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- Comment on Are there supposed to be other options? 2 days ago:
Ignore the safety announcement with my headphones in and continue fucking around on my phone uninterrupted until I lose signal.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 days ago:
Yeah, honestly OP asking “is this ablist” is a bit of a red flag given the picture they have painted. If they were an otherwise “nice” person using ablist language, then this language and possible categorization might be a clue to tell us more about who they really are. But if we already know they are a piece of shit… it doesn’t really matter what flavor of -ist they are. Just don’t interact with them. Don’t think about them. Problem solved. More labelling isn’t needed.
- Comment on Anon lives on a budget 5 days ago:
Anyone who isn’t doom-brained could read OOP and come up with some ideas for what they would do in that situation in approximately 5 seconds. Others in this thread have already come up with some excellent ideas.
But having dealt with this mindset in myself and others in the past, and seeing it play out n times on Lemmy, I could already predict the pattern, which you can see playing out again in the other comments which have provided object-level solitions - naysayers come along and start listing every reason under the sun for why that particular idea couldn’t possibly work. And also it sucks. And also if you do it you’re a bad person.
I’ll put it plainly - the solution is to start thinking of solutions. Your own solutions. They are the only ones you’ll ever actually believe.
- Comment on Anon lives on a budget 5 days ago:
I’m not dancing around. I’m getting to the actual problem (a lack of belief that things could be better), rather than dancing around it (presenting some object-level suggestions that the doomers will inevitably shoot down, since they aren’t addressing the actual problem - believing things could be better).
- Comment on Anon lives on a budget 6 days ago:
Yeah. So how do you think OOP could improve their financial situation?
- Comment on Anon lives on a budget 6 days ago:
I, of course, have my own ideas about what I would do in OP’s shoes. But I don’t claim that these are the “right” answers, and I don’t think these are the answers you “should” give. Literally all I’m saying is that OOP has options, and his biggest problem is that he refuses to believe they exist. So if you are in a similar situation to OOP, or empathize with him and want to know what advice would improve his situation, what I am saying is that you should start by opening up to the possibility that OP improving his life is under his control, and then just start thinking of ways that he could. And sure, some of these ideas you come up with will be dumb, or wrong. Some will seem like great ideas but will fall apart during implementation. And that’s all fine. There are no bad ideas, even if they don’t work, because the process of creating these ideas in the first place is the most important part of the process.
- Comment on Anon lives on a budget 6 days ago:
Right, but the reason it was posted here is to garner sympathy for this sort of doomer attitude, and I see this sort of attitude on Lemmy quite frequently. It’s the attitude of all the people downvoting me. So I figured I’d address the issue directly
- Comment on Anon lives on a budget 6 days ago:
Why?
- Comment on Anon lives on a budget 6 days ago:
This is literally why no therapist will ever say “okay, so here’s what you need to do to solve your fucked up problems.” Their patients need to come to the answers themselves to accept and take action on them.
This is not controversial. It is literally standard practice among mental health professionals.
- Comment on Anon lives on a budget 6 days ago:
The problem with saying obvious things to people with doomer attitudes is that they dismiss them out of hand as soon as they hear them. Literally any suggestion that is made is “dumb” or “impossible” or ends up being more evidence that the system is out to hurt and oppress them specifically.
And of course, whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right - or at least the latter part is true.
Overcoming any doomer mindset and beginning to work on your problems starts with admitting that maybe things aren’t quite as bleak as you think they are, and allowing yourself to believe that a better life is possible. Without that, no advice -regardless of content - will help
- Comment on Anon lives on a budget 6 days ago:
I mean, I don’t want to say that the american system is perfect - or even good. But anon is really missing out on some significant and obvious financial options, and really this is due to the defeatist, doomer attitude they express in their last few sentences. They are effectively resigning themselves to the life of poverty they envision because they don’t want to consider that there might be things within their control to inprove their situation.
- Comment on Countries/Cities without Walmart's/Giant super centers 1 week ago:
why… why does everything need to look the same, sell the same junk.
Because it is cheap. Build a warehouse, fill it with cheap shelves full of mass produced products. Costs come down due to economies of scale. It’s cheaper to make a kid’s toy if they are all made of plastic from the same mold, and it is cheaper to make buildings if they are all built from the same engineering documents. Stamp your logo on the building so that people know what quality of goods to expect at your store. You can now undercut local stores with lower costs. People shop there because they want to save a couple bucks.
- Comment on why is fossil fuel still used? 1 week ago:
okay so shut down AI datacenters (reduce demand)
Lots of people think that these datacenters are doing important things - and some of them might actually be right! So this isn’t going to happen. What could happen is simply instituting a tiered pricing system for electricity, where the more electicity you use, the higher the price you pay per kwh. Most places already have such a system in place for water usage. Then (ideally) we’d reinvest the profits into something like additional renewable capacity.
and smuggle in the cheap chinese solar panels just sitting in storage (increase supply)
I mean… I have to wonder why these are sitting in storage. And the answer is probably that they are defective or underperforming or are known to cause cancer in the state of California. The company that made them presumably wants to sell them, and there is certainly no shortage of people around the world who would like to buy them if the price was right. People don’t just hoard warehouses full of solar panels for no reason.
- Comment on why is fossil fuel still used? 1 week ago:
I wouldn’t attach myself to any particular battery tech - the field is innovating too rapidly.
Solar and nuclear can go hand in hand. Solar is great because the amout of potential harvestable power is massive - the trick is producing panels, connecting them to the grid, transmission, load balancing, and storage.
Wind is nice right now, as it is a relatively untapped resource. But we’ll run out of windy places far faster than sunny places.
Hydro is ecologically destructive, but has an even bigger problem, which is that we have already picked a lot of the low hanging fruit. Good locations for dams are difficult to find, and we’ve already found most of them and dammed many of them. We would rapidly face diminishing returns. Plus, silt is always a looming problem.
Though, the real solution is to simply tax carbon.
- Comment on What is the worst thing you have ever done? 1 week ago:
/c/nothingeverhappens
- Comment on Introverts Rock 1 week ago:
50% of lemmy is mostly normal high functioning autists who have crippling social anxiety about the idea that anyone might find them creepy.
The other 50% are creeps
- Comment on Dude's rock 1 week ago:
That’s like saying Atticus Finch isn’t a hero in To Kill A Mockingbird because you, personally, are racist and don’t think fighting for the rights of black people is a noble persuit. A character is a hero in a story if they are good according to the morals implicit in the story’s world.
- Comment on Dude's rock 1 week ago:
Also, I don’t usually see these questions asked in an overly critical sense, but rather with a sense of humor or with an eye towards world building. It’s about having fun
- Comment on Throw enough spaghetti at the wall and some is bound to stick 1 week ago:
Its not even trolling. It’s just british level deadpan
- Comment on Karl Bushby: Made a bet in 1998 that he could walk from Chile to England. 27 Years later, Still walking. Survived Darién Gap, 57 days in a Russian prison, Traversing the Bering Strait on shifting ice 1 week ago:
DADADUH
- Comment on Karl Bushby: Made a bet in 1998 that he could walk from Chile to England. 27 Years later, Still walking. Survived Darién Gap, 57 days in a Russian prison, Traversing the Bering Strait on shifting ice 1 week ago:
Imagine being so difficult to deal with that someone would rather swim across an entire sea than interact with you…
- Comment on Karl Bushby: Made a bet in 1998 that he could walk from Chile to England. 27 Years later, Still walking. Survived Darién Gap, 57 days in a Russian prison, Traversing the Bering Strait on shifting ice 2 weeks ago:
Mr Bushby, who wants access to a service tunnel separate to that used by the trains, said: “If I have to swim across, I obviously will. But it will be colder than the Caspian.”
I mean, obviously
- Comment on I feel like I will want to live completely alone in the nature at a future time in my life 2 weeks ago:
You don’t.
I mean, maybe you are different. But I’m someone who loves spending time in nature, and who does pretty well alone. I’ve thru hiked ling trails alone, including the OHT, during which I saw maybe 3 other people the whole time. I’ve solo’d big wall climbs completely alone. I’ve taken solo bouldering trips where I wandered the forest alone for days at a time.
The thing I’ve found - being alone, in general, fucking sucks. Simply from a practical perspective, you have no one to turn to to say “hey hold this for a second, I need another pair of hands”. If an animal or bad person attacks you, you’re fucked. If you take an unexpected fall and sprain your ankle, you’re fucked. If you become ill and are too weak to travel, you’re fucked.
Then add to this the psychological issue of being alone. The world takes on a ringing hollowness. You can go through the motions, sure, but with no one else around to reflect your experiance back to you, all your actions feel empty.
You might think you enjoy being alone because you can go days at a time talking to no one and scrolling the internet. But that isn’t really being alone. Being on the internet, playing video games, watching tv, all scratches the social itch you have. Not perfectly. But it scratches it. But strip that away, and being alone suddenly takes on a new meaning.
Not to say that you shouldn’t do this. Sure, go ahead and go backpacking solo for a weekend. A week. Maybe two. I think it is a good experience - both the good and the bad parts. But just don’t mortgage a little cottage in the middle of fucking nowhere until you’re really sure that’s what you want.
- Comment on If the US was partitioned, what new states would you want to appear? 2 weeks ago:
Colorado. Except it isn’t a rectangle, but follows the Colorado river watershed from headwaters to the ocean.
- Comment on Where are the arms bearers? 2 weeks ago:
You’re going to run into an issue of two low probability events overlapping. You are on lemmy, so you likely have an outsized notion of how common/public these instances with ICE are, and of how common left-leaning gun owners are.
The vast majority of ICE arrests will happen in isolated locations, like someone’s home or place of work. So already, there are few people around. Of those who are around, most will not be gun owners, will not be carrying a gun, will not see ICE’s actions as tyrannical, or will have overestimated their confidence in whipping out their glock to defend liberty.
- Comment on How much money's out there? 2 weeks ago:
People are enslaved through debt or sword. Money is tokenized slavery tokens.
This is… fucking stupid. The entire modern world is able to function without a central planner because money allows people to buy the things they want and need via markets. There are all sorts of arguments to make about how fair markets are, how they can be reformed, how various incentives or government programs can be implemented to combat poverty, etc. But large scale, non-monetary economies are few and far between, and there is little evidence that they provide better living conditions for their residents than monetary economies, nor that their systems are replicable in other locations and cultures.
Wealth inequality, I think most people here would agree, is a bad thing. But money is a tool, and is a good - or at worst, neutral - thing. You may as well argue that shovels are evil because sometimes innocent people get bashed over the head with them.
- Comment on they know what they need to do 2 weeks ago:
This doesn’t make utilities cheaper. Utility prices are almost universally set, in one way or another, by the government. If the government wants to lower utility prices, they can do so easily by just voting.
This ignores the issue of how we actually pay for the actual cost of utilities. That’s a whole other thing. But long story short - NO, you should not expect utility prices to come down if your government builds solar capacity.
- Comment on Choose wisely! 2 weeks ago:
I believe this is an idea most legitimately championed by Nick Bostrom. Here is a video explaining his perspective.
I feel like, at least from the stance of abstract philosophy, he makes some good points. And I’m not enough of a philosopher to refute them (though I’m sure some have). Personally, my stance is “I’ll cross that bridge when I arrive at it” - I expect to die before that happens.
- Comment on Anon is smart or dumb 2 weeks ago:
I personally fall in this camp. I’m only attracted to women who I’m attracted to, and what I’m attracted to is fairly well aligned with conventional beauty standards. The thought of being intimate with someone who I’m not attracted to gives me a visceral feeling of nausea, and on the occasions I’ve done it anyway in the name of pushing my own boundaries and expanding my horizons, I’ve woken up the next morning feeling dirty and emotionally sick.
Of course, my attraction to any given individual is not a judgement of their character or worth as a human being. I don’t dislike these people, or hold any ill will for them. My penis just doesn’t want to be inside them. Felt this way since I was about 9 years old, and the feeling has been pretty consistent since then - I suspect it is quite immutable. This, for me, is quite inconvenient since I also have a high sex drive and am highly motivated by sex. My life would be far easier if I had the capacity to enjoy sex with a greater diversity of people - but I can’t.
I solve this problem by being attractive, so pretty women want to sleep with me. It’s a fair bit of work, but it’s worth it for the hotties. Plus the other benefits.
- Comment on Anon asks out a girl 2 weeks ago:
To spend time with friends and maybe meet new people in a social, fun, and well decorated environment.