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• recklessengagement@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Your posts are a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise heavily male-focused space.

  Lemmy is great but requires some heavy pruning. I reccomend making frequent use of the block button

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  • violet08@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

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    • boonhet@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I think society at large has a misogyny-as-default problem unfortunately. I guess most of us have been raised with biased we’re not really aware of until we reach a certain level of self-reflection.

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    • Nora@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Sometimes I feel like Lemmy is worse than reddit in this regard. The amount of blatant misogony I see is unreal. Memes, posts, comments, it’s everywhere, often not-so-subtly too.

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    • XPost3000@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Literally tho, I read a post to an article about “The Misogyny Problem on TikTok” and the top comment was the most lemmy tone-deaf “so don’t use corporate social media (with algorithms)”

      My brother in christ you are not a woman on the fediverse and it shows

      This is honestly the start of a much bigger rant about Lemmy as a whole but I’m gonna stop it here tbh

      It’s just tiring

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    • CanadianCarl@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Keep up the memes, i love that are original.

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  • hsr@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Your posts are a refreshing change of pace in an otherwise heavily male-focused space.

    You could almost say /c/femcelmemes is, uhhh, leaking, in a way.

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    • ThunderQueen@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      👉👈

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• Demdaru@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Lol. I am liking your post 'cause you provide much needed whiplash among dominantly politic content, so thanks xD

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  • thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I upvote almost everything

    I see upvote as “this is a good Lemmy post/comment” and downvote as “this is a bad Lemmy post/comment”. Most of what I see is good. Bad things are things such as misinformation, bad faith stuff / trolling, bad (in my opinion) takes, people being wrong/stupid about stuff, irrelevant things, etc. When I do not vote it’s for one of 3 reasons: either I don’t understand what it is saying, it makes a reference I don’t get, or I can’t determine whether it’s good or bad (usually because it’s unclear).

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• Fluffy_Ruffs@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Some people don’t know how to deal with an overtly sexual woman. It throws them for a loop. To some people, only men are allowed to be horny. If you’re a horny woman you must be a slut who can’t control their emotions and that’s bad.

  I think it’s important for some men to realize women are people, too. I know that sounds silly to say out loud but I really think some guys think women are these completely different creatures from themselves. We’re all human and, gasp, some like to talk and joke about sex. The horror!

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  • spicytuna62@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I do hate the double standard that it’s totally fine for men to joke and talk about sex, but when a woman does it, she must be dirty in some way. I get that biologically, women have had to be more choosy with partners because for a long time, the best protection was zero insertion, or the chances of ending up with a child you didn’t want were nonzero. Things are different now. We have the pill. We have emergency contraceptives. Some of us even have access to abortions.

    Sex isn’t dirty. It’s normal and natural to want it. It’s normal to have a hard time getting it. It’s normal to be frustrated by the dating field and navigating relationships. It’s normal to feel incredibly rewarded when you do get it. And it’s normal to want to blow off steam by talking to people closest to you about your successes and failures in life. And a big part of being human is one’s own sexual exploits.

    One of my closest friends is a woman about 13 years older than me (I’m 33; she’s 46), and she’s going through menopause right now. And she’ll start talking about the difficulty it’s bringing her, and she’ll tell me, “You don’t wanna hear about all this,” or, “I know you don’t care about this.” And the truth is that I do not nor could I ever understand what she’s going through, but as a friend, I can listen to her complain about it and give her the space to vent. Even if I’ll never get it, I can just be a voice in the room to pull out some great hits like:

    • “Jeeeesus, I’m so sorry,”
    • “Yikes, that sucks,” or
    • "Haha, Fuck. That."

    As a man, I don’t always have follow up questions or advice to offer someone going through issues unique to women. But people aren’t always looking for advice. Sometimes, it’s just nice to have the space to blow off steam with a safe person.

    And that’s not dirty. It’s something we all do.

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    • GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Curious that this is your perception, while i myself have noticed a sort of inverse trend in that regard.

      Especially around these parts it is heavily frowned upon making any kind of horny or sexual comment as a dude about a woman. A surefire way to get schooled on what a misogynist objectifying dick you are (excluding literal porn community comment section of course).

      Other horny comments are much less controversial, women on men, men on men, women on women. Things you might find in the average (gay) porn comment section get upvoted on lemmy on a regular basis, im sure it’s totally ironic.

      So my personal “analysis” of recent ish lemmy online discourse would be that heterosexual men on lemmy avoid being publicly horny because of the expected blowback. That or they make an alt account.

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  • EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Considering it was only about 100 years ago that science decided that women could orgasm and weren’t just faking it to make their husbands happy…yes, the idea that a woman can be horny and is a normal human being is a shocking revelation to some (many?).

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  • thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    who can’t control their emotions

    Ironic how men accuse horny women of being unable to control their emotions when it’s mostly horny men being unable to control their emotions that’s actually problematic (causing misogyny and rape)

    Many men tend to be actually too horny, they objectify women and tend to have misogynistic and patriarchal expectations.

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  • Scubus@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    See that makes a lot of sense, but you are forgetting something vital. This is the internet, so everyone is a guy. Especially the horny women. Therefore, only men can be horny. Checkmate, wanktheiests.

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  • other_cat@piefed.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    La’Ron Readus has an interesting video essay on this called ‘The Siren’s Scapegoat’ that I recommend giving a watch if you’re interested on the way movies have handled women being overtly sexual!

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• Decoy321@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Goddamnit, this comment thread is gonna make me work.

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  • YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Lol do you need your bonking stick?

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    • nutbutter@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

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    • Agrivar@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      If he’s going after people harrassing violet, he can borrow mine.

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• m3t00@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  simpler times

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  • MinoriMirariRProductions@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I can pretends right?.. Turns into rabidchu. LOL… That’s gay!.. Uhuh, I never asked, I also partakes in the vaginal gex …W/the lesbians too. :)

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• deacon@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I enjoy the posts, I’ve just always assumed this is another user doing a bit though — which is fine

  All the better if there is a real person behind this, it gives me some hope for the younger generation, and I hope nothing you encounter here makes you regret sharing who you are and what you’re going through.

  But you’re in a community that is skewing older and more early-internet, and thus most of us find it prudent to pretty much assume every identity in a community like this is partially or largely fake. I am, for example, a 4 year old Australian Shepherd in real life and my human has no clue.

  Real or fake, I enjoy my game of “Stamets or Violet” every time I see a horny or uncouth post.

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  • Forester@pawb.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    On the internet everyone knows you’re a dog if you’re from pawb.social at least.

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    • PhoenixDog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Looks concerningly regardless of instance

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  • r4venw@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I, for one, still believe Stamets and Violet are the same person. Have you ever seen them in the same room together at the same time?? Checkmate!

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    • Agrivar@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      This is like the second or third time I’ve seen this Stamets person mentioned, as if everyone knows who they are, but I’m clueless. I figure I’d better ask now before it gets even more awkward - who is Stamets and what’s their deal?

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    • Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      You’ll never know either

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  • Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Well a useful tip is that I don’t post in this community or to any Lemmy.world communities anymore lol

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• GreenKnight23@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  is this a real thing? like…do people really get so sexually charged they reach out to strangers for sex?

  just jerk off into the toilet like a normal person and go about your day.

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  • ivanafterall@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Goddamn, I love when you give me orders.

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    • GreenKnight23@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      only if you’re ok using quartz sand as lube.

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  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I mean, yes. The human touch is excellent for stuff like sexting and erp with strangers on the internet. But also, that’s what hookups are.

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    • GreenKnight23@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      hookups are two consenting individuals.

      reaching out to a stranger that hasn’t given consent or worse, just sending dick pics, is just weird.

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  • Naho_Zako@piefed.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    If rule34 and horny sub/community comments are to be believed, then yes. I genuinely can’t understand why people wanna have phone sex with randos on image boards, but sure I guess. I always thought it was the ace in me, but thankfull others see it too I guess.

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• Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Well you’ve done pissed everyone off.

  Good job <3 I mean that legitimately. The best shitpost I’ve ever made have always been the ones causing straight dudes to get ravenous over me being gay. So much funnier seeing them just drool in rage and seems like you got the same pricks going lmao

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  • boonhet@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    As a straight guy I’m actually relieved you’re gay because that’s just less competition. Carry on doing the gay!

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    • Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      It is strange how many women hit on me and I have zero response for it everytime

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  • ConstantPain@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    In real life I have never seen someone care. Some people avoid it because RL has consequences, but most just don’t care about other people’s sexuality. I don’t live in the US tho.

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    • Stamets@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      As a gay man I’ve seen people care so much they tried to kill me lol

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• AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  American/christianism puritanism at its best.

  We’ve been taught that violence is fine, every human is violent and, in some cases, it’s even a good thing. But god forbid you manifest sexual desires in public!

  Like… mate, do you realize that violence only brings pain while sex brings pleasure?

  Then you realize that the whole point of both is to make your life miserable and things start making sense.

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  • QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    so you’re saying instead of bombing countries we don’t like we should organize an orgy in the magnitude of hundreds of millions of people? fair enough

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    • trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Make love, not war

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    • curbstickle@anarchist.nexus ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      …. Seems like its worth a try.

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  • Mika@piefed.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Sex brings pleasure and consequences in children/std or even physical injuries. Also sex is largerly overrated when we have videogames and anime.

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    • AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor@piefed.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Unlike wars and violence that bring pleasure without consequences to the rich fucks who send kids to kill themselves for them.

      Certainly, we should have more wars and less sex, it only makes sense, right?

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    • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Have you heard of this these things called condoms?

      Or birth control?

      Or fleshlights and vibrators?

      …Did you ever take a sex ed class, or no?

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    • Agrivar@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      You should try having good sex once or twice, and then get back to us.

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• 404@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I saw the thumbnail and was about to comment “justice for violet08” but then I opened the post and it was you

  Still though. Justice for violet08

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• Furbag@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Hi, I upvoted your post, so when’s the wedding? 😏

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  • D_C@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Step back. I’ve upvoted quite a few of Violet’s posts therefore we are obviously going to meet later, do The Sex ™, then go out for cheese sandwiches!!!

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    • YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      How the fuck did he get grilled cheese in here‽

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• Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  It’s also silly how men can’t be hyperfemminine in this modern society…

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  • sidebro@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    i dunno, i do that all the time

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  • SarahValentine@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Femboys are my favorite kind of men uwu

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    • thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      same :3

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• WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  But I did. And if someone wants sexual services from me, assassinate Peter Thiel, and I will be right back on it.

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  • ivanafterall@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Look. I’ll do it for free. It’s been a rough spell.

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    • pancakes@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Nothing is more wholesome than people doing it for the love of the game

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    • WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Thank you! Pretty generous! And I don’t have to give up my booty for it!

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• Luvs2Spuj@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I feel a bit bad for silently upvoting your content instead of commenting things to offset the shit you must get. I don’t say much here compared to how many things I upvote. Please keep doing your thing, you are appreciated here and I hope you can still enjoy yourself without creeps spoiling that.

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• Zamboni_Driver@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  You can be who ever you want, I don’t believe you though.

  I don’t believe that anyone on the internet is who they say they are.

  It’s not really bothering me, you can be you, or be the character you’re playing or whatever, it’s all good.

  If you want to be believed though, you would need to prove it in some way. And no I don’t mean by posting nudes or lewd content, it’s an easy enough thing to provide evidence for in a sfw way that protects your privacy.

  Again, it’s not important that you prove it, but you won’t be believed until you do. Your posts are changing from being funny memes to being semi aggressive taunts about your identity. It seems like for you the question of your identity is a game for you and something that you’re using for attention. You can have whatever identity you want to have, but maybe try to stick to being funny and interesting and not whatever this new dynamic is.

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  • violet08@lemmy.today ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

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    • Zamboni_Driver@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      It’s weird that someone replied to your post seeking attention about your identity? Only one of my sentences analyzed your behavior. The rest were a response to your post from the point of view of the average person.

      Now it just seems like you’re absolutely trolling if you’re going to try to mock people who reply.

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  • PhoenixDog@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    What kind of incel ass reaction is this to a woman posting a meme that basically says “You can give me positive feedback but I am not obliged to fuck you”?

    Holy fuck dude…

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  • Grail@multiverse.soulism.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Your posts are changing from being funny memes to being semi aggressive taunts about your identity. It seems like for you the question of your identity is a game for you and something that you’re using for attention

    Alternative hypothesis: People get angry when you call them liars, and people yell when they get angry.

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  • ysjet@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Dude, this is weird as fuck. Go touch grass.

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  • Garbagio@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    OK but like, what does it matter? Why does to matter who or what @violet08 is? At the end of the day it’s a bit, and a funny one when rubes like you keep getting so invested in it that you write essays like this. It’s like a comedic blacklight for showing how people feel about women.

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  • boonhet@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    If OP is who she says she is, she’s better off not proving who she is. Probably best for a young woman to not put a face to her name online if she’s making a bunch of sexual posts. People can be nasty.

    At the end of the day it doesn’t really matter if she’s actually a woman or not, since it’s highly unlikely any of us is meeting her in person ever.

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  • thethunderwolf@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Reminder: don’t reply to the comment, they’re probably trolling.

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• GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Oh you definitely can, and i do enjoy the unhinged nature of your contributions, but it is pretty much a guarantee that some lonely and/or horny dude will feel encouraged.

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• zaphod@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Wait, I thought we’re married, what’s even the point of this now?

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• SaltyIceteaMaker@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  i was fooledonce again :<

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• bruhduh@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

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• StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Idk I took a glance at your posts and I don’t know if I would call them hypersexual, I would consider that like what u/sexmeat did. I think horny humor is just part of Gen Zs vernacular

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• ByteJunk@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I’m probably just really tired, but why would people expect that? Posting cool stuff is a huge service that I’m really grateful for, I wouldn’t have such an amazing feed without all of you guys who are active posters, if anything you should be offered uh… services, if so desired, not requests to provide them wtf.

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• bennypr0fane@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Okay you should have said that before. I’d never have upvoted your stuff knowing I wasn’t gonna get laid for it. Now I have to go back and undo all those upvotes! Please try to be more mindful of your platform fuckboys.

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• Denjin@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  How many creepy dms do you get per week?

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• kivihiili@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  i sometimes experience a problem myself similar in vain to this.

  as much as i enjoy snuggling and affection and even more “smutty” stuff like breasts, i do not enjoy the prospect of sex. perhaps its some form of gender dysphoria, perhaps its something else, honestly not super sure. all i know is i don’t find sex appealing!! but i’m also not vehemently against it or disgusted by it. i think this article puts it really well:

  i think it would be more accurate so [sic] say that, often, asexuality yearns for the absence of sex, rather than being defined by it.

  with regards to nudity: the only times it actually makes me feel a little uncomfortable is when it is set in a sexual/romantic setting. if someone is at the lake with not as much as a patch of covering on them and just swimming around and having fun, i don’t mind at all. so long as its not sexualized i think nudity is perfectly okay! but, if it is brought into any romance through even just caressing the other’s hair or whatever, it puts me off a little.

  again, i do like this sort of affection, i do absolutely find people attractive. i just enjoy being able to be affectionate or observe it without having to partake in/bear witness to sex!

  however, a marginally decent number of people are seemingly unable to comprehend any this. quite often some people get incredibly confused no matter how much i try and explain this to them. i’ve never really been ridiculed for it thankfully, but it just does not seem to compute in some people’s heads that i am not fond of sex!!

  that aside, this is thankfully one of the better places i’ve seen on the internet, and i’m glad to be here!! regardless i provide you with my best wishes when it comes to fending off the demands of the internet, and my apologies for the ramble :D

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• Mim@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  You don’t? But I thought we were married?!? 😭😭😭

  Nah, I just like reading along and posting a comment every now and then (though probably more often than I comment in general tbh).
  So, have fun. :3

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• PeriodicallyPedantic@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  What is I like and share?

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• demlet@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Yeah, natural selection really made sure men are as horny as possible didn’t it? Fortunately there are ways to learn how to mitigate it somewhat by being more self reflective and such.

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• python@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I like your posts bc they’re relatable

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• Battle_Masker@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Not just girls either. One dude-lookin person has a feminine look and their inbox fills with requests for that stuff… and dick picks

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• Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Preeeeach

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