shalafi
@shalafi@lemmy.world
- Comment on Can mental health medication change nature of dreams? 5 hours ago:
Hell, even the anti-nicotine drug (Chantix) have me wild dreams. It was like having a nightmare but not being scared, like I was watching a horror movie. Looked forward to going to sleep. Free movie!
- Comment on Why everyone is quitting social media 5 hours ago:
Good example is the antivax bullshit. That would never have spread when I was young. People would, rightly, treat you like an idiot. They would have had no audience.
- Comment on Why everyone is quitting social media 6 hours ago:
I’m too afraid to put my politics on FB. That’s prime real estate for AI to look into. I’m a loud mouth around here because I doubt the administration will ever have the resources to look at little old us.
- Comment on Why everyone is quitting social media 6 hours ago:
Are there bots on lemmy? Not that I’ve noticed and these nerds would surely sniff them out and scream. I think we’re too small, flying under the radar.
If you were deploying bots, for whatever reason, wouldn’t you concentrate on the largest user bases? We’re nothing.
- Comment on it's true! 6 hours ago:
Sounds like I need to study on the different types of clover.
- Comment on wish 8 hours ago:
Just about anywhere in America is an improvement on the Philippines. My wife’s from there and all her friends married white American guys. They have all told me the same thing; The poverty is staggering.
My wife doesn’t say anything about it, but I gather she grew up solidly middle class. I don’t think she has a clue how the poors live.
- Comment on You might be proud but she is disgusted 9 hours ago:
Huh. I’ve only been asked once. Figured it was a bit strange, gladly sent it anyway, not insecure on that issue.
Maybe it’s an age thing? I’m GenX and nearly ever lover I’ve had is as well.
- Comment on You might be proud but she is disgusted 9 hours ago:
Had dozens of lovers and only one actually asked for a dick pic. Weird, but I sent it. Got laid anyway!
- Comment on When did Cash for Chritianity become a thing? When even Jesus the son of god wouldn't stand for it in a church? If they preach why don't they practice from the bible? 11 hours ago:
I’d add sex in there. Seriously.
- Comment on Best stay away from that guy 1 day ago:
LOL, dating isn’t hard for guys. You think guys have it rough, you should hear it from the girl’s point of view. Jesus fucking Christ. These women must be horny as hell to even keep trying with some y’all. I should start a “dating tips for guys” comm.
For background; I’m 5’8", 140lbs. soaking wet, been broke most of my life (am now), no real prospects, no fancy cars, nothing. I take care of my health and hygiene, mostly, dress well (nice clothes are stupid cheap, nearly free and comfortable) and have a decent attitude towards the opposite sex. I drink loads of light beer every day, but I’m not dancing on tables or angry drunk, ever.
Look in the mirror and ask yourself why a woman might want you. You know you got flaws. What can you fix? Start fixing those things. Baby steps. Can you polish up your teeth? Lose some fat or gain some tone? Better haircut? Dress nicer? Got any interesting hobbies? And your interests don’t have to be attractive. Having a passion is interesting in itself.
What can you do? You know damned well you can do better. I’ve met very few humans I considered “maxed out” on attractiveness stats. (OK, strippers are kinda cheating, they know what they’re doing.)
And keep in mind, no one out there is judging you harder than yourself. Posted this a while back. Read it for yourself. Point being, I inadvertently saw myself from the outside, and I was surprised.
I’ll give you a pro-tip; A great first date question is, “Tell me about a fucked up first date.” Listen, learn, don’t be that guy. Some of these women had me laughing out loud. SERIOUSLY?! And have a good story of your own! You know you got one.
OK, one more; Join these dating sites as a woman looking for a man. Read the men’s sad-sack profiles, look at their pictures, and don’t be that guy. Dead animals and fancy motor vehicles ain’t gonna turn anyone on. And FFS, stop with the, “I’m a really nice guy and just want to find true love.” No. Yeah, they want love too, but they’re not interested in being your mother.
Tried that on PoF before I met my second wife. Jesus y’all, I felt awful for my gender. I really mean that. I was actually sad, really felt for those guys. But I didn’t want to fuck them. Can’t imagine how turned off the women must be, but they got stories.
- Comment on Best stay away from that guy 1 day ago:
I’m 5’8" and I’ve knocked it out the park with women. Weirdly, maybe did better when I was young and totally broke.
- Comment on Girls 1 day ago:
Always wondered if women were naturally not as good at math as men or if it’s a social construct. Easier to believe the social construct thing, but there are differences in how we think. Hell, there are differences in our very vision. But math? Dunno.
What’s the latest science on this? Anyone? (And yes, I too can find articles supporting any view I choose. Got any solid science?)
- Comment on Mid Career Marine Biology 1 day ago:
Know what they call an assassin that graduated last in his class? “Assassin”
- Comment on it's true! 1 day ago:
I was taught as child to hate and fight dandelions. Learned in college that “weeds” like that pull nutrients up from deep in the soil. When they die and rot, those deep roots turn into channels for water.
In the same sense that nothing attracts a crowd like a crowd, a little bit of killing goes a long way towards making a desert.
- Comment on it's true! 1 day ago:
There was a little old black lady in Tulsa many years ago whose entire front yard was a mix of native plants and garden. It was very nice and organized, nothing tacky at all. City rolled up and razed it flat. She was crying on TV, I was some mix of enraged and crying.
One winter I lost every plant I owned, and that loss kept me away from houseplants for over a decade. I cannot imagine her pain.
Anyway, where I’m at now I’m basically free to treat our house like white trash. No one can say jack about how I’m keeping it and I’ve shared some ecosystem success stories in this thread.
- Comment on it's true! 1 day ago:
My father, and mother after he died, spent 40 fucking years raking the leaves from under the shrubs and throwing them away. Our house was surrounded by lush bushes, entire house, entire back yard. Took little me and dad 4 hard hours to trim all that.
Got back from taking botany related classes in college. Tried to explain that bagging the lawn clippings and raking the leaves would kill everything. She wouldn’t hear it.
Anyway, dad’s dead, mom’s dead, entire fucking yard is dead. Lost it all but some barely hagin’ in there grass. It’s a fucking desert.
Old lady on the corner religiously rakes and burns her leaves, goes after it like it’s her fucking job. We got a max of 2" of topsoil in NW Florida, max. Her entire lot is nearly all sand.
- Comment on it's true! 1 day ago:
Mine yard is about the same, I’d guess 75% native, wild as hell, can’t walk in a lot of that.
What surprises me is how fast the insects and animals came back. I’m nowhere near the insect population of 4 years back, can’t fix that by myself, but it’s way better.
- Comment on it's true! 1 day ago:
if the other land-owners around don’t do it as well
My fight with fire ants in the South. Insect populations have tanked over the last 4 years, but the fire ants are on the rampage in the surrounding forest. I poison my neighbor’s yards, it’s still a non-stop fight.
For any Southerner’s coming along; I don’t use any insecticides or herbicides except hydramethylnon. Yeah, it costs more, but a little dab’ll do ya. Amdro is a popular brand name, not sure who else uses it.
- Comment on it's true! 1 day ago:
They can breed in a few cups of water. Try what I did this year at our camp in the swamp. Purposefully set stagnant water traps, buckets or whatever. Get Mosquito Dunk. Another user here turned me onto that. Its bacteria that kill the larvae.
This was my first year, but it seemed to work. Hard to say because it’s a swamp with loads of neighbor trash and stagnant pools, but the actual camp seemed better. Didn’t hear a single blood sucker today. I know, it’s October, but it’s still in the high 80s down here.
- Comment on it's true! 1 day ago:
I’ve got loads of stale water in 4 ponds from 150G down to 20G. I let those go wild and they filled with tadpoles eating the mosquito larvae and the water attracts dragonflies, the deadliest hunters on Earth. Part I didn’t expect, they went “natural” in 2 weeks! I think much of that was throwing native water plants with their mud balls I dug out.
For water you can’t control like that, say a birdbath, a lemming turned me onto Mosquito Dunk. Take a 1/4 piece and throw it in. Makes bacteria that kills the larvae. I set buckets of swamp water around my camp for traps, hit them and the 2 birdbaths with dunk once a month. Seemed to work, but I need to try again next year.
- Comment on it's true! 1 day ago:
Totally different ecosystem here in NW Florida, but I am also getting great results. 75% of the yard hasn’t seen a lawn mower in 2 years, the 25% that has is still fairly wild. Lots of wild plants, lots of non-native but compatible plants, plenty of surface water. We planted a few “ponds”, 150G and smaller. Thought they would take a year or two to take off. NOPE. The 150G I buried last spring was teeming with life in 2 weeks. Maybe I cheated by throwing water plants, from the river and creek in there, along with their native mud. :)
We’re the only house in the hood with; frogs (deafening last spring), hummingbirds, pollinators of all sorts (forgot to make a bee hotel this year), dragonflies (hope to have shitloads when the adults come after 2-years underwater), fewer mosquitoes, butterflies, can’t remember what all.
The insect population is worse than it was 4 short years ago, drastically worse. That scares me more than anything I’ve seen. Even in the hundreds of acres surrounding the hood, not much, not like it was. Hoping I can turn things around in my tiny part of the world.
- Comment on it's true! 1 day ago:
Right with ya, what I’m doing now. We have a tiny house on an 80’x200’ lot and the back 30’ was already left wild. LOL, now the whole backyard is an impassable mess. :)
I’m thinking clover next year if I can afford it. My 70s elementary playground was mostly clover and we beat the shit out of it, 3 times a day. (For you younger folks, “recess” was a time in the morning, at lunch and afternoon when we ran outside and did whatever the fuck we wanted.)
Ironically, they used to adulterate grass seed to clover to make it cheaper. Now we gotta pay a monstrous premium for clover seed. Go figure.
- Comment on Phones may come without bundled USB cables in the future, if OEMs have their way 1 day ago:
Had a guy on eBay wanting me to overnight a long outdated Fast Ethernet (10/100) switch because theirs had died. I was too late to get the message and lost the sale. Wrote him back saying any switch would work. NOPE. Had to be replaced with the exact model.
- Comment on What possible evolutionary advantage is offered by my ears suddenly sprouting tons of hair? 1 day ago:
Gah! Everyone keeps saying this. One more time and I’ll leave it alone; men seek mates and can make babies their entire lives.
- Comment on What possible evolutionary advantage is offered by my ears suddenly sprouting tons of hair? 1 day ago:
Was just commenting, men are fertile their entire lives, and our sex drive goes full blast the whole time. I know a guy who had a son at 61.
- Comment on What possible evolutionary advantage is offered by my ears suddenly sprouting tons of hair? 1 day ago:
I’m assuming OP’s a man as I don’t know any women this has happened to. Men can make babies their whole life, not like women who go through menopause. I know a guy that’s 70, his wife is 30 and their son is 9.
All that to say, it’s still a little odd this unattractive trait strikes men who can, and often are, looking for mates and making babies.
- Comment on Which one and why? 1 day ago:
As a bonus, I’m pretty sure #1 is tarnished Sterling silver.
- Comment on Which one and why? 1 day ago:
#1 looks like tarnished silver. That’s clean up easy.
- Comment on I Quit 1 day ago:
I’ve always said the rich have to be somewhat intelligent to hang onto the money. Worked for a fairly rich family and scammers and salesmen were constantly after them.
- Comment on If you lose your memories, are "you" dead? If a close relative/friend lose their memories, are they still "your relative/friend"? What the hell even is memory? How sentimental are you about memories? 2 days ago:
Same age, and no, I don’t recognize old pics of me.