rekabis
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- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 3 days ago:
I’ve seen women in their 30s and 40s engage in it.
It’s not restricted to higher ed or younger ages in the least.
I’m now in my fifth decade, and no longer care to be around that kind of drama anymore, so over the last decade and a bit I have taken pains to distance myself from those social circles that engage in it.
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 3 days ago:
If you get mocked for rejecting a woman, you’re either still in school, or need to get some better friends. Because no sane, rational people would ever think less of you for who you do/don’t date.
Tell me you have never been next to an in-group of women when one of them have been turned down, without saying you have absolutely no clue about inter-female dynamics and discussions.
Like, holy flaming ignorance, Batman. Do you walk through life completely blind? Or have you never just observed women, especially when they don’t know another man is within earshot?
Yes, not all women, but holy hell certainly a fair majority of them.
Men reject women all the time, with no societal repercussions.
The only possible conclusion I can draw: you have never rejected a woman, nor seen a woman be rejected and - more importantly - witnessed the aftermath once the woman has returned to her in-group.
In my several decades of being an adult I’ve seen plenty of vicious whisper campaigns that targeted not only the man, but also any other woman he was even mildly friendly towards.
And it’s directly proportional to how high a social status the man has. So maybe you’ve not personally experienced it because you have an extremely low social status? Like, double-wide-trailer low? IDK, I’m just trying to understand how you’re missing trivially-observable real-world evidence.
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 3 days ago:
People change all the time though.
…And? So what?
Actually, let me rephrase that: So fucking what??
Any decision made comes with consequences. The decision to close the metaphorical door to preserve self-respect and mental health comes with consequences. And conversely, passing someone over because you think you can do better also comes with consequences when you discover to have been unable to actually do better.
My problem is the prevailing societal sentiment that only women have the right to say “no”. That only women have the right to close and bolt the relationship door. That men have a duty to accept a woman’s attentions no matter what, and especially if she had rejected him previously. And that he becomes a social pariah, open to mockery and vicious reputational attacks if he says no or keeps that metaphorical door closed himself.
Sorry, that’s not how “equality” works in any way, shape, or form. That’s anti-male gender bigotry, plain and simple. There is just no other way to spin it.
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 3 days ago:
Sometimes I see the gender wars between you two feels like the moden day equivalent of cointelpro.
And some people just read waaaayyyy too much into things. Then there are people like you, who read the entire room wrong.
Asshole behaviour and systemic gender bigotry deserves being called out. That’s all I did. Nothing more. There is only one person who lashed out here, and it wasn’t me.
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 3 days ago:
There was an unspoken rule for Gen-X
I am of that generation… solidly middle GenX.
Where I believe I run afoul of Millenials and Gen-Z is where I remind folks we just didn’t have a lot of girls who were just friends… we considered this a fantasy or just waiting.
While even GenX had its fair share of these, the one thing I have seen in younger generations is an explosive increase in “Beta Orbiters”.
Unfortunately, this behaviour of giving attention, time, and resources to a woman who has no intention of reciprocating in any fashion whatsoever, is likely screwing with several generations s of men, and is likely fuelling the rise of so-called “Incels”. Especially since the lack of reciprocity and fair play from what they provide is one of the fundamental “violations of trust” that men perceive. These young men need to learn how to shut metaphorical doors and ignore the women who have no interest in reciprocating and who will only string them along as “useful dancing monkeys”.
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 3 days ago:
Incel behavior
Ah, there is that ad hominem I was expecting to crop up at some point, seeking to publicly shame me into silence.
And it’s a perfect example of intellectual bankruptcy, where someone is so bereft of a counterargument that the only tools left to them are those of shaming and ridicule. It’s feelings before facts, of a rage-consumed person so desperately intent on furthering their anti-male gender bigotry simply because that man exercises equal rights.
Because isn’t that what women have been fighting for over the last century? For the ability to say “thanks, but no thanks” and the ability to permanently close a metaphorical relationship door for whatever reason she deems personally appropriate?
Or is it “rights for me, but not for thee”? Is it that men simply do not have the right to say no, and do not have the right to permanently close that metaphorical door?
C’mon, this is the platform where you can let your anti-male gender bigotry shine! Don’t be shy! Be the flaming hypocrite you were meant to be!!
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 4 days ago:
IMO anon’s statement about body count was badly phrased, but it makes sense for me under limited circumstances.
For the last few decades, my opinion has held firm on a simple philosophy:
If I never ask out a woman I’m interested in, and they date guy after guy, then I have nothing to complain about. They never knew about my interest, and so they were never given the chance to accept or reject my interest. There is no way in hell that I could hold their body count against them, and I have only myself to blame for not stepping up and asking them out when I had the chance.
But if I do ask a woman out, and they clearly and immediately reject me in favour of someone else, then I am obviously not an interest for them. They have clearly and unambiguously rejected me, so what standing do I have to not believe that? You can’t get a more sure sign. If they then rack up many relationships, each and every one of those is another nail in the coffin of any potential relationship. They have made an explicit statement that I am of far less desirability than other guys, and the door closes permanently, and gets barred and locked for good measure. Because if they come sniffing around again, then it is screamingly obvious that I am not her second-best, third-best, or even n^th best option… I am her backup-backup-backup plan that she is “settling for” because all of her better options ran out.
And at that point… thanks but no thanks. That’s a path down which I have absolutely no desire to trod, because down that path lies doubt and second-guessing that can only poison me, my mental health, and my happiness. If she had no interest in me when I asked, then I will absolutely hold that as unchanging, unimpeachable gospel.
- Comment on Good news. :) 1 week ago:
Looks like the future country of Cascadia is finally starting to make some moves.
- Comment on Good news. :) 1 week ago:
The agreed-upon future name is Cascadia.
- Comment on Something we all can agree on 2 weeks ago:
Before you reuse it, please crack open an image editor and correct the last word in the title by removing the apostrophe. Anyone who took English classes past Elementary school will thank you for that correction.
- Comment on Something we all can agree on 2 weeks ago:
Apostrophe is possessive. The facts do not possess themselves.
When there are a number of them, however, they are just facts, without an apostrophe.
- Comment on LPT: Go get a shot, now. 3 weeks ago:
But getting vaccinated doesn’t really prevent you from spreading it, it just prevents you from not dying from it.
LOLWUT is this antivaxxer shit? Go back to your anti-reality, anti-evidence, anti-facts hellhole, bud.
- Comment on LPT: Go get a shot, now. 3 weeks ago:
They key point is density. The denser the population, the more people need to be immunized for herd immunity to be effective, because the more people the average person comes in close contact with even only in passing.
It’s like the difference in walking six blocks in a sleepy town vs six blocks in downtown Manhattan. Even in “rush hour”, with the sidewalks at maximum typical capacity, the former might net you a dozen close encounters while the latter could easily net you 1,200 close encounters. If you are immunocompromised, the same level of herd immunity in the general population makes the former a much safer environment than the latter.
Statistics can be wild.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 4 weeks ago:
There is nothing you’ve said worthy of rebuttal.
Ah - a sour grapes response!
Don’t worry, I know you had absolutely nothing to counter with once I saw the ad hominem. That’s the problem with intellectual bankruptcy, after all - nothing to work with except rage and other emotions. No facts, only feelings. So out come the personal attacks like the ad hominems, because rage and shame are the only usable tools left.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 4 weeks ago:
You’ve just been all over this thread with your misogynistic hot takes and telling people how “all women” act. You should get off the internet for a while.
Mmm-hm. Attempts to socially shame me into silence and an ad hominem on top of that, but not a whisper of a viable rebuttal.
That’s the problem with these censure attempts – always feelings over facts, instead of facts over feelings.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 4 weeks ago:
I’m not saying it’s right, just, or how it should be,
What makes it infinitely more worse is that almost all women fully and absolutely deny this happens, even when behaving exactly like this.
It’s why such near-ubiquitous behaviour - and women’s hypocritical denial of its existence - is widely documented within both redpill and blackpill writings, and is one of the core reasonings behind MGTOW.
Such overwhelmingly predictable behaviours are what make those philosophies so devastatingly effective and compelling even before a person gets to anything even mildly misogynistic… facts and evidence that survive tests of disproof speak volumes, after all. These philosophies simply wouldn’t exist if behaviours and double standards like this didn’t exist.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 4 weeks ago:
It sounds depressive.
It’s how “toxic masculinity” is forced upon men against their will.
Do we want to be sensitive and vulnerable? Sure!
Do we want partners that can accept that sensitivity and vulnerability? Of course!!But when the vast majority of women do not do as they say, or say as they do, the calculus becomes massively brutal and clear-cut: either cram that shit down to where it will never see the light of day, or see it emotionally/sexually alienate our partner or even drive them away.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 4 weeks ago:
I wasn’t commenting on this particular double standard anywhere as much as double standards, in general; especially those which are almost exclusively one-way and “acceptable” for only women to hold.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 4 weeks ago:
Wow, that’s some intense double standards there.
That’s an odd way of saying “ubiquitous female standards”.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 4 weeks ago:
I’ve had two relationships with women immediately go downhill after I cried in front of them. It was like someone flipped a switch and turned off any physical attraction they had to me.
Can absolutely confirm this, myself. Never let them see you vulnerable, unless you want to drive them away.
- Comment on Anon thinks there is a bicurious double standard 4 weeks ago:
how many people agonize about female pedophiles vs male pedophiles?
What makes this statement even more horrifying is that more and more evidence is emerging that - like with cross-gender rape between adults - rates of pedophilia in the general population seems to be about 50/50 between the genders.
As in, it is equally as likely for a child to be preyed upon by a woman as a man.
And society doesn’t give two shits about female pedophiles or their victims. Hell, if the pedophile gets pregnant, the government will even gleefully re-victimize the victim on a monthly basis the moment they hit adulthood by forcing them to pay child support to their rapist.
Now, for the purest example of anti-male gender bigotry, examine the fury and outrage if the genders were reversed.
- Comment on Leaving religious people speechless 5 weeks ago:
There are a lot of reasonable people who can get behind that statement…
- Comment on Tried naming the states from memory as a European 5 weeks ago:
“Desert Racists”
“Swamp Racists”ROTFLMAO 🤣🤣🤣
Bloody accurate, you are.
- Comment on Anon tries running live USB Linux on his dad's computer 5 weeks ago:
One is light hosting using VMs. It boots normally.
The other is for experimenting on various OS’ in VMs. It does not boot normally. Even before the 2nd CPU caddy, it always POSTed 10 times - no more, no less - with a memory error code before booting into the hypervisor. And yet, no issues with memory, no issues with RAM slots themselves. Or, at least, it’s affecting all 4 of the on-mobo slots equally.
- Comment on Anon tries running live USB Linux on his dad's computer 5 weeks ago:
Oh hey, another T7500 owner! You have the second-CPU caddy installed in that thing?
- Comment on Anon tries running live USB Linux on his dad's computer 1 month ago:
For safety, backups are much better than encryption.
The only thing encryption does is prevent others from reading your data if the machine gets physically lost or stolen. And ironically, that might prevent a stolen machine from ever making it back into your hands.
For desktops, encryption of a machine that doesn’t have critically private/sensitive content is even dumber. I mean, if you have terabytes of CP or are a terrorist, then sure, lock that down to make the police earn their wages. Or do it even if you don’t, but you just want to give authorities the middle finger. But not much on the average computer needs encryption so long as you keep good physical and network security.
What you want is a good backup system - something that just works, is dummy proof, can be administered remotely, and which can restore content easily and reliably.
On a Mac, nothing beats iCloud. It’s encrypted before it even gets uploaded, and Apple has repeatedly shown it cannot retrieve the content… it needs to be forcibly cracked.
On the PC (both Windows and Linux) I prefer Duplicati backing up to BackBlaze B2.
- Comment on Anon tries running live USB Linux on his dad's computer 1 month ago:
I actually like the Microsoft Authenticator, as it dramatically improves security for Microsoft Accounts. Not only does it plump up 2FA TOTP from 6 digits to 8, but it can also implement challenge-response codes as a second layer of protection.
What I do not agree with is putting your computing eggs all in one basket. I have never used a Microsoft Account to secure Windows, and I never will. Complete data loss via loss of control of the Microsoft Account is just too high of a persistent threat. And that risk rises by an order of magnitude the less technically inclined a user is. For someone who has almost no computing experience, it is an unconscionably risky system to use.
- Comment on Anon tries running live USB Linux on his dad's computer 1 month ago:
- The average user has no need to use Bitlocker
- The average user should be using a local account instead of a Microsoft Account.
- Using a Microsoft Account causes Bitlocker to auto-enable.
- Loss of access to your Microsoft Account when Bitlocker is enabled can cause loss of all your data.
- Microsoft can and will roundly ignore you if you lose access to your Microsoft Account.
Microsoft has painted users into a very dangerous corner. Security is vitally important, but not when it’s almost maliciously implemented.
Even as a security professional I understand that most people will be ill served by having their computer locked down like Fort Knox. There are ways of ensuring security without having all personal content go permanently poof with the slightest wrong move.
- Comment on US education 1 month ago:
Conservatism needs its masses of ignorant and near-illiterate electorate who cannot think for themselves and cannot use critical thinking to realize how badly they are being hoodwinked. This hollowing out of the educational system has been done on purpose to bulk up the Republican electorate.
- Comment on US education 1 month ago:
And with the dismantling of the US Department of education, things are going to get a lot, lot worse.