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Anon dates a 19 y/o

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Submitted ⁨⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works⁩ to ⁨greentext@sh.itjust.works⁩

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  • ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world ⁨43⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago
    > be me 34
> decide to look for a hag around my age
> most of them have at least one kid, usually the annoying kind, and only see you as a babysitter
> same ones are also super focused on their kids, no hobbies, no interests, no life
> most of them seem to be super conservative
> some of them are so bigoted they can only talk about "those people"
> finally found someone who's bearable for more than 20 minutes
> never mind, she's alcoholic
> finally found someone not alcoholic and is bearable for even more time
> never mind, she's both 300+km away and also married
How do I find hot singles on the fediverse? I'm not reinstalling Tinder!
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    • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

      I tried that with Reddit. Parents cockblocked me. Had nothing but my missed life to think about in the meantime, so my mental health slips, and I ask who besides Serial killers and rapists deserves to die (looking for a description of myself in the answers).

      Implying someone’s life is worth more than others is a big no no on Reddit.

      Get permabanned for inciting violence.

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  • MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    His date:

    Image

    Source: Brainrot Girlfriend

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    • AppleTea@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      Love that we’re making imaginary [gen-z/gen alpha/gen whatever the hell arbitrary title] the same way our parents and grandparents made imaginary millennials to get mad at.

      The Silent Generation called their kids “Generation Me”

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  • neukenindekeuken@sh.itjust.works ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    And now you understand why older men dating young girls is creepy, even if legal.

    They have nothing in common. There’s no way. It’s pure physical attraction above all else.

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    • Honytawk@lemmy.zip ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Or both sides like to learn from each other and grow towards each other over time?

      There are worse reasons why an extreme age gap is seen as creepy, “not knowing each others interests” is not one of them.

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    • shalafi@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I’m 54 and most of the people I know are in their early 20s. We get along great and have plenty to talk about.

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      • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨minute⁩ ago

        You don’t date though. A lot of people I know are young. Who else tf you going to meet nowadays.

        Though I’d date 25+, screw 22+, not younger.

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      • mic_check_one_two@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Yeah, I’m in my mid 30’s and my best friend is nearing 50. Believe it or not, people can have common interests that aren’t entirely reliant on their age.

        Though I will say that age becomes less relevant as you get older… A 29 year old dating a 19 year old is pretty universally creepy, but few people would say the same about a 49 year old dating a 39 year old. Same age gap, but it’s assumed that the 39 year old has enough life experience to actually make their own decisions. Even in my mid-20’s, I was looking at 19 year olds as if they were literal children. There’s a lot of maturing that happens in the late teens and early 20’s.

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      • neukenindekeuken@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Sure, but there’s a difference between hanging out with some 20 year olds, and being romantically involved with them.

        The latter requires a hell of a lot of maturity and being in a similar place in life to deal with things life throws at you. The former just requires laughing at some meme together you both find funny.

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      • thermal_shock@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Friends and dating are not the same.

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  • deathbird@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    OP if still on 4chan. Lingo aside I’d say he’s in his maturity range.

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    • Psythik@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

      Also 19 and 29 are both still Gen Z.

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      • InternetCitizen2@lemmy.world ⁨57⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

        Is 30 the oldest genz or the youngest millennial?

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  • kadaverin0@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I dated a 19 year old at 22 and even in that relatively minor gap there was palpable divide in mindset and priorities. I was looking to start a career and get my life established. She graduated high school a few month prior to turning 19 and just wanted to get high and watch musicals.

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    • Hadriscus@jlai.lu ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      That’s the mindset of plenty of people at 25 or 30 even. I think personal development/priorities are to blame more so than the age gap

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    • DeadMartyr@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I was barely 23 and am currently dating the same girl I met who was 19. (Its about to be 2 years woo!)

      I had just gotten out of military so most girls in my classes were 3-4 years younger and I wasn’t interested in dating (I like women a bit older than me) but she wreckingballed into my life because she saw something she wanted and actively attempted to get it.

      This is the best relationship I’ve ever had but I won’t deny that sometimes the response I get to something serious and wanting to plan ahead is met by my partner suggesting I move into the city (alone) to be closer just so she knows what it’s like to have a boyfriend in the city.

      Her focuses right now are being young and getting her excitement now before she has to square away. She used to think everyone has a stoner era and that was just what people did, so she was surprised how anti-drug/vice I was. The mental divide is definitely something I would warn people about when dating with age differences.

      I dont understand the guys that date fresh 18 year olds in their near 30’s, I know its legal but I genuinely dont understand what a 30 year old would find so interesting about an 18 year old other than just trying to bang/control them.

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      • ThunderQueen@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        In our modern world, i often forget that some guys like to date older too. I have a crush on a guy a couple years younger than me and have just kind of not done anything because we are coworkers and I fear he’ll reject me for who i am, but thanks for the reminder

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  • sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Can’t fathom calling a 28 year old a hag 💀

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    • Cheradenine@sh.itjust.works ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      You haven’t seen the 28 year olds Anon dates

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      • MintyFresh@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        They’re 48 in crackhead years.

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    • GissaMittJobb@lemmy.ml ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Late-stage brainrot

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    • TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      My man just wants to fuck children.

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    • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      It’s a similar joke to calling 30-yos boomers

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  • HalfSalesman@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I date/have sex with who I’m physically attracted to. Otherwise I’m OK if we just stay friends. Us having stuff in common doesn’t make me horny for them or want to romance them.

    If we have nothing in common because of an age gap, then the sexual relationship becomes a reason to learn about them. As long as we agree with each other on politics.

    That said I have no expectations, admittedly atm all I’ve been getting is one night stands every once in a while and I’d like deeper relationships (I’m poly). But fuck maybe I just wont get one. shrugs I’ll just keep trying until I get one.

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  • Grass@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    people both younger and older than me talk like this and I just want to go anywhere else every time I hear it

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    • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      No cap

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      • MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

        fr fr

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      • RickyRigatoni@retrolemmy.com ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        ong

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  • ICastFist@programming.dev ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    The brainrot is real, even with “old hags”. My ex was 3 years younger than me, but she was an avid tiktok scroller. I was often being shown and taught about new “memes” that everyone promptly forgot about by the next week.

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  • Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    When did we as a society give up on the “½ X +7” minimum dating age formula?

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    • FauxLiving@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      When we decided to mind our own business and stop moralizing other people’s relationships based on our personal feelings.

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      • sleen@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Exactly, this “rule” is really just equivalent to other forms of snake oil there is. It is baseless and completely made up.

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      • sleen@lemmy.zip ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        What’s interesting is this rule apparently originated from the early 1900s.

        lemmy.zip/comment/21531881

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    • chunes@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Probably about the time that we decided that a certain age means you’re an adult and can, in fact, make decisions for yourself

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    • Simulation6@sopuli.xyz ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Just FYI, this rule falls apart after a certain age (in the 60s or 70s).

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      • Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        That’s not the only thing that falls apart in your seventies, eyyyy

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      • Damage@feddit.it ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        I mean, once you’re both above 30 who fucking cares

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      • jballs@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Nah I think it holds up. Bill Belichick, 73, was in the news for dating a 24 year old and it’s not only as creepy and gross, but also like she’s taking advantage of him by inserting herself into his interviews.

        If he were dating a 43 year old, I don’t think anyone would be nearly as concerned.

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      • AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        After that age, the older party is essentially a lottery ticket

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    • Nikls94@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Wow that actually makes sense.

      But then again, I’m born 1994, there’s not so many I can actually date. I have like 1990 - 1998 available, and they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together: those younger are TikTok addicted, those older are Facebook-relicts. I’m in limbo where I know all of that but don’t like anything.

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      • abysmalpoptart@lemmy.world ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Just for a little context, the minimum age being ((your age / 2)+7) is meant to be “this is the minimum age of someone you can date without it being creepy” (i believe it originated from the TV show how i met your mother)

        If you were born in 1994 you are either 30 or 31. Let’s call it 30 for easy math.

        30/2 = 15 15+7=22

        So anyone who is 22 or older fits the minimum age concept, which is anyone born in approx 2002/2003 or earlier. If you decided to include that, the extra 4-5 years does increase the dating pool quite a bit.

        I’m not telling you who to date, just giving a little context to the math since that’s what was brought up in the original comment.

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      • antonim@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨11⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        to those who downvoted, why?

        Because of this part:

        they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together

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      • AtariDump@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        …those younger are TikTok addicted, those older are Facebook-relicts.

        You’re being very assuming with people and that’s why the downvotes.

        Not every person will be “TikTok addicted” or “Facebook-relicts”, you’re just assuming they are which is only affecting your own chances finding someone.

        Try just getting to know someone first before you start assuming about their interests or what they do.

        … and they must be an only child or have siblings within that age as well, otherwise the interests are not overlapping enough to spend time together…

        Who says you have to spend time with your SO’s siblings for any great length of time? Parties and holidays you can get through, but it’s not like you’re going to go live with the family.

        You and your SO should both have your own friends and hobbies (in addition to joint friends/hobbies). I’m not trying to crap on having a relationship with your SO’s family, just that it’s not mandatory.

        I feel like removing these two arbitrary requirements would vastly increase your dating pool. I get that people are looking for traits in a potential partner (doesn’t smoke / drinks / poly / not-poly / uses Arch) but the ones you’ve picked are just self limiting

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      • ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        The clumsy portmanteau of facebook and derelicts if I had to guess. That one is just dreadful. Go with Facebougoise or something, The Faceborg maybe (I actually like that one), something like that.

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  • P1k1e@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I once made the mistake of dating someone 12 years younger than me (she was 25). Man, what a mistake, nevermind the cultural differences, her emotional maturity was…intolerable, and this from a person I’d considered a friend for a year already. It was the first and last time iv ever done that.

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  • sleen@lemmy.zip ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    OP doesn’t understand what cultural progression is. Of course different people gonna do stuff differently as time progresses, the class she was when you where in high school is just irrelevant.

    This is the case where op just has skill issue, and is stuck in the past like a boomer he is.

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    • Lucky_777@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      When you call someone born in the late 1990s a boomer though. It might be “hip” or “trendy” to do. But Boomers were born in the 50s man. Young kids calling adults from different generations “Boomers” just makes you sound like you didn’t pay attention in history class.

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      • Darkenfolk@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Language transforms. Where before boomer would be a word for the generation born during the babyboom, nowadays it’s used for old people who are unable to keep up with the times.

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      • lemmyknow@lemmy.today ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        Born in the 1900s? What’d you do before they invented fire? Ride dinos?

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  • QueenHawlSera@sh.itjust.works ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I’m 34 dating a 25 year old myself. Which I checked, it passes the “Half your age plus 7” test

    (34 / 2 = 17 + 7 = 24) Sometimes I still feel weird about it though

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    • exasperation@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Half plus seven is just a rough rule of thumb, that tries to capture some different concepts at play.

      Personally, I never liked dating across major life milestone ages like 22, college graduation. The mid 20’s are just an important phase in developing one’s personality and sense of self, and being outside of the school environment is an important transition to learn. So when I was 30 I had a hard cutoff at 25, as I didn’t want to be with anyone who still identified with being a recent college student.

      I felt like a very different person as between 18 and 22, and between 22 and 26. But 26 wasn’t that different from 30, and 30 to 35 only saw some slight changes. It’d be hypothetical because I was already in a committed relationship after 32 or so, but when I was 35 my cutoff probably would’ve been late 20’s, and when I was 40 my cutoff would’ve probably been around 30.

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    • BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I’m just a bit older, but been there.

      I could never get past it though. I have a daughter too, and it really just takes one experience where they really remind you of your kid and… yeah, I don’t think I can do this y’all.

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    • ethaver@kbin.earth ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      @ 30 22 feels waaay too damn young. tf am I even gonna talk to this person about? I'm a decade in to a high stress high reliability industry. I'm starting to get Greg hairs! I make jokes about all the child rapists I met while working for the state! Too much happened in that 8 years between us. Too damn much.

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      • Senseless@feddit.org ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        God damn it Greg!

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  • Hadriscus@jlai.lu ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    What does that mean ? mid fr fr ? doesn’t fr mean for real ?

    Mid must mean “underwhelming”

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    • GandalftheBlack@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I think big mood is a relatable mindset

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  • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I actually vibe more with the generations after me than my own; but I would find it creepy myself to be with someone who isn’t relatively close to my own age.

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  • abbadon420@sh.itjust.works ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Maybe OP could date a 9 year old on the side, to fill the age gap. Or is OP not rich enough to pull that of?

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    • Yuki@kutsuya.dev ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Mate, who hurt you?

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    • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I never considered that the ages stack

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    • Flax_vert@feddit.uk ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Mashallah

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  • javasux@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    I have not heard someone say “big mood” in years

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    • arin@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Anon’s girl is already falling behind

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    • JandroDelSol@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      i say it al the time lol

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    • radiouser@crazypeople.online ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      Big mood!

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  • MisterNeon@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Nothing ever changes.

    Steely Dan - Hey 19

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