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- Comment on What would happen to the Earth if it got booped by a giant asteroid going super slowly? 1 day ago:
What I’m hearing is that we should go to the Winchester, have a pint, and wait for this whole thing to blow over
- Comment on If you are in the US, and a karen threatens to call ICE on you, what's the best course of action? 1 day ago:
Literally just walk away. Like, this isn’t hard or complicated. If someone is threatening you, you walk away. If they are trying to get physical, you push past them and run.
- Comment on If you are in the US, and a karen threatens to call ICE on you, what's the best course of action? 1 day ago:
This is not how you avoid deportation
- Comment on So...how the fuck do I trust *anything*? 1 day ago:
I would recommend considering that you are currently going through a mental breakdown, just one that is different from others you have experienced.
I also suggest focusing on making friends, rather than getting caught up in global conspiracies. Maybe they’re happening, maybe not, who knows? But either way, what are you, personally going to do about it? Post on Lemmy? Odds are, you can’t do anything about it, so you might as well just make friends and be happy. And if you are gonna do something about it - overthrow the evil shadow regime or whatever - then you will need friends to do it. So go make friends!
- Comment on Do all American stores have greeters? 2 days ago:
It was a thing when I was a kid. They would hire an elderly or mentally handicapped person to stand at the entrance and say hi to everyone. They got good PR for giving a job to someone “in need”. But the real reason was that they found that simply having someone say hi to you when you walk in the door made people feel seen, and therefore, made them less likely to shoplift.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 days ago:
I like this answer the best. Headcannon
- Comment on [deleted] 4 days ago:
I know this is a shitpost, and everybody is shitting on the kid (or, let’s be real, the stereotype of a certain type of person). But imo, the takeaway shouldnt be “look at this idiot”, but “Look at this person who does some things right but has been sucked into a cult. He’s still reachable.”
Also,… Barb?
- Comment on [deleted] 4 days ago:
I think this is a common justification among Trumpists that are only mostly stupid. Idea is that he might do bad things in his personal life, but because he’s an asshole who doesnt care about what polite society thinks, he’ll be able to fix the broken system.
I assume they’ve been watching too much netflix, because this is basically Thomas Shelby’s redemption arc.
- Comment on Dinner is ready! 4 days ago:
Answer is obviously H. H has NYC. NYC has food from everywhere.
- Comment on When this aired, it was a joke. 5 days ago:
Your sister needs to learn that kids understand what jokes are. Pepe is funny because he grossly violates everyone around him, we know it’s wrong, and we get to watch him fail.
- Comment on How did easy access to Porn while growing up impacted Gen-Z ? 6 days ago:
From what I can gather, they have fewer hookups because they have social anxiety.
- Comment on International travel 6 days ago:
That’s kinda my point. People aren’t judging me based on my nationality, because they can just notice that I’m not a dick.
- Comment on International travel 6 days ago:
Compelling as your anecdata is…
Most Americans who travel outside the US aren’t travelling to Europe. They are going to Cancun, or similar destinations in Mexico, where they will be surrounded by other americans. Or they will be in Canada, where it would be silly to try to lie about being Canadian.
And beyond that, a large share of American international tourists are older people - people advanced enough in their careers to drop a couple grand eating fancy cheese for a few weeks. Of course, these are the people who give American tourists a bad rap. But also, these people aren’t the sort to lie about being American.
And beyond even that - the biggest nail in the coffin for this idea is simply the fact that lying takes effort. Unless Americans consistently encountered outward hostility when introducing themselves as American (they don’t), they aren’t going to even think about lying, because why would they make their nice vacation super weird and awkward by trying to remember the names of Canadian national parks and taking about beavers to the people they meet?
- Comment on International travel 1 week ago:
Yeah. Also, like, I’ve never met locals who are like that. I’m American. I travel pretty frequently. It is obvious from my accent, and also from the fact that I tell people I’m American when they ask. I’ve never run into anyone who openly hates Americans visiting their country.
- Comment on International travel 1 week ago:
Most American tourists definitely don’t do this.
- Comment on Just give up 1 week ago:
Honestly good advice. Especially early in life. We lionize not quitting - sticking to it. But we don’t really talk about why and when. Of course, building a habit of sticking to things that are important is a good habit to have. But what is important?
The reality is, we all have our own strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. If you try your hand at, say, skateboarding, but find you are bad at it and don’t like it - quit. Sell your skateboard. Go do something else with your time that is more enjoyable for you, that you have a better natural disposition for. Try a bunch of new things, until you find something that you really love doing! And if in a week or a month or a year or ten years, you find that you still can’t shake the thought of skating from your mind, you can always try again.
- Comment on Why do people call it “woke”? 1 week ago:
As others have mentioned, the term has its origins in African American English, basically meaning “stay aware of the systemic forces that oppress us.” According to another user here, apparently this word was in use since the 1930s.
However, I never heard it until about 15 years ago or so, when I started noticing it filtering in on the more left wing spaces on reddit. Initally, I was mostly confused by why anyone would mangle english so much - but through more exposure, I realized that the word wasn’t being used to communicate information, so much as signal cultural affiliation. And the word’s transition from use in black american culture to reddit, where I found it, became obvious. Like so many other things in black culture, it had been coopted by white people - in this case, 14 year old Tumblr feminists.
Bill Burr has a great bit on this change, where he points out that “woke”, in its traditional black usage, sounds very cool. But, coopted by white people, immediately becomes uncool. And it’s uncool not because of the word itself, but because of the people who use it - white people trying to boost their social capital among their peers by demonstrating their familiarity with black culture. And thus, the term takes on a negative connotation - the connotation of “ugh, fuck, here we go - another lecture.”
In pockets of liberal/left wing culture, “woke” may retain its original meaning to those who use it. But among the vast majority of the population, self-describing as “woke” is cringy. It is basically outing yourself as being terminally online, basing your self esteem on how much of a good person other people think you are, and feeling holier-than-thou.
Hence, conservatives identified a natural slur against their enemies, and started tossing it around as much as possible. This works for them because, even if their takes are as dumb as possible (and lord knows they try), no one wants to defend “woke people”, because woke people are cringe.
- Comment on Lord of the Power 1 week ago:
I don’t care. I liked the joke about power tools
- Comment on Lord of the Power 1 week ago:
I thought it was funny. Guess no one else here uses power tools.
- Comment on Why is the human body so incredibly bad at responding to colds? 1 week ago:
I’ll say from personal experience, I found out that my body is actually awesome at responding to colds - I just don’t let it.
Storytime - for pretty much all my life, I’ve had what I considered a pretty normal and functioning immune system. I would get a cold, feel how you felt for a few days or weeks, mostly just power through, and then I’d be back to normal.
However, in college I took 6 months off to hike the Appalachian Trail. This was great for a lot of reasons, but one thing I noticed (which everyone around me agreed on when I mentioned it to them), is that I’d pretty much stopped getting colds. For reference, trail life is not at all sanitary. Daily showers and grooming are the stuff of fantasy. Washing your hands after you take a shit is rare. If you frequent the small lean-to shelters along the trail to sleep (as I did almost every night), you will be sleeping shoulder to shoulder with other hikers with similar levels of hygiene. And it’s not like we are somehow not catching and transmitting pathogens to each other. Every year, things like the flu or norovirus will rip through the hiking community, leaving 100 mile stretches of trail where you’ll walk past dozens of hikers groaning in their tents (haphazardly set up just feet from the trail), with a pool of vomit just outside.
But the whole time I was on the trail, I never got a cold. As long as I wasn’t sick sick, I felt very generally healthy. Why?
Well, the life I was living was very different than my normal life. I think I am decently healthy in my normal life. I eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly. But on the trail, I had a lot more things going for me.
- I slept a lot, in sync with my circadian rhythm. 8pm was widely agreed to be “hiker’s midnight”, since about 15 minutes after the sun went down, all the hikers would start feeling sleepy and decide to go to bed. I would usually knock out instantly, and then wake up at first light, groggily peer out my tent at the coming morning, take a piss, then roll back over and sleep for another hour or two.
- I was getting a lot of exercise. This exercise was rarely particularly strenuous, but every day I would wake up, shoulder my pack, and walk about 15 miles.
- I had a phone, but had no backup battery bank, mini solar charger, or anything like that. Cell reception in the hills typically oscillated between bad and nonexistant. So my phone almost universally lived in the bottom of a stuff sack inside my backpack. I would take it out maybe once every couple days to listen to a song or two before turning it off again to conserve prescious battery life in case of emergency. Partly this helped because it meant that I wasn’t staring at a bright phone screen when I should be sleeping. But more than that, I think it helped because I wasn’t constantly feeding my brain a stream of nee content. I spent almost my entire day, every day, hiking in the forest in silence with no distractions. All I had to entertain myself was noticing the environment around me, occassionally checking my map and digital watch to calculate how far to the next stream/shelter/trail junction/town, and whatever thoughts came up in my head.
- I spent pretty much all my time breathing fresh air. Most of the time I was in rural land with very little air pollution, and even when I did approach population centers, they tended to be, at most, medium-sized towns.
- When I wasn’t hiking or camping alone, I was hiking and camping with other hikers. Trail life tends to dissolve the differences in class, age, national origin, political affiliation, religion, or anything else. Everyone shares a common interest - life on the trail - so conversation tends to flow easily. Trail talk tends to center around things hikers think about - food, water, miles, towns, shelters, gear, other hikers, weather, poop. Outside the rare individual who gives off bad vibes, everyone is welcome and welcoming, creating a general sense of community and support.
- I had a well defined goal, obvious steps to take to achieve it, and made progress every day. The goal: walk to the northern terminus. The plan: wake up, break camp, walk. Every day, I could lay down in bed and look at my map, celebrating the progress I’d made, seeing how much closer I was to some landmark like a town, a mountaintop vista, or a significant mile marker. With a clear goal like this and few other distractions, my sense of time dialated significantly - the present moment became paramount. The next few and previous few miles were all that mattered. Yesterday and tomorrow were significant markers in my mind. But the town I was in 3 days ago, I felt I hadn’t seen in years. And when I started the trail? What I would do when I finished? That was another lifetime.
All these things, I think, contributed to my physical and mental health. And doing so, they either (a) improved my immune system enough that the common cold was stamped out long before my body had to create congestion to deal with it, or (b) my immune system wasn’t overreacting to a relatively minor threat, and was simply taking care of these minor viral infections in the background without bothering me
- Comment on A good video about a deep dive into protein in the new "protein fad" 1 week ago:
Is this the stupid shit where people eat junk food becuase it says “protein” on the label? Yeah, don’t do that. Yes, eat protein. No, don’t eat junk food.
- Comment on UNDER THE THC 🎶 1 week ago:
Why? Aren’t they basically sea bugs?
- Comment on A guide for our friends outside the U.S. 1 week ago:
100° = really fuckin’ hot 0° = really fuckin’ cold
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 1 week ago:
I don’t disagree with anything here, and I feel similarly
- Comment on My friend exposed a guy for bad stuff. Now he's created a site where he archives everything my friend posts online & deliberately twists it to make her look bad/discredit her. What should she do? 1 week ago:
My socials are set to private for lots of reasons - situations like this being just one. Pretty much everyone I know also has them set to private. Its just smart
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 1 week ago:
No, this is Patrick
- Comment on My friend exposed a guy for bad stuff. Now he's created a site where he archives everything my friend posts online & deliberately twists it to make her look bad/discredit her. What should she do? 1 week ago:
Stop wearing short skirts if men are cat calling you
It’s reasonable advice, if you are sure that not wearing short skirts results in less cat-calling. The societal solution is to discourage cat-calling in whatever way. But if a particular individual doesn’t want to be cat called more than they want to wear short skirts, then the solution is obvious.
This is similar advice to “if someone is trying to mug you, just give them your wallet so you don’t get stabbed.” Certainly there should be a larger discussion about decreasing the amount of muggings - but for the particular individual in a particular circumstance, they should take the action that is in their immediate self interest.
- Comment on My friend exposed a guy for bad stuff. Now he's created a site where he archives everything my friend posts online & deliberately twists it to make her look bad/discredit her. What should she do? 1 week ago:
Also, start archiving the website in order to compile evidence for later. Don’t count on this person leaving the site up.
- Comment on Coming out of my depression and starting to exercise again because an evil tool just ate floor 1 week ago:
Hence why I specified 80s bodybuilders
- Comment on Anon asks out a friend 1 week ago:
Okay. That’s your right.