I dunno she pretty clearly said she’s annoyed which sounds like a description of how angry she is
I would also be confused
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gustofwind@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Dave@lemmy.nz 2 weeks ago
But how do I read these subtle hints, can’t she just tell me how she’s feeling?
gustofwind@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Apparently not because even when she does nobody understands
Saapas@piefed.zip 2 weeks ago
And when someone texts you that “I’m not mad.” it also means they definitely aren’t mad lol
obinice@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
People are capable of being annoyed by something but still make peace with their feelings and get on with their day.
Can some people not do this?
Not to mention that their partner is annoyed, but that doesn’t mean they suddenly don’t love them any more.
People weirdly paint each other as black and white, completely this or completely that, and don’t consider maturity and complexity. It’s odd.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
No, and this comment annoyed me.
Pick your weapon, we meet at dawn.
(/s in case a moderator can’t read cues)
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Its so easy to spot people who’ve been banned from reddit one too many times
Sc00ter@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Yes, there are people that can’t do that.
I know someone who received a phone call in the morning to ask if they were actually cool with their husband taking a trip across the country with him. Ruined her whole day. Couldnt go to work because she didnt want to cry in the office. She knew about the vacation and was fine with it. Still not entirely sure how that ruined her day, but it did.
Signtist@bookwyr.me 2 weeks ago
Usually when someone is contacting someone else while working on making peace with their feelings about that person’s behavior, it’s because they want to have a discussion with them about it. It’s unusual for it to be a one-and-done text without expectation of a response. But if a response is expected, it’s then unusual to follow up that text with another concerning a completely different topic. If I were in this situation, I’d find it hard to begin a discussion about her annoyance, which is valid and deserves to be explored, when the current topic is now a winery van.
Floodedwomb@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Don’t buy fabrics you can’t wash. Seems kinda dumb.
frog@feddit.uk 2 weeks ago
Duvets usiually have duvet covers. The chocolate probably either went through the cover or it’s a button up duvet cover and got in.
EvacuateSoul@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
The throw is what is unwashable. Dumb though, just wash it anyways or spot clean.
Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
People who eat in bed are just animals.
dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
I’ll eat on the toilet.
ivanafterall@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Italian sub, right? Or is that just a me thing?
CluckN@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Norovirus upvoted this.
Ach@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
My girlfriend got mad during sex the other day because she rolled over on her belly to change positions and CRUNCH potato chips I left in bed.
Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You are an animal if you eat crisps in bed.
Schal330@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Thinking about people eating toast in bed makes me feel uncomfortable given the potential for crumbs.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
I’m eating in bed rn, better than sharing space with smokers.
mech@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
My wife eats in bed. Our cats don’t.
sem@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
🎶🎵 So let’s do it like they do on the Discovery Channel!🎶🎵
Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I somwtimes eat in bed but if I do it’s stuff like hard candy or nuts or something like that. Basically things that don’t leave crumbs or anything behind.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
it entirely depends on what you eat, some things are very easy to keep contained, especially if you keep them on a plate.
Agent641@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Don’t eat chocolate in the bed you fuckin goblins!
Saapas@piefed.zip 2 weeks ago
Mode: Activated
mech@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
She was so mad about the chocolate, her mind immediately went to drinking.
myfunnyaccountname@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
That’s what I say too. Someone might have an issue.
Skullgrid@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Husband here.
Sometimes relationships end up with one “tidy one” and one “messy one”.
I busted my ass over the years to turn from a gremlin into a “tidy one”.
I got married to my “messy one”. She’s in charge of keeping the house clean.
I have to remind her not to eat in bed 🥲
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Ok. I’m going to help you out. I’ll take your messy wife, and I’ll also be messy with her. We’ll eat chocolate in bed. We’ll leave trash in the shower. And burp in the car.
And you can take my wife.
Also, I’m not married.
Jankatarch@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Oh god, I just understood what an electric current is.
tomi000@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
So let me get this straight. People complain when their gf gets mad over little things like chocolate in bed. They also complain when she doesnt. Wtf?
Wish my wife would tell me if something bothered her this calmly instead of bottling it up until she bursts and throws a tantrum. Im no better just to be clear.
mech@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
Ask her regularly if something is bothering her, or if there’s something you can do to make her day better.
Also, reflect on if there’s something you do that makes it hard for her to tell you her issues with you (body language, sighing, removing yourself, getting defensive…)
Maybe she just finds it hard to bother others with her problems, asking directly makes it easier.
And maybe you’re unconsciously communicating to her that she should leave you alone with her problems.
Anyway, the goal is to show her you’re by her side, tackling problems as a team. Not opposite her.GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Ask her regularly if something is bothering her
yeah…that’s a one way road to hell.
halfeatenpotato@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
…y’all should work on that.
Saapas@piefed.zip 2 weeks ago
I think the person is just confused because the first thing sounds like she could be angry about it but the second message sounds cheery
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
it’s kind of amazing how many people complain about the reciever, when it should be quite obvious this is what’s happening.
s@piefed.world 2 weeks ago
My brain mixed up duvet with bidet at first
Kolanaki@pawb.social 2 weeks ago
“Chocolate on the bidet? That ain’t chocolate. That’s doodoo, baby!”
GreenBeanMachine@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
She never even said she’s mad.
Annoyed < mad
Xenny@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
When did she say she was mad??
randint@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 2 weeks ago
Well sometimes some people don’t say directly that their mad but say things like “I’m annoyed”
architect@thelemmy.club 2 weeks ago
She’s annoyed but not mad. She wants to be acknowledged but not fight. It’s not a big deal if you say I’m so sorry about that and move on.
Bonus points if you buy a new throw.
AgentOrangesicle@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
She set clear expectations, so the communication is there. I would set down a plastic mat next time before eating a chocolate bar on the bed.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
it’s assumed that a woman is always mad at their male partner.
WraithGear@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
by the time someone tells you directly they are annoyed by something you have done, it’s gone past the “ i don’t like it but i’m going to just deal with it” stage.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
There is wine all over the van, lets not do a group winery day again.
Tikiporch@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Also - it would be fun to ride one of those Pedal Pubs.
AntiBullyRanger@ani.social 2 weeks ago
I read that as she’s annoyed at something both tried out that shouldn’t be done ever again, and as forgiveness of the annoyance, the boyfriend can rent the van for the group winery as an apology.
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I mean…that sounds like a win/win/win honestly. Your wife gets drunk, she’s happy, AND she forgives you instead of fighting?
Deal.
AntiBullyRanger@ani.social 2 weeks ago
She typed “annoyed,” not “mad, angry, frustrated, pissed” etc…
I am not sure Jared’s gf diction is. I am particular on how I word things. If it was my bed sheets, yeah, it’s something I could see myself forgiving a partner for. It’s just bed sheets, we can pick others, or repaint.
But if I loved you more than a stupid stain, sure let’s get drunk, you pay.
scrion@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I’m 100% sure I can wash that throw.
MBM@lemmings.world 2 weeks ago
I genuinely don’t see how this is confusing
Retro_unlimited@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Maybe he ate the chocolate off of her body, so that’s why she is not mad, just annoyed it made a mess.
ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Coffee cup meme.
bluegreenpurplepink@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
She’s a keeper. You’re lucky. She’s letting you know what irritates her, and how to avoid aggravating her again and also providing a way to make it up to her. This is the way to a harmonious life.
2piradians@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Or she came up with a goal–and an annoyance to help drive it.
udon@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
this is the fucked up comment
udon@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
this is the correct comment
Typotyper@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
See I missed that…I’m also divorced
M137@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
He isn’t a keeper though, how the fuck do you eat chocolate in a way where it gets all over where you’re eating it? I’ve had chocolate and just about any other food while in bed and black out drunk and never gotten any stains on the bedclothes.