wonderingwanderer
@wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz
Wherever I wander I wonder whether I’ll ever find a place to call home…
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 3 minutes ago:
Keep gaslighting
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 29 minutes ago:
It’s kinda like playing russian roulette. What do you think the odds are? 1 in 6? Higher, lower?
- Comment on 50,424 AD 44 minutes ago:
I don’t know, I’m already starting to develop a shell and I’ve been practicing my sideways scuttle for 20 minutes each day…
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 1 hour ago:
Holy shit, the gaslighting is astounding lately.
No you’re right it’s totally cool to comment on women’s breasts when you’re only vaguely acquainted with them. I’m sure that won’t land you in trouble, especially if you blame it on what she’s wearing (or not wearing, in this case). I’m sure that’ll go great for you!
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 1 hour ago:
Except this meme is literally reveling in the idea of making someone uncomfortable, so your whole charade of “no this is actually mutually consensual” is a sham.
But sure, call that porn-brained. I hope next time you show your junk to the wrong person and it bites you on the ass so hard you’ll be introducing yourself to your new neighbors for the rest of your life. Don’t sweat it, I’m sure they’re just “porn-brained.” Jackass.
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 2 hours ago:
This isn’t her private space. Why would her fling’s friends be at her apartment?
If this wasn’t a power play then why would she be meming about it?
If this was projection on my part then it would be totally fine for me to hang out naked at “my fling’s” apartment while she has friends over? That would go entirely differently and you know it.
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 4 hours ago:
There’s a difference between “I’ve been naked with another adult in a mutually consensual situation” and “oh haha, let me just hang out naked to make people uncomfortable so I can laugh at them.”
Did you not read the OP?
- Comment on Only You Can Prevent Forest Fires 4 hours ago:
Goddammit, OP!
- Comment on If someone was shrunk down to the size of an ant would they be able to make a little ant sized campfire with the same principles? Does it scale like that? 6 hours ago:
You are the leading expert in the field
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 7 hours ago:
Okay, I’ll just start hanging out naked around people who didn’t agree to see my junk, and if anyone feels uncomfortable I’ll call them a prude. We’ll see how that goes.
Your anecdote about a few people who happened to be pro-nudity doesn’t change that. The same situation could’ve landed you in jail and registered as a sex offender if your audience happened to be different.
- Comment on In a hearing on data centers, a resident of Tyrone Township, Michigan, asked a simple question: Have you signed a non-disclosure agreement? Officials refused to answer 8 hours ago:
NDAs aren’t rare at all, and I wish it was surprising no one on Lemmy seems to have actual governmental experience.
Hey jackass, I had to sign an NDA when I left my government job because I held a security clearance. I know more about it than you do.
Trite quips about taco tuesday aside, government jobs require confidentiality about some things, and transparency about others. There’s no contradiction there, but ideally it should be unambiguous where the boundary is. Those things should be clearly defined.
A good start, albeit still overly simplistic, would be to say confidentiality concerning information belonging to their constituents, and transparency concerning information belonging to corporations and their donors. Unfortunately that still leaves a lot of vaguery and wiggle-room.
But I’m no policy-maker, so even if I were to write a twenty-page document defining everything in minute detail, it still wouldn’t matter.
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 9 hours ago:
Probably the last time someone said “nice tits” in this situation
- Comment on Interesting bathroom design 18 hours ago:
With a communal shewee as a courtesy to the ladies!
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 20 hours ago:
You don’t have to be part of the political class to run for office. That type of mentality is exactly how we wind up with a “political class” in-group who disenfranchises and sabotages the campaigns of any commoner who wants to run for office to serve their constituencies (i.e., their neighbors).
Besides, running for office isn’t the only thing that could be sabotaged by this. You could get blacklisted by all the companies in your area. You could get slandered on social media and lose the respect of all your friends and neighbors. Maybe you can’t go to a coffee anymore cause you won’t be able to trust that someone won’t spit in it.
All because someone recorded you saying “nice tits” and posted it devoid of the context that she was hanging out casually naked and deliberately trying to make you sweat.
- Comment on In a hearing on data centers, a resident of Tyrone Township, Michigan, asked a simple question: Have you signed a non-disclosure agreement? Officials refused to answer 20 hours ago:
I generally agree with that, but sometimes government officials have to perform official duties that require confidentiality.
If they’re intervening on behalf of a constituent and it involves medical or otherwise personal information, then they should be required to maintain confidentiality. Whether that requires an NDA or something else is a different question.
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 21 hours ago:
We are not naked in front of others who are not comfortable with themselves or others being naked.
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I’m not gonna be naked in front of someone who isn’t in on also being naked.That’s not what this post is about.
Maybe google the word “Consent”. It might do you a world of wonders.
Sounds like something you should tell OP…
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 21 hours ago:
This isn’t at her own house though. Her fling’s friends are around, so chances are it’s at her fling’s house.
I mean what if I as a man were to decide to hang out naked at “a fling’s” house when her friends are over and I didn’t ask any of them if they’d be comfortable with me taking my clothes off? Suddenly the situation seems different, right?
This is just the same old casual minimization of men’s concerns when their boundaries or consent is being violated, because “You’re a man so you should just shut up and enjoy this. Consider yourself lucky to bask in the presence of my feminine nakedness.”
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 21 hours ago:
That’s not what this post is about, this is obviously about doing it in front of someone who hasn’t been consulted about it and is visibly uncomfortable.
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 21 hours ago:
And the wrong glance or stray word and they might fly off the handle accusing you of sexual violence when it was their choice to be casually naked into front of you in the first place.
Looking isn’t violence, of course, but that won’t stop them from accusing you of victim blaming with a sarcastic “wHaT wAs ShE wEaRiNg?”
I’d be uncomfortable in the same way I’d be uncomfortable if someone were to force me to play russian roulette.
- Comment on i wonder what goes through men's minds in this situation 21 hours ago:
If you don’t play their power game then they wind up with a recording of you saying that which they’ll save indefinitely in case you ever run for political office.
Also so they can assassinate your character if you ever mildly inconvenience them.
- Comment on myrmecology 21 hours ago:
I coulda sworn I’ve read somewhere that they make a light incision to get to the honeydew, but it could be a false memory. I’m not gonna go looking for where I read that, but I’ll accept “they eat ass” as a correct answer.
- Comment on In a hearing on data centers, a resident of Tyrone Township, Michigan, asked a simple question: Have you signed a non-disclosure agreement? Officials refused to answer 22 hours ago:
This isn’t about trade secrets, this is about elected officials doing backroom deals with corporations that actively harm their constituents, and taking active measures to reduce transparency.
- Comment on In a hearing on data centers, a resident of Tyrone Township, Michigan, asked a simple question: Have you signed a non-disclosure agreement? Officials refused to answer 22 hours ago:
It should not be legal for elected officials to sign NDAs with corporations.
That was my reaction before I even read the text at the bottom of the post.
- Comment on myrmecology 23 hours ago:
Except for the part where they breed captive aphids and corral them to and from plants so they can feed, only to lacerate their exoskeletons and feed on their secretions while keeping them alive to do it again…
- Comment on Context is for people that read US news 1 day ago:
Just sit back and watch the world burn. It’s all we can do sometimes. I don’t have much fight left in me.
Cast your vote and cross your fingers hoping enough people see reason. Maybe we’ll get a pleasant surprise? I’m cautiously hopeful about these midterms.
Other than that, all I can really do is argue with people on the fediverse. It’s not much, and I don’t expect to convince the people I argue with. But if I can show a few bystanders another perspective which makes them think for themselves and come to their own conclusions, then maybe just maybe it’ll be enough to combat just a sliver of the concerted disinformation campaign that’s already done so much damage
- Comment on Let it sink in. 1 day ago:
I wish, but I don’t get it. Is holding the thumb up while flipping the bird a British thing?
- Comment on Let it sink in. 1 day ago:
5 is pretty funny too
- Comment on Context is for people that read US news 1 day ago:
Subtext is not “making up bullshit” and if you think it’s the same thing then you really are dense.
- Comment on Context is for people that read US news 2 days ago:
No, there’s a difference between strawmanning and subtext, and the fact that you refuse to see that tells me all I need to know.
- Comment on Context is for people that read US news 2 days ago:
It would be a lot harder for right-wingers to sell this insane caricature of leftists to the average voter if there weren’t so many tankies out there behaving exactly like the caricature.