Hacksaw
@Hacksaw@lemmy.ca
- Comment on What do office workers actually do? 4 weeks ago:
The idea of letting young engineers at a university design production equipment is WILD to me. Universities make PROTOTYPES. The gap between prototype and reliable production equipment is so big you could drive a bus through it.
A good production engineer is worth their weight in gold but when you have shitty ones you’re better off letting the workers run the ship. At least they know what’s happening and where the hangups are. You’ll know a good engineer because they’re down talking to the lead hands on the shop floor because they want to understand what’s actually happening and run ideas through the shop before they fuck with things.
- Comment on Anon has his way 4 weeks ago:
That’s quite fair and nuanced. I’m not 100% on what you said but I think your views are well supported.
I think we differ in that you’re mentioning things that are likely to be successful in current society. Which is probably going to be the main factor in short term sexual relationships.
I’m looking at it from the perspective of qualities of a good sexual partner which is going to be more important in long term relationships for most people.
I think both views are important. I appreciate the discussion.
- Comment on Anon has his way 4 weeks ago:
I understand that people in “casual” settings don’t generally understand kink, but the sub is the one with actual power in the dynamic and has to frame the encounter. Whereas most doms are pretty flexible in what tools is techniques they’re willing to engage in, it’s the sub’s boundaries that generally frame the encounter. Especially in “casual” scenes where it’s more likely that none of the sub’s asks are out of bounds for the dom.
Kink is about exploring fetishes in a safe way that’s enjoyable to all participants. This type of “rough sex” often including breath play isn’t as casual as most participants believe. If you’re a sub and that’s your fetish then it’s best for everyone involved to get more serious about Safe Sane Consensual sex.
It’s the same problem as 50 shades of grey where someone with a Dom/sub fetish engages in dangerously unsafe and non-consensual sex but it’s “sexy” coded in the movie. In real life the kind of guy that would break past all your boundaries and do perform violent sex acts whether you wanted it not is a violent, dangerous person. In an SSC setting, these encounters are negotiated ahead of time (and more subtly during the scene), openly and without an unbalanced power dynamic.
- Comment on Microsoft faces growing unrest over role in Israel’s war on Gaza: ‘Close to a tipping point’ 4 weeks ago:
If anyone is wondering what happened here (since half the comment section got nuked): it was mostly a political discussion not related to technology that was rightfully removed by mod imo.
- Comment on Anon has his way 4 weeks ago:
!bdsm@lemmynsfw.com was supposed to be that, if you read the stickied posts it’s still supposed to be that. But it’s mostly porn atm.
I haven’t found an active kink community in the Lemmyverse, but I haven’t looked very hard.
- Comment on Anon has his way 4 weeks ago:
From personal experience in casual settings it’s femme/sub coded people that tend to oppose enthusiastic consent. The idea of “agreeing” to various acts doesn’t feel “subby” enough.
I suspect the casual femme/sub role is mentally coded the same was bodice rippers/literary smut content is where a strong masc/dom appears and coercively satisfies all the femme/subs desires without real communication occurring freeing the femme/sub from the “shame” of accepting and expressing their femme/sub desires.
I think it would be, to me, difficult for the concept of enthusiastic consent to come from just one side of the equation. Both partners have to find it sexy for it to be sexy. It needs to enter our sexual zeitgeist, likely through advocacy and proper sexual education.
I have a hard time understanding how to people asking for what they want and expressing what they’d like to do could possibly be unsexy to anyone. Like I’m watching everyone get off and have their sexual needs validated and acted on. Non enthusiastic consent sex is SOMETIMES hot like the movies where two people are on the same wavelength and effortlessly act on eachothers desires. MOST of the time it’s awkward lack of communication leading to uncomfortable positions and the partners ESPECIALLY the femme/sub role having ALMOST what they want, getting CLOSE to amazing orgasm(s), but through lack of communication not really getting there, or settling for less.
Ironically the people who most consistently have “sexy hot movie sex” without having to talk are people who have been having enthusiastic consent sex for a few weeks or months and are playing out a scene they both understand.
Whew, thinking all this out is making me feel some kind of ways!
- Comment on Anon has his way 4 weeks ago:
Enthusiastic consent is so sexy! I also love open scene planning beforehand for kinkier sex so that everyone gets what they want out of it and avoid things they don’t want.
A lot of people still find both unsexy and think sex should both be purely spontaneous AND meet all their kinks somehow.
- Comment on In heat 4 weeks ago:
I use duck duck go as well. I wish it wasn’t just anonymised Bing search. One of these days I’ll look into an open source independent search engine.
- Comment on Anon has his way 4 weeks ago:
“do what you want to me” is my least favourite dirty talk. The base idea is that we both currently WANT to do the same dirty rough sex but for some reason we’re not doing it. What makes her think he’s NOT doing what he wants right now? What if he’s a for fetishist and wants to put her foot in his mouth and jerk off? What if he just wants her to eat his ass?
Clearly “do what you want to me” doesn’t mean do what you want to me. “do what you want to me” means “I have a specific type of rough sex in mind but I’m not able to express my desires clearly, so I’ve projected them into my partner and I’ve made it their responsibility to understand me and do the right type of sex stuff to me”
I know this is basically an unhinged response to a greentext but I’ve had so many bad experiences with that specific line. Is wanting clear communication before and during sex about the sex we’re about to perform too much to ask for?
- Comment on Microsoft faces growing unrest over role in Israel’s war on Gaza: ‘Close to a tipping point’ 4 weeks ago:
He changed his legal name to “Nazi Apologist”, unfortunately.
- Comment on Microsoft faces growing unrest over role in Israel’s war on Gaza: ‘Close to a tipping point’ 4 weeks ago:
LMFAO I’ve got you tagged as “Nazi apologist” ever since the thread where you were defending Musk and his Nazi salutes and his Nazi cars.
Love to see that the “straw that broke the Nazi apologists back” was about opposing complicity in genocide!
Good riddance. You shouldn’t just leave this community, leave Lemmy altogether!
- Comment on My ravioli bowl won't unstick. Took about an hour of prying, and still I couldn't unstick the plate. 5 weeks ago:
1kN is equivalent to lifting 100kg… 220lb for our imperial friends… I don’t think I could put that much force on a plate and bowl I was trying not to break
- Comment on no ragrets 2 months ago:
Oh yeah, we definitely form close knit family and community units with dispersed hierarchy instead of giving all the bananas and power to a small handful of apes who can then impose their will on everyone else…
- Comment on It's just a Planck bro 3 months ago:
Max Planck: I just discovered the shortest amount of time something can last any ideas what I should name it? Marie Planck: Planck time Max Planck: :'(
- Comment on I don't have to check the price because I know I can't afford it. 4 months ago:
Having to save us a couple hundred dollars to be able to go on a dinner and movie type date isn’t the same as just being able to do that impromptu knowing it’s okay.
Both are nice though, but one has a lot less stress overall in life.
- Comment on Is it worth investing if I can only contribute $50 a month? 4 months ago:
To overcome inflation you need returns higher than inflation. That’s it. Historically the markets outperform inflation. You’re saying things out of fear and not reality.
- Comment on Charities of Employees from "non-profit" I was going to donate too 5 months ago:
I want someone who would choose to spend a million/year on the animals instead of on themselves.
That video is garbage, you REALLY think the “best and brightest” are the ones making millions? It’s the well connected. The people who make and break lives like chips on a poker table over a game of golf. The people who hang out on Epstein’s Island. They’re the only ones making millions per year.
The best and brightest are slaving away in universities and companies making meager salaries. The ones who have to fight for every cent that goes towards their innovation and research, who have to convince shareholders that every dollar they invest will give them a thousand back.
Let those people run the zoo, they’ll do it for 120k. That’s millions more that can be spent on the animals by people who actually have the skills to help.
- Comment on FIGHT 5 months ago:
Researchers spend $X trying to poison groundwater, thankfully foiled by bacteria.
- Comment on This world is cruel… 5 months ago:
I think this is cool. Many of these are accessible and cheap. Most of these are “do you get out of the house and spend time on something” which is obvious. Looks like most hobbies are attractive, like even anime and cosplay have 1 out of 4 women who is into that and finds it attractive.
I also love the huge correlation between the top 15 and what men think is the top 15, the main difference is that men didn’t think hobbies were attractive enough.
I’d love to see the reversed list for what men think are attractive hobbies for a woman!
- Comment on Why do the majority of women still take their partner's last name? 5 months ago:
No child calls the ‘wrong’ person dad. Dad is an earned title between a parent and child. Ejaculating doesn’t make you a dad, just a sperm donor.
Same goes for Mom by the way unless you think adopted parents are also illegitimate.
- Comment on Goodwill is out of control 6 months ago:
Sounds like you’re the one misunderstanding goodwill. Goodwill doesn’t donate to ANY causes. Their ONLY contribution is employing disabled people and providing jobs/training. You can read it on their own website.
Who does Goodwill help? Goodwill serves those with barriers to employment. This includes individuals with disabilities, people with limited work history, those who have experienced corporate downsizing and recipients of government support programs. Goodwill’s services are designed to meet the training and placement needs of the individual. www.goodwill.org/faqs/#d7
There well known for paying their disabled employees below minimum wage while paying local store CEOs hundreds of thousands of dollars per year.
So don’t tell me about how the high prices I pay will support charities.
- Comment on Goodwill is out of control 6 months ago:
This is a store where people GIVE away their stuff, out of the goodness of their hearts with the premise that it will be sold at a low price so that someone less fortunate can benefit. If goodwill has decided to sell the merchandise it gets for FREE at “fair market value” to the highest bidder in order to maximise profit then what’s the point of goodwill? Might as well use a consignment store and get a cut.
The exchange in “Goodwill” is that you’re donating in goodwill so your things can help others. That’s what goodwill MEANS.
- Comment on Goodwill is out of control 6 months ago:
I found dollarama products listed for $5+ at the local goodwill. Let’s not just make the blanket assumption that exploited goodwill workers are professional appraisers and that the customer is the problem.
- Comment on Very thankful 7 months ago:
Yeah. I had a dad that didn’t get laid too. Sex is in the bottom layers of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, then intimacy is up higher as well. If you’re not getting these things you’re not going to be able to hide them. Your kids won’t know why until they’re much older WHY your not happy, but that is a sadness of the soul that nothing can hide.
You ever see one of your friends the day after they get laid and you just know. That’s a kind of joy from having your needs met that you can’t fake.
You’re teaching your kids it’s OK with someone who doesn’t meet your needs. It’s not.
Be with someone who makes you happy. Let your wife do the same. Show your kids what a happy marriage and happy parents look like so they can model their relationships that way. Don’t continue the cycle.
- Comment on Very thankful 7 months ago:
It’s better to show your kids what is like to be happy and have your needs met than to show them being miserable and setling. Especially on their behalf.
Which would you rather for your kids?
Which are you showing your kids by example?
- Comment on Deficiencies 8 months ago:
Our communities are setup like that. We’re separated from eachother, and we can’t afford to spend enough time at local third places to feel community. Church also used to be central to community and most people aren’t religious, but nothing has replaced the churches role in community building.
It’s rough. If you can get out to places nearby where people congregate that will be nice. Getting a dog is nice too if you like dogs, they give you love and accept your love and they’re a good ice breaker. They also force you out regularly. You can take the dog to dog parks and chat with locals.
It’s not your fault. Humans are a social animal and we built cities and an economy that didn’t consider that.
- Comment on How bad maps win elections - Gerrymandering explained | Map Men 8 months ago:
I was going to post that video. First past the post is broken. Technology has far outpaced the idea when a YouTuber can draw harmless looking maps to not only decide elections but also decide how sensitive the election is to voters changing their minds on specific issues.
- Comment on little hopper 8 months ago:
Locusts ARE grasshoppers. If enough grasshoppers group up in the same area they literally become locusts and fuck everything up.
- Comment on [deleted] 8 months ago:
Put that on billboards in swing districts. Can’t be sued for libel because he said it. Might get Republicans but to vote. Shows on the fence voters how dumb he is (although at this point…)
- Comment on Uh oh 9 months ago:
Kanye West, the disgraced former shoe salesman and dinner companion of Holocaust-denier Nick Fuentes