It's actually that simple.
Submitted 3 weeks ago by PP_BOY_@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
Agent641@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
= No
imetators@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
W98BSoD@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
P. Sherman 42 Wallaby Way Sydney
dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
¡Escapé!
biggerbogboy@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Raiderkev@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Bro, u ain’t got no clothes
lugal@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
That’s what a room without an elephant looks like according to AI
solidheron@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
You will be the bearer of the new royal elephant
Viking_Hippie@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Hi!
bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de 3 weeks ago
Hacksaw@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
Sexy losers is GREAT! What a deep cut.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Well, that’s one way to stop someone from jumping.
Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
If a woman isn’t insatiable for me I’m not interested
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
Sounds like you just don’t know how to satisfy 🤷♀️
Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
It’s a lot less effort to satisfy someone who wishes to be satisfied.
snowydroopz@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This man fucks
garth@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
An audible sigh followed by “Fine” or “Sure” = Yes
But the lack of enthusiasm really kills the mood.
PattyMcB@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
So do the tears. …wait
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The shampoo promised tho
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
If you’re at that point, often, repeatedly… unless you’re with an Ace, your relationship is either over or wholly performative.
Probably best that you realize that.
IMO, consenting but unenthusiastic sex is worse than none, you should both have more respect for yourselves and either talk out what’s really bothering one or both of you, or just admit that you don’t even like each other.
Agent641@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I like it when she rolls her eyes
JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Danger: Please don’t give anyone the idea that the only way for men to get lucky with a woman is via murder.
hypnicjerk@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
murder?? what kind of sick predator do you take me for?
i’m a scavenger thank you
xavier666@lemmy.umucat.day 3 weeks ago
Ah, I see you’re a man of culture as well
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah I got a shovel thank you
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
Well, we weren’t going to, but now you just did.
Thanks OP.
FiniteBanjo@feddit.online 3 weeks ago
Technically, humans are animals so this basically rules out everything except corpses and sentient plants, fungi, and inanimate objects.
platypode@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Where my shroom coomers at
FiniteBanjo@feddit.online 3 weeks ago
~Cecilia Granata
basxto@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
OwOarchist@pawb.social 3 weeks ago
Eh … I’m on the fence about “hesitated yes”.
If we’re to reducto ad absurdum it, exactly how much hesitation turns a yes to a no? In fractions of a second, please.
roux2scour@jlai.lu 3 weeks ago
Id say hesitating yes require a proper confirmation. If the person doesn’t look sure to you, ask them ?
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah I’ve been sexually violated in ways like posts like this are usually about (coerced and pressured past my "no"s into situations I didn’t want) and while I respect the effort, I feel like they’re often in a weird position of overzealous and only really applicable in hookup type situations, they also often ignore more manipulative styles of pressuring a yes.
Hesitation is fine, but it may be good practice to double check if the following yes isn’t enthusiastic. The yes is often less important than the enthusiasm in early stages. I’ve had wonderful nights of tongue wrestling where we never asked, we flirted until it was clearly mutual, and in one case we were hesitating at first because we were both not super comfortable with the age gap (we talked about it after). And we were both drunk, because there’s a difference between consensual actions while in an altered state and taking advantage of a drunk person, and that difference largely comes down to enthusiasm and being in a similar state. If I’m one beer in and generally feeling fine I ought to turn down a shitfaced woman who’s hitting on me hard, but if I’m right there with her that’s fine.
And in long term relationship6s I think the need for enthusiasm reduces. Sometimes you put out when you aren’t really in tar5he mood because you love your partner and value the intimacy. That’s not being sexually violated unless you were pressured or coerced.
Consent is a discussion that requires genuine nuance, and checklists will always come off as far more clunky than most people’s lived experiences with it.
Siethron@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
There are also a multitude of reasons to hesitate that aren’t “I want to say no but am afraid of saying it”. Such as stunned silence because he or she couldn’t believe someone so awesome wanted to have sex with them. Or confusion because it was loud and they misheard the word ‘sex’ as ‘sax’ and was wondering where they could possibly get one of those at this hour.
Also, auditory processing disorder. Give them a god damn minute.
terranoid@lemmy.cafe 3 weeks ago
I just had a US lawmaker whisper yes into my ear but they expect bribes for anything and everything. Do I have consent?
disconnectikacio@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
ddplf@szmer.info 3 weeks ago
Must be fun being an incel slopper on lemmy, isn’t it?
EvasiveSpecies@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
That is… how consent works.
Doomsider@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Twist: Its the same guy after tanning, weight loss, roids, and plastic surgery.
gmtom@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I might get hate for this, but you can still consent when you’re drunk, so long as you’re not like barely conscious drunk or you’re not being manipulated coerced by someone.
humorlessrepost@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah, as an alcoholic, I don’t think every sexual encounter I’ve had in the past decade or more was mutual rape.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
If both are drunk, neither can rape and it is kind of seen like animals fucking naturaly. You both wake up as non-animals and are horrified by the ugly person on the other side that you fucked.
DarkCloud@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Pfft, a simple “Yes” is not exactly enthusiastic consent.
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
If it’s not “Gee golly willikers, yes! Yes! A thousand times yes!” with stars in her eyes while she’s farting rainbows, then it’s a no.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Uh, how many hues do you need in your rainbow because I found just the right gal for you except her rainbow is all red and made of blood. She’s farting blood.
janewaydidnothingwrong@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I feel like you’re allowed to hesistate and still say a “yes” yes, especially since the “threatened and then said yes” is separate on this. It can be complicated and thought over first, no?
Zexks@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
ricecake@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
They would have done better to make it more about talking someone into it or pestering them than about “hesitation”. Maybe “reluctant” would have been better.
Sometimes people need to do a little internal status check. “I had a headache all day, am I not feeling it or would it be a fun alternative to ibuprofen?”
vegafjord@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
dead = no
LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 3 weeks ago
Came here to say this
kn33@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Okay, but the line about “bribed” doesn’t sit right with me. We doing SWERF stuff now?
OriginEnergySux@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yeah i have some questions about the animal one…
Omega_Jimes@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
Ok but she’s not going to say no because of the implication.
RickyRigatoni@piefed.zip 3 weeks ago
What about dead animal?
Adulated_Aspersion@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Dead?
Agent641@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Is this about website cookies?
Eternal192@anarchist.nexus 3 weeks ago
Ask Trump or anyone that went to Epstein’s island and they’ll say they never heard no and even if they heard no they didn’t understand it and still did whatever they wanted.
Tiral@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I’d have to disagree with this. My wife has definitely banged me when I was asleep and or drunk. She didn’t ask, but it was yes from me if she did.
I don’t think you should use a generic chart as a guide, it isn’t always that simple, because people aren’t that simple. It’s also not very helpful, people who have morals already know this. The other people know this, they just don’t give a shit, it isn’t they don’t understand. There’s a big difference.
Semester3383@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
So what does it mean when he says, “That’s an extra $150”? Is that a yes?
rekabis@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Even a “yes” can, and frequently is, converted into a “no” retroactively, sometimes well after the act. It all comes down to feelings before facts and how she personally prefers to interpret the event regardless of the passage of time.
And unless the entire action is videotaped and notarized, as a man you are defined as being in the wrong 100% of the time.
Plus, as a man you are also faced with epic levels of societal hypocrisy that you have no ability to counteract, regardless of how things actually went.
The only rational risk-assessment analysis for any man in the lower-90% is to consider ALL responses a “no”, and to just walk away.
Maxxus@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
I’m going to scroll through this whole comment section and not see a single Sexy Losers reference, aren’t I?
JATtho@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
You all disgust me.
GimmeUrBelt@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Aight, I know this comment is gonna bite me later, but I gotta speak my piece. I’m playing devil’s advocate here. Beastiality, zoophilia, whatever you wanna call it… It isn’t always a case of raping the animal. What is consent? It is ultimately an extremely arbitrary idea that humans fling around. For human-on-human interactions, obviously society has cemented it as something with clear-cut lines and rules. But, that’s pretty much where it ends for us. Consent from animals is not something we ever seriously consider in any way.
Think about it. Did domesticated species, which we have dominated for our benefit, consent? Do dogs consent to anything we put them through as our pets? Do cats? Birds? Bugs?! The answer is no. We cannot communicate with other animals. So we forgo consent when it comes to the animals we interact with. Even when it comes to things that really has no direct benefit to the animal.
All I’m saying is, rape is rape, for sure. But when it comes to inter-species erotica, as a man once called it, it can’t all be rape. Because animals rely on instinct more than anything, especially when it comes to sex. I guarantee a horse will show you when it doesn’t appreciate it being touched in the no-no spot.
Okey doke. Bring on the rain. 🙂↕️
solidheron@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
So when I’m dead I’m consenting to have my likeness used
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 3 weeks ago
Tf you mean yes?
absentbird@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Vague = no
EditsHisComments@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
…wait a minute
MeatPilot@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
Time to crack open a cold one.
Mac@mander.xyz 3 weeks ago
A little piece of heaven, you might call it.
swagmoney@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
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Archangel1313@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
No, no. This is accurate.
SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
No, I don’t think I will