velma
@velma@sh.itjust.works
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
You don’t even need a bachelor’s degree necessarily. It depends on what you’re trying to do.
- Comment on How come in America Cunt is such a egregious word but not the same in Europe? 1 week ago:
Oh well…I mean when you put it that way goodness. That is kinda hot!
- Comment on How come in America Cunt is such a egregious word but not the same in Europe? 1 week ago:
Pussy. Pussy is definitely another one Americans prefer over cunt.
- Comment on How come in America Cunt is such a egregious word but not the same in Europe? 1 week ago:
It adds a real strong emphasis when needed haha
That’s funny, I always feel awkward when using cunt in the bedroom. Pussy somehow sounds better in sexy situations? But I hate it otherwise hahaha
- Comment on How come in America Cunt is such a egregious word but not the same in Europe? 1 week ago:
I do appreciate the effort to reclaim cunt though. It’s got a fun mouth feel. Very sharp.
“Serving cunt” is an example
- Comment on How come in America Cunt is such a egregious word but not the same in Europe? 1 week ago:
We prefer different misogynistic slurs like bitch instead.
- Comment on How come in America Cunt is such a egregious word but not the same in Europe? 1 week ago:
America is rather puritanical compared to Europe would be my guess.
- Comment on In this day in age is it still hard for a person to "come out the closest" ? Or do we need the boomer generation to go away until it is so acceptable it becomes laughable for both parties? 1 week ago:
As the other comments have stated, it is highly dependent on where you’re located and the people you surround yourself with.
Sometimes it’s difficult to “come out of the closet” due to one’s own insecurities or fears and has little to do with it being acceptable or not.
- Comment on Bit harsh? 1 week ago:
What value does a foreign language have for Bob, who lives in the middle of the country?
I learned two languages in school, have never used either one with a native speaker of that language.
We have a huge population of spanish speaking people here.
- Comment on Bit harsh? 1 week ago:
Anki app
Oh this looks interesting! Thanks for the recommendation!
- Comment on Bit harsh? 1 week ago:
Harsh but well deserved hahaha
I’m currently trying to learn Spanish and my goodness gracious. It would have been easier as a child!
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
It can peak up into women’s mid-40s, not at 30. But you are correct, women in their 30s and 40s tend to be hornier.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
I believe in studies it’s been about once a month for women and once a week for men as the average.
The original comment had no qualifiers about age.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
The baby stages are SO HARD. For many reasons that aren’t as obvious as the most common ones like sleep. Sometimes just committing to snuggling naked was enough to reconnect and sometimes it would lead to sex that we didn’t think we had the energy for. Lots of little compromises until the babies get a little older.
Mostly you two just have to get through this together and if your communication is good, you’ll be good :)
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
I think it varies enough that calling it “normal” is inaccurate.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
in studies it’s been about once a month for women and once a week for men as the average
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
Everyone is different.
I was personally still having sex about 1-2 times a week once I could after giving birth. There was a point I was having sex multiple times a day with multiple people. Frequency at this point is much lower at around once every two weeks.
It doesn’t bother me because my husband and I have a lot of physical touch and intimacy outside of sex. So matching his libido is no problem. My orgasms aren’t his responsibility, that’s what masturbation is for. Sex is only fun when there isn’t stress and pressure around it.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
Well, I wish you luck then.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
You’re forgetting the large percentage of adults with children. That will also dampen sex frequency.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
I wish I could find another partner with a higher libido, because it’s a strain on our relationship.
If once a week isn’t compromise enough, maybe you should be honest with her and find a higher libido partner. Once a week is still rather frequent but I understand that isn’t soothing when you are the one with the higher libido.
(I saw this as the higher libido partner in my relationship)
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
Haha well you’re not alone at least, I tend to recommend Savage Love pretty often, too. We’ll get the entirety of Lemmy to be more open-minded about sex whether they like it or not lol
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
I love how many shout-outs Dan Savage gets here. Great recommendation!!
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
It’s not normal to suppress your libido to fit in.
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
Hahah this is awesome. I definitely will 💕
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
Moistening hahaha. I might copy that phrase!
Also I can’t lie, knowing you’re a woman makes your posts that much hotter. Thanks! Haha
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
Maybe yours will, maybe you got lucky with a real stable drive. It’s all a guessing game when it comes down to individuals!
Your comments resonated with me, I’m not dissimilar to you honestly hahaha. Cum is hot!
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
I never got into the bodice-ripper novels, but there’s definitely some literotica mixed in with visual porn in my preferences.
Mostly visual though.
It’s been nice to see that women who enjoy the written word have an avenue to be as horny as they like without as much judgment lately though haha
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
I’ve appreciated your posts a time or two myself. I’d say my usual is every other day, but I’d also say you’re totally normal with your frequency as well.
Women’s sex drives tend to rise as we age. Enjoy the ride!
- Comment on How often is normal to masturbate? 1 week ago:
Have you seen the type of books 30 something women consume?
We be horny out here.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Sometimes a musician’s art is enjoyable because it sounds rough or lo-fi or “bad”.