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- Comment on Sure 1 day ago:
Tbh, uber incentivizes that afaik, because there’s no time differential. If I take a taxi driver on a slower or longer route, they get paid for both gas and time, so it’s actually to their benefit. Of course, there’s a risk that they’re intentionally drawing it out, so you need to pay attention, but I tend to use buses/trains over livery in areas I’m unfamiliar with.
- Comment on A sudden epiphany. 1 day ago:
It’s wild to say but I feel like the literally criminally insane men I was working with taught me better people skills than my parents did.
That actually sounds pretty reasonable to me (not to excuse your parents, if applicable). It’s not the same thing at all, but I learned much better people skills from living with a boyfriend who had abandoned his treatment for and didn’t tell me about his paranoid schizophrenia than from anyone else. He read so much into everything I said, that I learned to speak very deliberately.
When you are working with people with a very different perspective on the world that you can’t change, and neither party feels entitled to acceptance because of family, you need to learn how to treat others respectfully and with dignity to succeed.
- Comment on Hey guys I'm home 1 day ago:
There’s absolutely actively torture, I’m sorry to tell you. Even if there’s nothing worse than what we already know about (unlikely, given that we know about worse from the camps in the US), we know that prisoners are beaten and sexually abused.
- Comment on I wouldn't worry about it 1 day ago:
Oof. In that case, the Wikipedia should be rewritten, because he was jailed for raping his mother, not for having sex with her.
- Comment on Hey guys I'm home 1 day ago:
No one wants to, but if it’s that or kill other innocent people…
I won’t claim that I’d make the same decision after a couple of years in the torture prison, but from the untortured side of things, my choice is clear.
- Comment on I wouldn't worry about it 2 days ago:
I love playing Slavoj Žižek or Dan Harmon
- Comment on I wouldn't worry about it 2 days ago:
On 1 August 2021, Chris was arrested for having sexual relations with her own mother and spent the next few months in jail […] On 27 March 2023, Chris was released from jail.
I’m certainly not in favor of parent-child incest, but nearly 20 months of jail for the child doesn’t seem like a fitting punishment. Either the mother consented and should be considered the more responsible party or she didn’t and the crime is rape.
- Comment on Sure 2 days ago:
The last time I rode an Uber, my driver did that and we got stuck in traffic as I advised we would. It was really awkward to sit there in silence for 25 minutes until we could get off the highway.
- Comment on 3 days ago:
And what about the meteorites on the moon that would have had to travel through the tarp first?
- Comment on you won't regret it 4 days ago:
I just showed my husband 🥰
- Comment on Can't get better than this 5 days ago:
At least it’s clean. I’ve definitely lived in worse places
- Comment on Waffle House: Pull up then. 😐 5 days ago:
I think you might have misread something. I called them embarrassing, and agreed they were wilding, tempting jail, and should be better, then said they were poorly starting an unnecessary fight. I’m really not rooting for them, and I’m not sure how it could come off as such, unless it’s because of the word “should.”
- Comment on Waffle House: Pull up then. 😐 6 days ago:
The people who are unnecessarily starting a fight they can’t win. All of his statements are directed to them.
I mean, it works out better for the rest of us that they’re bad at fighting, but it would serve their purposes better if they trained.
- Comment on Waffle House: Pull up then. 😐 6 days ago:
“Y’all wilding,” which means “you’re all acting wild.”
- Comment on Waffle House: Pull up then. 😐 6 days ago:
Normally I’d agree, but this mouthy camera guy was 100% right the whole time: they should train more, because that was embarrassing to watch; they’re tempting jail; and they should be better than this.
- Comment on Bean virus 1 week ago:
To be fair, from that article:
At the time, the nine-person board was in favor of removing Unanue from the company entirely, but the regulations of the family-owned business, founded in 1936 by Prudencio Unanue Ortiz — Robert Unanue’s grandfather — would not allow it, as noted by the New York Post.
Though shitty company policies are also a good reason to boycott a company.
- Comment on Its Over 😔 1 week ago:
Plus, he was living elsewhere, running a business and raising a special needs toddler. Any one of those and it would be reasonable to think that he might just have too much on his plate to maintain the friendship.
- Comment on Epstein designed T-shirts for the kids 1 week ago:
Yeah, the only person I can imagine wearing this in a funny way would be a school bus driver, but I actually don’t think they want to make the kids feel even less comfortable about crying.
- Comment on Dear Faith VIII 1 week ago:
This one seems different from the others, in that it’s implying dishonesty instead of just creativity; disdain for pointless rules of propriety that serve as a class filter to keep academia inaccessible to people who didn’t grow up knowing the expectations; inadequate advisement; and/or flakiness.
I figured it out though! The professor is writing to her Faith in Humanity after dealing with various students in different situations, not one glorious, completely oblivious to social cues, Mr. Magoo-ass shitbird.
- Comment on I suck at reading comprehension... what the heck does this law even mean? [8 U.S. Code § 1451 - Revocation of naturalization] 1 week ago:
You can now, it costs a few grand
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
Yeah, it’s luck all the way down.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
Yes, lots of people let life pass them by. I’m in full agreement with that, but a lot of people do not have the flexibility to do much about their situations. It’s not a lack of agency, it’s a lack of freedom and safety to make changes.
I understand your point to be this: everyone could have had a good life if they had correctly applied themselves and gone after what they wanted, so people who haven’t meaningfully changed their circumstances and are unhappy with their lives are themselves to blame. My point is this: many people could enjoy their lives more if they took control of their own choices, but not everyone can. Sometimes people just get dealt a shitty hand.
Have I misunderstood your point?
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
Swing and a miss. I decided to leave my home country because it’s broken, so after a decade of working and saving my own money, I did what I want to do. I went to a state school that gave me a full ride instead of a private school that I’d have to take loans out for, so I didn’t have any student loans holding me back and I could go back to school and get a masters in my new country. I actually just started teaching full time after training for the last couple of years.
I just have the empathy (and vicarious experience) to understand that not everyone is as fortunate as I am. It took a lot of hard work and diligence, but also a lot of luck. I wouldn’t assume that anyone who isn’t able to immigrate to a new country and begin teaching other new immigrants the language is lazy, likely to settle, or a failure. It’s difficult and like everything worthwhile in life, requires some luck to meet a lot of preparation at the right moment.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
I’m glad for you. It sounds like you were smart or skilled enough to be presented with opportunities to leave and had the foresight to take them and the dedication to fully benefit from them. Not everyone is or has those qualities and that’s not a moral failing.
You overcame difficult circumstances, but that’s due to you being an exception, and whether that’s because of qualities inherent to you or luck is impossible to determine. The idea of it being luck is scary, but that doesn’t mean that everyone who doesn’t behave exactly as you did is to blame for their circumstances.
Surely you know people from your hometown who earnestly tried, but were just too dumb to really keep up in school or with complicated conversations among friends. Do you think they would be able to achieve what you have? What about the smart kids with severe ADHD who were flaky due to no fault of their own? If so, what use is your intelligence or ingenuity?
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
Many people live in towns with fewer than five companies, with poor internet access. Many people have to keep odd schedules because of family care obligations. Many people are functionally illiterate. Many people have criminal convictions. There are a lot of things that can limit your ability to leave a job you already have.
Many people do accept work conditions worse than they have to, but not every worker is flexible enough to choose their work.
- Comment on Americans: How the hell do you meet new people or get into relationships after college? 1 week ago:
That is not a choice that everyone can make.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Based on the letters, yes.
- Comment on Docs used to be cool as hell 2 weeks ago:
I sat in a German emergency room for about eight hours total with a broken eye socket and radius for initial diagnosis and treatment a couple of years ago, and the only inquiry into my ability to manage the pain was one doctor asking if I had paracetamol at home right before I left. When I said I did, the doctor nodded and left the room.
In fairness to them, it was a Sunday and they wanted to do a full scan of my head (it wasn’t an MRI and I don’t think it was an X-ray, but I don’t remember what it was called- it looked like an MRI machine, just giant) and I needed to have a bunch of different types of doctor check me out. I was also able to manage the pain and didn’t actually need painkillers, but I was really surprised they didn’t at least check in about it.
- Comment on butt mogged these zoomers today 2 weeks ago:
Sorry for the nine month old answer, but “akimbo” describes limbs that are spread and tilt backwards (even if only slightly) at the joint, like a gecko’s do.
- Comment on Botanic nomenclature 2 weeks ago:
I’m still a huge fan of fruit flies. Drosophila melanogaster= yellow bellied garbage lover