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TIL it’s manly to smell like an onion that just worked out
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Submitted 2 days ago by niycyan@lemmy.world to mildlyinfuriating@lemmy.world
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fallowseed@lemmy.world 2 days ago
he’ll change his mind if a girl he likes tells him he stinks… is it the ‘because’ he offers that upsets you or the smell he gives off?
niycyan@lemmy.world 2 days ago
[deleted]Stern@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Next step down the line is friend group. If the homeys all say he smells like ass he’ll likely fall in line: The power of peer pressure. Of course if they also have fallen for whatever dudebro podcast dipshit logic kiddo has fallen for, then your next step is respected adult- Preacher/Teacher/Whatever other Male Role Model. It’s important that the respected adult be male since kiddo thinks its a manliness thing.
You could also have the conversation of what kiddo thinks manliness actually entails and who embodies it, because that will likely also tell you a lot of things. If he’s idolizing Andrew Tate, for example, then hoo boy, you’re in for a time.
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 2 days ago
he’ll change his mind if a girl he likes tells him he stinks…
Maybe. Or maybe he’ll get incredibly offended, go into a snit, and start posting incel-tier “Women are trying to steal our manly essenses” memes on 4chan for a few weeks.
fallowseed@lemmy.world 2 days ago
yep, takes all kinds.
BertramDitore@lemm.ee 2 days ago
Most BO comes from the bacteria that grows on the armpit hair after sweating, so while he’d probably have issues with the “manliness” of this suggestion, if he just shaves his armpit hair it’ll take a bit longer for the BO to develop. As long as he’s showering regularly, that is…
But it’d probably be better to just tell him that cleanliness and showing that you have personal hygiene (by washing regularly and using deodorant) is most definitely manly. Having BO doesn’t make him manly, cause I’ve got news for him: women have BO too.
niycyan@lemmy.world 2 days ago
[deleted]partial_accumen@lemmy.world 2 days ago
When he joins the working world, does he think his employer will put up with his BO? Ask him how he plans to stay “manly” when he’s unemployed.
PunnyName@lemmy.world 2 days ago
That’s not gonna change. I’m like that, and at 43, it’s still an issue. Grooming and cleanliness are just good habits to build.
RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Ah, shaving your armpits, another hallmark of classic manliness.
maniel@sopuli.xyz 2 days ago
Yeah, but shaving your armpits it’s hay AF
Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 2 days ago
What is manlier than scraping 1-7 blades across your skin?
Jean_le_Flambeur@discuss.tchncs.de 2 days ago
Whats up with you guys? I’d rather have a fresh out of the gym teenager next to me in the bus then an Justus who smells like an axe factory.
How normal body odor is a tabu in some cultures where and deo ads which tell you its bothersome if you smell normal is still a thing in 2025 really grinds my gears
Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 2 days ago
Ah, yes, another person who goes through life smelling like ass and foisting their stench on the rest of us.
5ibelius9insterberg@feddit.org 2 days ago
Are you aware, that there is a difference between fresh sweat with clean clothes on and fresh sweat „warming up“ old sweat in clothes you wore the whole day? Also being smelly depends a lot on the climate you live in, how thoroughly you dry your clothes, what fabrics you are wearing, how many layers you‘re wearing, how often you wash yourself and change your chlothes.
It’s (as always) not that simple.
Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 2 days ago
You do know there are many odorless deodorants. Deodorant literally means it removes the smell.
cm0002@lemmy.world 2 days ago
where deo ads which tell you its bothersome if you smell normal is still a thing in 2025
I live in an ad-free bubble where I’m able to block 98% of all ads on my devices, I haven’t seen a deodorant ad in many years.
I don’t need an ad to tell me BO stinks and it sucks smelling it when you work in an office
I’m sure you’ll say/think something like “Nobody around me tells me I stink though, they’re fine with it because they know it’s natural” no they’re not fine with it, they just don’t want to deal with the awkward situation of telling a (presumed) adult to put on some damn deodorant.
Put on deodorant
NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 2 days ago
It is bothersome when people smell.
HikingVet@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
Bad body odour is a sign of bad hygiene. Bad hygiene leads to worse health.
mexicancartel@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
And you cover up bad odour with deodrant or be hygiene yourself. Idk most people in my culture don’t do deodrant unless going to a marriage function or so
Potatisen@lemmy.world 2 days ago
You’re wrong on this one.
i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago
What are your thoughts on non-scented antiperspirants?
Albbi@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
I got a heat rash from using an antiperspirant on an extremely hot day. I got so angry I threw out the antiperspirant and go with just deodorant, but I miss the dry feeling antiperspirants give.
RedditWanderer@lemmy.world 2 days ago
That’s not what taboo means.
It’s not taboo, it’s unpleasant to smell. (Ignoring that it’s gross).
TheFogan@programming.dev 2 days ago
Well I mean it’s a combination of issues… IE yes drown yourself in overwhelming strong scents to attempt to cover up your stink (or simply because on it’s own you think it’s attractive, and the commercials said putting it on will send girls into attack mode).
Subtle deodorant is certainly better than natural BO (especially depending on hygine, and just some general body types etc…
wise_pancake@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
Tell him deodorant doesn’t block sweat but anti-perspirant does. There’s a big difference.
Deodorant kills/lessens the odour causing bacteria, so if he’s worried about pheromones or some junk he read/heard online he’ll be fine with deodorant.
Also maybe mention worrying about whether things are manly or not is not particularly manly, but I too went through a phase of trying to figure out what that meant for me.
Probably the most cringe was my teenage attempts to grow a moustache and beard. It did not turn out well. I got an intervention by my boss handing me a razor, escorting me to the washroom, and telling me not to start my shift until I’d shaved.
PunnyName@lemmy.world 2 days ago
This l. Deodorant just “covers” the smell. Antiperspirant helps reduce sweatin and, in turn, reducing BO.
YMMV
southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Here’s the trick to that.
It’s their body, so they have a say in things. Ideally, anything that’s about their body would be their choice, but some stuff just isn’t realistic, like medical decisions as one example.
However, they’re also going to deal with the fallout of such decisions.
A lot of kids, not just boys, go through a phase where they reject the seemingly arbitrary enforcement of hygiene standards.
So, when they make an adult decision, they can deal with adult consequences.
You aren’t required to sit in a car with someone that smells unpleasant. Nor at a dinner table, or on the couch.
Now, if them not using a given product doesn’t cause them to smell bad, there’s zero harm in it, so a parent would be a dick for trying to enforce an unnecessary thing, even by that method. If you’re trying to enforce pointless things, you’re fighting the wrong fight. Believe it or not, deodorants and antiperspirants aren’t the only way to keep oneself from smelling bad, and not using them doesn’t always result in an unpleasant smell. There’s a lot to be said for just bathing daily and giving the pits and crotch a scrub when you’re in the bathroom for other things
However, if they aren’t willing to do what it takes to not stank, remind them that adult choices have different consequences, and that you aren’t obligated to take them places, let them use your vehicle, sit around the dinner table with everyone else, snuggle on the couch for movies, or even sit on the couch at all. You can also enforce that they clean their private spaces (bedroom or other spots that they have where they have an expectation of privacy) more often so that those places don’t start to smell bad either
A stanky adult is quickly going to discover that people don’t want them around when they stank. Might take a while for friends and family to start objecting seriously, but out in the world, it can happen fast.
But respect body autonomy while doing so. It really, truly is something that they need to have. And it’s important to teach them that they should be able to expect body autonomy, even when there are consequences to some of the choices made.
It works. I’ve seen it work dozens of times, because I come from a big extended family that used to spend a lot of time together. Every generation of kids, there’s going to be a handful of them that express their body autonomy like this. Maybe it’s not bathing, maybe it’s deodorant, or hair washing, or a clothing issue. Staying gentle, but not backing down about it, you both keep their trust, and show them that every choice has consequences, even if tiny ones.
My personal phase, it was very effective. My grandmother, if I was smelling rough, would tell me to go wash up as soon as I walked in the door. After the first few times, it was “you know where the washcloths are.” If I didn’t wash, I could bloody well sit outside if the weather was safe. My mom and dad enforced similar boundaries.
Took maybe a couple of days before I got the point, and a couple of weeks before my stubborn ass decided they had a good point, and improved my routine.
Will it absolutely work for everyone, every time? Of course not. But it’s a gentle way that helps foster a sense of self control, of having a say in their life, as they’re needing to explore who they are the most. The key though, is gentle but firm.
You don’t say “you stink, go away” or some shit. You say “washing up is mandatory if you want to sit with the rest of us.” You make it a choice, if a limited one. Give them as many options as possible, too. If they’re objecting to deodorant in specific, maybe offer washing up, or changing clothes if the smell is more from that.
In other words make it about the actual problem rather than them. It isn’t that they’re bad or dumb, or anything else like that. It’s that personal hygiene is important for skin health, and social interactions. They don’t necessarily have to shower to be clean. They don’t have to use deodorant to not smell bad, or to smell good. So present them with alternatives after figuring out why they don’t want that specific method
Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 2 days ago
What exactly is not manly about deodorant?
NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Fellas, is it gay to smell fresh?
RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Is being gay not masculine?
Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Yeah it is not. I love smelling nice.
0ndead@infosec.pub 2 days ago
It’s fresh to smell gay
terminhell@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Vikings were successful with other countries women cuz they did basic hygiene. Shaved, washed, some hair stuff. They ‘conquered’ just from cleanliness. If Vikings aren’t manly enough idk what this kid is on about lol.
wischi@programming.dev 2 days ago
successful with other countries women
Didn’t they kidnap and rape them?
argarath@lemmy.world 2 days ago
With the way historians kept interpreting blatant homosexual relationships through history as just “great friendships” I don’t trust generalizations in any direction. One could def claim that the woman were being kidnapped because no woman would choose to leave all the manly man they knew at home, no no. But it could also have legitimately happened, that many/most were kidnapped and raped, but we might never know for sure. Hell, most of the things we know from the vikings has already been altered way back then by christians rewriting their legends and stories, there’s so much reinterpretation and biases behind written stories about ancient civilizations it’s almost impossible to conclusively say anything about people
Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Teenagers are making that tough transition into adulthood. Unless he absolutely reeks I say let em figure things out. They’re exploring new ideas, and if they’re to be an adult they should be able to make their own decisions (within reason).
madame_gaymes@programming.dev 2 days ago
I mean, most deodorants have heavy metals and aspartame in them. He’s 50% correct in this decision.
Now he just needs to gain some empathy for others and start using something like a Mineral Deodorant Block
They’re cheaper, last 50x as long as normal deodorant sticks, and only need to be applied once generally, even if you sweat during the day.
thezeesystem@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago
(this is satire) have they tried the drug estrogen, been taking it for 10+ years, it really helps!
Oisteink@feddit.nl 2 days ago
(This is satire) If thats your idea of satire, it reads more like a tired hormone ad than a clever jab. time for a prescription refill of real wit.
Cruxifux@feddit.nl 2 days ago
Get him to watch the hilarious old spice commercials that were on when I was a kid. Worked for me. That shit is hilariously hyper masculine and funny as fuck.
PP_BOY_@lemmy.world 2 days ago
PP_BOY_@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I know I’m being pedantic but tbh all you really need is antiperspirant and some kind of perfume/regular laundering. Most deodorant, as in, the white sticks you rub under your armpits, is pretty awful
yoreel@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
Antiperspirant is the awful stuff. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy that the aluminum blocks the sweat, so it can’t get out like normal, so if you forget to put it on after using it for even a short time, you smell way worse than you would otherwise. What I find a shame is that we’ve been marketed and convinced that humans should not smell like humans. Yet, here we are, body shaming people because of something natural.
PP_BOY_@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Agreed that it’s a shame that normal (read: not excessive) body odor is seen as the worst thing in the world ever. Hormonal BO, like the stuff mentioned in the OP, should probably be addressed, but yeah for the most part I sympathize.
Disagree that antiperspirant is worse than stick deodorant though. Elaborated on that in another reply
BassTurd@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Doderant is just a perfume. Antiperspirant + deodorant has aluminum that is bad for you. I use the latter because I prefer the effect while knowing it’s not good for me, but my best friend uses just deodorant for the same reason.
PP_BOY_@lemmy.world 2 days ago
“Aluminium is bad for you” has never been proven true for the general public and the association with breast cancer has been disproven for years.
On “deodorant is just perfume”, I should’ve been more descriptive. I mean [spray, liquid] perfume is better than white stick deodorant, which clumps together, forms a wax on your skin (increases perspiration) and stains clothes. And is expensive for the quality of fragrance you get.
I use CertainDri unscented antiperspirant under my arms and a Green Irish Twead knockoff every day and sweat less and smell better than anything that stick deodorant could offer.
RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
That depends on many factors. My Korean ex-boyfriend could get away with deodorant as he didn’t really ever stink. I however need antiperspirant.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 days ago
Does axe still have those slutty commercials? Show him a bunch of those. Until he’s convinced women will find him irresistible for wearing it. Sure it’s not ideal but it’s better than smelling like BO.
shaggyb@lemmy.world 2 days ago
What a beta
oyfrog@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I’m genuinely curious what that means. What does it mean to “be manly”? Is it bad to not “be manly”? Along a similar vein, what is the opposite of “being manly”? Who defined the qualities that make a person “manly” (and what authority do they have on the subject)?
JoMiran@lemmy.ml 2 days ago
Being a stinky dipshit that looks like a yeti is the least manly thing he could do.
Source: I am a man.
shalafi@lemmy.world 2 days ago
A “self-solving problem” could be described as a “self-correcting issue,” “inherently resolving problem,” “naturally resolving situation,” or “auto-remediating issue,” depending on the context, as it implies a problem that has a built-in mechanism to fix itself without external intervention.
I’d only concern yourself with where he’s getting his idea of “manly”. I never questioned my macho, and I’m quite feminine in ways. Maybe it’s just adolescent insecurity?
stinerman@midwest.social 2 days ago
Not sure if you’re asking for advice, but if appeals to reason doesn’t work “I’m your fucking parent and you’re going to do it or you’re grounded until you do” should work nicely.
0x0@programming.dev 2 days ago
I’d get the aluminium argument…
bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 2 days ago
mp3@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
Smelly armpits is unmanly and uncivilized.
He can go live in a cave away from civilization if that makes him feel manly.
pineapplelover@lemm.ee 2 days ago
I actually don’t wear deodorant. I don’t actually sweat that much
ObsidianZed@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Reminds me of that Gabriel Iglesias bit about his son not wearing deodorant.
deadcatbounce@reddthat.com 2 days ago
Turns out we’ve moved on from not realising that deodorant was required in the first place.
ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml 2 days ago
Does he think you’re supposed to apply it using another man’s penis?
RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
That would not make it less manly. Male homosexuality might be the most masculine thing in existence.
Adderbox76@lemmy.ca 2 days ago
Found the Spartan warrior.
Dagwood222@lemm.ee 2 days ago
So, bitchiness isn’t femininity?
jk
neidu3@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Well, the deodorant sticks look a little phallic
joyjoy@lemm.ee 2 days ago
The label clearly states to apply to underarms only.
SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 2 days ago
So I stick his dick in my underarms?
NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Don’t threaten us with a good time