rekabis

@rekabis@lemmy.ca

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Just like Drax in that Guardians of the Galaxy scene⁩ ⁨⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  Power toys has the enhanced version, which is what I need due to six monitors. Yup, that cursor gets lost a lot.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon goes to therapy⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yet another one for the “Lemmy isn’t sexist” collection.

  So true equality is “sexist”? Good to know.

  The ultimate test of bigotry of any kind is to take the terms in contention and flip them. If it reads vastly different, you’ve found the bigotry in the one that is not rage-inducing.

  Here we have a female therapist failing in her job with a male patient.

  Now have a male therapist say the exact same thing to a female patient. See how that version plays out in public vs the first. Torches and pitchforks in favour of stringing up the male therapist, no?

  The entire greentext was anti-male gender bigotry writ large, and an epic fail by the therapist to go beyond her gender-unique experiences in order to understand how wildly different the typical man’s experiences are.

  As you have demonstrated, the cultivated ignorance by so-called “anti-sexist” people is absolutely stunning.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon goes to therapy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  And I am astounded at the levels of cultivated ignorance needed to not have the point leap out and bodily slap people across the face.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon goes to therapy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Could you show me some of those facts?

  On mobile, no direct access to sources. But:

  Compare the average man with the average woman. In general,

  • the man will swipe right about 100 times before he can arrange a single coffee date.

  • out of five coffee dates, four will ghost him or otherwise fail to show up, leading to one successful date per thousand attempts.

  • the average woman who asks can get the same buy-in by men for every ≈5 swipes right

  • she will see only one ghosting or otherwise failing to follow through for every ≈25 such coffee dates.

  • just managing to leverage a date is a 20:1 advantage in the woman’s favour.

  • actually going on a date and not getting ghosted is about a 100:1 advantage in the woman’s favour.

  • when men were presented with a scenario where a woman met 80% of his desired attributes, about ¾ said they would gladly entertain a relationship with her.

  • when a woman was presented with the flip proposition, where a man met 80% of her desired attributes, a similar ¾ of them said the exact opposite… that they would absolutely refuse to entertain a relationship with such a man due to his glaring inadequacies.

  • when gauging women, men invariably graded them on an almost perfect bell curve, with half being above average in physical attractiveness, and half below.

  • when gauging men, women skewed the bell curve severely towards the bottom end, with slightly over 80% of men being “below average attractiveness”.

  • men’s bell curve of women shifted objectively based on how attractive the cohort of women were. A more beautiful group was shifted higher, no different than if they were just a part of a larger group.

  • women rated a more attractive group of men equally as harshly as a more random group, with 80% of them still being “below average attractiveness” regardless of how highly attractive they might be among the general population.

  • individual exceptions exist, but in general women are still very loathe to marry a man that makes less than they do, or has a less socially prestigious job than she does. Women who make more than $100k almost never marry men who make less than they do, even when that difference is almost negligible.

  • In fact, early retirement by the man (and sometimes, even just retirement at the appropriate age) precipitates 100% of all retirement-triggered divorces… which are invariably woman-initiated.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon goes to therapy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  GO OUT AND MEET PEOPLE AND FORM RELATIONSHIPS

  Inapplicable, already married for the last 20 years, together for 30 years.

  I’m taken, not blind or ignorant. I have eyes to see what is happening out there, and a functional mind with which to examine and critically analyze recorded statistics.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon goes to therapy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think the most women are smart enough to understand the differences between how men and women experience and express sexual desire, but maybe it sometimes grad school beats it out of people.

  You are so far out in left field it isn’t even funny.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon goes to therapy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Those aren’t the facts I go after. You should examine the stats that come out of things like dating apps and papers published by actual sociologists examining intergender relationships. It’s absolutely wild how it runs completely counter to what most women say.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon goes to therapy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, as usual she’s the problem. lmao

  The therapist, who is utterly unwilling to consider that a man’s reality is wildly different from her own experiences?

  Yes, absolutely.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon goes to therapy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  bro seek help

  For what? Being obsessed with reality? Putting evidence above ideology?

  Sorry, no. I know how things are like out there, I’ve seen the data.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon goes to therapy⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  she

  There’s the problem, right there. Women marinate in so much attention they just cannot understand how men can want relationships and sex, yet not be able to get it. Their brains melt down when you demonstrate how fundamentally different the male experience is.

  Men: if you want true understanding, you have a much better chance of achieving that with a male therapist.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Humans are part of the ecosystem.⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The planetary zero-impact carrying capacity for humanity is somewhere between 500 million and 2 billion, depending if we want (respectively) a first-world meat-inclusive diet or a fully vegan diet.

  Carbon emissions aside, we are indeed a plague upon the planet. Thanks to high tech, we have massively blown past our carrying capacity, and risk lowering the non-high-tech-enabled carrying capacity down into the mere tens of millions or even less. Which bodes very badly if we experience a severe civilizational collapse in the next 10-30 years (as is becoming increasingly likely) that makes building and maintaining high tech impossible.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Foot In The Door⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  But to truly beat the house you need to find that one ATM which has a transaction flaw where you can withdraw your entire balance but the withdrawal does not get recorded anywhere, and for extra measure nothing about the transaction gets recorded so they don’t even know it was you who accessed that ATM.

  Fun fact: there have been a few such cases of ATM flaws in the last few decades, either time-limited to a specific period (the hour after midnight, for example) or transaction-limited to a specific type.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨better look at it⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Pretty sure it screams at us sometimes.

  If there was an atmosphere to carry the sound, the sun would be screaming at us at just over 100db.

  For reference, sounds at 85db can start causing hearing damage after only 8hrs of exposure.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨better look at it⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s not that we’re not allowed to look at it, it’s that we have oodles of evidence on how severely damaged our vision becomes when we do look directly at it without sufficient protection, and anyone with two functional neurons to rub together isn’t going to be doing any looking unless they are wearing the appropriate vision protection.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Please tell me this is shopped.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I am sometimes forced to wear size 11 shoes, despite having 9½ feet, because so few manufacturers put out 9½ size shoes in an EEEE (quintuple wide) or oversized EEE (quadruple wide) width.

  At least a size 11 in a W (wide) is comfortable enough for me, and most shoes come in at least a wide.

  I think out of all the shoes I have ever bought, only two styles in 40 years have been wide enough to allow me to wear a 9½. I recently found that second style in a work boot that was being surplussed and no longer being produced, with the marketing that it was wide enough for any foot. Once I confirmed the comfort, I immediately bought three more pairs for a lifetime supply. That brand was Terra. Highly recommend, they’re fucking awesome work boots.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Top 200 Most Common Passwords | NordPass⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Am I unreasonably disappointed to not find “Correct Horse Battery Staple” in that list?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, a lot of that is processed foods and…

  Oh.

  Oh, Myyyyyy…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨fragile masculinity⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  IDK, I like growing and eating zucchini. Especially Ronde de Nice and Cocozelle. But you have to check pretty much every day during peak season, those suckers can go from hand-sized to arm sized in just a day or two.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Learning to drive⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes,because dad cool, mom uncool.

  Funny sexism from the 50s.

  Or maybe mom responsible adult, dad irresponsible man-child?

  It’s the funny anti-male gender bigotry of this century.

  And I don’t think great-grandpa could make a meme like this, so your characterization is probably going to be the much less likely source.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why have so many services started using single-factor passwordless authentication in the last little while?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The irony being that putting all of a user’s eggs in one basket makes things far riskier for the user, and not less.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I would give my life savings for something that eradicates them from my apartment 😌⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Animals go where the food is.

  This is why ants invade homes and create nests out in the yard. This is why spiders set up shop inside your home and mice scurry in the corners.

  If you don’t want animals like insects and rodents in your house, eliminate all possible sources of food. While some will always work their way in, the lack of food will mean they’ll always die quickly or leave just as fast as they came.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is anyone NOT steaming their Music?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I might even start making mix tapes again.

  This is when having a high-end 1989 Technics cassette deck in your 1986 VW Jetta Carat comes in really handy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How do I stop sleeping through everything?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  You would hate me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Covers the bases⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Henry Cavill.

  Look at women’s reaction to him, and tell us we’re wrong for wanting to include physical stature into our personal goals.

  So okay, maybe a Schwartzenegger physique is too much. IMO, it always was. But Cavill has a moderately achievable physique that brings out the fangirls in droves.

  And there are plenty of other swole actors who do the same. Hugh Jackman, for one. Sam Worthington. Vin Diesel. And I could drop hundreds of names, here.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon asks out a friend⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Man you are wound up so tight

  And too much of this world is painted with the same fucking brush, when that’s the worst possible thing that can be done.

  Too many people taking too many cognitive shortcuts, refusing to dig deeper or acknowledge details and differences or even accept facts and evidence over their pet ideologies because it’s too hard for their pablum-fed goldfish brains to handle.

  So I push back. Sometimes a slap in the face wakes people up when nothing else does.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon asks out a friend⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  personal insults

  Oh, yes. Because criticizing someone’s lack of real-world experience - with context - is so very much like trying to shame a person into silence using a single-word insult.

  Like, apples and oranges are the same species, no?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon asks out a friend⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve seen women in their 30s and 40s engage in it.

  It’s not restricted to higher ed or younger ages in the least.

  I’m now in my fifth decade, and no longer care to be around that kind of drama anymore, so over the last decade and a bit I have taken pains to distance myself from those social circles that engage in it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon asks out a friend⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  If you get mocked for rejecting a woman, you’re either still in school, or need to get some better friends. Because no sane, rational people would ever think less of you for who you do/don’t date.

  Tell me you have never been next to an in-group of women when one of them have been turned down, without saying you have absolutely no clue about inter-female dynamics and discussions.

  Like, holy flaming ignorance, Batman. Do you walk through life completely blind? Or have you never just observed women, especially when they don’t know another man is within earshot?

  Yes, not all women, but holy hell certainly a fair majority of them.

  Men reject women all the time, with no societal repercussions.

  The only possible conclusion I can draw: you have never rejected a woman, nor seen a woman be rejected and - more importantly - witnessed the aftermath once the woman has returned to her in-group.

  In my several decades of being an adult I’ve seen plenty of vicious whisper campaigns that targeted not only the man, but also any other woman he was even mildly friendly towards.

  And it’s directly proportional to how high a social status the man has. So maybe you’ve not personally experienced it because you have an extremely low social status? Like, double-wide-trailer low? IDK, I’m just trying to understand how you’re missing trivially-observable real-world evidence.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon asks out a friend⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  People change all the time though.

  …And? So what?

  Actually, let me rephrase that: So fucking what??

  Any decision made comes with consequences. The decision to close the metaphorical door to preserve self-respect and mental health comes with consequences. And conversely, passing someone over because you think you can do better also comes with consequences when you discover to have been unable to actually do better.

  My problem is the prevailing societal sentiment that only women have the right to say “no”. That only women have the right to close and bolt the relationship door. That men have a duty to accept a woman’s attentions no matter what, and especially if she had rejected him previously. And that he becomes a social pariah, open to mockery and vicious reputational attacks if he says no or keeps that metaphorical door closed himself.

  Sorry, that’s not how “equality” works in any way, shape, or form. That’s anti-male gender bigotry, plain and simple. There is just no other way to spin it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon asks out a friend⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Sometimes I see the gender wars between you two feels like the moden day equivalent of cointelpro.

  And some people just read waaaayyyy too much into things. Then there are people like you, who read the entire room wrong.

  Asshole behaviour and systemic gender bigotry deserves being called out. That’s all I did. Nothing more. There is only one person who lashed out here, and it wasn’t me.