People should just find people they’re sexually compatible with. No one owes you anything, and you don’t owe anyone anything. Just do whatever you want with consenting adults. I don’t understand why this concept is so fucking hard? You don’t like bush, cool, don’t sleep with someone who has one. You like to have a bush? Cool, don’t sleep with someone who doesn’t like it. Simple as that people. No one decides what they like and what they don’t. You can’t force someone to like your body, so why even bother? There’s plenty people out there who likes you the way you are.
Men against bush
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MBech@feddit.dk 1 month ago
baggachipz@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
You don’t like bush, cool, don’t sleep with someone who has one.
Should this conversation happen prior to the encounter, then?
MBech@feddit.dk 1 month ago
Nothing wrong with talking about expectations prior to banging.
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 1 month ago
If you care enough about it, yes.
VeganCheesecake@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
If it’s actually a total deal breaker for you then … probably?
danciestlobster@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
This is the real answer. I mean some compromise is normal and healthy in a relationship, but for the most part everyone just do what you are comfortable with and find people who are good with that
velma@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Yep and if people at large could stop commenting on women’s body hair publicly, then everyone could be even more focused on finding people they are compatible with <3
velma@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
This is about people who go out of their way to comment on typically women’s bodies or go out of their way to leave hate comments to women online for having body hair.
This is in the intro of the video.
MBech@feddit.dk 1 month ago
I’m mostly refering to some of the comments in this thread. A lot seem to take it very personal that some people might not be into the same thing they are.
Katrisia@lemmy.today 1 month ago
This is the answer in a pragmatic sense, in our day to day. It works, it’s fine. The thing is our tastes are not 100% natural and spontaneous, they can be influenced by context, and that context can be problematic. So the extra step these discussions are asking us to do is beyond the pragmatic or useful day to day advice you gave. It is questioning why we have those tastes. “Why don’t I like natural cis women?”, “Why am I not attracted to black people?”, “Why do I refuse to date trans guys?”. Etcetera. If we find it is not because of prejudices, societal expectations, 'must be’s from unequal societies, or anything like that, then it’s an unfortunate coincidence but we can move on. But if we find something like that (those things I listed), it is not necessarily permanent, I think most of the times it can be worked on, changed, and these discussions are also an invitation to do so.
ReptilianCleric@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
Umm, I do, in fact, decide what I like or don’t like. That’s true for everybody. But I don’t decide what you like, and vice versa. So the issue is still that you can’t decide for other people what they’re into.
Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org 1 month ago
How does that work? Especially given the context. As I’ve understood attraction and what one likes about the other person aren’t really changeable? I’m genuinely curious how can that be changed or decided?
Hazel@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
There’s plenty people out there who likes you the way you are.
Hahaha, good one 😂
… now I’m sad 😔
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
pokes your shoulder
Hey, I like you!
How’s today going?
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
Here’s my approach to this, as a dude:
I mean, really I don’t have a broad preference for or against bush at all…
… but, if you want me to smooch things down there, please tidy up a bit.
I just don’t like having a mouth full of hair.
Don’t worry, I will tidy up too, for the reverse scenario, if partner also dislikes mouthful of hair, and! … this also applies to my facial hair… I’m not that attached to it, and it will grow back, if you want to smooch my face but don’t like the beard/stache.
Maybe I am lucky in that I at least I think I look decent both with or without a beard/stache.
This is to me completely fair and reciprocal, and … really is not that conplicated.
okwhateverdude@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Gotta say. I kinda agree. If you’re a men that hate the 90s grunge band Bush, you have no soul
exu@feditown.com 1 month ago
This would be even funnier if Bush were a soul band.
AshMan85@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Great album
Godort@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
This was the first album I bought with my own money.
a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Solid investment.
OwOarchist@pawb.social 1 month ago
But being against George W Bush is very reasonable.
Mongostein@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
Bush X was better
watson387@sopuli.xyz 1 month ago
This is a horrible pop album full of gibberish, and I grew up in the 90s.
Epp@lemmus.org 1 month ago
Got a machine head! It’s better than the rest. Green to red, machine head.
sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 1 month ago
Fedizen@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Thank you for your service Private sad_detective_man… gonna just call you Private Sad-Dick
sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 1 month ago
Yes! New user tag unlocked
mosspiglet@lemmy.world 1 month ago
My partner will grow everything out, full pits, full bush and I’m like “Yes! so sexy!” Then she’ll decide to shave everything and I’m like “awwww yeah!”. Then back to the bush and I’m again stoked. She’s beautiful and sexy no matter what.
velma@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
This is really sweet <3
rayyy@lemmy.world 1 month ago
She is a real asset.
Allero@lemmy.today 1 month ago
And OP is a real keeper!
sugarfoot00@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
I’m assuming you don’t mind the razor burn moments in between either.
DudeImMacGyver@kbin.earth 1 month ago
I don't think either Bush presidencies were very good TBH.
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 1 month ago
The endings were pretty great, at least.
DagwoodIII@piefed.social 1 month ago
Funny thing. Heard Stormy Daniels run down how the shaved look happened.
Back in DVD days, a porn star could hit the road and tour a lot of strip clubs. She could sell a lot of merchandise and make herself well known. The problem was that a lot of these clubs were in small towns where the cops loved harassing the dancers. A lot of places had laws that said that visible pubic hair was illegal, so a lot of dancers shaved, and they encouraged the porn stars to do the same.
When the shaven ladies got back to shooting, they kept on shaving. Pretty soon that became the standard look in movies and magazines.
bitjunkie@lemmy.world 1 month ago
It’s insane to me that the hair is what they had a problem with, and putting your genitals on even fuller display is the loophole.
DagwoodIII@piefed.social 1 month ago
Think about it.
Those laws were written long before VHS was a thing. Back in the day they were policing burlesque shows where the ladies might go down to G-string and pasties. The pubic hair thing was a simple test to see if they’d gone too far.
Also, in the bars the dancers might have to keep their G-strings on [laws vary by state] A lot of dancers travel, so it makes sense to be ready for the strictest enforcement
DrBob@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
With full respect to Ms Daniels I think it predates DVDs. My first sight (and many others I suspect) was an actress by the name of Seka who was shaving in the 70s and possibly earlier. As she tells it she was an early innovator in glamming up porn with good hair and makeup. Shaving was part of an exotic look.
CompactFlax@discuss.tchncs.de 1 month ago
There’s been pubic hair removal going back to ancient Egypt, through Greece and Rome and into modern times.
DagwoodIII@piefed.social 1 month ago
But it’s kind of like saying Elvis or The Beatles didn’t invent their signature hair styles.
What Ms. Daniels said [and I agree with] is that a lot of porn stars started shaving around the same time and that filtered into the mainstream.
velma@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Whoa that’s such a wild story! Where there’s a will, there’s a way haha
DagwoodIII@piefed.social 1 month ago
What’s even funnier is that the question that prompted the story was something like ‘have you seen porn behavior filtering into the mainstream?’
I think the interviewer was expecting something about clothes…
Jax@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
I think anyone that makes blanket generalizations is deceitful, what a coincidence.
nanometer1625@thelemmy.club 1 month ago
Exactly. Only a sith deals in absolutes.
Reygle@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I absolutely approve of afro-sized bush to bury my beard in /shrug
rumba@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
You just made a blanket statement too ;)
Jax@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
I’m not sure that I have, actually — blanket generalizations are inherently deceitful.
Aeao@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Broad sweeping generalizations are ALWAYS wrong
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I wish statements like that made LLMs explode.
NewSocialWhoDis@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
Nah man. If you hate how it comes naturally, then you don’t actually like it.
But I’m a middle aged woman, so I think the ‘male gaze’ and its judgemental subjugation can fuck all the way off.
Jax@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
I don’t care what you think your qualifications are. These three things are true: I love my girlfriend, I am sexually attracted to my girlfriend, I hate pubes. Whatever you think is irrelevant.
gurty@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Hate Bush ❌ Kate Bush ✅
DoubleDongle@lemmy.world 1 month ago
My policy is that if you want someone’s mouth to go there, you should shave it. This applies to all genders and hair features pretty equally.
Leviathan@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Well they are both war criminals who should be tried as traitors, and the whitewashing of their legacies is deeply shameful to say the least.
luciferofastora@feddit.org 1 month ago
I mean, according to a research paper published by Brandeis University and its sources, the whole “women need to be shaved” thing was started by Gillette to sell razors, correlates with perceiving women as younger and a tendency to fetishise youth
Considering the evolutionary roots, men should feel attracted to female body hair, as it is a secondary sexual characteristic, such as breast size and waist to hip ratio, and hence a sign of sexual maturity and ability to procreate. […]
Biologically, sexually mature females have body hair, but society has made femininity more connected to youth and pre-pubescence than to a woman’s ability to reproduce.
So if you like them unshaved, that’s natural (but no longer normal). If you like them shaved, that’s normal (but not natural).
And if you don’t like them at all, you’re lucky to sidestep that question.
StarryPhoenix97@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I’m torn.
I don’t want hair in my mouth but I do like the idea of loosing a finger in the jungle
gh0stcassette@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
Wait, the pubic hair or the president?
infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 1 month ago
Could we stop trying to resuscitate that man’s image? He was a war criminal just like every other president before and after.
Daft_ish@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
I mean, they had like one good song. I wouldn’t say i hate them.
uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 month ago
I became sexually active in the early 1990s when the Brazilian look was big in porn, but most women still had full pubes, or if they were fancy, went for the French runway.
So my brain associated the shaved look with porn, and bush with IRL, which messed with my head on the occasion I had a partner who waxed herself clean.
My experience is that bush is easier to maintain and is easier on the skin. Shaving is fun for a single date, but results in a scratchy period and runs the risk of ingrown hairs.
dwzap@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I’m confused. Are we talking V Bush or W Bush?
brownsugga@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Not knocking the bush but the broader trend of shaving/waxing has reduced the overall rate of pubic lice infestations
Wataba@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
I have a strong revulsion for hair in general, especially on my own body.
I cana respect the practical functionality, and of course I defend the autonomy of others.
Using broad strokes on trivial matters to label anyone who dislikes something without considering the nuances is a dick move.
Passerby6497@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I don’t like bush, so I shave my own and help my partners. Everyone wins.
Simulation6@sopuli.xyz 1 month ago
I grew up before the whole shaving fad and shaved women look unnatural to me. For some reason I blame the French for this, probably because the first reference to shaving I remember was from the movie Amelie.
87Six@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
Is it wrong to prefer clean shaven now???
Pat_Riot@lemmy.today 1 month ago
But they were never a good band.
DarkCloud@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Bush is a design feature, it prevents micro-cuts an abrasions and stops abrasions coming in skin to skin transmission. Our bodies have pubic hair to prevent direct contact/transmission of fluids. It’s not a mistake.
…shaving it off makes sex less safe. It’s literally part of sexual health to have some.
trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Are we talking about George W here?
Hiatus@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Unshaven, trim the bikini area. I want something to run my fingers through. I love a woman that is womanly. Shaven is boring and childlike, it does nothing for me.
vathecka@lemmy.radio 1 month ago
big fan of the iraq war ig
zxqwas@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I don’t hate him but his foregin policy, especially the Iraq war, was in hindsight questionable to say the least.
marxismtomorrow@lemmy.today 1 month ago
I’m not saying I don’t like Bush but it’s a little silly to call me ungrateful after the whole Iraq and Afghanistan debacle.
lena@gregtech.eu 1 month ago
I am saying I don’t like Bush
Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I hate them both, Senior and Junior.
4am@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
I dunno I didn’t listen to any albums after “Sixteen Stone”
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 1 month ago
i think that was my seventh or eighth album. one of the first ten probably.
PapaStevesy@lemmy.world 1 month ago
They’re a one-hit wonder anyway
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Neocons are an interesting bunch of people.