dullbananas
@dullbananas@lemmy.ca
- Comment on Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation? 3 days ago:
Smells like lust. And an even sadder kind of desperation.
Did they plan on being open to kids?
- Comment on Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation? 3 days ago:
I’m curious, do you think of sex more as “like ice cream but better” or “like hugging but better”?
- Comment on Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation? 4 days ago:
Pomegranates
- Comment on Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation? 4 days ago:
Some of the listed things mean that Catholics might put more effort into finding someone, compared to secular dating. Also, people seem to see insanity in how Catholic dating connects to marriage, but I don’t know exactly how that’s perceived. I might not be familiar enough with other dating cultures to know what is relevant.
- Comment on Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation? 4 days ago:
I defined the first in another comment.
Incel-style pessimistic desperation: persistently sad because no girlfriend; horny; wants an easy short path to having girlfriend; making the other person happier is probably not part of why they start to want romance
- Comment on Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation? 4 days ago:
I didn’t limit to only what’s specific to Catholics. Also, I’ve heard that Mormons think it’s a big deal to still not be married at a certain age because it affect which level of Heaven you enter.
- Comment on Is Catholic dating culture often mistaken for incel-style pessimistic desperation? 4 days ago:
- marriage is awesome enough to warrant active effort in dating if one is called to marriage, but not at all costs
- standards can be good, even if it means staying single
- no shame or moral inferiority in being single, regardless of age
- marriage almost always should be with another catholic
- no premarital sex or cohabitation
- dating is for finding future spouse, but there’s not too much rush in determining whether or not someone is that future spouse
- relatively wide variety in how long a couple dates before deciding to marry
- normal to date in high school, but some people are against it, and some actively encourage it
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- Comment on How can we make lemmy have more relevance? 1 week ago:
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- Comment on How do I make a phone call to (not from) an elevator speaker, just like what a debt collector once did? 2 months ago:
REPENT
- Comment on How do I make a phone call to (not from) an elevator speaker, just like what a debt collector once did? 2 months ago:
Is there a risk in calling the speaker of an elevator that I’m currently inside of?
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- Comment on Has the USA turned into an oligarchy? 4 months ago:
The closest thing we have to democracy is our ability to begin democracy by fighting against first-past-the-post voting systems
- Submitted 5 months ago to mildlyinfuriating@lemmy.world | 8 comments
- Comment on Withdrawal is going to make people go mad 5 months ago:
Not something Daniel Suelo buys
- Comment on "incel" 6 months ago:
Linus Torvalds might have been a bad influence on you
- Comment on "incel" 6 months ago:
I’m not being sarcastic. I’m so used to toxic Lemmy users that I didn’t realize how surprising it is that typical feedback is much worse than yours. While I mostly disagree with your comment, it is unique because I don’t need more clarification of it.
- Comment on "incel" 6 months ago:
Good job, this is the most specific feedback for that post so far
- Comment on "incel" 6 months ago:
They did not say it respectfully. If this happened to someone else, then I would feel an obligation to take action. That comment is very opposite to my vision for the community.
- Comment on "incel" 6 months ago:
Also I suspect that some people assume that I feel hurt from being single. Some possible factors:
- For people who are less able to put a lot of energy into a non-urgent task, I think perceived urgency would be more likely to be the first explanation that comes to mind when reading about my experiences, because avoiding projection is complicated for all of us.
- It’s hard for me to precisely describe mindsets that I have had, so I have used vague descriptions, and that might leave room for various interpretations. A severe example is when I used the phrase “almost like a goal”.
- Comment on "incel" 7 months ago:
Context: lemmy.ca/post/28723489
“CIA glowie” = me
- Comment on "incel" 7 months ago:
Not exactly, but this is the closest thing: lemmy.ca/post/24989170/10377352?scrollToComments=…
- Submitted 7 months ago to mildlyinfuriating@lemmy.world | 16 comments
- Comment on Why did my bus driver want me to not pay the fare and instead just "TAKE A SEAT!!!" 7 months ago:
What advice do you have for me?
- Comment on Why did my bus driver want me to not pay the fare and instead just "TAKE A SEAT!!!" 7 months ago:
Real life is hilarious if you pay attention
- Comment on Why did my bus driver want me to not pay the fare and instead just "TAKE A SEAT!!!" 7 months ago:
I only read the rule that implies that. I did not pee my pants
- Submitted 7 months ago to [deleted] | 26 comments
