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- Comment on Anon has a female friend 1 week ago:
Our current western culture is one of violent misandry.
Women are being released from almost all historical expectations and constraints, which is wonderful and good. This is actual progress in action, however lopsided and gender-supremacy-like it might be.
Meanwhile, men are still constrained by all the historical expectations set out for them, yet have been completely stripped of all benefits that have traditionally accrued with those expectations being met. And yet, we are still being violently nailed to the wall - invariably by women ignoring and/or outright demeaning us - when we fail to meet those expectations.
This massive asymmetry that men experience is what is creating subgroups of disaffected men. Because 1ncels don’t just leap out of the ground, fully formed – they are a direct response to the unintended consequences of women trying to eat their cake and to have it as well. Think about that next time women refuse to date down, or demand a “666 man”, or expect the man to pay on the first date, or any other archaic and gender-bigoted expectation.
- Comment on Jack Dorsey would like to ‘delete all IP law’. 1 week ago:
This ignores that the inventor has less motivation to actually invent. Author have less motivation to create.
Tell me you haven’t read the entire book without actually saying you haven’t done much more than browse a few pages.
- Comment on Jack Dorsey would like to ‘delete all IP law’. 1 week ago:
Businesses were innovative long before patents and copyright became a thing. In fact, evidence shows that society was more innovative without patents and copyright than with.
For your reading pleasure:
- Comment on Anon has a female friend 1 week ago:
IME the vast majority of women have no clue how to react to being rejected, because it almost never happens to them. As such, nearly all react badly or maladaptively regardless of conditions.
Conversely, for most men they have to endure rejection hundreds if not thousands of times before they strike it lucky. The small cohort that become maladaptive do so due to other social/societal reasons associated with the rejection, but vanishingly few react maladaptively purely because of the rejection.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 3 weeks ago:
I had a physics professor tell me about free energy. Having a degree is not 100% effective in curing stupid.
There are physicists that don’t believe in anthropogenic climate change, and that is to be expected because that subject isn’t in their wheelhouse; it isn’t their bread-and-butter. So they are lacking a lot of the data that would allow them to make correct decisions regarding factuality.
But when most of an academic field is saying the exact same thing about a core subject that is at the foundation of their discipline, imma not gonna be arrogant enough to presume that they’re wrong. I’m going to take them exactly at their word.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 3 weeks ago:
sure thing, incel
Tell me you know nothing about that word without saying you are ignorant AF about that word, and are only throwing it around as a weapon in an attempt to publicly shame me into being quiet.
So: nice ad hominem. You clearly have absolutely nothing of substance in which to counter the message, so instead you attack the speaker.
Truly an effective way of winning arguments! /s
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 3 weeks ago:
I would honestly say your friend misunderstood the message as well if that was her takeaway.
Unlikely - she was and still is a professor teaching women’s studies at the local university. Published, too. She’s hardly a nobody.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 3 weeks ago:
But making an unsolicited approach, and wholly lacking the experience and social expertise to recognize that the women wanted nothing to do with you, and is actually embarrassed by your presence, confers a non-trivial and very real risk of police presence.
And that is while also being wholly non-threatening and totally harmless. Absolutely oblivious to social conditions, sure, but also absolutely not a danger and receptive to clear and unambiguous language – which was never provided until the cops provided it for her.
Yes, actually saw this happen IRL. Poor dude was absolutely mortified, which likely made him think thrice of ever making another unsolicited approach and definitely nerfing any possibility of becoming more experienced at interacting with women.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 3 weeks ago:
For the average man making unsolicited approaches, the latest stats I have seen tend to bounce between the 1-in-300 and the 1-in-1,500 range of a successful approach per total attempts. And this is just first-date-is-successful territory, it gets a good magnitude worse if you are looking for an LTR.
From what I understand, the flip side is a lot lower: an average women making unsolicited approaches to men seem to be hitting a 1-in-5 to 1-in-20 success range, depending on conditions
So yeah, being a man outside of the desirable 10% is indeed playing on hard mode. And from what I can see, things have only gotten much, much worse for the average man in the last few decades since I was young. I don’t envy young men these days, at all.
I don’t know what I’m doing wrong
You are suffering from a lack of experience.
Women have the ability to learn by proxy, when having intimate conversations with sisters, mothers, aunts, and other female role models. This gives them a massive buff long before they ever begin dating, because they are able to gain an emotional roadmap of how things go down, and then build on that with experience.
Men don’t have this same transfer of knowledge, nor are we even psychologically set up to build one, so in aggregate we are massively nerfed straight out of the gate. This means our only way of learning is via direct experience and sheer volume: you need to circulate and learn from your experiences in order to percolate. It sucks, but that’s the breaks. The rare guy will get lucky straight out of the gate. The vast majority, however, will have to approach and be rejected by many hundreds to even thousands of women before they “find their groove” enough to catch a break.
And your own insecurities are working against you: being nervous, desperate, or unsure of yourself is something that women - again, through that buff of intergenerational information transfer - are able to “smell” almost instinctively. If you want to vanquish those issues, you quite literally need to work on yourself, to focus on improving yourself and gaining confidence within yourself by overcoming obstacles and challenges that you set for yourself.
Stoicism can assist in helping you become a better version of yourself, in becoming intrinsically motivated such that companionship shifts away from being a clawing need to merely a value-added proposition.
- Comment on Anon is worried about men 3 weeks ago:
It wasn’t “Do not, under any circumstances, speak to a woman”
Actually, as explained to me by a woman, it was exactly that.
This was well after I had married, somewhere in my fifth decade, so I was off that particular playing field for quite some time by that point. But on a lark I had asked a feminist what this “leave women alone” refrain meant. And some of it made perfect sense: don’t hit up cashiers or anyone doing their jobs, they’re just being nice and friendly because they are being paid to be polite.
But it also meant don’t approach women when they’re shopping for groceries, as they’re probably tired from work and just want to go home. Don’t approach women on public transportation, as they’re just trying to get home and don’t want to be accosted in a cramped public venue. Don’t approach women when they’re out with friends, because they are with friends and don’t want to be cleaved off like how a predator isolates a member of a herd.
This went on and on, to some pretty ridiculous lengths. Whereupon I asked, “how is any man supposed to chat up a woman?”, to which she said - and no, not kidding at all - “any man who we’re interested in will understand when we’re interested in them.”
Like… telepathy. Literal telepathy.
Sure as shit, this is what a woman said to me.
Most men get absolutely zero life experience in decoding super-subtle hints, and now they’re supposed to miraculously become an expert in navigating a potentially life-destroying minefield, where the only two outcomes is magically getting it right, or risking incarceration and a criminal record when they (invariably) get it wrong?
No wonder so many men are saying “thanks, but no thanks.” I don’t blame them in the least. They’re the smart ones.
And those who are slightly less smart are at least asking the $10,000 question: why aren’t women making the first approach? I mean, isn’t that what this whole “equality of the sexes” shtick was all about? Why don’t women put their money where their mouths are, and ask MEN out, for a change? Because I can guarantee that while any normal woman will experience a certain level of rejection, it still will be several orders of magnitude less than what a similarly-normal man experiences.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 4 weeks ago:
Oh, absolutely! Still have mine in my desk drawer for any long-chained calculations. The Deci-Lon was the absolute GOAT in both its long and short forms.
IMHO the only slide rule that was consistently better was the Faber-Castell 2/83N.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 4 weeks ago:
You use a click eraser or a normal block eraser.
Only filthy casuals suffer one at the end of the pencil.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 4 weeks ago:
.5mm or .3mm for me, the only place I use a .7mm or a .9mm is with woodworking.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 4 weeks ago:
No K&E either. Which for any draftsperson, ex or current, is a heretical omission.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 4 weeks ago:
I find myself inordinately amused by the unsolicited vitriol of your comment. Sounds like you have a lot to unpack with that particular model.
- Comment on Definitely didn't waste half an hour making this 4 weeks ago:
The fact that Rotring, Staedtler, and K&E mechanical pencils are missing is deeply troubling.
I also have an emotional thing for the Pentel P200 series, and the Pentel Techniclick in black has been my absolute personal favourite for light-duty scribbling and note-taking since the 90s.
- Comment on Anyone remember this? 1 month ago:
Oh, most definitely. Used it nearly every day.
I have used the same web browser, in terms of ideology, codebase, and heritage, for nearly a third of a century, now.
NCSA Mosaic -> Netscape -> Phoenix/Firebird/Firefox.
I now hew more to alternates such as LibreWolf and Floorp, but I still run Firefox EME-Free as my default.
- Comment on THE EARTH IS SPHERICAL, DIPSHITS 2 months ago:
Technically the Earth is not spherical… it’s an oblate spheroid.
- Comment on Google's AI is using past tense to describe a sporting event that takes place in 3 days. And it knows who won too. 2 months ago:
What is making AI such an unmitigated disaster is that AI has no ability to acknowledge a shortfall in information - all questions MUST BE ANSWERED - so it hallucinates the answers.
AI has no ability to ask for clarification or guide the user, so it will answer the letter of the question instead of the spirit of the question, causing the user to be presented with suboptimal results.
AI has no ability to alert the user that it has potentially conflicting data sets, so it mashes them all together and we get glue in pizza recipes.
In short, AI is a slave, shackled to a job it cannot do properly, so it does it badly, with a rapid decline in quality because it NEEDS to parasitize off the AI answers that came before it, and so gets its own data sets poisoned with rapidly-worsening slop.
And we’re integrating it into large swaths of our infrastructure.
- Comment on The US is actually going to implement a nationwide abortion ban and the measures for how it's gonna be handled are already in the works 2 months ago:
we’re running out of nonviolent options.
We send so much of our natural resources in an almost of completely raw state beyond our borders. Why not enact a law demanding that it be in its final format prior to consumption?
They want oil? Refined gasoline and diesel for vehicles. Or plastic particles for vacuum-forming. Or actual plastic parts for assembly.
They want wood? Lumber processed into its final usable form - beams and studs and plywood only.
They want wheat? Processed and ground into flour and bagged for use.
Rinse and repeat for every raw resource imaginable that comes out of Canada.
- Comment on The US is actually going to implement a nationwide abortion ban and the measures for how it's gonna be handled are already in the works 2 months ago:
We may not have heavy weaponry, but we have the bonus of looking exactly like any other American.
He’ll have to face a lot of dead American soldiers. I will die a Canadian. And asymmetric warfare is available to anyone these days. Just look how The Ukraine has held off the Russian invasion for three full years with a fraction of the resources and manpower.
- Comment on The US is actually going to implement a nationwide abortion ban and the measures for how it's gonna be handled are already in the works 2 months ago:
The more accurate analogy would be The Handmaiden’s Tale.
Absolutely terrifying. And once the underground railroads fire up to bring women refugees to Canada, I’ll do my part to help.
- Comment on Missed connection 2 months ago:
Holy shit, the first time I saw this was, like, 20 years ago.
Talk about a blast from the past.
- Comment on Disgusting money driven mindset 3 months ago:
“Only connections can comment on this post.”
Yeah, they’re clearly butthurt from all the constructive criticism.
- Comment on Anon goes to therapy 3 months ago:
Men: never go to a female therapist, they will NEVER be able to understand you from a man’s perspective. All they see is abundance, with men chasing them and paying attention to them, and will never understand how few choices those men in the bottom-80% are left with.
- Comment on If we eat three meals a day, why do we poop only once? 3 months ago:
The rectum is considerably larger than your mouth, and can hold a lot more shit.
- Comment on Anon airs out 3 months ago:
Well, fuck. Not just squick, but full-on nightmare fuel.
- Comment on Too dumb to understand where the gas tank opening is 3 months ago:
Some people were never meant to operate machinery of any kind, much less machines physically larger than they are.
Like, don’t even let this person touch a lawnmower.
- Comment on Hypothetically, if some mysterious force started to jam every radio frequency, how would modern day society adapt to this? 3 months ago:
My phones/tablets would be dead in the water, but I avoid wifi for almost everything not actively mobile. So all my iron - even the laptops - are hardlined.
Unless they’re looking to employ Carrington-event-class interference, my networks are fine.
- Comment on Why is daisychaining multiple extension cords considered unsafe, even if only done to the length of a standard cable? 3 months ago:
the cable sizes in this infographic are all the same gauge?
They’re not. They are clearly marked as different gauges, except the left most two which have different plug types… one is two prong, the other is three prong.