Allero
@Allero@lemmy.today
- Comment on So are they like extinct or something? 1 day ago:
Indeed
- Comment on So are they like extinct or something? 1 day ago:
Make it higher so it could qualify
- Comment on So are they like extinct or something? 1 day ago:
Have you ever seen a square? Congrats, it’s a type of rhombus.
- Comment on Anon steams up the sauna 2 days ago:
Not at all. I’m not saying separate gender saunas should be abolished, I merely make a case for the alternative.
When me and my partner chose a gym to go to, a mixed sauna was among the positives. Neither of us would like it if it were separate.
Should you choose one, you’re free to stick to those with separate options. It’s alright. I simply addressed the concern of potential sexual abuse happening in mixed saunas - on my watch, there were exactly zero instances of any inappropriate behavior. If this doesn’t help - so be it, separate options never went anywhere. Enjoy what brings you comfort and safety.
- Comment on Anon steams up the sauna 2 days ago:
European example shows it’s perfectly fine, though. And I don’t think American culture is so much different it cannot be imported one way or another.
Personally, I find it very convenient since I go to the gym with my partner, and we can hang out together not only while training, but also relaxing after. This also helps coordinate our actions, so we don’t sit and wait for each other.
That said, separate gender saunas should exist too for people who prefer them. They’re fine, too!
- Comment on Anon steams up the sauna 3 days ago:
If that helps your anxieties: having gone to a mixed gym sauna for a long time, I have never ever seen anything remotely inappropriate. People just take the sauna, that is all. If there are any groups coming together, they may chat between themselves, but you’ll barely ever hear a stranger talking to you.
Gym saunas specifically have enough surveillance and multiple controlled chokepoints where perpetrator would be immediately stopped and given straight to the authorities. So, one should be incredibly idiotic to even attempt something like that. In this sense, it is no less safe than any other monitored public facility.
As a personal argument, a lot of predatory behaviors in men stems specifically from something being too limited and restricted. For people coming regularly to the mixed sauna, even those naked ones in some European places, a naked woman is just another naked person. When it becomes mundane, it stops having anything sexual attached to it.
- Comment on Fuck Yeah! Earth Still Number One! 4 days ago:
Particularly hilarious since Mars has Olympus, too
- Comment on Crazy town 5 days ago:
Ah!
Tried to decipher it, now it plays in my head too
- Comment on Take the pledge! 1 week ago:
I’d argue it’s no shit post
- Comment on i hate ai i hate ai i hate ai 1 week ago:
noai.duckduckgo.com also comes as default option in Angelfish, mobile Linux browser by KDE.
Mobile Linux is cool!
- Comment on i hate ai i hate ai i hate ai 1 week ago:
Casual reminder that search engines integrating Wikipedia was just before they integrated quick answers, and then full-on AI answers, too.
Ironically, Wikipedia has been exactly where it started. So, if you truly want to follow God’s ways, click the actual links to various sites and read them through. This is the peak search engine experience.
(All love to Wikipedia, it’s a nice source)
- Comment on I Used To Be A Real Piece Of Shit 1 week ago:
That’s why we need to normalize food sharing and foster the community
- Comment on Welcome to 2026 2 weeks ago:
This. PeerTube is the best solution we have.
- Comment on Shame it's walmart brand. 2 weeks ago:
о7
- Comment on Shame it's walmart brand. 2 weeks ago:
She wants her partner to masturbate her with three fingers: two go into the pussy, one into ass. This method can be used to increase sexual stimulation as the pressure on the vaginal wall increases.
Rosy part of ice cream represents pussy, brown one represents ass.
- Comment on Meme check point. 2 weeks ago:
- Comment on That's just science 2 weeks ago:
Neither water is blue
They take us for absolute fools
- Comment on Lemmy or Piefed? 3 weeks ago:
But I wonder… especially since 3rd-party apps do not show instance names by default, how many of such people had a run-in with Hexbear trolls and did not know how to block them all - i.e. might return if they could be assured that no hexbears would be here to harass them any longer?
PieFed (at least, piefed.zip that I tried) already has the answer - present the user opt-in global filters upon first sign-in. Allow people to block certain places, radical ideologies, or whatever - just make it a user’s choice. When that’s the case, even tankies themselves usually don’t complain.
The whole conflict is about having a blocklist that exists without users or even instance admins opting in.
- Comment on Lemmy or Piefed? 3 weeks ago:
Yes, I believe Dessalines came first, but now it seems like Nutomic pretty much took the reigns in maintaining the software. Hence, I listed Nutomic.
Instances hiding certain communities from main feed is a pretty normal thing, as long as it’s instance-level. I was not aware some defaults are set upon installation. Also, some transparency would be nice, if that’s the case.
And I also agree moderation actions should be more visible on Lemmy. But hey - this information is open, just poorly communicated.
In any case, thanks for extra context! I’ll take it into account.
- Comment on Never Gonna Give You Up 3 weeks ago:
The worst part?
We are not teenagers anymore
- Comment on Shit is going down in Paris! Quick, alert the... 4 weeks ago:
French press
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 4 weeks ago:
Also access to healthcare (including mental health and crisis lines), education, emergency services, social care, transportation, communications (both physical and virtual), general infrastructure, and that’s just the absolute basics.
Not to mention free access to drugs requires doubling down on healthcare, peace and order, community service. Also, drugs and guns are a very questionable combo.
In other words, if we would actually have a limited circle of politically educated voters, you’d likely be out.
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 4 weeks ago:
Not unpopular, if anything
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 4 weeks ago:
Not unpopular.
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 4 weeks ago:
Oof, that should certainly be on an unpopular end
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 4 weeks ago:
Is it unpopular?
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 4 weeks ago:
Pretty much any limited voter group will be incentivized to make decisions in its own interests, even if it hurts everyone else.
People calling for such forms of voting assume total benevolence and, on top of that, perfect knowledge of the struggles of others, better than those struggling know themselves.
Total democracy allows everyone to remain self-inrerested and doesn’t require guessing the needs of others.
- Comment on Few adult men are killed by adult women. 4 weeks ago:
Sure. But that’s not the point
- Comment on Few adult men are killed by adult women. 4 weeks ago:
It is widely known that only straight white men are responsible for all the evil in the world!
- Comment on Few adult men are killed by adult women. 4 weeks ago:
Anyone at all who gives this more that two seconds of thought knows these issues are not to be compared, but to be seen as part of one complex that should be solved as one, should we ever hope to resolve it.
Accentuating issues on one side while grossly belittling ones on the other isn’t gonna cut it. You won’t magically fix the culture of aggression and dominance as the only acceptable behavior, inability to complain and find healthy guidance, social hierarchies and pressures, exclusion and alienation of men from large parts of social life that can be vital to them, the indoctrination by “men are dangerous”, by reducing it to “oh women don’t smile at them, cry me a river”. Neither will the gross overgeneralizations, lumping half the planet’s population into some psycho category, help resolve the matter.
Men need to receive care, attention, to have a safe space for their emotions, to unlearn the unhealthy parts in a safe environment while keeping in touch with themselves and a healthy masculinity. They need healthy interactions with women to receive a balanced and healthy perspective, learn proper boundaries, dispel unhealthy views. We should be on the lookout for individuals who need help and professional attention, and who is most likely to pose danger if left this way. The very things that make some men dangerous grow at their most in isolation. We shouldn’t let it happen, if not for the sake of men, then for the sake of women.
Women can - and should - take part in that. Let’s start simple: it’s totally healthy to address safety concerns, and a lot need to be said about it, but let’s work on the second part, let’s not compare or reduce someone else’s feelings and struggles in a neverending tug of war. We can talk, and there are intertwined issues on both sides that we need to untangle together. Let’s get it done.
