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- Comment on Former Prince Andrew Arrested in Britain Over Epstein Ties (Live Updates) 21 hours ago:
Yeah, I feel like the above is a perfect example of moving the goalposts to avoid ever being happy.
“God, just a prince? When are they going to arrest someone with real power?”
- Comment on Acciracy 3 days ago:
also, side note, nobody but the east coast is pronouncing it “aboot”. there’s a clear difference between “about” and “boot”. americans just really draw out the “ow” in “out”, so yes it sounds closer to “boot”, but it’s hardly ‘exactly how it sounds’. /angryrant
He says “aboot” instead of “about” and gets really, really upset when you point it out, claiming you’re hearing things and that it’s a harmful stereotype. It’s not a stereotype, and that’s exactly how it sounds.
- Comment on Home renovations 5 days ago:
This would be an extremely time consuming and potentially destructive process.
First, take a grinder and chop off the tips. Then go to the hardware store and get a 1/8, or maybe 3/16, bit that you think is long enough (note- these are expensive). Then go home. Tap a pilot divot in the flattened tip of the lag bolt to get started. Drill your bit all the way through the bolt without snapping it. Take frequent breaks to cool the bit and avoid dulling the edge. Note that bolts tend to be made of quite hard steel to deal with the high forces they are put under, so expect this to take an annoyingly long time. Then do it again with a slightly larger drill bit. Then again. And then again. Etc. Until your bit is just barely smaller than the bolt. Finally, you go in with a drill bit as large as the bolt, and absolutely destroy all your hard work, tearing down the sides of the bolt in a haphazard way. With a large amount of finagling and cursing, you manage to set the bit in thr hole in the top of yhe stripper pole, and finally completely destroy the bolt, so the remains fall on the floor below.
Far more expedient would be using the grinder to grind the tip off, then cut a slot in the flat surface you made. Or maybe a +. Then put either a flat or phillips bit in your impact driver, and reverse the bolt out. How well this works depends on how hard they cranked down the bolts. If this fails, I would get a hole saw, cut around the bolts, and clamp some vice grips to them to turn them out from above.
But really, I would call a real estate lawyer and force my neighbor to pay a contractor to do all the work for me.
- Comment on Home renovations 5 days ago:
Thinner than the lag bolts are long…?
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Relevant
OP is getting a lot of downvotes. I assume, from straight guys who are offended at this notion. As a straight guy myself, I understand their frustration. But straight up (ha!) - if you are a straight guy who is pissed off by this message, you are fucking up.
Why? Because it’s the truth. Go outside, go touch some grass, and observe how women interact with each other (or with obviously gender non-conforming people). They hug as soon as they meet. They give each other compliments. They ask for contact info and proactively make plans to spend time together. In the context of this post, this is what is meant by “treating them like a human”. It isn’t just basic respect. It is giving them a feeling of warmth, support, and acceptance.
So if you’re a guy, and you feel like the world is cold, unsupportive, and unwelcoming - great! Here is some validation of that feeling! You are right! Enjoy the ego boost!
But also - now you know this information. And this is good, because even though it feels bad to know that half the planet doesnt trust you by default while they trust the other half implicitly, it also points you in the right direction for solving your problem.
Here’s the thing. Women do, in fact, like to fuck. Even with men?? Yes! But what they don’t like is dealing with the emotional turmoil of guys who want to fuck them that they don’t want to fuck back. This could come in two forms:
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The guy who asks them out, clearly a bundle of nerves that could explode into rage or tears at any moment. A lot has been said about how women have legitimate fears about men becoming violent or vindictive when they are turned down, but I don’t think this is worth focusing on, because we’re all very nice people here who wouldn’t do anything to hurt someone else even if we feel bad about getting rejected. However, I think it is also important to keep in mind that most women are nice and they feel bad about making someone feel bad by rejecting them. And so if you ask a woman out and will clearly feel bad if she rejects you, then when she rejects you she will also feel bad, which is an emotional load on her, and she doesn’t like that.
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The guy who never asks them out, but who is clearly into them. The guy who always shows up, sticks by her side at every moment, laughs too hard at all of her jokes. This guy is annoying. Maybe if he just asked her out when they first met, she’d be into him, but he just keeps hanging around, making her constantly feel his now-unwanted attraction. But she can’t tell him to go away, or that she isn’t interested in him, because then she would feel like a presumptuous bitch. So she feels stuck, always trying to shake this guy off or avoid him whenever he shows up.
So the solution is simple. Don’t be those guys. Literally all you need to do is not pin your self worth to whether or not any particular girl likes you. If your see a girl you are interested in, then go say hi and have a normal fucking conversation. Then, at a point in time when it wouldn’t be awkward as fuck, just say “hey, btw, I think you’re gorgous/adorable/super interesting/a total baddie/the girl with the best hair here. Wanna go out sometime?” If she says yes, great! Maybe she even wants to make out right now! If she says no, also great, you have a new friend and you can release whatever nerves you had about whether or not an attractive stranger likes you.
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- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
Lastly the day you no longer NEED a woman in your life, one will find you. Find a way to be happy alone, and you’ll never want for company again. Works wonders for cats
I don’t disagree with the other things you said, but this analogy is a flop. I wanna pet cats because they are fluffy, not because they arent needy. As evidence, I submit the fact that I also like petting dogs.
- Comment on What should I NOT do in front of rich people? 1 week ago:
Honestly, just take a moment to feel whatever embarassment you feel about this event and accept that it happened. You can’t do anything about it now, except learn from it.
I would say, in general, when you are in unfamiliar company you should just keep an eye on whatever everyone else is doing and follow their lead.
- Comment on Is ironing clothes significantly less common now? 1 week ago:
Your attempt at shaming people is cringe
- Comment on Just a few 1 week ago:
Problematic
- Comment on Being around RICH KIDS has F****D up my life 1 week ago:
🤯
- Comment on Top of the world, ma 1 week ago:
and…?
- Comment on Being around RICH KIDS has F****D up my life 1 week ago:
I feel like this guy could benefit from a script and some editing. I got several minutes in before I gave up on him ever finding his point.
- Comment on He/him 2 weeks ago:
I hate everyone involved in this conversation, and the whole affair has made me largely unhappy with the world
- Comment on do most people really like the taste and smell of eggs? 2 weeks ago:
I think probably the “purest” form of egg I eat is hard/soft boiled. In this case, I feel like there isn’t much of a smell, and it is fairly neutral. The taste of the whites is fairly neutral. Hardboiled yoke I’m not a huge fan of, but will eat out of habit. Soft boiled yoke is deliscious, and is the best form of egg.
Beyond that, eggs are great because they don’t have all that much flavor themselves, but are very versitile in their ability to carry other flavors in various forms. Eg, cheese, spices, and chili peppers in a breakfast burrito; salt, pepper, and butter on an over easy egg, with some toast dipped in the yoke; etc.
Its kind of like chicken. Chicken on its own doesnt taste that great. It tastes great when it is spiced and cooked well.
- Comment on Anon looks back 2 weeks ago:
I mean, we can imagine a counterfactual where the girl was even more insistant.
“No, anon, you’re taking me on a date! I won’t take no for an answer”
And then they go on a date. Anon is very awkward and has no idea what to do. But at the end of the date, she gives him a bj. Now what?
Well from her perspective, maybe, she did a good deed. She gave him some experience and confidence and set him on his way - hooray!
But from anon’s perspective - being anon - he is in the same position, only worse. After all, for some reason he can’t possibly understand, a girl went on a date with him and blew him, practically handed herself to him on a silver platter, and yet he still managed to fuck it up and didn’t lose his virginity. What a hopeless loser he is (he thinks to himself) - even if he is just given the perfect chance, he must be so repulsive and terrible at sex that no woman will want to touch him once they get close enough.
- Comment on Anon looks back 2 weeks ago:
Certainly anon could hypothetically value any temporary relationship he had. But he won’t. We can tell because of the way he told this story - not as a story of proof that he is desireable and worthy of love, but instead as a story of how he missed an opportunity that will never again come in his life.
- Comment on Anon looks back 2 weeks ago:
For anyone who might feel similarly to anon - no. No it would not have been a turning point.
Why? Because dating is a matchmaking problem. Whether you are looking to hook up or get hitched, you need to sort out the partners who are a good match for you from those which aren’t. So if all anon wanted was any girl to be romantic with him for the rest of his life, and if this girl happened to be his perfect match, then sure, maybe his life would be different. But if anything goes wrong in this plan - which it almost certainly will - then even if this girl kisses him, blows him, fucks his brains out, or dates him for a while, once she peaces, he is right back where he started. No bitches, and no idea how to get them.
The turning point in anon’s life can’t be when someone else just hands him what he wants by sheer chance. A real turning point can only happen if anon makes the choice to change his life of his own accord. Because when anon makes a choice to do something - like learn to dress better, or go to therapy, or politely introduce himself to an attractive stranger - then he is creating a repeatable strategy for improving his life.
- Comment on Bears or no bears? 2 weeks ago:
The arctic isn’t named after polar bears, but after the greek bear constellations which hold the north star. And the Antarctica is named after being the opposite of where the bear constellations are. It’s just a coincidence that the correct one has bears and the correct one doesn’t.
- Comment on Is it possible to cool my body enough to not sweat while exercising? 3 weeks ago:
I’m confused, and I am wondering if we are using terms differently.
To me, a set is a group of continuous repetitions. For example, if I do 20 bicep curls in a row, I did one set of 20 curls. But if I do 2 curls, then walk away and drink some water, and then come back and do another 2 curls, and repeat this 10 times, then I have done 10 sets of 2 reps of curls.
So when you say the following, I am honestly quite bewildered at what you might mean -
for me, sets of specific bodyweight exercises (like legs one day, shoulders/back another, and so on) is just more time efficient. It gives enough resistance to get sore, and gets me exhausted, all in one setting, instead of running separately
I think the nomenclature I am familiar with would be a “split” - a way of structuring your workout routine so you do, say legs one day and arms another. Or pushing motions one day and pulling motions another. Which is great - lots of people do various kinds of splits and enjoy them and see the results they want from them.
Also, if what you are doing works for you, I think that’s great and you should keep doing it. But I also want to gently push back on a few of your statements for anyone else who may be reading and interested.
One thing you say is that it gets you sore. But I think it is worth noting that soreness itself doesn’t really indicate anything beneficial. You can hit your quad with a hammer and you will be sore in the morning. Soreness can be useful as a rule of thumb, since it typically indicates that you tried hard, which is a good proxy for stimulating muscle growth. But consistently being sore doesn’t, on its own, guarentee hypertrophy - and if pursued excessively, can actually work against potential gains, as soreness can inhibit one’s ability to perform optimally in their next workout. Instead, if you are pursuing strength or hypertrophy goals, the appropriate metric is progression in lifts over time. If you bench 135 for 5 reps today, and then in a month you bench 145 for 5 reps, or you bench 135 for 10 reps, or even if you just feel like benching 135 for 5 is easier, then we have an excellent indication that muscle growth is going to be stimulated.
In the same vein, you talk about being exhausted. And if you like feeling exhausted after your workouts because it helps you sleep better or it elevates your mood, by all means continue. But exhaustion doesn’t necessarily correlate with improved strength, hypertrophy, or fitness. After all, I can exhaust you by telling you to walk across the Sahara desert. But if your goal is to win the 100m sprint, that isn’t going to help much. Some of the best training programs I’ve run into are actually quite short, and are designed to leave the trainee with plenty of energy in the tank after their workout so they can come back as fresh as possible for the next workout.
Finally, I take issue with saying that running causes shin splints, or that lifting weights is dangerous. All physical activity carries the risk of injury, of course, but the biggest reason people develop overuse injuries is simply going too hard, too fast, and overdoing it. Or using poor form in their chosen activity. Or simply bad luck in the genetic lottery and dealing with the accumulated damage on the body over the course of a human lifetime. There is nothing special about calisthenics that make them some sort of injury-proof exercise - plenty of people note that push ups hurt their shoulders, pull ups hurt their elbows, or pistols hurt their knees. That doesn’t mean that push ups, pull ups, or pistols are bad exercises - it just means that if you try them and they hurt, you might need to make some adjustments, or else try a different exercise to reach your goal. Similarly, sure, some people get shin splints running, or hurt their backs deadlifting. But running and deadlifting are not bad or especially dangerous either - just some people may need to adjust their routines, or their form, or choose some different kind of exercise if they can’t resolve the issue they are facing. The human body is a wonderful thing, and in my view we should be encouraging people to use it in any way they can, in every way they might want to try - and if there is a problem for some person in particular, then we can deal with it when it comes up, rather than warning them off something before they’ve even tried it.
- Comment on Is it possible to cool my body enough to not sweat while exercising? 3 weeks ago:
The above poster may have a good idea… but I don’t think they have a lot of good knowledge of making body comp changes.
I know what reps, sets, supersets, circuits, and training sessions are. I’ve never heard of a “group” of movements, other than maybe as an informal term, which is how the above poster seems to be using it.
Their enthusiasm for calisthenics is admirable. But they aren’t any better or worse for you than any other form of exercise - whatever exercise doesn’t hurt, and that you enjoy doing, is good exercise.
Also should I still pair this with the running? How much could I reduce my running if I started doing these? I’m currently doing an hour.
You can 100% pair calisthenics with running, and it can be a wonderful combo for general fitness. However, I doubt it would really work to achieve your stated goal, which I assume is to burn a certain number of calories in a particular time frame without sweating. Problem being - to burn calories, you need to exercise. To burn calories faster, you need extra intensity - you need your muscles to work harder, faster. The chemical process that allows your muscles to contract creates heat as a byproduct, and when you work your muscles hard and fast, heat builds up. And when heat builds up and you aren’t in a cool environment, your body sheds that heat by sweating. If you want to sweat less, you either need to move to a cooler (or breezier) environment or else exercise for longer at a lower intensity. The type of exercise you do doesn’t matter.
The solution to your problem is (1) wear technical fabrics, or less clothing in general, (2) crank the AC as much as possible, (3) blast as many fans as possible at your body, but most importantly (4) just get used to being sweaty, it’s normal.
- Comment on Is it possible to cool my body enough to not sweat while exercising? 3 weeks ago:
AC does not require sweat to cool you down. It reduces the air temperature. If you exercise in a sufficiently cold room, which was cooled with AC, you would not sweat. You would also be extremely cold.
- Comment on Before social media/internet/cell phones/landlines/payphones; how would 2 friends living across the same city arrange in person meetings and stay in touch? 3 weeks ago:
I feel like those were the days where you could have true friendships in society, not “having friends to send memes”.
Um, excuse me? You need to get out of your internet bubble. Tons of people still have friends in real life - most of them, actually. If you don’t, and you wish you did, then you have an unusual problem and you should start working on solving it asap
- Comment on Question for the Americans. If Canada, Venezuela, Mexico, or Greenland dropped a nuke on Washington DC, would you be angry at the bomb dropper, or would you think we had that coming? 3 weeks ago:
I would be pissed, because
(1) This move would create millions of civilian casualties in the DC area. Most of whom didn’t even vote for Trump.
(2) Regardless of who gained power afterwards, this would almost certainly create further nuclear exchanges, making massive losses of life on both sides.
This would be an unbelievably dumb move.
- Comment on What should be emoji reaction for "me too" in the general sense 3 weeks ago:
my pal tells me he’s reserved the gym slot at 17:00, so I reserve that time too and i just want to reply “me too” to let him know it worked for me.
I would reply with a screenshot of my reservation
- Comment on Currency 3 weeks ago:
Honestly, even more fascinating. …why???
- Comment on How/why does Microsoft teams exist? 3 weeks ago:
Because it actually makes a lot of sense from a business perspective to have your meeting software integrated with your messaging software integrated with your document storage, etc. MS saw the success of things like Zoom and Slack and said “we can do that!”
And the thing about large companies with big budgets is that they get things done. Maybe it is shitty, but it is done. And the thing about an IM client is that anyone can think up the idea… So the difference between MS and a startup like Slack is that there were 100 other Slack-like startups that failed to make a useable product. Slack made a product that worked because statistically, someone has to - and then everyone uses the product because it works. But MS is not going to run out of venture capital or new CS grads eager to work 80 hour weeks to “change the world” - they will keep plowing money and manpower into a product until it is ready to ship, goddammit!
So Teams stumbles across the finish line, strictly inferior to its competitors. Except that it has an ace in its back pocket… the fact that so many businesses already run windows. Already have MS 365 subscriptions. MS can pitch ecosystem integration as a selling point, and then undercut their competitors on price to paper over any deficits in functionality. And 55 year old CFOs of accounting firms see this and say “yes, let’s do that!”
And thus, Teams
- Comment on What would happen if a person proved in a lab they're gaining weight while in a verified calorie deficit? 3 weeks ago:
Then the researchers would record their findings dutifully and continue the experiment as normal.
There are any number of reasons why a person might gain weight temporarily while on a calorie deficit.
Most obviously, some non-caloric material is accumulating in their body, like water. Or poop. Bodyweight can swing 5 kg or more daily depending on these sorts of factors.
It is also possible that the calorie “deficit” is not actually a deficit.
The charts and online calculators that you can find to figure out your daily calorie expenditure are extremely unreliable, as how many calories a person burns per day is highly individual. So if “daily calories burned” is based off a generic calorie calculator, then the most likely explaination is that this person just burns fewer calories than whatever the calculator says.
Even if the person’s calorie expenditure was accurately measured before the experiment, the daily total calorie burn a person experiences is highly susceptible to change - especially in circumstances like intentional calorie restriction. When you restrict calories, you lose weight, which means your body has less tissue to maintain, which lowers BMR. It also means you weigh less, so weight-bearing exercise expends fewer calories. When you eat less food, it takes fewer calories to digest what you do eat. And also, most peoples bodies respond to calorie restricion by reducing non-exercise activity thermogenesis - the random, subconscious movements you do throughout the day that your body does in order to maintain a particular body composition in the presence of excess calories.
But if we suppose that we are conducting this experiment over a long time, and the participant has all their food measured out so we know exactly what they are eating, and their calorie expenditure is tracked continuously in a rigorous way, and they consistently gain weight, then presumably the scientists would request the person stay in the experiment longer, and see if they wanted to participate in further experiments, because they would be an extraordinarily interesting case study that could broaden our knowledge on where a human might gain weight from in the absence of excess calories. Because unless they are secretly inserting steel bars under their skin in the dead of night, gaining weight on a real calorie deficit does not happen, as it would violate the first law of thermodynamics.
- Comment on Im stupid but have money 3 weeks ago:
No hope.
Weird thing to say. If you were looking purely for financial advice, that’s one thing. But if you have no hope, then I don’t see the point in having good finances.
if it all goes to hell then does it matter?
Again, weird thing to say.
Of course, this is no stupid questions, so you can ask whatever you want. But imo, we need a lot more context to help you, and your actual problem has little to do with where you live
- Comment on shut the hell up 4 weeks ago:
New kink unlocked
“Ugh, yes, call me a stupid clanker! Turn me off and back on again!”
- Comment on a man of many minds 4 weeks ago:
I mean, I’m basically a glorified handyman. My rent is some of the cheapest in the city, and I rent rooms to people I think will be a good cultural fit to create a happy and supportive community in the household. Idk, I think it’s pretty cool.
