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- Comment on Anon goes home 3 days ago:
> be me
> go home because parents guilted me into it
> first step out the airport. It’s 1000000° and the air is sticky asf
> IveMadeAHugeMistake.jpg
> house is a wreck. random bullshit piled to the ceiling in spare rooms just like when I was a kid
> mom bitching about brown people. same bitching I’ve heard all my life
> dad talking about how he’s gonna retire soon. yeah right. what would he do with his time if he wasnt working?
> feel melancholy and hopelessness setting in
> tfw you realize you have to live like this for 2 more days until your flight - Comment on Anon goes home 3 days ago:
The adjustment knob is on your prostate
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 3 days ago:
OP is spending the whole thread trying to argue that no woman has ever written a good love song. It’s honestly a really weird hill to die on.
- Comment on White Maleman, cooking YouTuber, loves to tell you what to do 4 days ago:
No better justification than that!
- Comment on [deleted] 4 days ago:
Then do that. Like, you can see the solution. It’s right there. Just be more charming and charismatic and confident. Will it take time and effort and embarassment? Yes. But then you come out the other side a better person. And also, you’ll have a girlfriend.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 days ago:
He didn’t cross a boundary if OP never established a boundary.
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 4 days ago:
Breakup songs are love songs
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 4 days ago:
Someone isn’t getting enough leather-studded kisses in the sand 😘
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 4 days ago:
lol. i was making a joke. But also that
- Comment on Alcohol is "amazing" - Kurzgesagt 4 days ago:
Why are you lonely? Why not do things that don’t involve alcohol?
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 4 days ago:
What? That it’s too much of a banger?
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 4 days ago:
Imo, women would prefer the bear because we’ve reached a level in our wildlife education where women realize that bears are generally passive towards humans, and are an interesting thing to encounter in the woods. While a man is pretty ho-hum.
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 4 days ago:
Imo, Bad Romance is pretty fuckin legendary.
- Comment on Anon is feeling romantic 4 days ago:
This was a funny joke until I realized it wasnt a joke
- Comment on Anon gets a new jacket. 5 days ago:
This is just absolutely false.
Like, if you wanna wear something for the terminal value of “I like it”, then be my guest. If you think you look good when you wear it, and that’s all you care about, then I guess you can have your happiness.
But most people present themselves in a way designed to appeal to other people. Yes, from the subjective point of view of the individual, Lady Gaga singing Bad Romance has equal aesthetic value to autistic screeching. But we can say with a fair degree of certainty that most people will prefer one to the other - even if Lady Gaga just isn’t feeling it that night, while our autist hero is having the time of his life.
Similarly, how we dress ourselves is a form of communication and self expression - and how well we articulate ourselves in this medium can create beauty or ugliness. Again, yes, these are subjective terms - but within a given culture, we can find large agreement on what is one and what is another.
The problem with our hero’s fashion choices is that - similar to autistic screeching - they are made without consideration for the cultural context in which they are made, and are not updated based on the realities of the world around him. He isn’t trying to look like an aesthetically pleasing representation of some kind of person in his own culture - for example, a businessman, a carpenter, a skater, etc. He is trying to look like a character from Blade. Which would be a bit like walking into a job interview in France and speaking to everyone in Japanese. Except that this still isnt the full picture, because our hero doesnt even execute looking like a Blade character well. Our Japanese-speaking interviewee might still charm his interviewers with enough confidence (and hopefully a translator). But out hero doesn’t actually know Japanese. He just watched enough subbed anime to be able to vaguely emulate some sounds of Japanese, and is just talking gibberish at his interviewers. Similarly, he pairs his Blade-style trenchcoat with a dirty wrinked shirt, a pair of oversized blue jeans, a scraggly neckbeard, and a complexion that indicates more exposure to cheeto dust than sunlight.
It is quite obvious that our conceptions of beauty and ugliness exist as proxies for “good for genetic fitness” and “bad for genetic fitness”. Of course, these are filtered through the lense of culture and personal experience. But this is why we generally find spiders and poop to be ugly, while we find ripe fruit, a stream burbling in a verdant valley, and the smooth skin on a younger person’s face to be beautiful.
Our hero’s fashion sense is ugly because the message it sends is that this individual will be bad for the genetic fitness of others who may interact with them.
Someone with good fashion sense can make a neckbeard trenchcoat work, because they know how to use it to make a good-looking outfit, and then they wear that outfit at a culturally appropriate time - like at a comic con. This individual would also be able to dress appropriately for a job interview or a night out with friends, and all of these things would make them an attractive individual since they indicate that the individual will be good for others’ fitness. This would be similar to an individual who is fluent in both French and Japanese, who speaks French in his job interview in Paris and Japanese on his vacation to Tokyo.
Our hero, on the other hand, is ugly because their fashion choices indicate, at best, a general lack of awareness in what is culturally appropriate and attractive, which implies that they will demonstrate this lack of acuity in other situations. Eg, if you befriend this person, they might start talking about the hentai they like at a dinner party you invite them to; start rambling about hypergamy during a business meeting with a client; or (due to the former two) have no friends or job, and rely on you as a partner to be both their financial patron and emotional dumping ground. At worst, it indicates an active hostility towards their society and others in it (ie, school shooter vibes).
In conclusion, if wearing a neckbeard trenchcoat really truly is all you require to be happy, then sure. Go for it. But if you value other things which most people need for happiness, like the financial ability to support themselves, a feeling of warmth when introducing themselves to strangers, a feeling of general acceptance in their community, a robust social support network, and a romantic partner - then you should care about what other people generally consider attractive.
- Comment on nothing against that guy, but this was a funny glitch 5 days ago:
These stupid science bitchs keep being wrong sometimes! But you know who’s never wrong? That’s right! Jesus!
- Comment on nothing against that guy, but this was a funny glitch 5 days ago:
It seems like this problem would persist anywhere where med students have preferences in where they want to be hired. If med students in a communist country know that they might be sent to work in a hospital in the middle of a corn field, or in a hospital in a trendy city near a beautiful beach, they will do everything they can to be placed in the latter.
- Comment on Stunning new data reveals 140% layoff spike in July, with almost half connected to AI and 'technological updates' 6 days ago:
Almost certainly this is not actually due to AI. Instead, it is due to tarriffs, or unfounded optimism about AI. Smart companies can easily see the coming impact of tarriffs, and are culling their workforce in anticipation. Dumb companies hear about how “AI can do everything”, and are following suit. But telling everyone the layoffs are due to AI doesn’t scare off (most) investors. So stock prices can remain high for another quarter.
- Comment on Stunning new data reveals 140% layoff spike in July, with almost half connected to AI and 'technological updates' 6 days ago:
Idk, the ceo of my previous company was pretty intelligent. Taught himself software and built the company from the ground up. A bit too much into Jesus for my taste, but a good guy.
- Comment on F*ck off Arnie, you're out of your element! 1 week ago:
Thats what amendments are for.
- Comment on Anon updates GNU/linux 1 week ago:
Wait, you’re saying this is fake?
- Comment on Anon crunches some numbers 1 week ago:
Idk, compared to going to the moon, I’m underwhelmed.
- Comment on Anon crunches some numbers 1 week ago:
Many are saying we are beginning to see the top of the S right now. Our grandparents may have been alive for Kitty Hawk and the moon landing. Surely we would notice if science were advancing faster than that right now.
- Comment on Anon goes on a diet 1 week ago:
Thats probably the most common effect.
- Comment on Anon goes on a diet 1 week ago:
This trend, where you feel initial motivation, but then motivation stalls and you fall off the wagon, is why calorie counting doesn’t work for most people. You aren’t a robot. You do not have an unstoppable iron will. You are human. You get hungry. You get bored. You get flat tires on the same day your friend invites you over for pizza and beer. Stalling out on calorie counting isn’t strange - it is what we would expect any normal person to do.
A far better approach is to take a more wholistic approach to health, and let the fat loss follow naturally. Stop focusing on calories. Focus on eating whole foods, mostly food you cook at home. Eat more vegetables, eat more protein, drink more water. Avoid processed junk food. Avoid drinking your calories. Avoid added sugar, white flour, and vegetable oil. Find a couple different kinds of exercise that you find enjoyable, from soccar to hiking to zumba to powerlifting to mui thai, and do them regularly. Get good sleep, and get enough sleep. Reduce stress. Spend more time with friends, and meeting interesting new people. Spend time outside in the fresh air and sunshine.
You’re far more likely to lose weight this way, because these aren’t a goal to hit by a deadline. They are just little choices to make throughout the day, course corrections you can make now and again, and fun things to do that add to the quality of your life.
- Comment on Anon goes on a diet 1 week ago:
Low carb dieting has a number of effects which can vary from person to person. Losing water weight can be one of those effects. Many people find it much easier to lose fat on low carb diets. I am one of those people. I just also like beer and pizza.
- Comment on What is the maximum number of potatoes you could grow in your house or on property you own before it becomes a crime? 1 week ago:
Where potatos?
- Comment on Florida ounces 1 week ago:
Iirc, metric was invented because french merchants and tax collectors couldnt agree on what their units of measure actually were. There were riots.
- Comment on Florida ounces 1 week ago:
I read it as “lubs”
- Comment on So glad I suck dick 1 week ago:
Oh. Lol