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- Comment on Social Security can be saved. Scrap the cap! 4 days ago:
The one on the right looks like the real version of the gru meme
- Comment on Is Anon the asshole? 1 week ago:
I sent him the green text, and apparently he offered to fix a friend’s instrument in the past and got an earful. He would have been fine with me getting his old one fixed up, but he’s happy to have the new one
- Comment on The woke liberals are making our wars gay 1 week ago:
I do think warfare is more honorable and better the less technology you use, but that’s just because technology lets you increase the distance of warfare and the distance is what actually makes wars worse or less honorable.
I would not have said better without the prompt of your comment, but I value the deadliness of war negatively, so something like a club can kill fewer people than a gun, which can kill fewer people than a neutron bomb.
I think it’s more honorable to give all parties involved an honest chance in winning a fight and in harming the other side. Drone operators are functionally immune to harm, and their side only risks the value of a drone, whereas the other side is often unarmed and fully vulnerable to drone attacks, just by sleeping near a window or being outside [or going to a wedding, but that’s not my point]. It’s a lot harder to hit someone with a club without being vulnerable to their attacks yourself, and you cast an even wider net of damage with similarly low risk of the people actually impacted by your neutron bomb being able to attack you back.
A good historical example for how this is not dependent just on technology and for why medieval warfare was NOT more honorable is the Siege of Caffa. The Golden Horde flung plague-ridden corpses over the city walls, infecting the residents, causing them to flee, and likely causing the Black Death. That again, involves an increased distance of warfare. Any time you fight in a way that can’t be reversed, it’s less honorable and deadlier, thereby making it worse from my perspective.
- Comment on Is Anon the asshole? 1 week ago:
Depends what “fix” means, but if you didn’t get ripped off for $200, yes.
Getting it professionally tuned isn’t unreasonable imo, especially if the neck/pegs are misaligned, but in no world should that cost $200 (and don’t try to fix a misalignment).
Once you start making changes that can’t be undone, you’ve crossed the line. Get it tuned, get a nice strap (with mounting hardware, if needed), get a polishing kit or nicer case, hell, even get a replacement bridge/pegs and tools for working with a guitar, but don’t make permanent changes yourself (or have anyone else do so). All of those together could be well over $200, but you’d describe that as a tuneup and buying accessories, not taking the guitar “to a pro to fix it.”
Caveat that some people don’t like non-musicians or anyone else even touching their instruments, but I’d like to think that would be obvious to a spouse, even one who might have assumed that permanent changes to an instrument they don’t own are okay.
I’m a non-musician and my husband has a somewhat beaten up, but favored instrument that he learned on, so I’ll send this to him to see if my instinct is right (for my relationship, which does not mean it would be right for anyone else).
Though tbf, even thinking it might be okay, I got my husband a new instrument instead of messing with his beloved one, just because it occurred to me that he might react like the husband in the OP, and I didn’t want to risk it. Of course, he could also have then felt guilty about using the new one because it’s not the one he loves and felt guilty about using the old one because I gifted him a “nicer” one. I was lucky in that he’d already branched out into related instruments and the new one could fill a new niche, so wouldn’t compete with the old, making me less worried about him feeling conflicted [I’m so sorry about that sentence, I’m imagining trying to structure it in German without nominalizing any of the clauses and… woof].
- Comment on Could machines develop consciousness just like we did? 2 weeks ago:
You’re not wrong, but the definition of life that I learned in science class includes things like: homeostasis, response to stimuli, reproduction, metabolism, cell growth, adaptation, cell signaling, and death. Rivers adapt, respond to stimuli, and can “die”; maybe reproduce, achieve homeostasis, and metabolize; but don’t have cells. Crystals reproduce and maybe metabolize, but not the rest.
That’s a faulty definition, because it doesn’t clearly define viruses as alive or not alive, but it’s still useful, because the things that we can categorize as alive (or sometimes alive, in the case of viruses) under it share a lot of common characteristics that make sense to study together.
Rivers and crystals have some of these characteristics, but so does everything in nature- a star metabolizes and dies, a planet achieves homeostasis and responds to stimuli, and asteroids traveling fast enough can “reproduce” by hitting another stellar object hard enough to break one or both of them into smaller pieces. Including everything in the natural world under the umbrella of life doesn’t help us understand the world around us better according to our current understanding of the universe.
I think it’s impossible for us to determine truth, and the best we can do is an approximate theory that holds up with new information. Even when we know our model is untrue (like how we know classifying species the way we do is generally too rigid, or the fact that there’s no such thing as a fish), we can still gather information better under that model than without it.
Or so we think, maybe we’d have a much clearer understanding of the world if carcinology fell under entomology instead of marine biology.
As for consciousness, that’s even harder to define.
- Comment on Driver gets £90 ticket after using Lidl EV charger out of hours 2 weeks ago:
In July, a motorist raised similar concerns about parking restrictionsat a Lidl supermarket in Beverley, East Yorkshire, after collecting a parcel from an InPost locker outside store opening hours.
Judy Ayliffe, from Beverley, East Yorkshire, received a PCN after spending about 15 minutes in the car park while trying to retrieve the package from the locker, which is advertised as offering 24-hour access.
Her charge was cancelled after she contacted her MP.
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Nikki Foster, a fellow EV owner, spoke to the BBC while charging her car at the Lidl car park in Barton.
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“You’d expect to do it 24/7 because you’re paying for the service,” she said.
“I don’t see why the car parking makes a difference really. As long as you’re paying for your car, you come in and do what you need and leave.”
Emphasis mine. It really seems like Lidl wants the benefits of offering additional services in its car parks without the additional hassle. I understand wanting something for nothing, but that’s not how things work.
- Comment on True story, I hate humanity 2 weeks ago:
You should probably leave that community :/
- Comment on No Spoiler 👁️⃤ 2 weeks ago:
Literally yes (in the sense that they were the proximal cause of the crash, not the ones flying).
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
I didn’t say always, but there is a long history of it. Iggy Azalea is a somewhat controversial example, Iron Eyes Cody is an uncontroversial one, and Asa Carter is an infuriating one.
The term “blackface” originated from the practice of white people impersonating black people for minstrel shows in the 1860s, for an old example.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Yeah, 2018 is fucked up and here likely indicates some sort of psychological issue, but there’s a long tradition of white people exploiting other people’s cultures for financial gain. It’s not an automatic red flag for mental illness for me in general.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
Up to 2020 looks like becoming an adult and losing kid cheeks to me. I won’t comment on 2021, because yikes, and 2023 looks like she’s too thin or got work done. More recent pictures make it more obvious that she’s getting thinner and thinner though.
- Comment on They eliminated cashiers and keep the profits. NY Democrats are fighting back. 2 weeks ago:
If every grocery store did this, that is the market. We can’t decide to not eat, and even with a 10% markup, grocery stores are still cheaper than most other options.
- Comment on Hypocrisy is their default setting 2 weeks ago:
He always looks like he just finished telling you how good the bone shaped cookies were and someone walks in and asks where the dog treats went.
- Comment on Anon accepts a prestigious job 2 weeks ago:
I think it’s the other way around, but yes.
- Comment on Anon accepts a prestigious job 2 weeks ago:
Also, even if you’re verifiably a super genius, I think you’d probably get fired for throwing your own shit, biting people, and stealing stuff eventually.
- Comment on The Revenge of the Philosophy Majors 2 weeks ago:
contrarian, chin-stroking, finger-steepling sages
This, from the gray lady herself. Any wonder anti-intellectualism is on the rise?
- Comment on Malone comes in all sorts of ways 2 weeks ago:
I had a friend who was a very pretty woman, but she drew a bunch of tattoos on her face in eyeliner and wore a baggy sweatshirt and jeans one year for Halloween and it was uncanny. She already had super long ringlets and she just fucking nailed it.
- Comment on Anon is 23 3 weeks ago:
Per 100k full time employees, 1.6, 3.1, and 1.8/year versus 0.8/year for electricians, pipefitters, and millwrights, respectively, vs office workers.
- Comment on Anon is 23 3 weeks ago:
A bachelor’s degree is just a checkbox to prove you went through the motions.
That really depends on the program. A general studies BA from a correspondence school might not indicate much, but a BS in the focus of a highly specialized university does.
- Comment on Anon is 23 3 weeks ago:
electricians, pipefitters, millwrights
Electricians, www.mtpinnacle.com/pdfs/338_Physicians.pdf, and millwrights have really hazardous jobs. That’s why they get paid so well, directly and indirectly (because it takes a lot of training to do those jobs safely).
I’m not trying to discourage anyone from taking these jobs, but they’re not risk free.
- Comment on Tasting the Smell ☣️ 3 weeks ago:
But cologne is my problem
- Comment on Tasting the Smell ☣️ 3 weeks ago:
HARD disagree. Artificial scents can easily be overwhelming, and even with bad BO, I’d rather not have the cologne on top of that.
- Comment on so much winning 4 weeks ago:
Yeah, it just took a moment because I had scrolled down and just saw his legs and Mao. There are a lot of things you can say about Mao (especially if you want to propagandize a population against communism), but ancap would be… ahistorical at best, lmao
- Comment on sit down! 4 weeks ago:
Vertical integration, head tap.
- Comment on so much winning 4 weeks ago:
I thought you meant Mao and was really concerned with the state of your education system for a second, lol.
- Comment on Any idea what these lyrics mean? 4 weeks ago:
It is religious. It’s from Jesus’ sermon on the mount, but it’s been used all over the place for everything.
- Comment on ‘It’s so unthinkable’: the parents sexually abused by their children 4 weeks ago:
Phones / Tablets - What child under 16 is on their own phone plan? I would be surprised if the mobile providers don’t have controls where you can turn the data off.
I could have gotten a tracphone as a kid if I’d really wanted to, I assume motivated kids today could do the same. It’s expensive, but if a kid gets $60 for Christmas, they can afford a prepaid SIM and lots of people give away or sell old smartphones for cheap. Even more leave them somewhere a kid has access to without regularly checking that they’re still there.
- Comment on ‘It’s so unthinkable’: the parents sexually abused by their children 4 weeks ago:
What a horrific thing. I can understand how this is so damaging for someone to experience because of the additional layers of shame that your child is a sexual abuser or rapist on top of the shame about being raped or sexually abused commonly felt by people who experience it (not that they should be ashamed in either case, it’s just a reality of how things are), plus the doubt about whether you did something wrong while raising them, and the desire to protect them warring with the desire to talk about it. My heart aches for Lucy and I really respect that she’s trying to help others in that situation.
Pegs, a social enterprise (the acronym is for parental education, growth, support) for people affected by child to parent abuse (CPA)
Well that’s an unfortunate name choice.
As well as interviewing mothers and practitioners, she analysed data from 2,000 parents who sought help from a UK-based support service for CPA in 2023, and found that 13% had experienced harmful sexual behaviour from their child.
Of these, 96% were mothers and 4% were fathers. The children, aged five to 31, were 66% male and 33% female.
It’s strange that only 13% of the people reaching out about CPA were determined to have experienced it, I wonder if it’s super narrowly defined. The fact that it includes behavior from at least one five year old is hugely concerning combined with the above statistic.
Parents reported their children making sexual noises and simulating sex acts, making sexual threats, being physically violent including touching, grabbing and thrusting, and also carrying out non-contact behaviour such as voyeurism and exposure.
That doesn’t clear it up at all. A five year old exposing their genitals is not parental abuse, but if one were to make sexual threats and grab at their parent while doing so and understanding the full weight of what they’re doing, it is. Given that only 13% of the people seeking help about this were determined to have experienced CPA, I have to assume it was closer to the latter, which is really worrying.
“The mothers I interviewed talked about how they’d sought help for quite a long time because their child had shown what they thought were quite worrying signs of sexualised behaviour before it was actually targeted at them. But often it was minimised, they were told to just get on with it,” she said.
That’s even more devastating. I now feel bad about questioning the case of the five year old, but it’s just so shocking. I guess I can imagine how common people minimizing it is, when I’m literally doing it while reading about the worst cases. How do kids so young get to a place where that’s possible?
John said many of the parents Pegs spoke to were fearful their children were being exposed to harmful sexual and misogynistic content online that could be influencing their behaviour.
That I can see. If a kid gets into something like 4chan really young, that could warp their view of the world. It often doesn’t, and I know a bunch of people who grew up on efukt and the like who are ethical and have respectful sexual relationships today, but they weren’t also being targeted by the manosphere as children.
“They’ve reported their children making indecent images using ChatGPT,” she said. “Parents are putting safeguards in place, but children are finding different ways to go around it. We’re supporting some parents that don’t even have access to wifi because of this.”
Hmm. That makes it seem like they’re exploiting this horrible thing to manufacture consent for age verification laws.
That said, what can you do if your child refuses to follow your rules or listen to your reasoning about internet usage and actively seeks out harmful content? I’m not that tech savvy, especially compared to the average fediverse user, but I assume it’s possible to disable Wi-Fi in your home and still find devices with their own internet access within a certain distance to locate any phones or tablets they might have acquired and brought home, but if they leave it at school or with a friend, how do you deal with that? I’m also not a parent, and I know that ideally you don’t get to this point because you communicate with your child about the internet from a young age, but I also hid a lot about my internet usage from my parents, even though they explained why I shouldn’t (though to be fair, I didn’t really do chatrooms or anything actually dangerous because of us talking about the internet, I just read a bunch of pornographic fanfiction)
- Comment on Car sales manager sacked after standing up to rude customer wins £21,000 5 weeks ago:
It doesn’t deserve a firing, and I’m very glad they sided with the manager, especially one protecting his employees from an abusive customer. How far do you have to push your mechanic for them to start making assertions about your character?
Incredibly annoying that the company also paid the customer off, but it’s good they see there are consequences for insisting your staff take abuse.
- Comment on Baby's not letting you off the hook 1 month ago:
@brem@lemmy.world is looking at this like thirteenth century Swabia ( pages 3-4 of the PDF aaaaalllll the way at the bottom/pages 95-96 in the document itself).
Or here
