Banana
@Banana@sh.itjust.works
- Comment on national anthem 1 hour ago:
Oh I hadn’t seen those, good to know!
- Comment on national anthem 1 hour ago:
Oh honey.
That’s only that episode. That episode is an outlier
The rest of the show is pessimistic dystopia at best.
- Comment on Valid point 2 days ago:
Because in a lot of places you legally have to carry your ID on you, not just when you’re driving.
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 2 days ago:
No worries on late reply. No obligation to reply at all, really! Really glad to hear your surgery went well and I hope your day is just as lovely :)
Cheers! <3
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 3 days ago:
That sounds so similar to so many stories I’ve heard! The ADHD symptoms are so similar to symptoms neurotypical people also experience, it just impacts our (people with ADHD) lives so much more, so it’s no surprise it goes undiagnosed for so long. It’s really easy to assume you’re normal especially when you get good grades in elementary school as is the case most of the time with ADHD it seems.
And women just in general have less research to help back up the diagnosis!
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 3 days ago:
I feel like we are basically the same hahaha. I’m a lil freak but as far as monogamy goes im very basic but im also surrounded by people in poly/open relationships. I get asked frequently whether my partner and I are open hahaha, it’s a really good compliment tho!
You may be onto something with the ADHD thing. I find neurodivergent folks tend to find each other, and I’ve been diagnosed ASD (previously Aspergers) since I was 6 years old, but I’ve watched many friends be diagnosed as we get older lol, so there’s some merit to that thought.
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 4 days ago:
Oh man I love birds! You two sound so solid and really cool, just so you know!!
All of that sounds just lovely. And I totally get missing being alone/independent and how with the right partner and living conditions you can still get that :)
As for the attention on my part, my partner doesn’t mind it when I flirt with friends because they know we are monogamous so it’s all just for fun, but it does help me get the attention I so desperately need :P
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 4 days ago:
Just gonna say you have now encountered one. When I was single I was very big on consent, getting tested, and using condoms. Was very sexually active in my late teens (still am but LT relationship) and I never had an STI scare.
I think you should keep asking for consent/still tests and using condoms because women are also relearning a lot of toxic shit just like you are. They’ll get there eventually. Women like me are out there, I think maybe less terminally online though.
Anytime somebody’s talking about someone with a high or low social value my brain fuckin turns off lmao it’s so dumb. Connection is what we should be seeking. Social media, and by extension online dating, has poisoned a lot of people’s brains.
My advice, don’t listen to these people and hold strong in your values and you will eventually sift through the shit and find somebody you have a connection with who finds it refreshing that youre honest or swap tests or ask for consent.
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 4 days ago:
Yeah that’s something I think women are slowly learning how to rewire their brains around because, just like how popular culture shaped how men approached women, the same popular culture (and internalized misogyny) taught women that asking for consent is not sexy.
This appears to be changing from what I’ve read in various comments on audio porn geared towards women and also just from conversation with other women. I totally used to think asking for consent “ruined the mood”, and now with more knowledge I think there are many ways to ask for consent in a sexy way.
My favourite is to play a slight d/s game and make someone tell me what they want using their words (i also like it used on me). It’s a bit of a tease but people like it. And you get enthusiastic consent (I consider begging to be pretty enthusiastic).
I think these women who are saying it ruined the mood have some shit to work through, because you should be encouraged to ask for consent.
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 4 days ago:
I don’t think that’s greedy, I think that’s pretty normal.
I need to see how a person interacts in conversation to be attracted to them, as i am far more attracted to mannerisms and values than looks. A cute face is great, I couldn’t care much about body as long as a person is relatively healthy (this is a very broad range for me).
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 4 days ago:
I have moments where I miss the flirting and the attention, but I don’t miss the loneliness…greener grass and all that.
- Comment on Anon likes a woman 4 days ago:
Story of my LIFE until I met my current partner
- Comment on SIX DOLLAR SHRIMP SPECIAL 1 week ago:
Awesome gas station
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Yes! For example, I’m a banana
- Comment on 1 week ago:
That’s literally who I thought about and I’m so glad someone mentioned it. He’s a freakishly smart dude.
- Comment on Anon judges Karl 1 week ago:
This is more embarrassing than just not responding at this point
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 2 weeks ago:
Ok yeah y’all must’ve had some really bad luck meeting people or something because we have a really big queer community here. That sucks, sorry about that.
If your friend ends up coming back here for cost reasons or anything, let them know that the punk/alt and the art scenes here are quite accepting. Thinks like the punk rock flea market are always filled with queer people.
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 2 weeks ago:
Well I’m sorry those you met didn’t seem to be as queer-friendly as you had hoped. If you ever come to MB, feel free to shoot me a message and I can introduce you to some people that will hopefully change your experience!
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 2 weeks ago:
I’m thinking more provincially. If you lived in ON, I could see it not being more LGBTQ friendly, but I’m in MB which historically is more socially left than other provinces, save for maybe BC.
Everything is so far apart that this kind of thing varies so much across different provinces and cities or rural/metro areas.
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 2 weeks ago:
I wish I could see more info on the study but I can’t see a link in the article to the actual study.
I’m very curious to see how their sample was chosen, whether this is America-or even Colorado-specific (study was performed by the university of Colorado). I wonder what kind of distribution they have of people from different states, if at all. I mean, it was less than 1000 people so knowing what population they are testing is important, especially to my “it may be regional” suspicion.
I say this because none of this judgement about cat men being rejected because they are viewed as more feminine is familiar to me and I really truly think that this study is quite american-biased because that sounds like a lot of rhetoric that comes out of America that really doesn’t bleed much into Canada.
Perhaps because Canada is a lot more LGBTQ friendly in general, people here have strayed further away from the femininity=bad rhetoric that is so ingrained in America and so women here perhaps don’t see that connection as undesirable. I’m curious to see how the exact same study would play out using a Canadian population.
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 2 weeks ago:
Activities, yes! Shows you have interests/a personality
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 2 weeks ago:
You said statistically but provided an anecdote. Is this statistically based on your experience in your specific area or do you have actual stats to back this up?
Because I’ve spoken to lots of women who feel the same way I do. My wonder is whether something else in your profile is attracting women who don’t like cats perhaps or it could be a fluke, because what I’ve heard/experienced does not align with what you have experienced.
- Comment on Anon's lil bro goes through his first break up 2 weeks ago:
Pics with a pet cat were always green flags, and pics doing an activity
- Comment on Growth 3 weeks ago:
I switch between them, but I concur, I also prefer the bi flag and I usually just identify as bi for simplicity and not having to explain the difference lol
- Comment on That's a no 3 weeks ago:
Completely agree! I always try to be extra wary of motorcycles because they take up way less space and are far faster accelerating, while also being far more vulnerable.
- Comment on Growth 3 weeks ago:
That’s super interesting and totally does not at all reflect the conversations I’ve had with my friends!
I guess it just goes to show how subjective it is, which is why there is no real consensus. I can only really speak for myself and the people in my circles. I won’t argue with bisexual/pansexual people who identify differently because we dictate our own identities really.
- Comment on Growth 3 weeks ago:
Kinda!
The way I’d personally word it is:
Bisexual = attracted to their own gender and other genders (perhaps not every gender but that depends on the person)
Pansexual = gender is irrelevant
The distinction is mostly semantic as it doesn’t really change much in terms of how we operate in dating.
- Comment on Growth 3 weeks ago:
As someone who identifies as pansexual, the distinction i make is that I don’t consider gender when vetting a potential partner, it’s just not a metric that is part of that decision.
Aside from that, your description here is spot on from what I understand at least. Of course gender and sexuality is a social construct so other people may feel differently
- Comment on sorry, I have to see for myself😩 3 weeks ago:
Yes, by cutting his baws off
- Comment on So unfair 4 weeks ago:
But we were talking about millennials smoking weed out of cans and apples, why are you making the distinction about something being allowed now? We were definitely not allowed to smoke back then lol.