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Being tild you’re a lucky guy to have the girl you’re with is pretty much the height of cishet male-to-male compliments. There’s literally no compliment I would rather receive, and it’s pretty deeply ingrained in our culture.
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Submitted 3 weeks ago by violet08_@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
horn_e4_beaver@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
Being told you’re a lucky guy to have the girl you’re with is pretty much the height of cishet male-to-male compliments
I personally would be more likely to interpret that as not being told I’m not good enough for her. But that’s just me.
Bluescluestoothpaste@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
In cishet world it’s the pretty much only way to compliment another male stranger without risking sounding gay
Kanda@reddthat.com 3 weeks ago
But this guy read the game in an even more deluded way than the average reader and thought he could just say “I am the prize” and have it be true
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
This better not be real. If I went dateless for so long in my life while shit like this legitimately happens I’ll be so cross.
Nora@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
I regret to inform you shit like this happens all the time.
Malyca@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
It’s unfortunately common. Insecurity is poison.
CascadianGiraffe@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
If it makes you feel better, the quality of the people they attract is often on par with their own horrible personality.
Bruhh@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This makes me cringe on so many levels
Blackmist@feddit.uk 3 weeks ago
Well it’s nice that he got his red flag out early.
GreenBeanMachine@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I always wonder how these guys behave up until the point where they pretty much literally say “I’m a deadbeat asshole”. How do they fool these women into dating?
Sybilvane@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
People can turn on a dime, I’ve seen it happen. It’s especially infuriating because a lot of these men’s friends will only know the good version of them and refuse to believe they’re capable of being dicks.
It’s not just good acting, it’s that some men genuinely aren’t capable of treating a partner like a person and not a thing. So they can be nice to people they consider people, or to partners who are behaving they way they deem is correct. But the second you’re dating and something doesn’t fit their narrative of how things should play out, the claws come out.
Nora@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Yeah its like it doesn’t bother him when he first starts talking and dating but will suddenly switch as soon as he feels insecure.
jade52@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
I was a fool for this type of shit once. Granted, I was 17, with no emotional intelligence or confidence. He saw an opportunity to be able to control someone, and it worked. I will honestly never forgive myself for the years I wasted. Unfortunately, this is not uncommon.
Zink@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
Are they really such amazing actors
Unfortunately I don’t think they need to be good actors in the first place.
One of the lessons of the last decade of the shit show that we call human society has been that awful and/or stupid people rise to positions of power and influence every day by acting confident and promising things they can’t deliver.
The modern confidence man isn’t the thief of the street but the legitimate executive.
BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
50/50 this dude is super attractive and has never had to learn any better. I knew several of these in college. This has worked for them.
magnetosphere@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
…I’m not the lucky one, you are and that needs to be remembered.
“Why didn’t she reply, and why doesn’t she answer my calls?”
Th4tGuyII@fedia.io 3 weeks ago
Pulled a pretty girl with progressive dating values and fucking moans about it.
With a personality like that, he was the lucky one, and I'd bet many others would've gladly taken his placeTar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 3 weeks ago
with progressive dating values
Well, there’s a whole bunch of moronic conservatives in the world…
Ioughttamow@fedia.io 3 weeks ago
Well you see she was supposed to pay half, but be demur about it, like a real lady
idiomaddict@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
If you don’t both feel like the lucky one, it’s not worth continuing
TheEighthDoctor@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
This guy drives a cybertruck
Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Marthirial@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
That’s what you get for dating the ghost of Charlie Kirk.
Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
This is like below acorn dick level energy.
paulcdb@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I think so much posted online isn’t real as such and more fabricated and what I classify as ‘engagement bait’
TikTok is full of it and seems to have got worse now AI slop machine can churn it out en-mass.
Goun@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
Damn it keeps getting worse, what is wrong with these stupid guys
regedit@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Some bald twat in a foreign prison (previously) told him it’s not him, it’s her, and they believed it.
Malyca@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
In short, the manosphere
snoons@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
🤮 MEIN GOTT
Should’ve hit on the bartender :(
KurtVonnegut@mander.xyz 3 weeks ago
Princess Bubblegum?
OriginEnergySux@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I love how that dude is concerned about what random people think of him 🤣
SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
I’m not the lucky one
Said it all right there
Fedizen@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Nothing says “I’m going to kill my whole family when I inevitably lose my job for being an insufferable dick” like this post.
FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 3 weeks ago
There’s not enough time and resources left on this planet to course correct this specimen I’m afraid.
starchylemming@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
what a keeper
varnia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
Practical example of male loneliness.
Canonical_Warlock@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Not really. This guy is getting dates.
Maggoty@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I see we’ve contracted the Chinese Flag and Drum Corps to make sure we have enough red flags for this guy?
rockerface@lemmy.cafe 3 weeks ago
Soviet Union called, I think we grabbed some of theirs too by mistake
captainlezbian@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The problem with stuff like this is that everyone wants different things. This lady was great, did what she ought to. But this guy wasn’t looking for an absolute catch, he was looking for an ego boost with low effort.
His first issue screams insecurity in his appearance, and that’s fair, a lot of people have that issue. But rather than telling his date not to dress nicely, he could be putting effort into his appearance. A nice haircut and some decent quality, well fitting clothes that complement his body could go so fucking far.
The money issue though, that requires decoupling from the mindset of his role being to provide. It may be difficult, especially if he has little understanding of what he actually provides in a relationship (or what he could provide) beyond money, but it’s valuable mental work to do. People don’t stay in love with you because you pay the bills, they do it because they enjoy your company and feel you’re working together through life.
MrSulu@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
Victorian time traveller with huge but fragile ego seeks meek and submissive woman to be arm decoration.
HalfSalesman@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I hate insecure sex negative guys so fucking much.
Kazumara@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
Is that also a form of negging? Seems to go in that direction anyway.
She needs to remember she’s the lucky one…? And her paying her half is constructed to be a negative?
Chaotic_Altruist@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
I took it as a half assed neg for sure
CaptPretentious@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
First 2 sentenses are reasonable. But then… You get to everything else, and it just falls off a cliff. Assuming this is real, of course.
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The first seems reasonable, until the reasoning is given, which reveals the whole message is batshit.
Though IMO someone getting upset at being told they are lucky to be with the person they are with is kinda full of themselves and reading way too much into it. It’s more of a “I wish I was in your place without stating any intention to usurp it” than a “you don’t deserve to be in that place and must be there because things outside of your intent or control got you there”. It’s more non-threatening flattery towards your partner (as opposed to just flirting with her) than anything else and I’d consider taking offense at someone saying that to be a red flag even before he went off the deep end.
It predicts the fragile ego stuff that follows rather than contrasts IMO.
CaptPretentious@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The first seems reasonable, until the reasoning is given, which reveals the whole message is batshit
Yeah, that’s what I meant. Like, expressing yourself to someone you’re dating, like “This made me uncomfortable,” generally should be ok. This proved to be the exception.
someone getting upset at being told they are lucky to be with the person they are with is kinda full of themselves and reading way too much into it
Well, what if the bartender was being a piece of shit, say someone who has cerebral palsy, saying they’re even lucky to be with someone… Would you still say that person is full of themselves? I think telling anyone they’re “lucky” to be with someone, from an outside perspective, is intentionally demeaning to one of the two people. Now, if someone in a relationship says they feel lucky to have found someone, that’s different. But clearly, it’s open to interpretation. And changes in context.
Little personal story to add, I dated a girl a while back, and ALL her friends and co-workers would say how lucky she was and how good I was for her. We all knew why, she was overweight and I wasn’t. They didn’t even just hint and maybe I read that wrong, they were BLUNT about it. I was doing home cooking for us instead of doing fast food. I worked out, did 5k races, I was in great shape. And I was exposing her to that life and she was noticeably losing weight. But the look on her face when people said “she was lucky”, was defeat.
DankDingleberry@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
feels a bit like ragebait tbh
Tiral@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
There’s no way this is real! Dude is a narcissistic dip shit if it’s real.
howdy@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
this post reminds me of why I don’t like reddit
Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Tons of fake rage bait posts everywhere?
howdy@lemmy.ml 3 weeks ago
exactly. they are all over the relationship, advice and dating subs. and the reddit algorithm used to recommend them constantly.
Content quality aside, one of the great things about Lemmy is the non-algorithmic feed.
violet08_@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
TheFunkyMonk@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Knew who this was before even seeing the username, legend.
Noodle07@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Hate it when my girlfriend dresses hot cuz then I’m horny all the time.
JK she’s always hot and I’m always horny all the time 🫣
fartographer@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
My grandmother was a slut and liked to brag about it. And she was one of my favorite people. Dress slutty, act slutty, or don’t. As long as you’re proud of who you are, and don’t judge others for not being you, then you’re cool.
Side note: I was so proud of the number of people at my grandmother’s funeral who told me that their first interaction with her was that she told them how to have an organ using the bubble jets in the community hot tub.
TRBoom@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Which organ did they get?