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- Comment on Malone comes in all sorts of ways 4 hours ago:
I had a friend who was a very pretty woman, but she drew a bunch of tattoos on her face in eyeliner and wore a baggy sweatshirt and jeans one year for Halloween and it was uncanny. She already had super long ringlets and she just fucking nailed it.
- Comment on Anon is 23 1 day ago:
Per 100k full time employees, 1.6, 3.1, and 1.8/year versus 0.8/year for electricians, pipefitters, and millwrights, respectively, vs office workers.
- Comment on Anon is 23 1 day ago:
A bachelor’s degree is just a checkbox to prove you went through the motions.
That really depends on the program. A general studies BA from a correspondence school might not indicate much, but a BS in the focus of a highly specialized university does.
- Comment on Anon is 23 1 day ago:
electricians, pipefitters, millwrights
Electricians, www.mtpinnacle.com/pdfs/338_Physicians.pdf, and millwrights have really hazardous jobs. That’s why they get paid so well, directly and indirectly (because it takes a lot of training to do those jobs safely).
I’m not trying to discourage anyone from taking these jobs, but they’re not risk free.
- Comment on Tasting the Smell ☣️ 1 week ago:
But cologne is my problem
- Comment on Tasting the Smell ☣️ 1 week ago:
HARD disagree. Artificial scents can easily be overwhelming, and even with bad BO, I’d rather not have the cologne on top of that.
- Comment on so much winning 1 week ago:
Yeah, it just took a moment because I had scrolled down and just saw his legs and Mao. There are a lot of things you can say about Mao (especially if you want to propagandize a population against communism), but ancap would be… ahistorical at best, lmao
- Comment on sit down! 1 week ago:
Vertical integration, head tap.
- Comment on so much winning 1 week ago:
I thought you meant Mao and was really concerned with the state of your education system for a second, lol.
- Comment on Any idea what these lyrics mean? 1 week ago:
It is religious. It’s from Jesus’ sermon on the mount, but it’s been used all over the place for everything.
- Comment on ‘It’s so unthinkable’: the parents sexually abused by their children 2 weeks ago:
Phones / Tablets - What child under 16 is on their own phone plan? I would be surprised if the mobile providers don’t have controls where you can turn the data off.
I could have gotten a tracphone as a kid if I’d really wanted to, I assume motivated kids today could do the same. It’s expensive, but if a kid gets $60 for Christmas, they can afford a prepaid SIM and lots of people give away or sell old smartphones for cheap. Even more leave them somewhere a kid has access to without regularly checking that they’re still there.
- Comment on ‘It’s so unthinkable’: the parents sexually abused by their children 2 weeks ago:
What a horrific thing. I can understand how this is so damaging for someone to experience because of the additional layers of shame that your child is a sexual abuser or rapist on top of the shame about being raped or sexually abused commonly felt by people who experience it (not that they should be ashamed in either case, it’s just a reality of how things are), plus the doubt about whether you did something wrong while raising them, and the desire to protect them warring with the desire to talk about it. My heart aches for Lucy and I really respect that she’s trying to help others in that situation.
Pegs, a social enterprise (the acronym is for parental education, growth, support) for people affected by child to parent abuse (CPA)
Well that’s an unfortunate name choice.
As well as interviewing mothers and practitioners, she analysed data from 2,000 parents who sought help from a UK-based support service for CPA in 2023, and found that 13% had experienced harmful sexual behaviour from their child.
Of these, 96% were mothers and 4% were fathers. The children, aged five to 31, were 66% male and 33% female.
It’s strange that only 13% of the people reaching out about CPA were determined to have experienced it, I wonder if it’s super narrowly defined. The fact that it includes behavior from at least one five year old is hugely concerning combined with the above statistic.
Parents reported their children making sexual noises and simulating sex acts, making sexual threats, being physically violent including touching, grabbing and thrusting, and also carrying out non-contact behaviour such as voyeurism and exposure.
That doesn’t clear it up at all. A five year old exposing their genitals is not parental abuse, but if one were to make sexual threats and grab at their parent while doing so and understanding the full weight of what they’re doing, it is. Given that only 13% of the people seeking help about this were determined to have experienced CPA, I have to assume it was closer to the latter, which is really worrying.
“The mothers I interviewed talked about how they’d sought help for quite a long time because their child had shown what they thought were quite worrying signs of sexualised behaviour before it was actually targeted at them. But often it was minimised, they were told to just get on with it,” she said.
That’s even more devastating. I now feel bad about questioning the case of the five year old, but it’s just so shocking. I guess I can imagine how common people minimizing it is, when I’m literally doing it while reading about the worst cases. How do kids so young get to a place where that’s possible?
John said many of the parents Pegs spoke to were fearful their children were being exposed to harmful sexual and misogynistic content online that could be influencing their behaviour.
That I can see. If a kid gets into something like 4chan really young, that could warp their view of the world. It often doesn’t, and I know a bunch of people who grew up on efukt and the like who are ethical and have respectful sexual relationships today, but they weren’t also being targeted by the manosphere as children.
“They’ve reported their children making indecent images using ChatGPT,” she said. “Parents are putting safeguards in place, but children are finding different ways to go around it. We’re supporting some parents that don’t even have access to wifi because of this.”
Hmm. That makes it seem like they’re exploiting this horrible thing to manufacture consent for age verification laws.
That said, what can you do if your child refuses to follow your rules or listen to your reasoning about internet usage and actively seeks out harmful content? I’m not that tech savvy, especially compared to the average fediverse user, but I assume it’s possible to disable Wi-Fi in your home and still find devices with their own internet access within a certain distance to locate any phones or tablets they might have acquired and brought home, but if they leave it at school or with a friend, how do you deal with that? I’m also not a parent, and I know that ideally you don’t get to this point because you communicate with your child about the internet from a young age, but I also hid a lot about my internet usage from my parents, even though they explained why I shouldn’t (though to be fair, I didn’t really do chatrooms or anything actually dangerous because of us talking about the internet, I just read a bunch of pornographic fanfiction)
- Comment on Car sales manager sacked after standing up to rude customer wins £21,000 2 weeks ago:
It doesn’t deserve a firing, and I’m very glad they sided with the manager, especially one protecting his employees from an abusive customer. How far do you have to push your mechanic for them to start making assertions about your character?
Incredibly annoying that the company also paid the customer off, but it’s good they see there are consequences for insisting your staff take abuse.
- Comment on Baby's not letting you off the hook 3 weeks ago:
@brem@lemmy.world is looking at this like thirteenth century Swabia ( pages 3-4 of the PDF aaaaalllll the way at the bottom/pages 95-96 in the document itself).
Or here
- Comment on May not buff out 3 weeks ago:
Juck around and tind out
- Comment on Loosing my religion 3 weeks ago:
There’s the one about a fan, but that’s also kind of about a girl
- Comment on [Korean] Police officer accused of destroying evidence in son’s murder case 3 weeks ago:
It’s wild that you’re just allowed to destroy evidence that a relative committed a crime
- Comment on Rough sleeping decriminalised as Vagrancy Act finally axed 4 weeks ago:
The government has repealed the archaic act, which was first introduced in 1824 to deal with soldiers on the streets following the Napoleonic Wars, after years of campaigning from Big Issue and other homelessness organisations.
I grew up at a time when homeless people were frequently determined to be Vietnam veterans, and I thought it was because of the draft. Then as a young adult, I saw an episode of The West Wing with a homeless and presumably traumatized Korean War veteran and realized that this had been going on longer than I knew.
I really wasn’t expecting to see evidence of it from the napoleonic wars, but to be fair, I bet there were Punic War veterans who struggled to readjust to life in peacetime.
- Comment on ‘Degrading’: why did a US fighter pilot avoid British trial after strangling a woman in England? 5 weeks ago:
There are too many snippets that are ridiculous, you should really read the article, but here are a few:
The jury – who heard the case in April this year at RAF Lakenheath, the largest US base in Britain – was a panel of eight air force officers.
All were stationed on the same base as Wulfson. All were men.
The panel’s president, equivalent to a jury foreman, was the chief of the squadron that maintains the jets flown by Wulfson. Another panel member had been acquitted of sexual offences at a court martial several years earlier.
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In his opening statement, [defense attorney] Bilecki confidently asserted: “This is a play for money,” saying his client had been “set up for money”. Steele repeatedly denied this. She said she had applied to the scheme – and had still not received a decision – to cover loss of wages arising from difficulties going back to work after the assault.
The prosecution described Bilecki’s theory as absurd. By his closing submissions, he seemed less confident in this aspect of his case. “Do I know if she’s doing this for money? I don’t know,” he said.
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Due to specific requirements under US law, the intimate images and report detailing the forensic examination of Steele’s vagina shortly after the alleged assault were not admissible as evidence.
- Comment on Sir Keir Starmer resigns as prime minister 5 weeks ago:
No worries, it’s kind of a silly question, because there’s definitely no “ideal” version of this ban, but these bills have such significant propaganda associated with them, I’m interested if there are other big problems that are more hidden.
- Comment on Sir Keir Starmer resigns as prime minister 5 weeks ago:
I’m sorry, maybe I wasn’t clear. I’m well aware of the privacy concerns and that’s the main reason I don’t support these bans.
The person I was responding to suggested that they could be implemented without privacy infringement, but they still didn’t support them, so I wanted to know their reasoning.
- Comment on Sir Keir Starmer resigns as prime minister 5 weeks ago:
Then can I ask why you’re against the ban? We know that social media has a negative effect on children, we know they have particular difficulty stopping use on their own, and we know that kids are very often more tech savvy than their parents, so a ban from the parents won’t necessarily be effective. My primary concern with bans has been the privacy incursions, but if that’s out of the equation, it seems pretty similar to age-based tobacco, marijuana, alcohol, or gambling restrictions to me.
I’m well aware that politicians try to make these bills seem reasonable though, so there’s a good chance I’m missing some of the consequences. I can also understand (though respectfully disagree) if you’re just maintaining consistency and you’re also against other age-based restrictions.
- Comment on Lifeguards 5 weeks ago:
Ooh, next you could match cops against firefighters!
- Comment on Anon tries to break the ice 5 weeks ago:
People definitely do interpret customer service as flirting though
- Comment on Anon tries to break the ice 5 weeks ago:
I think he means she’s processing his items at the cash register
- Comment on Anon is a child prodigy 1 month ago:
Very dependent on what they’re jacking off to, unfortunately.
- Comment on Turkish Delights 1 month ago:
They sound so good in the narnia series, but then you remember they were written during rationing and Lewis’ taste had probably adjusted enough that he was happy about any kind of sweet.
- Comment on 1 month ago:
I did ask him about it and he admitted it, but if he had done it with his own brain, it would have been worse, because we went over it in class a bunch first and he was capable of it then.
It was totally pointless though, because the homework was for extra credit. Luckily, I didn’t have to pursue it further, but there are some programs that would have expelled him for it. I can understand that, but I don’t think things would be much improved if he got expelled for it.
I just told him to stop being an idiot, because he’s not learning anything and the other teachers are probably better at spotting it. He was relatively dismissive at first, but he really didn’t learn very much German during a study abroad year, which is actively difficult to do. Now that they’re leaving, he’s realized that he didn’t get much out of the year, academically. Not a big deal, but he’s going to delay his graduation and see some minor consequences. Hopefully it’ll get his head on straight.
- Comment on 1 month ago:
I had a student give me handwritten homework for German class. He’d written directions, and there was no instance of the word “left,” but the word ”remaining” was in every other sentence. It was very obvious
- Comment on It's honestly fine, you're overthinking it! 1 month ago:
I talked in depth with a doctor friend about this, and there’s a chance it works, but it’s most likely just your immune system and you paying more attention to keeping your feet dry
