Allero
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- Comment on Few adult men are killed by adult women. 4 hours ago:
It is widely known that only straight white men are responsible for all the evil in the world!
- Comment on Few adult men are killed by adult women. 4 hours ago:
Anyone at all who gives this more that two seconds of thought knows these issues are not to be compared, but to be seen as part of one complex that should be solved as one, should we ever hope to resolve it.
Accentuating issues on one side while grossly belittling ones on the other isn’t gonna cut it. You won’t magically fix the culture of aggression and dominance as the only acceptable behavior, inability to complain and find healthy guidance, social hierarchies and pressures, exclusion and alienation of men from large parts of social life that can be vital to them, the indoctrination by “men are dangerous”, by reducing it to “oh women don’t smile at them, cry me a river”. Neither will the gross overgeneralizations, lumping half the planet’s population into some psycho category, help resolve the matter.
Men need to receive care, attention, to have a safe space for their emotions, to unlearn the unhealthy parts in a safe environment while keeping in touch with themselves and a healthy masculinity. They need healthy interactions with women to receive a balanced and healthy perspective, learn proper boundaries, dispel unhealthy views. We should be on the lookout for individuals who need help and professional attention, and who is most likely to pose danger if left this way. The very things that make some men dangerous grow at their most in isolation. We shouldn’t let it happen, if not for the sake of men, then for the sake of women.
Women can - and should - take part in that. Let’s start simple: it’s totally healthy to address safety concerns, and a lot need to be said about it, but let’s work on the second part, let’s not compare or reduce someone else’s feelings and struggles in a neverending tug of war. We can talk, and there are intertwined issues on both sides that we need to untangle together. Let’s get it done.
- Comment on Few adult men are killed by adult women. 12 hours ago:
I disagree with the message but it’s a shitpost
- Comment on A real, 100% unedited promotional picture from Kohler toilets 14 hours ago:
Eh, it’s the same story as Xerox, Thermos and much more. Google it!
- Comment on Ciao 2 days ago:
No worries, she’ll come back soon. She always does!
- Comment on Crazy cheeks on that guy 2 days ago:
Я выглядит как перевёрнутая R. Человек думал, что это HR, а это НЯ - милота, оно же nyan.
- Comment on True story, I hate humanity 3 days ago:
I remember times not too long ago when you could meet CSAM all over the clearnet. Often times these were ads for Telegram channels with very graphic screenshots.
- Comment on How to move a sofa 4 days ago:
For me too sometimes, but this is what it takes to build a community.
Your plans may suddenly take a turn, but in exchange, you get helping hands for whatever you need to do.
- Comment on Lemmy or Piefed? 4 days ago:
It is one thing to hold an opinion; it is another to limit which opinions others can see.
Lemmy devs hold a very radical and strong opinion, but they don’t enforce it on anybody else. This fosters a healthy and open discussion and political development. You can have any instances posting whatever.
PieFed dev enforces certain optics by limiting the sources viewable through it, and some of the choices raises eyebrows in a major way. For example, did you know PieFed bans WikiLeaks? No matter the political stance, you’d rather be able to cite that. This open censorship limits political discussion and serves to reinforce Rimu’s political line instead of going for an honest intellectual exchange.
We have plenty of spaces trying to shape people’s opinion. Fediverse is the direct response to this threat among many. Why would we want to turn Threadiverse into this again?
Again, with that said, I tried to give a more neutral outline. Objectively, Lemmy the software is politically neutral, while PieFed is not. If you share the values baked into PieFed, you may end up enjoying this experience. But overall, this is often seen as problematic around these parts.
- Comment on Lemmy or Piefed? 6 days ago:
Lemmy
Technically: less often updated, may have less of the shiny features. Some see it as positive: Lemmy stays out of the user’s way.
Ideologically: devs are far-left, but the project itself is neutral. Wherever you find yourself politically, you’ll find a place.
Overall: Lemmy is a good option if you want to see the “raw” Threadiverse. Less bells and whistles, no content or moderational filters pushed on the user aside from what instance admins and users themselves decide.
PieFed
Technically: fast-paced development, “move fast and break stuff”, highly experimental, but feature-rich.
Ideologically: American liberal/moderate, enforced. All PieFed instances filter out “radical” left- or right-wing content (see no-qanon PieFed list), all user filters come on top of this list instead of replacing it. It also suffers from the backlash on some of the decisions made, such as vote throttling.
Overall: PieFed is a shiny and new, fast-paced, but also opinionated and controversial project. Whether it’s going to be a “peace of mind” or “power tripping dev hellscape” software is only for you to experience.
Potential compromise: PyLova
PyLova is a fork of PieFed designed specifically to cut out opinionated pieces while keeping the technology.
However, it’s only currently present on quokk.au, which is itself opinionated (anarchist, far left).
- Comment on Yes, my queen 6 days ago:
i am NOT clicking that link
- Comment on I just released my first fully free Android game: Wandering Alchemist (GPS walking game) 1 week ago:
That’s some very obscure place to take apks from, but ultimately it works, thanks :D
Love the harvesting minigames!
- Comment on I just released my first fully free Android game: Wandering Alchemist (GPS walking game) 1 week ago:
Aurora causes weird issues for me, and also the anonymous access seems to be no more for everyone, so doesn’t help me in particular.
But I’m one user, and overall, having it on Aurora means a lot! Besides, having it there means someone eventually shares the .apk itself, and that’s something I can certainly work with, even if I’ll have to update manually.
- Comment on I just released my first fully free Android game: Wandering Alchemist (GPS walking game) 1 week ago:
Oh yeah, as if I’m personally marching on Kherson in full armor.
Dude, these kinds of attacks have lost ground a long time ago. Plenty of Russians do not support what’s happening, many struggle themselves under drone strikes, quite a few actively resist. Or did you think large-scale attacks of Ukraine on some of the most crucial military objects happened without any help from Russians?
If you want to display your active civil stance, do it where you can. With US, Europe, Australia and more following Russia’s footsteps, I’m sure you’ll have ground for political action. Harassing Russians for the sake of being born in Russia is shortsighted and only serves to make you feel morally superior while doing nothing.
- Comment on I just released my first fully free Android game: Wandering Alchemist (GPS walking game) 1 week ago:
I see! This is understandable for a small indie dev.
But I’ll always be happy to see other avenues for distribution :)
- Comment on I just released my first fully free Android game: Wandering Alchemist (GPS walking game) 1 week ago:
Seconding the F-Droid request.
Also, the app is not available in Russia, is that by design?
In any case, good luck with it and thanks for sharing something like this!
- Comment on Tried to login to the arch wiki but was given a 3 minute crypto challenge. 1 week ago:
A word of advice: download Arch wiki for offline use.
You can use Kiwix to have a full graphical wiki, or use things like arch-wiki-docs.
- Comment on Tried to login to the arch wiki but was given a 3 minute crypto challenge. 1 week ago:
Use kiwix app, it doesn’t need that :)
- Comment on The only one country 1 week ago:
I understand how confused they were!
Medics are absolutely not prepared to see something like this. Your case is very much out of the ordinary, and honestly, I didn’t know you can have outer passport without an inner one. Doesn’t the consulate provide one? Or did you just never bother to?
Glad that the situation worked out fine, though
- Comment on The only one country 1 week ago:
I’d say Russian medics are less angry and more tired and overburdened a lot of the time. This does reflect on their attitudes, but that’s not out of bad intent.
But yes, what you said is true, and that’s how it should be. Honestly, I’d rather just have emergency medical service get free of all that insurance paperwork and just do their thing. It’s not that they’ll ever deny medical service anyway.
- Comment on The most unrealistic part of Odyssey is the journey taking 20 years 1 week ago:
Also probably not in New York
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
You’ll notice that most of the fediverse is talking about Tesseract, not piefed.
Only because Tesseract drama is more recent. People were showing their anger all over the place when both blocklists and vote limits were implemented. A drama there was arguably bigger than the current one.
A prefilled set of defaults
Defaults is something that is easily changed through the same avenue as all the other settings, and comes from technical necessity. This is a deliberate attempt to manipulate visibility of content on the Fediverse, strongarming the dev position.
There is always another instance
For all I know, there is exactly one PieFed instance cleared of this, quokk.au. For that, they had to fork the project, because not all of the changes are as easily reversed as the blocklist. For ideological reasons, plenty of users would rather avoid it, and so boom - they’re out of options. Most PieFed instances wouldn’t be able to maintain a forked project by themselves.
Sane (to most people) starting point for admins
Did you consider the Fediverse demographic? I wouldn’t say most people here necessarily share Rimu’s points, and his attempts to bulldoze it in favor of his views are rightfully seen as a deliberate attack. He uses his power to project his view on a community which, at large, doesn’t stand for the same values.
You still try to build equality between your (and Rimu’s) views and sanity. Plenty here would disagree.
It’s a 3 word SQL query
Which only admins can manage. And let’s not forget the blocklist is not the only controversial decision. As I already mentioned, some require forking the project outright, and it’s a giant mess. Admins do not know what to expect of Rimu next, either.
A) fuck you. B) I’m perfectly happy being hostile to those types.
And this is the gist of it that I was trying to highlight to you. As long as you align in views with Rimu, you don’t see it as that much of a problem. But remember this can be turned against you the second you don’t agree on something. Shutting people up always ends up poorly, especially for those supporting it. Don’t be surprised when it happens.
I find it makes for a much more pleasant fediverse experience.
And that’s why such list should exist. The problematic difference is not the existence of the blocklist, it’s the fact it’s forced upon everyone. A perfect option is making a block list opt-in on a user level. You want to cut out whatever you find unpleasant about the Fediverse? Power to you, here’s a list, just agree to use it and enjoy the same amazing experience. But if you want to see something Rimu doesn’t approve of, you’d rather be able to. Let’s not willfully give up user freedom to the whims of random people.
NOTHING on that list makes the world a better place.
That’s a…heavily opinionated take. To provide a politically neutral example, how did WikiLeaks make it into the list? Did it not do any good, forcing accountability and opening up human rights violations, genocide, and more? There’s so much more to unpack about the list, but it will inevitably result in us going through polarizing political opinions, and, as you mentioned, it won’t get us anywhere.
And if there is one, single take I want you to carry from this conversation: supporting censorship and giving someone to decide what other people can see always ends up very badly, even if that censorship (for now) aligns with your views. People fall for this trap over and over, and never seem to learn.
Farewell.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
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Make sure you are relaxed enough. If you clench your ass like a guillotine, you won’t enjoy it. Let it slip in gently, naturally, effortlessly. It may still feel weird at first, but then you’ll learn to do it and you’ll have plenty of fun!
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Most people found out about the blocklists existence when shit has already hit the fan, and Rimu got to stand his ground. In this sense, it was the same rude awakening.
My point (and largely that of Lemmy) is not that filter lists are bad. Plenty of instances benefit from them, whether it’s a safe space or just something tailored to make your experience better. The point is, they must be applied on the instance and/or user level. Not some messiah dev who decides what all PieFed instances serve to their users, especially not when such dev simply uses it to project his political opinions on a larger part of the Fediverse. People manipulating public opinion and cutting their access to information is everything Fediverse stands against, and this is why it caused such a backlash.
PieFed already did offer user choice: I remember registering to one of the instances (piefed.zip if I recall correctly) and being offered, as a user, to remove things like Musk and Trump posts etc. This is a good approach, as it empowers the user to tailor their feed. But what choice does user have now, when major instances have this baked in list? None.
It’s also an absolutely unnecessary and unwelcome headache for admins. Instead of opting in to whatever admins deem essential, they have to clear the thing of whatever Rimu’s up to next. Standing up for this mess is like saying “Microsoft ain’t that bad, you can remove most of the telemetry and forced apps by clicking switches here, here, and here, and changing these registry keys”. You shouldn’t have to jump through these hoops in the first place, this is hostile development.
You aligning with Rimu politically contributes significantly to the tolerance of such behavior, because it doesn’t largely affect you…yet. But consider this: plenty of people who want to make this place and the world at large better are being shut up by the dev who thinks he knows better. He uses his position as a developer to make choices for all PieFed users. Instead of giving admins the choice, he hardcodes his personal choices (not only blocklists, but also vote limiting and other things that are not as easily removed) into software used by thousands of people, many of which disagree. Does this align with you?
- Comment on PSBLACKOUT (boycott of PlayStation) 1 week ago:
The more I know!
- Comment on PSBLACKOUT (boycott of PlayStation) 1 week ago:
Most important features of physical media are transferability (you can give the game to someone else and it will run) and independence (you can run your game even if Sony or simply your Internet connection go down). Piracy typically checks both of these boxes.
It may not hold a collector’s value if that’s what you’re after, but I’d argue this is secondary anyway. And if you simply want to hold a bunch of game disks, you can always buy an empty disk and put the game in there.
- Comment on Anon tries dating apps 1 week ago:
Meeting girls on the Internet absolutely works, it’s just that you should do everything except what you’re told.
Do NOT use dating apps. They are, for the most part, designed to keep you hooked and never actually find a worthy person. If you find your love, you stop being their client.
Use regular social media/weird and obscure places crafted with love/communities by interest/whatever, just not dating apps.
I found my girlfriend in an online chat, and we’re together for 2 years. She moved in with me, and we couldn’t be happier.
- Comment on Anon tries dating apps 1 week ago:
I bet someone did just that and succeeded
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Should it matter? As the saying goes, “first they come for tankies…”. Moreover, the blocklist covers pretty much the entire political spectrum, except exactly Rimu’s beliefs (classic liberal, strongly pro-government). Like, I invite people to just follow the link you gracefully provided and explore for themselves. It’s not just Nazis or transphobes, it is all things left and right, WikiLeaks, and more.
Last time I checked, the interface doesn’t allow to just remove the whole blocklist in a click of a button. Removing 4000+ entries one by one is a very, very questionable endeavor. Moreover, such things must be opt-in, not opt-out. Does
MicrosoftRimu understand consent? - Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
PieFed (the software, so this relates to every instance) blocks links to certain websites, it is hardcoded and without a fork, you’d have to manually reallow them one-by-one (and there’s like 4000 of them).
A lot of them are blocked due to political motivations, and Rimu himself said software shouldn’t be politically neutral.