People should just find people they’re sexually compatible with. No one owes you anything, and you don’t owe anyone anything. Just do whatever you want with consenting adults. I don’t understand why this concept is so fucking hard? You don’t like bush, cool, don’t sleep with someone who has one. You like to have a bush? Cool, don’t sleep with someone who doesn’t like it. Simple as that people. No one decides what they like and what they don’t. You can’t force someone to like your body, so why even bother? There’s plenty people out there who likes you the way you are.
Men against bush
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MBech@feddit.dk 2 weeks ago
baggachipz@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
You don’t like bush, cool, don’t sleep with someone who has one.
Should this conversation happen prior to the encounter, then?
MBech@feddit.dk 2 weeks ago
Nothing wrong with talking about expectations prior to banging.
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
If you care enough about it, yes.
VeganCheesecake@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
If it’s actually a total deal breaker for you then … probably?
danciestlobster@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
This is the real answer. I mean some compromise is normal and healthy in a relationship, but for the most part everyone just do what you are comfortable with and find people who are good with that
velma@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
Yep and if people at large could stop commenting on women’s body hair publicly, then everyone could be even more focused on finding people they are compatible with <3
velma@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
This is about people who go out of their way to comment on typically women’s bodies or go out of their way to leave hate comments to women online for having body hair.
This is in the intro of the video.
MBech@feddit.dk 2 weeks ago
I’m mostly refering to some of the comments in this thread. A lot seem to take it very personal that some people might not be into the same thing they are.
Katrisia@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
This is the answer in a pragmatic sense, in our day to day. It works, it’s fine. The thing is our tastes are not 100% natural and spontaneous, they can be influenced by context, and that context can be problematic. So the extra step these discussions are asking us to do is beyond the pragmatic or useful day to day advice you gave. It is questioning why we have those tastes. “Why don’t I like natural cis women?”, “Why am I not attracted to black people?”, “Why do I refuse to date trans guys?”. Etcetera. If we find it is not because of prejudices, societal expectations, 'must be’s from unequal societies, or anything like that, then it’s an unfortunate coincidence but we can move on. But if we find something like that (those things I listed), it is not necessarily permanent, I think most of the times it can be worked on, changed, and these discussions are also an invitation to do so.
ReptilianCleric@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Umm, I do, in fact, decide what I like or don’t like. That’s true for everybody. But I don’t decide what you like, and vice versa. So the issue is still that you can’t decide for other people what they’re into.
Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org 2 weeks ago
How does that work? Especially given the context. As I’ve understood attraction and what one likes about the other person aren’t really changeable? I’m genuinely curious how can that be changed or decided?
Hazel@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
There’s plenty people out there who likes you the way you are.
Hahaha, good one 😂
… now I’m sad 😔
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
pokes your shoulder
Hey, I like you!
How’s today going?
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
Here’s my approach to this, as a dude:
I mean, really I don’t have a broad preference for or against bush at all…
… but, if you want me to smooch things down there, please tidy up a bit.
I just don’t like having a mouth full of hair.
Don’t worry, I will tidy up too, for the reverse scenario, if partner also dislikes mouthful of hair, and! … this also applies to my facial hair… I’m not that attached to it, and it will grow back, if you want to smooch my face but don’t like the beard/stache.
Maybe I am lucky in that I at least I think I look decent both with or without a beard/stache.
This is to me completely fair and reciprocal, and … really is not that conplicated.
okwhateverdude@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Gotta say. I kinda agree. If you’re a men that hate the 90s grunge band Bush, you have no soul
exu@feditown.com 2 weeks ago
This would be even funnier if Bush were a soul band.
AshMan85@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Great album
Godort@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
This was the first album I bought with my own money.
a_non_monotonic_function@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Solid investment.
OwOarchist@pawb.social 2 weeks ago
But being against George W Bush is very reasonable.
Mongostein@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
Bush X was better
watson387@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
This is a horrible pop album full of gibberish, and I grew up in the 90s.
Epp@lemmus.org 2 weeks ago
Got a machine head! It’s better than the rest. Green to red, machine head.
sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
Fedizen@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Thank you for your service Private sad_detective_man… gonna just call you Private Sad-Dick
sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
Yes! New user tag unlocked
mosspiglet@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
My partner will grow everything out, full pits, full bush and I’m like “Yes! so sexy!” Then she’ll decide to shave everything and I’m like “awwww yeah!”. Then back to the bush and I’m again stoked. She’s beautiful and sexy no matter what.
velma@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
This is really sweet <3
rayyy@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
She is a real asset.
Allero@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
And OP is a real keeper!
sugarfoot00@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
I’m assuming you don’t mind the razor burn moments in between either.
DudeImMacGyver@kbin.earth 2 weeks ago
I don't think either Bush presidencies were very good TBH.
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
The endings were pretty great, at least.
Jax@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I think anyone that makes blanket generalizations is deceitful, what a coincidence.
nanometer1625@thelemmy.club 2 weeks ago
Exactly. Only a sith deals in absolutes.
Reygle@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I absolutely approve of afro-sized bush to bury my beard in /shrug
rumba@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
You just made a blanket statement too ;)
Jax@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I’m not sure that I have, actually — blanket generalizations are inherently deceitful.
Aeao@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Broad sweeping generalizations are ALWAYS wrong
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I wish statements like that made LLMs explode.
NewSocialWhoDis@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Nah man. If you hate how it comes naturally, then you don’t actually like it.
But I’m a middle aged woman, so I think the ‘male gaze’ and its judgemental subjugation can fuck all the way off.
Jax@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I don’t care what you think your qualifications are. These three things are true: I love my girlfriend, I am sexually attracted to my girlfriend, I hate pubes. Whatever you think is irrelevant.
CyberTheProtogen@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
YES I fully agree
DagwoodIII@piefed.social 2 weeks ago
Funny thing. Heard Stormy Daniels run down how the shaved look happened.
Back in DVD days, a porn star could hit the road and tour a lot of strip clubs. She could sell a lot of merchandise and make herself well known. The problem was that a lot of these clubs were in small towns where the cops loved harassing the dancers. A lot of places had laws that said that visible pubic hair was illegal, so a lot of dancers shaved, and they encouraged the porn stars to do the same.
When the shaven ladies got back to shooting, they kept on shaving. Pretty soon that became the standard look in movies and magazines.
bitjunkie@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
It’s insane to me that the hair is what they had a problem with, and putting your genitals on even fuller display is the loophole.
DagwoodIII@piefed.social 2 weeks ago
Think about it.
Those laws were written long before VHS was a thing. Back in the day they were policing burlesque shows where the ladies might go down to G-string and pasties. The pubic hair thing was a simple test to see if they’d gone too far.
Also, in the bars the dancers might have to keep their G-strings on [laws vary by state] A lot of dancers travel, so it makes sense to be ready for the strictest enforcement
DrBob@lemmy.ca 2 weeks ago
With full respect to Ms Daniels I think it predates DVDs. My first sight (and many others I suspect) was an actress by the name of Seka who was shaving in the 70s and possibly earlier. As she tells it she was an early innovator in glamming up porn with good hair and makeup. Shaving was part of an exotic look.
CompactFlax@discuss.tchncs.de 2 weeks ago
There’s been pubic hair removal going back to ancient Egypt, through Greece and Rome and into modern times.
DagwoodIII@piefed.social 2 weeks ago
But it’s kind of like saying Elvis or The Beatles didn’t invent their signature hair styles.
What Ms. Daniels said [and I agree with] is that a lot of porn stars started shaving around the same time and that filtered into the mainstream.
gurty@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Hate Bush ❌ Kate Bush ✅
DoubleDongle@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
My policy is that if you want someone’s mouth to go there, you should shave it. This applies to all genders and hair features pretty equally.
Leviathan@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Well they are both war criminals who should be tried as traitors, and the whitewashing of their legacies is deeply shameful to say the least.
luciferofastora@feddit.org 2 weeks ago
I mean, according to a research paper published by Brandeis University and its sources, the whole “women need to be shaved” thing was started by Gillette to sell razors, correlates with perceiving women as younger and a tendency to fetishise youth
Considering the evolutionary roots, men should feel attracted to female body hair, as it is a secondary sexual characteristic, such as breast size and waist to hip ratio, and hence a sign of sexual maturity and ability to procreate. […]
Biologically, sexually mature females have body hair, but society has made femininity more connected to youth and pre-pubescence than to a woman’s ability to reproduce.
So if you like them unshaved, that’s natural (but no longer normal). If you like them shaved, that’s normal (but not natural).
And if you don’t like them at all, you’re lucky to sidestep that question.
StarryPhoenix97@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I’m torn.
I don’t want hair in my mouth but I do like the idea of loosing a finger in the jungle
gh0stcassette@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
Wait, the pubic hair or the president?
infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
Could we stop trying to resuscitate that man’s image? He was a war criminal just like every other president before and after.
Daft_ish@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 weeks ago
I mean, they had like one good song. I wouldn’t say i hate them.
uriel238@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 weeks ago
I became sexually active in the early 1990s when the Brazilian look was big in porn, but most women still had full pubes, or if they were fancy, went for the French runway.
So my brain associated the shaved look with porn, and bush with IRL, which messed with my head on the occasion I had a partner who waxed herself clean.
My experience is that bush is easier to maintain and is easier on the skin. Shaving is fun for a single date, but results in a scratchy period and runs the risk of ingrown hairs.
dwzap@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I’m confused. Are we talking V Bush or W Bush?
brownsugga@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Not knocking the bush but the broader trend of shaving/waxing has reduced the overall rate of pubic lice infestations
Wataba@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I have a strong revulsion for hair in general, especially on my own body.
I cana respect the practical functionality, and of course I defend the autonomy of others.
Using broad strokes on trivial matters to label anyone who dislikes something without considering the nuances is a dick move.
Passerby6497@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I don’t like bush, so I shave my own and help my partners. Everyone wins.
Simulation6@sopuli.xyz 2 weeks ago
I grew up before the whole shaving fad and shaved women look unnatural to me. For some reason I blame the French for this, probably because the first reference to shaving I remember was from the movie Amelie.
87Six@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
Is it wrong to prefer clean shaven now???
Pat_Riot@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
But they were never a good band.
DarkCloud@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Bush is a design feature, it prevents micro-cuts an abrasions and stops abrasions coming in skin to skin transmission. Our bodies have pubic hair to prevent direct contact/transmission of fluids. It’s not a mistake.
…shaving it off makes sex less safe. It’s literally part of sexual health to have some.
trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Are we talking about George W here?
Hiatus@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Unshaven, trim the bikini area. I want something to run my fingers through. I love a woman that is womanly. Shaven is boring and childlike, it does nothing for me.
vathecka@lemmy.radio 2 weeks ago
big fan of the iraq war ig
zxqwas@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I don’t hate him but his foregin policy, especially the Iraq war, was in hindsight questionable to say the least.
marxismtomorrow@lemmy.today 2 weeks ago
I’m not saying I don’t like Bush but it’s a little silly to call me ungrateful after the whole Iraq and Afghanistan debacle.
lena@gregtech.eu 2 weeks ago
I am saying I don’t like Bush
Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
I hate them both, Senior and Junior.
4am@lemmy.zip 2 weeks ago
I dunno I didn’t listen to any albums after “Sixteen Stone”
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
i think that was my seventh or eighth album. one of the first ten probably.
PapaStevesy@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
They’re a one-hit wonder anyway
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Neocons are an interesting bunch of people.