shalafi
@shalafi@lemmy.world
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 7 hours ago:
“they are racked with insecurity or anxiety”
That would explain much of what I see on social media. Are you saying they don’t know their place in society and that’s stressful?
- Comment on Wife's broken. Where do I get a trade in?! 7 hours ago:
No one knows who she is or ever will. As for myself, I’d laugh were the roles reversed.
- Comment on "So It's Basically Skateboarding But With Your Fingers Mr President" 15 hours ago:
Oh! OK, that’s pretty damned funny now.
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 15 hours ago:
I’m a bit torn. He might have lost a great thing, but she came out the gate lying. It wasn’t a “big” lie, as-in a lie that would turn out to hurt him, but still…
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 15 hours ago:
At that age and a little latter, I dated girls 8-10 years my junior. That was perfectly normal with Gen X. The age gap doesn’t concern me, the lie concerns me very much.
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 15 hours ago:
In the 90s no one would have so much as blinked at that difference. Times sure have changed for the pruder.
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 15 hours ago:
I would barely be able to discern the difference in your ages, let alone think that a 7-year age gap is worthy of note. I honestly think they were staring for some other reason and/or your perceptions were off. Unless you look like you’re 45? :)
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 15 hours ago:
Oh no my friend, 18 is the age of majority, with almost all the rights of an adult. You’re talking about the age of consent. In the US, only 10 states peg that at 18, the rest are 16 & 17. And for anyone that finds that particular fact icky, do not for the love of god look at an EU map!
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 15 hours ago:
Hell, I get annoyed when people call teens, particularly latter teens, “children”. They’re not. We even have a word for that weird in-between stage, “adolescent”. “Child” is insulting. My kids are 11 and 13 and the gap in their behavior is spreading wider by the minute. Daughter’s very much a child around her brother, but around my wife and I, she’s suddenly a changed person.
LOL, even though I know exactly what’s happening, it’s still weird talking to her about sex and social dynamics. Fortunately I’m almost certain she’s a lesbian so won’t have to put up with asshole boys and men. Whew!
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 15 hours ago:
I hung out with the neighbor kid and his friends starting when they were 17 or so and I was 49. Very shortly after they turned out to be wiser than I suspected, able to argue fine points about religion and politics, things I had assumed they’d be clueless about, or more likely parrot their parents.
They weren’t vulnerable with me! Maybe because I taught them not to be? But they didn’t automatically believe anything out my mouth and would be quick to push back if something I said struck them wrong. Often I was the wrong one! (I understand this is a very different dynamic than in a workplace.) Even if I tried to manipulate them, I bet they would have smiled and later talked among themselves, “See that shit Shalafi was trying to pull about $X?!”
Perhaps they were unusual? I suspect so, but of them and their “peripheral” friends I saw now and again, about half their cohort seemed just like them. Anyway, two are 23 now and counted among my handful of friends.
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 16 hours ago:
I seriously considered dating a pretty 26-yo when I was 52. She really seemed to like me, but the 3 very young children just put me off. At my age most women, if they could and wanted to, had had kids, but 3 tiny ones? Gah! Couldn’t do it, met my 52-yo wife shortly after.
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 16 hours ago:
I’m way smarter than my wife, but she has a stunning EQ. It balances out nicely.
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 16 hours ago:
“I was twenty-five, a man in those days, master of a large plantation…”
(Which is both from W.E.B. Du Bois’ The Comet and the movie Interview With the Vampire. Did not know the former!)
Online discussion and arguments led me to believe there’s a significant difference in how fast Gen X grew up vs. Zoomers today, and later research confirmed it. We’re growing up slower, which is a sign of a society healthy enough to support that. Kinda odd to me though.
At 16 I was having sex, driving a car and working a bag boy job. Very few of us had cars, but I don’t know of any peers who didn’t have a license at 16, and almost every one of us passed first try. Losing one’s virginity and working a job at 16 wasn’t unusual one way or the other. Girl that snuck over and took my virginity was 14.
People today are not hitting those milestones until their early 20s.
- Comment on Anon's friend gets exposed 16 hours ago:
Went to my wife’s friend’s (Filipina) bd party last year; she was turning 30. Yay! Got to talking to an old guy who turned out to be super cool. Yay! That was her husband and he was about to turn 70. (Lots of turning in this story - what an odd turn.)
- Comment on Wife's broken. Where do I get a trade in?! 1 day ago:
After some research it appears to be a hooman thing. 🤷🏼♂️
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- Comment on Frog meme 1 day ago:
I didn’t feel like a grown man until somewhere around 30. Now I look at the kid with another 25-years under my belt and boy was he a dweeb.
- Comment on Frog meme 1 day ago:
I did that for 6-months, but without the rich wife. We had enough money, and it was fun at first, but I got real depressed. I have to go out in the world and do shit it seems.
- Comment on My possibly degenerating brain and typing comments: Does font make a difference? Can I change this site's font? 1 day ago:
I’m on a KB, PC and 40" TV. There’s no excuse for some of these errors.
- Comment on What is behind the current Lemmy meme about 4 being a private key? 1 day ago:
It’s about compliance, not security.
- Comment on Welcome to my first podcast episode! 1 day ago:
If someone brought a friend to our camp to shoot and they came with Punisher shit on their guns or gear, or god-for-fucking bid, Spartan shit, I wouldn’t take my eyes off them for a second. Something about it screams, “My gun is an accessory, not a weapon.”
- Comment on Remember to vote! Have you already? We did. 1 day ago:
I agree Americans are too loud, but Canadian elections aren’t going to have the world influence of big American elections. Look at what’s at stake in two weeks: Control of the House and Senate and a chance to reign Trump in, end the Iran war, and shitloads more. Ask the Filipinos how they feel about that. Nothing Canada can do could fuck up the planet and world politics as thoroughly as we have.
- Comment on My possibly degenerating brain and typing comments: Does font make a difference? Can I change this site's font? 1 day ago:
Hah! I look for that exact sort of mistake! Read a mystery novel as a kid where Sherlock (or whoever) figured something bout because B and N are next to each other on a typewriter.
No, I’m afraid it’s worse. I’ll have the noun in my head and write something totally unrelated. It must be something with the font fucking with me. Somehow? I hate speculating without the slightest guess as to mechanism, but suddenly I’m fine on “new” lemmy, but I’m back to screwing up on old.lemmy.
- Comment on Remember to vote! Have you already? We did. 1 day ago:
Some states do indeed have drop boxes outside for the ballot you were mailed.
- Comment on Remember to vote! Have you already? We did. 1 day ago:
America’s politics affect the whole world.
- Comment on Welcome to my first podcast episode! 1 day ago:
A lot of the guys I see on YouTube that look like this are actually sensible. Then I got a look at the background.
“ChatGPT, make a pic of a stereotypical young white conservative male with all the trappings in the background.”
- Comment on Welcome to my first podcast episode! 1 day ago:
Among serious gun nuts, the Punisher thing is scoffed at. It’s a sign the person displaying that bullshit is borderline childish.
- Comment on A driver in New York City covered his license plate with tape 1 day ago:
He’s been making these videos for some time. Interesting dude.
- Comment on A driver in New York City covered his license plate with tape 1 day ago:
They get around it by making it a civil fine, so the 6th amendment doesn’t count, not criminal.
- Comment on What's 26 + 6 in Cyrillic? 2 days ago:
Came to the comments to see if that was the joke.
