Submitted 7 hours ago by CumshotCurator@fedinsfw.app to [deleted]
30 something woman here, apparently I masturbate a lot compared to my friends.
I have to say “yeah once a week too” when they raise the subject ,when in fact it is multiple times a day. Husband would also do 2 times a day if he kept to his “normal” cadence. I know “whatever works for me” is right, but I’d like to compare to other people my age that aren’t my friends.
Once a day on average, early 30s male. Has been that way forever for me.
Personally I don’t think it’s ever too much unless It’s causing discomfort and you can’t stop.
HAVING SAID THAT I read your post this morning before my new toys came including flexible sounding stuff that I’d been wanting to try for a while and it got lost INSIDE MY URINARY TRACT…WTF…it came out when I peed but wtf.
Felt incredible but haven’t experienced fear like that in a while.
I’m a late 20’s male and I can go three or four times a day. More often once or twice. I’ve been horny as fuck lately. I love your username btw.
Username checks out
Never would have expected a “30 something woman” to be behind that username.
I mean my husband and I have been sharing links to cumshot porn with each other for over a decade. But I get it. Not your average 30 something woman’s username 😆
Have you seen the type of books 30 something women consume?
We be horny out here.
Heh, well its the main reason I “cum” here, especially on Fridays.
I’ve appreciated your posts a time or two myself. I’d say my usual is every other day, but I’d also say you’re totally normal with your frequency as well.
Women’s sex drives tend to rise as we age. Enjoy the ride!
As long as it isn’t interfering with your life, flick that bean. It’s not hurting anyone.
You don’t need to compare yourself to others. They’re not you. Twice a day doesn’t sound excessive to me. 20 times a day might, but twice? It’s your body.
Also keep in mind female masturbation has, until recently, been discouraged by western culture as deviant until fairly recently. It may be that some of your friends are downplaying their own regularity for social pressure (you already mentioned you vocally agree with what they say – others are probably doing that, too).
I do it every month or so for the dopamine, but I’m asexual. I’d say even a few times every day is fine. If you think it’s disruptive to your life, I’d recommend therapy, but that’s like if you can’t focus in a meeting because you haven’t done it for an hour and that’s all you can think about. Otherwise, just enjoy yourself. You’re fine.
Thank you for your thoughtful reply. For me it is between 2 and 4 times a day depending on several factors. It definitely isn’t disruptive, I just wanted to gauge what is normal for me against others.
I think everything is normal that is natural for you and isn’t disruptive.
Sorry for the Reddit link, and I don’t know your age, but you may find this discussion in the psychologyofsex sub interesting.
‘Normal’ is a very wide range.
I’m a guy, but yeah, often several times per day. Occasionally none. I’d say you’re fairly normal.
I’m pooped if I do it more than once every 2-3 days. Sometimes go for weeks without. Guy btw. But then, we have to reload. Seems fair that people without a reload timeout should masturbate more often.
It doesn’t take 2-3 days to reload normally.
42 year old female. every day or every other day for me. and sometimes multiple times per day.
i feel that I didn’t really take off until I was in my 30s, honestly. and after then its been like I am now.
but I feel quite normal. so I’m sure its normal for you too, Miss Curator!🙏
As a married man, more than I would like to. My wife has wonky hormones and she’s only in the mood right after her period. The doctor has me on bi-weekly testosterone shots that I stretch out into 4 weeks because they make me all horned up. It sucks when you can’t get somewhere to take care of that distracting urge.
Working with attractive young women doesn’t help either. Dear God I don’t know what happened. Suddenly I feel like you creepy old dude.
I’m grossing myself out.
Haha well if it is any consolation I also work with several attractive people of both male and female genders, and it is very distracting when I am in the office, low rise short skirts on the ladies and tight gym attire on the men seems to be the current trend. And it is very eye catching.
I’m interested in the testosterone, is the effect both physical and psychological for you?
Aside from what I would consider normal frequency, I feel like depression or stress can affect the weekly average as well.
Well, if you mean normal as a synonym for typical or common, then a couple of times a week is where most adult, premenopausal women sit. Or, those that were willing to take part in surveys, which could skew things.
If you mean normal as a synonym for healthy, then normal is whatever frequency meets your sexual needs without interfering with the rest of your life.
Women tend to masturbate more as an enhancement of their sex life, supposedly (I didn’t do the studies, so I can only say so much). Which means that you might masturbate more often when having a satisfying sex life with partners. Men tend to have an upper limit to ejaculation frequency that tops out with a couple of times a day for most men before they can’t get an erection; the body just says nope and takes a rest. Three, maybe four ejaculations is where the average guy can crank some out, and most can’t sustain that every day.
Mind you, men can orgasm without ejaculation! But it ain’t easy to learn.
Women tend to be limited more by sensitivity and friction. The tissues of vulvae, vaginas, and clitorises gets abraded at some point, and with the elevated sensitivity brought on by orgasm, the typical woman is going to hit a similar limit as men in terms of sessions, but a higher number of orgasms may be involved per session. But! Those tissues recover quickly, so women are usually able to sustain their preferred frequency no matter how many a day it is, as the next day will have things back to typical conditions (again, on average).
So, if you’re an every day kinda gal, don’t worry. You’re within known boundaries of frequency. As long as it isn’t messing with the rest of your life, have fun and let the other people think what they will.
Thank you for taking the time to reply ❤️ it’s good to know I am not that far above the bell curve
Usually 1 or 2 times a day, more often 1.
Has it been fairly constant at that amount? Or has it changed over time?
Not the guy you replied to but at a similar cadence and age: definitely down. Teenage me could do 7/8 but minimum of 3 usually. 20s I would usually still be in the 3-5 range depending on work, now 1-2. All of those with the caveat that if I was having sex I was masturbating less bc sex lasts longer and is more satisfying, but it didn’t cut it entirely, which it can now (but not always).
30 something male, average is 1-2 times a day. Some days it’s none, some days I get those demons in me. Down from 3-4 per day when I was younger, and some of those were deliberately prolonged sessions. Still do that now and then, but I’ve got shit to do most of the time.
I am married, but her libido only really spikes once or twice a week so that doesn’t affect much. When I had multiple partners I almost never masturbated, but I was having sex multiple times per day, so.
Depends on how often ThiccMoe drifts into the Top 6 Hours.
At one point as a teen, 3 times if I had to time, but usually twice just because of lack of opportunity. In my 20’s, usually once a day (and it just felt like a chore). Near 30, I started second puberty (HRT) and rarely did for a while (and sometimes only to make sure things kept working). Now probably a couple times a week (early 30’s still). I don’t think anything is weird about any of the various frequencies I’ve had over the years.
In my 20’s, usually once a day (and it just felt like a chore).
So true
The only “problem” with a high libido is if you have a mismatched libido compared to your partner. You and your partner seems perfectly matched. Also as a women you are theoretically insatiable because you don’t have a refectory period like men. Go crazy girl.
If you want some perverted strangers advice about this come join you discussion at Savage Love. You will find a lot of people (including women) who have a similar libido as you. Or at least interested in sex and sex positivity
I think 2 times a day is too much, like you might feel better if you do it less and make the masturbation a “bigger” event rather than a smaller more casual one. However, that’s coming from my male perspective because i have also masturbated 2 times a day at times, sometimes more - i just found that it was a lot and actually draining on the energy levels.
I like to make sure i’m not infkuencing myself towards doing it in lieu of exercise, or because of external triggers on my dopamine or arousal (lots of coffee and chocolate for instance. Sometimes videogames, heightening dopamine whike reducing exercise, seem to insoire masturbation. Sometimes they help not masturbate.)
Many people also attest that it reduces creativity or willpower for some reason.
Also it’s a massive waste of time which is the most concerning thing
I mean, I’m an asexual and sex-repulsed person, so I don’t get horny, let alone masturbate, ever.
However, there are also men and women in this world that do that shit constantly.
So I don’t know, anything between “never” and “constantly,” inclusive, is a normal amount.
This thread is strangely validating tbh. I’m ace and not sex repulsed, but people really out here being horny multiple times a day? Could never be me.
Right? Same.
And people being horny ever? Not me, I got shit to do.
I would say that any amount that does not interfere with your daily activities is a normal amount. If you’re skipping opportunities to hang out with friends or to go to events in order to stay home and masturbate, then you’re doing it excessively and you need to address it.
Or if you have an actual sex life and your sex life is suffering because you masturbate so much that you don’t want to have sex, then I could see that being a problem.
But, just like drinking, if everything is going well, and if you’re keeping it under control and you’re not damaging your interpersonal relationships with it, and you’re keeping your wits about you to a certain degree, then you’re perfectly fine to do it as much as feels reasonable to you and your own body’s drives.
That’s fair enough, I can’t imagine never being horny though, that’s crazy. Does it bother you?
I’m intersex, and my bits don’t work, but most of the world caters to me, like grocery stores and traffic intersections and public parks. I don’t really take in a whole lot of advertising, so a lot of the sexual ads and content are something I never see.
I thought I was horny once, but that was just Rush Limbaugh dying.
Seriously though, I can’t imagine what is so interesting about sex that people would upend their homelives about it, and write 40% of all lyrical music about it. I’ve got a bit of money from not having kids, and I can pursue my photography career.
In the end though, someone explained to me that horniness is the suspension of disgust: licking someone’s mouth, eating ass, stuff like that. My disgust never gets suspended, I’m not gonna eat ass. People poop from there.
As long as it doesnt affect your daily life it doesnt, matter flick your bean till it falls off.
Thanks, it doesn’t, never has really.
That’s good that your bean never falls off.
Do you have ADHD? If you do than you’re probably just chasing dopamine. Doesn’t mean you’re doing it an unhealthy amount, but if you’re doing it cuz you’re ‘bored’ not, ‘horny’ than that’s probably why.
Me personally it aches afterwards if I jack it too many times in one day. I don’t know about women. I imagine uterine walls can only handle so much dildo friction while clits can only handle so much vibrator.
I do actually, though I tend to be actually horny, usually because of porn I guess, which is very a very regular part of my routine.
I don’t usually use toys, just fingers. With exceptions maybe once a week. I have always been multi orgasmic though, even from the age I first found my clit really. It doesn’t get sensitive unless I really abuse it lol
You might have a bit of a feedback loop going. Your body craves dopamine and gets it from being horny so when it need dopamine it also makes you horny.
I have adhd and i found my boy-clitoris way before my parents expected and somehow built a habit jacking off playing video games before I could even physically ejaculate. So now when I’m playing a game I still get the urge to stop and jack off simply cuz of how they got associated.
Guy nearing 60 here. Average of 1/day, sometimes a bit more.
Sadly married to someone who has absolutely zero sex drive or desire for me.
fellow lady in her late 30’s. Once a day for me, nearly everyday. It takes me about 60 seconds to climax, and I move on to my day. I dont think what youre doing is too much, even if there is such a thing. I can even make myself cum with just thoughts only, if im stoned enough late at night in bed. Ive had some radical climaxing from thoughts alone.
dont compare yourself to others, you good :)
Wow! I have never managed a “no handed” orgasm, though I have gotten close in similar circumstances. I have managed it with just my nipples. 60 seconds is about how long it takes me as well if I am trying to be fast
30 something guy here.
I oscillate. Usually somewhere between once every 2 days and 3x/day.
However, I’ve noticed that I feel almost no urge to masturbate when I spend a lot of time in nature - eg, on long backpacking trips. My theory is that - while there is nothing really wrong with masturbation - what is actually happening is that I am masturbating to counteract the stress of modern life. If I feel tired or lonely or anxious or sad, my brain knows it can feel happy chemicals just by beatin’ the ol’ bishop.
In this way, it feels similar to hunger. Sometimes I eat because I need food. But the vast majority of the time, I eat because I feel a compulsion to make myself feel good by eating.
So it might be worth considering if your desire of masturbate is coming from actual horniness, or a desire for some form of enjoyable escape from the moment you are in.
Interesting take, and logical. I actually get more horny if I go camping or hiking, especially if I’m not alone.
Not only do people vary but individuals vary over time. I’ve been as frequent as you and now several decades later it’s more like a couple of times a month. Hormones play a huge role. Women are often judged for having a libido, and also judged for being frigid, along with every other goddamn thing we do or don’t do in life.
I have not varied much since I discovered masturbation, but it has gone up slightly over the years.
Well I had a hysterectomy (kept the ovaries) and also menopause (so much for the ovaries!) so there’s that.
Almost 30yo male here, usually once a day, rarely twice. Been like that since I was a teenager, to the best of my memory.
That’s fair, husband was the same as a teen, my cadence has gone up slightly since then, but not much
It’s a huge spectrum and as others have said, whatever is your normal is normal. 40 year old man here on the opposite end of the spectrum, maybe once or twice a month. Normal testosterone levels and healthy, always just had a lower sex drive.
Thanks for replying, I’m surprised at the range if I’m honest.
I used to masturbate every day when I was going through T puberty, that really messes with your sex drive. Once I started E I started doing it like once or twice a week, once I started prog it made me more horny but more of a tingly feeling all over my body, it was sometimes that was nice to wallow in, so I didn’t feel a pressure to masturbate so often either. And since i have a partner, I don’t need to masturbate very often at all
It’s still fascinating to me how orgasm patterns follow hormones rather than anatomy. I’m a trans man and I definitely remember the widespread, “tingly” sort of arousal/orgasms before I was on T. Overall I prefer the T ones, but I guess that’s not surprising.
Nice, I love to wallow in the feeling too. But I am an absolute twat if I don’t have an orgasm in the morning.
This is so individual, but I still get off at least once a day by some means, we do have sex each day and sometimes I will still do me. And I am not twice your age but close.
60-year-old divorced male. Once a day, most days. I miss about two days a month, for various reasons.
When I was a teen, I’d rub myself raw.
Between about 20 to 40, it was two or three times a day. It’s slowly petered off since then.
Still once a day is more than I expected for a man your age. Respect, I hope my husband is still that active in 10 years
rizzothesmall@sh.itjust.works 10 minutes ago
As much as you want to is normal. Suppressing your libido to fit in is not normal.