Sybilvane

@Sybilvane@lemmy.ca

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Rocky rock rocking⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  What? We’re not good enough to be presented multiple rocks? Do we need to ration one of Earth’s most abundant resources now?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anti-acknowlegements⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s worth noting too that for every instance of feeling scared, there are at least 5 situations where women feel belittled. I think even well meaning men are a lot less aware of it happening, or of them doing it themselves. My own father is a sweetheart who means well, but he’s skeptical of anything I tell him until my husband repeats what I’m saying. I’ve had achievements minimized because I didn’t also raise a family while doing them. I’ve been denied entry into hobbies. I’ve been given fewer opportunities at work because they want a cute face at the front desk. I’ve been told math is not for me, while being the only middle schooler in the math team who could regularly beat high schoolers at competitions. I’ve been told no boys would ever want to be my friend, because boys can only be after one thing, so all the ones being friendly are faking it. And of courses I’ve had boys stop being my friend when it becomes clear that friendship is all I’m after.

  It’s harder to spot but cuts to your self worth like these add up over time.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anti-acknowlegements⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  As a woman, and having known many other women, I can promise you that none of what is mentioned is particularly far fetched. It’s sad, but we all have multiple stories like this. Almost any woman could put together a similar paragraph of incidents she has personally experienced.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Foiled again 😩⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  We’ll duh, chocobos are awesome!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the deal with male loneliness?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  A lot of people did, and I think that’s really interesting! There’s a lot of focus, even commercialization, around dating for men. So much is geared towards how to get a (romantic) relationship, and I think a lot of people’s self worth is tied to it. And chances are, if you’re feeling that, someone else you know is feeling it too!

  I encourage everyone here to reach out to a friend today and see how they’re doing. I’m not going to pretend that’s going to solve the loneliness issue. That’s clearly systemic. But reaching out is something most of us can do.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the deal with male loneliness?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  While I agree about third places, I think it’s interesting that you then focused on dating.

  Loneliness means lack of friendships and family ties as well. I think a lot of men are focused on dating, and even when they are in a relationship, they use that as their only source of socialization outside the workplace. A lot of the barriers that exist for one are true for the rest as well, it is hard to make friends nowadays as an adult! There are so many people that stop trying, and it isn’t surprising.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How Would You Rank Quentin Tarantino's Films?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I have aphantasia and can’t remember people’s faces at all. Reservoir dogs was a bunch of similar looking dudes dressed almost identically, talking to each other in similar tones with similar vocabulary, and the story is non-linear (which I didn’t realize). I have never been so confused seeing a movie before. I’m sure it’s a wonderful movie, but I have no hope of ever understanding it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do the majority of women still take their partner's last name?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Nothing too complex. I come from a culture where you take one last name from each parent. No hyphen. Just FirstName LastName1 LastName2.

  Some systems put LastName1 as my middle name and shortened it to one letter. Some excluded LastName2. Some squished both last names into one name, sometimes with a hyphen, sometimes not.

  But because every system did its own thing, no one could ever find me. I had 2 different credit scores at one point. I received 3 voting cards every election, all of them wrong, despite the fact that every election cycle I would take the hours it takes to report the errors and get them to “fix” it. I was enrolled twice in one class in grade 4 under two separate wrong names. And whatever name my high school used on their system, I wasn’t showing up when universities searched for my records, so I kept getting rejection letter after rejection letter with no explanation and it took me months to track down the cause and have it fixed, by which point it was too late to get into several schools. I also couldn’t buy certain things online because some stores’ paymentet methods wouldn’t let me put in the name of my credit card as it was written. Oh, and the government couldn’t get the name on my social insurance card and the name on my taxes to match. This affected my online logins, so I would need to call on the phone to verify myself for each tax-related transaction, including simple address changes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do the majority of women still take their partner's last name?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m from a different culture than my husband and my last name was a bureaucratic nightmare. Almost didn’t make it into university because of computer mix ups, have had issues filing taxes, voting, getting a passport, settings basic IDs, getting insurance… It’s endless. Changed my name as soon as I could, and even THAT process was hindered by my original name.

  Bonuses: Distance myself from social media I had as a child. Harder for former stalkers to locate me if they decide to rekindle their previous obsessions. Don’t need to upset one set of grandparents when you name your children one parent’s last name and not the other. People stop asking me where I’m from and making racist assumptions about me. Everyone seems a lot friendlier now that they assume I’m [insert European white race here] instead of [insert non-white race here] and that’s despite the fact that I’m clearly white. Racism is wild. My signature is way shorter.

  Not saying this should be the norm, but I was happy it was a socially acceptable option for me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is straight⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  They never said cis, did they? Could be a transman.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon gets banned from Walmart⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Another good rule of thumb is to assume that if she was working, it was just customer service and she’s not actually into you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon's gf is unfulfilled⁩ ⁨⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Latine! It has the added benefit of being pronounceable in Spanish, unlike latinx.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Have fun with this one⁩ ⁨⁨8⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Breakfast on a pear?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I was always there and you forget me like this⁩ ⁨⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I have aphantasia and I love so many colors! I love looking at them, the more so because I can’t remember them later. But every time I look at, for example, a bright yellow, it’s like experiencing the wonder of it for the first time again and it’s mesmerizing. Sometimes I have a hard time trying not to stare at certain colors I see. I might be broken.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨tremendous⁩ ⁨⁨11⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  People have most certainly felt electricity.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon takes the blindpill⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago⁩:

  A-plus for authenticity, plus I feel like you’ve truly captured the essence of what that message sounds like. Good job!