Anon doesn't fit in

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• DesolateMood@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  >I play the weirdest shit >Paradox

  Ok normie

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  • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yeah, Paradox games are great!

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    • ICastFist@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      If you pirate all the DLC

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  • LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Okay but normies don’t play Paradox either, so what gives? I don’t want to play “dwarf fortress” or some fuckin “blowjob factory 2: electrification” or whatever it is channers consider weird, but I like playing “The Fire Rises” for HOI4 and I can’t exactly talk to Jock Josh and his friend who’s into spider man and DND about “yoo in the game you can kill penguinz0 as atomwaffen division isn’t that crazy”.

    Honestly nothing ever has been more of a disappointment to me than anyone who plays Civ or tabletops of any kind, they always have absolutely no sense of fun and they’re always extreme turbonormies, especially if they’re fantasy people, good lord I’m sure there’s lots of good fantasy media out there and I’ve enjoyed plenty myself (Berserk), but it either attracts the most simpletons or being into it turns you into a simpleton over time or something idk. They only know their dumbass DND, no they won’t play something actually cool like Cyberpunk Red, no they won’t help me try to DM it, they only like their DND and that’s it, DND that, or DNDeezNuts this, it’s aaaaaaagh.

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    • Geth@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      In case you also wonder like op why no one likes you, it’s probably the elite snobbery and superiority complex.

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    • msage@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Dwarf fortress is amazing. I had the best time playing it.

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    • lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Cities Skylines is a pretty normie Paradox game imo

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    • Minnels@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I play tabletop, paradox games, dwarf fortress and a lot of other stuff. I also play with lego and have played Warhammer etc, both fantasy and 40k and other miniature games.

      I don’t buy or play a lot of AAA games if any at all. Large companies can fuck off.

      What am I? An anomaly? :D

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• ininewcrow@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Try being an actual full blooded native person.

  I’m 100% Ojibway, my parents on both sides were born raised and lived in the wilderness. I’m the first generation born in a modern hospital. My first language is ojibway, I spoke it exclusively for the first 15 years of my life. We learned English in school but we all spoke ojibway at home. I learned to hunt, trap, fish and live on the land from my parents and I love spending time outdoors. It’s all natural to me.

  Now I live close to the city in a non native world. My wife is white and we spend most of our time to ourselves.

  My family doesn’t think I’m native enough. White people don’t believe I’m native because I live like a city person. Most people don’t believe I’m native because I don’t have red weathered skin, a crooked nose and long braided hair. Many people have confused me as Chinese, Korean, or an overweight Thai, Cambodian or Lao. Or even Peruvian, Ecuador or Mexican.

  I meet city Indians who have ancestry but have never lived on the land or know their communities or even speak the language yet they wear native stuff, necklaces and everything and get more recognition than me for being native.

  I intimidate other natives when I speak my language because it reminds them that they can’t speak other than to know a few words or phrases. So now I seldom speak and as I grow older, the people I could speak to are now either dead, dying or too old.

  I get funding as a native person but I get very little. I don’t live in reserve so I’m the last to get funding. I don’t get off reserve funding because I have full status with my community where I could live if I chose to. I get tax off on some things but not everything because I don’t live on reserve and doing my taxes every year is a nightmare, so in the end, I pay just about the same amount of taxes as everyone else and save just a little.

  I’ve watched dozens of half breed, quarter breed, 1/8 breed, 1/16 breed natives with scholarships and paid education while I tried to fight for mine and never got it. I got high school but never got more than that.

  I even know a couple of blue eyed, blonde Indians who got adopted into a native family and have full status and more help than I ever did.

  People keep telling me I’m lucky to be native but I’ve experienced far too much racism and stupidity to be happy about who I am.

  I’m neither treated as full native and I’m also not treated as non native either. It’s like I exist in some kind of native twilight zone.

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  • BrundleFly2077@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Huh. TIL all of this. Thanks for typing this out. I did a bit of a rabbit hole on your people over my morning coffee. Was more interesting than the usual crap I read before work 🤣👍🏻

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    • DoGeeseSeeGod@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Damn. Maybe it’s just me but your comment reads kinda disrespectful. OP shares their unique vulnerable experience, which relates to the original post. You don’t make the slightest effort to connect or respond to them as person or their story. Instead you google their ppl for a fun fact and pay their culture/story the compliment of “More interesting than the usual crap I read before work 🤣👍”.

      Idk I can’t tell if I’m being overly sensitive, cuz no one part of your reply is really bad by itself. But all together, it’s hella trivializing imo.

      Especially ending on the 🤣👍. Let’s say you post something heartfelt like, I’m depressed, I lost my job, I’m dealing with something right now, and someone replies and ends on 🤣👍. Unless there is a really funny joke before those emojis, pretty sure it would read bad.

      OP thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry you’re stuck between two worlds like this. Have you thought about if you and your wife have kids, would you teach them to speak ojibway or how to live off the land?

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  • LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Dude you are hands down probably the most interesting person I’d know if I knew you, those hunting skills and all that are just awesome yet at the same time you’re also just like a city everyman. If you ask me I’d say fuck them if they can’t accommodate you, you’re a star shining way too bright and too hard and too big for them anyway. I’m sorry about the racism and shit you’ve experienced, I can’t understand or help but at least know that this queer white woman half across the world would say you’re a bigger person than all those racists with nothing to do with their time combined.

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  • southernbeaver@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I am also the son of two worlds. From the age of 6, I was always treated differently with one group of people compared to the other.

    I didn’t get better until I was older, I thought it would in my twenties but it’s actually in my thirties that I found people who accept both sides of me but I always feel like it’s one side more than the other. It has made me a very withdrawn person.

    On top of being autistic, I just would rather not deal with people.

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  • Korhaka@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I would love to learn even half of those things. No one really taught me, I remember going camping with scouts before and another guy was catching shellfish with his bare hands and I was so jealous that he could do it. But in the UK half of its illegal and the other half requires land owner permission which pretty much makes it for the rich only as they own the land. I like the outdoors, but it feels difficult to see and even harder to do so legally. Plus no one I know now has any interest in it so its always a solo activity when I do go out.

    And yeah that guy catching shellfish was breaking the law by doing it, its illegal to use anything other than a fishing rod in freshwater and that requires a license and land owner permission too.

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    • Trainguyrom@reddthat.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      But in the UK half of its illegal and the other half requires land owner permission which pretty much makes it for the rich only as they own the land.

      Weirdly enough this is one of the freedoms that Americans have that doesn’t get talked about enough! The laws in the US make it very easy for any average person to pick up hunting or fishing as a hobby. Basically just fill out a form on the Department of Natural Resources website for a permit, pay the fee, and only kill what you’re permitted to and when and release everything else and you’re golden. There’s tons of public places to hunt and fish (and in many states you can take a boat anywhere the public waterway goes, so if that cuts through private property then you’re allowed to take the boat through that private property because you’re on a public waterway) and there’s lots of land owners have a bit of undeveloped land that they’ll charge a small fee for permission to hunt on

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  • someguy3@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    an overweight Thai

    That is oddly specific.

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• Baggie@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  This reads like a young man who hasn’t learned how to do things for his own enjoyment yet.

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  • Echolynx@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yeah defeatist mentality suggests he’s still playing the game.

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• rumschlumpel@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Definitely needs to get off 4chan. Weird people who don’t have this crab in a bucket ‘you’re not weird enough if you have a stable job and aren’t ugly’ mentality aren’t that hard to find outside of very specific corners of the internet.

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• Sonotsugipaa@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Fake: X4 is not a videogame, it’s rehab for crazy german accountants

  Gay: weird, therefore queer, therefore gay

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  • Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Fake: X4 is not a videogame, it’s rehab for crazy german accountants

    Screw you, I like my singleplayer-spreadsheets-in-space as a nice distraction from playing EVE online!

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    • SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Dutch => Deutsch => German

      Same difference

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    • Sonotsugipaa@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      It’d be nice if they let me keep my jumpdrives though, now I have to do icky things like logistics and having multiple fleets defending multiple gates

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  • GregorGizeh@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Am german. Went to an economics school (Fachabitur) and fucking hated accounting. I love stellaris though, if only actual accounting would be that fun

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• Rumo161@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Stop the categorys and just be a Person others can be save around and happy

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• SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Just become a line cook you’ll be the most normal one there.

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  • TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    The former gang member and meth fiend who taught me to cook can attest to this.

    I’m sure they’d upvote this if

    1. They were on this gay ass forum
    2. Had enough feeling in their fingers to actually hit the button

    But they’re busy being people.

    because op doesn’t want to accept his innate normieness.

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    • kungen@feddit.nu ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      How can he be a former meth fiend if he works as a line cook? Or did he simply get a new drug-of-choice?

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    • SatansMaggotyCumFart@piefed.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Stay there long enough and you’ll fuck hot waitresses and hostesses all day long and you’ll realize they’re all more fucked than you’ll ever be.

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• Eq0@literature.cafe ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Is this anyone else’s experience? I don’t fit neatly in any box, I have friends in all of them. I have friends in traditional marriages with the woman as the homemaker, I have all sorts of queer friends. I have friends that think videogames are edgy, others playing D&D every second day, others in sword battle reenactment, others in crochet. Never struggled relating to them or them to me. I moved around a lot, still found “my people” in no time. We are all multifaceted people with a variety of interests and thoughts.

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  • Hadriscus@jlai.lu ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Count your blessings

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  • kartoffelsaft@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    The part where he talks about video games definitely feels like my experience, at least when it comes to meeting people outside of the context of a specific game and its community.

    When I’ve gotten into convos in these situations, usually it’ll be evident they mostly only play some set of the following games:

    • Overwatch
    • Rainbow Six
    • Genshin Impact
    • Stardew Valley
    • Helldivers 2
    • Last of us
    • God of War
    • GTA
    • Red Dead 2

    That’s not a complete list, but for the most part it will be a bunch of games like that with a sizeable, committed, “normie” following that I don’t play. I can’t bond with these people over games even though on a surface level we’re both “gamers”, because the only game we’ll have in common is Minecraft.

    I think the gap here is that for someone like me or anon, we have interests and want to find people who are also interested in that thing, but from the sounds of your post you’re finding people and getting your interests from them. In the latter case, of course there’s no trouble connecting with people, because you’re more willing to mold yourself to do so.

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    • Eq0@literature.cafe ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I have been mulling over your comment for a couple of days.

      I think the set up is different. I have a lot of things I am interested in, but none that is fundamental. So I can easily start a conversation over a shared interest, even if the other interests do not align. Sometimes I pick up extra stuff on the way, but mostly I use a limited shared interest to set the foundations from which to develop a friendship. I find that once you get talking for a bit, you don’t need a specific shared topic anymore.

      Do you aim to build friendships fully connected to your interests?

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  • hanrahan@slrpnk.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I definetly don’t fit in but also have friends and a partner i live with (of 10 yrs)

    I mostly LARP at it though because I don’t fit in. Am 58, m and don’t want to fit in :)

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• Korhaka@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  This fucking normie playing pardox games? Don’t talk to me unless you are at least compiling CDDA from source code on a Linux phone. Fucking casuals.

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  • starchylemming@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    i know its a joke but this ironically proves his point of not fitting in with both in or out groups

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• InvalidName2@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  What the FUCK do you do?

  Have you tried getting a boyfriend? I dunno, worked for me.

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  • underscores@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    The masculine urge to get a pet femboy bf

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    • cows_are_underrated@feddit.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      The masculine urge to be the girlfriend.

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  • blindbunny@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Cute!

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• AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I mean i kinda get what anon means but maybe the first step could be getting off of 4chan? That shit melts your brain and you already see it from this normie/wierdo split that isnt really a real thing. Irl you WILL find the people who think like you because were all on a spectrum.

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• RBWells@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I am not like people at my work but I like people at my work.

  None of that being different matters if you can just listen and talk to others without needing them to be like you.

  I will say on the video games it may be a generational thing, my kids love both indie games and Minecraft/Genshin. Penultimate kid liked Disco Elysium so much. Youngest likes horror, I got them Amnesia and they loved it, said it was too scary to do much at one time.

  Anyway, just let other people do what other people do. You can like them, you don’t need to change yourself or then

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  • wkk@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Off topic but speaking about generational things I see you opposed indie games to Minecraft/Genshin when I still vividly remember the days when Minecraft was very much indie x)

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    • RBWells@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Ha! Well I can remember Pong and having to go to an arcade for anything more interesting. But yes I always thought of those two as wildly successful, so must not have been aware of the beginning time. Amnesia, I was so happy to surprise my youngest with, it was older and they had not heard of it but available for PS4 (& the penultimate kid is PC gamer, uses our old Dell which is a beast, I did some upgrades)

      I am not a game snob, lol, play Pokemon Go all the time, myself. Often things are popular because they are good. But do love indie media of all sorts, and absolutely love when I can scoop the kids on something they have not heard of.

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• infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Sounds like anon is way over-thinking all of this and just needs to learn to accept themself.

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• don@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Get off of 4chan, to start. Keep trying to diversify your friends, find people more open minded than the five you currently have.

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• FartMaster69@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Maybe anon is just an asshole.

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• Prethoryn@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Stop viewing the world from this perspective? People ar just different that doesn’t mean their aren’t certain categorizations that classify as “normal” but self pity or just not finding a therapist to talk to. I know it is cliché to say, “help yourself bro.” It isn’t fair people hurt every day that need help and it isn’t that easy.

  But going online to get self justification on being “weird” and not fitting in with “normies” and feeling judged is why you feel out of place because you filter yourself into this, “I am not normal… And normies do not like me and women loath me and I don’t understand why.”

  That and 4-chan is a cesspool “justify me non normies who also feel they are not normal and are justified in their beliefs of being racist and sexist. Help me justify the feeling of feeling that way please.”

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• Kenny2999@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Maybe try sayin “hi” instead of “epic boobs, brah”

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  • couch1potato@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    hi

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    • InnerScientist@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      epic boobs, brah

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• Victoriathecompact@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  thinking your weird and special kinda makes it come true

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  • deaf_fish@midwest.social ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Ehh, it can definitely push you further down that path, but thought doesn’t magically make things happen. Otherwise we wouldn’t have an incel problem.

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• peacepath@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  May you could try to find people who like the things you like?

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• Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I have yet to meet anyone that plays FIFA and would pass as “normal”.

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  • echodot@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    If somebody literally only played FIFA I would consider that weird.

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• steeznson@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Date someone younger who doesn’t realise how weird you are. /s

  For real though that seems to be a favourite in the weirdo playbook

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• LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  What is it with men and their obsession with women anyway? Dude seems like a gigachad but yeah getting friends/gf is gon be tough if suggest giving up and looking elsewhere for meaning.

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  • pulsewidth@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Are we really at the stage of social collapse where people are confused by guys being attracted to women?

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    • LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      But it’s phrased like a “need”. I’m attracted to men and women. I don’t need them like I need oxygen, food, nicotine etc.

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• RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Transition

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• TootSweet@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Anon’s definition of “normie” is like 0.1% of the population.

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  • MachineFab812@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Normies and weirdos have odd ideas what a normie or a weirdo is. That’s kinda OP’s problem. The spaces they think they should feel comfortable in aren’t comfortable(enough) with them.

    Sounds like they aren’t comfortable enough in their own skin, and the people they try to get to know catch onto that quick, to be honest. That, and/or they are allergic to feedback/criticism.

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• knobpolisher@feddit.nl ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Just get a sex doll

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• formation@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Stop being weird i guess 🤷🏼

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• echodot@feddit.uk ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Did this guy seriously try and claim that he’s weird because he plays games produced by one of the largest publishers in the world? Yep definitely can’t get out of his own way.

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  • ricecake@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    People who play sports games don’t even blink when you tell them you like strategy games in my experience.
    Turns out people who enjoy pretending to manage a sports team don’t think it’s odd that someone might enjoy pretending to manage an army or empire. Or that people in general don’t usually think most hobbies are unusual, if you talk about them like a sane person.

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• ShittDickk@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Quit worrying about finding people that understand you and make them understand you. My best lifelong friends I’ve had have grown together with me, went from opposite music tastes to finding bands that appeal to both of us that have become our favorites.

  Like if you can trust a person you can be their friend, if you dont know anything about their interests ask them to explain or show you, if they want to be friendly with you they’ll jump at the opportunity.

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