Hacksaw
@Hacksaw@lemmy.ca
- Comment on Gotta shit the right way 1 hour ago:
I’m unhappy that you corrected your comment. You’ve just destroyed a small bit of the mystery left in this world lol!
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
When the fuck did I say that? I just said you have to try. That you have to do what you can with what you have. Anon isn’t doing shit.
If you’re unable to work most decent countries have disability programs. If you’re not in a decent country, I’m sorry. Minorities and disabled people always get the worst of systemic inequality. Hopefully the world starts beheading the rich again and making things better for everyone.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
Either he CAN do something and he doesn’t want to. Or he can’t do ANYTHING and should apply for disability benefits. Every decent country has a program for severely disabled citizens.
I doubt this fictional tale is likely as written in a story without disability benefits.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
Health issues and disabilities are an obstacle. They can even be an impediment to important aspects of life. But as an adult you’re expected to do what you can with what you have.
If you’re legs are paralysed and you’re in a wheelchair you’re not expected to do the same thing an able bodied person can. That’s why every modern country supports sick and disabled people, and makes accommodations for disabled people a legal requirement while prohibiting discrimination against sick and disabled people. But if you decide to stay in bed for the rest of your life that’s not because of your disability, that’s on you.
Half the people here think his parents haven’t done enough when if anything they’ve done too much.
Another bunch of people think it’s reasonable to expect the parents to train and ready him for society at 38. As if they have magical mind control that can force him to work on his life.
That’s not how it works. Parents don’t control me, or you, or any other adults in a modern country who don’t want to be controlled. Some people just suck. Hitler sucks. Trump sucks. Anon sucks. Nothing anyone’s parents can do about it. Look at Hegseth’s mom. You think she wouldn’t force him to fix his life if she could and stop being a useless piece of shit who only harms everything he touches? She can’t.
There is only so much your parents can do to make your life good, and there is only so much they can do to make it bad. Sure it can be a lot … But by 38 you have more agency over where you are in life than they do.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
Yeah. I completely agree in that you can blame the parents as much as you blame society or capitalism for the situation.
On a societal level he shouldn’t have to fear for his life in this situation. On an individual level, this is the context we live in. If you stop enabling them you by default subject them to the un-enabled experience of the world. You can’t force an adult to improve their lives or even get therapy or help. The expectation can’t be “if your middle aged child refuses to get help you’re stuck caring for them forever” that’s an adverse incentive. At some point you have to stop enabling them and let them start taking care of their own life. In a better society we would have progressives and leftists in charge who could create a good social safety net that would help us all through these situations.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
I agree they should have kicked him out earlier, but I think the people blaming the parents would blame even harder the younger the child is.
No one is saying “he’s too old to be kicked out of the house”, they’re saying “you can’t kick a child out of the house EVER unless they’re fully prepared for life”.
What I’m saying is that after some point an adult is responsible for themselves, and that point is far below 38.
I’m also saying that it’s nice to imagine parents can prepare an adult, but parents have a very limited ability to guide or influence an adult child. If he doesn’t want to improve his situation you can’t force him to get a job, get a house, make friends, go outside, stop frequenting toxic online spaces. He’s an adult, he will just say no and not do it. You can’t even force him to get help or get therapy, or take any depressants or do literally anything to improve his life if he doesn’t want to. All you can do is give them more resources, or give them fewer resources. I think they tried both and now they’re trying “give them much less” by kicking them out.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
That’s fair, but I think you’re using a narrow definition of peers. I’m sure you found online support and communities where you could be yourself a bit more than in high school. Certainly at 16 your own journey through society, online and in person, will have a greater influence on you than your parents worldview. These are all peer influences, since there is no hierarchical relationship between you.
Your parents worldview is a starting point, and by 16 most teenagers have already started forming many opinions which oppose their parents’ worldview. That gap expands as you get older.
How much can your parents be to blame for you thinking it’s okay to be a 38 year old dependent when you have access to all the information in the world from in person and online peers, to all the media ever produced that tells you society expects more from a 38 year old. Even in this fake meme it’s clear that the parents have been telling this middle aged adult for decades that this isn’t okay. You don’t kick someone out you’ve been caring for for 38 years “all of a sudden”, it’s the last option on a very long list.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
I’m not saying they ARE doing something by themselves. I’m saying we can’t just take away their agency because of external factors.
At 38 you’re responsible for your life whether or not you had people supporting your basic needs until then. I don’t know why this is such a controversial take here.
The idea that it’s normal for your life to be WORSE when you have people providing you shelter and food and resources is insane. That’s not normal at all. This middle aged man has access to the internet and all the information in the world, they have had all the opportunity anyone had ever been given to realise they’re doing something wrong and to do something about it.
Unless you have an extreme case where a person was caged their whole lives and never had access to the external world you can’t just blame their parents anymore than you can blame capitalism or society.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 2 days ago:
People blaming the parents are idiots. The parents were likely under 38 when they had him. How can one 38 year old be responsible for themselves AND another person, but the other 38 year old isn’t given even enough agency to be responsible for themselves. Maybe it’s all the grandparents fault because the parents were pressured to have children? How far do we have to go before anyone is responsible for their own actions at 38?
A 38 year old man is middle aged. Most high school kids are already more influenced by their peers than their parents. Once you’re an adult actual parental influence is almost nil if the child wants it to be. How do you get to 38 and not have any idea of how life works? How do you get to 38 and not realise this day is coming, how can you take zero steps to get your life together? Literally every human they’ve interacted with has provided an example of how to get your shit together!
How can you blame parents for the behaviour of a middle aged man? Do you realise how hostile it is to a person to completely remove their agency like this? As if they can’t control anything about their lives?!?
- Comment on She was a liar 3 days ago:
The AI 15 years ago was photorealistic, but it couldn’t do colour… That’s the main difference between old AI in 2011 in Obama’s first term and new AI… It’s the colour and it cost us extra fingers and sometimes gymnasts turn into Eldritch horrors… But at least we have colour
- Comment on She was a liar 3 days ago:
You’d have to be an idiot to think Helen Keller was a fraud.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ch_H8pt9M8
Here is a video where she’s clearly speaking. She speaks like a deaf person, obviously. She reads Braille like a blind person.
If you can speak this well, and read books, you can think and write anything.
Every argument I’ve heard against HK acts as if seeing and hearing can help you understand complex concepts like love. As if people love with their eyes and ears.
- Comment on I got your 6-7 right here, kids! 3 days ago:
God aborts the whole world Christians: this is fine Woman aborts one foetus Christians: burn her, she’s a witch
- Comment on How to deal with people who obtusely miss your point on Lemmy? 6 days ago:
“Wow you expressed basic human vulnerability about one of your problems and asked for help? I can’t empathise with someone as crazy as that! I think only a professional can help you, maybe even only God. You’re really messed up. Legitimately I’m not trying to be mean or condescending”
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 6 days ago:
Good
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 1 week ago:
Cyclists should do whatever they need to do to feel safe and all the car brained morons can STFU. Many bike lanes are poorly planned and are more dangerous than the road. You legally have to share the road with all legal road traffic and if that slows you down a few minutes then you need to suck it up and cope.
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 1 week ago:
Dude… masking is important… A lot of neurodivergent, or even NT self soothing behaviour are really aggravating to be around, especially repetitive noisemaking… Most ND kids can not tolerate being around repetitive noisemaking, but also use it to self sooth. That combination is a recipe for disaster.
If it weren’t for SOME masking, many kids would just have to be isolated 99% of the time.
Masking is part of what we all do to get along, it’s just that for NDs it can be excessively demanding, or particularly risky…
That being said, I hope you find more people you can at least RELAX the masking a bit around…
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 1 week ago:
This is the real bullshit take. “Keep them all away from me”? Who the fuck are you, the fucking Queen?
You were a kid once and everyone else put up with your shit, and you’ll put up with the other kids around you like a big boy and shut up about it. Kids are how our civilization got here. It’s how you got here.
Not wanting kids, not seeking out kids, all that stuff… 100% legit. Pressuring people into having kids they don’t want sucks ass, growing up as an unwanted kid is probably a big part of anti-natalism anyways… No one should feel like they need to have kids unless they really want to.
But being offended by seeing kids in public is pants on head stupid… Like yeah, you don’t like kids so I guess either we end as a species or all the kids grow up in the mines or something so you don’t have to see any …
Just the worst take…
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 1 week ago:
That’s dumb. No one who opposes cars and trucks in cities oppose vehicular deliveries in appropriate sized vehicles
- Comment on No one could have seen this coming 3 weeks ago:
There was a comic on here a while back that had a hungry guy walk up to the grocer and ask for a job. The grocer said no. Then he asked for food and the grocer said no. So he took the food.
If you can’t get what you need to survive using the social system (unfortunately it’s currently poorly regulated crony capitalism), and you can’t get what you need through charity, then you TAKE what you need to survive.
Any system that lets you die when you were willing to work is a failed system.
- Comment on Gotta shit the right way 3 weeks ago:
“you are more valuable when going to the toilet” is the most mysterious thing I’ve read all week.
Why? To whom? What specifically about the toilet? Does my value also increase at urinals? What about if I shit in the woods?
So many questions.
- Comment on Anon is 23 3 weeks ago:
This sounds like one of those things where for 299.99 you too can discover this one skill. Then you sell a 2 week bootcamp where you teach people that skill and it turns out the skill is just applying to lots of jobs.
- Comment on [deleted] 3 weeks ago:
I’ve got you tagged as “solid dude” for some reason and you’ve never let me down. Every comment is solid!
- Comment on Anon tries dating apps 3 weeks ago:
What I said has nothing to do with chads and Stacey’s. It’s an outcome of an almost 4:1 gender ratios on dating apps. The outcomes are the same in anything that’s badly matched. 4:1 jobs to employees means employees will jump ship at the slightest hiccup seeking greener pastures with very little getting done. The opposite ratio is of course worse with employees being abused in every way like in every recession.
Any time the ideal ratio is 1:1 and you throw it off that hard you’re going to have dysfunctional human behaviour because we’re not designed to have so many options. We evolved in deep scarcity and a key aspect of our survival was optimizing our choices. When we have no choices, or too many choices we are dysfunctional. Fuck even too many brands of shampoo is stressful to choose from.
I’m not judging anyone or stereotyping anyone here. The same would happen with reversed genders. It’s just dysfunctional human behaviour because of shitty algorithms.
- Comment on Anon tries dating apps 3 weeks ago:
No, the problem with dating apps for women is that there are tons of “regular” guys looking for a relationship, but because of the gender ratios there are also quite a few “top 5%” guys relative to the number of women. Guys that are very attractive and have great charisma, the kind you’d see on the bachelorette or similar shows.
What ends up happening is that most women will match with these guys (the same way men will swipe right on every supermodel looking woman just in case). So you have relatively few guys dating pretty much all the women they can, because our society says that sleeping with a lot of women if you can is a great way to show you have value. And for these men there are plenty of fish in the sea and no reason to settle down so they get labeled “fuckboys”. Fundamentally these men would normally be completely inaccessible to most women, but the gender ratios on dating apps create this situation where average men don’t get any matches and average women are only dating fuckboys who don’t want a relationship. Then they leave the app and quit dating for a bit out of frustration.
In a normal setting average men and women pair up over shared interests and goals, and fuckboys date supermodels (over their shared focus on aesthetic beauty and charisma I suppose).
Obviously this is an overgeneralisation. But it’s not exactly a gendered issue since if you flip the genders you’d other still get the same dynamic. The problem on these apps is the gender ratios. You can’t have health matchmaking when there are 10 men for every woman (or vice versa).
- Comment on Brought to you by RFK Jr. 3 weeks ago:
That’s stupid. We have foster systems, adoption, orphanages, children have even survived living in the wild or with wolves. There are many non parent ways for born children to survive.
God what a stupid, el obviously false statement. If you spent half the time thinking about it as you did typing it you would have deleted it in shame.
- Comment on Brought to you by RFK Jr. 3 weeks ago:
All fetuses are non-viable without being allowed parasitic access to the mother’s bodily resources.
- Comment on How many people have driven right into that wall 5 weeks ago:
It’s on Twitter. The fact you don’t want to see it on Twitter doesn’t create a requirement for me to provide it for you elsewhere. You’re the one claiming this whole thing is a fake news media hoax smear campaign destined to make Tesla look bad (as if we need a hoax smear campaign to do that when they’re constantly killing, burning, and downing their occupants).
- Comment on How many people have driven right into that wall 5 weeks ago:
Good job responding to my arguments. I guess you were too busy gargling muskrat ballsack to put together a thought more complex than “I’m not a musky fanboy, you’re the Rober and fake news media fanboy”
- Comment on How many people have driven right into that wall 5 weeks ago:
And you Musk fanboys are the only ones to have cracked the case that got by everyone else and every reporting journalist. Mark Rober and the Fake News Media trying to attack your best boy genius and self made trillionaire musky boy. Wow! A real Inspecteur Clouseau the lot of you!
- Comment on How many people have driven right into that wall 5 weeks ago:
LMAO “autopilot disengaged itself just before the crash so it doesn’t count”