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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨please don't tell my boss I've been posting memes on the clock⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I had so much extra time at one job back in 2019/2020 that I asked for more work and they wouldn’t give it to me. Coulda done 4-6hr days and been happier but instead I had to sit in my little office watching Youtube and going on Reddit. Thank god they did give me an office because I might have died of boredom otherwise having to put on the facade of being busy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨please don't tell my boss I've been posting memes on the clock⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  If you can meme AND get your work done I mean who gives a shit what they say.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon describes experience⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yea, or “the first twenty are free but the remaining five you don’t have to give are a problem”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Interesting⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  It was always happening in the States, just less so or people didn’t care whether or not the history of slaves or whatever was real or not.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon loves The Lord of the Rings⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  The real question is what is Larian’s equivalent to Peter Jackson’s “Meet the Feebles”?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Finally paid off my Costco hotdog 🙏⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I have this shirt in white and I love it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A secret, never-mentioned fact is that the people who voted for Zohran are also taxpayers.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Oddly enough, when it comes to less dense suburbs with richer people in them, the cost to the city is always more than those people pay in taxes. They pay more but they’re actually using poorer people’s taxes to pay for their shitty “neighbourhoods”, in quotes because the word implies a level of community they could only dream of.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨no way right⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The issue I’m having is that yours is a country which sees the far right as something that will always exist with such power. I know the mechanics of it all, what I’m routinely shocked by is the back that the bar is on the floor and the country as a whole just cannot seem to get over it. The Democrats should not be the best you really have to offer, they should be your right-wing party and they should struggle but instead the USA handed a dictator the popular vote and a third of the place didn’t even participate either way.

  It isn’t the existence of good people, it’s the complete domination by evil, or even just apathetic, people. I’m genuinely sorry that you’re suffering but, especially as a Canadian, it does not change my opinion about the landfill inferno that is the USA.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨no way right⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I feel less and less sad for people in the USA as time goes on because of exactly what you say. How did they not see it coming? HOOOOOW? And how did a third push for it, a third sorta try to help, and the other third maybe or maybe not just still doesn’t even know what’s happening?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨"Sad thing to be, nonsensical thing to want to be" 💔🥀💔🥀⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If we’re were forcefully taken to another country and then had children at some point I would talk to them about the people left behind and where I came from.

  That’s not how that works, especially when their cultures were specifically purged by the slavers. Your comment reads like the equivalent of saying “I would have just roundhouse kicked the gun away and saved the day” as if it’s the slaves’ fault for not giving their kids rich lessons on their history. It’s amazing that even some of it survived at all.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon pitches a new game⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  And honestly, they’re right. Games are fundamentally optional and there are so many to choose from but these garbage studios make garbage games and openly degrade their customers but people keep paying them.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Absolutely a little awkward for a bit. But you got a big friendly hello and that’s a win, yea?

  Was just thinking maybe her friend said or offered to say and she went “why the fuck should I care?”. Everything is equally possible, take ‘er easy and remember that you’ve got this no matter how it’s sliced :)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think just go about your business assuming her friend kept it on the down-low, and it doesn’t seem like it’s led to her treating you worse so all good. Nothing to be embarrassed about if you trust her to be a good person, which you seem to.

  I get it, of course, it’s certainly a little awkward and not a position I would want to be in. I’ll bet the not knowing if she knows is probably worse than if you could know for sure she does, eh?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If ya’ll were gunna date she’d find out pretty quick anyway, and if that’s a deal-breaker for her then you’re probably better off staying friends. And maybe her friend is a bro, or at least a professional, and didn’t say anything.

  If you didn’t even want to date her at some point, then it really ain’t anything, ya know?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Life is unfair to landlords⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  One landlord: “How will I pay my bills?”

  Their multitude of tenants and their families: “How will WE pay our bills?!”

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨French culture⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In French? Yea, it’s there it’s just called, some of the time anyway, an aspirated H. It’s also pretty rare and I’d be willing to bet that that is due to loan words.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨French culture⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  French does pronounce most of the letters, they just tend to drop the last one. Then there’s our “though” which is often shortened to “tho” with no consequence. English is not creative, either, most of the time the words were actually pronounced in a way that matches and time changed how we spoke them. That and we just kinda lifted the spelling of loan words but said them differently because whichever of our many accents at the time made it otherwise uncomfortable to say.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨French culture⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  The Concorde was just loud and cost more money to run, and in 27 years had only one fatal accident wherein a DC-10(American designed) left a piece of debris on the runway which ultimately kicked off the incident. It was a pretty good plane from my understanding.

  If we’re calling out specifics, the Airbus is an incredibly successful plane.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨floats away in disgust⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Someone can do other things with the energy from a hamburger is all I’m saying, and even if they do nothing but stay alive that’s already a better use of that energy. I also had thought about that and, to be fair, a hamburger is only a very small portion of the cow.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨floats away in disgust⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  What? No, I consider the cost of actually doing the work to be insane. If you want to talk training we can get into all kinds of other wonderful ethical, legal, and climate related shit, and I said that the cost of training for something like drawn art is exceedingly low as pencils and paper are cheap and all you need after that is a flat surface and time. I’m glad you enjoyed the comic but the cost to make it was far too great and you need to understand that sometimes that’s a dealbreaker.

  Have you ever built anything with your own two hands, or made a piece of art, or played a fun or beautiful piece of music purely for the enjoyment of it? And, separate from that, if you have, you’ve really never wanted to share it with the world? I go to the bar because I enjoy it, I make friends there, and we can all participate in a shared passion. The patrons of the bar also do appreciate that we are real people. We aren’t perfect, we forget the words sometimes, and our instrument balance can be wonky at times but they enjoy the fact that we are up there. Live music is objectively “worse” quality than something made in a studio but we love it because of the distinctly human connection with the performers and the audience. When my friend tears up a sick Irish fiddle solo I turn to who I’m sitting with and we all talk about how skilled she is and how much effort she’s put into honing her craft. When musicians talk about other musicians so much of it is about appreciating how much time and effort they put in to get to where they are.

  And yes, sometimes an artist does something that they don’t love. Artists, both the casual amateur and career professional, have accepted that fact as part of the greater process.

  I cannot stress how important it is that you go make something, and that you bring people into your life who appreciate the work you put in instead of just judging the end product. There’s a bright, colourful world out there and I’m genuinely worried that you’re letting it pass you by or, worse still, that the people around you are keeping you from it.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨floats away in disgust⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s not double speak, it’s nuance(or just entirely different things). The hamburger is the energy required to create a quick comic of this level after gaining the skills, the practice is something else you do, and which you do for personal enjoyment so it comes double.

  I get free beer at the bluegrass jam because we play for the bar. My instrument cost over a thousand dollars and I was playing for a little under a year when I first went. If your goal was to save money on beer then yea, bad investment, but my goal was to learn an instrument that I enjoy and play with other people. I don’t consider the cost of the instrument and my time when considering the money I save on the drink. Keeping someone alive does a whole lot more for the world and themselves. It’s not free, but they also do more than create one generic comic before throwing off their mortal coil.

  For fuck’s sake, I make very good Heroforge minis and, while appreciate the creativity I put into it, I understand that I’m still behind people making custom 3D models or putting pen to paper. At least I can still be proud of my work, unlike this “AI” garbage.

  Your entire argument stems from the idea that this comic is somehow adding value to the world. Not only is it stolen and using all these resources but the “artist” doesn’t even get to have any personal satisfaction because it’s just an algorithm and the other “artist” didn’t actually put any effort into it when they just wrote “write a funny comic” into a text field. Nothing of value was created, not even genuine personal satisfaction in a job well done, but so much was lost.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨floats away in disgust⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Combining some other comments:

  Not only is this an old joke and not even particularly interesting, it also took a shit load of resources for the machine to produce it. A human being eats a hamburger and makes a few nice things + remains alive but one of these algorithms will consume ludicrous amounts of energy just to copy a mediocre joke and only so many people will even see it.

  Not every joke needs to be pushed to the world and not every amateur musician deserves a main stage(certainly not if they’re just playing covers). Art is wonderful in that there are certainly barriers but at the same time it is relatively cheap to get the materials to practice. I literally know of a homeless woman who people give paper and pencils to and she spends her time drawing to pass the time.

  So, yes, the world is a worse place for having this “art”.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Give us your craziest ocean facts. 🦑⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I, for one, think it’s completely fucking reasonable to afraid of deep, dark water. Phobia my ass.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨THE CLASS WAR IS BACK, BABY!⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Wait, did they think the bathrooms were special and cost money? Many places just slap a paper “gender neutral” sign on their washrooms and call it a day until a nicer sign can come in. The really good places knew this shit ages ago and already saved themselves the trouble by putting in a shared sink area and having stalls with real doors. As someone who has literally had to fit washrooms into floor plans I can guarantee that if cost and ease were problems then we’d only have gender neutral washrooms.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨but what happened to logsday?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  And that 8th day will absolutely be a working day for reasons.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Win win⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean, I would hope insurance doesn’t need to pay me. That imply I’ve involved in an accident or had my stuff stolen. Even a not for profit insurance company would operate like that. I can afford $100/mo but I cannot afford to replace not only my car but the car or property of whatever I may be found at fault for hitting(and if I get hit, can that person afford to pay me?). If I got into an accident, especially if I were younger, how would I replace my $5,000 car and the $70k BMW I just hit? What if my kid set my house on fire or what if fire leapt from my neighbour’s house to mine?

  That said, it’s absolutely true that system is bloated to an absolutely disgusting level and its shocking lack of regulation for, as you say, being legally required is pitiful. It deplorable that people need to fight to get payouts sometimes and how the US uses it for healthcare is just hellish. It’s also true that the capitalist/libertarian ideal of insurance only really works if people are paid adequately but both those systems do fuck all, on purpose, to keep people’s financial security safe.

  In Québec, liability is paid for by the province so our car insurance is a lot cheaper and regular insurance only needs to cover the physical property, so that’s nice. It’s still got it’s problems I’m sure, but it’s a step in the right direction.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon touches grass⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Halloween party sounds like a time haha

  I hear ya on the suddenly being grumpy thing. When it happens to me I’ve started going “sorry, I’m just a little turned around by [thing]”. I remember one time almost exactly a year ago at my friends’ place where I was feeling kinda weird so I went and did the dishes. One of my friends broke off and came over like “hey! Guests don’t do dishes!”(he wanted to be a good host and was worried that I had felt obligated to help). I told him that really I just needed a quiet moment and to feel useful more than anything and it was all chill. The more I’ve gotten used to just saying I’m off balance/feeling funky/a bit ramped up/whatever else the more I’ve been able to feel safe closer to the edge of those feelings. Hell, there are times with the right people where I even feel ok if I need to be in the “danger zone” because there will be a safety line. If your friends don’t let you take a break then that’s on them, not you.

  Any kinda note works! Mine was just in the notes app on my phone but whatever lets you most easily start writing is the way to go. Could be that app function, could be a scheduled time or allowing yourself to enter stuff as the day goes on, a mix, whatever. Also Logseq looks cool, I may have to grab that and try it out!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Remember the good old days?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  What are you talking about? Of course we do, all the time.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon touches grass⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, firstly, big hug my dude. And thanks for being vulnerable with me here, I appreciate it and you’re sounding just fine!

  I get what you mean. You get so used to doing it that you basically no longer have evidence for things being ok when you don’t. I kept a note going every day for a whole year writing down stuff that happened; It was like a journal but focused on working on this stuff and I was so surprised to find how much I was expecting to write “and then it all fell apart” but finding that when it came time to write it down I just couldn’t actually come up with examples. I’m not saying you have to journal, but food for thought.

  It’s also important to not worry about needing to expose deeper thoughts right out the gate. I’m very much the kind of person who just goes pedal to the metal but when I think about what I like to see in my friends it’s mostly that what they do share is honest and not that they need to share a lot. Like, you don’t necessarily need to tell me about your philosophy of life within the first five minutes but if you think bugs are cool or have a strong opinion about olives frickin’ send it, my guy. And hey, if you’re nailing it 95% of the time those are excellent numbers with so much wiggle room! You can be waaaaaaay weirder with numbers like that, and it shows me that you have a strong ability to read the room and measure your response to things.

  You obviously care a lot about people and wanting to respect them so here’s something I heard about a year ago that kinda stuck with me for a similar reason: ‘When we decide for other people what they think of us, deciding for them that they think we’re weird and don’t like us, we’re being pretty unfair to them and not just ourselves.’ If they really do feel that way then ok, but we have to let them tell us that, ya know?

  Also thanks for letting me ramble. I tend to get excited when I seem to be helping in some way so I’m trying to keep it together but may go off a little.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon touches grass⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Hell yea dude, I so 100% understand that.

  When I found that I was being judgemental and closed(and a bit of a stick in the mud, if I’m honest) I just tried to practice doing more “yes, and” stuff. It may be different for you but for me I realized that a lot of what was holding me back was plain old insecurity. I was simply afraid of being vulnerable to that level and so terrified of the chance someone would try to use any error I might make against me that I would get defensive when someone felt at least safe enough to try to give some feedback.

  Being authentic is hard at first because it requires being vulnerable and, friend, I so get why that’s easier said than done. I’d worry less about being something so set-in-stone like a himbo and more about remembering that you’re allowed to be more than a mold filler. Like when you see a character who’s normally a little silly step aside with another and drop some calm wisdom and you go “oh, this person is more than their trope” or when the normally crazy barbarian type character shows softness when it’s needed. It’s situational, ya know? It’s not masking to turn down one knob and turn up the other when it’s appropriate.

  The best part is that even if you strike out making friends or whatever you can at least say that you were a good, authentic person during it all. No one can ever take that away from you but you, and you control you.

  —

  It’ll be hard at first, to take what may feel like such a big risk, but I believe in ya and I can tell you genuinely care so you’ll get it for sure. Start small and build up and you’ll get there sooner than you think :)