blarghly

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I watched several videos on a Combine Harvester's inner workings⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m gonna guess there was an intermediate step where we put mechanical scythes on horses or something

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Just realized the whole species is after Boobs :) dating, mating, feeding⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  boobs

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon tries to understand credit scores⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  The way I understand it, to raise your credit score you need to slowly pay back your loans, so you pay back maximum interest.

  I got an 800 credit score by just using credit cards and paying the balance each month. Lenders made literally no money on me.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What common American habits do people find quietly annoying?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Really, I think a far more charitable (and common) instance of this is an american, say, travelling to Ireland and noting that they actually have Irish heritage. And then some nice local appreciates their interest and they have something to talk about. American tourists these days don’t seem any more annoying or tone deaf than, say German, Israeli, or UK tourists. If you encounter a tourist off the beaten path, then they are almost always polite, curious, and a very nice person. And if you are hanging out where the big bus tourists congregate… well, what did you expect? They are dumbasses fishing for selfies - the lowest common denominator doesnt differentiate based on nationality.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Could you be relatively healthy if you replaced traditional carb sources with skittles and multivitamins?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean, the context I hear the advice in is “yeah, eat a healthy diet. Take a generic multivitamin if you want - you provably aren’t lacking anything, but it’ll make sure you aren’t.” For context, I hear this advice given to people who already care a lot about their diet for the sake of athletic performance.

  Also, your link didn’t convince me of the above claim that you just piss out everything in a multivitamin. It didn’t mention that. It just said multivitamins don’t prevent heart attacks, which… I never thought they did.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Could you be relatively healthy if you replaced traditional carb sources with skittles and multivitamins?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean… I wouldn’t do this. But millions live on a similar diet every day (minus the multivitamin). Sugary cereal for breakfast with fruit flavored “juice”, a fried chicken sandwich for lunch (kudos for the chicken, but then its white bread, white flour, soybean oil, and flavored soybean oil) plus a soda, and finally, say, boxed mac and cheese for dinner with a canned margarita to take the edge off.

  Day to day, you will adapt and how you feel on the diet will start to feel “normal”. But you will get fat, be at higher risk for any number of health issues in the long term, and will likely feel depressed. But relative to, like, starving to death, you’ll be pretty healthy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Could you be relatively healthy if you replaced traditional carb sources with skittles and multivitamins?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Source on multivitamins being a scam? I’m aware that it is preferrable to get nutrients from whole foods - but also, my bias of “the human body isn’t dumb” says that if you are significantly deficient in iron, and take a multivitamin with iron, your body will try its best to absorb the iron and you’ll be better off than you would be otherwise. Plus, multivitamins are cheap, which is one of the main reasons I’ve heard people advocate for them - a days worth of multivitamin costs pennies, so why the hell not? It’s a good hedge.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨i can't handle coffee⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  thatsthejoke.jpg

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is there a "buy nothing" community on Lemmy? Or an anti-consumerism comm?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, the problem with being anticonsumption is that you are basing your personality off of being opposed to something. And the only people who want to bond over being opposed to things are miserable people who like being miserable.

  Anticonsumption? Great! But what are you going to do??? If you make your own things, then that’s what you do. If you barter or buy used, that’s something you do. If you do fun things that dont require material resources, then that’s something you do. But if what you “do” is sit at home and not consume things while complaining about other people consuming things on the internet, then you aren’t a noble crusader for the environment (or whatever) - you’re a hater.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Do I have extreme anxiety?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Another vote for seeing a doctor

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon finds his people⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  On one hand, I don’t think you’re wrong. I wasn’t really discussing OOP specifically, but instead was expanding the topic of conversation into generalities. But yeah, OOP probably has some more basic issues to work through first.

  On the other, it’s not like Lemmings don’t share most of the same attributes you just described. Nerds who are bad at conversations who mostly stay at home, who have a lot of bullshit opinions.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon finds his people⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Women are just people. Just talk to them like people.

  All of these problems start with these stupid people treating each gender like they’re some entirely different species born on a different planet. People are just people.

  The problem is, as a straight guy, my personal lived experience is that if an attractive women walked up to me in the Wendy’s and said “Hey, you’re hot, I’m horny. Wanna fuck in the bathroom right now?”, my response would be “Yes. Let me wash my hands first. Or not. Maybe you’re into fry grease.”

  And yet, this has never happened to me. And every peice of cultural conditioning I have, from tv shows in my youth to jokes my friends tell to corporate HR policies tell me that this would be an inappropriate thing to do, were the sexes reversed.

  So I consider - perhaps I am a sexual deviant. But this argument falls flat on its face, as again, pretty much every peice of cultural conditioning I have indicates that this is a fairly normal way to feel as a sexually mature male human. But then, maybe this is propaganda created by the patriarchy to reinforce gender stereotypes and, I dunno… oppress women somehow? But there is plenty of evidence that this is a fairly common position for male humans to have, as evidenced by women recieving unsolicited dick pics, the preponderance of porn on the internet directed at men, or the very existance of pickup artists at all. But still, this all exists within heteronormative bounds, so maybe it is still propaganda by the capitalists or something. But the biggest nail in the coffin here is Grindr. Take a look at pretty much any gay man’s Grindr. Open the app, see the first profile that comes up. What do you see? A pic of some guy’s asshole. Bio: “Wanna fuck my ass? I’m down rn. Send me a message.” This is a common, expected, and accepted experience on Grindr. Apparently, when given the option, two gay dudes will be fucking in the Wendy’s bathroom as a first date no problem. And I can therefore conclude that I am not significantly outside the norm for male sexuality. It is possible that there are less horny men out there, and they may even be the majority. But I have at the very least established that my sexuality is common enough such that it is non-negligible.

  I can thus conclude that, to some extent, my sexuality and that of the modal woman differ, and I cannot rely on my own lived experience as a good proxy. I must therefore treat the mind of the modal woman as a black box, and with some combination of evidence, solve for X. Really, as a straight male, the fact that the modal woman has different desires than me should be patently obvious, since I find penises to be gross (except mine, which is great!), while I am explicitly looking for a person who thinks penises are hot.

  This is neither a bad or manipulative thing to do, nor an uncommon thing. In fact, it is extremely common. For example, if I have a bag of sand and want to sell it, then I will need to ask myself - what can I do to make my bag of sand appeal to people who might want to buy it? As a seller, I want to do no work and get as much money as possible, but as a buyer, they also want to do no work, but they want to pay as little money as possible. Thus, in order to sell my sand, I must expand my consciousness outside of my own personal lived experience and consider the motivations and desires of minds which are foreign to me.

  Via genetics or epigenetics or hormones or culture or the convergent influences of common lived experiences, modal male and female sexualities, desires, norms, and expectations are different. This is fine. But it does create a demand for information on what the other sex desires, and how best to go about serving the two’s mutual interest. Thus, I think there is a strong case to be made for the fact that denying these differences is actively harmful. By doing so, we cede the space to people like PUAs, who are willing to acknowledge these differences, and who will then monopolize the advice market, even if their advice is terrible

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon finds his people⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  But anon is already a creepo

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon finds his people⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  y?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon finds his people⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes.

  But also, would the result have been different?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Never attribute to capitalism that which is adequately explained by stupidity.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean, it’s also good advice if you want to make and keep friends and not look like a dick. And if you just generally want to be happy. But if that’s not your jam, you do you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How come hypothetically if I make meth in my home. Knowing full well it could explode and take out my neighbors houses, why am I not charged with attempted murder?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Electricity arcing over something flammable can also cause a fire that burns down your house and kills you.

  It isn’t just your imagination. Houses burning down / exploding really is a rare occurance. This is not by accident. There are layers of dumbass-proofing in every part of the system, from the way wire and pipe are manufactured, to the availability of easy-to-use tools and materials that make doing the job the right way also the easy way, to detection systems like fire alarms, to building codes that set standards for how things should be constructed.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are there supposed to be other options?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Ignore the safety announcement with my headphones in and continue fucking around on my phone uninterrupted until I lose signal.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, honestly OP asking “is this ablist” is a bit of a red flag given the picture they have painted. If they were an otherwise “nice” person using ablist language, then this language and possible categorization might be a clue to tell us more about who they really are. But if we already know they are a piece of shit… it doesn’t really matter what flavor of -ist they are. Just don’t interact with them. Don’t think about them. Problem solved. More labelling isn’t needed.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon lives on a budget⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Anyone who isn’t doom-brained could read OOP and come up with some ideas for what they would do in that situation in approximately 5 seconds. Others in this thread have already come up with some excellent ideas.

  But having dealt with this mindset in myself and others in the past, and seeing it play out n times on Lemmy, I could already predict the pattern, which you can see playing out again in the other comments which have provided object-level solitions - naysayers come along and start listing every reason under the sun for why that particular idea couldn’t possibly work. And also it sucks. And also if you do it you’re a bad person.

  I’ll put it plainly - the solution is to start thinking of solutions. Your own solutions. They are the only ones you’ll ever actually believe.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon lives on a budget⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m not dancing around. I’m getting to the actual problem (a lack of belief that things could be better), rather than dancing around it (presenting some object-level suggestions that the doomers will inevitably shoot down, since they aren’t addressing the actual problem - believing things could be better).

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon lives on a budget⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah. So how do you think OOP could improve their financial situation?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon lives on a budget⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I, of course, have my own ideas about what I would do in OP’s shoes. But I don’t claim that these are the “right” answers, and I don’t think these are the answers you “should” give. Literally all I’m saying is that OOP has options, and his biggest problem is that he refuses to believe they exist. So if you are in a similar situation to OOP, or empathize with him and want to know what advice would improve his situation, what I am saying is that you should start by opening up to the possibility that OP improving his life is under his control, and then just start thinking of ways that he could. And sure, some of these ideas you come up with will be dumb, or wrong. Some will seem like great ideas but will fall apart during implementation. And that’s all fine. There are no bad ideas, even if they don’t work, because the process of creating these ideas in the first place is the most important part of the process.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon lives on a budget⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Right, but the reason it was posted here is to garner sympathy for this sort of doomer attitude, and I see this sort of attitude on Lemmy quite frequently. It’s the attitude of all the people downvoting me. So I figured I’d address the issue directly

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon lives on a budget⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Why?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon lives on a budget⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is literally why no therapist will ever say “okay, so here’s what you need to do to solve your fucked up problems.” Their patients need to come to the answers themselves to accept and take action on them.

  This is not controversial. It is literally standard practice among mental health professionals.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon lives on a budget⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  The problem with saying obvious things to people with doomer attitudes is that they dismiss them out of hand as soon as they hear them. Literally any suggestion that is made is “dumb” or “impossible” or ends up being more evidence that the system is out to hurt and oppress them specifically.

  And of course, whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right - or at least the latter part is true.

  Overcoming any doomer mindset and beginning to work on your problems starts with admitting that maybe things aren’t quite as bleak as you think they are, and allowing yourself to believe that a better life is possible. Without that, no advice -regardless of content - will help

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon lives on a budget⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I mean, I don’t want to say that the american system is perfect - or even good. But anon is really missing out on some significant and obvious financial options, and really this is due to the defeatist, doomer attitude they express in their last few sentences. They are effectively resigning themselves to the life of poverty they envision because they don’t want to consider that there might be things within their control to inprove their situation.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Countries/Cities without Walmart's/Giant super centers⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  why… why does everything need to look the same, sell the same junk.

  Because it is cheap. Build a warehouse, fill it with cheap shelves full of mass produced products. Costs come down due to economies of scale. It’s cheaper to make a kid’s toy if they are all made of plastic from the same mold, and it is cheaper to make buildings if they are all built from the same engineering documents. Stamp your logo on the building so that people know what quality of goods to expect at your store. You can now undercut local stores with lower costs. People shop there because they want to save a couple bucks.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨why is fossil fuel still used?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  okay so shut down AI datacenters (reduce demand)

  Lots of people think that these datacenters are doing important things - and some of them might actually be right! So this isn’t going to happen. What could happen is simply instituting a tiered pricing system for electricity, where the more electicity you use, the higher the price you pay per kwh. Most places already have such a system in place for water usage. Then (ideally) we’d reinvest the profits into something like additional renewable capacity.

  and smuggle in the cheap chinese solar panels just sitting in storage (increase supply)

  I mean… I have to wonder why these are sitting in storage. And the answer is probably that they are defective or underperforming or are known to cause cancer in the state of California. The company that made them presumably wants to sell them, and there is certainly no shortage of people around the world who would like to buy them if the price was right. People don’t just hoard warehouses full of solar panels for no reason.