BassTurd
@BassTurd@lemmy.world
- Comment on is it wrong/selfish to cut contact with my trump-supporting father? 20 hours ago:
My brother didn’t vote and in person around family, he is not a Trump supporter but he is conservative. Publicly via social media, he’s never once said a bad thing about Trump and has never hesitated to strawman shit on Dems. During the run up to the election, he made some comments about Kamala after the first debate, and it was all just horseshit takes. I typed a dozen messages and deleted them because what I was going to send would have been one of those things you don’t come back from. Instead I’ve completely cut him out of my life and I’m on active avoidance. The only saving grace for him, is that I know he didn’t vote for Trump, which means almost nothing, but he didn’t actually do the worst thing. Because of that, in 4 years, I’m going to assess the damage of this Presidency and make a choice on if I will ever even consider seeing him again or if he’s dead to me. I will never forgive him and we will never have a relationship, but there’s a chance that we might both be able to go to familial gatherings, like funerals in the future.
For me, this isn’t a very difficult decision. We’ve never really been super close since he’s quite a bit older, but we were good. I’m fully prepared to miss significant events to avoid him. I’m not sure what your relationship with your father is like, but one thing you have to consider is how it’s going to affect anything else family related, like family reunions, funerals, weddings, holidays, etc. Make sure that you think of all of the effects this may have before jumping the gun and doing something you can’t undo. You can certainly try and salvage the relationship and have a serious heart to heart where you lay it all out, and if that’s not enough, then I suppose that the decision is easier. Alternatively, if you’re ready to be done, you have the option of sending him something with a reason, telling him what’s up and bye, or ghosting him. If you ghost him, that will make any chances of rebuilding a future relationship a lot harder.
Best of luck.
- Comment on nuked from orbit 1 day ago:
All. Day
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
I’m not looking to elevate my smell, just nullify the bad stuff, but there is the added benefit of a hint of goodness. I do put on cologne for formal events though.
For the aluminum stuff, I am regurgitating something I believed to be true, but I should read more into it because it appears I may be incorrect, so apologies there if I’m in fact wrong.
I personally haven’t noticed the clumping or the waxy coating you mentioned, but I can see how others may run into that based on different brands I’ve tried. I’ve used the same stuff for years now, but I don’t know what it is, Degree Sport maybe? I don’t like gel sticks and I hate the actual gel ones. I’d sooner roll the dice that I don’t stink by EoD than use the gel.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
Doderant is just a perfume. Antiperspirant + deodorant has aluminum that is bad for you. I use the latter because I prefer the effect while knowing it’s not good for me, but my best friend uses just deodorant for the same reason.
- Comment on How realistic is the threat of the government remotely manipulating digital devices you own and planting evidence? 2 weeks ago:
I’m going to guess that this is very much not true. For that to happen, every individual device would have to have an exploit that only China is aware of that gives them zero touch kernel level access where they invisibly install a rootkit that can’t be flashed off. Now, if you connect to a network and it says you have to install something first in order to connect, then all bets are off. I’ve heard of some exploits where this could be possible for specific devices running specific versions of firmware or software, but they are exceptions that generally can’t be replicated consistently in the wild.
I would say that if connected to a Chinese network, all of your traffic can be monitored, so a VPN would be heavily recommended.
- Comment on When we explain to other people how our capitalist system works and they recoil in horror 2 weeks ago:
I donate plasma twice a week and there were rations for the past couple of months on saline. Instead of getting refilled with saline after the donation, we had to eat gold fish drink and drink a Powerade before the donation and drink a Powerade and sit for 15 min after. Last week was the first time they started doing saline again.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
I think this definitely reads way worse than it is. I grew up in small town Iowa, and most adults from my town would not handle upscale and fancy well. It would be like if I went to Buckingham and was expected to know proper etiquette.
This definitely has asshole phrasing, and probably is just a shitty person, but I can empathize with the core idea.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
You didn’t let me finish…
Allegedly.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
He might be, but good luck finding it through all of the front page of your local porn site. Step siblings and step parents as far as the eye can see.
- Comment on "2 bedroom" AirBnB. 5 weeks ago:
“van”
- Comment on "PowerSchool has informed us that they have taken action with the hackers to ensure the unauthorized data was deleted without any further replication or dissemination." 5 weeks ago:
I looked but didn’t see that in writing for my change healthcare situation, but I sure didn’t take the free monitoring because I’m waiting for the class action, and I have assumed that would disqualify me.
It’s just insulting. Sorry we may have fucked up your life and you have no recourse, but here’s a sticker.
- Comment on "PowerSchool has informed us that they have taken action with the hackers to ensure the unauthorized data was deleted without any further replication or dissemination." 1 month ago:
I’m over this, "we were too incompetent and failed at our job, so your personal information is in the hands of a bad entity. Sry, here’s “monitoring”.
No. How about you fucking pay me and suffer consequences instead? If you can’t afford to pay thousands to every affected individual and continue being a business, you don’t get to be a business anymore. Equifax and Change Healthcare are two companies I did not opt into using, but had to, and they both fucked up and lost all of my most sensitive information. People should be in jail and I should have thousands of dollars more in compensation. Instead, I got $7 from Equifax and offered free monitoring from CHC. Make it so it’s debilitating when sensitive information is lost, and maybe places would take security more seriously.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 month ago:
I would quit on the 6th day. I’d show up to my shift for 5 and then not be there on 6. I guess I’d do that until I got fired, but I would never be there on the 6th day.
- Comment on Don't worry if you don't get this. It doesn't even matter. 1 month ago:
Same result, way less effort.
Still fun
- Comment on What is "forming questions in an affirmative voice?" 1 month ago:
I definitely agree, it’s all contextual. I worked in manufacturing for almost a decade which is very much process based. If something went wrong, we needed to know why so that it could be prevented.
A lot of the work I’ve done has been project based, and I usually think of the people involved as the team. Unless there’s an outlier, the general successes and failures are team wins and losses. These sort of questions obviously aren’t for all situations, but when used properly, it can bring about engagement. Even from critics, at least when given the floor to speak, they may reveal some truths that need addressing.
I have talked like this to children, which is good for them, but also condescendingly when I’ve felt it was warranted. I like to think in this situation it was a ‘moment to grow’ situation rather than condescension.
- Comment on What is "forming questions in an affirmative voice?" 1 month ago:
I didn’t think I agree that it’s condescending. To me it’s just your cause analysis. If I had people reporting to me, and someone fucked up, I would want to know how we’re going to prevent it from happening again. To me it’s just cutting to the chase and problem solving.
- Comment on What is "forming questions in an affirmative voice?" 1 month ago:
I think this example is used in the context that something preventable happened. You’re more likely to get a better response if asking in the former than the latter.
- Comment on Is John Cena the biggest draw in wrestling? 1 month ago:
100% the first person I thought of, as a non watcher of pro wrestling, was The Rock. That’s for sure partially a product of my age and childhood influence, but people who have only seen him in movies still know him as The Rock. It’s an influence that transcends pop culture. To this day people are still trying to figure what he was cooking…
- Comment on New report claims gamers spend more time watching videos about gaming than playing games 2 months ago:
More people watch <insert any sport here> than they play it.
- Comment on How to avoid having cat hair all over my house and clothes every 2 days? 2 months ago:
Idk how different cat hair is from dog hair, but we have a Rottweiler and a German shepherd husky mix, and we vacuum daily. We have a Roomba that we don’t really use anymore, but it filled up daily with dog hair. Very little loose hair in the house now.
- Comment on I'm going to try not to swear when you're around. Is this a good apology to a coworker? 3 months ago:
True in theory, but in practice, those are pretty much universally accepted curse words. I personally swear all of the time when I know the audience I’m around, and hear people swearing from across my office, so culturally it’s not a thing where I work or especially my previous manufacturing job. In places that have outside customers or patients, the expectation is generally different and varying levels of masking those outbursts is required, sometimes even saying things like "crap"is too much.
- Comment on I'm going to try not to swear when you're around. Is this a good apology to a coworker? 3 months ago:
Until it’s escalated, and then it’s definitely OPs problem. Most jobs have something about professionalism written is their handbook. The coworker will win that fight with hr every time.
- Comment on How do you get better at debate without necessarily doing a debate? 3 months ago:
Music theory.
- Comment on If I took all the Cisco.com programs does that mean I can just apply for a cert? 3 months ago:
You would still have to pass the cert exams. The programs are to prepare you for the exams.
- Comment on I'm tired of every game being live service 4 months ago:
Google search for good games and read through various results and see if there’s something you haven’t seen. Or in Steam customize your search for what you’re looking for and crawl through the options. If you get off the front page of Steam the entire catalog is available to filter and search.
- Comment on What can I do with US$10K that is a good investment? 4 months ago:
Being poor is expensive.
- Comment on What to do with glassware that is impossible to clean 5 months ago:
I put the pipe into a baggie and cover in iso alcohol. I put water in my ultrasonic cleaner and then put the baggie in the water. My cleaner has an option to heat the water, and I do that because I think it helps, but not necessary. Then a 6 minute cycle, I’ll dump the alcohol, fill with water and run a short cycle to rinse everything well. Then just manually rinse everything off until I’m good. Sometimes after the first cycle, I’ll take the baggie out and give it a good aggressive shake, and run a second round just to make sure.
I use a mighty vaporizer most of the time, so I’m usually cleaning the capsules and mouthpiece, but I do my pipe at the same time, so it usually doesn’t get a big tar ball between cleanings. The first time I used it, I had a peanut M&M sized ball that didn’t desolve, but everything else washed free, so it was loose inside. I put my air hose nozzle on the mouth, a quick blast in the trash, and it was done.
A lot of people recommend little jewelry cleaners which I think are under $50, but I grabbed a larger one from harbor freight for a little over $80 and I think it was the right choice. I have a glass bubbler attachment for my vape that gets gnarly on the inside, and it’s kind of long and wouldn’t fit in a smaller cleaner.
- Comment on What to do with glassware that is impossible to clean 5 months ago:
Size depending, an ultrasonic cleaner and alcohol will do the trick. That’s how I clean my glass pipes from resin and debris, and it always comes out spotless with no manual cleaning effort.
- Comment on Why 🤷♂️ do users 👨💻 dislike 👎 the use ✅ of emojis 😀 on Lemmy 🐭? 5 months ago:
Excessive emojis make reading difficult. It’s just as bad as posts. That. Are. Written. Like. This. My internal voice pauses for ever period, likewise, I have to interpret every inline emoji. It’s mentally tiring, and while forums like this aren’t formal, when I see abused emoji use, I instinctively write off a comment or post as juvenile and low quality. I’m more inclined to skip reading it entirely because of the extra effort required and my pre judgement of its contents.
Tagging an emoji to the end or light use to help convey emotions is fine and intuitive. I personally like them for quick response and like you, to add a little more context to text where the “voice” may be missed.
- Comment on This Google Photos popup 5 months ago:
That’s too bad for them, but at a certain point, people should be expected to have some level of understanding of the technology they are using. Giving people the information via a highly visible yet unobtrusive notification is more than enough to guide people that don’t understand. If they decide not to follow the clear instructions then that’s on them.
It’s kind of like no child left behind. In theory, it’s a good idea to make sure everyone is in a good position for success, but it’s not good in execution because it negatively impacts more than it helps.