HalfSalesman
@HalfSalesman@lemmy.world
I don’t have access to this account during weekends.
- Comment on Just reach out 5 days ago:
The city where I socialize is where the cops would probably bother me if I was drinking a beer outside in public. Small towns here in the US are full of dipshits and bumpkins so I tend to avoid people when in one if possible.
- Comment on Just reach out 6 days ago:
In what context? His front porch?
- Comment on Just reach out 6 days ago:
“Going with the flow” doesn’t necessarily mean “blow all your life savings”, and it’s kind of ridiculous to claim that it does.
Its a good thing that isn’t what I said.
- Comment on Just reach out 6 days ago:
Even if you aren’t treating people to stuff you still end up spending money. Just being out and about costs gas in the US because everything is so spread out. You get hungry and need to eat, there’s 10-20 bucks unless you’re lugging around a lunch box with you.
You want to socialize every once and a while it’ll add up. If you want to socialize consistently (which is key to establishing strong friendships or finding a significant other) you honestly need to be touching grass everyday and then it really adds up.
Also, pay attention to my words: Trying to maintain this is unsustainable in the US. I did not say it was impossible to do once in a blue moon, but that’s not really a meaningful social life. Seeing a person for an hour once every few weeks to play frisbee at the park (or equivalent activity, in my case board games) isn’t going to create a meaningful bond. Most people in my area make maybe a little over half what I make in pay at best and I can barely afford to socialize consistently. I do almost all my socializing at work and that shit doesn’t really count.
- Comment on Just reach out 6 days ago:
You can do nice things for people that aren’t expensive.
It is easy to say this but hard to execute. If you treat people to things that are gratis or cheap a lot of people will think you are a cheapskate or miserly. At best they’ll think you are poor which also isn’t great either, because even good people don’t want to feel like they’re potentially getting into a relationship that expects them to spend more money than the friend to go out and do things with them (unless, again, they’re rich and don’t care about spending a bunch of money).
If you dress nicely go out to hang with people but skimp out on spending money people will definitely think you are a miser or penny pincher. If you go out looking like a pauper or poor schlub people will generally just avoid you. I’ve done both.
- Comment on Just reach out 6 days ago:
The meme does not only suggest a conversation is needed. It implies money is needed. “Going with the flow” in the US TBH probably will cause the average person to spend an irresponsible amount of money. I know because I’ve done that and burned a number of holes in my wallet in pursuit of friends (and intimacy). Sure it works plenty of times, but its not sustainable unless you’ve got plenty of money to burn. Most people don’t.
- Comment on Just reach out 6 days ago:
lol
- Comment on Just reach out 6 days ago:
Reach out and spend wads of money on someone. Its cool he did that but this assumes this is a sustainable means of making friends and it just isn’t.
US society is simply not structured in a way for adults to naturally make friends and it verges on being outright antagonistic to making close friends.
- Comment on Fear not, and enjoy this mere interlude to its fullest! 1 week ago:
I did not choose to be here and I resent that there are expectations put upon me when I wasn’t the reason I am here now.
I also resent that I was born just to die one day.
It is also fundamentally horrifying that so many people are born into painful awful experiences and then die, with that being more or less mostly all they knew while alive. And that some people live happy lives on its own doesn’t justify the horror in my eyes at all.
That said, I wish I could be drunk right now but I’m at work.
- Comment on New EA Owners Hoping AI Will Cut Costs And Boost Profits, It's Claimed 1 week ago:
Battlefield 6 is fucked.
- Comment on Fear not, and enjoy this mere interlude to its fullest! 1 week ago:
What I really don’t understand is bringing more people into temporarily existing without the ability to get their consent and calling it a “gift” that now they get to face the lovecraftian horror of future non-existence.
Pre-birth is not like post death. The arrow of time doesn’t reverse.
- Comment on Anon doesn't understand streamer fans 2 weeks ago:
- Comment on Anon doesn't understand streamer fans 2 weeks ago:
I’d argue that’s not completely true because in that case why not just watch porn or why watch non-sexy video game streamers who also get plenty of viewers?
I do think you are partially correct though in a way that makes it a little more depressing, I think a lot of viewers see a cute girl playing video games specifically as a combination they like so they can fantasize about specifically having a “gamer girlfriend”. But if they like that, then they’re also there for the gameplay or will inevitably get at least a little invested in it as they watch.
- Comment on Anon doesn't understand streamer fans 3 weeks ago:
I don’t watch sports either. That said, that’s not a bad point, I suppose if I got into it I theoretically could watch and enjoy competitive games. Not the same as streamers playing singleplayer games though.
- Comment on Anon doesn't understand streamer fans 3 weeks ago:
I don’t understand watching any video game streams. It just makes me want to play video games myself, why would I spoil video games by watching someone else play it?
- Comment on Anon dates a 19 y/o 3 weeks ago:
I have always been too poor until recently to really afford that until now and I’m not in my 20’s unfortunately.
I’ve been stuck in rural/suburban hell for most of my life because it was what I could afford. I could split a house with roommates easily for cheap rent. And I went to a nerdy sausage fest of a college (before I realized I was bi). I’ll admit I’m trying to make up for lost time now. I feel like I would of had more fun had I done this in my 20’s… but whatever, late is better than never I guess.
TBH, the city I’m going to move to is kind of small as well. Hopefully I can maybe move to a bigger one at some point if I can get a job in a city someday, but with this economy I think it might be a while.
- Comment on Anon dates a 19 y/o 3 weeks ago:
Yeah it kind of is. Thing is though its almost easy to avoid rightwingers for me, they don’t seem to hit spots I frequent. Men or women.
I can pretty easily look past it mostly if someone is religious (though I may engage in light ribbing because I’m an atheist).
I did have one woman try and uh… “fix” me and my atheism at a bar. She was one of those neopagan “heretic” type crystal people. It was a strange experience trying to discern what the hell she was talking about. She seemed convinced that I understood her religious rhetoric but she was on some kind of advanced reading. She had me hold a crystal she kept in her bag. Admittedly we did not end up going to bed together… She was painfully hot and I was legitimately intimidated by how hot she was and how crazy she seemed.
I kind of hope I see her again because at the very least it was kind of interesting talking to her. Then again IDK I’ll probably continue to be intimidated and nothing romantic is likely to happen between us.
- Comment on Anon dates a 19 y/o 3 weeks ago:
That said, I never really got one-night stands as a thing. If I connected with someone enough for sex, I was typically getting along well enough for friendship.
Admittedly, in my case I may be overstating the one night stand nature. I see see most of these women every once in a while out and about and they’re still friendly. However I’d not describe us as friends but more like friendly acquaintances that once had sex who sparsely see each other out in the wild. I’ve not had the chance to get in another major conversation with them and walk to a place after (I don’t live in town but I have an agreement with a friend), so maybe something more might come about but probably not. I think they knew that we did not have much in common and we were just bored and horny.
I think once I move back into town in a month or two this might change. I’ll end up seeing the same faces more often and maybe something can develop out of that more easily. Right now I commute to work, every blue moon hit a local place after work. There might not be enough frequency for solid friendship.
- Comment on Anon dates a 19 y/o 3 weeks ago:
I date/have sex with who I’m physically attracted to. Otherwise I’m OK if we just stay friends. Us having stuff in common doesn’t make me horny for them or want to romance them.
If we have nothing in common because of an age gap, then the sexual relationship becomes a reason to learn about them. As long as we agree with each other on politics.
That said I have no expectations, admittedly atm all I’ve been getting is one night stands every once in a while and I’d like deeper relationships (I’m poly). But fuck maybe I just wont get one. shrugs I’ll just keep trying until I get one.
- Comment on Anon dates a 19 y/o 3 weeks ago:
What if you like having sex with your friends?
- Comment on Posting for the "Now guys he was MURDERED! Don't celebrate!" Crowd 4 weeks ago:
Our nation has failed itself by letting Trump fucking win.
This assassination just makes it more likely I get dragged into violent civil conflict. One that could have been avoided had every anti-trump individual had fucking voted against him winning and they didn’t.
Kirk was a piece of shit but I wont be the accelerationist’s pawn. This all could have been avoided and I deeply resent that it wasn’t.
- Comment on Posting for the "Now guys he was MURDERED! Don't celebrate!" Crowd 4 weeks ago:
Not have Trump as president right now is a small first step.
- Comment on Posting for the "Now guys he was MURDERED! Don't celebrate!" Crowd 4 weeks ago:
I don’t give a shit about Charlie Kirk, rest in piss, but my celebration is mildly stunted by the fact that this is a dangerous thing to normalize and this is a massive notch in that direction given how huge of a public figure he was and the nature of his assassination being so public.
Of course, the right is largely responsible for that normalization, and Charlie Kirk’s death is actually on people like Charlie Kirk’s very hands. However, for me its just the consequences and the dark future that this seems to push us further into.
Hopefully the right fails to capitalize on his death effectively and we move onto largely forgetting about the piece of shit.
- Comment on It's been downhill since 2020 5 weeks ago:
Yes, stuff still happened, but it was all mostly local scale in consequences or temporary blips. Conflicts, economic downturns, weather events can all be huge tragedies, but an entire super power cratered in on itself in '91 and splintered into smaller countries massively rewriting the political landscape. And in 2001, 9-11 happened and its arguably a starting point for a domino effect of terrible unhinged shit that followed that also had massive global political ramifications, arguably to this very day.
- Comment on It's been downhill since 2020 5 weeks ago:
Its actually that between 1991 and 2001 that we merely had a full decade of relative stability in world events. Crazy shit stopped happening for a while and we have collectively imparted that things used to be “normal” on people born after 2001 but they’ve interpreted their own childhoods as the normal years.
- Comment on winter fans 5 weeks ago:
Winter fans are gamers and vampires. Or gamer vampires. But Summer fans want skin cancer. They crave it you see. They want their skinflesh to rebel against the tyranny of their biological code, awoken by the sun’s burning light.
But seriously, winter sucks for me right now because I have to go to work and driving in snowy conditions is miserable. And Summer sucks because the AC in my room is terrible and the sun burns me pretty bad if I’m not careful. I’m glad its only fall ATM but of course almost everyone loves fall. And most people at least like spring.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 1 month ago:
Only problem is every time I’ve been open about my autism with a person I was attracted to immediately up front their interest starts to slowly fade. Its not immediate, but I suspect they start framing everything I say or do as part of my autism and I think they lose interest because of that. Though its impossible to know, and it might be coincidence or I’m seeing patterns where there are none. So I tend to keep it to myself with in person interactions more these days.
- Comment on Anon is a fact checker 1 month ago:
I almost was in the 3.3%… dodged it by only a few years.
Then I went without for a long while after though because I mistakenly thought any sex I’d have after that would probably be equally mediocre and it wasn’t worth the effort. Realized that was stupid and I was missing out. Now I’m trying hard to get into a sexual relationship of some kind again with some minor success in the form of occasional one night stands. They’re OK fun. I think my autism makes it hard to maintain the relationships though beyond one or two nights. My masking inevitably slips a little and I say or do something cringe or rude.
I’m bi I’ve been contemplating getting on Grindr to explore my homo side a bit more but from what I hear that’s basically nothing but one night stands…
- Comment on Sad to hear it 1 month ago:
Pooh would be just as sad to have caused such a problem.
But yeah we need a new 3D Rayman but Ubisoft would ruin it anyway.
- Comment on LPT: Go get a shot, now. 1 month ago:
Yeah we’re going into flu season soon. And covid vaccines actually should be updated even more often than flu.