Demdaru

@Demdaru@lemmy.world

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Banning from social media⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  There’s one common element here. Let’s ban social media.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Windows Updates Evolution⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Terminal tho. But honestly, for me, shit’s the same. Windows deals with most of it in the background (didn’t use 11, dunno how it does it. Prolly sets PC on fire. ), then prompts you for install.

  When I tried Linux, terminal screamed at me, weird menus popped and update failed on me in two distros. :| But I chalk it up to me still being a newb xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon needs a good response⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My partner’s mother gaslights a lot. Think about scenario: She does something wrong, she backs off from situation for a few days to allow memories to wane a bit, then grabs the weakest link and starts bending the truth to paint herself in a bit better light at worst, and at best, shift whole fault on another person. She focuses on small, easily misremembered parts of story, and if you call her bullshit, she will accuse you of either not remembering or twisting it against her.

  And she did that to my partner for their whole childhood and now my partner fights depression and lack of feeling of self worth. Also reacts to “I remember it differently” with aggression, which bites me in the ass but at least shields her from her mother.

  I grew up with another gaslighter, my granny, who reframed and twisted everything to be my mothers fault and if she tried to defend then it was her remembering wrong, “not seeing such simple stuff” or being against granny. She did so with malice and ruined my mothers mental health. Same with her husband, who literally hanged himself.

  Both cases were narcissistic but I can see someone using it out of other reasons.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon needs a good response⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  If you don’t hear it often? Sand gaslighting, “maybe you need it then”.

  Always rethink your position and switch PoV for the other side for a bit mentally. But if you get back to where you are, feel free to feel attacked lol. Mostly due to phrasing. This is accusation, and accusations aren’t thrown out of good will.

  With gaslighting, just wave your hand, say whatever and change topic. Either you got too emotional and focused on needing to win, or the other person is willing to throw anything at you because they feel attacked and already full on with defence. No moving there either way. Just drop it and move on.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨cool cool cool⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Meh. Dying in your sleep, surrounded by loved ones or doing radical stuff sounds fine to me.

  Just save me from Alzheimer/Dementia. That way to go sucks in a major way. I want to die as Me, not as some husk that wears my face.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨No fear!⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Friend got hit by a car when on bike, went flying, rolled over the car, smacked into the road.

  Got up, checked bike first, sighted and started dragging it’s carcass back home.

  …but to be honest, dude was kinda indestructible and totally the exemption in every dangerous situaiton.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Get Your Freak On⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  First one. Before folk got oversensitive, that content had no “step-” in it xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The SKG Discord has updated their name to *Start Killing Games Community*⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Leave For Honor alone, it’s already barely limping along xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Fuckin gooners⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Also monsters would have full anatomy and animations. All monsters. For all purposes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is terminally lonely⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I wanted to argue. I really did. I hate it and I don’t want to connect partner as a word to abusive fucks you mention. But I cannot as they are included. Have an updoot and know you ruined my day ;-;

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon notices some fan service⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  …just from this article I’ve grown to love that guy. Please tell me he isn’t a monster T-T

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Now this is an interesting question. What sound would you like it to make?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  And thus, the other party is now deaf.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is terminally lonely⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  However partner can be a driving force for you to start fighting for yourself - an external motivation. And partner can offer a boost to perceived self worth. Enough to enable you to try to fight for yourself.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Sure⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Huh. Only time I say something is either “watch out, poloce likes to camp over there” and “…we’re going wrong way”.

  The second one came twice. Both times, the driver ignored GPS xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Lol. I am liking your post 'cause you provide much needed whiplash among dominantly politic content, so thanks xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Its Over 😔⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I am sorry for your loss but, you are not responsible for troubles of others. You tried for a year or two. That’s a lot. It seems you went further for that friend than most people would. Sometimes, we are not able to help others, no matter how hard we try.

  I know it’s not my place to say that but I’ve seen people I know get hit with the same kind of guilt, slowly but surely tearing at them and I don’t really want anyone else to be in this place.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It always works⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Or you could be like my friends and go verbatim because they didn’t understand shit.

  …teacher tho knew. I always got a tired but polite smile while she was checking my code lol.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are you pissed?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Go there, it works, get pissed it doesn’t work, money.

  Go there, it doesn’t work, be glad it doesn’t work…so it works, no money?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I was told it would be a cultural experience⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Dude casually hatin on most of the globe xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨"Ok, Millenial..." 🙄⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  A bit too close to zoophilia there. Heck, I thought they’re the same until one furry explained to me main difference. So most folk see that and get thrown off.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Dress smartly even when sleeping⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  You mean like white, flowy nightgown? You know, one not too dissimiliar to white flowy robe ghosts are portrayed wearing?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨AI advice⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Counterpoint: People are not thinking machines and you can’t trust anything from them and people are burning the world to run glorified slave labor.

  Truly we are AI of natural world xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨💀🌈🙏🌈💀⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s a problem with everything though. No matter what definition for something you come up with, even if most of population agrees with it, you’d have aggresively vocal minority that will try and push it other way to conform it to their perception/goals etc.

  Straight means that as a man you are sexually attracted only to women. Already met people who dragged it into the “feminine people” camp instead and people who dragged it into “feminine women” camp. I tend on the other hand to stick into the tried and tested too much so I find both irritating xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Get on my level⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Love is blind. Don’t wedge yourslef inbetween folk who are happily together and are living normal lives. I know a guy that is more than a head taller than his partner, and they are happily together. Heck, it’s she that is more dominant in their partnership xD

  Is such height diff a reason to pay more attention? Maybe. But outright assuming something is wrong just because you’ve got a gut feeling is foul.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The duality of search engines⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I use lemmy.

  I use bing.

  Pretty much just bing. Works for me. And I grew to dislike google.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I can reply to your message when I have the time for it and carry on.

  I can delay the reply if it’s not urgent.

  You can spend time actually writing what you want from me, so I can read it, and give you full answer. We both can then actually recall the conversation because it’s saved.

  And for people saying you can deny the calls - you can, and then you deal with narcissistic assholes having beef with you for doing so.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Hm. Right. I think I could replace last part with what you wrote to be less of ableist piece of work. Well, people learn all their lives, thanks for pointing this up <3

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Age is a matter of mentality. If you look at a tree that looks fun to climb and you think “too old for this”, you’re old.

  If you wanna try something new but “you’re too old for this”, you’re old.

  If some kid starts using weird lingo and instead of decyphering it you think “kids are weird”, you’re old. And a hypocrite.

  Of course there’s magic number of 60 year old when your mentality doesn’t matter as your body starts being held with glue, spite and will. I mean you can certainly try to be young but…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨SBA#26⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Isn’t the problem that Joker is pretty much in a weird love thingie with Batman? The whole gloating and pushing him to his limits is the point xD

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You earned some more dislikes⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Honestly, reading comments around, remove display of up/down votes entirely, but keep the system and instead add two tags “Popular” and “Unpopular”, both working on certain tresholds to both amount of votes and ratio of votes. Keep positioning mechanics with using votes to position content, but apply them only to tagged elements.

  This way we enable discussion on most topics without problems and incentivise actually talking about topics, while still keeping the means to flag both bad will content and content most valued by community.

  With Lemmy I’d say having minimum 50 votes total for comment and 100 for post sound good for total vote treshold, while having 75% of upvotes/downotes sounds good as a ratio treshold. But I am not sure on these, as I am honestly freeballin it right now.