rekabis
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- Comment on Anon considers LASIK 1 day ago:
I never had it done for two main reasons:
- Actual cutting of the cornea.
- A cripplingly negative response to anything that surgically impacts my body. Even giving blood triggers an overwhelming need to inject it right back into me.
Knowing what I do about CC and the astronomically high likelihood of global civilizational collapse before mid-century, I should really have something like that done so I can do without glasses if absolutely necessary. Assuming I live that long, that is. Which, judging from the current advanced age of my own parents, is a decent “likely”.
- Comment on Anon considers LASIK 1 day ago:
Right? This is an absolutely awesome autocorrect fail.
- Comment on Does anyone use a phone without a protective case? 2 days ago:
Imagine if a carmaker sold a premium vehicle with a polished metal and glass exterior that you had to protect under a vinyl wrap to keep it from rusting and chipping under normal use… they’d be a laughing stock!
tesla cybertruck wanders into chat, spots comment, slinks quietly back out with a red face
- Comment on Does anyone use a phone without a protective case? 2 days ago:
I would likely go case-less if it wasn’t for my dry hands, and the occasional need to have my phone sit on my leg (while I am sitting) so I can go hands-free with it.
My problem is that any phone without a case (and about 99.999% of cases out there) has the phone being as slippery as an enraged hagfish. It literally leaps out of my hands with most operations, which is why I need a case – to grip it effectively.
And now with my iPhone 15 pro max, I have been in a desperate search for any case which is sticky enough. As in: with the phone in the case, place it face-up on your open palm without gripping it and tilt your palm 30-45°. If it slides off, the case is too slippery. I’ve had sticky cases before, but it seems that everyone suddenly stopped making them some time after the iPhone X.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
but you’d already be hard pressed to read the data off a deck of punch cards or reel of magnetic tape
Even something like a 3¼″ floppy is getting hard to find a drive for, because not many USB drives were made, and non-USB drives need a motherboard with floppy compatibility. Which would be more than a decade old by this point.
- Comment on Exposure might cause suffocation 1 week ago:
This one is identical to the pic, and comes in various different sizes: www.redbubble.com/i/sticker/…/85791225.EJUG5
- Comment on Black Mirror AI 1 week ago:
Holy shit, those prices. Like, I wouldn’t be able to afford any package at even 10% the going rate.
Anything available for the lone operator running a handful of Internet-addressable servers behind a single symmetrical SOHO connection? As in, anything for the other 95% of us that don’t have mountains of cash to burn?
- Comment on Raised by extra strict hispanic catholic parents 1 week ago:
Yes, but in many to most cases, no.
People from suppressed cultures/families who suddenly experience freedom have a tendency to go after anything that spits in the face of their former repression, purely for that freedom. As in, they are motivated by the freedom to choose, and not by whether or not they actually like the act in question.
Which is why the former is much more psychologically healthier – it rarely generates regret, whereas the latter has the potential to generate regret once they “get [it] worked out of their system” and realize that they don’t like the act itself - and may actually hate it or how it’s changed them - and have only been attracted to their ability to choose it or its ability to be offensive in the context of their prior repression.
- Comment on Do you think a story that mixes magic with super advanced technology can work? 1 week ago:
We have high technology because we don’t have anything else to leverage.
I suspect a world with strong magic is liable to leverage that to the exclusion of technology.
A now-ended iseki story on Reddit’s HFY subreddit called “Wait, is this just GATE?” Asks the question of what would happen if a universe of only technology and no magic (ours) made contact with a universe of pretty much only magic and almost no technology beyond that found in the Middle Ages. It contains some tropes (used mainly as comedic relief or irony) and plenty of references to current magical-universe plot elements from games and novels, but is a surprisingly fresh and compelling examination of the cross-universe idea.
- Comment on Raised by extra strict hispanic catholic parents 2 weeks ago:
Not hopeless, just overcompensating from the freedom.
OP needs to strongly consider whether he:
- actually likes doing those things, or
- is just entranced/aroused by being able to do things that would be otherwise forbidden by his family and culture.
Either is OK, but when being the source of that behaviour, the former is a lot more healthy than the latter.
- Comment on 7 for me 2 weeks ago:
Depends if I have my shower directly before going to bed. If so, it’s 20, otherwise 4.
- Comment on Anon has a female friend 2 weeks ago:
There’s a significant number of things that you’re ignoring or are not privy to, where women are harmed by men.
You mean, like… domestic violence?
- Comment on What's the worst spelling you've seen? 3 weeks ago:
I knew of an African-American named Le-a.
Not spoken as “ley-ah”, but as “ledasha”.
Because you are supposed to say the dash.
- Comment on What can US citizens do to fight/prevent their country enabling genocide? 3 weeks ago:
- get a sniper rifle
- train to take out targets at a large distance
- know where and when ICE will be, especially where they will muster before one of their “raids”
- in many cases, there will be little to no difference between ICE and LEO. Both are putting on brown shirts and violently attacking their own communities.
Fascism can only be perpetuated when fascists do not fear being killed. If you are not with them, they will gladly kill you – it’s time you took steps to protect yourself and your community.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 weeks ago:
He’s gone even further off the rez: “Tariff supporters are socialists”.
Like, no. It’s the exact opposite.
- Comment on Anon has a female friend 1 month ago:
Our current western culture is one of violent misandry.
Women are being released from almost all historical expectations and constraints, which is wonderful and good. This is actual progress in action, however lopsided and gender-supremacy-like it might be.
Meanwhile, men are still constrained by all the historical expectations set out for them, yet have been completely stripped of all benefits that have traditionally accrued with those expectations being met. And yet, we are still being violently nailed to the wall - invariably by women ignoring and/or outright demeaning us - when we fail to meet those expectations.
This massive asymmetry that men experience is what is creating subgroups of disaffected men. Because 1ncels don’t just leap out of the ground, fully formed – they are a direct response to the unintended consequences of women trying to eat their cake and to have it as well. Think about that next time women refuse to date down, or demand a “666 man”, or expect the man to pay on the first date, or any other archaic and gender-bigoted expectation.
- Comment on Jack Dorsey would like to ‘delete all IP law’. 1 month ago:
This ignores that the inventor has less motivation to actually invent. Author have less motivation to create.
Tell me you haven’t read the entire book without actually saying you haven’t done much more than browse a few pages.
- Comment on Jack Dorsey would like to ‘delete all IP law’. 1 month ago:
Businesses were innovative long before patents and copyright became a thing. In fact, evidence shows that society was more innovative without patents and copyright than with.
For your reading pleasure:
- Comment on Anon has a female friend 1 month ago:
IME the vast majority of women have no clue how to react to being rejected, because it almost never happens to them. As such, nearly all react badly or maladaptively regardless of conditions.
Conversely, for most men they have to endure rejection hundreds if not thousands of times before they strike it lucky. The small cohort that become maladaptive do so due to other social/societal reasons associated with the rejection, but vanishingly few react maladaptively purely because of the rejection.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 2 months ago:
I had a physics professor tell me about free energy. Having a degree is not 100% effective in curing stupid.
There are physicists that don’t believe in anthropogenic climate change, and that is to be expected because that subject isn’t in their wheelhouse; it isn’t their bread-and-butter. So they are lacking a lot of the data that would allow them to make correct decisions regarding factuality.
But when most of an academic field is saying the exact same thing about a core subject that is at the foundation of their discipline, imma not gonna be arrogant enough to presume that they’re wrong. I’m going to take them exactly at their word.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 2 months ago:
sure thing, incel
Tell me you know nothing about that word without saying you are ignorant AF about that word, and are only throwing it around as a weapon in an attempt to publicly shame me into being quiet.
So: nice ad hominem. You clearly have absolutely nothing of substance in which to counter the message, so instead you attack the speaker.
Truly an effective way of winning arguments! /s
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 2 months ago:
I would honestly say your friend misunderstood the message as well if that was her takeaway.
Unlikely - she was and still is a professor teaching women’s studies at the local university. Published, too. She’s hardly a nobody.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 2 months ago:
But making an unsolicited approach, and wholly lacking the experience and social expertise to recognize that the women wanted nothing to do with you, and is actually embarrassed by your presence, confers a non-trivial and very real risk of police presence.
And that is while also being wholly non-threatening and totally harmless. Absolutely oblivious to social conditions, sure, but also absolutely not a danger and receptive to clear and unambiguous language – which was never provided until the cops provided it for her.
Yes, actually saw this happen IRL. Poor dude was absolutely mortified, which likely made him think thrice of ever making another unsolicited approach and definitely nerfing any possibility of becoming more experienced at interacting with women.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 2 months ago:
For the average man making unsolicited approaches, the latest stats I have seen tend to bounce between the 1-in-300 and the 1-in-1,500 range of a successful approach per total attempts. And this is just first-date-is-successful territory, it gets a good magnitude worse if you are looking for an LTR.
From what I understand, the flip side is a lot lower: an average women making unsolicited approaches to men seem to be hitting a 1-in-5 to 1-in-20 success range, depending on conditions
So yeah, being a man outside of the desirable 10% is indeed playing on hard mode. And from what I can see, things have only gotten much, much worse for the average man in the last few decades since I was young. I don’t envy young men these days, at all.
I don’t know what I’m doing wrong
You are suffering from a lack of experience.
Women have the ability to learn by proxy, when having intimate conversations with sisters, mothers, aunts, and other female role models. This gives them a massive buff long before they ever begin dating, because they are able to gain an emotional roadmap of how things go down, and then build on that with experience.
Men don’t have this same transfer of knowledge, nor are we even psychologically set up to build one, so in aggregate we are massively nerfed straight out of the gate. This means our only way of learning is via direct experience and sheer volume: you need to circulate and learn from your experiences in order to percolate. It sucks, but that’s the breaks. The rare guy will get lucky straight out of the gate. The vast majority, however, will have to approach and be rejected by many hundreds to even thousands of women before they “find their groove” enough to catch a break.
And your own insecurities are working against you: being nervous, desperate, or unsure of yourself is something that women - again, through that buff of intergenerational information transfer - are able to “smell” almost instinctively. If you want to vanquish those issues, you quite literally need to work on yourself, to focus on improving yourself and gaining confidence within yourself by overcoming obstacles and challenges that you set for yourself.
Stoicism can assist in helping you become a better version of yourself, in becoming intrinsically motivated such that companionship shifts away from being a clawing need to merely a value-added proposition.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 2 months ago:
It wasn’t “Do not, under any circumstances, speak to a woman”
Actually, as explained to me by a woman, it was exactly that.
This was well after I had married, somewhere in my fifth decade, so I was off that particular playing field for quite some time by that point. But on a lark I had asked a feminist what this “leave women alone” refrain meant. And some of it made perfect sense: don’t hit up cashiers or anyone doing their jobs, they’re just being nice and friendly because they are being paid to be polite.
But it also meant don’t approach women when they’re shopping for groceries, as they’re probably tired from work and just want to go home. Don’t approach women on public transportation, as they’re just trying to get home and don’t want to be accosted in a cramped public venue. Don’t approach women when they’re out with friends, because they are with friends and don’t want to be cleaved off like how a predator isolates a member of a herd.
This went on and on, to some pretty ridiculous lengths. Whereupon I asked, “how is any man supposed to chat up a woman?”, to which she said - and no, not kidding at all - “any man who we’re interested in will understand when we’re interested in them.”
Like… telepathy. Literal telepathy.
Sure as shit, this is what a woman said to me.
Most men get absolutely zero life experience in decoding super-subtle hints, and now they’re supposed to miraculously become an expert in navigating a potentially life-destroying minefield, where the only two outcomes is magically getting it right, or risking incarceration and a criminal record when they (invariably) get it wrong?
No wonder so many men are saying “thanks, but no thanks.” I don’t blame them in the least. They’re the smart ones.
And those who are slightly less smart are at least asking the $10,000 question: why aren’t women making the first approach? I mean, isn’t that what this whole “equality of the sexes” shtick was all about? Why don’t women put their money where their mouths are, and ask MEN out, for a change? Because I can guarantee that while any normal woman will experience a certain level of rejection, it still will be several orders of magnitude less than what a similarly-normal man experiences.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 2 months ago:
Oh, absolutely! Still have mine in my desk drawer for any long-chained calculations. The Deci-Lon was the absolute GOAT in both its long and short forms.
IMHO the only slide rule that was consistently better was the Faber-Castell 2/83N.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 2 months ago:
You use a click eraser or a normal block eraser.
Only filthy casuals suffer one at the end of the pencil.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 2 months ago:
.5mm or .3mm for me, the only place I use a .7mm or a .9mm is with woodworking.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 2 months ago:
No K&E either. Which for any draftsperson, ex or current, is a heretical omission.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 2 months ago:
I find myself inordinately amused by the unsolicited vitriol of your comment. Sounds like you have a lot to unpack with that particular model.
