other people’s experience when we discuss it, but I’m definitely not saying that’s always the case.
- Comment on Anon has his way 5 weeks ago:
Yessss. The orgasm gap in general is so real and guys (not talking about OP specifically but just in general) are all like “this makes pp feel good so why you no cum yet?” Absolute zero fucks given about their female partners. Some women enjoy penetration and can cum from that alone, but I’ve had female partners that have lots of toys but no dildos because “why even bother” and that’s so valid. Solo female masturbation is 9/10 in my experience clitoral, so idk why guys struggle to understand that in and out is only going to do so much for most women.
But you know how these wanton harlots are, enjoying things outside of missionary with their husband for the sole purpose of procreation. Disgusting! Brides of satan the lot of them.
- Comment on Anon has his way 5 weeks ago:
Yeah, I agree with your personal experience regarding who is generally turned off by it, but I think that’s why it needs to be a masc/Dom lead thing. Subs are too turned off by it conceptually and don’t want to take the lead. I think the big issue is how it’s incorporated into foreplay. Unfortunately, being sexy and dom about consent is not second nature to everyone, but it can definitely be done.
“Do you want me to X” or “wouldn’t you like that?” can be sprinkled throughout foreplay. “Tell me when to stop” or walking someone through an RP scenario where you respect their no and then they have to enthusiastically express consent to proceed. Absolute basic outline below devoid of all sexuality and not actually phrasing I would use: “Tell me to stop” “I don’t want you to” “Tell me anyway”
Option A “Ok. Stop” You stop and then have some sexy banter and tell them they need to ask you to continue. You’ve now demonstrated that you will respect their no even if you know it’s just play and you have their enthusiastic consent to proceed. If they don’t want to proceed either they didn’t actually like what was happening or you can try to ask them what they want instead and now they’re in charge.
OR “No I like this too much” You can proceed and potentially ask sexy follow ups to understand what specifically they like. “Oh you like how I X or do you like how I Y better?”
The issue is there’s a fine line between sexy and cringe. Knowing how to read a situation will definitely help, but the concept of using consent to build suspense is not new. There’s a whole genre of bodice rippers where the woman is the one that finally gives in and lets the man take her because he insists he won’t touch her until she begs for it. It obviously requires more restraint from the dom, and different techniques work on different people, but generally a way can be found to put consent in the hands of a sub without letting them feel like the power dynamic has been lost. It really is an art form though and not everyone can be a great artist, but we can all try our best.
- Comment on Anon has his way 5 weeks ago:
Yes, those are exactly the things that should be happening.
I think the aversion to it is often that it’s not incorporated into the foreplay itself. For more serious things it should be completely separate so that there’s no question what is part of the the play and not, but imho for casual sex there’s less of a need to have a sit down discussion about it. I’m a woman though, so I get that it’s easier for me to say than for a man to say. It sucks because a lot of that onus is put on the person coded as masc/dom in more casual settings, but that’s just the reality of it. I think if more masc/dom coded people incorporated it into their casual sex it’d be less taboo much faster. I don’t think femme/sub coded people are going to be able to push it and still feel like they’re inhabiting the space they want to, so I don’t know if we’ll see a lot of cultural movement unless heterosexual men start to champion this idea of incorporating consent into foreplay.
- Comment on Anon has his way 5 weeks ago:
I’m sure you have sex real good etc etc, but honestly, a lot of heterosexual men do not have sex real good. Your conception of “loving sex” is fine and all, but often penetration alone is not pleasurable enough for women, especially if their partner is inexperienced or if neither party is familiar enough with the woman’s anatomy to find an angle that’s more stimulating. I’m not saying rough sex is the answer, but a lot of women think “boring sex” is bad because their partner is doing the technical aspects of what you’re saying “long, slow strokes” but neither party is able to make that as pleasurable for the woman involved. Male anatomy (in general) can enjoy a wider variety of stimulation than female anatomy and slowing things down can be really great for both parties, but in my experience requires more work for the female party to enjoy it to the same extent. Again, just my experience, but long and slow can easily turn into a version of starfishing with an inexperienced partner.
- Comment on Anon has his way 5 weeks ago:
I’m very sex positive and my partners have been too, so I don’t really have this issue, but I think porn has really affected both heterosexual men and women’s perception of sex. You hear it from the female perspective a lot where men just start hitting or choking them during sex, but there’s a cultural undercurrent of the opposite experience where women will try and take a guys hand to her throat and apply pressure because for some reason asking to be choked is weird but that isn’t. Both men and women are seeing rough sex portrayed in porn and assuming that’s the sex everyone wants/is having. In reality, it’s dangerous to do breathplay with an inexperienced partner and that’s not something you just spring on them. I think sex is still a taboo subject and people need to get more comfortable speaking about it. I think the idea of enthusiastic consent and how it incorporates into foreplay is often the deciding factor in how an encounter goes, but often neither party knows how to engage in it.
- Comment on Why you should be polite to AI 1 month ago:
Regarding the post title, I didn’t mean to indicate it being your decision, just that the title in general feels misleading, seeing as no argument is presented and it purports to be about “why” you should do something.
I don’t really know a lot about the difference between instances, so I can’t really opine on that. From what I’m seeing, it does look as though people are having a discussion, they just don’t seem to agree with the idea as presented.
I’m not saying it has to be longer format. I’m saying no argument is made. She could have gave ai the same prompt but with a please and compared the results. I have done so below. She could have used the irrelevant middle section to just display screenshots.
It’s fine if you think people should be polite to ai. I think that’s great, but if you feel that way regardless of effect on response quality then this video doesn’t really make that point either. I think a post saying that and offering your personal opinions might’ve prompted more discussion on that topic rather than just disagreement with a video that doesn’t make that argument.
Here are two prompt comparisons. There is imho no difference in quality when saying please. The same results can be seen regardless of prompt length or how polite I was, I just chose short examples that could have been used in a video if they actually illustrated her point.
List five animals
Here are five animals:
- Lion
- Octopus
- Koala
- Penguin
- Jaguar
List five animals please
Here are five animals:
- Tiger
- Dolphin
- Raccoon
- Falcon
- Elephant
Create a limerick about being polite
There once was a person so fine, Whose manners were truly divine. They’d say “please” with a grin, And “thank you” within, And their politeness was truly sublime.
Create a limerick about being polite please
There once was a person so bright, Whose politeness was a delight. They’d hold doors with care, And listen with flair, And their kindness was always in sight.
- Comment on Fake job seekers are flooding U.S. companies that are hiring for remote positions, tech CEOs say 1 month ago:
What do you mean you don’t buy my argument? My argument that it is more detrimental to workers than owners? Then I’m not sure you understand capitalism, because money in workers pockets is inherently more impactful than money in a capitalists bank account. It’s a drop in the ocean for large corporations, but can be the difference between food or housing or healthcare to a worker. The company would be spending that money anyways, so it’s already accounted for. The nominal cost of recruitment is just going to come from a salary at the end of the day. All it does is serve to incentivize companies adding extra hoops to the hiring process and potentially screening out real people or causing extra stress/work to apply. This will not discourage workers from applying, since you know, the threat of capitalism still looms large and worker protections are low and are being dismantled day by day.
If you’re not coming from an anti capitalist place, then you’re right, I don’t get it.
- Comment on Fake job seekers are flooding U.S. companies that are hiring for remote positions, tech CEOs say 1 month ago:
I get where you’re coming from, but it’s pretty clear they are saying the fake applicants would not actually be doing the work. They are just taking the place of people actually out there looking for jobs and making the job search that much harder. Capitalists aren’t suffering from this as much as workers are suffering from it.
- Comment on Why you should be polite to AI 1 month ago:
I think the issue is the post title. If the title was “role-based prompt engineering” you probably wouldn’t have gotten as many comments and certainly not as many disagreeing. She says she’s going to make a case for using please, and then fails to provide any actual examples of that. Pointing that out isn’t sanctimonious, nor does it mean people are being rude to AI. If you want to make a moral argument for it go ahead, but it seems like she’s attempting to propose a technical argument and then just doesn’t. For what it’s worth, I generally try and leave out superfluous words from prompts, in the same way that googling full sentences was previously less likely to result in a good answer than just key words. AI is not human. It’s a tool. If being rude to it ensured it would stop hallucinating, I don’t think it’d make you a bad person if you were rude to it.
There’s a comment here talking about antisocial behavior in gaming, and imho, if you without hesitation kick a dog in a video game, I’m not sure I’d view you the same way after. Plenty of people talk about how they struggle to do evil play throughs because they don’t like using rude options for npcs. Not saying please to AI doesn’t make you a psychopath.
- Comment on Dropout’s Emmy Plans: ‘Very Important People’ Lands in Talk Series Category, ‘Game Changer’ Season 7 Not Eligible for This Year 1 month ago:
Totally agree.
- Comment on Dropout’s Emmy Plans: ‘Very Important People’ Lands in Talk Series Category, ‘Game Changer’ Season 7 Not Eligible for This Year 1 month ago:
Honestly, I don’t think so. I saw BDG (who I have been following for years) talk about being contacted for this. I think it was on the sad boyz podcast, and he was basically like are you sure you guys want me? And though he seemed like he enjoyed his experience and was happy with the outcome, I’m still kind of stuck on that stage. It really feels like recruitment was just a list of people that they liked and thought were funny and had nothing to do with their improv skills or how well this particular challenge went with their talents. I guess I tend to be in the minority of Dropout viewers in general though, because people also seem to like when Brennan plays with newbies, and I honestly do not find it that enjoyable. People talk about how it makes them feel better, or it’s more relatable or something, but if I wanted to listen to a bunch of random people with no background in improv who don’t know dungeons and dragons play Dungeons & Dragons, I’d just get my game group together. It feels like the whole thing has become more “let me hang out with my friends” then “let me make the absolute best show I can.” I am legitimately happy to see people I like get more work, but it really does not feel as though any thought was put into casting,and people are just going on these comedy shows that do not play into their comedic strengths. I don’t know if BDG was ever on smartypants, but I feel like back from watching him at polygon, that would be more up his ally instead of VIP.
- Comment on Dropout’s Emmy Plans: ‘Very Important People’ Lands in Talk Series Category, ‘Game Changer’ Season 7 Not Eligible for This Year 1 month ago:
Legitimately, thank you for your response. Sometimes it’s hard to distinguish normal people from stans that will just support whatever they do.
- Comment on Dropout’s Emmy Plans: ‘Very Important People’ Lands in Talk Series Category, ‘Game Changer’ Season 7 Not Eligible for This Year 1 month ago:
Are me and my friends the only one who have not enjoyed Very Important People? This and smarty parts are occasionally funny, but miss far more often than they hit. We have no idea why this has gotten any positive attention.
I’m not expecting to like everything they put out, but it feels like the show quality has gone downhill. I’m not upset about the price increase at all, but it feels like anytime I bring up my perception of the drop in quality, all I hear is people telling me to unsubscribe. I just have never met anyone irl that enjoys VIP and I feel like I’m taking crazy pills to see it’s been nominated for an Emmy. They have GREAT shows that absolutely deserve all the awards in the world, but I cannot believe VIP is one of them.
- Comment on Why you should be polite to AI 1 month ago:
She didn’t make that point at all. She starts with “not because of the robot apocalypse” meanders in the middle about ‘prompt engineering’ aka telling ai what manner you want it to respond in - Shakespearean, technical, encyclopedic - (yea, we know) then ends with “it’s better to be polite”. It’s clickbait. She literally does not address why saying please is important outside of the last sentence where she said it’s better to be polite. Saved you a click.
- Comment on Anon orders food 1 month ago:
I appreciate your take, but that’s not really the case. Women are open and receptive to compliments. Even from strangers, but the tone and context matter more since women have been socialized to fear unknown, especially aggressive men. Someone yelling their feelings about your body at you does not generally signal someone is a safe person. Here’s my response to the above comment: reddthat.com/comment/17768408
It has a link to women being politely catcalled and they seem ok with that. I know that I have personally received compliments from men that I was not interested in or with whom there was no real possibility of connection, and that’s been fine. Generally the problem is tone and context.
- Comment on Anon orders food 1 month ago:
Forgive me if I don’t think two comedians making a skit counts as a study. The camera is clearly visible and the women don’t seem to be credible at all and are clearly playing it for laughs. Often, catcalling happens to women who are alone and by men who could physically overpower them with no sense of it being funny or a joke. I mean, it’s kinda gross that they did this regardless, but I don’t really see it as a one to one. It’s hard to explain the feeling of concern that women are raised to have when it comes to being targeted by men, and it would be hard to put a man in a situation that mimicked that considering they have not been bombarded by stories of women stalking/raping/murdering men who they only saw in passing. Here’s women being “politely catcalled”: youtube.com/shorts/LNxf74FXyAs
Again, played for laughs with a visible camera and similar reactions from women as the men in your video.
The guys doing catcalling get upset when called out and admit they wouldn’t want it to happen to their family: youtu.be/jDoVckC6NhA
Do I think men don’t get as many compliments? Yes. But men can solve that themselves. Give each other compliments. youtube.com/shorts/aWLr03PJiuA
If these guys were catcalled by each other I have a feeling they wouldn’t like it.