BassTurd
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- Comment on [USA] Is "there are ICE agents roaming the streets" a good reason/excuse to avoid going outside? Or is it just a part of reality that you have to learn to accept? 1 day ago:
Anecdotally, my mental situation is notably better when I can get out and exercise or just be active outside. It doesn’t make the world’s problems go away but it does do some chemical stuff in the brain that helps. Sometimes just a change of location can help break that negative feedback loop too which helps improve things.
- Comment on [USA] Is "there are ICE agents roaming the streets" a good reason/excuse to avoid going outside? Or is it just a part of reality that you have to learn to accept? 2 days ago:
I think it depends on where you live and what going outside means. It’s not good out there right now for minorities, but it’s worse in some locations. If you live in Portland or Chicago, then yea, for sure keep your head down. It all comes down to your risk tolerance. Not every single minority is being rounded up and deported. There are hundreds to thousands of minorities that have been abducted out of the millions that live in the US. Statistically speaking, you will probably be just fine, but there is a chance things get bad.
As a white man, my opinion does not carry much water since I obviously do not have the same problems and I know that I come from a privileged position. So take this with a grain of salt, but if you’re not in one of the hot spots, I think you need to get out and try to live your life, but keep your head on a swivel. Idk that leaving the country and trying to get back in is the best choice, but there are probably 10s of thousands of people like you that travel abroad every day.
Your mother is approaching this poorly and callously, but there is some level of truth to it. If the plan is for you to run the family business some day, then you do have to be able to take the necessary risks, like going out, to be able to do that effectively. That said, I go through bouts of depression and it is crippling, so I have empathy with your situation. It’s easy for someone not depressed to tell you to just be happy and live like normal, but that’s not reality.
With everything you’ve said, it sounds like you first and foremost need to seek help for your depression. That could be therapy, anti depressants, or a combination. Personally, I am in a much better place when I can get out and be active and exercise. So your choices come down to staying inside, do nothing, and live in your negative feedback loop, going out to seek professional help for your mental health, or going out, being mindful of your surroundings and taking on extra risk that may help you mentally. That could mean going out and walking the block in your neighborhood, or find a secluded nature trail somewhere where ICE won’t be patrolling.
All in, it’s not a black and white situation and you need to decide if you’re in a better place hiding out or if it would be better for you to do something else.
- Comment on Does anyone else notice an up tick in hostility on Lemmy lately? 4 days ago:
Daily ghost stories? Me posting memes from reddit? You told a joke? The fuck are you on about, lol?
If you’re suggesting that by saying “rent free” in response to someone outing you for stalking them is a joke, then we have very different definitions of what a joke is. It’s akin to a Republican making a dumbass comment and when confronted responding with, “it’s just a joke”.
- Comment on Does anyone else notice an up tick in hostility on Lemmy lately? 4 days ago:
You weren’t tagged and still showed up to prove OPs point. It’s not rent free when they’re being stalked by a fucking weirdo basement dweller.
- Comment on Do all American stores have greeters? 3 weeks ago:
Admittedly, my BBY experience is… Fuck me… 12+ years ago. Feels like a couple of years ago, but it’s not. I’d imagine employee count has dropped and by proxy, helpers when you need them.
I don’t go in very often, but when I do, I know exactly what I want, and sometimes that item is behind a locked window, and finding someone isn’t easy.
I tried to walk the line with greeting people and then letting them know that I’m around if they need help. I hate salespeople and being one was the worst job of my life. It wasn’t high stress or anything, but having a job where my role was to try and take all of the money from my customer was not something I enjoyed.
- Comment on Do all American stores have greeters? 3 weeks ago:
When I worked at Best Buy, if a customer entered my department I was expected to address them. We were trained to make it seem natural, just a greeting and naturally segway into asking if you can assist. It was to prevent theft but also the chances of closing a sale go up significantly.
My understanding is nobody likes doing it and most customers aren’t big on the pushy sales people.
- Comment on how do school shooters know how to use guns? 4 weeks ago:
Hand guns are difficult to be accurate with if you’ve never shot one, and still not easy if you have. Nobody is going to fire one for the first time and be good at it, but within 10-15’ the difference is probably just if the shot was lethal or not. Anything with a longer barrel like a shotgun or rifle, as long as you’re pointing in the general direction it’s as simple as pulling the trigger. The recoil is easier to deal with and it’s easier to aim. Loading could take a second to figure out, but that’s something that can be worked out before ever pulling the trigger.
I think the fact that most school shootings don’t end up with dozens of kills is because it’s not super easy to be skilled with all aspects of a firearm, but it’s easy enough for quick damage.
- Comment on do you consider joking about dying and killing oneself a sign that the person saying it is troubled? 5 weeks ago:
I’ll throw out a “fucking kill me” or an “I’d rather be dead” now and again, but I’ve never contemplated suicide. Context is key. I won’t say something like that around a truly bad situation, but if I get a paper cut, I may suggest that taking my life is a better situation. I don’t do it often and it’s only around people that know me well enough to know that I have a dark sense of humor and that I’m not serious.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
We have a plastic scraper that gets anything off with a bit of water. Then I hit it with a rough sponge and water, towel dry, then stovetop dry. While still hot, I like to put a thin layer of Crisco on all surfaces with a paper towel and wipe any excess off. Having a well seasoned pan, warming up before cooking, and using enough fat or oil makes cleaning and maintaining a lot easier.
- Comment on How abnormal is it for a mother to be her son a fleshlight for his 18th birthday? 2 months ago:
My mom once left her Amazon account logged in and open on her computer. My sibling and I searched for a bunch of sex toys to mess with the ad suggestions. That was funny, but I’d never buy my mother a dildo and it would be really weird if she bought me a Fleshlight.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Not at all. I would have had it done at 18 in hindsight, but did it in my later 20s. It was bar none the best $50 I’ve ever spent. I’ve known my entire life that I didn’t want to be a parent, and for me that feeling only compounded as I got older. Couple that with the current world situation and local political climate and uncertainty, and it reaffirms my choice.
Technically it is reversible, but I would consider a permanent fix. Regardless, wrap your dick because vasectomies don’t block STDs.
- Comment on Resources 2 months ago:
That’s fair. My take was shallow and I was thinking more from personal experience. I’m ~200lbs and burn over 100 kcal every mile I run, and am a distance athlete. If I jog 6 miles or bike 20+, I have to replace that for proper recovery.
I shouldn’t say most people, but a large amount of people need more than 2100 kcal if they are active.
- Comment on Resources 2 months ago:
I’d argue that’s a downgrade for most people. I personally exceed all of those bullet points and the idea of coming close to most of them sounds like Hell to me. If it meant 8.5 billion people met those standards, I could make the sacrifice, but it would be awful.
Can you imagine if everyone you met was wearing a 3 days dirty shirt? Do other not sweat? And 2100 kcal per day is not safe or sustainable for almost anyone that exercises regularly.
- Comment on be gay, do computers 2 months ago:
I think it’s a fun debate between all of them. It doesn’t really matter, but I enjoy reading the reasoning behind each argument.
- Comment on be gay, do computers 2 months ago:
Also before the ENIAC was the Atanasoff-Berry Computer (ABC)
- Comment on MILLIPEDE FACTS 2 months ago:
Take that metric users!
- Comment on How active is too active while being on lemmy? 2 months ago:
I’ve blocked a couple bots that post seemingly every article from specific sites. It’s too bad because some of those articles were worth reading, but it was too much in my home feed, so they’re gone.
- Comment on Missouri Gov. Kehoe signs bill repealing paid sick leave 3 months ago:
Byron Donald’s, Wesley Hunt, John James, Burgess Owens, and Tim Scott are current black Republican members of Congress.
- Comment on Missouri Gov. Kehoe signs bill repealing paid sick leave 3 months ago:
The fact that it’s possible is completely fucked up by itself.
- Comment on Belkin is killing off parts of the Wemo Line 3 months ago:
They’re conservative nut bags
- Comment on Belkin is killing off parts of the Wemo Line 3 months ago:
Yea, but the phone still has to be purchased.
- Comment on Belkin is killing off parts of the Wemo Line 3 months ago:
Nestle is tough having their grubby fingers in about everything. I do avoid if I know. Bill and Fox to me are just givens, so not worth mentioning. And yes, fuck HP.
- Comment on Belkin is killing off parts of the Wemo Line 3 months ago:
Target, Amazon, Walmart, Tesla, Subnaughtica 2, Gearbox, Microsoft, T Mobile, McDonald’s, Pepsi Co, Coke, Disturbed, Falling in Reverse, 3 doors down, Trapt, PirateSoftware, Salvation Army, chick fil a, hobby lobby, and more. Those were some of the cuff for me. Google is there, but I can’t get out of everything there, and the Pixel is the best phone option. There are more but we could be here all night.
- Comment on Is possible to learn to swim, just by reading a lot about it? 3 months ago:
For sure, swimming and practicing swimming is the best way. Reading about it won’t likely help you in an emergency situation. In a controlled environment, I think that someone could probably survive if they’ve only read about how to swim. Not thrive, but knowing what to do would help.
- Comment on Is possible to learn to swim, just by reading a lot about it? 3 months ago:
Being put in a situation meant to induce panic with restrains, gear, and objectives is very different from surviving if someone falls into a body of water.
Sure, reading a book probably won’t do much if you capsize in rough waters or have tread water for minutes to hours. I think that if someone were to have a controlled drop in a deep pool, they would have a much higher chance of success if they’ve read about basic water survival techniques vs someone who hasn’t. Panic is still for sure the biggest factor, but having any amount of knowledge is still better than having none.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
Same. I started learning French from English, and my experiences from software development have made learning a new language easier. I also took Spanish almost 20 years ago, and while I don’t speak it, I have a better understanding of how languages are structured so learning congregations is easier since I understand the concept better. Perhaps the specific words I’m learning don’t stick in memory as easy as a child, but learning a new language is like 30% vocab and 70% sentence structure and congregation. The hard part is the “logic”, if you will.
- Comment on How much spacing while stopped at a red light? 3 months ago:
You conveniently left out the rest of the law…
(1) No person may turn a vehicle from a direct course or move right or left upon a highway unless and until such movement can be made with reasonable safety, and then only after giving an appropriate signal in the manner hereinafter provided, in the event any other vehicle may be affected by the movement.
(2) A signal of intention to turn right or left must be given continuously during not less than the last 100 feet traveled by the vehicle before turning, except that such a signal by hand or arm need not be given continuously by a bicyclist if the hand is needed in the control or operation of the bicycle.
(3) No person may stop or suddenly decrease the speed of a vehicle without first giving an appropriate signal in the manner provided herein to the driver of any vehicle immediately to the rear, when there is opportunity to give such signal.
(4) The signals provided for in s. 316.156 shall be used to indicate an intention to turn, to overtake, or to pass a vehicle and may not, except as provided in s. 316.2397, be flashed on one side only on a parked or disabled vehicle or flashed as a courtesy or “do pass” signal to operators of other vehicles approaching from the rear. (5) A violation of this section is a noncriminal traffic infraction, punishable as a moving violation as provided in chapter 318. - Comment on How much spacing while stopped at a red light? 3 months ago:
There isn’t a federal law on turn signal use that I can find and it’s left up to the individual states. Every law I looked at said you have to have a continuous signal before the turn and when turning into a different lane. I did not see any exceptions listed anywhere, including turn lanes.
When turning from a turn lane, to a different lane, that is a change of lane and therefore falls under the law. If you have any other evidence to the contrary or happen to live in a state that I didn’t check where that is an exception, I and the others here would love if you’d source that. If you can’t, then you’re just making shit up and should just take the “L”.
- Comment on The signatures are still coming and it's already making an impact 3 months ago:
The thing is either that license model changes, or those other companies selling the code cease to exist when nobody buys something they can’t use.
- Comment on The signatures are still coming and it's already making an impact 3 months ago:
There’s no requirement that the open source code released after EoL has to be pretty or maintained, just functional to meet legal requirements. Using other 3rd party code would be a hurdle to get over I suppose. It would definitely take a different approach to design, but after the initial shock of changing, it wouldn’t be more difficult to do long term.