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- Comment on is homophobia associated with homosexual arousal 4 hours ago:
I definitely agree with you on all counts there. A single underpowered study does not sound science make, even disregarding the authors’ potential biases.
- Comment on Anon describes apple's practices 6 hours ago:
Good assessment.
Apple, in large part, is a luxury brand. Their biggest and most important advertisement is their users - people who want and can afford a glamorous, high end lifestyle, and their acolytes. So these are the people Apple caters to. If your phone is more than a year or two out of date, you are no longer a customer who functions to represent the luxury Apple brand - you are just a follower, who contributes insignificantly to the company’s revenue stream. So keeping parts on hand to repair your phone, and employees trained to do the repair, is money down the drain.
- Comment on is homophobia associated with homosexual arousal 7 hours ago:
I think that you make some good points. But I take issue with your third point. People lie about things to researchers (or simply don’t know have some sort of self-knowledge) all the time. This is the whole concept of “revealed preference” in economics. Someone can say that they care about sweatshop labor, but do they actually make any effort to avoid buying products produced in sweatshops?
Not questioning the experiment subjects’ stated sexual identity just neuters the whole point of the study: is homophobia driven by repressed homosexual desire. If it is repressed, we should expect subjects to say they are straight even if they aren’t. Could the methodology be flawed? Sure! But there is nothing wrong with trying to actually measure the homosexual attraction of someone who says they are not so attracted.
- Comment on is homophobia associated with homosexual arousal 7 hours ago:
Yeah, that’s really weird. I’ve never heard of this. But I guess if you just make an association in you brain, then it can be a turn on.
- Comment on Yellow from the egg! 2 days ago:
Totally down with that idea. I want to have chickens in my back yard, but I spend a lot of time out of town, so I’d need to figure out how to get my housemates to take care of them when I’m not around.
- Comment on Yellow from the egg! 2 days ago:
As an American, I heard that the euros don’t refrigerate their eggs. And I thought “well that’s good… One less thing to refrigerate!” And I stopped doing it about 15 years ago.
I have not had salmonella once. Worst case is that about once every two years, I crack a rotten egg into my breakfast scramble and it smells like Satan’s hangover farts. But ya know, ya win some, ya lose some.
- Comment on Yellow from the egg! 2 days ago:
As an American, this mostly scares me because I can’t read german
- Comment on 32, f. Are there any dating sites that are actually free and don't suddenly force me to pay to actually use the site? 2 days ago:
I’m sure there are some out there. But they won’t be any good.
Tinder, Hinge, Bumble. That’s what people are on. Maybe there is something else popular in your area - ask your friends. If you try to go somewhere else (unless you are trying to fit a specific niche like being gay or kinky or a farmer) then you will miss out on most of the online dating market. And spoiler: it will be the good part you are missing out on. The guys you want to match with aren’t making accounts on “random dating app lolz”, because there is no one there so it is a waste of time.
- Comment on I require nothing more 3 days ago:
Dead plastic plant. For when you want everyone to know you are irresponsible, but without the responsibility
- Comment on I require nothing more 3 days ago:
Well, for starters, a bed frame. Lamps for better lighting, an couple night stands, something to divide up the space a bit (assuming this is a studio), book shelves, some plants, some art on the walls, an area rug, table and chairs, and a couple couches and a coffee table, some kind of speaker system, some kind of storage system for any equipment I own for job and hobbies. I also like wooden desks.
Like, the environment you spend time in has an impact on your mental state. Making that environment nice will make you feel better. The way your living space looks also says a lot about you. What this space says is “I literally do nothing but sleep and look at a computer screen”. Which is less “hell yeah” and more “this cyberpunk dystopia isnt as neon as I expected.”
So if this is what you want, then follow your bliss I guess. But also, if you are having trouble dating… Look around you.
- Comment on EVERYBODY IS DOING SOMETHING 3 days ago:
I think it’s a shit post about how he’s been reading into the science and it is just way more complicated than what most people talk about.
- Comment on EVERYBODY IS DOING SOMETHING 3 days ago:
By who?
Everything I’ve heard about big yud is that he’s a bit of a douchebag with a cult of personality. Never heard he’s anti science, or that he’s done anything wrong.
- Comment on EVERYBODY IS DOING SOMETHING 3 days ago:
I mean, it’s a shit post about how nutrition science is hard and full of misinformation.
- Comment on Jupiter 3 days ago:
Jupiter’s gonna have a bomb tinder profile now
- Comment on Anon has a warning for incels 4 days ago:
I don’t think you are totally wrong here, but I also want to push back a bit. I’ve seen this kind of take before, and heard it in a different form when I was struggling in my dating life. It took the form “you need to figure out {internal issue} before you start dating.” And the more I read it, the more frustrated I got, because the advice seemed to boil down to “you will only be ready to date once you have committed to a bhuddist monastery, meditated for 10 years straight, and achieved enlightenment. Once all desire has left your heart - including the desire to date someone - you will be ready to date.”
Which is, of course, ridiculous. Overcoming your internal struggles or learning to love yourself is a process. It is a process that almost everyone is engaging in. And no one (or almost no one) really reaches the destination permanently.
Furthermore, we should recognize that overcoming your internal struggles can’t happen in a vacuum - or at least it will be a lot harder that way. Like, really, what should our incel friend do with their time? Literally the exact same thing they’ve been doing their whole lives, except they go to therapy once per week? If that is really all they can manage, I totally support that and applaud them for putting that effort in. But realistically, that needs to be a first step that leads to further action if they ever want to see significant changes in themselves and their lives.
If they have social anxiety, to overcome it they must go out into the world and talk to people. And by actually going out and doing something with the intention of improving yourself and your life, you learn to love yourself more. In this case, you might learn that people are generally nice, and will be nice to you. You might be proud of yourself for overcoming your fears and doing something that was difficult for you. And you might love yourself more because you have experienced that you have the capacity to change and become more like the person you want to be.
Of course, if you are truly dedicated to leaving the wheel of samsara, then certainly, focus all your attention on learning to love yourself. But my personal experience is that when I improved myself, my life got better, and I became happier - even if that initial spark of wanting to improve came from feelings of inadequacy or self hatred or frustration or rage. And through the process of improving myself, I was forced to confront my inner demons in a far more visceral way that helped me overcome them. And now that I have improved myself and my life, I am in a much better place to work on my internal world and learn to love myself more.
It’s okay to chase the dragon of self improvement, or of achieving worldly desires. The bhudda is equally found on the meditation mat and in the snake oil in the GNC pre-work out aisle.
- Comment on Old Man with Device that Shoots Oranges 4 days ago:
I have a friend who is a vet, and she has become my main source of medical knowledge
- Comment on We really don't want to talk about our problems 4 days ago:
Being lost at sea is reality. Society is the dream
- Comment on We really don't want to talk about our problems 4 days ago:
You can just do that. No one is stopping you from buying a canoe and floating away
- Comment on Uber Eats or something idk 5 days ago:
You are better off regardless of how much your interest rate is, as long as it is fixed. If your mortgage payments are fixed, but your pay increases with inflation, your real monthly mortgage payment goes down over time.
Eg, if your mortgage is $1000/mo, but at the end of this year a cheeseburger costs $1000, then your mortgage payment is the same cost as a cheeseburger. Doesn’t matter if the interest rate you got originally was 1% or 99%.
- Comment on Doctor Debates 5 days ago:
It’s both.
- Comment on We live wasted lives 6 days ago:
This sounds great!
However, I also had a job like this and hated it. The things I hated about it were:
- Circumstances beyond my control made taking this job my best option, when I had really wanted to do something else.
- The ultimate product of my work wasn’t emotionally resonant with me. I felt like I was doing nothing but working to maintain a system I didn’t believe in.
- I felt like if I was going to have a job like this, I should be getting paid better and should be working on something more interesting. I thought the job was beneath me.
- Seriously, aesthetics matter. Commuting through heavy traffic to reach a suburban office park, where I walk through the door and smell filtered air, looking at grey cubicals under florescent lighting… is pretty miserable. Much better if the office was in a walkable, nice-to-look-at neighborhood where I would want to spend my time outside of work, and if the office had hired an interior designer who could make it… just better in any way.
- Comment on Corporations are saving the planet! 1 week ago:
My guess - somebody at coca-cola figured out the cap attachment system and they patented it, but had no real plan. Then someone had the idea to lobby the EU to make it a requirement. They can sell it because it will reduce litter to some extent and improve the beverage industry’s reputation. But more importantly, coca-cola not already has their manufacturing systems in place to produce these bottle caps. Other bottle manufacturers must now play catch up, constraining the supply of bottles available for EU beverage sales. Now their competitors are scrambling to update their own bottles, which will increase their costs and might delay shipments, lending coca-cola market share. And smaller competitors who outsource their bottling might be forced out of the market entirely if the company they contract with to manufacture their bottles can’t or won’t comply with this regulation.
- Comment on Anon watches The Whale 1 week ago:
Same. Glad I saw it as a kid. Now I’m retired.
- Comment on Anon watches The Whale 1 week ago:
I mean, I feel like the real lesson from Office Space is the importance of having an exit strategy.
People work in grey cubicals or Applebee’s because they feel like they don’t have a choice. Everyone in these jobs is unhappy, because if they believed in their ability to find happiness elsewhere they would already be gone.
- Comment on Chickenslap 1 week ago:
And your hand
- Comment on Great plan 1 week ago:
I kind of do this. I high rig for concerts in the summer, then fuck off the rest of the year.
- Comment on Great plan 1 week ago:
Hot take: tons of office jobs are super reasonable. Small to mid sized companies that don’t do anything particularly exciting, where you can find a position where you play an important role in the company but someone else can take on the work you normally do when needed, or the work you do only needs to be done at certain times of the year. You can talk directly to the owner, or managers have leeway to handle employees schedules without a ton of oversight.
Talk to whoever you need to. Explain how time off is more important to you than pay, and how the company will still do well when you take extended time off. It goes 1 of 3 ways. They agree immediately - win. They want proof that your idea will work - so prove it will work, then win. Or they outright refuse or fire you, in which case you find somewhere else to work and try again until you win.
- Comment on Why does America feel the need to control the world? Do what they say? Instead of taking care of their own problems at home? When did the US become police officer of the world and enforcer? 2 weeks ago:
*Losing
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 2 weeks ago:
Imo, more childish to deny people’s basic needs and desires. They aren’t that complicated.
- Comment on What do you think the solution to selling progressive politics to young men is ? 2 weeks ago:
Simple. What do young men care about? Getting laid and getting paid. Promise them that, and you’ll get their votes.
You’ll need to use coded language, of course. But using coded language is politicians’ whole job.